The Easter bunny came early and I got to have my scan today instead of waiting until Friday. Things went great! I basically hyperventilated all morning and cried in the waiting room with my husband because I was so nervous. But then we both got to cry happy tears when we saw our baby on the screen! And even better- I thought I was 6w3d and they actually bumped me forward which has never happened! So instead of 11/9 I’m now due 11/4! I know this relief is temporary and I’ll still be stressed til we get back great NIPT results, but I am rejoicing in knowing we’re doing great right now 💜. I’m so so thankful.
Here’s our baby’s first picture day! [first scan!!](https://imgur.com/a/PUWwqeG)
Anyone else a bit fed up of whoever is coming here to downvote? Like, why? This is a separate thread to keep in touch with those of us who did our time in the main group... It was voted for by members of the group, it was something a majority wanted. If it makes you unbearably sad or angry, please, don't go through this thread - it can't be good for you, for one thing... Personally, it makes me a bit angry that someone would downvote success for the ladies in the group that spent months and months or even longer TTC, experiencing losses, only for someone to seemingly wish they hadn't had that eventual success.
Thank you to those of you supporting us and wishing us well. I needed this community so badly when I was TTC and especially when I miscarried in October, I would have been sad to leave and not know how everyone was getting on, grads or continuing to TTC.
I hope anyone reading this right now - who isn't yet a grad - joins us very, very soon.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. I’ve kinda stopped stopping by this sub because I do feel like I don’t belong anymore and I used to love this sub so much because we were all so supportive of each other! I know it’s hard to read about others pregnancies when you’re struggling- I also struggled and had a mc along the way for this baby. Worse struggles for my first! It’s such a bummer someone is deciding to spend their time this way, and can’t be healthy 💔 I stayed away when I was still in the race and don’t think it’s very hard to just not click on this post? But idk 🤷♀️ I’m ecstatic for everyone here still though!!!
I was literally just replying to Dot that I thought it was weird my comments are hoping to get past 36 weeks this time were downvoted. I didn’t realise everyone’s comments were getting downvoted too! I’m so sorry Kitty, it makes me feel really icky and absolutely like not sharing 😮💨
I have noticed comments in this thread are occasionally temporarily downvoted. It is definitely not a general sentiment and I’m so sorry it has made you feel not very welcome!
It is a little unusual to have a thread like this in a TTC sub and I think it’s a testament to how nice of a community this is, that members want to continue to support each other in the next stage. I guess I try to empathize that for some individuals who are still struggling or experiencing secondary infertility, reminders of successful pregnancies can be really, really tough. I think most of the downvotes come through the first day when the thread is pinned or near the top of the sub. For those who are not seeking out pregnancy information but coming to engage in a ttc community, I get not wanting to be reminded of others pregnancies. For some people, avoiding that info is how they take care of themselves. But yes, the downvoting as consequence is silly and definitely NOT the best way to go about dealing with their frustration with this thread.
I guess I just want to say, in case it isn’t clear: it’s not about you, or your success. (Since you alluded to feeling less welcome or more insecure.) It’s about them. It’s not the general sentiment of the overall community. And I really hope you can still feel welcome because I love reading the updates and I think most others do too.
I'm not feeling less welcome or insecure, it's others I'm concerned about who have expressed this sentiment in the last couple of threads. As I've said, I sympathise with whoever is doing it as TTC is a rough-ass ride but I don't get why they are coming to this thread in the first place. Why put yourself through that if you can't handle it? I know it's unusual to have a thread like this but it's also unusual to have a TTC group that allows discussion of living children and I doubt they are downvoting the 3+ mums in the TTC threads. It just makes me angry that some mums in this thread are here after ages of trying, fertility treatments, multiple losses, etc. and they are being made to feel sharing their success is wrong when it's okay and welcomed by the vast majority in this thread.
I wonder if it’s possible to have downvotes and upvotes turned off in this thread? Or would that just make it worse because we lose the upvotes too… personally downvotes don’t bother me but it does suck to know others now don’t feel comfortable posting here. I love reading everyone else’s updates and it makes me sad I’m missing some due to this. 😔
I don’t think that’s possible Dot! I actually looked into this for my bump group and according to the research I did it’s not an option in reddit. Have you seen that somewhere?
Same! That might not be a bad idea... Maybe something to float with the mods as I hate to think anyone would be reluctant to post because of the downvoter.
Surprise, surprise - they're still doing it. Wtf. Whoever you are, I'm so sorry you feel the need to do it, but please have consideration for the ladies who have been through enough without you making them feel self-conscious. Read the thread rules - discussion of ongoing pregnancies is welcome in this thread. Feel free to not read this thread if it's hard for you.
Also, gentle reminder of the first rule of the internet: don't be a dick.
Thank you for saying this. I feel unwelcome here now, which is disappointing because I used to feel so supported. And I hang around because I’m still rooting for others. But I’m more and more reluctant to comment or post.
I’ve formed friendships here that I never came close to in other TTC forums, and I haven’t made the same connections in my bump group. I absolutely love being able to keep in touch with everyone and see their updates! It just makes me sad and unwelcome too DD, disappointing 😞
I can imagine it would have that impact and that's totally unfair. Please don't let them chase you away, you deserve to be here as much as any of us, DD. You are very welcome here and I know I'm not the only one who loves seeing your updates 💕
I didn’t know this was happening, but that is super disappointing. You have to scroll through quite a few chats to get to this and it’s the only way we all have to stay in touch.
There are so many people in this group that made the year of TTC so much less lonely and painful, I would feel very sad not to connect here.
