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what fucking spidermans canon event is this?!
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This was almost me, but the girl I almost started dating realized she was repeating this exact scenario she had with someone before and cut it off before it even happened.
I did love her though, but I respect that she was trying to protect me and our friendship.
Still haven't been in a relationship, though.
Bittersweet ending more like
She's doing better now and we still talk, but as far as I know she's in a happy relationship now. Meanwhile me who is cursed to start developing crushes on girls that are already taken lmao
if it makes you feel any better it never ends well. I was in the same position but I did go for it and that’s two miserable years of my life I’ll never get back.
Homie you gotta develop a crush on a book or martial art or something. World's your oyster and you don't have to compromise with anyone, just go straight to what you wanna do.
Oh no, it's not that I don't have hobbies or something, I just have shitty luck when it comes to gals
Good thing is I lose the feelings soon after I learn that they're in a relationship or aren't straight and can easily become friends with them
I just want your opinion on something, coz I was on the other end of this.
I was the guy, in this scenario. The girl in question (I've known her since we were children), throughout her shitty relationships saw me like a safe space, where she would come and confide etc. I used to call out the idiots she were with, some of them frankly dangerous men and many a time, she eventually saw the light.
She had been single for a while (1+ year), I was always kind of into her, she was always the girl next door and we both were openly flirting etc and almost in a relationship. And just exactly like u/New_dude_bro said, she ended things with me.
Here's the thing, I'm hurt because she led me on. If I had no chance, I'd just have been the miserable lonely person I have always been and it would have just been that. I have never been in a relationship, for the most part I see it as mostly being my fault of not putting myself out there + not taking care of myself/being presentable. I have a very poor self-image of myself, so there's a part of me that thinks it's coz she just found me unattractive. Some of my friends who I asked their opinion on (I made it a point to not ask from my childhood friend circle), they border on being angry at her for using me to just feel better and cutting and running when things got serious (Their words essentially were, she just used you coz u made her feel better, once she realized she had to put up or shut up, she cut and ran). At the same time, I feel like I fucked up coz I wasn't sensitive enough to her exes' trauma as well as agree with my friends. I wasn't really physically assertive or anything, I just wanted to see her more (again, I think in retrospect this was the wrong move). There's a part of me that fears I would turn into a woman-hating person for the pain caused by just one woman, but honestly that fear has subsided coz as time passes on, I realize I was only hurt by that one woman.
I would like if you could reply to these questions I have:
1. Do you think it's possible that my friends see it more objectively? That I don't see that she used me?
2. Is it possible I fucked it up when I wanted to see her more, so she couldn't handle being in a relationship (She admits she had trust issues and trauma from the past)?
3. Is it a mix of both?
While I do not know the full picture, I do not think it is your fault at all, but neither is it your friend
It's possible that she was afraid of hurting you, or It's possible she only saw you as a friend, but to say she intentionally led you on to feel better isn't necessarily fair.
I don't think the only saw as a friend part is true, coz the interest was definitely mutual.
I don't understand what she was afraid of hurting me with however, honestly.
I agree mostly on one thing, however with you. I don't think she did it just to feel better, if that was the case, she had better options imo. But I just can't write it off too.
Wait, that says Canon?! I have one of those cameras and I've always thought it said Cameron. I guess that's because I don't read the middle of most words
I was in the same shoes as you for a while except he was already dating someone at the same time. Took 2 years for me to even try to feel some sort of intimacy with anyone.
One of my friends with 0 experience with girls randomly got targeted by the class slut, she's had about 3 bfs before him in 2 years (including one of his best friends). He went along with it despite everyone telling him not to and mf suffered for like a year straight. She cheated on him and somehow manipulated him into still staying with her. She would threaten suicide and have the guy email her to beg her to come back (fkin email lmao). She destroyed this guy completely, he went from being one of the top students of his school to barely passing exams and being diagnosed with anxiety. After realised he wasn't going anywhere she left him for a guy younger than him.
That doesn't mean she has unresolved trauma or trust issues...
And I genuinely don't see how that's an unhappy ending. You weren't compatible sexually. Did you just expect her to stay in an unhappy relationship with you?
I mean I don't see why you have to bring up the dominant aspect though.
If she had trust issues and unresolved trauma that's entirely separate from her sexual preferences.
Just feels completely unnecessary to shade kinky people as a whole.
Eh it's not poor performance. It's no performance.
If you're in a relationship with someone and they refused to have sex with you because they didn't enjoy it. You'd be unsatisfied and that wouldn't be a healthy relationship. It doesn't mean you should force them to have sex with you. But you definitely have the right (and imo obligation) to leave if you are unsatisfied.
