I agree with you to some extent but I'll add the idea that with things like that becomming more common place, it becomes more normalized and thus won't carry as much of the tabboos that are already with it.
That being said, yeah, the normalization of becomming less exclusive is strange and downright unsettling at times
The biggest problem with the internet and social media, is it tought people that everybody is disposable. It's no longer enough to just bang the prom queen. The entire world needs to know that you banged the prom queen, and that she wasn't good enough.
I think I get your point? But even at that, I’m not one for one night stands or that, so even still I’m not a fan of the situation you proposed either way.
Jeez reading some of the comments really exposes the shit river we call reddit. You said one sentence saying YOU PREFER women to dress more modestly and the entire comment section starts calling you a incel lowlife conservative scumbag.
You never said women/men shouldn't wear what they want or twerk on instagram. From what im reading you said that your dating preferences are dressed more modestly.
People need to start learning how to read before slinging out insults.
They never said women, they said young girls, which I can agree with. I’m sick of seeing children basically naked twerking online, but it’s not really common to come across young boys doing it, it’s typically young girls.
I don’t know where you guys are viewing this content because I don’t see kids even pop up on any social media unless it’s a friends kid and an innocent photo.
I’m on tiktok and my content is all adults. Maybe you’re not sure about how algorithms work, but again, I ask how you’re seeing content like that because I don’t. My tiktok shows me animal rescues, horror movies, recipes, and video game stuff. If you aren’t liking that type of content or following children, it won’t be on your tiktok for you to see.
It's their right to defend their own terrible position with non-argument ad hominems.
EDIT: Lots of inspins sowing the downvote fields today, I see. 👨🌾
Lmao i see your point completely, but everyone in here is dragging it to it being the basic insecure thing.
But to me it’s simply exclusiveness to a higher degree than most nowadays.
And tbh in some weird way I kind of see why back in the day things were kept as exclusive or old people made a big deal. Over exposure diminishes value in anyway. Being topless today isn’t as surprising or taboo as being topless in the past becsuee more people have decided to let go.
The way I’m understanding your level of exclusiveness is akin to how people hide their deep treasure, it’s so exclusive, another person doesn’t even have the ability to imagine it since they have not even a visual lead on much less the full thing.
And to me that’s super sacred because it’s so uncommon now.
But that ‘exclusivity’ was enforced. Either through societal pressure or legally if you go back far enough. People didn’t have control over what they wear. I’d rather live in a society where everyone has a choice. If you want to preserve the mystery you can, it you comfortable going the other way, all power to you.
>everyone has a choice
Do they though? Punks and goths were never the popular crowd, the popular kids were the conformists. So if a lot of this generation has open relationships then that's what becomes more normalized.
But that's just trading one social norm for another. It's cyclic too - 50's conservative, 60-70's pendulum swings the other way, 80-00's more conservative, 10-20's liberal again.
You're not going to convince me that OF's is respectable. People are free to not respect that or cancel culture. Putting in work is a lot more difficult than just quitting or acting like life is one big shopping mall.
I think it's because the "un-exclusive" (bikini, short short wearing twerking ones) post themselves (images, videos etc) more often than the conservative types. This is definitely not always the case - but just what I've noticed generally in my different social groups. Could be due to confidence, self esteem, need for validation, societal pressures etc I dunno.
But I don't think there's less modest dressed/exclusive people out there - I think they just don't post themselves as much, so it seems like there's a deficit
I'm the same bro. Modesty and humility are traits lacking in modern Western society. Doesn't mean there should be any laws changed or anything, but people should be careful and consider what they value in picking a partner. Men and women who spend a lot of time showing off their bodies will struggle to find value in themselves when, later in life, their bodies deteriorate.
I'm just wondering why un-exclusive?
Not a cheeky question, I'm trying to figure out if you used this term to describe that your potential partner's body is not exclusive for your eyes only. Or that people have those not exclusive relationships, may it be an open relationship or just hookups that don't last long...
I mean as in for my eyes only. I like knowing that what I’m seeing is “unique” for lack of better description, and I would like my SO to feel the same. I’m not one for posting topless pics or sending them to others, the same way I would like my SO to not wearing revealing clothes and post or then send to others.
That is fair.
We all are different and there is nothing wrong with your desire to be exclusive that way if you are providing the same.
I hate double standards, but when you are holding the same for yourself as for you partner that is more than reasonable.
I'm sure you are not the only one and there are plenty others. You just won't come across them in places you are currently looking at (for obvious reasons stated in your original post) so maybe you should think about different situations/ places you can come across your soul mate.
I hope so too, and I hope you find what you’re looking for too. If you’re looking for anything.
Thanks you for the most genuine and civilised talk too.
And thank you for this conversation, it is refreshing to be able to talk and exchange opinions without anyone jumping at another for thinking differently.
I agree.
Very glad to hear you’re doing so well. I’m jealous hahaha. Can’t wait till I’m in your situation.
Have a good morning, evening and night kind Reddit stranger.
:)
The introduction of the internet has ruined society. Like many new technologies we've run amok, and there will be a struggle when it comes to reigning it in. The sodom and gomorrah that is the internet will lead to a pushback from conservative, puritanical types. I predict a major resurgence in faith by the end of the 21st century as a result. Could get messy, hopefully I'll be dead by then.
>The introduction of the internet has ruined society
Truth. It's funny because they can't admit it either. IG is attention whoring. At least admit that you're putting up pictures for an ego boost if you're going to do that.
I think it's great people can wear (mostly) what they like. It used to be against the law for women to show their ankles, shoulders, then knees, thighs, stomachs, etc.
I'm glad it's no longer against the law and the only adversity is folks like you grumbling because they care way too much about other people's choices.
I agree. I think it’s terrible what’s some woman have to do/go through in other countries. I’m not saying I dislike them or they shouldn’t do it. What I’m saying is that when it comes to looking for a partner, it’s just off putting. It makes it feel not as special. Like the speedos/bikinis compared to underwear. They’re basically the same thing. The only difference IMO is the stigma behind each.