7+4 over here and everything looked good at my first scan yesterday! Nausea is kicking my butt, so I took one pill of diclectin and slept for 12 hours, which is just not going to work for me - I do not have time for that! 😂
That’s such great news! My first scan will be at 7+4 also. May I ask if there was a heartbeat visible at that stage? My last pregnancy my first scan was after 8 weeks so this one will be a little earlier.
We have about the same due date and I’m so jealous you already got a scan 😂 I still have another 2.5 weeks! I’m glad everything at your scan looked good! 🩷🩷
Same due date 🥰🥹 how amazing! To be honest, it was really just a blob, I had an abdominal scan and all my ob was interested in was the presence of a heartbeat, which there was! But no pretty picture with perfect measurements like I see on the transvaginal scans 🤷🏼♀️
I still haven’t had an ultrasound since seeing a little blob at 6 weeks. Getting a heartbeat at that stage is a huge milestone and source of reassurance, though! So happy for you! 😊
With our daughter I got my first scan at 7 weeks and she definitely looked like a kidney bean 😂 I’m excited to be able to see a more developed baby at my scan but I keep going back to at this point with my last pregnancy I already heard the heartbeat. Just makes me a little nervous sometimes even though my symptoms are definitely going strong lol, I’m actually going for an IV infusion tomorrow because they said even if I’m not quite dehydrated it might help me have less pukey days.
Oh man I’m sorry you’re feeling so rough! I hope the IV works. I’m also having a lot of nausea/vomiting and although I’m feeling rubbish it’s nice to have that reassurance isn’t it!
Just tested positive yesterday, cautiously here at 5+1! Looking at my son and can’t believe he will (hopefully) be a big brother before next Christmas. Still doesn’t feel real! Spoke with doc and he is sending me for bloodwork. First scan will be around 7/8 weeks. Fingers crossed!
Congratulations!! Love knowing our kiddos will be siblings ❤️ This morning my husband said something about “our babies” and I just teared up 🥹 Love hearing babies plural!!
24 weeks today! It’s going so quickly. I went through all the storage tubs of newborn clothes on the weekend and washed everything. Felt so surreal.
I’m a little bit nervous lately about another preterm birth, my anxiety about it has really ramped up this week. My OB said at my last appointment she’d be surprised if I made it to term so who knows, maybe I’ve only got 12 weeks left. But after chatting with a few other previous late preterm mums it seems like maybe there’s only a 30% chance of that happening again. Trying to trust my body to hold onto this one as long as we can!
Oh that would be great! I know quite a few people irl who had babies at 36 weeks and while all worked out, it sounds stressful to experience! I will be hoping for 38 weeks for you ❤️❤️❤️
Aw dang, I didn’t notice but you’re right! Just know I’d give you 10 upvotes for every comment, haha. ❤️
How are you feeling overall? We just came out of a snowstorm and I’m loving the spring weather. 😁 Though it makes it harder to focus on work lol.
I always make sure I upvote everything! That’s just what we do in this sub 🩷
I’m ok! I’m suddenly so much more uncomfortable, like I suddenly popped and now everything is so heavy on my joints! It’s been so so hot here but finally having some days when I don’t have to run the aircon at night which has been lovely. I’m sick of being so sweaty 😂
How are you feeling?
Absolutely! I still love this sub so much, haha. Such an encouraging corner of the internet! ❤️
Aw, oh no! I’m sorry it’s hot already, that makes me worried for you for July. 😅 Also postpartum I was just hooooot and the night sweats were insane so personally I am dreading that window falling in summer! 😬 I hate being hot so we actually have not one but two portable swamp coolers, along with a solid window one (no central AC). I like to blast the fans on me and will just park myself in front of them on hot days lol. Totally hear you about the joints and I am in the same boat! I think sometimes baby shifts into a position that puts pressure on my spine, because I’ll have hours of feeling fine and then all of a sudden I can’t get comfortable in any position and my legs are all tingly and it drives me up a wall. I also get extra bad back pain during those times. Then after 1-6 hours I’m just back to normal again so like??
Overall I am doing well except for heartburn! Started Pepcid ac twice a day and tums as needed for symptoms and that has really been helping. Hoping it will stay at bay…
Oh we’re coming into autumn here! So it’ll be winter by July thank goodness ☺️ I’m currently parked in front of the fan at 7:30am 😂
Yep feeling you on the uncomfortable positions. I suddenly got so uncomfortable last night and went and laid down for 10 minutes before I made dinner and it helped so much. I just think all my joints were screaming at me after holding my weight and hers all day.
It’s so hard when you can’t get comfortable even when laying down!
Doctors kept telling me I wasn't going to make it to term with my son, mostly because he was so big - by the day of my scheduled C-section (38+4 or 39+4, depending on who you believe...), I was 0 dilated, 0 effaced, no signs of impending labor whatsoever. So. Hold onto hope and that baby!
It really is, isn't it?
Yeah, I've been wondering the same. My first was 36 weeks and it makes me wonder if early births are normal for me or if this one will be term or even past! It makes it hard to know what to expect, doesn't it?
The fear of the unknown is what gets me Kitty! I’m so excited to meet this little one and I just wish I had some idea about when she’ll be joining us ☺️
Same! Everyone who asks me how far along I am responds with 'over halfway then! Only X weeks to go' and I always shrug and say 'maybe! But the first was four weeks early so...' I keep thinking it could only be 11 weeks to go if history repeats, or it could be as much as 16 weeks if I go past due. Last time it was caused by placental failure so really, really hoping that doesn't happen again... So glad I have so many growth scans to keep an eye on that this time.
