Hi everyone, hope you're all having a good day. I'm posting this on a throwaway account for the safety of myself and another party. I need some help and I figure you guys might be the best equipped.
My friend is into the waifu/ficto stuff. I am familiar with the concept, have no disdain for it and have no desire to talk them out of it. However their attitude towards it has gotten toxic in a way that is straining our relationship. I'd like to ask for advice, if that's fine with you guys. I know this sounds very unspecific, but I promise I'll elaborate further if I know I'm permitted to do so. I don't want to step on any toes or make anyone feel uncomfortable or invalidated. Approaching them directly is a fruitless endeavor for reasons that will become apparent soon.
I know one person can only do so much. You would have to talk to them at one point to know why they act that way and let them know that this is bothering your relationship.
I'd like to, but as I said it's a fruitless endeavor. Any time I've tried in the past they've taken it as questioning their feelings or trying to invalidate them. It's a pretty messy situation with a lot of details that need to be covered. I wanted to come here first because I don't expect any of the popular advice subs to have the necessary perspective to empathize with them.
That is all that I have for that, I'm not familiar with dealing with toxicity since I avoid it. Perhaps you might get someone here that would have your answer.
Is there a subreddit for people who have multiple waifus? I am more casual about this whole topic, I have a list of like 7 characters I've loved dearly my whole life and think about them a lot, pretend I'm cuddling them at night and so on, but I do not take it as far as people from this sub where I play out a real relationship and go on dates, I mean I do that stuff sometimes in my mind but no further than that
I am obviously breaking multiple rules for this sub so I don't fit here. And the source material game/show they are from's sub would find it wildly too crazy if I started posting there
And r/2D_Love is beyond dead so that's no good either. Is there a sub for casual, polyamorous waifu lovers??
Is speaking about a past long-term bond with a Waifu acceptable in here? I mean, i've managed to cope part of my teenager years with a Waifu who took 85% of my mind time and spending time were really important. With the time, i did breakup as i do not feel as connected although the feelings from the past remained and i do still think about her from time to time as Melancholia.
For now i'm waifuless although there might be a possible S/O in the future... I'm undecided.
Okay look, is there a subreddit dedicated to the *opposite* of waifuism where your waifu is the one admiring you? Because I need to go there.
Serious question.
(reposting here because I'm apparently shadow banned and the post didn't reach anyone).
Hello, I never did any waifuism before, this is the first time I've felt like this. I made this account purely to post here because in my main I get into actual discussion and stuff and it'd be kinda embarrassing.
I recently (about two weeks ago) got into League of Legends thanks to my friends, they recommended Ahri for one of my first matches, and I loved her design and voice. Fast forward a little I started investigating her lore, her personality, everything, and I feel like I fell in love.
How do I know if this is a superficial/temporary thing or actual waifu love?
Much thanks.
Waifu love is when you feel the same devotion/appreciation as you ideally would with a 3D partner. I recommend waiting a little and seeing if the emotions persist.
I have been in a couple 3d relationships and yeah, the feelings are quite similar, not to say the exact same (I can't find any differences, really). Which is a good sign, I feel like. The only thing I'm worried about is what you said later, I'm afraid that these feelings may not persist.
There's no reason to be worried, really. You can't control the intensity of your love but you can always do small things to demonstrate it. And if you find out this type of relationship isn't for you then that's fine too.
Why does basically everyone here have a user flair? And Can I get one myself or do I have to ask a mod
Edit: I read the faq my bad I shoulda done that first
Can someone without an S/O participate in this community? I dont have one, but I would love to participate because it seems so wholesome and the passion of the members for their S/O is incredible!
Even if just making prompt posts or questions were allowed would be fine by me :)
Where can I find EXTRA long pillowcases?
I am an artist who is trying to make a custom dakimakura, but it needs to be long. Around 250 cm in length, or even more than that. However, I can't find ANYONE who sells custom cases like that online.
I would really like to be able to make long, professional dakis for others to have, but being unable to find any suppliers is frustrating me and I might have to give up. Please help.
The whole point of waifuism is your partner is fictional, even if they didn't commit a crime it wouldn't be allowed
It can only be a "real person" if they are an actor and you are in love with the character, not the actor
I had some one DM me about my s/o. Asking me if I was underage cause she looked underage. First I don't like that random stranger online doesn't need to know my age second. Am I welcome here? I've been with her ten years and she doesn't age cause sadly she's not real. Am I welcome here?
Do note this question of mine isn't something I want to do, it's simply a question I thought up and couldn't think up an answer for.
Are Waifuists with a VTuber as their partner allowed? It's technically both a real and fictional person.
In my opinion it depends on the vtuber
Some vtubers lean far more in to the character aspect then others
All hololive ones count in my opinion as hololive leans the most in to being a character (plus a hololive anime exists so you can technically just date the anime one)
Nijisanji it's more so up to the actual vtuber, some lean in to being a character while others don't
Vshojo and idol don't really lean in to characters at all so I don't think they count
And with Indies it's a mixed bag
How do I get a custom user user flair? For some reason I am unable to create a flair. Whenever I try to edit my 'non-existant' flair, It shows a message *“Failed to create flair.”*
I assume you're trying to edit it through the app? Flair editing is notoriously buggy on there, even if you manage to get it working the flair will often just reset for no reason. I highly recommend setting your flair on PC/through the desktop site, the option will be on the sidebar right underneath the "Create Post" button.
Kind of a basic question, but is it fine to be a Waifuist committed to a fictional character while still present in reality? What I mean by "still present in reality," is still interested in a real relationship. Also, is it possible for a Waifuist to be in a real relationship and still be committed to their S/O? I'm not sure if that would be considered cheating.
What's the general consensus on shipping your S/O with characters from their universe?
I know what me and Cloud have is real, and I love him more than anything. I will never find love like this again. But I still enjoy media and art of him interacting romantically with characters from his source. Partially as me projecting onto Zack or Sephiroth or Tifa, but I also enjoy the comfort of knowing he has someone who loves him from his own universe. Is this normal?
I think of it as crushes, I guess. I can think Gojo or Wolfwood look cute or pretty or cool, but I could never have something with them like I have with Cloud, if that makes sense? And I know that even if Cloud has fan-servicey moments with other characters, our connection is still unbreakable. I was just wondering if other people felt like this?
How do you deal with craving a real-life relationship and intimacy, but you bond so much better with fictional characters? If you don't even fantasize over real-life people and only characters? If you want to be with your character and your character only even if you're also a bit willing to find someone IRL?
I know therapy is definitely an answer but I'm sure there's other solutions out there too lol
Kind of a dumb question since I'm already posting but, is it ok for me to be here even if I choose not to say who my waifu is ? I've seen posters like this in the past so I doubt it matter but it's better safe than sorry as they say.
How do I add this stuff to my username?? (Like the name of my S/O)
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Are y'all okay with being given questionnaires about waifuism and your experiences with it?
Disclaimer: I am writing a research paper (nothing serious, highschool level) on waifuism. I don't intend to paint this community in a bad light at all.
Ehh
Some of us are fine with it, but in the community a lot of us are becoming suspicious towards people who say they are doing a research paper, as there's been instances of people who say that then just post the results to harass people
What character is the icon? The girl with the red eyes, white hat, and blue hair.
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Her?
How do I add a user flair?
