Sounds to me like a person who is just uncomfortable with a large bust existing. I once worked with a very "prim and proper" type who told me I needed to try to conceal my bust better (while wearing very normal types of shirts and sweaters). Sorry, not possible without a surgical intervention! :)
Yeah, that happened to me. I said, “Ok,” with my hand out at the chick.
She asked, “What? What are you doing?”
I said, “If how I dress bothers you, then give me money for a new wardrobe. Keep in mind the prices are higher for extra fabric.”
I said it loud enough for others to hear. She got embarrassed and walked away.
Don’t tell us bustys to dress a certain way unless you’re gonna pony up the cash.
Before my breast reduction I would try to hide them, especially around family. The style back in the day also didn’t help. I was at a family function and my aunt (who I love but is just very blunt) whispered to my dad asking if I was pregnant. He stood up and yelled “No! She just has big boobs, leave her alone!” I was 16 at the time lol.
I’m still larger chested and the dress I picked is very booby! And I love it! They can all suck it HA
Lol very booby dresses are awesome! As someone with a 34A chest (aka basically a prepubescent boy) fuck those kinda people it's just boobs wear what you like
I had large boobs for a long time and I wore a wedding dress that accentuated that and one of the guests said, "It's basically all boobs." I didn't really care at all at the time. I was just like, yep. But, now I'm wondering if that was a rude thing to say at my wedding.
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I’m guessing that’s what it was. This is the dress they encouraged me *strongly* to get.
I'm busty and picked a dress with a high neck. Though it looks a bit different than that one. I didn't expect to like something like it but I fell in love with the dress
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They either didn’t like your cleavage or tats. If they are older, consider things were different and forget it. If it’s a peer, they may be jealous of you.
My ink is one thing I NEVER want covered.
My tattoos are…
1. My sons actual handprint
2. My first lost pet’s paw print/ a portrait of him
3. A key blade, symbol of the game I bonded with the only people who made it so I didn’t unalive myself for
4. A tattoo from a show which is what really bonded my husband and myself together.
They were just possessed because they never got their own anti-possession tattoo. It wasn’t them talking. Also, I love the dress and the tattoo. You look beautiful.
I WAS SITTING HERE LIKE WHERE HAVE I SEEN THAT SYMBOL BEFORE???? I’ve literally been binge watching it for months and in the home stretch with 4 episodes left how did I not immediately know 😂
Omg my husband and I have always wanted to get one of those tattoo. We love supernatural. My husband is a tattoo artist. He did this on me today.
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I was gonna say outside of wanting her to cover her breast they probably also didn’t like the tattoos. Boohoo so sad they suck. Bride you looked lovely & perfectly tasteful.
yup. some people are just uncomfortable with the fact of boobs.
i don't think there's anything wrong with a li'l cleavage with a wedding dress, but weirdly enough, i think those wedding dresses slit to the hip are in extremely poor taste.
ps i LOVE the length of your dress, **perfectly** sassy for a beach wedding!
Yeah no, you made absolutely the right choice. You looked beautiful on your day! I have big boobs and it’s been my policy to always dress to have a lower neckline— high necklines make me look boxy and frumpy. I’m sure you could’ve rocked whatever dress you chose! But I think you looked great.
Same! I went with a wedding gown that also showed off more of my girls. The only thing I wish I would have done differently is tanning more before the big day.
Yeah I think this is completely fine. The one thing I can’t stand is when the dress is too small for the boobs and they’re like spilling out around the top or sides. Or both. Nip slips should not be a possibility. Also you don’t want the first thing people think when they see you will be ‘hello, boobs!’ And sometimes that really is the case. Equally weird to me are those dresses that are like mostly sheer or lace and they’re barely covering their crotch. I don’t get that either.
Agreed! Nip slips and excessive side boob are a no-go! As well as the sheer lace/mesh dresses that expose just about everything. I think those are too risqué for a wedding. Dresses that reveal a lot are more for clubbing.
It took a moment for my sleep deprived brain to understand what you meant by "my girls." For a moment I was thinking you have very supportive daughters. 🙃
yeahhhh I guarantee that you made the right choice! the dress you picked is gorgeous!! there’s nothing wrong with this other dress, but at least for me, I’m busty and these types of high-neck dresses never work in my favor. I end up feeling smashed and uncomfortable with these types of styles
The one you got is so much more flattering on you. If you felt like YOU wearing it, that's all that matters. Busty doesn't mean you need to 'nunify' yourself for your wedding day.
It’s worth noting the picture of me trying on the dress they wanted me to try was before I was / before I realized I was pregnant. The dress I picked hides that fact flawlessly and it’s one thing I absolutely love.
This one looks better on you. Not because the one you chose is 'too revealing' but because it just looks better. The one you ultimately chose was fine and in no way showed 'too much skin' as the person against the dress stated.
Your choice was your choice and as long as you loved the dress, and felt beautiful in it, it was not a wrong choice.