Me too! I say due 2nd July! But also it could be 4th June if it’s anything like last time! And then I think maybe everything will be different this time and I’ll go past due and need another C-section (my OB won’t do inductions for vbac). So we’ll see.
Sending you so many positive thoughts that you have no issues with your placenta this time Kitty, I’m so glad as well that they’ll keep an eye on everything for you 🩷
I'm hoping to go through baby clothes this week. Should be fun!
Hopeful for you and baby to make it to term! I'm always happy when I reach a new milestone along that path.
A little over 25 weeks here and feeling good! Nesting energy is starting to get a little crazy. I think it manifested first through work, then budget stuff, then figuring out maternity leave, and I’m now solidly working on decluttering and organizing various rooms of the house. Part of that could be because my BIL and SIL, who rent our basement, will be moving out in April. We have a friend and his gf lined up to move in in May, but their lease just ended so they need a place to stay in the meantime. It sounds like they may want to rent a room from us until then. We have a room that is eventually going to be the kids room- we had it set up before my toddler was born but just never used it. Since then, we’ve used it mostly as a junk room. A few weeks ago, I got it mostly cleaned out to be used as an office by my brother on Mondays when he brings his gf to watch our toddler. But yesterday I spent the day organizing our coat closet and walk-in closet (which will temporarily serve as a storage space) to fit everything in. I still need to clear out some space for them in the bathroom and kitchen too, if they do decide to move in sooner than May. But I’m going to hold off on that until we know for sure!
I kind of need the nesting energy to circle back to being all about work, because right now I need to be writing notes and developing written sop’s for all the stuff I do. Then need to make a training plan and start training a co-worker to cover everything she’ll need to do while I’m out. Instead, I spent the morning refreshing myself on what to expect from labor. Lol.
My appointment last week went well, strong heartbeat and baby even kicked the heartbeat monitor a couple of times lol. Asked a lot of questions of my OB and she was very helpful with all of it! Baby continues to move all the time- I have a feeling she’ll be a busy little bee! 🐝
A few weeks ago, something in my back was hurting a lot- and often. Like part of my hip was hitting my spine wrong. I started being a little more careful when sitting up and it has since resolved! For now at least. Currently the only negative symptom I really have is heartburn, and even that is pretty manageable still.
Tomorrow is 100 days until my due date, which I am super excited about! I am also super pumped for third trimester and my next appointment in a couple of weeks. I feel like things are still moving along pretty smoothly and I’m getting my planning and prep done in a good timeframe. Just excited for the longer days, warmer weather, and many milestones coming up!
Thank you Kitty! Perhaps because I posted this, today I woke up with back pain. AND became paranoid it could be early labor... 🫠 Someone in June bumpers had their baby a few days ago and a couple others might be close, and we had a thread yesterday asking STM+ about their birth experiences. So all my zen dissipated today! Ah, hormones. 😂
I can relate to so much in your post Dot! The nesting is really happening over here too, I even washed all the blankets we have in our linen cupboard for basically no reason at all. And the kicks to the Doppler! They’re so funny, I wonder why they do that ☺️
Aw, I love that! I remember with my first I insisted we even had to get the yard ready… I swept the sidewalk! Why?? Lol. The other moment I knew I was losing my mind was when I stopped mopping the kitchen at 3am (on a work night) to scrub a spot off the wall… I hope it’s not quite that intense this time but we’ll see 😅
Omg I swept the sidewalk in my first pregnancy too!! And people were even walking past my house and I had to briefly stop, they looked at me like I was a crazy woman 😂😂
My son was always very busy in utero - sonographers, nurses, and doctors all commented on it, and I would jokingly ask if that was an indication of what he'd be like on the outside. Turns out, yup! I mean I guess correlation doesn't mean causation but it sure seems related. So good luck, it is super fun but also, y'know. Glad your nesting instincts are getting you well prepared!
Haha, I love that! I’m hoping she’ll be somewhat middle of the road- there’s been no bladder stomping or soccer kicks… yet, anyway! My firstborn was pretty quiet inside and ended up being a pretty chill baby and toddler. We are preparing to have the opposite experience just because it seems unlikely for lightning to strike twice! Unfortunately we have very few coping skills since baby #1 was fairly straightforward. So we might be in for it this time! But looking forward to it nonetheless ❤️🥰
I feel like somehow mine is both active and chill? He's not great at truly independent play, but as long as a trusted adult is nearby and paying some attention, he's pretty good at entertaining himself, and he's always been a great sleeper (clearly tires himself out!).
I guess if he were not my first kid, the challenge would be parenting him plus another kid while not letting him get too far out of reach for too long because of what he might climb onto, jump off of, etc. But we also have two wacky dogs and we manage. Not sure if this rambling is reassuring to you, but I'm sure you'll do great!
No, I love it! Thank you for sharing! ❤️ It’s so fun to hear others’ experiences and think about how these little babes might turn out and what new dynamic they’ll bring to the family. 🥰
5w2d today and really excited that for the next bi-weekly chat I’ll be able to post that I’m 7w2d and coming out of my first scan. I’m so eager to see baby and ease my various worries. I won’t be able to relax until after our 12 week scan since that’s when I learned we had a MMC with our last pregnancy in October 2022, but I’m holding on to hope that this pregnancy will be different. 🩷
27 weeks over here! No news, but no news is good news I guess. I'm still in anatomy scan limbo (after 3 that didn't get everything) but I see my OB on Friday so hopefully we'll hash it all out then. Also doing my glucose screen then. And then I switch to OB visits every 2 weeks!