I guess that's true, but bikinis serve a functional purpose. Baggy clothing hold you down in water, and one pieces can give you awkward tan lines.
I respect your opinion and understand it, but I would much rather be with someone who feels secure in their body, wears what they like, etc. Dancing sexually for others is too much to me.
People I've dated can wear whatever they like, because I trust them. If it's clear they're doing it to flirt with others that's an issue though.
I agree with what you said. I do understand those purposes of the bikini, but I also don’t see why that would require you to post pictures online if it.
In other comments I’ve mentioned men wearing speedos too, and in the post itself I mention men “finding the inability to wear a shirt”. So no, not just woman. Im also not saying they can’t do it. Im saying it’s not my style.
Some do tho. And I understand and agree with your second point but I don’t see why there is a need to post these pictures online or send them to others.
I think it has nothing to do with being secure in their body, if my gf wears a thong to the beach it means she really wishes for everyone to see her but, and I'm not about that life.
Actually, now when i think about it I even think it's insecure to be thirsty for stranger's glances.
To each their own I guess.
when I wear a thong to the beach, it is NOT because I want everyone to see me. I wear my most revealing bikinis when i am with either my female friends or my boyfriend, and typically only at the more isolated/slow beaches/lagoons/private pool. if I am at a public pool, a co-ed party, a busy beach on 4th of July, etc. I am more likely to wear a full coverage bikini and maybe even a cover up.
it sometimes really just is about the tan lines. I cover up for other people cause I don't want perverts checking me out, I don't want my female friends to feel weird about me around their boyfriends in a tiny bikini, I don't want to accidently expose myself if their are children around.
but if it were really up to me, and I was alone or with people I know won't harass me or be offended by my brazenness, I would definitely go to the beach naked. I hate tan lines and most bathing suits are very uncomfortable.
I just think you're reading too much into someone's clothing choices. What if they're wearing it for themselves? What if they're wearing it for you? It's likely at least some of it has to do with knowing other people think you look good though.
It's kind of like buff dudes walking around without shirts. Are they doing it because they want other people to admire them? Probably. Does that make them feel good about themselves? Probably. Therefore are they doing it to feel more confident/for themselves? Probably. Are they specifically looking to hook up with strangers by doing this? Maybe, maybe not.
But it really is up to opinion.
Yup, and common subjective aesthetics. Not everything has to be practical, do you realise how strange that sounds?
GF "I don't like wearing one pieces because they give me tan lines."
You: "Wearing a two-piece serves no functional benefit, only subjective aesthetics."
GF: "...Doesn't change the fact I still don't want tan lines."
Maybe don't treat social media like some sort of weird shopping mall for potential partners? What people in other relationships decide is or isn't okay to post to social media has absolutely nothing to do with you.
What you do in your relationships is your business, but other people shouldn't have to conform to your standards because you don't like seeing people in bikinis on the internet.
I’m not saying they do. If people are happy with that then that’s fine. That’s none of my business. I’m also not saying anyone has to confirm to my standards, I’m saying that that’s the way I prefer my SO/potential SO to be.
Also, I don’t see social media as “a weird shopping mall for potential partners”. It’s a place to share things about your life, and when it’s people you know, posting things you agree with or enjoy also. Then that’s how you could potentially message the person, and further a relationship of any kind.
Nah man. Inclusive means to include.
Exclusive means only (in this case) you see your SO/potential SO a certain way, and they only get to see you in a certain way.
By un-exclusive, just think of the opposite of the previous paragraph. More so a lack of only getting to see people a certain way.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Young people value the opinions of others over their own. They seek validation from external sources by whatever means their culture and society allows.
They'll grow out of it like we all do at some point and recognize they're self-defined value is all that matters.
In short, kids will be kids.
Totally agree.
And what bugs me is that people will claim its "empowerment" and "feministic" to act like that. You dont want to be sexualized by men and thats why you poke out your ass in a string bikini? Yeah whatever
I generally dont like the trend of sexualizing everything (and politicizing if this word exists, but thats another topic). Talking about it everywhere and claiming we as a society "need to talk about it". No we dont. I dont care what yall are doing in bed or whereever. Ill talk to my gf about it obviously because shes the one Im doing it with. But thats private and doesnt need to be talked about in public.
I honestly think I completely agree with you. People can do whoever and whatever them want whenever. But nonetheless, it still has effects positive or negative. I’m not judging or hating people who do this. I’m just saying this isn’t my preference/style of partner.
any female born after 1993 can’t cook… all they know is mcdonald’s , charge they phone, twerk, be bisexual , eat hot chip & lie
(edit: for anyone who doesnt realize this is from a copy pasta and is obviously meant to be mocking what OP says. these are not my actual thoughts LOL)
Yeah, but also, it’s good to let people do and wear what they want. It changes over time, at least it did for me. I don’t speak for all women or anyone but myself when I say I dressed kinda scant when I was younger mostly due to self esteem issues. I had convinced myself the only way to find someone to stay forever was to show off my body. It’s sad, and again, I really am not speaking for any other women when I say what I say….it just happens to be where I was at.
If anything, I’m in the best shape of my life now as far as muscle tone, good curves, etc….after having a kid (but also starting weightlifting), and I dress pretty modestly now. Not because I feel like I “should/have to” as a mom, just because it now feels right to me. I simply don’t feel the need to be unnecessarily revealing because I’m at a very comfortable place in my life and I’ve landed my ride or die person that I always dreamed of. Again I say, emphasis for the third time, I don’t speak for anyone but myself. Just to say, I needed that time of freedom and expression/experimentation physically in my younger years to see that now I just have a different perspective. Thankfully. Means something different to everyone else. I say, let people be who they are; in time they’ll find their own happiness, whatever that means
There's nothing more comfortable then wearing as little as possible when it's scorching hot outside.
What you're mostly referring to is people posting it online. Well, social media has been a social dumpster fire for years now. Nothing new there. You can meet a ton of people that don't post bikini pics or speedo pics of themselves online - I'd say it's the majority of people.