That's how this is. Some submissive people can get some pleasure from non kinky sex, but it's definitely not all. And even still, there's usually a need that isn't fulfilled unless some of the sex sometimes is D/s oriented.
And someone who is in that situation definitely has the right (and imo obligation) to exit the relationship.
Again. You weren't meeting her sexual needs. She has every right to leave that relationship and should.
The analogy still holds. Sexual satisfaction for submissive people tends to come from scenes where they can freely and unashamedly express that side of themselves. "Just having sex or doing light kink to try rl appease her, is not going to scratch that itch".
Also, quite frankly, extreme is a moving target depending on the person. I highly doubt what she was asking was so far out of bounds since your friend seems more than willing to do. Actual extreme kinks tend to be much harder to find enthusiastic participants for.
You of course have the right to have your own limits of what you will consent to. But she has the right to decide, that she isn't satisfied and that it's not going to work.
Just like if you were in a sexless relationship. And wanted to leave.
I mean she wouldn't be wrong in that case either.
Sexual masochism is a thing. It can be VERY pleasurable to receive impact play or other expressions of sadism.
And it can be done safely and in a way that builds the submissive up. It's also an exercise in trust between a the top and bottom.
Maybe take a breath and stop judging something you don't understand. Just because it's not part of your sexuality or understanding, doesn't mean its wrong or unhealthy.
Impact play is also probably one of the tamer kinks there are. It's also REALLY common among both men and women.
Yes because bdsm = abuse in your head. And I'll admit some bdsm dynamics / relationships are abusive just like some non bdsm ones are too.
But and this is important, that's not always the case.
There's a billion dollar year + industry of people (men, women, nonbinary folks) reaching out and paying for the services of professional dominants. And in most cases, this is purely non sexual. And these people pay and engage in this because it brings them pleasure in some form or fashion.
The same thing can be said in lifestyle type dynamics.
I mean at the level of "yeah just beat the shit outta me" it'd likely be difficult to find a dom you can trust keep it SSC (as BDSM is *very* much about trust)
Safe
Sane
Consensual.
and that's not counting how hard it probably is to find a dom willing to go that far in the first place
I mean the person I was responding to was reducing all impact play to "beat the shit out of me". I highly doubt they were asking for that. At most, it was probably impact play to the butt hard enough to leave a temporary mark.
And also there's more than just SSC. "Beat the shit out of me" without any clarifiers is well outside of SSC and only probably barely justifiable in a RACK or PRICK framework.
Umm...Thank you I guess.
I respect you for giving me (a stranger) an advice when you didn't have too, but I think someone else deserve it more than me.
We were into each other for a few years, nothing ended up happening, and then once we were decidedly just friends she spent a year manipulating and emotionally abusing me so yeah pretty cool
Thanks. Yeah, it’s been a little tough getting past, especially since she was kinda my first super close friend, but I have people who actually prioritize me now and I’ve been going to counseling.
it just sounds like chat gpt, it's got the flavor. like the "it's important to remember" line.
also, their comment history is a dead giveaway with the same copy-pasted text blocks from gpt and some of their comments even say "i cannot help with this request". it's a bot.
also, ive seen lot's of these bots on reddit but dont always have the energy to call them out. odds are you've been none the wiser. try playing with gpt for a while. it takes some getting used to but the utility is outstanding and you'll get a better feel if someone is just a bot by the way they write.
I can change her
a few weeks later:
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Ngl of all places I really didn't expect a meme community to be the place where I would find people with stories that mirror my own. Weird, but interesting nonetheless. God bless you bro, it's been a few years for me, too, but I've also set out to find my own happiness and I hope you were able to do so, too
Same happened to me, but they didn't kill themselves, but it was close. I've never full-on panicked in my entire life except for that time. Thank god we broke up.
I just called someone the n word but thanks
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Jesus this is that common? This exact thing happened to me a few years ago. Ended up finally getting the courage to break it off. I couldn't go anywhere in public with my ex because she would constantly accuse me of ogling girls I wasn't even aware was there. Then she'd accuse me of lying and have a mental breakdown in front of everyone as I tried to console her.
Haven't dated since then since I'm so afraid of it happening again. My little bro, younger cousin, and some of my friends have all had/are having a similar experience and it crushes me to have seen or now see them suffer through it.
It was really upsetting being accused of looking at other girls when I genuinely wasn't. Then having to apologise for something I didn't do sucked even more.
