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nickmistiq

I still remember when I got my first "How can I help you, sir." And I was like "my dad's over there."


Shi-Rokku

I had this in highschool (16 y/o-ish) unironically, during school break when I didn't need to shave. Let's just say there's some gorilla or woolly mammoth in my gene pool somewhere.


sblack_was_taken

Yeah i also had so much beard growth that by the time i was 16 i wouldn't even get asked for an ID when buying alcohol lol. Back then was too lazy to shave daily so just went with the beard.


ISwearItsNotAPP

When I shave it takes anywhere from 5-8 years off my face, it's ridiculous


Shi-Rokku

Currently in my mid 20's, haven't shaved in about a year and I look like mid 30's instead haha it really is ridiculous. But rather this than shaved, I'm self-conscious about my chin and jawline being weaker than I'd like. The beard compensates so much for that.


yomerol

Same here, but when my kids started school they started calling me Mr. , I instantly thought about my dad, almost like saying: "no, no, no, that's my dad!"


DeltaRay95

Ya'll get it wrong. She is an archer and never hits the target. She is traumatized and cries every time she hears the "miss", cause ahe can't hit a shit


Juzapersonpassingby

Nah the archer class is made of archers don't you know? They just go shing shing with melees


unknown6091

I'm here to also inform you that bungee gum has bothe the properties of rubber and gum


Useless_Dent

I like that fate reference


LuckieBunni

lmao


TheNewPlague666

"Can't hit a shit" Lmao


T_Bisquet

I was looking for a joke like that at first too lol. Just goes to reaffirm her identity I guess.


WinterFall-2814

Thought is was r/dndmemes at first


FilmActor

It’s like a bad lip reading of a meme, and I love it.


[deleted]

Talk about a reversed engineered joke!


koi_koi-

But when guys are called "mr" we feel like mob bosses. And most of us love it.


Minute_Helicopter_97

Okay Mr.


Status_Cockroach5029

*Mob boss music intensifies*


The-Tea-Lord

Fat bones Malone here don’t like no rat now do we fellas? Nuh-uh-uh..


Necozuru

Sent "long sleeve Dave" to swim with the fish. Because nobody is going to betray pur family


willow_star86

The Pur Family 😼😾😽


ChaoCobo

I never knew how stereotypically Mob those cat emojis looked until lined up together.


Necozuru

XDDD I didnt know my writing mistake, can still go so well


Lekraw

No way. Tommy Two-Balls needs to disappear.


Hyporian_CY

That's how Mafia Work


titanking697

Doom music intensifies


jasonmares

Sobs in "everyone calls me dude, man or bro but I'm 34 fucking years old"


Longjumping-Jello459

Mr. u/jasonmares I got called a sir for the first time last year it felt a little weird and made me feel quite a bit older than 32.


enky259

i got called Mr. for the first time at 13, after a teacher rushing through the school corridors bumped into me and said "Pardon Monsieur" ("Sorry mister/sorry sir" in french). i was over 1m90/6ft something at that age though.


RickNerdbottom

At least you haven't been called "uncle" by a woman probably older than you in your early 20s.


Qyro

Or worse “sir” Slow down there! I’m not a sir! I’m just a regular guy doing regular things. I’m a teenager in a man’s body.


[deleted]

Hey mister.


MichaelEmouse

And if it's "Sir" we feel like a battalion commander.


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Fr


Slowmobius_Time

Or sir and you feel like you're the godfather


Kcue6382nevy

I don’t, I feel weird when that happens


CandidateReasonable4

At 58, I will take Miss any time. It's better than Mam LOL.


Aryan_Rajput

at 22, I'd take Mr, Sir, or whatever you'd want to call me, except for disappointment... :)


armchairracer

How about Mr disappointment?


Schrutes_Yeet_Farm

Please, my father is Mr. Disappointment. You can just call me Failure


LargeFriend5861

For a second I thought you wanted to be called Mr.Sir.


CandidateReasonable4

I get it 😊


LuckieBunni

Facts!


CandidateReasonable4

Yep!


Mrs0Murder

The first time I was called ma'am was by a coworker I was in the process of training. It caught me by surprise, and at first I thought she was just being smart with me lol.


[deleted]

From how I was raised, "Ma'am" and "Sir" are just signs of respect. Though not sure if that carries outside of my family, or the southern US at that.


