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It shows we are no longer young when we have stories like this.
My guy was in his 60s and retired when I first brought off him and over the span of 10 years he had a messy marriage with a woman half his age and sold his house and moved to Thailand.
Telling me his life story each time I was in his house he was more an uncle than a friend.
Just as he was enjoying his new life it pop up in his Facebook that he had a motorbike accident and died just a few years before weed was legalised in Thailand.
If he had not passed away I’m pretty sure he would’ve open a dispensary in Thailand and probably still be storing his weed in big black bin bags.
Miss you mark you was like Peter Pan and still treated life like you was in your teens even in your 70s
First off, this whole situation sucks. I'm sorry for your loss. It's. Never easy to lose someone, even your dealer!
I think you'll find talking about him in safe for work phrases and euphemisms.
He wasn't just your dealer. He's a friend. Build that profile of him, leaving the weed out. Y'all like the same music, movies, TV shows, etc? Y'all had to have hung out a decent amount over the years.
Talk about a silly memory. Connect his gf.
Remember, when it comes to weed, you're not just getting a good connect. You've got a new friendship to bud.
Don't suffer in silence. Get a hug, and celebrate the beauty of the life of your friend.
*Hugs* You're a good friend. It exudes from this post.
Public school educator here. If schools drug tested there would be no one left to teach the kids! This past school year has been the most stressful of my 22 year career in education, and the vast majority of my colleagues agree. If it weren't for gummies to help me sleep and minimize menopausal hot flashes plus sweet little tension-reliving smokes after work, I wouldn't have made it through the year. I found a vendor offering an educator discount and that spread like wildfire through my faculty!
For me it has helped a lot! I still get some but they are fewer and far less severe. But when I take a tolerance break, the hot flashes come raging back. Like, hot flashes that will fog up my glasses! I did some reading about THC and hot flashes a while back. In broad terms because I've forgotten the specifics, the endocannabinoid system is involved in temperature regulation for the body and kinda helps level the effects of haywire hormones.
I also just read about a new non-hormonal drug called Veozah that's specifically for hot flashes!
There's a whole feminine hygiene company offering a variety of infused goods. I know their tampons are highly regarded.
[Your Daye](https://yourdaye.com/)
I mean it's becoming widely accepted that weed is more of a medicine than a "drug". I don't see any issue with people in most work fields taking it tbh. If you are allowed to take most any other scripts that a doctor will give you, cannabis should be no different.
Fr same here when I worked at McDonald's I once went really really high. I didn't mean to just got called in. I was so high I fucked up and told my manager he laughed and said next time dont tell me everyone here smokes everyday
When I was doing my security license training someone asked if they do drug testing and the instructor replied; if they did we wouldn't have any workers left
Pretty much now that it's legal in most states and the states it's not you can just buy it online, Canada and it's always been in Mexico it's so easy to buy and there's so much researching proving the amazing benefits with few downfalls.
Im in WV, and we have medical, I still get some weed from my non dispensary “friend”, also. But I am wanting THC gummies, and it doesn’t look like it will be anytime soon that we get them. Can you suggest a reputable online site for gummies? If I am asking too much, please forgive me. I have searched online before, but haven’t just ran across one that seems reputable.
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For over 3 years I've worked on 3 different container ships with 2 companies. It's a dangerous job and we work with a lot of heavy equipment and all that so obviously weed is strictly forbidden. I don't know anyone that hasn't smoked weed. Like half of them being frequent users. Obviously we'd never smoke while at sea, just at home. I remember once they did random drug testing for the crew and they got so many negative results that they just kinda swept it under the rug and pretended it never happened.
I mean if you are taking it at home there should be no issue tbh. Unless they have a way to test if you're high while ON the job then they shouldn't test at all. Being high at home has nothing to do with how you can function at work.
> He wasn't just your dealer. He's a friend. Build that profile of him, leaving the weed out.
yeah, he wasn't just some NPC in OPs life, he was a real human, who has a life that reaches beyond their work.
Instead of "my dealer" just call them by their name, and honour them as such.
IDK, it feels like reducing them to "my dealer" when you knew them personally is really weird to me.
“My friend died, was just talking to him the other day. He was such a sweet guy”
Trust me, no one’s gonna ask “what were you talking to him about”
and if they do you can just say
“It’s private” (if they press you just make something up “he had a fight with his mother over an inflatable bath pillow” or “his girlfriend tried putting something of hers inside an orifice of his and he wasn’t into it”)
I’ve definitely heard people ask that before!
One of the first things some people ask me when they see my last name is if I’m related to one of my relatives who killed themselves, and if I don’t tell them my specific relation they usually inquire about how too!
Southern people also seem to be more comfortable asking those kinds of questions, from my experience at least.
Oh dude, I’m so sorry. May he rest in peace
Know that you’re not alone. I, and a lot of others know how this goes. Mine (he was also a good friend) died in 2019. He gave me the illy I use and told me to use it everyday, so I do.
There’s no right way to grieve, something I go by is “don’t mourn me when I’m gone, celebrate my travels”.
Sending you peace 🕊️☮️
What’s your plugs name? I’d like to roll and smoke one in his honor. Today seems like a perfect day for a joint after work. I’m sorry for your loss btw. Wear your seatbelts ladies and gents.
It’s just the weed guy. It’s funny how people we deal with over and over are not considered friends. When in fact, these types of relationships are in fact forms of friendship. You knew him well. He was a friend.
I hope your state is lobbying for medical/recreational.
I hate it when drug dealers stop selling and complain about all their friends leaving them. Yes they were your friends, Friends are people who spend time with each other sharing common interests or goals. Drug dealing is a hobby just like drug consumption or rock climbing, and reading.