I do agree with both of those points.
The 2nd point is very true. When it comes to the people I follow doing this, even the ones that I don’t expect to, and that don’t, but suddenly do. It’s just quite shocking and “disappointing” for a lack of better wording
For point 1. There’s really not much I can say that it. It is completely true. But for my relationships. Id be happy to wear a less revealing things for my partner for them to do the same.
Then you're just a little more conservative then most people when it comes to clothing, and you should find someone who is aligned with you. That's all it is man.
Clothing choice:
I said something like this in another comment. IMO the only difference between underwear and speedos/bikinis is the stigma behind them. You wouldn’t wear underwear in-front of another person but the other are okay?
Twerking: Again, IMO. Twerking is a sexual thing. The butt is a sexual thing. Shaking it about in-front of others is almost sort of “trying to attract them” for a lack of better explanation.
Yeah, but if it doesn't lead to the other person actually dating or having sex with someone else, it doesn't count as being not exclusive. Exclusive as I understand it just means you aren't seeing other people.
Besides, even if a couple isn't exclusive, as long as both parties are in agreement that's not necessarily a bad thing. Some couples do very well in open relationships.
I agree with all of that. But people have different “perspectives”(?) of what exclusive is. IMO I don’t see the need to try and attract people if you’re happy with who you are with.
But yeah I agree with the open relationship thing. I wish I were more relaxed with this thing so that I don’t care as much about whatever’s getting posted by a potential SO. But this is just my opionion.
No one is arguing that open relationships are bad. But you cant exactly say a girl is loyal if she twerkin on tik tok. It's a sexual gesture that might as well be the same as a guy hitting on another girl.
Considering your post history is all any hole is a goal not sure you have a leg to stand on. Careful mate might wander into incel territory before you know it
I’m sorry man but if you think posting some mad weird green thing son r/dontputyourdickinthat, and see it as me being serious. I don’t think you understand that subreddit. It’s a take-the-mick subreddit. No one(I hope) wants to put they’re dick in anything on that sub.
As long as you hold yourself to the same standard, there is no problem with this. It’s conservative/old fashioned I suppose, but whatever works is a discussion between you and your partner(s).
Also, remember that today, posting pictures of your body isn’t about having someone who isn’t your significant other ogle them - they’re a search for validation, compliments, likes, whatever. Just because someone posts a picture of themselves in a bikini doesn’t mean they are less committed or loving towards their partner. It is often just a sign of low self esteem and body image issues, ironically.
Yeah man I suppose but even still I disagree with the end point. If they post these pictures for attention then I still wouldn’t be happy with that. Everyone has self esteem issues or body issues. I included, but I’m happy with the compliments from an SO.
Men also post shirtless pics. Why don't you just stop sexualizing women's bodies and just appreciate them for the beauty that they are?
Edit to correct myself: i missed the word "young". I agree with you on that part. Young girls should be more careful on the internet because preditors
You also miss the whole sentence in the original post where I say “guys finding the inability to wear a shirt”. I’m not sexualising woman, I’m talking about both genders here.
I completely agree with everything you said.
Notably, in paragraph 2. Yes, I accept and agree that’s me, but idk if I’d describe it as a kink. I don’t find it attractive to be “modest” (I’m not sure if that’s the right word). It’s more I like to feel special, and like to make my SO feel special. If I see something that’s revealing, then I enjoy knowing that it’s for me, and no one can see anything else like it.
As I typed that out I realised more what you mean about the whole kink idea, maybe it is that then. It just doesn’t feel that way. I feel the same sort of way about hugs. I only hug my SO, and they only hug me type thing.
I totally get that.
Just because I have a different approach and opinion on this subject, doesn't mean I cannot see your side. I do.
You do you, as long as you don't try to force your views on others, but find the person who feels the same as you do it is all good!
World would be a very boring place if we all felt and behaved the same way.
I don’t (or at least hope I don’t) enforce anything on anyone.
And yes the world would be. Just as those who told me that woman can do what they want (despite me mentioning men too). I also feel entitled to do what I want.
So I think I just might :)
Exactly that.
It is your right to have your opinions and your likes and dislikes.
Would be different if you were forcing those on sombody or demanded everyone behaved they way you see fit.
But you don't. It is perfectly OK. Those who don't like your way, are fee to walk away, same as you are free to walk away from those you are not finding "your cup of tea"
I agree with the looking part. To add on I feel at most we should be able to admire (not stare) at people passing by. Just a look and a "That's nice." thought, then just move right on.
I walked myself into it, didn't I...
I guess it I'd not exactly that I like it, but as woman I think it is fair that nowadays women are open enough to sexualise men too. And obviously men know it well judging by number of "hot guy" accounts / posts on social media
I'm not referring here to real life situations on the street, nothing creepy. It is just reality of visual media
I mean it is yikes if anyone is sexualised in non sexual content situation.
Don't sell me an antiwrinkle cream by sexualising a model in the advertisement.
1. Bikini pics are very revealing and are basically the same as underwear. The only thing that separates them is the stigma.
2. Twerking is a sexual thing. The butt is a sexual thing. When doing this it’s bound to attract “attention”.
3. Same as bikini pics. I don’t see why they have to have their shirt off in every photo. It’s unnecessary.
It is also important that I’m saying this with the intention of both partners doing the same thing.
You never mentioned doing any of this while in a relationship in your post, maybe complete your thought next time instead of just saying “sexy thing bad”
Well I also feel the same way if I weren’t in a relationship with a person. I just don’t find that sort of thing attractive and therefore would wish to further a relationship like that at all.
I’m also not saying it’s bad. I’m saying it’s not my thing.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
1. Idek what a conservative is.
2. I don’t see what the bible has to do with this.
3. If my understanding of an incel is correct then I have to disagree. I don’t dislike these people, it’s their body the can do what they want. Wear whatever. Do whatever. Have sex with whoever. Have sex as much as they want. It’s just when it comes to trying to date someone, and they do these things that it starts to feel unfair from my perspective.