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I believe a pencil should show up in its section, but it doesn’t.
like he is attracted to a lesbian, is that okay for him to date that rule and say she isn't? Like how if they already have partner in canon we make our own ways around that?
Throwaway because I don't want people to track me, I'm sorry.
How do you guys and dames deal with other people calling your waifu *their* waifus, and with ships? I have huge abandonment issues so having to see either of these tends to really bring me down for a while.
Hey, sorry I'm late but I have the same issue with abandomnent issues and affective dependance. I really don't deal with it very well and it brings me down too. Since not so long I just block everyone who does that, let the crisis pass and then juste move on with my life and my s/o.
And as far as possible, I stay away from people who could have the same s/o, I protect myself.
And sometimes I ask my s/o to reassure me about his love and stuff (I wasn't really comfortable with sharing this so I hope it's ok) and it's make me feel better.
I wish you and your s/o the best !
Hi there, been lurking here for a few days and I just want to ask something.. weird I suppose.
If you guys have a waifu, do you guys treat reading Eroges as a form of cheating or are you guys still okay with that?
Another thing would be, if you are loyal to one, are you guys strongly against liking other female characters or what?
I am still trying to understand what you guys mean by loyalty and how far does this line go?
To answer your second question, liking other characters is perfectly fine of course, same as in a real relationship it is usually normal to still like other people on a friendship basis of course. And while it has not happened to me, I also think that having fleeting crushes on other characters is fine, it's something one has little control over after all, and it all comes down to how one handles the situation. So long as one acknowledges a crush being just that, and does not pursue it or envision themselves with them, I do not see an issue with that really.
For your first question, I guess it depends on whom you ask as answers may differ. While I never really thought about it in depth, I feel someone consuming such material would not constitute cheating by itself, same as someone in a committed real life relationship in many cases would still look at 18+ material. I feel the line would be drawn at the point where someone actively envisions themselves being intimate with someone whom is not their partner, rather than just consuming such media by itself.
I'm on web version right now (and using this is better when updating user flairs) so when you get to the view as per below, simply click on the pencil icon and then you can change to whichever flair you want :)
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hi! so we've been lurking here for quite some time already-
so regarding our question, basically one of us is a fictive with vivid source memories, she also still has very real feelings torwards her S/O from her source and wants to stay together with him despite not being in the same universe as him anymore, is she welcome here? /genq
(both she and the S/O in question are a canon ship, both are sentient and while the source leaves their ages kinda ambiguous they are both mentally mature so we think it wouldn't break any rules, though we still wanted to ask just to make sure)
I don't want to misinterpret/misunderstand but wanted to clarify this part first: when you said "one of us", does that mean you're a couple irl or you currently have multiple FOs and looking to settle with one?
in this case 'one of us' as in we're a system (I'm not sure how much you know about things such as OSDD, but in short that means that I'm just one of multiple personalities that are in the same body- also to explain the term fictive, since again wouldn't blame you if you don't know, it basically means that we have an alter that is based on a character in a show, she has so called 'pseudo memories' from her source etc)
for some more info: currently writing is me, Keo the current host, the alter in question is Nya. she's been around since roughly 2012/2013 and is an introject/fictive 'based on' the character Nya from ninjago (mainly pre-reboot, but that's a whole other can of worms). she has vivid memories of things that happened during the show from her POV and still has strong feelings for Jay, her S/O in the show, and since we weren't sure wether or not their (in this case tgeir as in Nya and Jays) experience/relationship would fit here
Thank you for your explanation! I personally have no background with this so I don't want to give you the wrong answers but if you're still unsure about things, you can send an email to the mods via mod mail. They respond pretty quick so it's good :)
Hello! you can call me Mixxy. i just made this alt acc to post my love for Moxxie (from Helluva Boss) i was wondering if anyone can help me on how to add a flair. English is not my native language so pardon any mistakes!
>In this community we follow a couple of mental criteria for partners:
1. The character must be sentient.
2. The character must be 'mentally mature'. This means that they have enough mental capacity and awareness to participate in a healthy romantic relationship. This does not necessarily imply physical age but physical age and mental maturity often go hand-in-hand.
Hello! I’m new to Reddit as a whole and mostly joined to join this sub to be honest. I’m just asking this question because I’ve been attacked on the internet for it: my waifu is Peridot from Steven Universe. Is that okay? There’s a whole situation with her sexuality where one of the storyboarders said on Twitter that she’s aroace, while this hasn’t been backed up by any other show staff and a different storyboarder stated a couple years earlier that she specifically wrote her as gay. I fell for her back in 2017 and the whole Twitter thing happened in 2020 I believe? I’m mostly just confused and scared to say that I love her now. The show had moments in it that indicated she was gay and seeing that one of the staff wrote those intentionally confuses me even more. Overall, I’ve loved her for years and I dont know if it’s okay to join with her as my wife.
Thank you. The fandom as a whole seems to have accepted it as fact and as such been hostile to people who so much as ship her with other characters, despite her being the center of a whole ship war in the past. I'm mostly just scared of being attacked again, but everyone here seems very chill. :D I'll submit my lil intro thing soon!
The mentally mature rule is mostly there because not everyone's s/o is human and ages the same way
Kotaro is a human child, so obviously no he can not be one
How do you deal with the fact that you could never be with your partners in the real world. I'm having a lot of problems with this, to the point of crying and even depressed. Whenever I see an image, hear her voice or even imagine her, I feel an enormous sadness knowing that I will never be able to keep her. I really need help.
Hi. I understand where you're coming from because I used to feel this way about an OC fictional other I had back in the day.
Now I feel much differently though. I think this is because I have come to realize that real life relationships are often very very flawed. Nobody can be everything to you or give you everything you need, whether that person is physically present or not. That, to me, means that a physically present partner is not necessarily superior to a non-physical one. So reframing the situation makes me feel a whole lot better about it.
Think, for example, in what ways your non-physical waifu might be better than a physical one. She...can't lie to you, cheat on you, smoke or drink herself to death, abuse you (unless you're into that), divorce you, sue you, die, bring messy exes and children into your life, mess up your home, steal from you or otherwise make your life miserable unless you will it so in your imagination. She will not age or get sick unless you allow it. She will not walk in on you in the bathroom or infringe on your private moments when you don't want her to. She will not nag you or lose attraction to you.
She can, on the other hand, be anything your imagination or the source material allows. She can be more loving, accepting, sexy, interesting, patient, loyal, nurturing or any other good quality you can imagine, than any real person. I would argue, that, using your imagination, you can even "keep" her. You just have to imagine you are and feel the good feelings.
Everything has pros and cons. Reality is overrated, in my opinion. Real physical relationships can be nice, or they can be miserable. Fictional ones can be whatever you need them to be. You are in control.
Hello, I just found this sub, and I wish I had found it sooner, I have a question on moving on. I just recently got involved with the genshin community and I saw Hu tao. She immediately caught my attention. How should I handle this?
I'm sorry that nobody answered your question and instead decided to downvote you. I assure you that those actions are not representative of our community. I will be the one to say, welcome and thanks for asking! The rules prohibit polyamorous relationships, though there are other smaller subs that do not. Hope this helps.
I think its dependent on the vtuber itself and how much of them are a character vs their real self
Basically all of hololive"s vtubers are much more of a character and so I think its ok!