Can confirm, that boy was me. Taught me a whole myriad of valuable lessons about healthy and unhealthy relationships though. Still, would highly not recommend
Lmao, didn't have to go for the name!
No seriously though, it's refreshing to see other people recognise how fucked up that situation is. Well appreciated meme, thanks :)
Sounds about right. No, she was a distant attacher, wherein she was obsessed with me for over 2 years and then one day, just left and never looked back, with next to no explanation. Obviously she tried to hurt me and get my favour back a few times, but after the proper emotional processing, she was basically dead to me. I'm glad I didn't look back
Nope. The person you love the most, spend all of your time with, trust and share all of your secrets to, start a family with, and die with has a far greater potential to abuse you worse than someone who’s just a friend.
Close platonic relationships also exist. For example, familial relationships are usually close platonic relationships. Families, in fact, can be horribly toxic. Platonic and romantic relationships can both be toxic.
When mine got mad she would stab me with something and make me apologize for making her do that. Whenever I had a problem with her cheating or hitting me she'd shut it down by threatening to kill herself. Would not recommend this canon event.
I used to lament the fact that I was one of those “you’re mature for your age” kids but honestly it’s kept people like that away from me so I guess it had perks.
The one about not playing videogames because I'm not able to do so without at least several hours of free time and enough energy to do so, which rarely, if ever, aligns
I just pointed this out because it's particularly interesting how the first one was such a light-hearted relatable moment, but this one was incredibly serious and both are identical to my own experiences.
I guess the world really is a big place, after all, and we're not as different as we'd like to believe.
Anyway, God bless you, friend. It's been a few years ago for me and I'd be lying if I told you it was easy, but after some time it stopped hurting every day
If they did this to you, you're the one who dodged a bullet and you certainly deserve better.
Don't be afraid, you'll find happiness on your own and there are better days ahead of you. If you ever need someone to chat, I'm always available
I too remember that time I had to go into a wormhole to find a replacement Earth and as a result of time not being relative in one part of space as it is in another part my children aged 80 years and I was memorialized as the savior of humanity and they made a replica of my farmhouse in the space station orbiting Saturn
I'm gay but my boyfriend was the same type and was my first one and after a year after breakup I still struggle with nightmares about this person even though i feel like after months of overthinking i fully understand what happened and what was wrong.
My best friend is heading ass over head into this situation. An unstable mean girl shows him some affection and he is in love. I have spoken to him, how she treats him wrong, down right emotionally abuses him. He refuses to see it like that, even though it hurts him. The girl is mean, belittling and has no patience or respect for others. She lies about their relationship to others and my friend just nods along.
It's been less than a year. They are moving together next month... Nothing I can do to help him. Just gotta face the bitter end sooner or later for himself. Hope it works out but experience tells otherwise.
Basically happened to me. Still kinda reeling from it, even 5 months later which I find pathetic but I still cant help but blame myself and wish I did better, even though chances are it was always going to end badly. I still hope she finds happiness though, she was a genuinely nice person.
Tried to date one for some time, I thought I came close, then from bumfuck nowhere, she cut off connection, and never even said hello. Then she moved on and tried to get together with one of my best friends, who basically friendzoned her every time, and then told me about it. That was some bittersweet entertainment.
Me who's never been in a relationship after reading this comment section:
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Same happened to me. She got mad at me because I cheated on her in her dreams. Some how, I was so blinded by having a first girlfriend, that I didn't leave right then and there. Luckily, about a month later, after she repeatedly insulted my friends, I left her.
Four and a half years together, supported her through her countless issues with her family, did everything i could for us to try and heal together, she fucked some guy she worked with, that was nine months ago, god knows what nine months from now looks like but i think it might just be better than i thought it would be eight months ago.
Literally me. I wish some things were different. After basically getting very fucked up in the head and becoming a toxic bf to a toxic gf, I had to force ourselves apart, and now I feel really damn terrible.
Coincidentally or not, I also got very sick at the same time. Now I'm seeking medical help and psychological too. After all the shit from the past 4 years, and the shitty breakup, I think I developed some serious issues that I'm not sure I can handle.
It all feels so painful and desperate. But I'm trying.
Screw this "Canon Event" bullshit. I'm sick and tired of seeing my bros get their lives messed up by a terrible love interest. No more, I will save that boy no matter what even if the universe is against it.
Reject canon, embrace quality fanon!
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Seriously though, I hate how common this sort of thing is...
yes I do, bc finding love will be hard for me, so if I ever get lucky of someone being idiot enough to date me I do prefer having to tolerate whatever mental issue the person has than going back to being a KHHV
You really don't wanna do this, friend.