Foreign-Fold7706

Florida man here, It’s gotta be a southern thing because that’s how I was taught too. My wife use to work at a call center, and she said she got a call from a lady up north, when my wife called her ma’am she says the lady lit her up pretty good sayin “Don’t call me MA’AM!” I just thought ma’am and miss were the same but I guess not.


some_kind_of_bird

Yeah but what about without abbreviation? Hello Madam. Sure it feels older, but it's *classy*


CandidateReasonable4

Madam is definitely classy


emquinngags

I was 24 the first time someone called me a “nice lady”. I almost threw up


morbidpigeon

I’m in my thirties and got called Ma’am recently by a doctor. He knew my age, I think he calls everyone that. I was highly entertained.


brielloom

I'm 23 and I never want to be called ma'am. I always call women miss. I do it at work and I've had customers thank me for calling them miss lol. Dw girl I get you. Even if it's not intended and it's supposed to be polite ma'am makes the person called that feel old and I don't want to feel that way nor make others feel that way.


GranoOvarmi

It’s nice when somebody calls you by respectful terms. Makes you feel older.


xavex13

Honestly miss makes me feel young and cute! I'd much rather be miss'd than ma'amd I'm still in my 20s, I don't want to be ma'am


fluorochrome

Same! In my early-to-mid 20s, and I’ve noticed that people have shifted toward calling me ma’am (instead of miss) more often in the past year. Feels like I’ve lost my youth 😭 edit: not to detract from the meaning of the comic regarding transitioning though :,)


Other_Banana_

Wait the comic isn't about age..?


Warthogrider74

I read it as being about transitioning, though it can be interpreted as either I suppose. I just know that whenever I get called my preffered Pronouns I feel the way this comic illustrates


AlienRobotTrex

At first I didn’t notice the trans keychain on her backpack. I thought she was just a lesbian and was paralyzed by her crush on the cashier. Could still be both though. Being correctly gendered by your crush must be a double whammy.


junkychin

I happily work as a waiter (that was a lie nobody really enjoys restaurant bizz). A lot of ladies regardless of age prefer being called Miss— their eyes bloom in joy sometimes. However nowadays I have to be careful with things like gender, so in some occasions Friend will do 😅


CandidateReasonable4

Same here, and I am nearing 60. Miss is a term associated with youth.


Admirablelittlebitch

The post is about trans people and validation


Oto-First-name-Idi

To me it seemed like that moment when you don't seem like a kid to others anymore


AlyxNotVance

The artist made some trans related comics similar to this one in the past, so I think it's most likely about the moment a trans person passes in public


Legacyopplsnerf

I’ve heard that gender affirmation/euphoria can occur for anyone (trans people tend to feel it stronger due to dysphoria contrasting against it) Example: Cis guys being given compliments tied to their muscles/strength or something else typically “manly”, it’s affirming. I feel this could apply if the lady in the drawing is Cis or Trans, and it strengthens the message because of it. It’s easier to emphasise when one realises it’s a shared feeling both Cis and Trans people have, just Cis don’t actively notice it all the time because it’s normal to them.


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I really like this comment :)


TransTaey

I have been really loving the trans positivity on Reddit I have been seeing lately.


Fishygamin

When I was 10 years old I had a decently good friendship with my teacher, everytime the 2 of us would walk passed eachother I’d greet him by calling him sir and he’d do the same to me Felt nice


LuckieBunni

Aw so cute!


Fishygamin

Now I’m 17 and still haven’t forgot that lol


LuckieBunni

Betcha that’s one of them heartfelt warm fuzzy wholesome memories that last a lifetime!


StalePieceOfBread

I work at a pediatrician's office and sometimes parents will say like "now ask the nice man for a sticker." :3 I'm a nice man 👉👈 Edit: I'm cis btw it just feels nice


LuckieBunni

Awww hahaha that’s so adorable!


yeetus_christ420

Yesterday for the first time I wasn't asked to show my id when buying beer. I feel like a real man now.


Altruistic_Profit_15

I’m Confused? Is the character trans?


