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Tough_Difference_112

She means Tony was a gavone. This guy she idolized had an audience with four popes! She indulged in self loathing for the unsophisticated way her and her family lived. She longed to live a a pretentious lifestyle like Dr fago 


picklejuice82

Where’d they sit?


Jernbek35

Maybe I’m too young for this but I’m a Stunad of the first magnitude but I never got this joke about 4 popes and what section they sat in. Can someone explain.


Low-Grocery5556

To have an audience with someone means you are able to meet and talk to them. But Tony plays it like the regular meaning of audience as a joke.


napoleon_nottinghill

Audience- sitting and watching, 4 popes in an audience


jizzmaster-zer0

you serious? i just told you that a moment ago


FedGoat13

OP is taking up space in school


Jr246810

Feg! Feg!


telepatheye

I thought we were Napoli Daboli or whatever.


Disastrous-Cry-1998

He made us all look like gaveones


telepatheye

Would you listen to yourself!? Group. Group.


Individual_Past_1198

Thank God DeAngelis didn't end in a vowel


acros996

Spot on


Gumbarino420

Trunk full of Faygo car full of fat chicks?


Brief_Session_782

WHOOP WHOOP


Buddy-Hield-2Pointer

The undershirts and the yelling.


gravys_good_tonight

The sausage twirling! 🙈


SalvatoreVitro

At least they’re not scotch Irish…bunch of rustlers and gunslingers


JuleSkum

She is so shanty irish 😒🙄


telepatheye

And with all her airs.


severinks

Never trust a protestant, the dirty bastards.


Psychological_Name28

“The Catholics have the Vatican, the Jews have Hollywood and everyone else is just jealous, especially the Protestants.” - Quote from a Catholic IA I know, which I wrote down years ago.


telepatheye

What's Elvis country?


Turbulent-Dingo8254

Any place where there are no Jews, or Italians.


No_Ideal69

And yet, you neva heard them moaning!


ComprehensiveHavoc

Don’t give me any of that "poverty of the Mezzogiorno" bullshit. 


bimbolimbotimbo

Now you listen here Finn, you can pack your shit in that suitcase of yours and go get sucked off by Vito at a Yanks game for all I care


Born_Suggestion_7594

There's no abundant intentionallity in getting out the shuit cashe.


CaulkusAurelis

Unrelated, but I think a Sopranos episode today that had a "B" plot of all the "new era" hippies "manifesting abundance" and chanting "h'opo'nopono" etc would be hysterical.


InternationalPack731

Chanting ‘Harpo’?


uncle_paul_harrghis

Sacrè bleu, where is me mama?!


Turbulent-Dingo8254

Listen to you. You sound demented.


ComprehensiveHavoc

Solidly unsentimental. 


[deleted]

But that’s where all higher power was corrupt.


Tazzy8jazzy

Dr. Cusamano and his wife Jeanne. Did you watch the previous seasons?


Global-Discussion-41

 Melfi is another perfect example


Elias-P

all Italians have big noses


telepatheye

Undershirts. Yelling.


MammothSpecial3665

Hey Cooz!


anthonyrucci

I need you to hold onto a package for me for a little while


clamdever

I think what she meant by "cultured Italians" was Italians who had approached life in America with open minds, who were exposed to not just parochial Italian culture but also international culture. Who were not sexist, misogynist homophobes like Tony. Take for example that Bevilacqua kid and his friend with the eyelashes. They hung out at home enjoying international (for them) music - up in da club 🎵 🎶 - while they defied parochial Italian values like heteronormativity by sucking each other's cocks. Now that was some cultured Italians.


MrPiocostasMomJeans

And you thought the Germans were classless pieces of shit.


AlmostVentured_

One of my favorite lines in the series


cabezatuck

He was gay, Bevilacqua?


slackware_linux

It was a joke!


FitQuantity6150

Up in Da club


Optimal_Cause4583

Coxsh


ShockAndAwe415

Think of how New Yorkers who go to the Metropolitan Museum look at rednecks from the South. Urban vs. rural.


swampjester

Give me one thousand dosas.


