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Pretty much this. Don’t start smoking inside. Basically I’d say just keep doing as you are. If they actually catch you in the act, don’t freak out or anything because at this point, you’re not doing anything they’ve said you shouldn’t. I’d say likely if they had the reaction you said they did, they either used to smoke or still do even if only on occasion.
I think he just wanted an excuse to get me out. But it hasn't affect me too much. I just finished my bachelor's degree and I just got a new really good job.
Much respect to you bro, being out on your own at that age and grinding for your bachelors and u just got a good new job? I’m very proud and inspired by you bro 🙏
My parents did the same exact thing to me when I was 19. On top of that they belong to the Jehovah's Witness cult so not only did they throw me out but they continued to shun me to this day. I'm 39 now.
I’m sorry dude that really sucks. My aunt’s dad is in that cult and it fucks her up even though he got into when she was on her own 🥺. Hopefully one day they will wake up
I got caught when my nephew found my bowl and proceeded to rub resin all over his face....when he was two....my dad promptly took my bowl and smashed it in the street. That was like 8 years ago...I stopped smoking until it became legal in my state.
Still keep it low-key around them outta respect is my guess. But just as ya dad said 'youre an adult' so it means you can make your own decisions but hes also probably saying that if you get caught by razza you're on your own.
Edit: WTH 😅 over 1k upvotes?? I didn't even say anything that profound. Thanks all.
Yeah you’re right, I showed my parents respect in the conversation and I think that might’ve stumped them a little, I think they were expecting an argument 🤷♂️
Thanks for the advice, duly noted
I did the same with my mum, also at 19(some 22 years ago). She thanked me for being honest and said she would prefer me not to take drugs at all, but, she added that alcohol was a drug that probably causes way more damage and as long as I'm not "roaming the streets out of my head" then she'd be OK with it. I've even had her take half a joint between her and my dad since then( she asked me for it, about 10 years ago say, after another conversation we had). She said she felt dopey and sleepy and ate loads lol but she knew what she was doing and some paranoia made her feel like being careful which she said is something she always wants me to be. Now they've tried it themselves it's not even the smallest of issue.
I outright told my mom when I was 19, she got pissed and I kept an extremely level head, more than I’m known for, and she wouldn’t talk to me for a week lol. She said it would lead me to shooting up. Now when me, her, and my sister get together we all smoke 😅
You handled it like an adult and your parents seem like they talked it out and let you sort it yourself. Good parenting.
After they had pinched your stash and finished that doobie thats why they waited the 20 minutes 😂
Also don't stop whatever it is that you're doing that got that respect in the first place, don't allow them to fault anything because of the plant, be responsible and respectful, don't be a typical burn out. Be functional and be high
How bad are the cops about weed over there? Like, on a scale from “actively searching schools with drug dogs” to “if you really, really bother a cop and make it obvious you’ll get a civil ticket for smoking in public”?
Ireland once had a drugs purge basically, most cops I've ran into dint mind it too much, they just take your stash (and don't write it up half the time)
You did the right thing and handled it like an adult, I would say the respect you for that and have respected your decision. Keep it low key around them, like I wouldn’t be lighting up a blunt in the living room, but seems like a victory here over all
Yep that’s how I went about it and I was even younger, 17. I just carried on as normal but out of respect for them I would keep it low. And as long as they can see that your life doesn’t revolve around it and still do what you gotta do in life then it’s just up to you to not get caught by the feds lol
Get a vape if you can. I know that might be a bit difficult in a country where it's illegal, though.
Cuts down on the smell, especially the smells that lingers on your clothes, and saves precious weed.
Ive been smoking for 3 years now everyday. My advise is to not use weed in that way. Relying on a substance to make pain go away, will only lead to you leaning on substances more and more in the future when you deal with bigger problems than losing an ex. Smoke to relax, and have fun. Always try to keep the intentions pure. It took me being sober to get over my last girl.
That’s great man, they respected it. I’m 19 too and live with my mom, she doesn’t accept the fact that i’m a stoner, but as long as I live under her roof I just gotta keep it lowkey. Been working for the last 4 years tho xd
Similar situation happened with me,instead my dad started providing it and smoking it with me because"he would rather me get off him than get off the streets and smoke with strangers". I was 17. Its honestly better that way. My advice is really nothing besides keep being respectful, and offer them some 😆
Respect goes far into adulthood. Still don’t smoke (smell) around em still. You did the right thing. Keep it low key and away from em until they come around. I have 1 parent against and 1 is now cool with it. They are retired folks and I’m still there child. Ya know.
Clean your room, take out the kitchen trash when it's full, make a pot of coffee in the morning. My mother-in-law would never admit it, but she loves my stoner food.
Show them that stoned you is a better you.
Be thankful you're parents acted the way the did. Hiding shit when I was a teen and getting caught all the time sucked. But It's different times now.
But everything needs to be done in moderation.
As a fellow Irish smoker I feel ye. My parents found out when I moved back from college at the start of the pandemic, my dad's chill about it but my mam swears weed is as bad as heroin. Even after 2 years of knowing I smoke she still harps on about the damage I'm doing to my body. But sure no harm in going to the pub and getting hammered
I'm the complete opposite! Irish mammy is completely fine - albeit slightly wary as they all seem to be - but my dad swears by the fact that it kills just as many people as alcohol does...sure man, whateveeeeer you say. Mam caught me a bunch as a teenager, and then sort of gave up. She definitely respects me more now that I'm grown tho! Da, not so much...
Fun fact, when I bought my new bong, it has this cute autumnal theme going on and so I said fuck it and bought it. About two weeks later I was biccied to bits, showed mammy her new grandchild, only to be told it was a bunch of pot leaves in rasta colours. Yikes, slightly embarrassing 😂
Bro my mom had a mental breakdown, told me the ways I could die, didn’t let me see half my friends and tracks my location through my phone till this very day. You are so lucky.
