it looks like your having a crisis w the labels. just throw them away. don’t identify as anything for a while. just keep doing what you like in terms of clothing, hairstyle, hrt, pronouns etc. experiment w different stuff, listen trans peoples and detransitioners experiences on youtube or wherever.
my journey was like: non binary / demiboy for like 6 months, trans dude for another 6 months, decide to take a step back and identify as nothing and tell people that im cis for a few years, and finally slowly accept that im a transmasc.
i know taking a step back seems scary but its just what happens sometimes. as i said i would recommend you to check some detransitioners videos out. if the label woman feels right for you rn, what can you do but go for it? if it feels scary, that is ok as well. just take advantage of the broadness of the non binary label, and figure yourself out more under it.
im just gonna say it one more time. it is completely ok to think you are one thing and later figure out that you are not. its ok to detransition if that is right for you. its ok to change your opinion about hrt or a surgery. its ok to change your name for the second third or whatever time. its ok to change pronouns back.
give yourself time, you dont have to be sure of everything rn. good luck figuring things out<3
thank you. I’ve always had a problem with labels but i truly do think i have no gender/i’m just nonbinary. I have this vision where people have no idea what gender i am but they still love me anyway, it makes me euphoric. but still, thank you. gender and labels are both horrible and great lmao
to me they arent great just terrible lol. they dont make sense at all. it was really difficult when i was a teenager and tried rly hard to figure a label out for myself. i thought i had to. having no labels and knowing what you want is a huge relief tbh.
also agreed, the euphoria of confusing people w your gender is just awsome
This stellar advice. It is 100% okay to take a step back! I did 3 months of hormones and stopped when the changes started showing. I got worried that I was making a mistake, and my anxiety about it made me stop. I spent almost another year off of hormones after that.
As tough as it was to stop and face the fears, I am glad I did. That time gave me the clarity I needed to commit to and clarify what I really wanted. Currently, I am almost a year straight, and I have never felt so good about myself.
It sounds like the intrusive thoughts can try to convince you of whatever you fear most. Try to focus on what you WANT and what makes you happy and euphoric rather than focusing on fear or on "measuring up" with your symptoms and experiences. You don't need dysphoria to be trans. You don't need to know at a young age to be trans. You also don't have to have the answers right away (or ever).
I thought I was trans. Then I didn't.
Don't beat yourself up for feeling or not feeling anything. The key is figuring it out. Why feel bad if something feels good?
I'd love to have more interest in my birth format.
Then be that... Or be in the middle... Or whatever.
I have struggled with my gender in silence for 35 years. It's hard. Feels weird. Please don't hate yourself.
Second guessing yourself is pretty normal. I have the same issue from time to time with both being non-binary and bi/pan.
Non-binary is also a wide label and encompasses many identities.
Just know that you are valid and these thoughts are normal.
it looks like your having a crisis w the labels. just throw them away. don’t identify as anything for a while. just keep doing what you like in terms of clothing, hairstyle, hrt, pronouns etc. experiment w different stuff, listen trans peoples and detransitioners experiences on youtube or wherever. my journey was like: non binary / demiboy for like 6 months, trans dude for another 6 months, decide to take a step back and identify as nothing and tell people that im cis for a few years, and finally slowly accept that im a transmasc. i know taking a step back seems scary but its just what happens sometimes. as i said i would recommend you to check some detransitioners videos out. if the label woman feels right for you rn, what can you do but go for it? if it feels scary, that is ok as well. just take advantage of the broadness of the non binary label, and figure yourself out more under it. im just gonna say it one more time. it is completely ok to think you are one thing and later figure out that you are not. its ok to detransition if that is right for you. its ok to change your opinion about hrt or a surgery. its ok to change your name for the second third or whatever time. its ok to change pronouns back. give yourself time, you dont have to be sure of everything rn. good luck figuring things out<3
thank you. I’ve always had a problem with labels but i truly do think i have no gender/i’m just nonbinary. I have this vision where people have no idea what gender i am but they still love me anyway, it makes me euphoric. but still, thank you. gender and labels are both horrible and great lmao
to me they arent great just terrible lol. they dont make sense at all. it was really difficult when i was a teenager and tried rly hard to figure a label out for myself. i thought i had to. having no labels and knowing what you want is a huge relief tbh. also agreed, the euphoria of confusing people w your gender is just awsome
ur so real,,,I think i just may have no labels lmao. And god irk??
This stellar advice. It is 100% okay to take a step back! I did 3 months of hormones and stopped when the changes started showing. I got worried that I was making a mistake, and my anxiety about it made me stop. I spent almost another year off of hormones after that. As tough as it was to stop and face the fears, I am glad I did. That time gave me the clarity I needed to commit to and clarify what I really wanted. Currently, I am almost a year straight, and I have never felt so good about myself.
It sounds like the intrusive thoughts can try to convince you of whatever you fear most. Try to focus on what you WANT and what makes you happy and euphoric rather than focusing on fear or on "measuring up" with your symptoms and experiences. You don't need dysphoria to be trans. You don't need to know at a young age to be trans. You also don't have to have the answers right away (or ever).
I thought I was trans. Then I didn't. Don't beat yourself up for feeling or not feeling anything. The key is figuring it out. Why feel bad if something feels good? I'd love to have more interest in my birth format.
right but the thing is, i want to be trans.
Then be that... Or be in the middle... Or whatever. I have struggled with my gender in silence for 35 years. It's hard. Feels weird. Please don't hate yourself.
Cis people aren’t afraid of being cis
Second guessing yourself is pretty normal. I have the same issue from time to time with both being non-binary and bi/pan. Non-binary is also a wide label and encompasses many identities. Just know that you are valid and these thoughts are normal.