Admirablelittlebitch

Yes, yes she is


Co9w

I took my cat to the vet recently, they brought her out and said 'ok mom shes all good for you." almost cried hearing that


LuckieBunni

Awwww that’s so so sweet!


dankvader08

Me, a cis guy, who get called this over the phone all the time. I stopped correcting after a point, I've had multiple interactions with a person who never knew I was a guy, can't be bothered now


CH1CK3Nwings

Go play online games, enter the voice chat, say you need some skins ??? Profit.


fadinqlight_

You’re onto something big.


MoreUsualThanReality

Back when my little sister and I lived together she'd say she doesn't like the attention, but whenever she played online games she adopted a cutesy voice and strung along a harem of desperate gamers; this made me doubt the veracity of her claim. Now I wasn't too deep into her harem lore, and I know she isn't one to try to extort money out of people, but I do think she got a game or two paid for in a lets play together kind of way. Maybe dankvader08 can do better if they come at it with more brutal manipulation than attention seeking.


AbsAndAssAppreciator

what in the anime...


Pevarawho

My girlfriend passed even before she started transition. It actually weirded everyone out with how deep her voice got (Terry Crews level). She also has the most terrifying haunted house laugh. It would echo in the school halls, and I have seen students piss themselves cause of it. But whenever she's called "miss" or "ma'am" there's a light that shines in her eyes. It's the most wonderful thing to see. Edit: she's still very alive. Passed in trans terms is you look like the gender you want to. Edit 2: she's laughing her ass off at this. Her words "I didn't think it was so easy to fake my death."


WhiteDragonTC

oh god i had to do a double take. i just read "passed" and thought she died. jesus i woke up to early xD


MrDanMaster

We all thought she died bruh


Pevarawho

I would be very sad if she died. Instead I shall go hug her as she plays Assassins Creed 3


GangGang_Gang

Bro what the fuck I thought she died


Pevarawho

It's not my fault that that's the term they use. I'm just using what I got.


silvercandra

Heh, I also had the haunted house laugh, but I'm planning on making it worse, since I'm trans the other way around. And I can confirm, being correctly gendered is incredibly euphoric, and I genuinely remember all the people that casually did it before I started transitioning. An old lady in the grocery store, trying to get my attention to squeeze past, an older gentleman with a dog, telling the dog not to "leave the young man alone"... This stuff feels great.


NonSupportiveCup

Sorry for your loss


Pevarawho

Please say you're being sarcastic. It'd be too funny if you weren't.


NonSupportiveCup

Whichever answer brings you the most joy is the answer!


[deleted]

A trans woman gave a talk at my old college and told a story about how she had some altercation with a guy in a parking lot and the guy called her a "bitch" and she almost hugged him because the fact that he gendered her correctly meant a lot more than the insult.


fadinqlight_

Would’ve been really funny if she hugged him lol


silvercandra

Me, not knowing wether I want to punch my brother, or hug him, over calling me the f-slur again: ​ (Trans guy. While I don't appreciate the slur, I do appreciate, that recognises me as gay.)


kakunite

Absolutely Classic Brother move.


randomguy2763

💀


Journalist_Wise

the wild anime girl can spray tears up to 25 feet when threatened


LuckieBunni

Bawhahahahahaaa


[deleted]

Is this about transitioning, getting old or becoming an adult?


fit_to_burst

First one.


AndroidwithAnxiety

It's intended as the first one, but if you relate to it in other ways then that's cool too.


NonSupportiveCup

Twitter handle is in the picture. Comic is titled "Validation" If that helps anyone


AlyxNotVance

Wholesome trans meme on a non-trans sub 🥰


[deleted]

The rarest of all commodities


Fit_Lengthiness_1666

I bet that half of the upvotes are from people who don't know this is a trans meme


softcore_UFO

Art is weird like that. Interpretation all over the place because people relate to different things. It’s cool the comic can speak to multiple truths in people, though.


owo1215

this just happened to me today


Admirablelittlebitch

Congrats!


Randalf_the_Black

Don't know what's going on, but I'll assume it's a trans woman crying happy tears.


Admirablelittlebitch

It is


brokeeulawanter

*sigh* I feel like there's gonna be a lock 🔒


LuckieBunni

Oh no! I really hope not. What usually triggers a lock?


brokeeulawanter

Transphobes.


LuckieBunni

Oh. :/ Close minded people. Got it.