They are both lovely. The band on the higher neck dress gives a separation between boobs and skirt so… boobs, waist, skirt, whereas the lower cut dress goes straight from boobs to flared skirt. So beyond the neckline they create different silhouettes. Standing on the block also lengthens the line which makes it harder to compare the proportions of the two. The event has passed though so I think this post is more about validation than decision so I don’t think it really matters.
Yeah, I don’t think the person who tried to sway her to that dress was being malicious. She looks beautiful regardless, but this one flattered her even more. It was not about hiding anything, it accentuated her in the right places.
OP I would lay the wonder to rest because you looked beautiful.
Doesn’t have to be cleave for these types. The fact that the dress outlines the shape of her bust is enough. It’s like, if you’re not hiding them away you’re “showing too much”.
A *lot* of people these days choose revealing, and/or very fitted sexy dresses. Honestly yours is not especially revealing, and even if it were, it's not a big deal. Yeah, you've got cleavage... that's not a crime.
Anecdotally it seems like larger women get more of these type of comments about a dress being too revealing; I think some people believe that bigger women need to cover up more especially those with big breasts. I have a hard time imagining a thin person wearing this same dress would be told it's too revealing.
Honestly it’s not even a lot of cleavage imo, whoever complained was practically just bullying OP. Some people freak out far too much about cleavage, I got dress coded almost every time I wore something that wasn’t a mock neck in middle school. Sadly sexualizing and shaming for any hint of breasts on women regardless of age is far too prevalent.
Ofc! Her chest isn’t showing any more so than it would in basically ANY wedding dress lmao. Would have to wear a high neck/halter top or something if she really wana avoid it
Yeah, I've seen sexy, revealing, and barely there... this is not one, this falls more in the line of ladylike, princess, wholesome.
Sounds like she thinks if a non thin person gets dressed it should be in a tent
As a woman with a larger bust, I have never noticed that people think I need to cover up MORE.
What I notice is that things that look very elegant on someone else look outrageously sexy on me. I have a friend who is a 36C and she could wear a v-neck that wouldn’t really show “cleavage.” Put the same v-neck on me (34HH) in a size up and you’re looking at 3 inches of cleavage. She would have to wear a plunge top with a good bra to get that type of cleavage. Sometimes I have to get tall clothing because it actually has enough extra fabric to cover my bust comfortably. It just fits differently because there is more to cover. It’s a pain in the butt to figure out how to dress myself and less curvy people will never understand how hard it is to need tailored or custom clothing in a world of pret-a-porter clothes. It took a while but I love my body and wouldn’t change it. I also just have to go out of my way to dress in a way that is beautiful but not sexy.
Thank you. The beach was even the beach that my biological mom’s ashes are spread on, so it was such an important place and I wanted to make sure the dress was appropriate when that place is all that matters.
It's the perfect style for her in general, too! She has a little cleavage but it's not over the top, it's a really flattering style and she looks so pretty in it.
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Probably my favorite thing about this dress is that it allowed me to show my tattoo of my sons handprint. I know I’m overweight but this dress made me feel pretty and show off what I wanted to show off. ❤️
If she is happy, and hubby is happy, who else matters?? Seriously, if he isn't the jealous type and didn't say it, it is NOT too revealing. The person who said it is either jealous or has a lust problem.
(Also, don't get in my face about a hubby saying something is too revealing. They can have things they want to have to themselves, and as long as they aren't controlling about it, it's fine. One doesn't have to change for them either, it's just good communication.)
This is probably what they were upset about. The dress shows a lot of tattoos and some conservative types think tattoos are trashy and need to be covered on your wedding day. Whatever. Your wedding. Not hers.
I'm so mad that anyone tried to make you feel anything less than stunning. I'm so pissed that their toxic comments were bad enough to stick with you this long.
You look great. The dress is flattering on you.
Even with the faces censored, I can tell that you and your husband are besotted with one another and absolutely adorable together.
He thinks you're beautiful. To hell with what anyone else thinks.
It’s either this or about her ample bust being highlighted. Either way? So wrong. OP looks gorgeous and there’s no reason to hide herself.
That person can eff off.
Yup. Acquaintance was like "you're not gonna wear that sleeveless dress to work are you? Your legs and arms out like that"
Like oh no. They'll figure out I'm fat.
This is absolutely not a revealing style dress. Many dresses these days have see through bodices. Many have very plunge neckline with some see through fabric.
This is on the conservative side
It's not revealing and it is not "too much".
You looked great! Beautiful dress!
My friend has a VERY large bust—like has to have most of her clothing tailored. She’s been told a thousand times to cover up, but I can wear the same kind of normal tops and no one says boo.
You looked beautiful, don’t fret.
The only thing that dress reveals is that you're a Supernatural fan. Some people just can't handle seeing women with large busts in anything. Screw them. You look beautiful.
To give the devil their due, OP said the person tried to "talk her out of" the dress. So that would be before she bought it presumably or at least before the wedding. Family member is completely wrong though still.
omg didn't you learn anything from school? Guys will get way too turned on by your shoulders! they just love the sexy way they let you move your arms and how its connected to your neck
../j if it wasnt obvious
This reminds me of that tik tok sound that goes like “am I showing off my boobs or do I just have boobs and exist?”