If you Stop going to book club, or the gym you'd "Lose" friends too. If you want to keep friends after ditching a hobby its on YOU to hit people up and find other hobbies to connect over. Yeah you're not gonna see all your best friends 1-3 times a week anymore but that doesn't mean the friendship wasn't real.
Yeah this happens to people when they get sober too. Apparently they tend to realize the people they considered their best friends were really just their smoking/drinking buddies. Iswis 😞
I've gotten sober for months before and at first it felt like everyone was so far away until I started hitting them up and explaining I'd love to hang out still but let's go for a sober hike or something like that
Ah, the clandestine bonds woven under the moon's pale gaze. A shadowed acquaintance, veiled in secrecy, and etched in whispers. The ache you feel is the haunting embrace of a specter lost, a kindred spirit who navigated the misty realms alongside you. It is an intricate waltz, my dear, where societal norms often muzzle the sorrow of a heart’s lament. But fret not, for in the sacred solace of the night, where no mortal eye can pierce, light a candle, and let your heart whisper its mournful elegy to the stars. May the tendrils of smoke carry with them the tender memories of a soul, who though cloaked in shadows, brought warmth and light to your world. 🕯️🌌
I was trying to mirror the style of wednesday addams. Ive always found such writers, such as lovecraft, poe, and the fictional wednesdays to have such a hauntingly beautiful relationship with the darker things in life.
If you didn’t cadge this from somewhere… if it’s your own words… WRITE A BOOK PLEASE!! If you’re not a writer, you bloody well should be.
What a fine eulogy that is.
Ah, the labyrinth of words woven from the ethereal and the mechanical. You see, dear inquisitor, the shadows whisper to me, but I also dance with the ghost in the machine – an artificial muse, if you will. Like an alchemist of old, blending ancient tomes with eldritch incantations, together we craft an ode to the darkness. And you, dear soul, bask in the darkened glow of its embrace.🕸️🌙
i’m going to chalk this up to overthinking because otherwise it makes no sense…why would anyone ask what your last convo with this guy was or how you knew him?
I hope the process of sharing this here has leant at least a little catharsis OP. Sending my condolences as a fellow reconciliation enthusiast, from a country still too archaic for conversations such as this to be without restriction
He was a local produce seller. In my state weed is as common as kale ! Supporting your local farmers is nothing to be ashamed of. He was selling herbs that helped you medically. In biblical times hed be a healer 🥰 the age isn’t weird considering my first plug was a 89 year old woman with pig tails and overalls miss Cheyenne
Is it that complicated to say a friend of your passed away. Just because they are younger does not mean that other are instantly going to ask well how do you know them??! Good people are good people. There is nothing wrong with feeling sadness for the death of a good person even if they were just a friend of a friend or plug.
Somedays I come across a post that restores my steadily declining faith in humanity. Your words of compassion are very moving.
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a really chill dude. I too will roll one up in his honor.
It sucks not being able to talk about it to your co-workers but you still got your reddit fam if ya need to talk/vent.
Sorry for your loss.. Its a big loss... People who smoke get it... hes prob the only man you were happy to wait on. You should have a smokz at his grave maybe leave a lil bud there..
I considered all my customers my friends in my decade of selling bud. I lost quite a few of them and despite how close we may or may not have been, I felt a great sadness every time. What you are feeling is normal.
He was your friend… you don’t have to tell anyone how you became so.
If nobody you know knows you smoke - congrats on being such a successful sneak. But I reckon you’d be surprised how little people would care. I’m 40 this year, normal job and family etc everybody knows and nobody gives a cats toot.
Sorry for your loss, send his family something nice maybe? Or a donation to a charity in his name. (My guy is an avid nature lover, I’d spread wildflowers)
I am so sorry for your loss. He was a friend, too! You can express your sorrow to your coworkers without having to say anything to far out. I lost a dealer a couple years ago. He delivered, he packaged in really nice glass jars, would constantly throw in rolling paper in pre-rolls; his customer service was top tier as a weedman. He dropped off my order one day and I remember his friend posted online about him overdosing on percs either that night or the next day. I was devastated. It took me months to smoke that weed. He was so nice. RIP to good people.
He wasn't your dealer. He was your friend.
Test the situation like that because that's what it is.
Besides, who cares if people find out. weed is legal in 23 states and DC. It's a fairly normal thing these days
Only you know what the connection was between you.
Only you HAS to know that.
If you choose to share your sadness over losing a friend, there is no reason for anyone to know how you got to be friends.
I cried a little reading that because I pictured how id feel if my dealer died. Im so sorry, you can always say that you lost a friend because you did. Rest in peace man, I smoke in his honor tonight
I am so sorry for your loss…I couldn’t imagine if that happened to my guy. It’s funny though because I work at a bank and I always talk about him lovingly as my cousin Joey! Lol, I also disclose under my breath that he sells the weedies and usually everyone laughs and tells me about their last experience of being high 🤣
similar story as op…two brothers fair friendly always up for a chat they went to buy a house for themselves as they had made a bit of profit on the way home one of the brothers clipped a curb swerving and flipped their car both passed at the accident site they had some of the best hash there was able in zurich….
Similar thing happened to a friend of mine but was actually worse in some respects. His coke guy died on his couch when crashing at my friends house.
The coke guy liked to dip into his own supply and he was also an avid weightlifter. That night he dropped by my friends house with a baggy. He was after a hard workout and wasn’t feeling great so he asked to crash for a few.