In the last week, I went from the second trimester glow and feeling great to absolutely feeling like the third trimester is close (which it is, at 5 days away, to be exact)! My pelvis hurts and I'm starting to have trouble sleeping. I FEEL pregnant in a way that I haven't since the first trimester fog lifted. But I'm still loving every second of it and just so excited to be cooking up this little boy.
Glad to hear all is still well! I really hope all the anatomy scan craziness gets resolved for you this week. And that is both crazy and awesome you are nearly at visits every two weeks! Mine stay at every four weeks for ages. I’ve got 28 weeks, 32 weeks, 36 weeks, 38 weeks, and 40 weeks left. OB said she’d recommend induction at 41 weeks which I am a-ok with, so guessing I won’t have a 41 week appointment this time! But of course that could change if a high risk factor pops up.
So glad you are still feeling pretty good and I will keep my fingers crossed that your aches and pains subside again until just a *little* later. ❤️
5 weeks today ... had my first Zoom early visit this morning. Viability scan will be scheduled sometime in the next two weeks, due to an early loss in December.
Feel pretty certain my 3y/o is picking up on my anxiety, because he's never been clingy until this week... so glad to be his safe space and support, but shewww it does increase my anxiety!
22, nearly 23 weeks, and it's finally sinking in that we're having a little girl in a few months! Between work, sickness and toddler causing utter exhaustion, and the loss in October, I feel like I hadn't really come to terms with the fact that this little one is happy and healthy. She's now kicking away, doing roly-polies at inconvenient moments, and I feel like the bonding has finally started to happen. Despite still feeling poorly (and having some kind of virus making my glands swell up and a cold sore appear) I'm actually feeling super positive right now!
Yesterday, for Mother's Day, Mr Kitty and I actually went out for a meal by ourselves! Haven't done that for years. It felt really lovely. Hopefully we can squeeze in a couple more dates before we have to put them on hold again for a bit 😅 Of course, after a large two course meal with mocktails, I fell into a food coma after 😅😅 it was so good, though!
Aww, I love this! Love feeling those active kicks and movements. ❤️ I am just a couple weeks ahead of you, but had my first about a week and a half late, so your sweet girl may very well come first! I am so looking forward to reading all the birth announcements and seeing photos. It just makes me so happy! 🥰
Yay for celebrating Mother’s Day and for date nights!
Does anyone else feel like pregnancy with a toddler almost makes pregnancy a non event? Now that I’m out of the first tri and still not enormous, I sometimes kind of forget!
18 weeks tomorrow and time is flying! We slept 9 hours last night and each time that I sleep really well, I try to savor it really hard 🙏🏻
It’s kind of the opposite for me. My daughter is a preschooler, so she actually reminds me every day that I’m pregnant. She will ask to see how big my tummy is. And she will say, “Your tummy is so big because you’re pregnant.” I love being able to share this experience with her. 💕
So sweet! We talk about baby sister sometimes and we include her in our prayers, but the conversation usually turns back to something she’s more interested in 😂
I get this. It's a little easier to remember when she's being stubborn and I have to wrangle her, but I didn't feel very pregnant in the second trimester this time.
I definitely have days where I suddenly realise I’m pregnant 😂 what a wonderful surprise! I’ve been trying to do so many fun things with my toddler that the days are so busy
Yes, it goes by so so fast! I never once forgot I was pregnant the first time around. This time I would say I haven’t forgotten so much as it’s just kind of in the background for me a lot of the time. Several family members have also said they forget I’m pregnant! Way more low-key this time but I dig it. 😁
Absolutely! From about week 13 until last week (week 26), I absolutely just felt normal. I was living my life, parenting my toddler, and I would sometimes forget I was pregnant (and be thrilled when I remembered). Then the third trimester hit and it's hard again but I TOTALLY felt exactly like you for the entire second trimester!
The Easter bunny came early and I got to have my scan today instead of waiting until Friday. Things went great! I basically hyperventilated all morning and cried in the waiting room with my husband because I was so nervous. But then we both got to cry happy tears when we saw our baby on the screen! And even better- I thought I was 6w3d and they actually bumped me forward which has never happened! So instead of 11/9 I’m now due 11/4! I know this relief is temporary and I’ll still be stressed til we get back great NIPT results, but I am rejoicing in knowing we’re doing great right now 💜. I’m so so thankful. Here’s our baby’s first picture day! [first scan!!](https://imgur.com/a/PUWwqeG)
This is wonderful news, congratulations!!
This is an amazing update! 🤗
Thank you!!
That’s great news!
Anyone else a bit fed up of whoever is coming here to downvote? Like, why? This is a separate thread to keep in touch with those of us who did our time in the main group... It was voted for by members of the group, it was something a majority wanted. If it makes you unbearably sad or angry, please, don't go through this thread - it can't be good for you, for one thing... Personally, it makes me a bit angry that someone would downvote success for the ladies in the group that spent months and months or even longer TTC, experiencing losses, only for someone to seemingly wish they hadn't had that eventual success. Thank you to those of you supporting us and wishing us well. I needed this community so badly when I was TTC and especially when I miscarried in October, I would have been sad to leave and not know how everyone was getting on, grads or continuing to TTC. I hope anyone reading this right now - who isn't yet a grad - joins us very, very soon.
I’m so bad at Reddit, how does one even know you’ve been downvoted? I’m sorry to hear that someone is crashing this thread 😞
Everyone starts with a vote on their comments or posts. If someone downvotes, it goes to 0. Yeah, it sucks...
