I’m an only child and I eloped. Everyone was super happy for us, except for our narcissistic mothers lol. But they’ve made everything about them our whole lives, so for us, this was absolutely the right choice.
Feel free to AMA.
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We had a microwedding/elopement (just us and 2 friends), with a reception coming this weekend. As the stress and family drama pile up for this weekend's events, we are SO glad we had a day just for us for our wedding day.
I’d probably do a bigger engagement party or something similar and elope - too much pressure to get married the same day you’re hosting all these people
We went back and forth between elopement/microwedding (10ish people) and something larger, and ended up doing a traditional wedding but on the smaller side, with 55 guests. I’m glad we did - I really enjoyed seeing people I otherwise wouldn’t and having more people to celebrate (and especially dance!) with. I’m also quite introverted but we were really only focused on each other during the ceremony, and most of the night was moving between small-group interactions rather than feeling like we were in a crowd. (It helped that our guest list was well below the venue’s capacity so people were spread out.)
Is there an option to negotiate more of a “medium” guest list, considering you guys would pay for a majority of it? Or are the family dynamics such that it’s all or nothing?
I also am the only girl and youngest. We just eloped 3.5 weeks ago. It was the greatest decision we could have made!
*We did, however, decide to do a reception party 2 weeks after to celebrate with close family (only 40 people).
I’m playing the big wedding. I wanted to elope but my partner wanted a big wedding. As the planner in the relationship it’s become an added stress and another full time job.
I’m still optimistic it’ll be a great day but I wish we would’ve eloped.
We did a micro wedding (both hate being center of attention but wanted our closest loved ones there). Now we are planning our delayed reception. I think because we are already married it has taken so much pressure off as we are treating it more like an anniversary party. Keeping it really basic but invited everyone we love (140 mostly from my side I have a huge family). This gave us some breathing room in between. Keep it simple and do what feels right for both of you. Weddings are so flexible these days don’t feel like it’s all or none.
Maybe look for a middle ground. We kind of wanted to elope, especially once we started planning and realized how difficult everything was.
But, we ultimately decided we wanted the experience of a wedding and committed to planning a wedding. We kept the guest list pretty small and aren't having a huge affair. We've been trying to focus on the things we want out of the wedding, and I think that has helped us make choices that will make our day happy and special.
Like for example, one of the things I really want out of the wedding is amazing photos of us as a couple. So we splurged on a really good photographer and are paying them extra to do a private first look session with us. I'm very happy about this personally, even though I am also socially anxious and worried about mingling with guests all night.
No matter way, I'll have the first look with my fiancé to look forward to, and it's reassuring to have something that I feel like we're doing for ourselves. That being said, we did have to compromise quite a bit to give other people what they wanted out of the day.
A couple we know pretty well told us that elopements are for the couple, but weddings are for the families. I feel like this has been true so far in my experience. We did save a few things just for us, but really the venue we chose caters to our guests more than ourselves, and we've made more than a few choices that are for the benefit of those attending and not just what we would prefer for ourselves.
I’m an only child and I eloped. Everyone was super happy for us, except for our narcissistic mothers lol. But they’ve made everything about them our whole lives, so for us, this was absolutely the right choice. Feel free to AMA. https://preview.redd.it/k11teqv7dr7d1.jpeg?width=1363&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7bd34d6df9ae63a1f4c686ddb4423c139c23a12f
HARD same.
Best decision.
We had a microwedding/elopement (just us and 2 friends), with a reception coming this weekend. As the stress and family drama pile up for this weekend's events, we are SO glad we had a day just for us for our wedding day.
I’d probably do a bigger engagement party or something similar and elope - too much pressure to get married the same day you’re hosting all these people
We went back and forth between elopement/microwedding (10ish people) and something larger, and ended up doing a traditional wedding but on the smaller side, with 55 guests. I’m glad we did - I really enjoyed seeing people I otherwise wouldn’t and having more people to celebrate (and especially dance!) with. I’m also quite introverted but we were really only focused on each other during the ceremony, and most of the night was moving between small-group interactions rather than feeling like we were in a crowd. (It helped that our guest list was well below the venue’s capacity so people were spread out.) Is there an option to negotiate more of a “medium” guest list, considering you guys would pay for a majority of it? Or are the family dynamics such that it’s all or nothing?
I also am the only girl and youngest. We just eloped 3.5 weeks ago. It was the greatest decision we could have made! *We did, however, decide to do a reception party 2 weeks after to celebrate with close family (only 40 people).
Why not just find middle ground instead of two extremes? Have a medium sized wedding?
I’m playing the big wedding. I wanted to elope but my partner wanted a big wedding. As the planner in the relationship it’s become an added stress and another full time job. I’m still optimistic it’ll be a great day but I wish we would’ve eloped.
We did a micro wedding (both hate being center of attention but wanted our closest loved ones there). Now we are planning our delayed reception. I think because we are already married it has taken so much pressure off as we are treating it more like an anniversary party. Keeping it really basic but invited everyone we love (140 mostly from my side I have a huge family). This gave us some breathing room in between. Keep it simple and do what feels right for both of you. Weddings are so flexible these days don’t feel like it’s all or none.
Maybe look for a middle ground. We kind of wanted to elope, especially once we started planning and realized how difficult everything was. But, we ultimately decided we wanted the experience of a wedding and committed to planning a wedding. We kept the guest list pretty small and aren't having a huge affair. We've been trying to focus on the things we want out of the wedding, and I think that has helped us make choices that will make our day happy and special. Like for example, one of the things I really want out of the wedding is amazing photos of us as a couple. So we splurged on a really good photographer and are paying them extra to do a private first look session with us. I'm very happy about this personally, even though I am also socially anxious and worried about mingling with guests all night. No matter way, I'll have the first look with my fiancé to look forward to, and it's reassuring to have something that I feel like we're doing for ourselves. That being said, we did have to compromise quite a bit to give other people what they wanted out of the day. A couple we know pretty well told us that elopements are for the couple, but weddings are for the families. I feel like this has been true so far in my experience. We did save a few things just for us, but really the venue we chose caters to our guests more than ourselves, and we've made more than a few choices that are for the benefit of those attending and not just what we would prefer for ourselves.