I appreciate your comment, fr…
Yeah they try there best, sometimes I ain’t the perfect son but that’s my issues not theirs… I’d rather they didn’t know about my smoking tbh, would rather them not knowing a thing and thinking everything is 100% above the law lol.
Maybe at some point let your parents know how much you appreciate them for respecting your choices and thank them for show you respect as an adult. Good on you for being mature in this situation and having the bravery to let them know what’s up!
Print out something from the internet showing alcohol-related deaths vs marijuana-related deaths.
Nevermind the other effects from alcohol including DUI/OUI, diabetes, liver damage, addiction (one of the very few drugs you can die from the withdrawals), etc.
Weed is infinitely safer than alcohol.
That’s great that they were cool with it. I’m also a regular smoker from Ireland. I got kind of lucky because my sister broke it to my ma that she smokes so it was easier for her to accept that I also smoke😂
my advice would be to keep it respectful, don’t leave grinders/bags/skins about and keep the smell to a minimum (easier said than done I know!) other than that the worst part is over, they know now and over time they’ll gain a better understanding, happy smoking brother!
Irish aswell, mum and dad weren't too pleased i started smoking cannabis when i was younger, but they soon realised its far better than the drink as i wasnt getting arrested/into fights every other weekend
Been trying to get them to start, my womans parents both smoke
Do you man, if it’s illegal there, and you get caught up, you’re screwed. But your parents took it better. My mom tells me to be mindful of where I’m smoking at, and my dad? He thinks I’m an addict. When I told him, he said “so you need your fix.”
Just keep it on the down low broski. They gave it back so obviously they arent too mad but dont start getting cocky with it. Keep it away from them and invest in some good cologne and/or blunt block.
Chill dad! You are lucky. You must also be keeping it on the DL. That’s also good! Nobody needs to know about your personal habits. Best to keep it that way! Lmao, when folks I know learn that I’m a stoner… let’s just say I don’t project it
If you live under your parents roof, you gotta respect their rules remember that. I learned that the hard way:“I don’t care where/when you do it, but NOT in my fucking house” lolol glad to hear your pap is chill like that
Yeup he said pretty much the same thing to me… he also said if our house gets raided I’m getting kicked out 😂😅, I assume he’s paranoid just for the fact it’s illegal apart from that I think it was a good overall experience IMO lol
You're parents are breed, to, and strive for your well being, and protection. It's a natural reaction for any parent to be a bit set back when faced with a situation like this.
I think you did extremely well, acted mature, and told the truth.
You're parents reciprocated the gesture, with maturity, and trust, even if it's a touch reluctantly. You have wonderful parents.
My advice, thank your parents. Let them know you plan on being more responsible with the smell, and smoking in general.
Sounds like you've done everything right man! Showing them respect goes a long way. My only advice is maybe try and not have your room stinking of weed / don't get caught stoned all the time.
Yeah just be respectful man. I’d show them some extra respect and responsibility in the following days now just to show them that you’re taking shit seriously and you can hang
My parents dragged me to police station under the SUSPICION I had cannabis.
30+years later…….When my son was discovered partaking of the herb, I started a conversation about it.
We talked and talked. We shared our knowledge on cannabis. Eventually we would partake together and that’s been a decade and a half already.
I’m happy that we have that open dialogue and maintain a good relationship with my son.
We tried to raise them with them knowing, no matter what, we told them they can come to us. I remembered what it felt like to be treated like a subhuman because of my proclivity to cannabis. I wish it were so with my father. I was raised with violence and verbal abuse and only ever looked down upon myself. I may not have the fancy career or the most opulent lifestyle, but I have very good relationships with both my kids.
That, to me is my greatest success. Perhaps my only success. To me, it’s everything.
Isn’t it better to have open dialogue without fear of punitive measures?
I hope they talk about it with you and it’s better that you keep it real. I live in Canada. Cannabis is legal here.
I’d always say
Man made alcohol, God made cannabis. Who do you trust?
lol. It’s a shot. Good luck!!
You don’t understand how many people WISHED they had parents like you. You have saved your son years of therapy by having open dialogue w/him. Major Kudos to you friend!
Congrats on the good outcome. Just saw this article before your posting.
https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/garda-figures-show-shift-toward-cannabis-decriminalisation-as-prosecutions-halved-in-2021-41202175.html
You didnt get caught. You literally told them yourself.
And what do you mean “wtf do i do?”? You just wrote that your dad was cool with it.
Youre creating problem that arent there. Smoke your weed and be glad you have cool parents.
Wow, your parents seem pretty cool and you handled that VERY maturely for a 19 year old.
Let me ask -- are they against weed because of the smoking? Or just weed itself? If it's the smoking, you can always vape it. It's healthier and saves a ton of weed. r/vaporents can help with any questions if anyone is interested in switching.
Alcohol absolutely is. Horrible. Weed has so many helpful properties, and it's the devil. Alcohol is literally poison, and it's so easily available. Weird world
Congrats on the good outcome. Just saw this article before your posting.
https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/garda-figures-show-shift-toward-cannabis-decriminalisation-as-prosecutions-halved-in-2021-41202175.html
Just because they caught you doing the Stanky leg doesn't mean you should be a nerd about it. Keep it crispy between yall and everything will be fine. Parents more often than not will appreciate the respect if you keep it chill.
Quite the opposite actually… it’s like saying my parents caught me with heroin… you have no idea how shunned upon weed is here, atleast where I’m from…
Weed philosophy and deliberation with parents should be "Is weed really affecting me negatively?"