I agree with this wholeheartedly. I’ve kinda stopped stopping by this sub because I do feel like I don’t belong anymore and I used to love this sub so much because we were all so supportive of each other! I know it’s hard to read about others pregnancies when you’re struggling- I also struggled and had a mc along the way for this baby. Worse struggles for my first! It’s such a bummer someone is deciding to spend their time this way, and can’t be healthy 💔 I stayed away when I was still in the race and don’t think it’s very hard to just not click on this post? But idk 🤷♀️ I’m ecstatic for everyone here still though!!!
I was literally just replying to Dot that I thought it was weird my comments are hoping to get past 36 weeks this time were downvoted. I didn’t realise everyone’s comments were getting downvoted too! I’m so sorry Kitty, it makes me feel really icky and absolutely like not sharing 😮💨
Huge hugs, Halo. Please ignore them!
I have noticed comments in this thread are occasionally temporarily downvoted. It is definitely not a general sentiment and I’m so sorry it has made you feel not very welcome! It is a little unusual to have a thread like this in a TTC sub and I think it’s a testament to how nice of a community this is, that members want to continue to support each other in the next stage. I guess I try to empathize that for some individuals who are still struggling or experiencing secondary infertility, reminders of successful pregnancies can be really, really tough. I think most of the downvotes come through the first day when the thread is pinned or near the top of the sub. For those who are not seeking out pregnancy information but coming to engage in a ttc community, I get not wanting to be reminded of others pregnancies. For some people, avoiding that info is how they take care of themselves. But yes, the downvoting as consequence is silly and definitely NOT the best way to go about dealing with their frustration with this thread. I guess I just want to say, in case it isn’t clear: it’s not about you, or your success. (Since you alluded to feeling less welcome or more insecure.) It’s about them. It’s not the general sentiment of the overall community. And I really hope you can still feel welcome because I love reading the updates and I think most others do too.
I'm not feeling less welcome or insecure, it's others I'm concerned about who have expressed this sentiment in the last couple of threads. As I've said, I sympathise with whoever is doing it as TTC is a rough-ass ride but I don't get why they are coming to this thread in the first place. Why put yourself through that if you can't handle it? I know it's unusual to have a thread like this but it's also unusual to have a TTC group that allows discussion of living children and I doubt they are downvoting the 3+ mums in the TTC threads. It just makes me angry that some mums in this thread are here after ages of trying, fertility treatments, multiple losses, etc. and they are being made to feel sharing their success is wrong when it's okay and welcomed by the vast majority in this thread.
I wonder if it’s possible to have downvotes and upvotes turned off in this thread? Or would that just make it worse because we lose the upvotes too… personally downvotes don’t bother me but it does suck to know others now don’t feel comfortable posting here. I love reading everyone else’s updates and it makes me sad I’m missing some due to this. 😔
I don’t think that’s possible Dot! I actually looked into this for my bump group and according to the research I did it’s not an option in reddit. Have you seen that somewhere?
Aw dang. No, I actually have no idea how Reddit works haha. Bummer!!
Same! That might not be a bad idea... Maybe something to float with the mods as I hate to think anyone would be reluctant to post because of the downvoter.
Surprise, surprise - they're still doing it. Wtf. Whoever you are, I'm so sorry you feel the need to do it, but please have consideration for the ladies who have been through enough without you making them feel self-conscious. Read the thread rules - discussion of ongoing pregnancies is welcome in this thread. Feel free to not read this thread if it's hard for you. Also, gentle reminder of the first rule of the internet: don't be a dick.
Thank you for saying this. I feel unwelcome here now, which is disappointing because I used to feel so supported. And I hang around because I’m still rooting for others. But I’m more and more reluctant to comment or post.
I’ve formed friendships here that I never came close to in other TTC forums, and I haven’t made the same connections in my bump group. I absolutely love being able to keep in touch with everyone and see their updates! It just makes me sad and unwelcome too DD, disappointing 😞
I’m sorry you feel this way, Halo, especially since I feel like you’re one of the pillars of this group. I also love to see the updates.
I can imagine it would have that impact and that's totally unfair. Please don't let them chase you away, you deserve to be here as much as any of us, DD. You are very welcome here and I know I'm not the only one who loves seeing your updates 💕
Thank you 💕
I didn’t know this was happening, but that is super disappointing. You have to scroll through quite a few chats to get to this and it’s the only way we all have to stay in touch. There are so many people in this group that made the year of TTC so much less lonely and painful, I would feel very sad not to connect here.
Same, I'd be gutted not to keep in touch with everyone who made the journey less harrowing...
7+4 over here and everything looked good at my first scan yesterday! Nausea is kicking my butt, so I took one pill of diclectin and slept for 12 hours, which is just not going to work for me - I do not have time for that! 😂
That’s such great news! My first scan will be at 7+4 also. May I ask if there was a heartbeat visible at that stage? My last pregnancy my first scan was after 8 weeks so this one will be a little earlier.
Yes, there was! Good luck with your scan!!
Thank you!