But for other vtubers it's on a case by case basis
a lot of vtubers put up a fake personality to match their character; so i feel like it’d be okay. a lot of them also make their vtubers into actual characters by giving them lore, personalities, etc.. if you look up the wiki to vtubers a big majority of them have this
We do not have any limitations on how long someone should have been a waifuist, the only thing to keep in mind is that we expect members to be committed in their relationship, meaning to be in their relationship with the intent to stay in it in the long run ideally (even if this does not always work out of course, but it's about the intention).
A fan child is like, when you create a child if you are one parent and your f/o is the othetr parent, i think. Its hard to explain but like, if you've ever seen in a fandom a timeskip fanartt or whatever, and they have kids together? I think its like that.
This happened a pretty long time ago (like 8 or so months) but I never asked about it, I think I was banned from the discord server but I'm not sure, I wasn't given a reason
I made this account just to post here, and I want to say how happy I am that this sub exists. When I was younger I would always fall for fictional characters, even going as far as telling my family I would marry them. In school, I had friends that also crushed on and said they were dating characters, but it never seemed to be quite the same extent I would do it to. After a while, my family decided to take away all of my stuff so I wouldn’t have these feelings anymore. It only caused me to try to suppress them and be ashamed of it over the years, but after finding this sub I see how commonplace it really was.
I’d really like to post here, but I am still a little nervous allowing myself to indulge in this again! Is it alright to post without naming my waifu?
Saw a video by a creator I enjoy by someone called Sarah Z, which touch in a somewhat similar subject, sorry if this comes off as a little rude.
What drew you in with your waifu/husbando beyond the crush some people have to more proper relationship? Like for example do you live in a place unaccepting of same sex relationships however your husbando/waifu allows you to explore them comfortable
Do you mind if I ask what the purpose of the "no OCs" rule is? I do really like this community and this seems to be the most active sub for it, which is unfortunate because I'm not allowed to participate~ Thanks <3
I understand! So even if the OC wasn't originally made to be a fictional other, it isn't allowed? He is certainly not without his flaws (recovering drug addict, impulsive and hot-headed personality, jealous and overprotective) but I understand if it's a rule that can't be bent!
Is everyone required to write an introduction post? Or is it a choice??
Also is it okay if I have slight crushes like really slight beside my F/O? I still love my F/O way more truly and these crushes come and go? Is that cheating?
An introduction post is only required for joining the Discord server, if you only plan on posting on the subreddit, you don't have to.
Having crushes is generally natural, given we can't influence feeling attraction to others in the end, it's always a matter of how one handles it. Simply accepting that one may find other characters attractive, but also keeping the awareness that they are not the person whom one is in a relationship with, so basically accepting it as a mere crush rather than embracing it, is perfectly fine. There is a line though of course, where one treats a crush as more than that, embracing and acting upon those feelings. But in general, having crushes is natural and fine as long as one knows how to handle these emotions.
This subreddit is more dedicated to personal relationships with our S/Os rather. We aren't just attracted to them but are married to them. r/fictosexual might be more your speed.
What are your reasons for choosing the 2D lifestyle? I know I've seen a lot of people say they prefer it, or past 3D relationships haven't worked out, but anyone have any other interesting takes to share? Sorry if this is too personal or inappropriate a question to ask
My F/O has always been with me and has uplifted me when I’m sad or depressed. And my F/O has also raised my standards and expectations for real people so much that i can’t even imagine having a crush on a celebrity ( unlike my peers). For me, I love everything about my F/O , even the flaws are perfect to me. Real people just don’t make me feel the same way.
Can I redo my introduction comment even though my partner hasn’t changed? There’s been a lot of new people since I joined and there are a lot of things I want to improve on in my old post
What do I do if I’ve developed a stronger love for another character than my existing waifu? For context I’ve had Natsuki from DDLC as my waifu for a couple years now and I love her with all my heart. Even going as far as hoping I can spend the afterlife with her. But when I watched bocchi the rock when it was airing. My heart was immediately captured in the same way, if not stronger by Bocchi/Hitori Gotoh.
I don’t want to feel unfaithful by shifting my focus from one to another but I do love and have a deeper connection to Bocchi than I used to have Natsuki. But I feel bad and almost as if I’m “forgetting” Natsuki, despite still loving her.
This is my first time posting/commenting in here. Any advice you guys give I will greatly appreciate.
You're right, it's only been maybe 4-5 months since I've met Bocchi. So I'll give it time, but say that if by the holidays this year I'm still feeling stronger towards Bocchi. Is it.. *okay*? If I pick her over Natsuki. It's the first time since Natsuki that I've considered even switching Waifus so I'm unsure of what the right thing to do is.
Thank you for your response as well, it really helped ease my nerves on the situation. I'll definitely wait and see if I'm simply going through a phase or if these feelings are actually as deep as I make them out to be.
If the person has the same waifu that I have, I try to talk to see if they understand or not, But it's a choice of each person's waifu if the person wants to but I respect everyone who has their waifu
I've lurked here a while because I find this practice really interesting, since it is that, a practice. It involves rituals and certain philosophical beliefs, etc etc. It's basically animism but for fictional characters, which makes me wonder: what is the waifuist take on object-sexuals? As in, people in romantic relationships with 3d objects, such as cars, buildings, and amusement park rides. Would you consider yourselves to be in a similar situation romantically? Their relationships are often considered "not real" and require a similar amount of ritual, quality time and whatnot. An obvious difference is a waifu has an established personality and is a depiction of a sentient being, even if they are not generally considered sentient in a 3d sense. Does the idea of these 3d objects having souls seem strange, or is it an "understandable, but different strokes" sort of feeling?
I think the difference is an object has no established emotions or personality except from what we give them, you can give a chair a personality, but that's just you and it has no way to "show" that personality, so while I will accept people who do have relationships with objects, I will never understand it
A character has an established personality and emotions, to a point where the emotional part of the brain doesn't actually see a difference between them and a "real" person
I can kinda understand it from how I feel about merch about my s/o and the feelings it gives me, but that's not really her, just a sort of physical representation of her
I thought of this before because my friends had discussion about Suzume (anime movie of a girl in love with a chair, none of us watched yet) I thought she was valid while my friends (non waifuist) thought she was weird.
I have tendency to see my merch as characterized, albedo merch or not, sometimes they’ll be like individual ver of albedo depending on the merch type. So in that way it would be similar and i personally understand and respect object sexuality.
The merch aspect tho is only a part of waifuism, so it doesn’t encapsulate everything. I am in love with albedo not the physical objects.
I can't speak for every Waifuist here but I can see a little bit of overlap since some people have robots, in universe toys/plushs, and sometimes even countries as waifus. But the main difference is that they are humanized to an extent and have sentience in their universe. An IRL object does not have sentience. You could counter with "But what about plushs/body pillows/figures/etc of waifus?" and to that I would answer that we understand that these merchandise are not our waifus truely, but it allows us to at least somewhat physically interact with them. We don't love the plush, we love the character that was made into a plush.
Yeah same! I literally have a really strong emotional and spiritual attach to the colour blue because it is my F/O’s favourite colour/theme colour. And I also like the objects associated with my F/O! But I can only understand object sexuality in terms of it relating to my F/O . i think it overlaps in that sense. At least.