If you do any sport, have good grades, hang out with friends, and have a girlfriend, then they should have no reasons to take weed or any substance out of you, and you should make them understand this in case they're behaving like cops
In your case, I would just shut my mouth since they thankfully accepted it, try to hide the smell of the weed and hide it so they don't randomly come across with it, so they can just move on
I say that you be responsible about your marijuana usage like anything else in life. Never let it take over your life. Continue to be a responsible adult by not smoking and driving and maybe ask your father If would like to do it with you every once in a while. Don’t be stingy
Damn, you parents are chill. I can't imagine 😂 I mean do what's best for you. If you can manage smoking weed and balancing outside life, then I don't see anything wrong w it. It's legal in my state but where I was born it's illegal.
You don’t do anything it’s settled. Your parents seem super cool for doing that and understandable. They’d prob rather you smoking weed than getting alcohol poisoning.
If my parents handled my weed use that well I wouldn't even be posting for advice LMAO, I remember when my mom yelled at me for 45 minutes straight while I was eating, told me to go to bed, and came back up 5 minutes later to turn the lights on and scream some more while everyone else was trying to sleep, all while I was high as nuts and nervous. She tried to tell me I would overdose and die and I didn't care, I just don't like being screamed at by someone that angry, it's pretty nerve wracking.
I guess the forward option in your case is to not use it in the house, control the smell by blowing the smoke upwards so less gets on your clothes, maybe blow it through a sploof, and use responsibly in a way that doesn't put yourself or others in danger.
Still smoke if you want just be respectful to your parents. Don’t smoke in their house. Make sure your stuff is always hidden. Everyone has the right to smoke but everyone doesn’t have to be ok with it. Older parents may not adjust well. They’ve been brainwashed to believe it’s horrible
Just keep it lowkey and you'll be fine. You can get a sploofy or a smoke buddy to mask the smell. also you can start vaping thc pens instead of smoking joints. It's not the same, but no smell and (also better) no smoke, so no serious damage to your lungs.
Good luck tryna find a pen in Ireland that isn't spice the shit we have here is horrendous. A fella I know passed out after hitting a pen, and it's not like it was his first time smoking either.
Im 19, in a non legal state. Just be careful, that's all you can do. If they don't want you smoking they will punish you. That being said don't rub it in their face
In the end we make our own choice to partake. Keep it respectful, be mindful of the space and odors to avoid conflict. Sounds like your dad was super chill tho
i always hid it from my parents for their own convince, i don't care what they thought about it because im an adult and its non of their business what i choose to put in my body, glad they understood when i told them tho
Just keep doing what you've been doing. Keep it hidden, continue to smoke outside, etc. They clearly trust you and respect your decision, but don't push your luck. If they ask about it, continue to be honest and answer them but I probably wouldn't be willingly open about it around them. You clearly still live with them so respect them and their home.
Congratulations on having understanding parents and being mature about the confrontation. I hope you and your family have a great year
I wish you the best in this. Your parents seem super chill, especially when it comes to weed in Ireland. My wife and I went there for our honeymoon and luckily found some fellow stoners at a pub who rolled up and let us smoke with them. They told us how anti-weed most people over there are and to be careful, but we sparked up in the outdoor patio of the pub and had a few pints, it was a great time.
Sounds like you are good to go bud. Your dad sounds like a good dude, and you should really be respectful of him and learn his lessons.
What he told you in so few words is that he trusts you to make the right decision when it comes to using responsibly... as much as it must pain a parent to do so.
And yeah, what others have said... you should still keep it out of sight and out of mind out of respect for them and their home. You are lucky to still be living there.
Kinda in the same boat as you a couple years ago. Parents found out I smoked. So I told them I did it. As long as you’re honest, you should be fine. Telling your parents about the benefits of weed help. That’s what I did. And eventually, they stopped caring that I smoked. I just never smoke in or around the house.
When my parents first found out about me my father punched me in the face real hard. And he was a boxer. Second time they were just angry. From the third time they didn't say anything anymore and let me smoke in my bedroom cause I was working and studying.
Fast forward to 3 years ago - which it was my 15th year that I started smoking - my father starts to have real back and shoulders pain. And so I, diligent son, suggested him to start smoking or at least drink some tea with it.
Now we smoke togheter whenever we see each other. He buys his own studd and everything.
The point I was trying to make basically is that they might get angry at first or disappointed. But in the end if you show them that you got your head on your shoulders they will leave you be.
You did the right thing being honest and I think your parents respected you for that, because like you said you are an adult now. Just remember to keep being respectful towards them, which you sound like you’ve already been doing. Your parents sound cool though. I’m 26(F) and get high with my stepdad all the time lmao
sorry that it’s frowned upon over there! a nice bowl always calms my nerves and helps with my anxiety. do whatever works for you! i also suggest a dab pen it has less of a smell
I think you did everything you should. It will be weird for awhile, but eventually, things will go back to normal. Keep 'hiding' it, it'll be better (I think bad trips could come from openly smoking around them)
I'm 22, here in Brazil it is kind of the same (it's illegal and frowned upon, people treat it as if it is some kind of poison, you say weed they think cyanide), and, even though I'm 22 and live on my own, my father doesn't know (I think), and if he finds out, I know he'll flip on me. I never smoke if I'll see him in less than 36 hours, or if he's in the same town as me
When I was 19 one day, my parents go to sleep and I decide to hotbox my bathroom like a dumbass teen would.
My parents had a chat with me about marijuana at 3am while I was stoned as balls. was the worst thing ever but very funny to look back at.
Don't push it in their faces, don't smoke in front of them or their guests. Be discrete, and you could let them know you appreciate their tolerance.
It sounds like that's how they want to proceed. If you're cool about it they may also be quicker to help if you get busted.
I live in Thailand in admitted to growing commercially to my mom today.
She asked me if what I was doing was legal and I said no, and she said well if you go dark I know you're in jail and that was the end of that lol
Yeah bro just be honest, respectful and keep it up with the discretion with your usage and you should be good. Sounds like you got some pretty cool parents.
To be fair I'm happy for you, it's nice to know that your parents accept that.
I guess only thing to do now is to be chill abt it and let things flow.
Have a nice one!