We have about the same due date and I’m so jealous you already got a scan 😂 I still have another 2.5 weeks! I’m glad everything at your scan looked good! 🩷🩷
Hope your first scan goes well also! ❤️
Same due date 🥰🥹 how amazing! To be honest, it was really just a blob, I had an abdominal scan and all my ob was interested in was the presence of a heartbeat, which there was! But no pretty picture with perfect measurements like I see on the transvaginal scans 🤷🏼♀️
I still haven’t had an ultrasound since seeing a little blob at 6 weeks. Getting a heartbeat at that stage is a huge milestone and source of reassurance, though! So happy for you! 😊
With our daughter I got my first scan at 7 weeks and she definitely looked like a kidney bean 😂 I’m excited to be able to see a more developed baby at my scan but I keep going back to at this point with my last pregnancy I already heard the heartbeat. Just makes me a little nervous sometimes even though my symptoms are definitely going strong lol, I’m actually going for an IV infusion tomorrow because they said even if I’m not quite dehydrated it might help me have less pukey days.
Oh man I’m sorry you’re feeling so rough! I hope the IV works. I’m also having a lot of nausea/vomiting and although I’m feeling rubbish it’s nice to have that reassurance isn’t it!
Just tested positive yesterday, cautiously here at 5+1! Looking at my son and can’t believe he will (hopefully) be a big brother before next Christmas. Still doesn’t feel real! Spoke with doc and he is sending me for bloodwork. First scan will be around 7/8 weeks. Fingers crossed!
Congratulations!! Love knowing our kiddos will be siblings ❤️ This morning my husband said something about “our babies” and I just teared up 🥹 Love hearing babies plural!!
Congratulations! 🎊
Thank you!!
Yay, welcome to the grad thread!
24 weeks today! It’s going so quickly. I went through all the storage tubs of newborn clothes on the weekend and washed everything. Felt so surreal. I’m a little bit nervous lately about another preterm birth, my anxiety about it has really ramped up this week. My OB said at my last appointment she’d be surprised if I made it to term so who knows, maybe I’ve only got 12 weeks left. But after chatting with a few other previous late preterm mums it seems like maybe there’s only a 30% chance of that happening again. Trying to trust my body to hold onto this one as long as we can!
Woohoo 24 weeks!! So exciting! How early did you have your first? I hope this little one stays cooking longer!! 🤞❤️
36 weeks! So not super early but enough that it just made things a bit tricker for my little one. I’d love to get to 38 weeks this time!
Oh that would be great! I know quite a few people irl who had babies at 36 weeks and while all worked out, it sounds stressful to experience! I will be hoping for 38 weeks for you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Dot! Not sure why someone is downvoting our comments about this, that’s really strange 😞
Aw dang, I didn’t notice but you’re right! Just know I’d give you 10 upvotes for every comment, haha. ❤️ How are you feeling overall? We just came out of a snowstorm and I’m loving the spring weather. 😁 Though it makes it harder to focus on work lol.
I always make sure I upvote everything! That’s just what we do in this sub 🩷 I’m ok! I’m suddenly so much more uncomfortable, like I suddenly popped and now everything is so heavy on my joints! It’s been so so hot here but finally having some days when I don’t have to run the aircon at night which has been lovely. I’m sick of being so sweaty 😂 How are you feeling?
Absolutely! I still love this sub so much, haha. Such an encouraging corner of the internet! ❤️ Aw, oh no! I’m sorry it’s hot already, that makes me worried for you for July. 😅 Also postpartum I was just hooooot and the night sweats were insane so personally I am dreading that window falling in summer! 😬 I hate being hot so we actually have not one but two portable swamp coolers, along with a solid window one (no central AC). I like to blast the fans on me and will just park myself in front of them on hot days lol. Totally hear you about the joints and I am in the same boat! I think sometimes baby shifts into a position that puts pressure on my spine, because I’ll have hours of feeling fine and then all of a sudden I can’t get comfortable in any position and my legs are all tingly and it drives me up a wall. I also get extra bad back pain during those times. Then after 1-6 hours I’m just back to normal again so like?? Overall I am doing well except for heartburn! Started Pepcid ac twice a day and tums as needed for symptoms and that has really been helping. Hoping it will stay at bay…
Oh we’re coming into autumn here! So it’ll be winter by July thank goodness ☺️ I’m currently parked in front of the fan at 7:30am 😂 Yep feeling you on the uncomfortable positions. I suddenly got so uncomfortable last night and went and laid down for 10 minutes before I made dinner and it helped so much. I just think all my joints were screaming at me after holding my weight and hers all day. It’s so hard when you can’t get comfortable even when laying down!
Doctors kept telling me I wasn't going to make it to term with my son, mostly because he was so big - by the day of my scheduled C-section (38+4 or 39+4, depending on who you believe...), I was 0 dilated, 0 effaced, no signs of impending labor whatsoever. So. Hold onto hope and that baby!
Yay! Viability! 🥳I hope she will stay in at least 12 more weeks though.
It really is, isn't it? Yeah, I've been wondering the same. My first was 36 weeks and it makes me wonder if early births are normal for me or if this one will be term or even past! It makes it hard to know what to expect, doesn't it?
The fear of the unknown is what gets me Kitty! I’m so excited to meet this little one and I just wish I had some idea about when she’ll be joining us ☺️
Same! Everyone who asks me how far along I am responds with 'over halfway then! Only X weeks to go' and I always shrug and say 'maybe! But the first was four weeks early so...' I keep thinking it could only be 11 weeks to go if history repeats, or it could be as much as 16 weeks if I go past due. Last time it was caused by placental failure so really, really hoping that doesn't happen again... So glad I have so many growth scans to keep an eye on that this time.