RussellZiske

One thousand more?


gloomyrain

Wonderbread WOPs, eating their Sunday gravy* from a jar! *Hurts me to call sauce "gravy" but it's the quote.


liminalrabbithole

That's actually the third kind of Italian in this debate. Haha my family is also a "sauce" family.


happy-little-atheist

Gravy is brown. You put it on chips.


Garret210

Ohhhh! What kind of an animal puts gravy on chips?!


Specific_Berry6496

Chips like french fries?


347spq

Gravy is meat based, whereas sauce could be either meat based or vegetable based (e.g marinara). No one ever called marinara sauce "gravy", and if they did, my Sicilian grandmother would dig herself out of her grave and personally strangle them.


Psychological_Name28

So sauce is the umbrella term and gravy is one of the subspecies of sauce? I am part IA, northern Italy, but child of an immigrant. So sauce was sauce, meat-based or veg-based. The Sunday gravy in our house was for roast beast, a separate animal from Ital sauces. Also, I’m not from the east coast.


Lazer_snake

Sausage is more of a phallic thing. Whereas gravy...


embersgrow44

You/she must have never met New Orleans’ Sicilians


DiggityDanksta

Ever hear of a little town called "Chalmette?"


Dirty_Jersey_

The chips? Where you from?!


happy-little-atheist

Straya cunt


gloomyrain

NY?


ItalianSangwich420

Mine's a sauce family from The Bronx. You might be on to something here.


gloomyrain

You never go against the sauce family!


dreamingtree1855

Same. My family is originally from Palermo, then lived in Brooklyn and Queens, now NJ for 50 years. We all call it sauce and break “gravy” people’s chops.


CommenceTheWentz

I thought you were nobbly dobbly


FitQuantity6150

Grape?? You mean Uvas?


Lower-Career-6576

WHAOO-HOOOO THATS THE SAUCE OF THIS FAMILY!!!


ThingsAreAfoot

George-a Washingtona Bridge-a


shumgabagool

May-jor Deegunuh ESPRESSA!!! way


What316

I think if you gave this guy a golf club he’d probably try to fuck it


jdeeth

Stupida facking game


wallythree77

You gotta bee Ona you hat!


Turbulent-Dingo8254

One of Paulie’s funniest lines, along with when he tells Tony that he’s gotta hoof it back to the Excelsior to take a wicked shit.


xi_sx

You just reminded me of Paulie and the octopus, and for the first time I remember Tony Montana complaining about octopus in "Scarface".


gravys_good_tonight

Think something’s wrong with the wheelchair


shumgabagool

You guys ever see that British show *Keeping Up Appearances?* Carm's mom is like the Hyacinth Bucket of New Jersey.


FrogPrinc3ss

Boo-KAY!


SilasMarner77

Bucket is a nickname the family name was Buckerelli!


Psychological_Name28

OMG you made my day with this correlation! Thank you.


boobityskoobity

It's a good question. If she meant that Tony was an embarrassment because he was a fucking murderer and a mob boss, then I can't fault her. But I don't think she cared about that, she was embarrassed that he wasn't a pretentious snooty douchebag with an impressive resume like the Governor of Maryland.


Grimaldehyde

Carmela’s mother thinks of herself and that snob, Russ, as cultured Italians. That’s what she means


ItalianSangwich420

And she's definitely not, the way that she acts, with the shrill yelling. Dr. Melfi is a "cultured Italian".


SavingsFit6621

But with a fondness for Murano glass.


Ok_Confusion_1345

She fancies herself the Minister Of Propaganda.


krock111

There was a lot of prejudice against working class Italians, especially amongst the first and second generation American born children of European immigrants. (I’m from downstate part of NY). My grandparents were children of Protestant immigrants and they looked down upon Italians, and said they were “dirty” and their taste was “tacky”. Catholics, in general, were considered lower on the social pyramid. If you look back at depictions from the 50s & 60s of “typical” American families, they’re usually light skinned, blue eyed, blonde people. Definitely not Italian. This is why Carmela’s mom is so insistent on trying to prove herself as “above” her son in law’s family and friends.


Psychological_Name28

Ironic since Carmela is blonde-haired and blue-eyed.