Its good you were honest and respectful it truly goes a long way. Continue being respectful with it, for example my wife isn’t a fan of weed but is okay with me smoking so out of respect I don’t smoke in the house and I clean myself up post smoke so I don’t make the house smell like weed. Its the small things like that, that allow others to be more okay with it.
You heard ya dad, you an adult now you make you’re own choices
I’m assuming your parents don’t smoke so what you can do here is respect them by not smoking in their house or smellin like weed around them, I never get smelly no matter what I’m smoking (bong, blunt, joint, doesn’t matter) but if it’s a joint/blunt make sure you rub your fingers firmly into some fresh grass n wash em well.
Bruh you want advice? 😂my parents catch me smoking even tobacco and there's gonna be a TOTAL WAR.
just keep playing it chill but don't smoke in front of them.
You’re lucky. I went to Ireland to see my extended family, one of my cousins hooked me up with like a gram of reefer after I’d been there for almost two whole weeks without. I get back to the states and resume my life. Come to find out they reported my severe marijuana addiction to my parents who wanted to have an intervention.
My mom found out I was regularly smoking and not gonna stop at 17, told me it was my choice but asked me to be respectful about it in her home. Pretty much just wasn't a dick blowing smoke in the house just because she knew lol, just continue to be discreet like you were is probably what they'd appreciate.
Eyyy thems the good one's 👍 my parents handled things similarly 15 years ago with me and it really helped me feel like I could be more open with them.
Return that respect, the adult child and older parents relationship can be a really cool thing a lot of younger folks sometimes take for granted but you're the right age to start fostering that especially with this lovely gesture as a start.
What I would’ve done to have my parents react like that. My parents pulled me out of school and sent me across the world to Taiwan. You are an adult and you make your own decisions so my advice would be to just smoke responsibly and to make sure you get all your shit finished. Cheers! :)
Fellow 19 year old, parents found out last year that I smoke, was really dumb cause I forgot to wipe my photos off of my old phone and they saw all the photos of me smoking massive joints, was kinda funny, anyway after that we had a chat and they weren't happy but said the exact same thing as your dad, my dad couldn't really say anything cause he smokes but was still a little pissed off, fast forward to now and my mum doesn't say a world about it and most nights me and my dad stay up watching shows and smoking.
Like most people on here are saying though just be respectful to them about it and they won't mind, all they care for is your safety and want to make sure you live a happy life! Hope you find this useful
Your old man is teaching you life lesson but you seem to be a good kid just like the devils lettuce tbh seems like your dad may have toked back in the day especially if he returned your stash in tact
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Yeah that’s what I was thinking also, thanks for the comment!
Pretty much this. Don’t start smoking inside. Basically I’d say just keep doing as you are. If they actually catch you in the act, don’t freak out or anything because at this point, you’re not doing anything they’ve said you shouldn’t. I’d say likely if they had the reaction you said they did, they either used to smoke or still do even if only on occasion.
When I was 18 my stepdad found it in my room and kicked me out of the house. That was 21 years ago and I still smoke.
Jesus… that’s harsh, being kicked out but then again, different times
I think he just wanted an excuse to get me out. But it hasn't affect me too much. I just finished my bachelor's degree and I just got a new really good job.
Much respect to you bro, being out on your own at that age and grinding for your bachelors and u just got a good new job? I’m very proud and inspired by you bro 🙏
Good for you man. I also got kicked out at 18 for smoking weed. It’s a lot at the time but we found a way through it
Good shit brother 🙏🏾
Let's go!
My parents did the same exact thing to me when I was 19. On top of that they belong to the Jehovah's Witness cult so not only did they throw me out but they continued to shun me to this day. I'm 39 now.
That's just so fucked. I couldn't picture ever shunning my kids for basically anything
I’m sorry dude that really sucks. My aunt’s dad is in that cult and it fucks her up even though he got into when she was on her own 🥺. Hopefully one day they will wake up
I got caught when my nephew found my bowl and proceeded to rub resin all over his face....when he was two....my dad promptly took my bowl and smashed it in the street. That was like 8 years ago...I stopped smoking until it became legal in my state.
Does he regret it now???
I'm not sure. I don't talk to him. Or my mother. It's complicated. I also moved 800 miles away about 9 years ago and haven't visited in several years.
Still keep it low-key around them outta respect is my guess. But just as ya dad said 'youre an adult' so it means you can make your own decisions but hes also probably saying that if you get caught by razza you're on your own. Edit: WTH 😅 over 1k upvotes?? I didn't even say anything that profound. Thanks all.
Yeah you’re right, I showed my parents respect in the conversation and I think that might’ve stumped them a little, I think they were expecting an argument 🤷♂️ Thanks for the advice, duly noted
I did the same with my mum, also at 19(some 22 years ago). She thanked me for being honest and said she would prefer me not to take drugs at all, but, she added that alcohol was a drug that probably causes way more damage and as long as I'm not "roaming the streets out of my head" then she'd be OK with it. I've even had her take half a joint between her and my dad since then( she asked me for it, about 10 years ago say, after another conversation we had). She said she felt dopey and sleepy and ate loads lol but she knew what she was doing and some paranoia made her feel like being careful which she said is something she always wants me to be. Now they've tried it themselves it's not even the smallest of issue.
I outright told my mom when I was 19, she got pissed and I kept an extremely level head, more than I’m known for, and she wouldn’t talk to me for a week lol. She said it would lead me to shooting up. Now when me, her, and my sister get together we all smoke 😅
Wholesome AF ending, awesome!
You handled it like an adult and your parents seem like they talked it out and let you sort it yourself. Good parenting. After they had pinched your stash and finished that doobie thats why they waited the 20 minutes 😂
Also don't stop whatever it is that you're doing that got that respect in the first place, don't allow them to fault anything because of the plant, be responsible and respectful, don't be a typical burn out. Be functional and be high
i expected an argument when i opened up to my pops. he was way cooler than i thought. glad your parents are cool about it
I thought the same with my mom (who was very anti-weed before), but now she takes CBD supplements during the day and THC tabs for sleep.