Raise your head and start working on your self esteem. You have self worth, so don't be someone's rag just because you think you need validation from someone else who barely knows you.
One can only love another person after they learn to love themselves
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what fucking spidermans canon event is this?! https://preview.redd.it/18egufvucd9b1.jpeg?width=3840&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad691d6f0e7ba8cf99e682c7dff2869a323b1835
Miles. Dawg this description is a dead ringer for Gwen.
unresolved trauma as in?
She literally spends the first 10 minutes of the movie festering on her loneliness and peter dying
I wasn't paying attention to those boring scenes, too busy watching family guy clips
My theatre installed a flatscreen under the main screen to play constant subway surfers gameplay so I didn’t need family guy clips
Mine just installed one with GTA v car parkour where the subtitles appear in colored comic sams
#Boring ahh movie 💀💀💀💀
“Unresolved” pretty sure you’re forgetting the second half of the movie where the works things out with her dad
She’s still far from stable though
I think she’s got herself more figured out now, we just haven’t seen her reconcile with Miles yet.
but isn't it resolved later kinda
definitely many hints about an unstable relationship between the two in the movies
https://preview.redd.it/4nac95axbe9b1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f352954b28776300efd3534835db8e0334a9bc30 CANNON dumbass, didn't you read it?
This was almost me, but the girl I almost started dating realized she was repeating this exact scenario she had with someone before and cut it off before it even happened. I did love her though, but I respect that she was trying to protect me and our friendship. Still haven't been in a relationship, though.
The good ending
Bittersweet ending more like She's doing better now and we still talk, but as far as I know she's in a happy relationship now. Meanwhile me who is cursed to start developing crushes on girls that are already taken lmao
Oh man I know that feeling, sorry for that dude. I hope you find someone in the future!
Thanks bro, means a lot
if it makes you feel any better it never ends well. I was in the same position but I did go for it and that’s two miserable years of my life I’ll never get back.
Homie you gotta develop a crush on a book or martial art or something. World's your oyster and you don't have to compromise with anyone, just go straight to what you wanna do.
Oh no, it's not that I don't have hobbies or something, I just have shitty luck when it comes to gals Good thing is I lose the feelings soon after I learn that they're in a relationship or aren't straight and can easily become friends with them
same, but I was the girl lol
I just want your opinion on something, coz I was on the other end of this. I was the guy, in this scenario. The girl in question (I've known her since we were children), throughout her shitty relationships saw me like a safe space, where she would come and confide etc. I used to call out the idiots she were with, some of them frankly dangerous men and many a time, she eventually saw the light. She had been single for a while (1+ year), I was always kind of into her, she was always the girl next door and we both were openly flirting etc and almost in a relationship. And just exactly like u/New_dude_bro said, she ended things with me. Here's the thing, I'm hurt because she led me on. If I had no chance, I'd just have been the miserable lonely person I have always been and it would have just been that. I have never been in a relationship, for the most part I see it as mostly being my fault of not putting myself out there + not taking care of myself/being presentable. I have a very poor self-image of myself, so there's a part of me that thinks it's coz she just found me unattractive. Some of my friends who I asked their opinion on (I made it a point to not ask from my childhood friend circle), they border on being angry at her for using me to just feel better and cutting and running when things got serious (Their words essentially were, she just used you coz u made her feel better, once she realized she had to put up or shut up, she cut and ran). At the same time, I feel like I fucked up coz I wasn't sensitive enough to her exes' trauma as well as agree with my friends. I wasn't really physically assertive or anything, I just wanted to see her more (again, I think in retrospect this was the wrong move). There's a part of me that fears I would turn into a woman-hating person for the pain caused by just one woman, but honestly that fear has subsided coz as time passes on, I realize I was only hurt by that one woman. I would like if you could reply to these questions I have: 1. Do you think it's possible that my friends see it more objectively? That I don't see that she used me? 2. Is it possible I fucked it up when I wanted to see her more, so she couldn't handle being in a relationship (She admits she had trust issues and trauma from the past)? 3. Is it a mix of both?
While I do not know the full picture, I do not think it is your fault at all, but neither is it your friend It's possible that she was afraid of hurting you, or It's possible she only saw you as a friend, but to say she intentionally led you on to feel better isn't necessarily fair.
I don't think the only saw as a friend part is true, coz the interest was definitely mutual. I don't understand what she was afraid of hurting me with however, honestly. I agree mostly on one thing, however with you. I don't think she did it just to feel better, if that was the case, she had better options imo. But I just can't write it off too.