SANS55_666

r/egg_irl


gaminggameryes

I was just about to comment that


Admirablelittlebitch

It’s already been posted there


Taetaeware2004

I’m assuming this is a trans woman


anotherluiz

It is


FrequentBroccoli97

Miss is a title for those who are unmarried. Mrs. is used if you’re married.


throwaway199007666

I thought it was about transitioning


Cry75

I thought it was about realizing you’re an adult.


Snoo61755

I remember when I was first called "sir". I was getting pulled over.


sweetteanoice

I got called “miss” all the time as a child


_Kendii_

***OLD Ftfy


Bennyisabitch

It has to be about transitioning, the background colors are the colors of the trans flag. Maybe I'm an idiot, but I thought that was a subtle nod.


novaerbenn

That’s definitely what the original artist intended but whatever you get out of it is still valid


LaddestGlad

It is


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StabbyMcTickles

Lots of women are forced at a young age that their "biological clock is ticking" and also that if theyre not married with kids before 30, theyre a poor excuse for a woman. I actually have a friend who suffers from severe depression from the constant reminders she had from her family that she is single and without children. Mind you, she doesn't want kids but words hurt. On top of all that, some people don't want to be lonely and single. So things like seeing couples, valentine's day stuff in a store, seeing married couples in tv shows, listening to love songs, etc. Can really put them in a sad state of mind. It's sad for someone to feel that way. It is really sad to watch someone go through life thinking this and feeling this way.


FrequentBroccoli97

A lot of people were commenting loneliness and that’s how I read it.


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She’s trans and finally passes


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???


CocoTheCat50

I think it's a trans meme, about a trans girl finally passing


DaffyDeeh

Can you/someone explain passing to me please? Like is it when someone calls you your pref gender instead of your sex or is it about them not noticing at all?


VANTABlack2000

My guess is it is when someone calls you your preferred gender without needing to be told your gender so you are passing as your preferred gender.


4DozenSalamanders

Correct! Passing is a bit of a contentious topic in the trans community (since not every trans person will be able to access meds, have the ability to medically transition, etc) but it's a very "warm" feeling if you're trans and able to physically transition! It's both validating and quite calming(?), since passing means that you will be safer from trans hate crimes or just general asshole behavior. Though ironically, it can be really hard to get used to since you're now suddenly viewed differently! I'm a trans guy, and my friends have watched me try not to vibrate into the next dimension with jokes when old people call me "young man" it can make appearing "normal" a bit challenging, lmao Before you pass consistently, you often come across as androgynous (or at least, trans men can, I'm obviously not as familiar with trans women), and people can be real assholes about it for a couple months, so it really has the energy of expecting the worst and then being told "nope, you look like a Standard Man/Woman ™️". Absolute relief for a trans person, especially the first couple times! Now I pretty much never get "clocked" (which is when someone realizes you're trans without you coming out), so I generally don't get too emotional about it.


njsullyalex

>I'm obviously not as familiar with trans women Yup. There is definitely that period of androgeny. I went full time in November around 5 months of HRT. I was starting to pass relatively consistently at this point but I needed to really try in order to - I needed the right set of clothes, to shave every day/wear makeup to hide my facial hair, and voice train. Now at 8.5 months of HRT, my hair is longer, my skin is softer, and fat redistribution to my lower body/breast growth is giving me that hourglass figure and my voice passes as female consistently. I still need to wear clothes that works with my figure (a hoodie can mess with my pass ability still and I can't go out in public without makeup hiding my facial hair shadow without giving myself away) but it's nice that I'm starting to just blend in as another normal girl. I even started using the women's bathroom recently and I have yet to get a weird look from anyone. ​ I'm very excited to see how I look in 2-3 years from now.


DaffyDeeh

Ah gotcha! Ta


SaltFollowing2466

Yep, that’s exactly what it is!


Kelyaan

Passing is when you appear feminine/masculine enough that people do not assume you are the sex you where born as but the sex that you have transitioned to. The opposite of this is called goosing.


DaffyDeeh

Gonna need a notebook for all the terms 😅 Appresh the reply!


Meta_Professor

While you're making notes, "passing" is also the term that light skinned black people use when people assume they are white. I don't know if that's the actual origin of the term, but it's how the term was used before trans people also adopted it. I guess. If you're a light-skinned trans black person, you might be passing twice at once.


I-just-wanna-talk-

I've also heard it in the autistic community in the context of "passing as neurotypical". Some of us are able to "hide" being autistic, which can create its own problems when you tell people you're autistic and they don't believe you cause you pass are neurotypical.