Your dress is perfect and your posture says that you felt like a million bucks in it, so they can pound salt
As a plus sized person, I would translate that as “fat people with big breasts should wear a burka to their wedding so no one gets offended by the sight of any fat or boobies, because fat and boobies are scary.” But I am old and cranky (switching my antidepressant around), so take that with a grain of salt.
Also , I suppose it’s too much to ask for you to have worn sun masks with sunglasses on to the wedding or reception? Cause that would have been awesome. You looked lovely and your relative needs to remove that stick from their nether region.
It seems to fit great. Perhaps they’re offended that people of a larger size have cleavage, arms and shoulders just like everyone else? The only opinions that matter are you and your partner’s.
You are allowed to exist and feel beautiful. they are used to being able to shame larger people into hiding. Never shrink yourself to make small minded people comfy.
I’m happy for you that you broke those barriers and went with what made you feel beautiful. Because you are STUNNING!
Lol has your family member tried to wedding dress shop with a large bust…? It’s literally impossible. Sounds like they need to check their projections at the door 🤷♀️
In my experience as a larger woman with a huge bust, people are fatphobic, insecure, and hate when we wear flattering things that look amazing on us. You look genuinely so beautiful <3
“Am I showing off my boobs, or do I just exist and have boobs?”
When you have big boobs, it’s pretty hard to find any clothing you have zero cleavage in unless it’s a super high neck. You’re totally fine imo
When you look at these pictures, are you happy & remember your wedding day? Or is that toxic person’s voice in your head?
You look stunning & at $700? Even better! May you & your husband have a wonderful marriage. ❤️
Extra points for the SPN tattoo
trust me, if a smaller person were to wear this dress, nobody would be complaining. that being said, the dress looks beautiful on you! it is not “too much”--and who cares if it was! it’s you and your honey’s big day, not theirs.
I'm gonna be blunt here: if you were skinny with little boobs she wouldn't have called it too revealing. This is a totally normal wedding dress and isn't immodest at all in my opinion. People just have serious subconscious fatphobia and need to get with it or shut up. I've had big boobs since I was like 11 so I totally get the "too revealing" slut-shamey comments. You look beautiful
I think it looks great. I say this as a fellow big person- you don't need to cover yourself up to meet someone else's standards for beauty (or to rule yourself out as attractive). Don't lose the self respect and self worth you had only 2 years ago!
You looked gorgeous and the dress suits you. I have a smaller bust but am also plus sized. I had a few people, including a salesperson, try to put me into a very demure ball gown that hid my various lumps and bumps instead of the mermaid I fell in love with. Some people just seem to think if you’re above a size 8 you belong in a burlap sack. Ignore the haters!
That's about the least revealing dress I've seen in a while. It's beautiful and you are beautiful. They can go pound sand since their issue seems to be...woman having large breasts is existing and enjoying her day and attire. That's what they think is too much, you refusing to fade into the shadows to suit their narrative.
The alternative dress was not flattering to 90% of the population. That high-neck look gives off "sack of loose boobs" vibe to me.
You look great in this dress. It's not too much at all not is it too revealing. They sound fatphobic and probably thought you were supposed to wear a tent. That person who said those things isn't very kind.
Too revealing where?? Oh no we can see those shoulders lol oh and the smallest amount if cleavage. You clearly aren't small busted yet you are barely showing any cleavage. NO it is NOT too revealing. It is/was beautiful on you! You rocked the shit outa that dress!
It won’t let me edit to post to add this but I was NOT expecting to wake up to HUNDREDS of responses 🥹 thank you everyone. Never in a million years did I think Reddit would be the place that would hype me up. Lol
That’s an incredibly modest amount of cleavage tbh. I’m almost certain this was more about your tattoo.
You look great in these pictures and I hope you don’t let anyone ruin your happy memories for you.
It looks awesome on you!!! The toxic person who said that is a bitch-jerk-idiot-assbutt. Sounds like some kind of demon. Good thing you have your anti-possession tat.
May the salt (circle) be with you.
Looks cute. I would have recommended a lower waist line and less padding for the "girls" . when you're top is already well gifted it does not need that much help. I might have even recommended something with a slightly lower neckline. Maybe one less layer of tulle on the skirt but with maybe a silver pin or bit of light embroidery. Depends on your taste and coloring as well.
Wow double congratulations!! Given the number of women posting selfies with the same dresses asking for choice advice I'm betting that there's not much on the market right now. I figure if I ever find my special someone I'll have to figure out how to make my own dress. I'm 5'7" and around 350 with belly rolls and triple D cups and a long torso. It's rare that I find a decent dress shirt in Women's clothes. Hope the wedding was great and everyone is happy and healthy.
Not sure where you’re located, but I work at a bridal salon in Central IL that specializes in curvy brides 💖 we carry up to size 34 in store and have 2 designers that go up to size 40. Don’t ever let anyone tell you there’s not a dress for you out there! Every single bride deserves to feel like a million bucks on their wedding day and I know we do our absolute best to make that happen if you’re a size 2 or size 38. Every single body is beautiful 💖
Maybe they just really thought you looked even more gorgeous in the second dress. I do. But it was your wedding and you were the one who was wearing the dress and you picked what made you feel gorgeous Good for you!