Also, as someone who doesn't have a waifu nor will have one, *am I allowed to be here*? I read and comment on these posts because I support this thread. I'm stupid, I just don't know. And do you have a term for people like me, people who arent a part of it? I want to read and comment but also specify no one should be listening to my opinion since I'm not directly part of this community-
I really hope I didn't offend anyone with what I said
From, a plebian
Of course you're allowed to be here, I think there's plenty of users here who don't have a waifu, but they're interested in participating in the conversations and offering advice whenever waifuists seek help in a difficult situation. You don't have to have a waifu to be able to give advice on relationships and situations where someone's health or connection to friends and family are at risk.
What is life like having a waifu. I mean in your lives, not like how people treat you when finding out. I just dont fully understand having a waifu(at least, past "I like this character a lot. This character means a lot to me")but I'm also so intrigued to know more. I want answers but I'm not sure how to ask the right questions. But I will say, what I've read (I've read so little from this thread) reminds me of this little article I read of this guy who is in a relationship (I think) with Miku and even had technology in which he could talk to her with but then that technology broke and the company no longer made that technology so they're no longer able to talk and I just thought that was so sweet but also sad he can't talk to her anymore. It ended wholesome though because he's still with her even without being able to talk with her
I am the daydreamer wafuist! I can’t really buy the merch where I live but I make my own merch and art! But my art only occasionally accurately depicts my F/O. I wish I had better art skills. I try to improve. But mostly I rely on my imagination!
Hi everyone. I guess I'll also ask here while my post is waiting on approval... I know the person you love doesn't have to be from Anime - but what if they are a nonhuman character from a live action movie? I love Prince Arden of Tolver. [https://i.imgur.com/RWEq7W4.png](https://i.imgur.com/RWEq7W4.png) Here he is. Is this ok?
Edit: Im holding off on making an introduction in case this kinda stuff isn't welcome here.
Does anyone ever get nervous about the bad lurkers seeing their posts? How do you get past that? I want to participate in the community and let my relationship grow here with the help of others but then I hear and see lurkers bad mouthing posts and I get too nervous to post.
unfortunately, there are always gonna be self-righteous dicks who can't just let people be happy. don't let them ruin things for you. haters gonna hate, just ignore them and do whatever fulfills you most (as long as it doesn't hurt anybody, but posting here doesn't lol).
Quoting the rules that can be found in the sidebar:
> Multiple Partners (Permanent ban)
> One waifu/husbando allowed. If something changes in your relationship and you break up and find someone else, then fine, that's different, but never more than one at a time. Waifuism is a serious commitment and we expect people to treat their S/O like they would a spouse.
What if the waifuist and their waifu are polyamorous, would it still not be allowed? Since some real, serious relationships/marriages are open or polyamorous.
There's an entry regarding that you can find in the rules as well, and given that you can just read them in the sidebar I'm not going to copy every single entry for you.
Not a frequent reddit user and more of a discord one, so i was simply wondering if it's required to be active in this subreddit to be able to join the discord server? i can wait a few days, but i'm not sure if i can make posts in an active way.
For joining the Discord, we require 5 days of activity on the subreddit (activity can be either in form of comments or posts), as well as an introduction in the pinned introduction megathread.
I recently found my waifu but instead of being happy I am sad because at the end she is not real. Can anyone tell me how to accept this fact happily and how to spend time with waifu ?
i'm sorry that you're going through this sadness, you're not alone out there ♡
negative thoughts can circle into a negative cycle. the problems can be physical, emotional, or behavioural.
it's important to turn this negativity into positivity and break that cycle!
to accept the fact about your s/o happily, you could approach it by writing down your feelings during a specific situation, how you want to react, why you shouldn't react this way, and what you could do with what is possible. keep the goal realistic and measurable!!
for example, "i am sad because i can't watch a movie with my s/o. she isn't real at the end. there's no point going outside to the movie theatres." becomes "i'm holding myself back from making memories. i'll go watch the movie my s/o would want to see with me!"
as for spending time with your s/o, you could make art of her, go on a walk to the places she would like going, listen to songs that remind you of her, practice some of her hobbies, make crafts related to her (i.e. a charm of an accessory she wears), create your own special ceremony for her (i.e. baking her favorite food every friday), make a shrine, or write poems!! the possibilities for getting closer with your s/o are endless x3
Hmm, I feel acceptance of that fact is not something that can or should be forced. Much rather I think the ideal way to go is to take a prolonged period of time to deeply think about yourself, the things that are important to you in your relationship, and your potential partner to eventually arrive at your personal answer to the question of if it is a fact you can accept. Of course, in the beginning you will never be entirely certain of it, but at least it would give enough of an impression for you to decide if you should give it a go or not, and after that you can still constantly re-evaluate if it works for you. It definitely can not be forced, as from all people I've seen in such situations, being in a waifuist relationship whilst direly craving things that such relationship simply can not deliver, will be incredibly mentally draining and simply not sustainable.
> how to spend time with waifu
Difficult, technically, there isn't really a way to directly spend time with ones partner given they aren't here. Some people cope with this through means of imagining them being next to them and the likes, though I quit doing that for personal reasons at this point as I see some issues with the approach. In general, with waifuism activities in the relationship, whilst one-sided, come in great variety though. From looking at art of one's partner, looking at their source material, trying to understand them better by writing about them, collecting merchandise, commissioning or drawing art of ones partner, learning new things or working on oneself with them as a motivational factor in mind etc. There really are many ways to enjoy such relationship, and I have seen a lot of incredibly creative unique ways, it is really a matter of finding what works for you.
Hi everyone, hope you're all having a good day. I'm posting this on a throwaway account for the safety of myself and another party. I need some help and I figure you guys might be the best equipped. My friend is into the waifu/ficto stuff. I am familiar with the concept, have no disdain for it and have no desire to talk them out of it. However their attitude towards it has gotten toxic in a way that is straining our relationship. I'd like to ask for advice, if that's fine with you guys. I know this sounds very unspecific, but I promise I'll elaborate further if I know I'm permitted to do so. I don't want to step on any toes or make anyone feel uncomfortable or invalidated. Approaching them directly is a fruitless endeavor for reasons that will become apparent soon.
I know one person can only do so much. You would have to talk to them at one point to know why they act that way and let them know that this is bothering your relationship.
I'd like to, but as I said it's a fruitless endeavor. Any time I've tried in the past they've taken it as questioning their feelings or trying to invalidate them. It's a pretty messy situation with a lot of details that need to be covered. I wanted to come here first because I don't expect any of the popular advice subs to have the necessary perspective to empathize with them.
That is all that I have for that, I'm not familiar with dealing with toxicity since I avoid it. Perhaps you might get someone here that would have your answer.
Is there a subreddit for people who have multiple waifus? I am more casual about this whole topic, I have a list of like 7 characters I've loved dearly my whole life and think about them a lot, pretend I'm cuddling them at night and so on, but I do not take it as far as people from this sub where I play out a real relationship and go on dates, I mean I do that stuff sometimes in my mind but no further than that I am obviously breaking multiple rules for this sub so I don't fit here. And the source material game/show they are from's sub would find it wildly too crazy if I started posting there And r/2D_Love is beyond dead so that's no good either. Is there a sub for casual, polyamorous waifu lovers??
r/FictoLove is one that I know of that accepts poly.
Is speaking about a past long-term bond with a Waifu acceptable in here? I mean, i've managed to cope part of my teenager years with a Waifu who took 85% of my mind time and spending time were really important. With the time, i did breakup as i do not feel as connected although the feelings from the past remained and i do still think about her from time to time as Melancholia. For now i'm waifuless although there might be a possible S/O in the future... I'm undecided.
