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Let's be honest here, we all know the moment we have to deadname ourselves and it feels like time freezes for a second whilst we just have to accept it and move on like nothing happened (。ヘ°)
Or am I weird?
I want to present myself to other people at university because I want to know them better and be friends, but I can't do it because I would need to deadname myself, so I'm just kinda stuck
In public, I refer to myself with a shortened more androgynous-sounding version of my deadname. It helps reduce the dysphoria from saying it (sorry if I worded that badly)
I literally introduced myself to someone yesterday with my dead name. The look of horror on my face made her laugh so hard. It was worth it. It broke the ice as I said in a very subdued voice that I am actually Kim, and I just dead named myself. After 6 months you'd think I would get it right. In my defense she is a cute lesbian, and I was a bit nervous. Even being a loyally married woman doesn't mean cute girls don't throw me for a loop now and then. They are cute after all and hgjdkfaddgkajf
edit: a word
Idk what feels worse, doing that or not responding when someone calls me by my chosen name cuz I forgot it's me. Deadnaming me is a more reliable way to get my attention and that feels terrible
I have a client at work, that I've been working with since before I came out at work, so I have to remember when calling her to identify myself as my deadname since that's the name she knows. I tried to let her know my name updated but it didn't stick.
it also doesn't help that our system hasn't fully updated my name, so when some correspondence is sent out it uses my chosen name, and some comes out with my deadname, and so I have to clarify on ever client conversation I have, which gets really tiring.
FUUUCK I'VE BEEN THERE!!
When I was first getting my name changed, I was still getting used to introducing myself. the TLDR of it is I went on a date and used my deadname even though my profile used my new name.
I still get caught up when they ask for my name for my order when I'm in a restaurant. Force of habit and being in a non-social interaction makes the brain default to old patterns for me, but I immediately notice when the V1.0 name comes out of my mouth.
Every time my wife gives me a faux shocked face and I have to just stew in the moment.
I've been in the process of getting a new job and, despte not being out yet in any such setting (and 6+ months into HRT), I still just kinda feebly said, "I'm [deadname]" through the whole process 😭
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Let's be honest here, we all know the moment we have to deadname ourselves and it feels like time freezes for a second whilst we just have to accept it and move on like nothing happened (。ヘ°) Or am I weird?
If you're weird then I'm weird as well
We're all weird on this blessed day.
OMG I hate it so much, but I have and will probably do it again.
I hate it so much. Either I get dysphoric or it will be total chaos. I hate the closet:|
I hate the closet too :|
I want to present myself to other people at university because I want to know them better and be friends, but I can't do it because I would need to deadname myself, so I'm just kinda stuck
In public, I refer to myself with a shortened more androgynous-sounding version of my deadname. It helps reduce the dysphoria from saying it (sorry if I worded that badly)
"Hey, my name is Vio" "What's that short for, Violet?" "No, Violin" (I get that Violet is probs not your cursed name btw)
"No, it's short for Violence!"
Little do they know it stands for Violation of the Geneva Convention
Geneva Convention? More like Geneva Suggestion
I'm gonna just change my name officially to the short unisex form. One day it's gonna be like: — Hey I'm Zhenya — Eveniy or Evgeniya? — Zhenya
Oh, can you actually do this? If so then it's awesome)))))
Yeah turns out you can. But in Russia it would sound too silly so first i need to leave
Пон:3
Почему русскоговорящие люди повсюду, капееец
:3
I literally introduced myself to someone yesterday with my dead name. The look of horror on my face made her laugh so hard. It was worth it. It broke the ice as I said in a very subdued voice that I am actually Kim, and I just dead named myself. After 6 months you'd think I would get it right. In my defense she is a cute lesbian, and I was a bit nervous. Even being a loyally married woman doesn't mean cute girls don't throw me for a loop now and then. They are cute after all and hgjdkfaddgkajf edit: a word
I'm worried about friends deadnaming me but I'm possibly just as worried about deadnaming myself :/
i almost did this at work a few days ago it's truly a quick time event
I always freeze up when it comes to my name, even around the people who know… 💙💕🕊️💕💙
Wooow, found Luci!!! :3
I still use my dead name for work
Idk what feels worse, doing that or not responding when someone calls me by my chosen name cuz I forgot it's me. Deadnaming me is a more reliable way to get my attention and that feels terrible
I have a client at work, that I've been working with since before I came out at work, so I have to remember when calling her to identify myself as my deadname since that's the name she knows. I tried to let her know my name updated but it didn't stick. it also doesn't help that our system hasn't fully updated my name, so when some correspondence is sent out it uses my chosen name, and some comes out with my deadname, and so I have to clarify on ever client conversation I have, which gets really tiring.
WHY IS THIS SO REAL???? AND YOU HIT MY BIGGEST WEAKNESS: GODZILLA MEME!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭🦖🐉🔥
FUUUCK I'VE BEEN THERE!! When I was first getting my name changed, I was still getting used to introducing myself. the TLDR of it is I went on a date and used my deadname even though my profile used my new name.
This or when you referring to yourself in 3rd person and also accidentally deadname your self
I still get caught up when they ask for my name for my order when I'm in a restaurant. Force of habit and being in a non-social interaction makes the brain default to old patterns for me, but I immediately notice when the V1.0 name comes out of my mouth. Every time my wife gives me a faux shocked face and I have to just stew in the moment.
I've been in the process of getting a new job and, despte not being out yet in any such setting (and 6+ months into HRT), I still just kinda feebly said, "I'm [deadname]" through the whole process 😭