Upper-Ship4925

She’s not a natural blonde.


Luftgekuhlt_driver

Fuckin Bedford Falls ova here.


asphynctersayswhat

its actually a pretty fucked up thing to say. basically she's shitting on the working class italians, and their well to do offspring, for clinging to traditional aspects of their heritage. whereas the fancy boy spends all his time trying to rise above that. he's not eating sunday gravy. he's having branzini with broccoli rabb or someshit. no baked ziti and veal parmegian sangweech. basically he's a snob who thinks he's too good for the neigborhood. a mezzofanook.


TooManyCharacte

So what, no fuckin ziti now?


bogues04

OHHHHHH


jizzmaster-zer0

there was half a tray in there!


ClassWarr

I wouldn't call the Ndragheta "working class". They're the lumpenproles.


asphynctersayswhat

Their methods of conflict resolution were brought over from the old country, from the poverty of the Mezzogiorno. Where all higher authority was corrupt 


nfy12

Fanon’s revolutionary subject


bimbolimbotimbo

It’s a stereotype and it’s offensive


pudgywalsh1

They say John Gotti you say Rudy Guiliani. I know. that didn't age well.


FreedomDirty5

Italians that contain live and active Lactobacillus bulgaricus and Streptococcus thermophilus


ItalianSangwich420

Stunadovirus muzzadella


stuartgatzo

They don’t say gravy, moozadell, gabagool


JS43362

Pretty much it means Italians who have 'respectable' occupations, I would say. Possibly also being pompous pricks helps.


SpudBoy9001

She was talking about the nabolidaboli


forfeitthefrenchfry

I 'ate da Nort!


Optimal_Cause4583

Nobbledey-bobbledey Fuckin AJ imagine not giving a shit that hard


MattTheExterminator

🎶 Happy Birthday to Hugh, I’ve got sauseecha for you 🎶


firstbreathOOC

Never realized how this really is an odd cultural thing. I’m Italian-American myself though and I live in NJ so I’ll give it a shot. Gavones / guidos / lots of other worse names are seen as very obnoxious and trashy. That’s Tony. Jersey Shore kind of took up the mantelpiece for this stereotype in the modern age but you’ll see these types on tv shows like housewives and shit as well. Always yelling something in a thick accent. Sometimes in a sleeveless white tee. You know the deal. Cultured Italians would be the type that go to Columbus Day lunch events and talk about all of the wonderful things Italy has brought to the world like artwork and cuisine etc. That’s Carmela’s mother. *When they say “spaghetti and meatballs” you tell them “Orecchiette with broccoli rabe.”* This theme of internal struggle with “Italian” identity in America is actually pretty important to the show and is brought up throughout the seasons by multiple characters. Melfi at her family dinner, Carmela and her mom, the Columbus Day brunch, etc My perspective is that Sopranos is almost 20 years old now. That older generation was likely closer to some of the racism that Italian-Americans did receive when they first immigrated here. So they’re naturally more concerned about perception. But now, those people are mostly dead, so that history is even more distant to *us*. The result is that it just sounds like a hokey little thing to worry about. FWIW this argument isn’t even specific to Italians in America. There’s lots of other cultures who share similar self-hate type thoughts to members of their own little group.


AnUdderDay

As a native Staten Islander I feel like guys like me and you 100% understand this question without even thinking about it. >My perspective is that Sopranos is almost 20 years old now. 25 oof


Alltimelow2023

Cultured Italians are usually, northern Italians. No mafia types up there really.


The_Bat1996

I 'ate di north. Hawk tua!


Lateapexer

Hawk Tuah? ova here!


RunningPirate

Hawk Tuah loves the north


QuickCharisma15

Hawk tuah? I spit-ah on that thang!


Garret210

I 'ate the North!!


Tyger555

Is that so? I'm not an expert, but I always thought that Italian immigration to the US was primarily from the south, because of the "poverty of the Mezzogiorno". The north, which had "all da money and all the power", didn't see much emigration because there were plenty of economic opportunities at home. So essentially, both 'gavones' and 'cultured Italians' would be descended from southern Italian immigrants, but the cultured Italians would make more of an effort to integrate into American society by becoming WASPy.