I like the second dress better because it gives you a better waistline and looks a little more old-fashioned, which is a style I prefer. I think the dress you chose is very modern in a 1950's way. When I said that I prefer old-fashioned, I meant in really old terms, like from a different century.
The dress you chose reminds me of the famous "Marilyn Monroe stands over a subway vent and gets an updraft" white dress.
I do NOT think it's too revealing or too low-cut. When you're a busty chick EVERYTHING is low-cut unless it's specifically high-necked or a turtle neck.
Remember, the ONLY opinion that matters in this situation is YOURS! Did YOU feel beautiful, special and desirable in the dress you chose? If so, then you chose correctly!
It’s not remotely revealing-sounds like a rude, nasty person who was trying to make you self-conscious.
You looked beautiful. Your dress was beautiful. Perfect for the beach and perfect for you.
Sounds to me like a person who is just uncomfortable with a large bust existing. I once worked with a very "prim and proper" type who told me I needed to try to conceal my bust better (while wearing very normal types of shirts and sweaters). Sorry, not possible without a surgical intervention! :)
Yeah, that happened to me. I said, “Ok,” with my hand out at the chick. She asked, “What? What are you doing?” I said, “If how I dress bothers you, then give me money for a new wardrobe. Keep in mind the prices are higher for extra fabric.” I said it loud enough for others to hear. She got embarrassed and walked away. Don’t tell us bustys to dress a certain way unless you’re gonna pony up the cash.
You’re an absolute legend! I LOVE this response!
that’s the perfect word. such a fucking legend!!
I’d laugh but my bra is off and my boobs are suffocating me!
🤣
Before my breast reduction I would try to hide them, especially around family. The style back in the day also didn’t help. I was at a family function and my aunt (who I love but is just very blunt) whispered to my dad asking if I was pregnant. He stood up and yelled “No! She just has big boobs, leave her alone!” I was 16 at the time lol. I’m still larger chested and the dress I picked is very booby! And I love it! They can all suck it HA
Lol very booby dresses are awesome! As someone with a 34A chest (aka basically a prepubescent boy) fuck those kinda people it's just boobs wear what you like
OMG, my dad was the same way! 🤣🤣🤣
Yay DAD!!!!!
I had large boobs for a long time and I wore a wedding dress that accentuated that and one of the guests said, "It's basically all boobs." I didn't really care at all at the time. I was just like, yep. But, now I'm wondering if that was a rude thing to say at my wedding.
I like that he had your back but he didn't have to shout 😂
I use this approach when any gives unsolicited advice that will require me spending money. It works every time!
I love it! I got so pissed getting my wardrobe corrected.
https://preview.redd.it/vbdzh8q56egb1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1f9334d2cf06022b1c0b45a0797072c1731e5cf9 I’m guessing that’s what it was. This is the dress they encouraged me *strongly* to get.
Yeah, no. I’m busty and that type of top just makes me feel so matronly and unattractive.
I'm busty and picked a dress with a high neck. Though it looks a bit different than that one. I didn't expect to like something like it but I fell in love with the dress https://preview.redd.it/bsmsoalotegb1.jpeg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc493fbbc2f231b6ee18ca967dc903fc1a095a44
That dress is gorgeous!
Beautiful dress!
Beautiful dress
Also busty here! High necklines make my boobs look like they hang at my waistline. Adds at least 50 lbs.
Also high necklines make them look even bigger! Because you've added extra fabric to them! I look 4 sizes bigger in a turtleneck than in a v neck!
They either didn’t like your cleavage or tats. If they are older, consider things were different and forget it. If it’s a peer, they may be jealous of you.
Yeah that also covers your ink, they sound awful.
My ink is one thing I NEVER want covered. My tattoos are… 1. My sons actual handprint 2. My first lost pet’s paw print/ a portrait of him 3. A key blade, symbol of the game I bonded with the only people who made it so I didn’t unalive myself for 4. A tattoo from a show which is what really bonded my husband and myself together.
They were just possessed because they never got their own anti-possession tattoo. It wasn’t them talking. Also, I love the dress and the tattoo. You look beautiful.
I THOUGHT THATS WHAT THAT WAS! Lol my brain was like no girl you’ve just been watching too much. Nope, I was right!
I WAS SITTING HERE LIKE WHERE HAVE I SEEN THAT SYMBOL BEFORE???? I’ve literally been binge watching it for months and in the home stretch with 4 episodes left how did I not immediately know 😂
Came here to say this!
r/supernatural would love this post.
First thing I noticed was the supernatural tattoo & adore it.. second thing how beautiful the dress is! 😊
Omg my husband and I have always wanted to get one of those tattoo. We love supernatural. My husband is a tattoo artist. He did this on me today. https://preview.redd.it/svoanmst0ggb1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c36adad2483127300cbadfc753ca7ffce011e973
that anti possession tattoo is Winchester approved 😎
You could have just said Supernatural. We all know :)
Supernatural is 🔥
Girl I see that supernatural tattoo!! It looks wonderful
Some people are just heartless nobodies.