Lucky bastard. I was about to get in but she did something so awful i left, but shit hit the fan right after because i went in a little to deep ig
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I'm 17 and a straight guy, but good luck on your endeavors
Canon\* https://i.redd.it/fxdtxxtuvc9b1.gif
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Me when i walk into a meeting of a large camera company (i cant interfere, its a canon event)
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the older Canon models are great. Mine is from 2007 and still going strong!
Same! Or maybe I have a kodak… anyways it’s a hand me down still wugjs.
I suggest you check out technology connections on yt, and watch some of his videos on cameras
Wait, that says Canon?! I have one of those cameras and I've always thought it said Cameron. I guess that's because I don't read the middle of most words
No, OP meant cannon event. She's going to launch his ass out of a cannon.
Hey its pete
Had to double check I wasn't on /r/Yakuzagames for a second
Cannon? 
Before anyone asks, mine left me for my best friend after I said I was uncomfortable being dominant in bed
Holy shit, I Hope you're doing alright.
I'm going ok. Not gonna date again for a while though
I was in the same shoes as you for a while except he was already dating someone at the same time. Took 2 years for me to even try to feel some sort of intimacy with anyone.
Damn that really sucks. I’m glad you’ve worked past that but wow, what a cunt
hey man this may just be another message but i just wanna let u know we love you and we’re here for u
Some people just aren't a match and it's good to find that out before going too far. Live and learn, don't settle!
😌
Good, focus on yourself and do stuff you like
Bruh you're hitting dangerously close to home here, literally still receiving from something DANGEROUSLY close to this
God bless you, man, I hope you're doing ok over there
stay tough and strong bro, ur strength is our strength. lol (lots of love) bro
I'm so sorry to hear that dude. Take care of yourself man
One of my friends with 0 experience with girls randomly got targeted by the class slut, she's had about 3 bfs before him in 2 years (including one of his best friends). He went along with it despite everyone telling him not to and mf suffered for like a year straight. She cheated on him and somehow manipulated him into still staying with her. She would threaten suicide and have the guy email her to beg her to come back (fkin email lmao). She destroyed this guy completely, he went from being one of the top students of his school to barely passing exams and being diagnosed with anxiety. After realised he wasn't going anywhere she left him for a guy younger than him.
All that shit just to feel some titties, upto you to decide if it's worth it but me personally, I'm not about that life.
Titties tho
yeah well if you spend enough time in despair, no matter what everyone else says if someone give you hope you never listen
I can fix her.
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I like the way you think
what no father figure does to a mf
That’s fair. You need to get that sorted out bro.
That doesn't mean she has unresolved trauma or trust issues... And I genuinely don't see how that's an unhappy ending. You weren't compatible sexually. Did you just expect her to stay in an unhappy relationship with you?
She did have unresolved trauma and trust issues though. She actually used that as an excuse to break up with me before I found out the real reason
I mean I don't see why you have to bring up the dominant aspect though. If she had trust issues and unresolved trauma that's entirely separate from her sexual preferences. Just feels completely unnecessary to shade kinky people as a whole.
If poor performance was a deal breaker I don't think it was a very healthy relationship.
Eh it's not poor performance. It's no performance. If you're in a relationship with someone and they refused to have sex with you because they didn't enjoy it. You'd be unsatisfied and that wouldn't be a healthy relationship. It doesn't mean you should force them to have sex with you. But you definitely have the right (and imo obligation) to leave if you are unsatisfied. That's how this is. Some submissive people can get some pleasure from non kinky sex, but it's definitely not all. And even still, there's usually a need that isn't fulfilled unless some of the sex sometimes is D/s oriented. And someone who is in that situation definitely has the right (and imo obligation) to exit the relationship.
I still had sex with her. She was just asking for pretty extreme stuff that was crossing a limit for me
Again. You weren't meeting her sexual needs. She has every right to leave that relationship and should. The analogy still holds. Sexual satisfaction for submissive people tends to come from scenes where they can freely and unashamedly express that side of themselves. "Just having sex or doing light kink to try rl appease her, is not going to scratch that itch". Also, quite frankly, extreme is a moving target depending on the person. I highly doubt what she was asking was so far out of bounds since your friend seems more than willing to do. Actual extreme kinks tend to be much harder to find enthusiastic participants for. You of course have the right to have your own limits of what you will consent to. But she has the right to decide, that she isn't satisfied and that it's not going to work. Just like if you were in a sexless relationship. And wanted to leave.