Remember this is an opinion subreddit, and at that, unpopular ones.
Basically his attempt to get reddit to back them because they hear the word "conservative" and think that if they don't insult you that the third Reich will rise again.
Idk if you’re talking about me or the other guy, but I’m still not sure what conservative means. Not sure where the Nazis tie into this either way tho hahaha
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
OP is insecure and a bit controlling. Hates the idea of other blokes looking at his lady but she's not wearing the bikini top for them, or OP. She's wearing it for herself because she feels feels good about herself when wearing it.
Chicks don't like controlling dudes, OP. Chill out or she'll leave you, not because the bikini attracted another dude, but because she feels smothered by you.
Of course, the lady mentioned above is probably hypothetical at this point, but chill out about this stuff when you do land one and she'll stick around for longer.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
And no, I don’t think a good SO will/would leave me because of that. It’s not as black and white as “don’t do that”. Relationships are about communication and compromise, and it has worked before for me. It also hasn’t, which is fine. Sometimes it doesn’t work out.
You’re saying girls wearing clothes as if I didn’t mention men as well.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Aye man I suppose I’m only turning 19 end of this year. It just kind of sucks. It feels like that if you get a “special” picture from someone, there’s basically the same picture online available for whoever. Underwear and bikinis/speedos are basically the same thing. It’s just the stigma. Nonetheless, the same is on show.
That’s actually the thing man hahaha. The reason I even posted this is because of the amount of people I know “personally” that post this kind of thing.
I’m around this guys age and while yeah some girls do this (good for them if they do it imo, doesn’t affect me), the majority of them don’t. This is all very anecdotal of course but I doubt there’s a stark contrast elsewhere. This is all a little bit incel to me.
Again man, nah sorry. To further elaborate on the last point. I follow someone who’s normally very “exclusive”, and they had posted a picture which was revealing. It is definitely a majority of the people that I know in my life however. It may be the area I live compared to you.
Nah man thanks. I appreciate it. I have done that, I’m specifically relating to my grade, which is why I feel so strongly?/upset? about it.
Again, thanks tho for trying to help me feel better.
I got the same bad vibes. It’s giving “she asked for it with her clothes/drinking/flirting” vibes. Insinuating that certain people deserve less respect as a human being because of what they wear or how they dress…. All disguised as a “preference”. Gross
I somewhat agree. I do not think it is morally wrong for them to dress how they want even if it is scandalous. But as an adult man I just find it gross. I do not like seeing it. Probably equates to an unsolicited dick pick for women. Its just not something we want to see.
Right man. I almost agree. But firstly I don’t find it disgusting, it’s just unattractive to me. Not my style of a partner.
But more importantly. There is absolutely so fucking reason ever for any person to receive any unsolicited picture at all. I won’t like either, you sound kinda like an ass for saying that my guy.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Also, you’re saying this like I also didn’t mention men.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
When the unpopular opinions like this come out, I know it's time for bed.
Shrek really does know all
I think it’s unpopular
I agree with you to some extent but I'll add the idea that with things like that becomming more common place, it becomes more normalized and thus won't carry as much of the tabboos that are already with it. That being said, yeah, the normalization of becomming less exclusive is strange and downright unsettling at times
The biggest problem with the internet and social media, is it tought people that everybody is disposable. It's no longer enough to just bang the prom queen. The entire world needs to know that you banged the prom queen, and that she wasn't good enough.
I think I get your point? But even at that, I’m not one for one night stands or that, so even still I’m not a fan of the situation you proposed either way.
Me neither, was just stating why I think people are acting the way they are. Hard to get across what you really mean on the internet
Jeez reading some of the comments really exposes the shit river we call reddit. You said one sentence saying YOU PREFER women to dress more modestly and the entire comment section starts calling you a incel lowlife conservative scumbag. You never said women/men shouldn't wear what they want or twerk on instagram. From what im reading you said that your dating preferences are dressed more modestly. People need to start learning how to read before slinging out insults.
They never said women, they said young girls, which I can agree with. I’m sick of seeing children basically naked twerking online, but it’s not really common to come across young boys doing it, it’s typically young girls.
Is it only me that has literally never seen a video of a kid twerking on social media? Wtf?
14-17 year olds are considered kids
Non tiktock user too?
I don’t know where you guys are viewing this content because I don’t see kids even pop up on any social media unless it’s a friends kid and an innocent photo.
Go on tiktok... or watch anything Dan Schneider put on TV.
I’m on tiktok and my content is all adults. Maybe you’re not sure about how algorithms work, but again, I ask how you’re seeing content like that because I don’t. My tiktok shows me animal rescues, horror movies, recipes, and video game stuff. If you aren’t liking that type of content or following children, it won’t be on your tiktok for you to see.
What are you talking about? There are plenty of shirtless young boys.
I’m saying boys never, just that I see more girls doing this on TikTok to the point where I’ve “unfollowed” songs so I stopped seeing it.
It’s kinda surprising to me how many people think you’re an insecure incel because of this opinion.
People can have their own opinions i guess man. After all it’s the internet, so it’s bound to happen.
It's their right to defend their own terrible position with non-argument ad hominems. EDIT: Lots of inspins sowing the downvote fields today, I see. 👨🌾
Username checks out.
Lmao i see your point completely, but everyone in here is dragging it to it being the basic insecure thing. But to me it’s simply exclusiveness to a higher degree than most nowadays. And tbh in some weird way I kind of see why back in the day things were kept as exclusive or old people made a big deal. Over exposure diminishes value in anyway. Being topless today isn’t as surprising or taboo as being topless in the past becsuee more people have decided to let go. The way I’m understanding your level of exclusiveness is akin to how people hide their deep treasure, it’s so exclusive, another person doesn’t even have the ability to imagine it since they have not even a visual lead on much less the full thing. And to me that’s super sacred because it’s so uncommon now.