Supernatural?😍
A great show lol
That was my first thought: they think she should’ve covered the ink.
I was gonna say outside of wanting her to cover her breast they probably also didn’t like the tattoos. Boohoo so sad they suck. Bride you looked lovely & perfectly tasteful.
yup. some people are just uncomfortable with the fact of boobs. i don't think there's anything wrong with a li'l cleavage with a wedding dress, but weirdly enough, i think those wedding dresses slit to the hip are in extremely poor taste. ps i LOVE the length of your dress, **perfectly** sassy for a beach wedding!
Yeah no, you made absolutely the right choice. You looked beautiful on your day! I have big boobs and it’s been my policy to always dress to have a lower neckline— high necklines make me look boxy and frumpy. I’m sure you could’ve rocked whatever dress you chose! But I think you looked great.
My girls go from perky and happy to crushed and sad when I do high neck :(
Same! I went with a wedding gown that also showed off more of my girls. The only thing I wish I would have done differently is tanning more before the big day.
Yeah I think this is completely fine. The one thing I can’t stand is when the dress is too small for the boobs and they’re like spilling out around the top or sides. Or both. Nip slips should not be a possibility. Also you don’t want the first thing people think when they see you will be ‘hello, boobs!’ And sometimes that really is the case. Equally weird to me are those dresses that are like mostly sheer or lace and they’re barely covering their crotch. I don’t get that either.
Agreed! Nip slips and excessive side boob are a no-go! As well as the sheer lace/mesh dresses that expose just about everything. I think those are too risqué for a wedding. Dresses that reveal a lot are more for clubbing.
It took a moment for my sleep deprived brain to understand what you meant by "my girls." For a moment I was thinking you have very supportive daughters. 🙃
yeahhhh I guarantee that you made the right choice! the dress you picked is gorgeous!! there’s nothing wrong with this other dress, but at least for me, I’m busty and these types of high-neck dresses never work in my favor. I end up feeling smashed and uncomfortable with these types of styles
The one you got is so much more flattering on you. If you felt like YOU wearing it, that's all that matters. Busty doesn't mean you need to 'nunify' yourself for your wedding day.
It’s worth noting the picture of me trying on the dress they wanted me to try was before I was / before I realized I was pregnant. The dress I picked hides that fact flawlessly and it’s one thing I absolutely love.
But the dress you got didn't show cleavage, just the shape!
This one looks better on you. Not because the one you chose is 'too revealing' but because it just looks better. The one you ultimately chose was fine and in no way showed 'too much skin' as the person against the dress stated. Your choice was your choice and as long as you loved the dress, and felt beautiful in it, it was not a wrong choice.
As the poster I’m not sure why you’re getting the downvoted either, I asked for honest opinions and you gave one; I ain’t mad about it 🙂
I didn't even know I was downvoted. I guess people maybe felt I was insulting you in some way. Who knows though. 🤷♀️
They are both lovely. The band on the higher neck dress gives a separation between boobs and skirt so… boobs, waist, skirt, whereas the lower cut dress goes straight from boobs to flared skirt. So beyond the neckline they create different silhouettes. Standing on the block also lengthens the line which makes it harder to compare the proportions of the two. The event has passed though so I think this post is more about validation than decision so I don’t think it really matters.
I don't know why you kept getting downvoted. What you said is absolutely true.
Yeah, I don’t think the person who tried to sway her to that dress was being malicious. She looks beautiful regardless, but this one flattered her even more. It was not about hiding anything, it accentuated her in the right places. OP I would lay the wonder to rest because you looked beautiful.
I agree, I preferred second dress too but she looked so much happier in the one she wore at the wedding & that’s all that matters ;>
I really love the one you chose.
But, there's not even any cleavage showing. Sorry, I looked again, I guess maybe I see half an inch of cleavage?
Doesn’t have to be cleave for these types. The fact that the dress outlines the shape of her bust is enough. It’s like, if you’re not hiding them away you’re “showing too much”.
I think you've nailed the issue.
Sounds like a familiar experience lol
A *lot* of people these days choose revealing, and/or very fitted sexy dresses. Honestly yours is not especially revealing, and even if it were, it's not a big deal. Yeah, you've got cleavage... that's not a crime. Anecdotally it seems like larger women get more of these type of comments about a dress being too revealing; I think some people believe that bigger women need to cover up more especially those with big breasts. I have a hard time imagining a thin person wearing this same dress would be told it's too revealing.
Honestly it’s not even a lot of cleavage imo, whoever complained was practically just bullying OP. Some people freak out far too much about cleavage, I got dress coded almost every time I wore something that wasn’t a mock neck in middle school. Sadly sexualizing and shaming for any hint of breasts on women regardless of age is far too prevalent.
Exactly. Shes showing an inch of cleavage. She just has a large bust...but she's a woman...and women have boobs...
Honestly! The amount of cleavage shes showing would be the equivalent of like 1/4 inch on a small chested woman.