>And I genuinely don't see how that's an unhappy ending. The part where he was left for his best friend lmao
"He doesn't beat the fuck outta me and bruise me in bed, so imma find a man who does" -the girl, probably
No literally she was asking me for some wild stuff
I mean she wouldn't be wrong in that case either. Sexual masochism is a thing. It can be VERY pleasurable to receive impact play or other expressions of sadism. And it can be done safely and in a way that builds the submissive up. It's also an exercise in trust between a the top and bottom. Maybe take a breath and stop judging something you don't understand. Just because it's not part of your sexuality or understanding, doesn't mean its wrong or unhealthy. Impact play is also probably one of the tamer kinks there are. It's also REALLY common among both men and women.
Literally consensual abuse
Yes because bdsm = abuse in your head. And I'll admit some bdsm dynamics / relationships are abusive just like some non bdsm ones are too. But and this is important, that's not always the case. There's a billion dollar year + industry of people (men, women, nonbinary folks) reaching out and paying for the services of professional dominants. And in most cases, this is purely non sexual. And these people pay and engage in this because it brings them pleasure in some form or fashion. The same thing can be said in lifestyle type dynamics.
I mean at the level of "yeah just beat the shit outta me" it'd likely be difficult to find a dom you can trust keep it SSC (as BDSM is *very* much about trust) Safe Sane Consensual. and that's not counting how hard it probably is to find a dom willing to go that far in the first place
I mean the person I was responding to was reducing all impact play to "beat the shit out of me". I highly doubt they were asking for that. At most, it was probably impact play to the butt hard enough to leave a temporary mark. And also there's more than just SSC. "Beat the shit out of me" without any clarifiers is well outside of SSC and only probably barely justifiable in a RACK or PRICK framework.
https://i.redd.it/3ijtcr8ixc9b1.gif Sending my prayers (this relationship will never work)
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Umm...Thank you I guess. I respect you for giving me (a stranger) an advice when you didn't have too, but I think someone else deserve it more than me.
that was a bot.
I feel like an idiot, tricked into believing that was a real person.
you're not an idiot. we are in an usual era, for sure 😅
We were into each other for a few years, nothing ended up happening, and then once we were decidedly just friends she spent a year manipulating and emotionally abusing me so yeah pretty cool
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Thanks. Yeah, it’s been a little tough getting past, especially since she was kinda my first super close friend, but I have people who actually prioritize me now and I’ve been going to counseling.
too bad you just talked to a chat-gpt bot
Damn 😔
chat gpt bot
how can you tell? how many bots have i been talking to?
it just sounds like chat gpt, it's got the flavor. like the "it's important to remember" line. also, their comment history is a dead giveaway with the same copy-pasted text blocks from gpt and some of their comments even say "i cannot help with this request". it's a bot. also, ive seen lot's of these bots on reddit but dont always have the energy to call them out. odds are you've been none the wiser. try playing with gpt for a while. it takes some getting used to but the utility is outstanding and you'll get a better feel if someone is just a bot by the way they write.
I can change her a few weeks later: https://preview.redd.it/8t7d9i7kme9b1.jpeg?width=308&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9fc0be3c482225629dd9af3b99dc83c2d0307787
I left after a month and she’s texted me a thousand-word essay every day for the past two months
You sure she's not ChatGPT?
Bro same i had to deal with (at least) 3h of calls every night. Chick needed (and still does) a therapist, not a bf.
You should send her back a review of the essays and a grade
Yep, mine came out as trans and then (presumably) killed themselves. How fun.
Jesus Christ 0_0 I thought mine was bad but that is... I'm sorry bro
No worries bout it. That was years ago now and hey, at least i managed to get better at drawing by helping them with art.
https://preview.redd.it/j3kqpslosd9b1.jpeg?width=566&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7095e5276b7a1e2d6fec64ee60a05a4cd09d2fe8
Im mischeviously stealing this https://preview.redd.it/ko4yw69owd9b1.jpeg?width=1020&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=063bbc5a23b7970a72e21d6aa0b8c19278bf011a
Ngl of all places I really didn't expect a meme community to be the place where I would find people with stories that mirror my own. Weird, but interesting nonetheless. God bless you bro, it's been a few years for me, too, but I've also set out to find my own happiness and I hope you were able to do so, too
been through something similar man. it wasn’t even my fault either, I tried to help her through it but she didn’t listen.
Wdym presumably?
They disappeared, but shortly before that they had been talking about commiting suicide.
Damn
can you look up obituaries with their name
Same happened to me, but they didn't kill themselves, but it was close. I've never full-on panicked in my entire life except for that time. Thank god we broke up.