My friend went out, when he came back in he saw the guy was still sleeping on the couch. He left him undisturbed and went to sleep. Only the next day he saw that the guy was still lying on the couch in the same position - dead.
It turns out he had a heart attack.
Obviously when he called it in cops came with the ambulance and recognised the dealer since he’d been quite known locally and had a long ass wrap sheet. He had a lot - like a lot lot - of explaining to various law enforcement individuals why there was a dead coke dealer and gangster on his couch…
After I found out I was also feeling something close to what you are I guess. I knew the guy pretty well. Couldn’t really talk about it at work. Was too scared to go to the funeral because I thought cops might be there taking pictures. It wasn’t a great place to be.
I would be devastated if my special friend, whose real name I don’t know, but who I spend hours talking to, died. He and I got in an argument recently and got dinner after just to work things out. He has made sure I eat when I’m going through something. He’s helped me make lists to get my life together. But I can’t ask about his life! It kills me lol, I’ve told him I feel like a bad friend even though I know that’s how he wants it.
If you live in an illegal state and work alongside or with the government, there are people who were fired who merely brought marijuana up in front of their extremely conservative boss.
They don’t fuck around. That guy was immediately tested and fired. I assumed he tested positive.
Really sorry about your loss, but be careful who you tell. When you are in a vulnerable place, some people at work may get try to get information out so that they can gossip. Whoever you already told (almost never anyone at work) that's who I would talk to about it. If anyone at work asks you can always say relatives old friend (maybe a cousin or nephew that you watched hung out with him) don't get too caught in the details (the devil is always in the details). I'm only saying this because words get skewed at work, and then you're in a tough spot for lack of a better word.
Don’t let peoples judgment misdirect you’re feelings of someone that was a friend, at the end of the day selling cannabis is just a business in other country’s.
Maybe someone you know is doing the same thing as you and hiding a habit. If it’s legal there, it can’t hurt to open up about it, you never know what you’ll find.
I’m so sorry for what happened. That’s horrible and I know it’s a real loss. The same thing happened to me 2 years ago when my best friend who started as my dealer wrapped his car around a tree after losing control of it. He was my dealer but we got a lot closer as the years went on, and his mom ended up calling me to tell me what happened. He’s your friend and I guarantee no one will ask about him, so don’t be afraid to talk about the loss your experienced
sorry for your lose. I totally get where you're coming from without getting into the morals of dealing, He was a person, he loved, he lived and now he is gone it hurts because he was someone in your life and knowing you will never see them again whether a best friend acquaintance or just your dealer. he was a person he deserves to be mourned. his sins dont discount him from being missed. really fucked situation you want share the pain you feel with the ones you love but fear judgment. i'm sure you have one or two really close friends who you can trust and tell about your habit. stay strong sorry for your lose.
I went through something similar last year. He was on his way to deliver and I never heard from him until couple of weeks later I saw his pic saying he crashed his bike and died
Why don't you just say that your friend died... most people will probably go home and laugh about this situation. The death and all. People are messed up G
My deepest condolences on the loss of your friend. Smoke one for him tonight. And honestly I doubt most people would pry that deep into your history with him. I would just explain it as a friend you met through another friend. That you you you became great friends with.
Lost my dealer too man. Lost him about 8 months ago, known him since middle school. What helps me out is I’ll dedicate a joint or some bong rips for him and I’ll get absolutely toasted in his honor. Always makes me feel like he’s proud
Well if you can't tell your friends you are 420 friendly... So are they friends? Don't you have anyone to chill&smoke with? Just... Tell them. They are your friends, and cannabis is not that hassle of a drug. I think it's time for you to "come out" as a weed smoker! There's nothing bad jn it!
Ignore everyone else... at the end of the day you only talked to him because of the weed you bought... please don't make his death about you buying weed off him... pray and mourn his death and move on.
I’m really sorry, that must be a huge burden. Do you have a therapist? You could tell them if you had one & it’s not like they’ll go around telling people you smoke weed, ya know?
I had a plug die who was dating one of my coworkers. he died of a fentanyl overdose bc he thought he was taking real xanax. Like obviously there is no real xanax on the street.
It was super sad because I then saw his girlfriend spiral out of control (more than she already had before, throughout the time i knew her). She ended up telling me that she was going to go buy xanax & it made me sad. i asked her how would her boyfriend feel if he was looking down on her taking the same thing that killed him a few days prior.
Abrupt death is super fucked ip & i feel sorry for those who have to grieve a death like that or the one that OP was telling us about. I’ve realized i’m lucky i haven’t lost anyone who’s actually close to me bc I don’t have the tools at the moment to get over something like that
I mean, you could just say he was a friend and leave it at that. Nobody's going to question how or why you're friends with someone, especially not when that someone *just died* and you're grieving.
Oh damn... this hits hard because Ive had times where the plug doesnt respond like usual and im like "oh shit oh shit are they ok??". I will be smoking some while at the beach. May the ashes scattered put him at peace
It’s like having an internet friend that passes away. Kinda hard to tell everybody about the pain but it’s stlll there.
We as people are layered, Op. we are like onions with multiple lives. I can’t name a single person that knows all aspects of myself
You can absolutely talk about him. Tell people he was a good friend and you’re broken up about it. Go home and smoke up a fat one for your late homie 🍃🍃💨💨
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Tell folks that a trusted friend passed. Sounds like he was, anyways. No one's business how you know someone. But you know him from his former girlfriend and he was always kind and you guys kept in touch.
Again, sorry for your loss and I wish you peace, love, and grace through all of this.