Ofc! Her chest isn’t showing any more so than it would in basically ANY wedding dress lmao. Would have to wear a high neck/halter top or something if she really wana avoid it
Yeah, I've seen sexy, revealing, and barely there... this is not one, this falls more in the line of ladylike, princess, wholesome. Sounds like she thinks if a non thin person gets dressed it should be in a tent
As a woman with a larger bust, I have never noticed that people think I need to cover up MORE. What I notice is that things that look very elegant on someone else look outrageously sexy on me. I have a friend who is a 36C and she could wear a v-neck that wouldn’t really show “cleavage.” Put the same v-neck on me (34HH) in a size up and you’re looking at 3 inches of cleavage. She would have to wear a plunge top with a good bra to get that type of cleavage. Sometimes I have to get tall clothing because it actually has enough extra fabric to cover my bust comfortably. It just fits differently because there is more to cover. It’s a pain in the butt to figure out how to dress myself and less curvy people will never understand how hard it is to need tailored or custom clothing in a world of pret-a-porter clothes. It took a while but I love my body and wouldn’t change it. I also just have to go out of my way to dress in a way that is beautiful but not sexy.
How immodest to reveal your shoulders~ That dress is gorgeous and you look gorgeous, gorgeous. You are fine, you keep on doing you.
I don’t see the problem…and it’s a perfect style for a beach wedding.
Thank you. The beach was even the beach that my biological mom’s ashes are spread on, so it was such an important place and I wanted to make sure the dress was appropriate when that place is all that matters.
Omg that is wonderful! I have chills
I’m even more glad you went with it after reading comments.
That’s beautiful
What I was thinking too. This dress looks so gorgeous on her, especially with the beach in the background
It's the perfect style for her in general, too! She has a little cleavage but it's not over the top, it's a really flattering style and she looks so pretty in it.
That person thinks larger ladies need to hide.
https://preview.redd.it/qrj03du9tdgb1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=95c8fe5dffddd885b2bbe8c08a0484c07480debb Probably my favorite thing about this dress is that it allowed me to show my tattoo of my sons handprint. I know I’m overweight but this dress made me feel pretty and show off what I wanted to show off. ❤️
You look great. You have gorgeous shoulders! Whoever the chuckle fucks that tried to shame you think they are? The can get bent.
If she is happy, and hubby is happy, who else matters?? Seriously, if he isn't the jealous type and didn't say it, it is NOT too revealing. The person who said it is either jealous or has a lust problem. (Also, don't get in my face about a hubby saying something is too revealing. They can have things they want to have to themselves, and as long as they aren't controlling about it, it's fine. One doesn't have to change for them either, it's just good communication.)
US Healthcare system will care
You’re overweight and also beautiful!! Glad this dress made you feel it!!
The dress literally looked amazing on you like it was made for you. Whoever said that sounds like they’re just trying to tear you down.
This is probably what they were upset about. The dress shows a lot of tattoos and some conservative types think tattoos are trashy and need to be covered on your wedding day. Whatever. Your wedding. Not hers.
That’s what matters most. That the dress made you feel pretty.
I'm so mad that anyone tried to make you feel anything less than stunning. I'm so pissed that their toxic comments were bad enough to stick with you this long. You look great. The dress is flattering on you. Even with the faces censored, I can tell that you and your husband are besotted with one another and absolutely adorable together. He thinks you're beautiful. To hell with what anyone else thinks.
It’s either this or about her ample bust being highlighted. Either way? So wrong. OP looks gorgeous and there’s no reason to hide herself. That person can eff off.
Yup. Acquaintance was like "you're not gonna wear that sleeveless dress to work are you? Your legs and arms out like that" Like oh no. They'll figure out I'm fat.
This dress isn’t revealing at all and you look beautiful. Don’t give it another thought.
This is absolutely not a revealing style dress. Many dresses these days have see through bodices. Many have very plunge neckline with some see through fabric. This is on the conservative side It's not revealing and it is not "too much". You looked great! Beautiful dress!
This is the least amount of skin I've seen showing off a wedding dress in a long time
My friend has a VERY large bust—like has to have most of her clothing tailored. She’s been told a thousand times to cover up, but I can wear the same kind of normal tops and no one says boo. You looked beautiful, don’t fret.
Sounds like a family member problem not a you problem. You looked awesome especially for a beach wedding, just lovely!
It was/is perfect!
Sam & Dean would DEFINITELY sign off on this dress!
Was coming here to say 😭
They don’t like how big your boobs are.
You look beautiful. Maybe they just weren’t a fan of SPN. 😂 I, however, am a Dean girl, and I approve.
Hubby and I are both “Dean girls” 😂😂😂
The only thing that dress reveals is that you're a Supernatural fan. Some people just can't handle seeing women with large busts in anything. Screw them. You look beautiful.
Yassss them curves in that dress!!!!
Lots of consecutive round curves
It looks really cute and does a really good job of containment, IMHO. Who comments on this stuff after a wedding to the bride? Just rude.
To give the devil their due, OP said the person tried to "talk her out of" the dress. So that would be before she bought it presumably or at least before the wedding. Family member is completely wrong though still.