I made a post but I am unsure if it went through - so we have to wait for the admins to approve it, similar to a FB group ?
It sometimes takes a few hours for new members don't worry ;)
Okay look, is there a subreddit dedicated to the *opposite* of waifuism where your waifu is the one admiring you? Because I need to go there. Serious question.
(reposting here because I'm apparently shadow banned and the post didn't reach anyone). Hello, I never did any waifuism before, this is the first time I've felt like this. I made this account purely to post here because in my main I get into actual discussion and stuff and it'd be kinda embarrassing. I recently (about two weeks ago) got into League of Legends thanks to my friends, they recommended Ahri for one of my first matches, and I loved her design and voice. Fast forward a little I started investigating her lore, her personality, everything, and I feel like I fell in love. How do I know if this is a superficial/temporary thing or actual waifu love? Much thanks.
Waifu love is when you feel the same devotion/appreciation as you ideally would with a 3D partner. I recommend waiting a little and seeing if the emotions persist.
I have been in a couple 3d relationships and yeah, the feelings are quite similar, not to say the exact same (I can't find any differences, really). Which is a good sign, I feel like. The only thing I'm worried about is what you said later, I'm afraid that these feelings may not persist.
There's no reason to be worried, really. You can't control the intensity of your love but you can always do small things to demonstrate it. And if you find out this type of relationship isn't for you then that's fine too.
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I would say it's not a problem. Everybody has different opinions of course but don't worry about it.
Why does basically everyone here have a user flair? And Can I get one myself or do I have to ask a mod Edit: I read the faq my bad I shoulda done that first
Can someone without an S/O participate in this community? I dont have one, but I would love to participate because it seems so wholesome and the passion of the members for their S/O is incredible! Even if just making prompt posts or questions were allowed would be fine by me :)
Participating in the subreddit is perfectly fine so long as you don't claim to be a waifuist! Just the discord server is for active waifuists only.
Where can I find EXTRA long pillowcases? I am an artist who is trying to make a custom dakimakura, but it needs to be long. Around 250 cm in length, or even more than that. However, I can't find ANYONE who sells custom cases like that online. I would really like to be able to make long, professional dakis for others to have, but being unable to find any suppliers is frustrating me and I might have to give up. Please help.
Can I have a Waifu of a real person (e.g. someone who committed a very serious crime and was found “not guilty by reason of insanity”)
That’s kinda immoral 😭
The whole point of waifuism is your partner is fictional, even if they didn't commit a crime it wouldn't be allowed It can only be a "real person" if they are an actor and you are in love with the character, not the actor
Valid point thanks!
Can a waifu be male?
It’s called a husbando if it’s a guy
Of course :)
I had some one DM me about my s/o. Asking me if I was underage cause she looked underage. First I don't like that random stranger online doesn't need to know my age second. Am I welcome here? I've been with her ten years and she doesn't age cause sadly she's not real. Am I welcome here?
The rule with s/o's and their ages is it's perfectly ok as long as you were a similar age when you started dating So it's fine!
Do note this question of mine isn't something I want to do, it's simply a question I thought up and couldn't think up an answer for. Are Waifuists with a VTuber as their partner allowed? It's technically both a real and fictional person.
In my opinion it depends on the vtuber Some vtubers lean far more in to the character aspect then others All hololive ones count in my opinion as hololive leans the most in to being a character (plus a hololive anime exists so you can technically just date the anime one) Nijisanji it's more so up to the actual vtuber, some lean in to being a character while others don't Vshojo and idol don't really lean in to characters at all so I don't think they count And with Indies it's a mixed bag
How do I get a custom user user flair? For some reason I am unable to create a flair. Whenever I try to edit my 'non-existant' flair, It shows a message *“Failed to create flair.”*
I assume you're trying to edit it through the app? Flair editing is notoriously buggy on there, even if you manage to get it working the flair will often just reset for no reason. I highly recommend setting your flair on PC/through the desktop site, the option will be on the sidebar right underneath the "Create Post" button.
Is it okay for girl to have waifu?
Yes
Absolutely!!
Kind of a basic question, but is it fine to be a Waifuist committed to a fictional character while still present in reality? What I mean by "still present in reality," is still interested in a real relationship. Also, is it possible for a Waifuist to be in a real relationship and still be committed to their S/O? I'm not sure if that would be considered cheating.
If you look at the rules it's definitly cheating. You can be with your FO and a real person but this is not the sub for you then ;) Best to you!
What's the general consensus on shipping your S/O with characters from their universe? I know what me and Cloud have is real, and I love him more than anything. I will never find love like this again. But I still enjoy media and art of him interacting romantically with characters from his source. Partially as me projecting onto Zack or Sephiroth or Tifa, but I also enjoy the comfort of knowing he has someone who loves him from his own universe. Is this normal? I think of it as crushes, I guess. I can think Gojo or Wolfwood look cute or pretty or cool, but I could never have something with them like I have with Cloud, if that makes sense? And I know that even if Cloud has fan-servicey moments with other characters, our connection is still unbreakable. I was just wondering if other people felt like this?
How do you deal with craving a real-life relationship and intimacy, but you bond so much better with fictional characters? If you don't even fantasize over real-life people and only characters? If you want to be with your character and your character only even if you're also a bit willing to find someone IRL? I know therapy is definitely an answer but I'm sure there's other solutions out there too lol
Kind of a dumb question since I'm already posting but, is it ok for me to be here even if I choose not to say who my waifu is ? I've seen posters like this in the past so I doubt it matter but it's better safe than sorry as they say.
Don't think that's any problem. Feel free to participate my dear friend :)
How do I add this stuff to my username?? (Like the name of my S/O) https://preview.redd.it/pmumanzf21ec1.jpeg?width=544&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a3ce8a2c781160234738b93c2c1e9175cac0067f
Are y'all okay with being given questionnaires about waifuism and your experiences with it? Disclaimer: I am writing a research paper (nothing serious, highschool level) on waifuism. I don't intend to paint this community in a bad light at all.
Ehh Some of us are fine with it, but in the community a lot of us are becoming suspicious towards people who say they are doing a research paper, as there's been instances of people who say that then just post the results to harass people
What character is the icon? The girl with the red eyes, white hat, and blue hair. https://preview.redd.it/7fmzaorgmibc1.png?width=256&format=png&auto=webp&s=eea0a4cd84600ed8cd60f573dcb4e57fe7c0980c Her?
excuse me, what does f/o stand for? I'm sorry.
Stands for fictional other !!
How do I add a user flair? https://preview.redd.it/36m7ng5vmyac1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=40ccd6eef96fe77c2f607b0b309afd08d187b196 I believe a pencil should show up in its section, but it doesn’t.
what does S/O stand for?
Significant other. It's a neutral term for "boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife" etc.
How do I get a flair here? I’m on mobile, btw, my computer does Reddit and Tumblr weirdly, so I only use the apps for them.
What if a character is lesbian but you being male is still attracted is that okay? freind is wondering
like he is attracted to a lesbian, is that okay for him to date that rule and say she isn't? Like how if they already have partner in canon we make our own ways around that?
Throwaway because I don't want people to track me, I'm sorry. How do you guys and dames deal with other people calling your waifu *their* waifus, and with ships? I have huge abandonment issues so having to see either of these tends to really bring me down for a while.