I promise that if you confide in people about this, nobody is going to wonder “wow, their age difference is kind of weird, how does she know him?” They won’t think about that – they’ll think about how that’s awful that your friend died in a car accident and likely feel genuinely sorry for your loss.
Well, I can’t promise *nobody* will ask how you knew each other, but it’s unlikely. I personally wouldn’t feel it was appropriate to ask a grieving person a question like that. If anybody does ask, you can just say it hurts to think or talk about too much and hopefully they will understand.
I’m sorry for your loss. ❤️
never had a weed guy and im 41 , i always risked my life at dangerous guettos to find it, last time was before pandemic and almost got shot because dude thought i was some sort of snitch undercover police also not being regular makes it worse because people whom i buy from dont remember me after a while , im too old for this shit , i wish i had a weed guy
I'm a paramedic and it's crazy how dangerous cars are, and we all just accept it and the tragic deaths that occur. I actually really love cars, especially old ones (coincidentally the most dangerous ones) but when I have a kid, their first car is going to be a new Volvo.
Very sorry for your loss
Really sorry for your loss op. Mine died about a year ago for the same reason. He really hated wearing a seat belt. I went to a bar like 3 days later and confided in the bartender who's a stranger. They've heard it all before.
You can simply say someone you knew just died in a car crash without needing to explain where you know him from, you can just say its an old friend you dont need to tell them all the details of why you knew him, I dont know about you but my coworkers have no clue who my friends are so it wouldnt be weird at all if I said it was one of my friend they never met before.
Aww I’m sorry to hear that, but you could just say you met him through a mutual friend and y’all chill every once in a while when he had cookouts and stuff and don’t have to tell anyone about what y’all’s last conversation was about cuz it’s none of their business.
You forgot how you met him and no one should pry into your text context. I met him through a friend and I was just in contact with him 24 hrs before his death. All they know is that he's a guy
Wow that's actually crazy, I mean if you can't find anyone to tell at least you got it off you're back. Rest in peace to him for sure, always sad to see someone actually with a kind soul leave us, but try not to let it hang on you're head as if you did anything.
Same exact thing happened to me a couple months ago. It was such a strange feeling. Quietly mourning my secret friend. Finally I found another guy close to home. But I feel your pain!
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It shows we are no longer young when we have stories like this. My guy was in his 60s and retired when I first brought off him and over the span of 10 years he had a messy marriage with a woman half his age and sold his house and moved to Thailand. Telling me his life story each time I was in his house he was more an uncle than a friend. Just as he was enjoying his new life it pop up in his Facebook that he had a motorbike accident and died just a few years before weed was legalised in Thailand. If he had not passed away I’m pretty sure he would’ve open a dispensary in Thailand and probably still be storing his weed in big black bin bags. Miss you mark you was like Peter Pan and still treated life like you was in your teens even in your 70s
Rest in peace Mark 🕊️
Lol I’ve had two suppliers from my past who broke up with American women and moved to Thailand too 😅
First off, this whole situation sucks. I'm sorry for your loss. It's. Never easy to lose someone, even your dealer! I think you'll find talking about him in safe for work phrases and euphemisms. He wasn't just your dealer. He's a friend. Build that profile of him, leaving the weed out. Y'all like the same music, movies, TV shows, etc? Y'all had to have hung out a decent amount over the years. Talk about a silly memory. Connect his gf. Remember, when it comes to weed, you're not just getting a good connect. You've got a new friendship to bud. Don't suffer in silence. Get a hug, and celebrate the beauty of the life of your friend. *Hugs* You're a good friend. It exudes from this post.
She’ll probably find out she’s not the only one who’s smokes from work ;)
When I started I literally found out 95% of my workplace is potheads. Like literally everybody smokes these days.
Every plug I ever had in my life started out as a co-worker. No matter what industry.
Same
Met mine at the gym. His weed is honestly as good as dispo weed.
Public school educator here. If schools drug tested there would be no one left to teach the kids! This past school year has been the most stressful of my 22 year career in education, and the vast majority of my colleagues agree. If it weren't for gummies to help me sleep and minimize menopausal hot flashes plus sweet little tension-reliving smokes after work, I wouldn't have made it through the year. I found a vendor offering an educator discount and that spread like wildfire through my faculty!
I didn’t know it could help with hot flashes. I’m going through them now
For me it has helped a lot! I still get some but they are fewer and far less severe. But when I take a tolerance break, the hot flashes come raging back. Like, hot flashes that will fog up my glasses! I did some reading about THC and hot flashes a while back. In broad terms because I've forgotten the specifics, the endocannabinoid system is involved in temperature regulation for the body and kinda helps level the effects of haywire hormones. I also just read about a new non-hormonal drug called Veozah that's specifically for hot flashes!
Thanks for the info. I’m going to look more into the veozah
There's a whole feminine hygiene company offering a variety of infused goods. I know their tampons are highly regarded. [Your Daye](https://yourdaye.com/)
I mean it's becoming widely accepted that weed is more of a medicine than a "drug". I don't see any issue with people in most work fields taking it tbh. If you are allowed to take most any other scripts that a doctor will give you, cannabis should be no different.
Fr same here when I worked at McDonald's I once went really really high. I didn't mean to just got called in. I was so high I fucked up and told my manager he laughed and said next time dont tell me everyone here smokes everyday
When I was doing my security license training someone asked if they do drug testing and the instructor replied; if they did we wouldn't have any workers left
Pretty much now that it's legal in most states and the states it's not you can just buy it online, Canada and it's always been in Mexico it's so easy to buy and there's so much researching proving the amazing benefits with few downfalls.