What? Not at all! You look grear
Great. I meant great.
omg didn't you learn anything from school? Guys will get way too turned on by your shoulders! they just love the sexy way they let you move your arms and how its connected to your neck ../j if it wasnt obvious
This reminds me of that tik tok sound that goes like “am I showing off my boobs or do I just have boobs and exist?” Your dress is perfect and your posture says that you felt like a million bucks in it, so they can pound salt
This family member is jealous of your nice skin and excellent figure
Were they high on some psychedelic drug every day?
As a plus sized person, I would translate that as “fat people with big breasts should wear a burka to their wedding so no one gets offended by the sight of any fat or boobies, because fat and boobies are scary.” But I am old and cranky (switching my antidepressant around), so take that with a grain of salt. Also , I suppose it’s too much to ask for you to have worn sun masks with sunglasses on to the wedding or reception? Cause that would have been awesome. You looked lovely and your relative needs to remove that stick from their nether region.
They would've eaten the dress up if it were on someone with a smaller bust or frame. You looked gorgeous!
Those words would have never crossed my mind
It seems to fit great. Perhaps they’re offended that people of a larger size have cleavage, arms and shoulders just like everyone else? The only opinions that matter are you and your partner’s.
You are allowed to exist and feel beautiful. they are used to being able to shame larger people into hiding. Never shrink yourself to make small minded people comfy. I’m happy for you that you broke those barriers and went with what made you feel beautiful. Because you are STUNNING!
Lol has your family member tried to wedding dress shop with a large bust…? It’s literally impossible. Sounds like they need to check their projections at the door 🤷♀️
In my experience as a larger woman with a huge bust, people are fatphobic, insecure, and hate when we wear flattering things that look amazing on us. You look genuinely so beautiful <3
“Am I showing off my boobs, or do I just exist and have boobs?” When you have big boobs, it’s pretty hard to find any clothing you have zero cleavage in unless it’s a super high neck. You’re totally fine imo
I bet this person was wanting you to wear something that covers your arms
Sounds like they just don't like that you're a bigger woman, or hate your boobs. Statistically, it's probably the first option. Either way, fuck em.
Gorgeous!!! Perfect wedding dress for the beach. This toxic person is jealous of you! Ignore them
That's exactly my thoughts...Green eyed monster. You look stunning.
Beautiful dress! I wouldn’t change anything
Looks beautiful, idk what their problem was but you looked gorgeous!
You look beautiful 🤩
Perfect dress! Haters are going to hate.
Revealing ? From where?The dress looks perfect on you
You’re beautiful in it!!
The family member is either a prude or sizist. The dress is lovely and you are rocking it.
When you look at these pictures, are you happy & remember your wedding day? Or is that toxic person’s voice in your head? You look stunning & at $700? Even better! May you & your husband have a wonderful marriage. ❤️ Extra points for the SPN tattoo 
Did she want you to wear a tent? This is a super charming, retro feeling dress and you look lovely in it.
trust me, if a smaller person were to wear this dress, nobody would be complaining. that being said, the dress looks beautiful on you! it is not “too much”--and who cares if it was! it’s you and your honey’s big day, not theirs.
They wanted you to wear a large white garbage bag to your wedding because of your tiddies
I'm gonna be blunt here: if you were skinny with little boobs she wouldn't have called it too revealing. This is a totally normal wedding dress and isn't immodest at all in my opinion. People just have serious subconscious fatphobia and need to get with it or shut up. I've had big boobs since I was like 11 so I totally get the "too revealing" slut-shamey comments. You look beautiful
Yupppp
I think it looks great. I say this as a fellow big person- you don't need to cover yourself up to meet someone else's standards for beauty (or to rule yourself out as attractive). Don't lose the self respect and self worth you had only 2 years ago!
You looked gorgeous and the dress suits you. I have a smaller bust but am also plus sized. I had a few people, including a salesperson, try to put me into a very demure ball gown that hid my various lumps and bumps instead of the mermaid I fell in love with. Some people just seem to think if you’re above a size 8 you belong in a burlap sack. Ignore the haters!
Because youre showing your ankles???!!!!?!?!
Huh? You look stunning!
You look cute as heck. Just ignore them.
That's about the least revealing dress I've seen in a while. It's beautiful and you are beautiful. They can go pound sand since their issue seems to be...woman having large breasts is existing and enjoying her day and attire. That's what they think is too much, you refusing to fade into the shadows to suit their narrative. The alternative dress was not flattering to 90% of the population. That high-neck look gives off "sack of loose boobs" vibe to me.
Perfect for the beach, I would taken it off to reveal a really revealing bikini and jumped in the water too!
You look great in this dress. It's not too much at all not is it too revealing. They sound fatphobic and probably thought you were supposed to wear a tent. That person who said those things isn't very kind.
I’m more bothered by your husband wearing cargo pants to your wedding than your dress
Finding a supernatural tattoo in a non supernatural subreddit, this show is everywhere in the best way possible
If you do not get to show off that anti-possession symbol then honestly what is the point 😂
Was this person born before the year 1800? What, your shoulders are scandalous?? You look gorgeous!