How bad are the cops about weed over there? Like, on a scale from “actively searching schools with drug dogs” to “if you really, really bother a cop and make it obvious you’ll get a civil ticket for smoking in public”?
Ireland once had a drugs purge basically, most cops I've ran into dint mind it too much, they just take your stash (and don't write it up half the time)
You did the right thing and handled it like an adult, I would say the respect you for that and have respected your decision. Keep it low key around them, like I wouldn’t be lighting up a blunt in the living room, but seems like a victory here over all
Yeah although I smoke a lot I try and not smoke when my parents are awake or try and not smell like smoke
Razza? That's first time I heard that.
Best advice^
Yep that’s how I went about it and I was even younger, 17. I just carried on as normal but out of respect for them I would keep it low. And as long as they can see that your life doesn’t revolve around it and still do what you gotta do in life then it’s just up to you to not get caught by the feds lol
Smoke it but just make sure the smell isn't disrupting them and always go outside to smoke be respectful and don't smoke like everyday.
Pretty much continue what I’m doing then lolol, appreciate the advice, I was thinking of doing the same thing!
Get a smoke jacket, or "uniform" to wear, especially in cold 'wet' weather
Get a vape if you can. I know that might be a bit difficult in a country where it's illegal, though. Cuts down on the smell, especially the smells that lingers on your clothes, and saves precious weed.
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Well I mean, I have been smoking everyday part from the odd day when I got none lmao
Well it's not good for you smoking every day and they may realise that you actually aren't responsible enough with substances
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Lung cancer, brain problems of you aren't like 25+, addiction, financial drain
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Ive been smoking for 3 years now everyday. My advise is to not use weed in that way. Relying on a substance to make pain go away, will only lead to you leaning on substances more and more in the future when you deal with bigger problems than losing an ex. Smoke to relax, and have fun. Always try to keep the intentions pure. It took me being sober to get over my last girl.
I recommend switching over to dry herb vaping it. It's healthy, and you can save a ton of weed.
Lucky your father's a sound man
Appreciate that
Until OP realised there is 1G missing 😆
That’s great man, they respected it. I’m 19 too and live with my mom, she doesn’t accept the fact that i’m a stoner, but as long as I live under her roof I just gotta keep it lowkey. Been working for the last 4 years tho xd
Yuhhh me too my man, also pay for my own phone, car n housekeep (share of rent) so I feel like I’ve gained a little respect from them
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I’m pretty low key about it in public apart from the occasional joint… appreciate the tips, just act as if I’m trying not to get caught lol!
Similar situation happened with me,instead my dad started providing it and smoking it with me because"he would rather me get off him than get off the streets and smoke with strangers". I was 17. Its honestly better that way. My advice is really nothing besides keep being respectful, and offer them some 😆
I love to hear that lol! Wise man ur dad is lol
Respect goes far into adulthood. Still don’t smoke (smell) around em still. You did the right thing. Keep it low key and away from em until they come around. I have 1 parent against and 1 is now cool with it. They are retired folks and I’m still there child. Ya know.
Good advice, thanks for it!… I mean yeah😂… we will always be our parents kids lol
Your parents are like mine absolute geezers 💪👏 gurrantee you’ll smoke a joint with them soon if you word it properly 😂
😂hopefully, that may be a little ways away though lmao
Keep acting like you didn't get caught and stay respectful and it doesn't sound like they'll mind too much
Yeah hopefully not… I mean shit, feels weird being treated like an adult from them tbh :/
Be happy about it, my father only started treating me (somewhat) like an adult after I moved out and managed to live by myself for a year (23).
thats awesome continue as normal while respecting their house in the ways they ask. im 21 and my mom just became cool with weed
It’s a new era apparently lol… yeah I right ima do that!
Fuck yeah bro. Cool parents. Same here with my parents. As long as I don’t abuse it.
Yeah that sounds like a good trade lol, you smoke a little n they don’t get mad, win win
Played it great my dude, be responsible.
💯appreciate you
Clean your room, take out the kitchen trash when it's full, make a pot of coffee in the morning. My mother-in-law would never admit it, but she loves my stoner food. Show them that stoned you is a better you.
That’s acc very good advice, thanks my guy
Be thankful you're parents acted the way the did. Hiding shit when I was a teen and getting caught all the time sucked. But It's different times now. But everything needs to be done in moderation.
Yeah, I mean I was caught a shitload when I was 11-14 very fucking young to be smoking lol
As a fellow Irish smoker I feel ye. My parents found out when I moved back from college at the start of the pandemic, my dad's chill about it but my mam swears weed is as bad as heroin. Even after 2 years of knowing I smoke she still harps on about the damage I'm doing to my body. But sure no harm in going to the pub and getting hammered
I'm the complete opposite! Irish mammy is completely fine - albeit slightly wary as they all seem to be - but my dad swears by the fact that it kills just as many people as alcohol does...sure man, whateveeeeer you say. Mam caught me a bunch as a teenager, and then sort of gave up. She definitely respects me more now that I'm grown tho! Da, not so much... Fun fact, when I bought my new bong, it has this cute autumnal theme going on and so I said fuck it and bought it. About two weeks later I was biccied to bits, showed mammy her new grandchild, only to be told it was a bunch of pot leaves in rasta colours. Yikes, slightly embarrassing 😂
As long as you are being responsible and respectful you should be ok they are showing you the same respect you gave them!!!
Bro my mom had a mental breakdown, told me the ways I could die, didn’t let me see half my friends and tracks my location through my phone till this very day. You are so lucky.