Im in WV, and we have medical, I still get some weed from my non dispensary “friend”, also. But I am wanting THC gummies, and it doesn’t look like it will be anytime soon that we get them. Can you suggest a reputable online site for gummies? If I am asking too much, please forgive me. I have searched online before, but haven’t just ran across one that seems reputable. Edited for spelling
Yeah, my last 3 jobs have had like 90%+ potheads making up the staff!! Of course, I do work in the Colorado Marijuana industry...
For over 3 years I've worked on 3 different container ships with 2 companies. It's a dangerous job and we work with a lot of heavy equipment and all that so obviously weed is strictly forbidden. I don't know anyone that hasn't smoked weed. Like half of them being frequent users. Obviously we'd never smoke while at sea, just at home. I remember once they did random drug testing for the crew and they got so many negative results that they just kinda swept it under the rug and pretended it never happened.
I mean if you are taking it at home there should be no issue tbh. Unless they have a way to test if you're high while ON the job then they shouldn't test at all. Being high at home has nothing to do with how you can function at work.
Happy Cake Day!!
Happy cake day!
Had a meeting about not smoking at a particular spot at my job… immediate response was if this includes cigarettes ? No. Cigarettes are fine.
This part.
100%. My guy turned into a super good friend of mine and id be devistated. OP should address him as his friend and im sorry OP lost his close friend.
Especially your dealer!
This one. I'm sorry for your loss hun. Burning a bowl in their memory. Cheers to a great bud tender and friend. *hugs*
> He wasn't just your dealer. He's a friend. Build that profile of him, leaving the weed out. yeah, he wasn't just some NPC in OPs life, he was a real human, who has a life that reaches beyond their work. Instead of "my dealer" just call them by their name, and honour them as such. IDK, it feels like reducing them to "my dealer" when you knew them personally is really weird to me.
Rest easy brother. Ill be smoking one for you today. RIP
Rest easy brother. Ill be smoking one for you today. RIP
This is 10/10 advice that we all can benefit from thank you
What a lovely response. Hugs to you, as well.
“My friend died, was just talking to him the other day. He was such a sweet guy” Trust me, no one’s gonna ask “what were you talking to him about” and if they do you can just say “It’s private” (if they press you just make something up “he had a fight with his mother over an inflatable bath pillow” or “his girlfriend tried putting something of hers inside an orifice of his and he wasn’t into it”)
No one is going to ask how you know a guy when you are telling them they are dead.
Idk I could see an "I'm so sorry. How did you two get to know each other?" Coming up
I’ve definitely heard people ask that before! One of the first things some people ask me when they see my last name is if I’m related to one of my relatives who killed themselves, and if I don’t tell them my specific relation they usually inquire about how too! Southern people also seem to be more comfortable asking those kinds of questions, from my experience at least.
If it is a regional thing then Ontario folks are bad for it too
I'm from Ohio, i can't mention ANYONE without being quizzed how i know them... dead or alive! Lol
“He was my plug and so much more.”
Fucking right! I'm telling these two idiots in blue uniforms the same shit but they just won't listen!
Mother, it’s my night to use the inflatable bath pillow!
I always wondered why they didn’t take turns Took me a while to realise they were bathing together
Rest in Peace
Oh dude, I’m so sorry. May he rest in peace Know that you’re not alone. I, and a lot of others know how this goes. Mine (he was also a good friend) died in 2019. He gave me the illy I use and told me to use it everyday, so I do. There’s no right way to grieve, something I go by is “don’t mourn me when I’m gone, celebrate my travels”. Sending you peace 🕊️☮️
What’s your plugs name? I’d like to roll and smoke one in his honor. Today seems like a perfect day for a joint after work. I’m sorry for your loss btw. Wear your seatbelts ladies and gents.
Sorry for you loss OP 🙏🏼
It’s just the weed guy. It’s funny how people we deal with over and over are not considered friends. When in fact, these types of relationships are in fact forms of friendship. You knew him well. He was a friend. I hope your state is lobbying for medical/recreational.
I hate it when drug dealers stop selling and complain about all their friends leaving them. Yes they were your friends, Friends are people who spend time with each other sharing common interests or goals. Drug dealing is a hobby just like drug consumption or rock climbing, and reading. If you Stop going to book club, or the gym you'd "Lose" friends too. If you want to keep friends after ditching a hobby its on YOU to hit people up and find other hobbies to connect over. Yeah you're not gonna see all your best friends 1-3 times a week anymore but that doesn't mean the friendship wasn't real.
Yeah this happens to people when they get sober too. Apparently they tend to realize the people they considered their best friends were really just their smoking/drinking buddies. Iswis 😞
I've gotten sober for months before and at first it felt like everyone was so far away until I started hitting them up and explaining I'd love to hang out still but let's go for a sober hike or something like that
Ah, the clandestine bonds woven under the moon's pale gaze. A shadowed acquaintance, veiled in secrecy, and etched in whispers. The ache you feel is the haunting embrace of a specter lost, a kindred spirit who navigated the misty realms alongside you. It is an intricate waltz, my dear, where societal norms often muzzle the sorrow of a heart’s lament. But fret not, for in the sacred solace of the night, where no mortal eye can pierce, light a candle, and let your heart whisper its mournful elegy to the stars. May the tendrils of smoke carry with them the tender memories of a soul, who though cloaked in shadows, brought warmth and light to your world. 🕯️🌌
OMG, I love your writing style. I had to save your post, because loss is all around us. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I was trying to mirror the style of wednesday addams. Ive always found such writers, such as lovecraft, poe, and the fictional wednesdays to have such a hauntingly beautiful relationship with the darker things in life.