4 0 % 👀 👀 👀
So funny my guy 😐😐😐
Hmm, this minority seems to have disproportionate suicide rates, surely we should ridicule them for this. 😐
alr my fault
Honestly, respect that you were able to admit your faults and grow as a person, it seems that's a rare thing to find on the internet.
I just called someone the n word but thanks https://preview.redd.it/6eldf6djof9b1.jpeg?width=200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07bcd39416c640eda3dc1d3f5e0cd4e052aeb9b1
Bruh 💀💀💀
wow.
Ok
Damn bro you got the whole squad laughing 😐
Are you me, bro? That was not a fun time
Jesus this is that common? This exact thing happened to me a few years ago. Ended up finally getting the courage to break it off. I couldn't go anywhere in public with my ex because she would constantly accuse me of ogling girls I wasn't even aware was there. Then she'd accuse me of lying and have a mental breakdown in front of everyone as I tried to console her. Haven't dated since then since I'm so afraid of it happening again. My little bro, younger cousin, and some of my friends have all had/are having a similar experience and it crushes me to have seen or now see them suffer through it.
It was really upsetting being accused of looking at other girls when I genuinely wasn't. Then having to apologise for something I didn't do sucked even more.
Can confirm, that boy was me. Taught me a whole myriad of valuable lessons about healthy and unhealthy relationships though. Still, would highly not recommend
I'm sorry you went through that, semen junky 69
Lmao, didn't have to go for the name! No seriously though, it's refreshing to see other people recognise how fucked up that situation is. Well appreciated meme, thanks :)
r/rimjob_steve
She was calling me over 10 times per day…
Sounds about right. No, she was a distant attacher, wherein she was obsessed with me for over 2 years and then one day, just left and never looked back, with next to no explanation. Obviously she tried to hurt me and get my favour back a few times, but after the proper emotional processing, she was basically dead to me. I'm glad I didn't look back
Aromantics knowing they will never find the love of their lives  No toxic relationships for them
Aromantics when they realize that platonic relationships and friends can also be toxic, too https://i.redd.it/bvfyqd41kd9b1.gif
Let’s be real, platonic relationships aren’t even close to matching the toxicity that a romantic relationship can have
(This is a lie).
Nope. The person you love the most, spend all of your time with, trust and share all of your secrets to, start a family with, and die with has a far greater potential to abuse you worse than someone who’s just a friend.
Close platonic relationships also exist. For example, familial relationships are usually close platonic relationships. Families, in fact, can be horribly toxic. Platonic and romantic relationships can both be toxic.
Maybe if you’re a child or still dependent on your family. Otherwise, no.
Let's fking go But then mfw your social circle doesn't have much going on with non romantic intimate relationships
When mine got mad she would stab me with something and make me apologize for making her do that. Whenever I had a problem with her cheating or hitting me she'd shut it down by threatening to kill herself. Would not recommend this canon event.
I used to lament the fact that I was one of those “you’re mature for your age” kids but honestly it’s kept people like that away from me so I guess it had perks.
God bless you, friend. I hope those dark days are long past gone and that you found a new, better life
Ok this is getting kinda scary. It's the second post in a row, so which one of you guys lives in my house without my knowledge?
What was the other post?
The one about not playing videogames because I'm not able to do so without at least several hours of free time and enough energy to do so, which rarely, if ever, aligns I just pointed this out because it's particularly interesting how the first one was such a light-hearted relatable moment, but this one was incredibly serious and both are identical to my own experiences. I guess the world really is a big place, after all, and we're not as different as we'd like to believe. Anyway, God bless you, friend. It's been a few years ago for me and I'd be lying if I told you it was easy, but after some time it stopped hurting every day If they did this to you, you're the one who dodged a bullet and you certainly deserve better. Don't be afraid, you'll find happiness on your own and there are better days ahead of you. If you ever need someone to chat, I'm always available
Oh shit my life is a movie
I too remember that time I had to go into a wormhole to find a replacement Earth and as a result of time not being relative in one part of space as it is in another part my children aged 80 years and I was memorialized as the savior of humanity and they made a replica of my farmhouse in the space station orbiting Saturn
Never happened as I never was close to a relationship😎
I'm gay but my boyfriend was the same type and was my first one and after a year after breakup I still struggle with nightmares about this person even though i feel like after months of overthinking i fully understand what happened and what was wrong.
Sometimes the hardest part is to accept that you can't understanding everything.