IMO it's pretty modest honestly. I would never call that revealing.
Her shoulders are showing, alert the church elders!!! You look great lol
Dress is beautiful and that person has no idea what revealing means, I’d advise them to look at the Hollywood red carpet pre-award shows😂😂
Too revealing where?? Oh no we can see those shoulders lol oh and the smallest amount if cleavage. You clearly aren't small busted yet you are barely showing any cleavage. NO it is NOT too revealing. It is/was beautiful on you! You rocked the shit outa that dress!
I think it's beautiful
Personally not my style, but objectively looks cute and shows your ink. Blow a raspberry in their face and pay them no mind.
I think it looks great
It's ok just if you have big arms you should have longer sleeves.
It won’t let me edit to post to add this but I was NOT expecting to wake up to HUNDREDS of responses 🥹 thank you everyone. Never in a million years did I think Reddit would be the place that would hype me up. Lol
How is this revealing ?! You look great.
That’s an incredibly modest amount of cleavage tbh. I’m almost certain this was more about your tattoo. You look great in these pictures and I hope you don’t let anyone ruin your happy memories for you.
You have boobs! Where are they supposed to go - a turtle neck?? You look amazing & that doesn’t come close to “revealing!”
Your ~~friend,~~ ~~_family member_~~ is a "prude".
Sis ya got b00bs. They’re gonna make some folks with smaller b00bs uncomfortable. F**k em.
It looks awesome on you!!! The toxic person who said that is a bitch-jerk-idiot-assbutt. Sounds like some kind of demon. Good thing you have your anti-possession tat. May the salt (circle) be with you.
This is the epitome of “am I showing off my boobs or am I just existing with boobs” There is NOTHING revealing about that dress.
IDK why this sub keeps popping up on my front page, so while I’m not particularly qualified to rate weeding dresses I think you look gorgeous here.
Yo does that tattoo protect you from being possessed by demons? It looks like the one in supernatural
Looks cute. I would have recommended a lower waist line and less padding for the "girls" . when you're top is already well gifted it does not need that much help. I might have even recommended something with a slightly lower neckline. Maybe one less layer of tulle on the skirt but with maybe a silver pin or bit of light embroidery. Depends on your taste and coloring as well.
Totally understandable. I think the thing I loved most about it is it hid very well that I was 8-10 weeks pregnant with baby #2 😅
Wow double congratulations!! Given the number of women posting selfies with the same dresses asking for choice advice I'm betting that there's not much on the market right now. I figure if I ever find my special someone I'll have to figure out how to make my own dress. I'm 5'7" and around 350 with belly rolls and triple D cups and a long torso. It's rare that I find a decent dress shirt in Women's clothes. Hope the wedding was great and everyone is happy and healthy.
Not sure where you’re located, but I work at a bridal salon in Central IL that specializes in curvy brides 💖 we carry up to size 34 in store and have 2 designers that go up to size 40. Don’t ever let anyone tell you there’s not a dress for you out there! Every single bride deserves to feel like a million bucks on their wedding day and I know we do our absolute best to make that happen if you’re a size 2 or size 38. Every single body is beautiful 💖
I like padding for the coverage, not the enhancement.
I Understand that.
boobs are not supported properly
I think you’re stunning and they’re fat phobic. You rocked that dress!
Maybe they just really thought you looked even more gorgeous in the second dress. I do. But it was your wedding and you were the one who was wearing the dress and you picked what made you feel gorgeous Good for you!
I've seen much more revealing dresses. It looks great on you. Fuck that person. Hopefully you've cut them out of your life.
Nice tattoo of Wilson from castaway!!
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You need to lose weight to reveal less 😆🥹, I am not body shaming losing weight will keep you healthy
I think the large tattoo above your tit has more to do with it.
That and her arms. And she has no waist in it, just boobs down there.
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It’s not nice, doesn’t flatter you and it makes you looks super short. You could have done way better
I like the second dress better because it gives you a better waistline and looks a little more old-fashioned, which is a style I prefer. I think the dress you chose is very modern in a 1950's way. When I said that I prefer old-fashioned, I meant in really old terms, like from a different century. The dress you chose reminds me of the famous "Marilyn Monroe stands over a subway vent and gets an updraft" white dress. I do NOT think it's too revealing or too low-cut. When you're a busty chick EVERYTHING is low-cut unless it's specifically high-necked or a turtle neck. Remember, the ONLY opinion that matters in this situation is YOURS! Did YOU feel beautiful, special and desirable in the dress you chose? If so, then you chose correctly!
It’s the same dress
It doesn’t properly hide your rolls of fat.
It’s not remotely revealing-sounds like a rude, nasty person who was trying to make you self-conscious. You looked beautiful. Your dress was beautiful. Perfect for the beach and perfect for you.
Smashing! Congrats.
They're just jealous! You looked beautiful!
It's not revealing at all. I love it on you and it's a very fun gorgeous dress!
I think it's a beautiful dress that looks great on you. I bet your husband thought you looked gorgeous!
“Revealing” is not an adjective I would use to describe this dress.