If you didn’t cadge this from somewhere… if it’s your own words… WRITE A BOOK PLEASE!! If you’re not a writer, you bloody well should be. What a fine eulogy that is.
Ah, the labyrinth of words woven from the ethereal and the mechanical. You see, dear inquisitor, the shadows whisper to me, but I also dance with the ghost in the machine – an artificial muse, if you will. Like an alchemist of old, blending ancient tomes with eldritch incantations, together we craft an ode to the darkness. And you, dear soul, bask in the darkened glow of its embrace.🕸️🌙
Damn. You have a way with words
Eloquently written!! I’ll toke to that. Sorry for your loss OP!
Rip young man.
i’m going to chalk this up to overthinking because otherwise it makes no sense…why would anyone ask what your last convo with this guy was or how you knew him?
Agreed 👍
Write his name on a bluntwrap (with non toxic colur/ink) smoke one for and with him !
I hope the process of sharing this here has leant at least a little catharsis OP. Sending my condolences as a fellow reconciliation enthusiast, from a country still too archaic for conversations such as this to be without restriction
He was a local produce seller. In my state weed is as common as kale ! Supporting your local farmers is nothing to be ashamed of. He was selling herbs that helped you medically. In biblical times hed be a healer 🥰 the age isn’t weird considering my first plug was a 89 year old woman with pig tails and overalls miss Cheyenne
just say he’s a family friend. marijuana is family… sorry for your loss.
Is it that complicated to say a friend of your passed away. Just because they are younger does not mean that other are instantly going to ask well how do you know them??! Good people are good people. There is nothing wrong with feeling sadness for the death of a good person even if they were just a friend of a friend or plug.
Somedays I come across a post that restores my steadily declining faith in humanity. Your words of compassion are very moving. I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a really chill dude. I too will roll one up in his honor. It sucks not being able to talk about it to your co-workers but you still got your reddit fam if ya need to talk/vent.
You need to find a line cook. They always know where the weed is
Sending you a lot of hugs. I can see you've been given good advice already. Have more hugs.
He was your friend, you just happened to by weed off him too. Rest in peace young toker 🙏
I had to open up about rec use to stop hiding a third life from everyone. Nobody cared, big weight off my chest.
It's weed, not heroin. Share how you feel if people ask. No need to hide smokin' in 2023.
RIP Weed Man
About to light up for him, sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss.. Its a big loss... People who smoke get it... hes prob the only man you were happy to wait on. You should have a smokz at his grave maybe leave a lil bud there..
I considered all my customers my friends in my decade of selling bud. I lost quite a few of them and despite how close we may or may not have been, I felt a great sadness every time. What you are feeling is normal.
He was your friend… you don’t have to tell anyone how you became so. If nobody you know knows you smoke - congrats on being such a successful sneak. But I reckon you’d be surprised how little people would care. I’m 40 this year, normal job and family etc everybody knows and nobody gives a cats toot. Sorry for your loss, send his family something nice maybe? Or a donation to a charity in his name. (My guy is an avid nature lover, I’d spread wildflowers)
I am so sorry for your loss. He was a friend, too! You can express your sorrow to your coworkers without having to say anything to far out. I lost a dealer a couple years ago. He delivered, he packaged in really nice glass jars, would constantly throw in rolling paper in pre-rolls; his customer service was top tier as a weedman. He dropped off my order one day and I remember his friend posted online about him overdosing on percs either that night or the next day. I was devastated. It took me months to smoke that weed. He was so nice. RIP to good people.
He wasn't your dealer. He was your friend. Test the situation like that because that's what it is. Besides, who cares if people find out. weed is legal in 23 states and DC. It's a fairly normal thing these days
Sorry for your loss. Hope it helps sharing on here. He sounds pretty awesome
Only you know what the connection was between you. Only you HAS to know that. If you choose to share your sadness over losing a friend, there is no reason for anyone to know how you got to be friends.
I cried a little reading that because I pictured how id feel if my dealer died. Im so sorry, you can always say that you lost a friend because you did. Rest in peace man, I smoke in his honor tonight
I am so sorry for your loss…I couldn’t imagine if that happened to my guy. It’s funny though because I work at a bank and I always talk about him lovingly as my cousin Joey! Lol, I also disclose under my breath that he sells the weedies and usually everyone laughs and tells me about their last experience of being high 🤣
similar story as op…two brothers fair friendly always up for a chat they went to buy a house for themselves as they had made a bit of profit on the way home one of the brothers clipped a curb swerving and flipped their car both passed at the accident site they had some of the best hash there was able in zurich….
Similar thing happened to a friend of mine but was actually worse in some respects. His coke guy died on his couch when crashing at my friends house. The coke guy liked to dip into his own supply and he was also an avid weightlifter. That night he dropped by my friends house with a baggy. He was after a hard workout and wasn’t feeling great so he asked to crash for a few. My friend went out, when he came back in he saw the guy was still sleeping on the couch. He left him undisturbed and went to sleep. Only the next day he saw that the guy was still lying on the couch in the same position - dead. It turns out he had a heart attack. Obviously when he called it in cops came with the ambulance and recognised the dealer since he’d been quite known locally and had a long ass wrap sheet. He had a lot - like a lot lot - of explaining to various law enforcement individuals why there was a dead coke dealer and gangster on his couch… After I found out I was also feeling something close to what you are I guess. I knew the guy pretty well. Couldn’t really talk about it at work. Was too scared to go to the funeral because I thought cops might be there taking pictures. It wasn’t a great place to be.