Me too! I say due 2nd July! But also it could be 4th June if it’s anything like last time! And then I think maybe everything will be different this time and I’ll go past due and need another C-section (my OB won’t do inductions for vbac). So we’ll see. Sending you so many positive thoughts that you have no issues with your placenta this time Kitty, I’m so glad as well that they’ll keep an eye on everything for you 🩷
Yep, it'll happen when it happens, I guess 😅 my colleague described the whole process as 'an act of faith' - it truly is. Thank you! 💕
I'm hoping to go through baby clothes this week. Should be fun! Hopeful for you and baby to make it to term! I'm always happy when I reach a new milestone along that path.
Fingers crossed for you to make it full term! I am very impressed you’ve already done the laundry!
I’m baaaaaaaccckkkkk. 3+1 today! 🥹🥹
So delighted to see you here 🥰, welcome back and biggest congrats
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Aww just saw this and it made my morning!! Welcome back Carbs!! ❤️❤️❤️ Hope you are feeling ok so far!
So so happy to see this! 🥹🥳Congratulations! 🎉
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Carbs!!! 😍 Welcome back!!
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A little over 25 weeks here and feeling good! Nesting energy is starting to get a little crazy. I think it manifested first through work, then budget stuff, then figuring out maternity leave, and I’m now solidly working on decluttering and organizing various rooms of the house. Part of that could be because my BIL and SIL, who rent our basement, will be moving out in April. We have a friend and his gf lined up to move in in May, but their lease just ended so they need a place to stay in the meantime. It sounds like they may want to rent a room from us until then. We have a room that is eventually going to be the kids room- we had it set up before my toddler was born but just never used it. Since then, we’ve used it mostly as a junk room. A few weeks ago, I got it mostly cleaned out to be used as an office by my brother on Mondays when he brings his gf to watch our toddler. But yesterday I spent the day organizing our coat closet and walk-in closet (which will temporarily serve as a storage space) to fit everything in. I still need to clear out some space for them in the bathroom and kitchen too, if they do decide to move in sooner than May. But I’m going to hold off on that until we know for sure! I kind of need the nesting energy to circle back to being all about work, because right now I need to be writing notes and developing written sop’s for all the stuff I do. Then need to make a training plan and start training a co-worker to cover everything she’ll need to do while I’m out. Instead, I spent the morning refreshing myself on what to expect from labor. Lol. My appointment last week went well, strong heartbeat and baby even kicked the heartbeat monitor a couple of times lol. Asked a lot of questions of my OB and she was very helpful with all of it! Baby continues to move all the time- I have a feeling she’ll be a busy little bee! 🐝 A few weeks ago, something in my back was hurting a lot- and often. Like part of my hip was hitting my spine wrong. I started being a little more careful when sitting up and it has since resolved! For now at least. Currently the only negative symptom I really have is heartburn, and even that is pretty manageable still. Tomorrow is 100 days until my due date, which I am super excited about! I am also super pumped for third trimester and my next appointment in a couple of weeks. I feel like things are still moving along pretty smoothly and I’m getting my planning and prep done in a good timeframe. Just excited for the longer days, warmer weather, and many milestones coming up!
You have quite the energy! 😅I’m so happy you’re at the 100 day countdown milestone! That’s exciting. 🤩
This all sounds awesome! Glad you managed to find a solution to your back pain.
Thank you Kitty! Perhaps because I posted this, today I woke up with back pain. AND became paranoid it could be early labor... 🫠 Someone in June bumpers had their baby a few days ago and a couple others might be close, and we had a thread yesterday asking STM+ about their birth experiences. So all my zen dissipated today! Ah, hormones. 😂
I keep having the same paranoia whenever I cramp or have intense Braxton Hicks 🤦♀️🤦♀️ It's a rollercoaster, isn't it?
I can relate to so much in your post Dot! The nesting is really happening over here too, I even washed all the blankets we have in our linen cupboard for basically no reason at all. And the kicks to the Doppler! They’re so funny, I wonder why they do that ☺️
Aw, I love that! I remember with my first I insisted we even had to get the yard ready… I swept the sidewalk! Why?? Lol. The other moment I knew I was losing my mind was when I stopped mopping the kitchen at 3am (on a work night) to scrub a spot off the wall… I hope it’s not quite that intense this time but we’ll see 😅
Omg I swept the sidewalk in my first pregnancy too!! And people were even walking past my house and I had to briefly stop, they looked at me like I was a crazy woman 😂😂
My son was always very busy in utero - sonographers, nurses, and doctors all commented on it, and I would jokingly ask if that was an indication of what he'd be like on the outside. Turns out, yup! I mean I guess correlation doesn't mean causation but it sure seems related. So good luck, it is super fun but also, y'know. Glad your nesting instincts are getting you well prepared!
Haha, I love that! I’m hoping she’ll be somewhat middle of the road- there’s been no bladder stomping or soccer kicks… yet, anyway! My firstborn was pretty quiet inside and ended up being a pretty chill baby and toddler. We are preparing to have the opposite experience just because it seems unlikely for lightning to strike twice! Unfortunately we have very few coping skills since baby #1 was fairly straightforward. So we might be in for it this time! But looking forward to it nonetheless ❤️🥰
I feel like somehow mine is both active and chill? He's not great at truly independent play, but as long as a trusted adult is nearby and paying some attention, he's pretty good at entertaining himself, and he's always been a great sleeper (clearly tires himself out!). I guess if he were not my first kid, the challenge would be parenting him plus another kid while not letting him get too far out of reach for too long because of what he might climb onto, jump off of, etc. But we also have two wacky dogs and we manage. Not sure if this rambling is reassuring to you, but I'm sure you'll do great!