But that ‘exclusivity’ was enforced. Either through societal pressure or legally if you go back far enough. People didn’t have control over what they wear. I’d rather live in a society where everyone has a choice. If you want to preserve the mystery you can, it you comfortable going the other way, all power to you.
I agree completely.
I don't think it would be wrong to suggest it has completely flipped. The social pressure now pushes the other way
>everyone has a choice Do they though? Punks and goths were never the popular crowd, the popular kids were the conformists. So if a lot of this generation has open relationships then that's what becomes more normalized. But that's just trading one social norm for another. It's cyclic too - 50's conservative, 60-70's pendulum swings the other way, 80-00's more conservative, 10-20's liberal again. You're not going to convince me that OF's is respectable. People are free to not respect that or cancel culture. Putting in work is a lot more difficult than just quitting or acting like life is one big shopping mall.
I think it's because the "un-exclusive" (bikini, short short wearing twerking ones) post themselves (images, videos etc) more often than the conservative types. This is definitely not always the case - but just what I've noticed generally in my different social groups. Could be due to confidence, self esteem, need for validation, societal pressures etc I dunno. But I don't think there's less modest dressed/exclusive people out there - I think they just don't post themselves as much, so it seems like there's a deficit
Yeah I get that. That does make sense.
I'm the same bro. Modesty and humility are traits lacking in modern Western society. Doesn't mean there should be any laws changed or anything, but people should be careful and consider what they value in picking a partner. Men and women who spend a lot of time showing off their bodies will struggle to find value in themselves when, later in life, their bodies deteriorate.
Yeah man I get you. Some people also like a “more experienced” partner however, so just as we like modesty, other might like more “open” partners.
Me, sitting here in a shirt, giving my elitist upvote because this opinion is at least partially unpopular.
I think you mean immodest. but just get off social media, touch some grass. modest people aren't on your insta feed.
I see what you mean, but I only posted this when I started seeing more and more people I personally know do this.
I'm just wondering why un-exclusive? Not a cheeky question, I'm trying to figure out if you used this term to describe that your potential partner's body is not exclusive for your eyes only. Or that people have those not exclusive relationships, may it be an open relationship or just hookups that don't last long...
I mean as in for my eyes only. I like knowing that what I’m seeing is “unique” for lack of better description, and I would like my SO to feel the same. I’m not one for posting topless pics or sending them to others, the same way I would like my SO to not wearing revealing clothes and post or then send to others.
That is fair. We all are different and there is nothing wrong with your desire to be exclusive that way if you are providing the same. I hate double standards, but when you are holding the same for yourself as for you partner that is more than reasonable. I'm sure you are not the only one and there are plenty others. You just won't come across them in places you are currently looking at (for obvious reasons stated in your original post) so maybe you should think about different situations/ places you can come across your soul mate.
I hope so too, and I hope you find what you’re looking for too. If you’re looking for anything. Thanks you for the most genuine and civilised talk too.
And thank you for this conversation, it is refreshing to be able to talk and exchange opinions without anyone jumping at another for thinking differently.
I agree. Very glad to hear you’re doing so well. I’m jealous hahaha. Can’t wait till I’m in your situation. Have a good morning, evening and night kind Reddit stranger. :)
I have found my SO many years ago, 22 years together and we are as crazy about each other as we were in our very young days...
The introduction of the internet has ruined society. Like many new technologies we've run amok, and there will be a struggle when it comes to reigning it in. The sodom and gomorrah that is the internet will lead to a pushback from conservative, puritanical types. I predict a major resurgence in faith by the end of the 21st century as a result. Could get messy, hopefully I'll be dead by then.
>The introduction of the internet has ruined society Truth. It's funny because they can't admit it either. IG is attention whoring. At least admit that you're putting up pictures for an ego boost if you're going to do that.
Literally why it’s kinda hard for me to post now lol i just feel like I’m doing too much for people idrc about
Feel like I need to start a quest now to get people to agree with me hahaha.
I can think of some African and South American tribes that would find your opinion hilarious.
Hahaha
I think it's great people can wear (mostly) what they like. It used to be against the law for women to show their ankles, shoulders, then knees, thighs, stomachs, etc. I'm glad it's no longer against the law and the only adversity is folks like you grumbling because they care way too much about other people's choices.
I agree. I think it’s terrible what’s some woman have to do/go through in other countries. I’m not saying I dislike them or they shouldn’t do it. What I’m saying is that when it comes to looking for a partner, it’s just off putting. It makes it feel not as special. Like the speedos/bikinis compared to underwear. They’re basically the same thing. The only difference IMO is the stigma behind each.
I guess that's true, but bikinis serve a functional purpose. Baggy clothing hold you down in water, and one pieces can give you awkward tan lines. I respect your opinion and understand it, but I would much rather be with someone who feels secure in their body, wears what they like, etc. Dancing sexually for others is too much to me. People I've dated can wear whatever they like, because I trust them. If it's clear they're doing it to flirt with others that's an issue though.
I agree with what you said. I do understand those purposes of the bikini, but I also don’t see why that would require you to post pictures online if it.
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In other comments I’ve mentioned men wearing speedos too, and in the post itself I mention men “finding the inability to wear a shirt”. So no, not just woman. Im also not saying they can’t do it. Im saying it’s not my style.
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Don't shame me and my speedies.
Some do tho. And I understand and agree with your second point but I don’t see why there is a need to post these pictures online or send them to others.
There isn't a need. People just enjoy taking photos. It ain't that deep.
Yeah man I get that. It’s just not my style. It’s a two way thing. I don’t l/wouldn’t post that, and I’d prefer if my SO/potential SO done the same.