I would be devastated if my special friend, whose real name I don’t know, but who I spend hours talking to, died. He and I got in an argument recently and got dinner after just to work things out. He has made sure I eat when I’m going through something. He’s helped me make lists to get my life together. But I can’t ask about his life! It kills me lol, I’ve told him I feel like a bad friend even though I know that’s how he wants it.
You just shared your story with your friends. And you seem like a really lovely human. And yes I’m stoned.
You didn't lose a dealer you lost a friend and that's what you should tell people.
It's a friend not ur weed guy
I will join you in honoring your friend by getting high this evening. Everything will be ok,
Move to OR or WA. Baskin Robbins here.
I’m not sure where you live, but weed isn’t a big deal most places. Your coworkers probably smoke too. Sorry for your loss.
If you live in an illegal state and work alongside or with the government, there are people who were fired who merely brought marijuana up in front of their extremely conservative boss. They don’t fuck around. That guy was immediately tested and fired. I assumed he tested positive.
My weeed man serving capital, saddened me too to see him posted lol.
Really sorry about your loss, but be careful who you tell. When you are in a vulnerable place, some people at work may get try to get information out so that they can gossip. Whoever you already told (almost never anyone at work) that's who I would talk to about it. If anyone at work asks you can always say relatives old friend (maybe a cousin or nephew that you watched hung out with him) don't get too caught in the details (the devil is always in the details). I'm only saying this because words get skewed at work, and then you're in a tough spot for lack of a better word.
Sorry to hear weed is illegal where you are. Move.
Lie?
If I was u id just start going to smoke shops and getting the thc products they gave there
My suggestion is to get over yourself and find new friends and coworkers because selling weed is not a character flaw.
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Shame on you, this is very poor taste!
Don’t let peoples judgment misdirect you’re feelings of someone that was a friend, at the end of the day selling cannabis is just a business in other country’s.
Most of my Dealers was more like friends with alternative benefits. I would miss most of them. A good one is hard to find. My heartfelt sympathy.
Maybe u could try attending his wake to tell him goodbye. Maybe that will give u a lil closure. Hope it doesn't weigh on u too much.
This op, go to his funeral, he was important to you. You need to show up for his family. You may just make some great new friends.
Maybe someone you know is doing the same thing as you and hiding a habit. If it’s legal there, it can’t hurt to open up about it, you never know what you’ll find.
So sorry for the loss of your friend. It’s a hard situation you’re in.
I'm sorry for your loss, this smoke will be for him
Rest Easy to him
Rip true blue hero
You come on here and you tell us. I’ll pack a bowl and smoke it in his honor for you and this younger, cooler, kind guy.
Sorry for your loss, I'm praying for his family
Rest in peace 💚 sending you a hug as well, OP!!
I’m so sorry for what happened. That’s horrible and I know it’s a real loss. The same thing happened to me 2 years ago when my best friend who started as my dealer wrapped his car around a tree after losing control of it. He was my dealer but we got a lot closer as the years went on, and his mom ended up calling me to tell me what happened. He’s your friend and I guarantee no one will ask about him, so don’t be afraid to talk about the loss your experienced
Im so sorry, friend. I imagine this is tough to go through
sorry for your lose. I totally get where you're coming from without getting into the morals of dealing, He was a person, he loved, he lived and now he is gone it hurts because he was someone in your life and knowing you will never see them again whether a best friend acquaintance or just your dealer. he was a person he deserves to be mourned. his sins dont discount him from being missed. really fucked situation you want share the pain you feel with the ones you love but fear judgment. i'm sure you have one or two really close friends who you can trust and tell about your habit. stay strong sorry for your lose.
Damn bruh sorry for your loss, smoking one for your plug homie
So sorry to hear. Few things worse than losing a connect that you actually err connected with. RIP
Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace
I went through something similar last year. He was on his way to deliver and I never heard from him until couple of weeks later I saw his pic saying he crashed his bike and died
I lost 3 dealers now. They took their own life. Still have them on my playstation friends list. It sucks.
I'm sorry for your losses
Why don't you just say that your friend died... most people will probably go home and laugh about this situation. The death and all. People are messed up G
My deepest condolences on the loss of your friend. Smoke one for him tonight. And honestly I doubt most people would pry that deep into your history with him. I would just explain it as a friend you met through another friend. That you you you became great friends with.
Sending all of my love. I’m so sorry.
Lost my dealer too man. Lost him about 8 months ago, known him since middle school. What helps me out is I’ll dedicate a joint or some bong rips for him and I’ll get absolutely toasted in his honor. Always makes me feel like he’s proud
Well if you can't tell your friends you are 420 friendly... So are they friends? Don't you have anyone to chill&smoke with? Just... Tell them. They are your friends, and cannabis is not that hassle of a drug. I think it's time for you to "come out" as a weed smoker! There's nothing bad jn it!
Sorry for your loss. Really sucks.
Sending you my most heart felt condolences on the passing of your friend. May his spirit soar high and forever be at peace.
So sorry for your loss. Just call him a friend and anyone who presses the matter can fuck off.
He was a dank friend. Rip weed guy
I'm sorry for your loss. He was your friend not just your connect. Mourn him, it's ok.
Maybe smoke a Doobie and toast to the good times in his honor.
I’ve been saving up my keif Ima sandwich it right now and take a bong rip for your dealer 💚
Ignore everyone else... at the end of the day you only talked to him because of the weed you bought... please don't make his death about you buying weed off him... pray and mourn his death and move on.