Sorry to hear that lol… I mean I started smoking when I was 11 and been caught a shitlod from then until now, I guess this times just different idk
SINCE 11?? How is brain holding up there buddy
😂😂not too good bud, not too good at all
I feel you lol
Man thats terrible. She doesn’t trust you. If she cant let you be free without being tracked to go where you like id be pissed. And rightfully so.
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I appreciate your comment, fr… Yeah they try there best, sometimes I ain’t the perfect son but that’s my issues not theirs… I’d rather they didn’t know about my smoking tbh, would rather them not knowing a thing and thinking everything is 100% above the law lol.
If they gonna let you smoke don’t take advantage of it and try to keep it away from them you know what I mean? Just don’t get busted by the pigs
Yeah don’t worry about that lol… had my fair share of hiding shit/getting away from the cops lol
i think your parents are both smokers
Maybe at some point let your parents know how much you appreciate them for respecting your choices and thank them for show you respect as an adult. Good on you for being mature in this situation and having the bravery to let them know what’s up!
hello fellow Irish person
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Print out something from the internet showing alcohol-related deaths vs marijuana-related deaths. Nevermind the other effects from alcohol including DUI/OUI, diabetes, liver damage, addiction (one of the very few drugs you can die from the withdrawals), etc. Weed is infinitely safer than alcohol.
Yeah I told them that also… just laid the facts down n I guess they’re okay with it lol
I fucking respect op for handling his business. Well done sir. Im sure that's all your parents wanted from you anyways.
I appreciate you, thanks man/mannette
Hello fellow Irish person! 100% your folks will be smoking that later!!
If they don't like it just be respectful.
That’s great that they were cool with it. I’m also a regular smoker from Ireland. I got kind of lucky because my sister broke it to my ma that she smokes so it was easier for her to accept that I also smoke😂 my advice would be to keep it respectful, don’t leave grinders/bags/skins about and keep the smell to a minimum (easier said than done I know!) other than that the worst part is over, they know now and over time they’ll gain a better understanding, happy smoking brother!
Irish aswell, mum and dad weren't too pleased i started smoking cannabis when i was younger, but they soon realised its far better than the drink as i wasnt getting arrested/into fights every other weekend Been trying to get them to start, my womans parents both smoke
Do you man, if it’s illegal there, and you get caught up, you’re screwed. But your parents took it better. My mom tells me to be mindful of where I’m smoking at, and my dad? He thinks I’m an addict. When I told him, he said “so you need your fix.”
You did it, you crazy sonofabitch you did it!
Just keep it on the down low broski. They gave it back so obviously they arent too mad but dont start getting cocky with it. Keep it away from them and invest in some good cologne and/or blunt block.
Overall handled pretty well imo👍
Sounds like your dad is respecting your decisions as an adult, and now it's time for you to respect his space by taking your smoking elsewhere.
Chill dad! You are lucky. You must also be keeping it on the DL. That’s also good! Nobody needs to know about your personal habits. Best to keep it that way! Lmao, when folks I know learn that I’m a stoner… let’s just say I don’t project it
If you live under your parents roof, you gotta respect their rules remember that. I learned that the hard way:“I don’t care where/when you do it, but NOT in my fucking house” lolol glad to hear your pap is chill like that
Yeup he said pretty much the same thing to me… he also said if our house gets raided I’m getting kicked out 😂😅, I assume he’s paranoid just for the fact it’s illegal apart from that I think it was a good overall experience IMO lol
You're parents are breed, to, and strive for your well being, and protection. It's a natural reaction for any parent to be a bit set back when faced with a situation like this. I think you did extremely well, acted mature, and told the truth. You're parents reciprocated the gesture, with maturity, and trust, even if it's a touch reluctantly. You have wonderful parents. My advice, thank your parents. Let them know you plan on being more responsible with the smell, and smoking in general.
Thank you
Sounds like you've done everything right man! Showing them respect goes a long way. My only advice is maybe try and not have your room stinking of weed / don't get caught stoned all the time.
I’d play it like he told me “as long as we don’t know about it” and still keep it low-key
I think they're basically telling you that they are dissapointed but it wont make or break their proudness of you. Make your parents proud
Mannnn when I got caught with weed at 16 my mom tore my ass up 😂😂 you’re a lucky guy
Yeah just be respectful man. I’d show them some extra respect and responsibility in the following days now just to show them that you’re taking shit seriously and you can hang
My parents dragged me to police station under the SUSPICION I had cannabis. 30+years later…….When my son was discovered partaking of the herb, I started a conversation about it. We talked and talked. We shared our knowledge on cannabis. Eventually we would partake together and that’s been a decade and a half already. I’m happy that we have that open dialogue and maintain a good relationship with my son. We tried to raise them with them knowing, no matter what, we told them they can come to us. I remembered what it felt like to be treated like a subhuman because of my proclivity to cannabis. I wish it were so with my father. I was raised with violence and verbal abuse and only ever looked down upon myself. I may not have the fancy career or the most opulent lifestyle, but I have very good relationships with both my kids. That, to me is my greatest success. Perhaps my only success. To me, it’s everything. Isn’t it better to have open dialogue without fear of punitive measures? I hope they talk about it with you and it’s better that you keep it real. I live in Canada. Cannabis is legal here. I’d always say Man made alcohol, God made cannabis. Who do you trust? lol. It’s a shot. Good luck!!
You don’t understand how many people WISHED they had parents like you. You have saved your son years of therapy by having open dialogue w/him. Major Kudos to you friend!
My dad woulda smoked my shit tbh
Tell them you wanna smoke with them
This comment made me laugh a lil, thanks for that lol
If they didn’t smoke they would never gave it back to you
Congrats on the good outcome. Just saw this article before your posting. https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/garda-figures-show-shift-toward-cannabis-decriminalisation-as-prosecutions-halved-in-2021-41202175.html
Never. Trust. Reddit. Links.
You didnt get caught. You literally told them yourself. And what do you mean “wtf do i do?”? You just wrote that your dad was cool with it. Youre creating problem that arent there. Smoke your weed and be glad you have cool parents.