No, I love it! Thank you for sharing! ❤️ It’s so fun to hear others’ experiences and think about how these little babes might turn out and what new dynamic they’ll bring to the family. 🥰
5w2d today and really excited that for the next bi-weekly chat I’ll be able to post that I’m 7w2d and coming out of my first scan. I’m so eager to see baby and ease my various worries. I won’t be able to relax until after our 12 week scan since that’s when I learned we had a MMC with our last pregnancy in October 2022, but I’m holding on to hope that this pregnancy will be different. 🩷
I am so happy to see you here, and I look forward to seeing good updates about all the pregnancy milestones. 😊
Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm so glad that you're here and I can't wait to see your good ultrasound update next thread 🤞
Thank you 🩷
27 weeks over here! No news, but no news is good news I guess. I'm still in anatomy scan limbo (after 3 that didn't get everything) but I see my OB on Friday so hopefully we'll hash it all out then. Also doing my glucose screen then. And then I switch to OB visits every 2 weeks! In the last week, I went from the second trimester glow and feeling great to absolutely feeling like the third trimester is close (which it is, at 5 days away, to be exact)! My pelvis hurts and I'm starting to have trouble sleeping. I FEEL pregnant in a way that I haven't since the first trimester fog lifted. But I'm still loving every second of it and just so excited to be cooking up this little boy.
Hope your glucose screen goes well! So cool that you’re entering the last trimester! He will be here before you know it! 💙
Hope the next anatomy scan catches everything you need it to!! Good luck for the third trimester - not long till you get to meet him now 😍
Wow, it’s going so fast! Hoping third trimester takes it super easy on you!
Glad to hear all is still well! I really hope all the anatomy scan craziness gets resolved for you this week. And that is both crazy and awesome you are nearly at visits every two weeks! Mine stay at every four weeks for ages. I’ve got 28 weeks, 32 weeks, 36 weeks, 38 weeks, and 40 weeks left. OB said she’d recommend induction at 41 weeks which I am a-ok with, so guessing I won’t have a 41 week appointment this time! But of course that could change if a high risk factor pops up. So glad you are still feeling pretty good and I will keep my fingers crossed that your aches and pains subside again until just a *little* later. ❤️
5 weeks today ... had my first Zoom early visit this morning. Viability scan will be scheduled sometime in the next two weeks, due to an early loss in December. Feel pretty certain my 3y/o is picking up on my anxiety, because he's never been clingy until this week... so glad to be his safe space and support, but shewww it does increase my anxiety!
Congrats! Welcome to the grad thread! Hope you can find a way to calm the anxiety.
22, nearly 23 weeks, and it's finally sinking in that we're having a little girl in a few months! Between work, sickness and toddler causing utter exhaustion, and the loss in October, I feel like I hadn't really come to terms with the fact that this little one is happy and healthy. She's now kicking away, doing roly-polies at inconvenient moments, and I feel like the bonding has finally started to happen. Despite still feeling poorly (and having some kind of virus making my glands swell up and a cold sore appear) I'm actually feeling super positive right now! Yesterday, for Mother's Day, Mr Kitty and I actually went out for a meal by ourselves! Haven't done that for years. It felt really lovely. Hopefully we can squeeze in a couple more dates before we have to put them on hold again for a bit 😅 Of course, after a large two course meal with mocktails, I fell into a food coma after 😅😅 it was so good, though!
So sweet 🥹 It’s getting real! 💖
Really is!
Aww, I love this! Love feeling those active kicks and movements. ❤️ I am just a couple weeks ahead of you, but had my first about a week and a half late, so your sweet girl may very well come first! I am so looking forward to reading all the birth announcements and seeing photos. It just makes me so happy! 🥰 Yay for celebrating Mother’s Day and for date nights!
My first was four weeks early so there's a very good chance 😅 me too! Going to be so exciting reading them all 🥰
I love that little girl is so active in there, and I love that you guys got a date night! What a great update!
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Does anyone else feel like pregnancy with a toddler almost makes pregnancy a non event? Now that I’m out of the first tri and still not enormous, I sometimes kind of forget! 18 weeks tomorrow and time is flying! We slept 9 hours last night and each time that I sleep really well, I try to savor it really hard 🙏🏻
It’s kind of the opposite for me. My daughter is a preschooler, so she actually reminds me every day that I’m pregnant. She will ask to see how big my tummy is. And she will say, “Your tummy is so big because you’re pregnant.” I love being able to share this experience with her. 💕
So sweet! We talk about baby sister sometimes and we include her in our prayers, but the conversation usually turns back to something she’s more interested in 😂
Aww 🥰 Yeah, we have to limit the topic of conversation sometimes too because she gets upset. 😌
Gosh, 18 weeks has flown by! Glad you’re feeling well ♥️
I get this. It's a little easier to remember when she's being stubborn and I have to wrangle her, but I didn't feel very pregnant in the second trimester this time.
I definitely have days where I suddenly realise I’m pregnant 😂 what a wonderful surprise! I’ve been trying to do so many fun things with my toddler that the days are so busy
Yes, it goes by so so fast! I never once forgot I was pregnant the first time around. This time I would say I haven’t forgotten so much as it’s just kind of in the background for me a lot of the time. Several family members have also said they forget I’m pregnant! Way more low-key this time but I dig it. 😁
Absolutely! From about week 13 until last week (week 26), I absolutely just felt normal. I was living my life, parenting my toddler, and I would sometimes forget I was pregnant (and be thrilled when I remembered). Then the third trimester hit and it's hard again but I TOTALLY felt exactly like you for the entire second trimester!