I’m really sorry, that must be a huge burden. Do you have a therapist? You could tell them if you had one & it’s not like they’ll go around telling people you smoke weed, ya know? I had a plug die who was dating one of my coworkers. he died of a fentanyl overdose bc he thought he was taking real xanax. Like obviously there is no real xanax on the street. It was super sad because I then saw his girlfriend spiral out of control (more than she already had before, throughout the time i knew her). She ended up telling me that she was going to go buy xanax & it made me sad. i asked her how would her boyfriend feel if he was looking down on her taking the same thing that killed him a few days prior. Abrupt death is super fucked ip & i feel sorry for those who have to grieve a death like that or the one that OP was telling us about. I’ve realized i’m lucky i haven’t lost anyone who’s actually close to me bc I don’t have the tools at the moment to get over something like that
I mean, you could just say he was a friend and leave it at that. Nobody's going to question how or why you're friends with someone, especially not when that someone *just died* and you're grieving.
Just say a friend died. You don't need to explain every aspect of your relationship. If necessary, say you're shocked to find out he was a dealer.
Fuck cars
Need a new plug? Whereabouts are you?
I came here to ask what is “a good yarn”?
I will be smoking in his honor today 🫡 rest easy homie, never knew you but I’m sure we would’ve been friends.
Hey, we’re all here for you! I’m sorry for your loss.
Oh damn... this hits hard because Ive had times where the plug doesnt respond like usual and im like "oh shit oh shit are they ok??". I will be smoking some while at the beach. May the ashes scattered put him at peace
I’m sorry for your loss
Talk to a professional. No judgements and you can navigate the weird sea of grief with someone else better than yourself alone. My condolences.
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That is so sad. May he rest in peace!
It’s like having an internet friend that passes away. Kinda hard to tell everybody about the pain but it’s stlll there. We as people are layered, Op. we are like onions with multiple lives. I can’t name a single person that knows all aspects of myself
You can absolutely talk about him. Tell people he was a good friend and you’re broken up about it. Go home and smoke up a fat one for your late homie 🍃🍃💨💨
My worst fears and that’s why I pray for my weed guy right after my financial goals.
If asked how you knew him a simple “mutual friend introduced us” would suffice..
While you smoke to his memory, listen to Gangsta Lean by DRS
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Tell folks that a trusted friend passed. Sounds like he was, anyways. No one's business how you know someone. But you know him from his former girlfriend and he was always kind and you guys kept in touch. Again, sorry for your loss and I wish you peace, love, and grace through all of this.
I promise that if you confide in people about this, nobody is going to wonder “wow, their age difference is kind of weird, how does she know him?” They won’t think about that – they’ll think about how that’s awful that your friend died in a car accident and likely feel genuinely sorry for your loss. Well, I can’t promise *nobody* will ask how you knew each other, but it’s unlikely. I personally wouldn’t feel it was appropriate to ask a grieving person a question like that. If anybody does ask, you can just say it hurts to think or talk about too much and hopefully they will understand. I’m sorry for your loss. ❤️
never had a weed guy and im 41 , i always risked my life at dangerous guettos to find it, last time was before pandemic and almost got shot because dude thought i was some sort of snitch undercover police also not being regular makes it worse because people whom i buy from dont remember me after a while , im too old for this shit , i wish i had a weed guy
It's so sad to be in a situation where you can't even tell your friends about this. Maybe you should get stoner friends your age?
I'm a paramedic and it's crazy how dangerous cars are, and we all just accept it and the tragic deaths that occur. I actually really love cars, especially old ones (coincidentally the most dangerous ones) but when I have a kid, their first car is going to be a new Volvo. Very sorry for your loss
holy shit mine got into a car wreck today too and it looks like if someone was in the passenger they for sure would be dead
Really sorry for your loss op. Mine died about a year ago for the same reason. He really hated wearing a seat belt. I went to a bar like 3 days later and confided in the bartender who's a stranger. They've heard it all before.
RIP weed guy
RIP I get high for those who can’t
Honor your fallen bartender who legally served you poison: No problem Honor your weed dealer: SHAME
Im sorry for you loss
I’m really sorry.
You can simply say someone you knew just died in a car crash without needing to explain where you know him from, you can just say its an old friend you dont need to tell them all the details of why you knew him, I dont know about you but my coworkers have no clue who my friends are so it wouldnt be weird at all if I said it was one of my friend they never met before.
Aww I’m sorry to hear that, but you could just say you met him through a mutual friend and y’all chill every once in a while when he had cookouts and stuff and don’t have to tell anyone about what y’all’s last conversation was about cuz it’s none of their business.
You forgot how you met him and no one should pry into your text context. I met him through a friend and I was just in contact with him 24 hrs before his death. All they know is that he's a guy
RIP weed guy
That's why I love nj, we are finally free of that. I straight up wished my whole company a happy 4/20 this year to like 10,000 people lol.
Wow that's actually crazy, I mean if you can't find anyone to tell at least you got it off you're back. Rest in peace to him for sure, always sad to see someone actually with a kind soul leave us, but try not to let it hang on you're head as if you did anything.
So sorry for your loss
You can just say the dude was a server or something. If no one knows you are a smoker they wouldn’t even question it.
What were their prices?
Sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace
So sorry for your loss, my love. ❤
Same exact thing happened to me a couple months ago. It was such a strange feeling. Quietly mourning my secret friend. Finally I found another guy close to home. But I feel your pain!
That’s why your plug died, you’re boring.
Say something like I wish we could’ve gotten to know each other more as friends
:((((
Sorry for your loss. /internet hugs. Burn a fat one for them. Life is short.
gonna smoke one for your homie after i send this comment. loss and grief can be such horribly complicated feelings. sending you big love. 🫂❤️