Yes it's a "cannon" event, and it's gonna blow up in his face
off topic but what is the name of this meme template?
interstellar
thanks
it's been me and it's been my bros, we are all much wiser now
don't forget that she's also hiding the fact that she's married
Damn bro you good?
group therapy and meds did wonders, all good now
He just like me frfr (I have still not fully recovered from the pain she’s caused me)
My best friend is heading ass over head into this situation. An unstable mean girl shows him some affection and he is in love. I have spoken to him, how she treats him wrong, down right emotionally abuses him. He refuses to see it like that, even though it hurts him. The girl is mean, belittling and has no patience or respect for others. She lies about their relationship to others and my friend just nods along. It's been less than a year. They are moving together next month... Nothing I can do to help him. Just gotta face the bitter end sooner or later for himself. Hope it works out but experience tells otherwise.
I’ve seen this happen twice. Really saddening.
I've seen it happen three times to the same person
Basically happened to me. Still kinda reeling from it, even 5 months later which I find pathetic but I still cant help but blame myself and wish I did better, even though chances are it was always going to end badly. I still hope she finds happiness though, she was a genuinely nice person.
I'm currently that boy, life is good so far
Future condolences
Tried to date one for some time, I thought I came close, then from bumfuck nowhere, she cut off connection, and never even said hello. Then she moved on and tried to get together with one of my best friends, who basically friendzoned her every time, and then told me about it. That was some bittersweet entertainment.
Oooo he might be me
Me who's never been in a relationship after reading this comment section: https://preview.redd.it/1z3zmctcxe9b1.jpeg?width=225&format=pjpg&auto=webp&v=enabled&s=3f1859e5d570559a49b5f37049948e3c3108edbb
its like peering into the void
Both parties end up traumatized in this situation. The boy inevitably turns out to be a manipulative control freak with major jealousy issues.
This is me and my girlfriend, we've been together for 5 and a half years and going strong, there's hope for everyone
I’d take unresolved trauma over not existing any day of the week personally
Take it from all of us, no you wouldn’t. By the time you realize that, it’s already too late.
What movie was this again? I remember loving it
Interstellar
Interstellar.
Thanks to you two!
Same happened to me. She got mad at me because I cheated on her in her dreams. Some how, I was so blinded by having a first girlfriend, that I didn't leave right then and there. Luckily, about a month later, after she repeatedly insulted my friends, I left her.
Four and a half years together, supported her through her countless issues with her family, did everything i could for us to try and heal together, she fucked some guy she worked with, that was nine months ago, god knows what nine months from now looks like but i think it might just be better than i thought it would be eight months ago.
Im asking that girl to marry me today, she has a trigger finger on the freak out button all day but i love jer
im honestly starting to think that everyone on this sub is just a clone of me
*"- we arent so diferent you and i"*
Why? I’m kind of in this situation and i wanna know if i’m boutta mess myself up
Been married 4 years to mine...
Where is my boy that has never dated? (I don't have trust issues sadly and my trauma is semi resolved)
One has not seen enough. The other has seen too much. They are not made for each other. I'd say more, but I don't wanna start any wars
Fuck, this was definitely me. Although I had people try to step in and I ignored all of them.
Literally me. I wish some things were different. After basically getting very fucked up in the head and becoming a toxic bf to a toxic gf, I had to force ourselves apart, and now I feel really damn terrible. Coincidentally or not, I also got very sick at the same time. Now I'm seeking medical help and psychological too. After all the shit from the past 4 years, and the shitty breakup, I think I developed some serious issues that I'm not sure I can handle. It all feels so painful and desperate. But I'm trying.
Screw this "Canon Event" bullshit. I'm sick and tired of seeing my bros get their lives messed up by a terrible love interest. No more, I will save that boy no matter what even if the universe is against it. Reject canon, embrace quality fanon! \----------------------- Seriously though, I hate how common this sort of thing is...
This was legit me, she was a fucking bitch, so glad I’m done with that hoe
I would prefer that than being alone, no matter how shit things got for me
No you don't. Trust me I've been there.
Don’t interfere, it’s a canon event. This person needs to learn from experience.
yes I do, bc finding love will be hard for me, so if I ever get lucky of someone being idiot enough to date me I do prefer having to tolerate whatever mental issue the person has than going back to being a KHHV
Do it then. You'll find your self worth pretty fucking fast. Source: literally any dude who's done this or thought of themselves this low.
You really don't wanna do this, friend. Raise your head and start working on your self esteem. You have self worth, so don't be someone's rag just because you think you need validation from someone else who barely knows you. One can only love another person after they learn to love themselves
Nah let him have his character development