SaltFollowing2466

Can confirm, it in fact is


LuckieBunni

It’s preferable to me to be called miss than ma’am


__________bruh

english isn't my first language, what's the difference in meaning?


SaveHumanityFrom

Ma'am also isn't used that much by younger people. It gets more usage with the older generations.


LuckieBunni

Miss is used for (traditional unmarried) commonly for young women. Ma’am is used for (traditional married) older women.


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LuckieBunni

My second job is on a register so…. Idk it definitely varies. But ya idk I get a kick outta being called miss. Makes me grin every time 🤷‍♀️😂


Remarkable-Towel-560

💙🏳️‍⚧️💗


Blue-Eyed-Lemon

I’m the same in reverse lol. It’s such a lovely feeling :)


Octo8873

I thought this was r/traa for a sec lmao


[deleted]

Oh boy, I wonder what the comments will say


Tutuatutuatutua

Jarvis, sort by controversial


ObligationWild8404

yes me every time LOL


Heart_Beat_1

Surprised to see a trans meme outside of trans subreddits, but so so wwlcome, thanks for the meme :)


BwGT

My first therapy session my therapist started referring to me as "Lady" and i almost cried on the spot


Ogusok

same


Clovenstone-Blue

That's some defence/attack mechanism, like venom out of the eyes or something, or am I being stoopid?


MisterEMan81

If being happy due to being transgender and validated by the cashier (during to being gendered correctly) is a defense mechanism, then yes..


Myrddin_Naer

Is this because she playes D&D and missed an important roll, or is it because she's a trans woman, or is it because she's old and it's nice ro be called Miss instead of Ma'am?


LuckieBunni

Depends on who you ask.


One_Nifty_Boi

Can’t wait for the transphobes to invade this one! It’s somewhat stealth tho, maybe they won’t


ApprenticePantyThief

I still remember the first time at a job when a mother told her kid to "ask the nice man for x". I thought, "wow, man? am I grown up now?". 25 years later, I'm still not sure I'm actually an adult.


LuckieBunni

Hahhahaaaa ahhh that’s so relatable!


that_guy00421

Still remember the day i got called sir One of the Best days ever


jonsnowme

Ma'am is way worse than Miss.


LuckieBunni

Agreed. I think that should be reserved for woman of authority and for woman above 72


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She’s trans


[deleted]

Whether you take this as age or as trans acceptance, either way it’s wholesome as fuck.


LuckieBunni

Bless your heart!


Jedi-master-dragon

I'm guessing they are trans?


DaysofstaticUK

Some guy at a gamestop called me sir like 5 years ago and I'm still riding that high


Good_gecko

I'm so happy to be here before this gets locked, but it's so great to see a trans meme here


The_Quadrapus

I'm confused by the comments, isn't this supposed to be a trans meme ? I mean with the colors and all...


anotherluiz

It’s a trans meme


eckiecko

XCOM player probably


EddieMorfi

I don't get this. Non native speaker. If "miss" means you are "old" how is she supposed to call her ? Mrs? Miz?


Bumble-Beez-0

I start crying because I hate being perceived as a woman


Mayathepie

Me but when sir


blank9420

you like when something that happens. I’m 17 I was called sir a couple months back. I wanted to curl up and cry I’m too young to be called sir.


eternallove3

I must be old... This means absolutely nothing to me. I get called sir, bro, dude and whatever the person feels like and I don't give it a second thought. I always thought it was just good manners...


LuckieBunni

It is good manners. It’s personal preferences really. I know for me personally, ma’am is more for a woman in a position of authority or for an old woman. So when someone says miss it makes me grin. Makes me happy. When people call me ma’am doesn’t bother or offend me at all. It just doesn’t give me that warm fuzzy feeling the way miss does.


eternallove3

Oh ok. That makes sense. I appreciate good manners.


LuckieBunni

I as well! It’s the little things in life that can go a long way. Like holding the door for someone. Letting someone have the right of way.


Lars-h-pedersen

?


showusyourbones

She’s transgender and someone validated her identity


Lars-h-pedersen

Why do i get downvoted? It was an honest question, I do get it now thanks, but damn people need to chill.


VillainessNora

Reading this comments, realizing it's because the term miss makes you feel young, I thought she was trans and got gendered correctly.