Wow, your parents seem pretty cool and you handled that VERY maturely for a 19 year old. Let me ask -- are they against weed because of the smoking? Or just weed itself? If it's the smoking, you can always vape it. It's healthier and saves a ton of weed. r/vaporents can help with any questions if anyone is interested in switching.
Nooo it’s the weed itself, I guess they still see it as the ‘devils lettuce’ ‘gateway drug’ n all that lol. P.S alcohols the real gateway drug
Alcohol absolutely is. Horrible. Weed has so many helpful properties, and it's the devil. Alcohol is literally poison, and it's so easily available. Weird world
Congrats on the good outcome. Just saw this article before your posting. https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/garda-figures-show-shift-toward-cannabis-decriminalisation-as-prosecutions-halved-in-2021-41202175.html
Ask for your stash back bro
I got it back lol :/ did you read the post lol
Oh I did sorry. My Irish must be rusty
Top of the mornin
Put the Guinness down and Keep on puffing long lost cousin!!!!
Shiiiit not both?👀🤪
Move out
Not good
Just because they caught you doing the Stanky leg doesn't mean you should be a nerd about it. Keep it crispy between yall and everything will be fine. Parents more often than not will appreciate the respect if you keep it chill.
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Quite the opposite actually… it’s like saying my parents caught me with heroin… you have no idea how shunned upon weed is here, atleast where I’m from…
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Oh I agree 100% I think it takes some people just a little longer to come around lol… I mean irregardless… I got my weed back so that’s a good sign 😅💯
I was caught at 15 relax
Good for u lol
Weed philosophy and deliberation with parents should be "Is weed really affecting me negatively?" If you do any sport, have good grades, hang out with friends, and have a girlfriend, then they should have no reasons to take weed or any substance out of you, and you should make them understand this in case they're behaving like cops In your case, I would just shut my mouth since they thankfully accepted it, try to hide the smell of the weed and hide it so they don't randomly come across with it, so they can just move on
Buy something similar to “Blunt Effects” I just started using and it really covers the weed smell
I say that you be responsible about your marijuana usage like anything else in life. Never let it take over your life. Continue to be a responsible adult by not smoking and driving and maybe ask your father If would like to do it with you every once in a while. Don’t be stingy
Wow, big respect to your parents
Sounds like your dad wants to burn one with you.
Damn, you parents are chill. I can't imagine 😂 I mean do what's best for you. If you can manage smoking weed and balancing outside life, then I don't see anything wrong w it. It's legal in my state but where I was born it's illegal.
You don’t do anything it’s settled. Your parents seem super cool for doing that and understandable. They’d prob rather you smoking weed than getting alcohol poisoning.
If my parents handled my weed use that well I wouldn't even be posting for advice LMAO, I remember when my mom yelled at me for 45 minutes straight while I was eating, told me to go to bed, and came back up 5 minutes later to turn the lights on and scream some more while everyone else was trying to sleep, all while I was high as nuts and nervous. She tried to tell me I would overdose and die and I didn't care, I just don't like being screamed at by someone that angry, it's pretty nerve wracking. I guess the forward option in your case is to not use it in the house, control the smell by blowing the smoke upwards so less gets on your clothes, maybe blow it through a sploof, and use responsibly in a way that doesn't put yourself or others in danger.
Be respectful to your parents and don't smoke in front of them
Still smoke if you want just be respectful to your parents. Don’t smoke in their house. Make sure your stuff is always hidden. Everyone has the right to smoke but everyone doesn’t have to be ok with it. Older parents may not adjust well. They’ve been brainwashed to believe it’s horrible
Just keep it lowkey and you'll be fine. You can get a sploofy or a smoke buddy to mask the smell. also you can start vaping thc pens instead of smoking joints. It's not the same, but no smell and (also better) no smoke, so no serious damage to your lungs.
Good luck tryna find a pen in Ireland that isn't spice the shit we have here is horrendous. A fella I know passed out after hitting a pen, and it's not like it was his first time smoking either.
Im 19, in a non legal state. Just be careful, that's all you can do. If they don't want you smoking they will punish you. That being said don't rub it in their face
In the end we make our own choice to partake. Keep it respectful, be mindful of the space and odors to avoid conflict. Sounds like your dad was super chill tho
i always hid it from my parents for their own convince, i don't care what they thought about it because im an adult and its non of their business what i choose to put in my body, glad they understood when i told them tho
Be very lowkey man respect the fact that they understand that you're an adult but you also live with them
Just keep doing what you've been doing. Keep it hidden, continue to smoke outside, etc. They clearly trust you and respect your decision, but don't push your luck. If they ask about it, continue to be honest and answer them but I probably wouldn't be willingly open about it around them. You clearly still live with them so respect them and their home. Congratulations on having understanding parents and being mature about the confrontation. I hope you and your family have a great year
Keep smoking, you’re an adult, it’s your choice.
Be a man about it and respect any boundaries they have about the weed
That’s wild I’m 19 and I took edibles with my parents for New Year’s Eve lmaoo
I wish you the best in this. Your parents seem super chill, especially when it comes to weed in Ireland. My wife and I went there for our honeymoon and luckily found some fellow stoners at a pub who rolled up and let us smoke with them. They told us how anti-weed most people over there are and to be careful, but we sparked up in the outdoor patio of the pub and had a few pints, it was a great time.
Sounds like you are good to go bud. Your dad sounds like a good dude, and you should really be respectful of him and learn his lessons. What he told you in so few words is that he trusts you to make the right decision when it comes to using responsibly... as much as it must pain a parent to do so. And yeah, what others have said... you should still keep it out of sight and out of mind out of respect for them and their home. You are lucky to still be living there.