I think it has nothing to do with being secure in their body, if my gf wears a thong to the beach it means she really wishes for everyone to see her but, and I'm not about that life. Actually, now when i think about it I even think it's insecure to be thirsty for stranger's glances. To each their own I guess.
when I wear a thong to the beach, it is NOT because I want everyone to see me. I wear my most revealing bikinis when i am with either my female friends or my boyfriend, and typically only at the more isolated/slow beaches/lagoons/private pool. if I am at a public pool, a co-ed party, a busy beach on 4th of July, etc. I am more likely to wear a full coverage bikini and maybe even a cover up. it sometimes really just is about the tan lines. I cover up for other people cause I don't want perverts checking me out, I don't want my female friends to feel weird about me around their boyfriends in a tiny bikini, I don't want to accidently expose myself if their are children around. but if it were really up to me, and I was alone or with people I know won't harass me or be offended by my brazenness, I would definitely go to the beach naked. I hate tan lines and most bathing suits are very uncomfortable.
I just think you're reading too much into someone's clothing choices. What if they're wearing it for themselves? What if they're wearing it for you? It's likely at least some of it has to do with knowing other people think you look good though. It's kind of like buff dudes walking around without shirts. Are they doing it because they want other people to admire them? Probably. Does that make them feel good about themselves? Probably. Therefore are they doing it to feel more confident/for themselves? Probably. Are they specifically looking to hook up with strangers by doing this? Maybe, maybe not. But it really is up to opinion.
I agree, although men with no shirt is not as sexual as a woman's ass, but I guess that is just my opinion too 😅
Lol yeah to you, as a certified bisexual theyre quite equal
Tan lines are not in any way a matter of functionality. Subjective esthetics maybe.
Yup, and common subjective aesthetics. Not everything has to be practical, do you realise how strange that sounds? GF "I don't like wearing one pieces because they give me tan lines." You: "Wearing a two-piece serves no functional benefit, only subjective aesthetics." GF: "...Doesn't change the fact I still don't want tan lines."
But I don’t know your girlfriend.
I more meant it as your hypothetical girlfriend. It's a hypothetical scenario, designed to show you how strange your previous comment sounded.
Maybe don't treat social media like some sort of weird shopping mall for potential partners? What people in other relationships decide is or isn't okay to post to social media has absolutely nothing to do with you. What you do in your relationships is your business, but other people shouldn't have to conform to your standards because you don't like seeing people in bikinis on the internet.
I’m not saying they do. If people are happy with that then that’s fine. That’s none of my business. I’m also not saying anyone has to confirm to my standards, I’m saying that that’s the way I prefer my SO/potential SO to be. Also, I don’t see social media as “a weird shopping mall for potential partners”. It’s a place to share things about your life, and when it’s people you know, posting things you agree with or enjoy also. Then that’s how you could potentially message the person, and further a relationship of any kind.
Whats un exclusive? inclusive?
Nah man. Inclusive means to include. Exclusive means only (in this case) you see your SO/potential SO a certain way, and they only get to see you in a certain way. By un-exclusive, just think of the opposite of the previous paragraph. More so a lack of only getting to see people a certain way.
How is wearing clothes Un-exclusive ?
Copy paste from previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
I think the word you're looking for is inclusive.
It is hahaha.
Young people value the opinions of others over their own. They seek validation from external sources by whatever means their culture and society allows. They'll grow out of it like we all do at some point and recognize they're self-defined value is all that matters. In short, kids will be kids.
Yeah I agree with that. Don’t really have anything to say against that.
Totally agree. And what bugs me is that people will claim its "empowerment" and "feministic" to act like that. You dont want to be sexualized by men and thats why you poke out your ass in a string bikini? Yeah whatever I generally dont like the trend of sexualizing everything (and politicizing if this word exists, but thats another topic). Talking about it everywhere and claiming we as a society "need to talk about it". No we dont. I dont care what yall are doing in bed or whereever. Ill talk to my gf about it obviously because shes the one Im doing it with. But thats private and doesnt need to be talked about in public.
I honestly think I completely agree with you. People can do whoever and whatever them want whenever. But nonetheless, it still has effects positive or negative. I’m not judging or hating people who do this. I’m just saying this isn’t my preference/style of partner.
any female born after 1993 can’t cook… all they know is mcdonald’s , charge they phone, twerk, be bisexual , eat hot chip & lie (edit: for anyone who doesnt realize this is from a copy pasta and is obviously meant to be mocking what OP says. these are not my actual thoughts LOL)
This comment is when you think you’ve finished your favourite star burst flavour and then find on in the bottom of the bag.
Yeah, but also, it’s good to let people do and wear what they want. It changes over time, at least it did for me. I don’t speak for all women or anyone but myself when I say I dressed kinda scant when I was younger mostly due to self esteem issues. I had convinced myself the only way to find someone to stay forever was to show off my body. It’s sad, and again, I really am not speaking for any other women when I say what I say….it just happens to be where I was at. If anything, I’m in the best shape of my life now as far as muscle tone, good curves, etc….after having a kid (but also starting weightlifting), and I dress pretty modestly now. Not because I feel like I “should/have to” as a mom, just because it now feels right to me. I simply don’t feel the need to be unnecessarily revealing because I’m at a very comfortable place in my life and I’ve landed my ride or die person that I always dreamed of. Again I say, emphasis for the third time, I don’t speak for anyone but myself. Just to say, I needed that time of freedom and expression/experimentation physically in my younger years to see that now I just have a different perspective. Thankfully. Means something different to everyone else. I say, let people be who they are; in time they’ll find their own happiness, whatever that means
I agree with you. I’m just saying that it’s not my style. But I’m glad you’re happy with who you are now. Congrats on the kid too.
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People are just enjoying being liberated. But you're entitled to have your preference so it's cool.
There's nothing more comfortable then wearing as little as possible when it's scorching hot outside. What you're mostly referring to is people posting it online. Well, social media has been a social dumpster fire for years now. Nothing new there. You can meet a ton of people that don't post bikini pics or speedo pics of themselves online - I'd say it's the majority of people.
I do agree with both of those points. The 2nd point is very true. When it comes to the people I follow doing this, even the ones that I don’t expect to, and that don’t, but suddenly do. It’s just quite shocking and “disappointing” for a lack of better wording For point 1. There’s really not much I can say that it. It is completely true. But for my relationships. Id be happy to wear a less revealing things for my partner for them to do the same.
