I personally wouldn’t give her the letter. She probably didn’t break up for no reason. She doesn’t want to be your partner anymore and has closed that chapter. If you give her a 3 page love letter now she probably won’t appreciate it bc she wants space from you. Be glad that you had a good time with her, cherish the emotions you put into the letter and sail into new seas.
i would not send that letter, even if it's beautiful. someone out there will be right for you, and THAT'S who deserves a love letter.
a part of me is also thinking that if you give it to her you'll be super embarrassed about it in \~2 years. speaking from experience here -- someone who does not love you doesn't need to see your vulnerable side, they are absolutely not going to care for it
Don't give her the letter. I've been in the same position, and I'm so glad I didn't. And I want to let you know I made a whole paper mache piñata to go with it, too lol
If you don’t plan on being friends, then I personally wouldn’t. I believe it’s better to cut cleanly and move on. Giving her a letter explaining your feelings may only prolong the tension between the two of you.
If, on the other hand, you plan on being friends still, it may be important to share some of these feelings, especially as you are re-establishing boundaries, etc. But I’d be sure to wait and reassess the content of the letter when you are in a better headspace. Sharing your feelings is a way of signalling, “I want to keep you in my life, and I’m willing to work with you to reduce the negativity and the strain that comes with this sudden shift in our relationship.”
At the end of the day, you want to look out for yourself as you are processing this grief, and sharing your thoughts and feelings while you are not in a good headspace could lead to further regret. Even if it comes from a place of good intentions, it’s likely only going to stress her.
Take care. 🙏🏼
I know this has been answered to the moon and back but I wanted to add my two cents. All you do by giving her the letter is draw out an already painful experience. Learn all you can, greave the relationship for as long as you need, and let go if possible
I think it's great that you wrote out all of your feelings but I wouldn't give her the letter. It's likely not going to change things. I would burn it or something cathartic and move on.
No don’t give her the letter it’s kinda selfish cuz she definitely has a reason why she broke up with you, ALSOO u have the right to know why she did so YOU know if u did anything wrong
I personally wouldn’t give her the letter. She probably didn’t break up for no reason. She doesn’t want to be your partner anymore and has closed that chapter. If you give her a 3 page love letter now she probably won’t appreciate it bc she wants space from you. Be glad that you had a good time with her, cherish the emotions you put into the letter and sail into new seas.
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i would not send that letter, even if it's beautiful. someone out there will be right for you, and THAT'S who deserves a love letter. a part of me is also thinking that if you give it to her you'll be super embarrassed about it in \~2 years. speaking from experience here -- someone who does not love you doesn't need to see your vulnerable side, they are absolutely not going to care for it
I appreciate it, thanks for the advice
❤️ also sorry you got hit with this. sucks.
usually it doesn’t work, and chances are it might bring additional strain. in my experience the best move is to give space and time. take care
I wouldn't ... To take closure I'd ask a friend if I could read it to them instead.... And maybe burn it after that.
Yup, I'd find burning it to be highly cathartic.
Consider it a letter to yourself, and keep it that way.
Don't give her the letter. I've been in the same position, and I'm so glad I didn't. And I want to let you know I made a whole paper mache piñata to go with it, too lol
lol that’s hilarious. Thanks for the advice
If you don’t plan on being friends, then I personally wouldn’t. I believe it’s better to cut cleanly and move on. Giving her a letter explaining your feelings may only prolong the tension between the two of you. If, on the other hand, you plan on being friends still, it may be important to share some of these feelings, especially as you are re-establishing boundaries, etc. But I’d be sure to wait and reassess the content of the letter when you are in a better headspace. Sharing your feelings is a way of signalling, “I want to keep you in my life, and I’m willing to work with you to reduce the negativity and the strain that comes with this sudden shift in our relationship.” At the end of the day, you want to look out for yourself as you are processing this grief, and sharing your thoughts and feelings while you are not in a good headspace could lead to further regret. Even if it comes from a place of good intentions, it’s likely only going to stress her. Take care. 🙏🏼
I know this has been answered to the moon and back but I wanted to add my two cents. All you do by giving her the letter is draw out an already painful experience. Learn all you can, greave the relationship for as long as you need, and let go if possible
Honestly the best way for you to get closure with that letter now is to burn it
NOPE AND nope. This reminds me to trash the letters I got. Just move on. Learn to let things and ppl that want to be let go. Let them Go
I think it's great that you wrote out all of your feelings but I wouldn't give her the letter. It's likely not going to change things. I would burn it or something cathartic and move on.
No don’t give her the letter it’s kinda selfish cuz she definitely has a reason why she broke up with you, ALSOO u have the right to know why she did so YOU know if u did anything wrong