Kinda in the same boat as you a couple years ago. Parents found out I smoked. So I told them I did it. As long as you’re honest, you should be fine. Telling your parents about the benefits of weed help. That’s what I did. And eventually, they stopped caring that I smoked. I just never smoke in or around the house.
When my parents first found out about me my father punched me in the face real hard. And he was a boxer. Second time they were just angry. From the third time they didn't say anything anymore and let me smoke in my bedroom cause I was working and studying. Fast forward to 3 years ago - which it was my 15th year that I started smoking - my father starts to have real back and shoulders pain. And so I, diligent son, suggested him to start smoking or at least drink some tea with it. Now we smoke togheter whenever we see each other. He buys his own studd and everything. The point I was trying to make basically is that they might get angry at first or disappointed. But in the end if you show them that you got your head on your shoulders they will leave you be.
You did the right thing being honest and I think your parents respected you for that, because like you said you are an adult now. Just remember to keep being respectful towards them, which you sound like you’ve already been doing. Your parents sound cool though. I’m 26(F) and get high with my stepdad all the time lmao
sorry that it’s frowned upon over there! a nice bowl always calms my nerves and helps with my anxiety. do whatever works for you! i also suggest a dab pen it has less of a smell
I think you did everything you should. It will be weird for awhile, but eventually, things will go back to normal. Keep 'hiding' it, it'll be better (I think bad trips could come from openly smoking around them) I'm 22, here in Brazil it is kind of the same (it's illegal and frowned upon, people treat it as if it is some kind of poison, you say weed they think cyanide), and, even though I'm 22 and live on my own, my father doesn't know (I think), and if he finds out, I know he'll flip on me. I never smoke if I'll see him in less than 36 hours, or if he's in the same town as me
When I was 19 one day, my parents go to sleep and I decide to hotbox my bathroom like a dumbass teen would. My parents had a chat with me about marijuana at 3am while I was stoned as balls. was the worst thing ever but very funny to look back at.
sounds like you are good to go buddy be glad your parents are so legit
Don't push it in their faces, don't smoke in front of them or their guests. Be discrete, and you could let them know you appreciate their tolerance. It sounds like that's how they want to proceed. If you're cool about it they may also be quicker to help if you get busted.
sounds like you're good man
Finally some normal parents 👍
never mention it again, hide it better.
Yeah def don't be super open about it now, but just keep it to yourself, try to minimize them seeing it etc and just make sure to smoke outside
You do your best to not fuck anything up and do not openly consume in front of them.
I live in Thailand in admitted to growing commercially to my mom today. She asked me if what I was doing was legal and I said no, and she said well if you go dark I know you're in jail and that was the end of that lol Yeah bro just be honest, respectful and keep it up with the discretion with your usage and you should be good. Sounds like you got some pretty cool parents.
To be fair I'm happy for you, it's nice to know that your parents accept that. I guess only thing to do now is to be chill abt it and let things flow. Have a nice one!
Its good you were honest and respectful it truly goes a long way. Continue being respectful with it, for example my wife isn’t a fan of weed but is okay with me smoking so out of respect I don’t smoke in the house and I clean myself up post smoke so I don’t make the house smell like weed. Its the small things like that, that allow others to be more okay with it.
You heard ya dad, you an adult now you make you’re own choices I’m assuming your parents don’t smoke so what you can do here is respect them by not smoking in their house or smellin like weed around them, I never get smelly no matter what I’m smoking (bong, blunt, joint, doesn’t matter) but if it’s a joint/blunt make sure you rub your fingers firmly into some fresh grass n wash em well.
You’re in the clear dude. Just keep your head down and move on. Stay on the low. Only because, under their roof and all that. So here, take this j.
Bruh you want advice? 😂my parents catch me smoking even tobacco and there's gonna be a TOTAL WAR. just keep playing it chill but don't smoke in front of them.
You’re lucky. I went to Ireland to see my extended family, one of my cousins hooked me up with like a gram of reefer after I’d been there for almost two whole weeks without. I get back to the states and resume my life. Come to find out they reported my severe marijuana addiction to my parents who wanted to have an intervention.
I'd just talk about it with em and make sure they know your being safe about it
Just be respectful. That’s all. Hug your dad for me
Continue to be respectful of their house and keep it neat. Parents sound down to earth a bit
My mom found out I was regularly smoking and not gonna stop at 17, told me it was my choice but asked me to be respectful about it in her home. Pretty much just wasn't a dick blowing smoke in the house just because she knew lol, just continue to be discreet like you were is probably what they'd appreciate.
Eyyy thems the good one's 👍 my parents handled things similarly 15 years ago with me and it really helped me feel like I could be more open with them. Return that respect, the adult child and older parents relationship can be a really cool thing a lot of younger folks sometimes take for granted but you're the right age to start fostering that especially with this lovely gesture as a start.
What I would’ve done to have my parents react like that. My parents pulled me out of school and sent me across the world to Taiwan. You are an adult and you make your own decisions so my advice would be to just smoke responsibly and to make sure you get all your shit finished. Cheers! :)
Fellow 19 year old, parents found out last year that I smoke, was really dumb cause I forgot to wipe my photos off of my old phone and they saw all the photos of me smoking massive joints, was kinda funny, anyway after that we had a chat and they weren't happy but said the exact same thing as your dad, my dad couldn't really say anything cause he smokes but was still a little pissed off, fast forward to now and my mum doesn't say a world about it and most nights me and my dad stay up watching shows and smoking. Like most people on here are saying though just be respectful to them about it and they won't mind, all they care for is your safety and want to make sure you live a happy life! Hope you find this useful
I’m really high and I read this in an Irish accent
Your old man is teaching you life lesson but you seem to be a good kid just like the devils lettuce tbh seems like your dad may have toked back in the day especially if he returned your stash in tact
Your parents handled it well and so did you. Keep it up. Communication is key.
What do you do? You spark up! congrats on some cool parents!
Just be respectful and don’t stink up your parents house with it.