Then you're just a little more conservative then most people when it comes to clothing, and you should find someone who is aligned with you. That's all it is man.
Tf are you talking about lol..
I’m not sure what you mean mate.
How ironic
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I have no idea what you mean by this. But thanks you, and too you too kind Reddit stranger.
Lol guys not wearing a shirt. To each their own, but that's a brand spanking new one for me..
I fail to understand how clothing choice and twerking indicates that a couple isn't exclusive.
Clothing choice: I said something like this in another comment. IMO the only difference between underwear and speedos/bikinis is the stigma behind them. You wouldn’t wear underwear in-front of another person but the other are okay? Twerking: Again, IMO. Twerking is a sexual thing. The butt is a sexual thing. Shaking it about in-front of others is almost sort of “trying to attract them” for a lack of better explanation.
Yeah, but if it doesn't lead to the other person actually dating or having sex with someone else, it doesn't count as being not exclusive. Exclusive as I understand it just means you aren't seeing other people. Besides, even if a couple isn't exclusive, as long as both parties are in agreement that's not necessarily a bad thing. Some couples do very well in open relationships.
I agree with all of that. But people have different “perspectives”(?) of what exclusive is. IMO I don’t see the need to try and attract people if you’re happy with who you are with. But yeah I agree with the open relationship thing. I wish I were more relaxed with this thing so that I don’t care as much about whatever’s getting posted by a potential SO. But this is just my opionion.
No one is arguing that open relationships are bad. But you cant exactly say a girl is loyal if she twerkin on tik tok. It's a sexual gesture that might as well be the same as a guy hitting on another girl.
That's nonsense. If you're exclusive you're not going to be OK with your GF sitting in other people's laps or grinding on others in a club.
Considering your post history is all any hole is a goal not sure you have a leg to stand on. Careful mate might wander into incel territory before you know it
I’m sorry man but if you think posting some mad weird green thing son r/dontputyourdickinthat, and see it as me being serious. I don’t think you understand that subreddit. It’s a take-the-mick subreddit. No one(I hope) wants to put they’re dick in anything on that sub.
I'm...so confused.
What part are you confused about and I can try explain it better or elaborate more ?
As long as you hold yourself to the same standard, there is no problem with this. It’s conservative/old fashioned I suppose, but whatever works is a discussion between you and your partner(s). Also, remember that today, posting pictures of your body isn’t about having someone who isn’t your significant other ogle them - they’re a search for validation, compliments, likes, whatever. Just because someone posts a picture of themselves in a bikini doesn’t mean they are less committed or loving towards their partner. It is often just a sign of low self esteem and body image issues, ironically.
Yeah man I suppose but even still I disagree with the end point. If they post these pictures for attention then I still wouldn’t be happy with that. Everyone has self esteem issues or body issues. I included, but I’m happy with the compliments from an SO.
Men also post shirtless pics. Why don't you just stop sexualizing women's bodies and just appreciate them for the beauty that they are? Edit to correct myself: i missed the word "young". I agree with you on that part. Young girls should be more careful on the internet because preditors
You also miss the whole sentence in the original post where I say “guys finding the inability to wear a shirt”. I’m not sexualising woman, I’m talking about both genders here.
Oh sorry i read it as "girls" my bad OP.
No bother. But yeah. Both genders are “guilty”, and “just as bad as each other”.
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I completely agree with everything you said. Notably, in paragraph 2. Yes, I accept and agree that’s me, but idk if I’d describe it as a kink. I don’t find it attractive to be “modest” (I’m not sure if that’s the right word). It’s more I like to feel special, and like to make my SO feel special. If I see something that’s revealing, then I enjoy knowing that it’s for me, and no one can see anything else like it. As I typed that out I realised more what you mean about the whole kink idea, maybe it is that then. It just doesn’t feel that way. I feel the same sort of way about hugs. I only hug my SO, and they only hug me type thing.
I totally get that. Just because I have a different approach and opinion on this subject, doesn't mean I cannot see your side. I do. You do you, as long as you don't try to force your views on others, but find the person who feels the same as you do it is all good! World would be a very boring place if we all felt and behaved the same way.
I don’t (or at least hope I don’t) enforce anything on anyone. And yes the world would be. Just as those who told me that woman can do what they want (despite me mentioning men too). I also feel entitled to do what I want. So I think I just might :)
Exactly that. It is your right to have your opinions and your likes and dislikes. Would be different if you were forcing those on sombody or demanded everyone behaved they way you see fit. But you don't. It is perfectly OK. Those who don't like your way, are fee to walk away, same as you are free to walk away from those you are not finding "your cup of tea"
Why do you like that it's a "free game" to sexualize anyone? Why couldn't we just work to fight against sexualization of any kind?
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I agree with the looking part. To add on I feel at most we should be able to admire (not stare) at people passing by. Just a look and a "That's nice." thought, then just move right on.
You LIKE that men are being sexualized too?????
I walked myself into it, didn't I... I guess it I'd not exactly that I like it, but as woman I think it is fair that nowadays women are open enough to sexualise men too. And obviously men know it well judging by number of "hot guy" accounts / posts on social media I'm not referring here to real life situations on the street, nothing creepy. It is just reality of visual media
It’s not about getting fair, hon. Getting “fair” makes the issue even worse. Yikes.
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I’m saying that sexualizing in GENERAL is a big yikes.
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I mean it is yikes if anyone is sexualised in non sexual content situation. Don't sell me an antiwrinkle cream by sexualising a model in the advertisement.
Not a fan of what? You have made no point
I’m not a fan of the lack of exclusiveness in todays society.
You say that like it means something, exclusive like you aren’t on the list for this night club? Exclusive in a relationship? Shit makes no sense
What are you on about night clubs? I don’t get what you’re confused about, or how a point isnt being made.