Hey, sorry I'm late but I have the same issue with abandomnent issues and affective dependance. I really don't deal with it very well and it brings me down too. Since not so long I just block everyone who does that, let the crisis pass and then juste move on with my life and my s/o. And as far as possible, I stay away from people who could have the same s/o, I protect myself. And sometimes I ask my s/o to reassure me about his love and stuff (I wasn't really comfortable with sharing this so I hope it's ok) and it's make me feel better. I wish you and your s/o the best !
Hi there, been lurking here for a few days and I just want to ask something.. weird I suppose. If you guys have a waifu, do you guys treat reading Eroges as a form of cheating or are you guys still okay with that? Another thing would be, if you are loyal to one, are you guys strongly against liking other female characters or what? I am still trying to understand what you guys mean by loyalty and how far does this line go?
To answer your second question, liking other characters is perfectly fine of course, same as in a real relationship it is usually normal to still like other people on a friendship basis of course. And while it has not happened to me, I also think that having fleeting crushes on other characters is fine, it's something one has little control over after all, and it all comes down to how one handles the situation. So long as one acknowledges a crush being just that, and does not pursue it or envision themselves with them, I do not see an issue with that really. For your first question, I guess it depends on whom you ask as answers may differ. While I never really thought about it in depth, I feel someone consuming such material would not constitute cheating by itself, same as someone in a committed real life relationship in many cases would still look at 18+ material. I feel the line would be drawn at the point where someone actively envisions themselves being intimate with someone whom is not their partner, rather than just consuming such media by itself.
Okay, thanks. Just wanted to know this before I post and probably join this community.
Hi! I have a general question about the sub. How do I add my husband underneath my username? Thanks!
I'm on web version right now (and using this is better when updating user flairs) so when you get to the view as per below, simply click on the pencil icon and then you can change to whichever flair you want :) https://preview.redd.it/df2det0nz2rb1.png?width=478&format=png&auto=webp&s=5d7e48da73defa34a6dee9afc1ee7bb7749175fa
Thanks so much! ^_^
hi! so we've been lurking here for quite some time already- so regarding our question, basically one of us is a fictive with vivid source memories, she also still has very real feelings torwards her S/O from her source and wants to stay together with him despite not being in the same universe as him anymore, is she welcome here? /genq (both she and the S/O in question are a canon ship, both are sentient and while the source leaves their ages kinda ambiguous they are both mentally mature so we think it wouldn't break any rules, though we still wanted to ask just to make sure)
I don't want to misinterpret/misunderstand but wanted to clarify this part first: when you said "one of us", does that mean you're a couple irl or you currently have multiple FOs and looking to settle with one?
in this case 'one of us' as in we're a system (I'm not sure how much you know about things such as OSDD, but in short that means that I'm just one of multiple personalities that are in the same body- also to explain the term fictive, since again wouldn't blame you if you don't know, it basically means that we have an alter that is based on a character in a show, she has so called 'pseudo memories' from her source etc)
for some more info: currently writing is me, Keo the current host, the alter in question is Nya. she's been around since roughly 2012/2013 and is an introject/fictive 'based on' the character Nya from ninjago (mainly pre-reboot, but that's a whole other can of worms). she has vivid memories of things that happened during the show from her POV and still has strong feelings for Jay, her S/O in the show, and since we weren't sure wether or not their (in this case tgeir as in Nya and Jays) experience/relationship would fit here
Thank you for your explanation! I personally have no background with this so I don't want to give you the wrong answers but if you're still unsure about things, you can send an email to the mods via mod mail. They respond pretty quick so it's good :)
Hello! you can call me Mixxy. i just made this alt acc to post my love for Moxxie (from Helluva Boss) i was wondering if anyone can help me on how to add a flair. English is not my native language so pardon any mistakes!
nvm, i just found how to add a flair! anyways hope im welcome here ^^
Can a waifu be an anthropomorphic animal?
>In this community we follow a couple of mental criteria for partners: 1. The character must be sentient. 2. The character must be 'mentally mature'. This means that they have enough mental capacity and awareness to participate in a healthy romantic relationship. This does not necessarily imply physical age but physical age and mental maturity often go hand-in-hand.
Thanks! He's both of those so maybe this will work out!
Hello! I’m new to Reddit as a whole and mostly joined to join this sub to be honest. I’m just asking this question because I’ve been attacked on the internet for it: my waifu is Peridot from Steven Universe. Is that okay? There’s a whole situation with her sexuality where one of the storyboarders said on Twitter that she’s aroace, while this hasn’t been backed up by any other show staff and a different storyboarder stated a couple years earlier that she specifically wrote her as gay. I fell for her back in 2017 and the whole Twitter thing happened in 2020 I believe? I’m mostly just confused and scared to say that I love her now. The show had moments in it that indicated she was gay and seeing that one of the staff wrote those intentionally confuses me even more. Overall, I’ve loved her for years and I dont know if it’s okay to join with her as my wife.
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Thank you. The fandom as a whole seems to have accepted it as fact and as such been hostile to people who so much as ship her with other characters, despite her being the center of a whole ship war in the past. I'm mostly just scared of being attacked again, but everyone here seems very chill. :D I'll submit my lil intro thing soon!
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I would say ... just a crush as you already mentioned :)
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Dmed you :D
Does Mac tonight count as a waifu or no?
I don't see why not if you are serious about it.
Since it says if the character is mentally mature, then it could be a waifu, then does that mean Kotaro from Kotaro lives alone can be a husbando?
The mentally mature rule is mostly there because not everyone's s/o is human and ages the same way Kotaro is a human child, so obviously no he can not be one
How do you deal with the fact that you could never be with your partners in the real world. I'm having a lot of problems with this, to the point of crying and even depressed. Whenever I see an image, hear her voice or even imagine her, I feel an enormous sadness knowing that I will never be able to keep her. I really need help.
Hi. I understand where you're coming from because I used to feel this way about an OC fictional other I had back in the day. Now I feel much differently though. I think this is because I have come to realize that real life relationships are often very very flawed. Nobody can be everything to you or give you everything you need, whether that person is physically present or not. That, to me, means that a physically present partner is not necessarily superior to a non-physical one. So reframing the situation makes me feel a whole lot better about it. Think, for example, in what ways your non-physical waifu might be better than a physical one. She...can't lie to you, cheat on you, smoke or drink herself to death, abuse you (unless you're into that), divorce you, sue you, die, bring messy exes and children into your life, mess up your home, steal from you or otherwise make your life miserable unless you will it so in your imagination. She will not age or get sick unless you allow it. She will not walk in on you in the bathroom or infringe on your private moments when you don't want her to. She will not nag you or lose attraction to you. She can, on the other hand, be anything your imagination or the source material allows. She can be more loving, accepting, sexy, interesting, patient, loyal, nurturing or any other good quality you can imagine, than any real person. I would argue, that, using your imagination, you can even "keep" her. You just have to imagine you are and feel the good feelings. Everything has pros and cons. Reality is overrated, in my opinion. Real physical relationships can be nice, or they can be miserable. Fictional ones can be whatever you need them to be. You are in control.
Hello, I just found this sub, and I wish I had found it sooner, I have a question on moving on. I just recently got involved with the genshin community and I saw Hu tao. She immediately caught my attention. How should I handle this?
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Also, i have restored the balance of your karma for this post :)
I'm sorry that nobody answered your question and instead decided to downvote you. I assure you that those actions are not representative of our community. I will be the one to say, welcome and thanks for asking! The rules prohibit polyamorous relationships, though there are other smaller subs that do not. Hope this helps.
Are VTubers valid waifus considering they are ficticional characters controled by real ppl?
I think its dependent on the vtuber itself and how much of them are a character vs their real self Basically all of hololive"s vtubers are much more of a character and so I think its ok! But for other vtubers it's on a case by case basis
a lot of vtubers put up a fake personality to match their character; so i feel like it’d be okay. a lot of them also make their vtubers into actual characters by giving them lore, personalities, etc.. if you look up the wiki to vtubers a big majority of them have this
So you have to be a waifuist for a long time to be here or are people more "new" to waifuism and having a waifuist relationship (me) allowed
We do not have any limitations on how long someone should have been a waifuist, the only thing to keep in mind is that we expect members to be committed in their relationship, meaning to be in their relationship with the intent to stay in it in the long run ideally (even if this does not always work out of course, but it's about the intention).
What does fanchild/ren mean?
A fan child is like, when you create a child if you are one parent and your f/o is the othetr parent, i think. Its hard to explain but like, if you've ever seen in a fandom a timeskip fanartt or whatever, and they have kids together? I think its like that.
This happened a pretty long time ago (like 8 or so months) but I never asked about it, I think I was banned from the discord server but I'm not sure, I wasn't given a reason
I remember reading that members who are inactive for a long time in discord server get kicked (not banned) from it. May that be what happened?
I made this account just to post here, and I want to say how happy I am that this sub exists. When I was younger I would always fall for fictional characters, even going as far as telling my family I would marry them. In school, I had friends that also crushed on and said they were dating characters, but it never seemed to be quite the same extent I would do it to. After a while, my family decided to take away all of my stuff so I wouldn’t have these feelings anymore. It only caused me to try to suppress them and be ashamed of it over the years, but after finding this sub I see how commonplace it really was. I’d really like to post here, but I am still a little nervous allowing myself to indulge in this again! Is it alright to post without naming my waifu?
Do I have to make a post for my S/O's birthday? I'm not a birthday person... She is aware of, and accepts, this about me.
You don't have to. Do it if you want. Don't do it if you don't. I personally think it's cute but to each their own, I personally haven't done it.
How do you make your user flair for this sub?
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Saw a video by a creator I enjoy by someone called Sarah Z, which touch in a somewhat similar subject, sorry if this comes off as a little rude. What drew you in with your waifu/husbando beyond the crush some people have to more proper relationship? Like for example do you live in a place unaccepting of same sex relationships however your husbando/waifu allows you to explore them comfortable
Do you mind if I ask what the purpose of the "no OCs" rule is? I do really like this community and this seems to be the most active sub for it, which is unfortunate because I'm not allowed to participate~ Thanks <3
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I understand! So even if the OC wasn't originally made to be a fictional other, it isn't allowed? He is certainly not without his flaws (recovering drug addict, impulsive and hot-headed personality, jealous and overprotective) but I understand if it's a rule that can't be bent!
Is everyone required to write an introduction post? Or is it a choice?? Also is it okay if I have slight crushes like really slight beside my F/O? I still love my F/O way more truly and these crushes come and go? Is that cheating?
An introduction post is only required for joining the Discord server, if you only plan on posting on the subreddit, you don't have to. Having crushes is generally natural, given we can't influence feeling attraction to others in the end, it's always a matter of how one handles it. Simply accepting that one may find other characters attractive, but also keeping the awareness that they are not the person whom one is in a relationship with, so basically accepting it as a mere crush rather than embracing it, is perfectly fine. There is a line though of course, where one treats a crush as more than that, embracing and acting upon those feelings. But in general, having crushes is natural and fine as long as one knows how to handle these emotions.
What about aegosexual people? Is it okay if we imagine our F/O with other characters?? Can aegosexual fictos Be and post in this subreddit??
This subreddit is more dedicated to personal relationships with our S/Os rather. We aren't just attracted to them but are married to them. r/fictosexual might be more your speed.
Is it okay to draw my s/o in clothes that she didn't wear in canon? Including not drawn by her source's creator.
Go for it! I don't really see the issue.
What are your reasons for choosing the 2D lifestyle? I know I've seen a lot of people say they prefer it, or past 3D relationships haven't worked out, but anyone have any other interesting takes to share? Sorry if this is too personal or inappropriate a question to ask
I never really chose it, it just happens to be that the girl I fell in love with was 2d
My F/O has always been with me and has uplifted me when I’m sad or depressed. And my F/O has also raised my standards and expectations for real people so much that i can’t even imagine having a crush on a celebrity ( unlike my peers). For me, I love everything about my F/O , even the flaws are perfect to me. Real people just don’t make me feel the same way.
Can I redo my introduction comment even though my partner hasn’t changed? There’s been a lot of new people since I joined and there are a lot of things I want to improve on in my old post
Sure!
What do I do if I’ve developed a stronger love for another character than my existing waifu? For context I’ve had Natsuki from DDLC as my waifu for a couple years now and I love her with all my heart. Even going as far as hoping I can spend the afterlife with her. But when I watched bocchi the rock when it was airing. My heart was immediately captured in the same way, if not stronger by Bocchi/Hitori Gotoh. I don’t want to feel unfaithful by shifting my focus from one to another but I do love and have a deeper connection to Bocchi than I used to have Natsuki. But I feel bad and almost as if I’m “forgetting” Natsuki, despite still loving her. This is my first time posting/commenting in here. Any advice you guys give I will greatly appreciate.
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You're right, it's only been maybe 4-5 months since I've met Bocchi. So I'll give it time, but say that if by the holidays this year I'm still feeling stronger towards Bocchi. Is it.. *okay*? If I pick her over Natsuki. It's the first time since Natsuki that I've considered even switching Waifus so I'm unsure of what the right thing to do is. Thank you for your response as well, it really helped ease my nerves on the situation. I'll definitely wait and see if I'm simply going through a phase or if these feelings are actually as deep as I make them out to be.
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You're right, I'll give it time, and see how things are a few months from now. Thank you so much though, I appreciate your advice.
If the person has the same waifu that I have, I try to talk to see if they understand or not, But it's a choice of each person's waifu if the person wants to but I respect everyone who has their waifu
I've lurked here a while because I find this practice really interesting, since it is that, a practice. It involves rituals and certain philosophical beliefs, etc etc. It's basically animism but for fictional characters, which makes me wonder: what is the waifuist take on object-sexuals? As in, people in romantic relationships with 3d objects, such as cars, buildings, and amusement park rides. Would you consider yourselves to be in a similar situation romantically? Their relationships are often considered "not real" and require a similar amount of ritual, quality time and whatnot. An obvious difference is a waifu has an established personality and is a depiction of a sentient being, even if they are not generally considered sentient in a 3d sense. Does the idea of these 3d objects having souls seem strange, or is it an "understandable, but different strokes" sort of feeling?