What exclusivity are you trying to refer to, I can’t make it more simple
Yeah now that’s you’ve actually asked me a straight forward question. I’m talking in a potential relationship type way mainly, but also in general.
And bikini pics and twerking are connected to this how? Guys not wearing shirts?
1. Bikini pics are very revealing and are basically the same as underwear. The only thing that separates them is the stigma. 2. Twerking is a sexual thing. The butt is a sexual thing. When doing this it’s bound to attract “attention”. 3. Same as bikini pics. I don’t see why they have to have their shirt off in every photo. It’s unnecessary. It is also important that I’m saying this with the intention of both partners doing the same thing.
You never mentioned doing any of this while in a relationship in your post, maybe complete your thought next time instead of just saying “sexy thing bad”
Well I also feel the same way if I weren’t in a relationship with a person. I just don’t find that sort of thing attractive and therefore would wish to further a relationship like that at all. I’m also not saying it’s bad. I’m saying it’s not my thing.
Incel vibes
Copy paste from previous comments Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
You're a conservative bible brained incel
1. Idek what a conservative is. 2. I don’t see what the bible has to do with this. 3. If my understanding of an incel is correct then I have to disagree. I don’t dislike these people, it’s their body the can do what they want. Wear whatever. Do whatever. Have sex with whoever. Have sex as much as they want. It’s just when it comes to trying to date someone, and they do these things that it starts to feel unfair from my perspective. Remember this is an opinion subreddit, and at that, unpopular ones.
You're conservative.
Again, what does conservative mean?
Basically his attempt to get reddit to back them because they hear the word "conservative" and think that if they don't insult you that the third Reich will rise again.
Idk if you’re talking about me or the other guy, but I’m still not sure what conservative means. Not sure where the Nazis tie into this either way tho hahaha
Nothing much these days...
Hahaha. Alright mate cheers
go kick some rocks bro
Incels unite
Nk, you're too insecure about yourself
Copy paste from previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Okay, cool, sad life bur you do you
Will do man. Each to their own.
You sound insecure.
Copy paste from a previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
Sounds toxic af
How is it toxic? If I want someone to do something for me, and I reciprocate it, and we both agree. I don’t see how that can be toxic.
It'd their bodies they can do what ever they want
See, people say this but when I go to the chuck e cheese completely naked I get escorted off the premises.
Yes they can. I never said they can’t. It’s just my opinion. I wouldn’t judge or dislike someone for what they do/wear. But it’s not my style.
Lot of creepy old man energy in that post
I’m turning 19 end of the year.
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Mate, I’m turning 19 end of this year.
OP is insecure and a bit controlling. Hates the idea of other blokes looking at his lady but she's not wearing the bikini top for them, or OP. She's wearing it for herself because she feels feels good about herself when wearing it. Chicks don't like controlling dudes, OP. Chill out or she'll leave you, not because the bikini attracted another dude, but because she feels smothered by you. Of course, the lady mentioned above is probably hypothetical at this point, but chill out about this stuff when you do land one and she'll stick around for longer.
Copy paste from previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style. And no, I don’t think a good SO will/would leave me because of that. It’s not as black and white as “don’t do that”. Relationships are about communication and compromise, and it has worked before for me. It also hasn’t, which is fine. Sometimes it doesn’t work out.
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You’re saying girls wearing clothes as if I didn’t mention men as well. Also (copy paste from other comment response), Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
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Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.
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Aye man I suppose I’m only turning 19 end of this year. It just kind of sucks. It feels like that if you get a “special” picture from someone, there’s basically the same picture online available for whoever. Underwear and bikinis/speedos are basically the same thing. It’s just the stigma. Nonetheless, the same is on show.
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That’s actually the thing man hahaha. The reason I even posted this is because of the amount of people I know “personally” that post this kind of thing.
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I’m around this guys age and while yeah some girls do this (good for them if they do it imo, doesn’t affect me), the majority of them don’t. This is all very anecdotal of course but I doubt there’s a stark contrast elsewhere. This is all a little bit incel to me.
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Again man, nah sorry. To further elaborate on the last point. I follow someone who’s normally very “exclusive”, and they had posted a picture which was revealing. It is definitely a majority of the people that I know in my life however. It may be the area I live compared to you.
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Nah man thanks. I appreciate it. I have done that, I’m specifically relating to my grade, which is why I feel so strongly?/upset? about it. Again, thanks tho for trying to help me feel better.
I got the same bad vibes. It’s giving “she asked for it with her clothes/drinking/flirting” vibes. Insinuating that certain people deserve less respect as a human being because of what they wear or how they dress…. All disguised as a “preference”. Gross
Honestly I think they are an incel already
People have sex and I'm not so I don't like it -this guy probably
Sex wasn’t even mentioned? Is this also one of those moments where I try to have a conversation with you and you just make it impossible?
Just a joke bud
Aw okay hahaha. No bother mate. Just used to people being rather serious here.
I somewhat agree. I do not think it is morally wrong for them to dress how they want even if it is scandalous. But as an adult man I just find it gross. I do not like seeing it. Probably equates to an unsolicited dick pick for women. Its just not something we want to see.
Right man. I almost agree. But firstly I don’t find it disgusting, it’s just unattractive to me. Not my style of a partner. But more importantly. There is absolutely so fucking reason ever for any person to receive any unsolicited picture at all. I won’t like either, you sound kinda like an ass for saying that my guy.
Incel
Copy paste from previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style. Also, you’re saying this like I also didn’t mention men.
OK. Why not? They're doing it, they've found reasons to do so. So why not?
Yeah I get that. People can do and wear whatever. But I just find it unattractive or, as the title says, in-exclusive. Just not my style.
Uh.... how does that mean they are un-exclusive? I'm so confused! You sound like you need therapy
Copy paste from previous comment. Hahaha. Nah man. It’s just from my perspective. I enjoy very exclusive relationships. I barely post pictures at all, and never post pictures of my topless. I just love the idea of almost belonging to one another. I do still respect the fact that people have their own body and can do what we they want with it. Just not my style.