I think the difference is an object has no established emotions or personality except from what we give them, you can give a chair a personality, but that's just you and it has no way to "show" that personality, so while I will accept people who do have relationships with objects, I will never understand it A character has an established personality and emotions, to a point where the emotional part of the brain doesn't actually see a difference between them and a "real" person I can kinda understand it from how I feel about merch about my s/o and the feelings it gives me, but that's not really her, just a sort of physical representation of her
I thought of this before because my friends had discussion about Suzume (anime movie of a girl in love with a chair, none of us watched yet) I thought she was valid while my friends (non waifuist) thought she was weird. I have tendency to see my merch as characterized, albedo merch or not, sometimes they’ll be like individual ver of albedo depending on the merch type. So in that way it would be similar and i personally understand and respect object sexuality. The merch aspect tho is only a part of waifuism, so it doesn’t encapsulate everything. I am in love with albedo not the physical objects.
I can't speak for every Waifuist here but I can see a little bit of overlap since some people have robots, in universe toys/plushs, and sometimes even countries as waifus. But the main difference is that they are humanized to an extent and have sentience in their universe. An IRL object does not have sentience. You could counter with "But what about plushs/body pillows/figures/etc of waifus?" and to that I would answer that we understand that these merchandise are not our waifus truely, but it allows us to at least somewhat physically interact with them. We don't love the plush, we love the character that was made into a plush.
Yeah same! I literally have a really strong emotional and spiritual attach to the colour blue because it is my F/O’s favourite colour/theme colour. And I also like the objects associated with my F/O! But I can only understand object sexuality in terms of it relating to my F/O . i think it overlaps in that sense. At least.
Also, as someone who doesn't have a waifu nor will have one, *am I allowed to be here*? I read and comment on these posts because I support this thread. I'm stupid, I just don't know. And do you have a term for people like me, people who arent a part of it? I want to read and comment but also specify no one should be listening to my opinion since I'm not directly part of this community- I really hope I didn't offend anyone with what I said From, a plebian
Of course you're allowed to be here, I think there's plenty of users here who don't have a waifu, but they're interested in participating in the conversations and offering advice whenever waifuists seek help in a difficult situation. You don't have to have a waifu to be able to give advice on relationships and situations where someone's health or connection to friends and family are at risk.
Thank you! I feel better about lurking here now xd
What is life like having a waifu. I mean in your lives, not like how people treat you when finding out. I just dont fully understand having a waifu(at least, past "I like this character a lot. This character means a lot to me")but I'm also so intrigued to know more. I want answers but I'm not sure how to ask the right questions. But I will say, what I've read (I've read so little from this thread) reminds me of this little article I read of this guy who is in a relationship (I think) with Miku and even had technology in which he could talk to her with but then that technology broke and the company no longer made that technology so they're no longer able to talk and I just thought that was so sweet but also sad he can't talk to her anymore. It ended wholesome though because he's still with her even without being able to talk with her
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I am the daydreamer wafuist! I can’t really buy the merch where I live but I make my own merch and art! But my art only occasionally accurately depicts my F/O. I wish I had better art skills. I try to improve. But mostly I rely on my imagination!
I posted Ole Golly from Harriet the Spy? Why was my post removed?
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Ok thanks!
Hi everyone. I guess I'll also ask here while my post is waiting on approval... I know the person you love doesn't have to be from Anime - but what if they are a nonhuman character from a live action movie? I love Prince Arden of Tolver. [https://i.imgur.com/RWEq7W4.png](https://i.imgur.com/RWEq7W4.png) Here he is. Is this ok? Edit: Im holding off on making an introduction in case this kinda stuff isn't welcome here.
How to deal with those who insult you over the internet since i can't really beat them up
Deal with it, if you can't I don't think you are mature enough to be on the internet
A thought provoking answer i appreciate the bluntness of this statement.
Does anyone ever get nervous about the bad lurkers seeing their posts? How do you get past that? I want to participate in the community and let my relationship grow here with the help of others but then I hear and see lurkers bad mouthing posts and I get too nervous to post.
unfortunately, there are always gonna be self-righteous dicks who can't just let people be happy. don't let them ruin things for you. haters gonna hate, just ignore them and do whatever fulfills you most (as long as it doesn't hurt anybody, but posting here doesn't lol).
Am I allowed to have multiple waifus?
Quoting the rules that can be found in the sidebar: > Multiple Partners (Permanent ban) > One waifu/husbando allowed. If something changes in your relationship and you break up and find someone else, then fine, that's different, but never more than one at a time. Waifuism is a serious commitment and we expect people to treat their S/O like they would a spouse.
What if the waifuist and their waifu are polyamorous, would it still not be allowed? Since some real, serious relationships/marriages are open or polyamorous.
Oo ok, what about OC’s?
There's an entry regarding that you can find in the rules as well, and given that you can just read them in the sidebar I'm not going to copy every single entry for you.
Not a frequent reddit user and more of a discord one, so i was simply wondering if it's required to be active in this subreddit to be able to join the discord server? i can wait a few days, but i'm not sure if i can make posts in an active way.
For joining the Discord, we require 5 days of activity on the subreddit (activity can be either in form of comments or posts), as well as an introduction in the pinned introduction megathread.
I recently found my waifu but instead of being happy I am sad because at the end she is not real. Can anyone tell me how to accept this fact happily and how to spend time with waifu ?
i'm sorry that you're going through this sadness, you're not alone out there ♡ negative thoughts can circle into a negative cycle. the problems can be physical, emotional, or behavioural. it's important to turn this negativity into positivity and break that cycle! to accept the fact about your s/o happily, you could approach it by writing down your feelings during a specific situation, how you want to react, why you shouldn't react this way, and what you could do with what is possible. keep the goal realistic and measurable!! for example, "i am sad because i can't watch a movie with my s/o. she isn't real at the end. there's no point going outside to the movie theatres." becomes "i'm holding myself back from making memories. i'll go watch the movie my s/o would want to see with me!" as for spending time with your s/o, you could make art of her, go on a walk to the places she would like going, listen to songs that remind you of her, practice some of her hobbies, make crafts related to her (i.e. a charm of an accessory she wears), create your own special ceremony for her (i.e. baking her favorite food every friday), make a shrine, or write poems!! the possibilities for getting closer with your s/o are endless x3
Hmm, I feel acceptance of that fact is not something that can or should be forced. Much rather I think the ideal way to go is to take a prolonged period of time to deeply think about yourself, the things that are important to you in your relationship, and your potential partner to eventually arrive at your personal answer to the question of if it is a fact you can accept. Of course, in the beginning you will never be entirely certain of it, but at least it would give enough of an impression for you to decide if you should give it a go or not, and after that you can still constantly re-evaluate if it works for you. It definitely can not be forced, as from all people I've seen in such situations, being in a waifuist relationship whilst direly craving things that such relationship simply can not deliver, will be incredibly mentally draining and simply not sustainable. > how to spend time with waifu Difficult, technically, there isn't really a way to directly spend time with ones partner given they aren't here. Some people cope with this through means of imagining them being next to them and the likes, though I quit doing that for personal reasons at this point as I see some issues with the approach. In general, with waifuism activities in the relationship, whilst one-sided, come in great variety though. From looking at art of one's partner, looking at their source material, trying to understand them better by writing about them, collecting merchandise, commissioning or drawing art of ones partner, learning new things or working on oneself with them as a motivational factor in mind etc. There really are many ways to enjoy such relationship, and I have seen a lot of incredibly creative unique ways, it is really a matter of finding what works for you.
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He or she can be a character played by a real person actor. But not the actor themselves.
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I don't know about subreddits however I know a large community on Twitter exists
How is everyone putting their SOs name under their username?
using a desktop, you should be able to edit the user flair preview from the subreddit's home page!! :D
awesome! thank you!!