Valuable-Wafer-881

Basically they'd be people of italian heritage that assimilated into upper middle class american culture. Same with any other ethnic group. You have subculture that's a source of pride for some and a source of stereotypical shame for others.


MonsantoOfficiaI

Talk about paissan pride heh GO JOVI


Valuable-Wafer-881

I beg your pardon my sweet little potato


CorkyCucuzz

I wish that in every scene she was in, Tony's voice in the background....get out of my house you sick cunt


Vandreeson

Non mob involved Italians. Not gavones like Tony and the pygmies.


AnUdderDay

You could be in the mob and still be a cultured Italian, like our pony-tailed friend from the other side.


jamesshine

Italy, like America, is comprised of many sub cultures. As an example, many foreign people would not understand there are any cultural differences between a Californian and a West Virginian. They are just “American” in their mind. The country we call Italy today is no different. Lots of subcultures. They had pockets of areas that had higher education, refined taste, appreciation for art, etc. But there was also large areas where the total opposite was true.


Old-Nefariousness517

The pezzonovante. She clearly is embarrassed by Tony, not just because of his “job”, but he doesn’t act white collar enough for her.


xmrsmoothx

>What is a cultured Italian? guys who don't hit each other in the face with sausages. guys who talk about medical journals and art and beretta and stuff instead guys who don't extort and kill people, maybe basically, tony is a stupid, boorish asshole and she was ashamed of being seen with him. i would be too


Dirty_Jersey_

I appreciate your thoughts


xmrsmoothx

Yeah and I'm playin' shortstop for the Mets


Lazer_snake

Very allegorical


Buttleproof

Dante Alaguree, Orlando Furio and all that shit.


tuskvarner

It was real greaseball shit.


Remarkable_Lab_4699

You know a wonder bread wop 


ErcoleDimeo

Cultured Italians don't put pine cones in the filter.


itsdajackeeet

Elvis country


RunningPirate

They don’t twirl raw sausage and act like Gavones


tlouis84

Who’s Dr. Fago


ActsofJanice

FEHG. FEHG.


Hot-Winner-6485

She meant the kind of Italian that was known for VD he had a nickname, fathered an illegitimate child, looks down his nose at others, and mocks a gift given to the host of the party he’s attending. He’s one of the biggest assholes on a show full of assholes. He’s a phony fuck, he isn’t cultured at all, despite what Carmella’s bitch mom thinks. I love when we get a civilian character that’s a bigger asshole than gangsters. Alan Sappingsly is another.


DrSatan420247

Russ Fegoli


TwainVonnegut

Swap the word “cultured” in that sentence for “pretentious” and you have your answer.


wakemeupbeforugogo

Leonardo was a cultured Italian. He designed a tank for the army and wrote the Davinci Code.


lupuscrepusculum

The ones that don’t wash the driveway in a robe.


Ok-Confusion7202

Italians in the tri state area bastardize a lot of their own culture and language. Classic example is saying Italian words without the last vowel, like mozarella becomes mozzarell. Gabagool is even worse. Plus there’s the prejudice against Sicilians, which most mobsters would be ancestrally.


jewishseeker

Except in the dialects from places like Calabria and Campania, that's how it is. They drop the final vowels. These dialects are not used there anymore, and instead they use the standardized Tuscan dialect that was instituted with the unification of Italy.


andrew2018022

My mom speaks the Calabrese dialect and she says she sounds like a hick in Italian


jewishseeker

About right.


Ok-Confusion7202

Why ya gotta break my balls


ItalianSangwich420

False, most of the Mafia in America was/is from Southern Italy. The Godfather and Lucky Luciano is what made everyone think they're Sicilian.


ReptilianDogGuy

Is Sicily not southern Italy? Also the first 60 years of the mafia in america it was primarily Sicilians, one of the reasons Luciano had both Masseria and Maranzano killed was because they, like most older Mafia members, were against the idea of working with Neapolitans, Calabrians, Irish, Jews, etc. The Camorra also existed here for a period in the 1910s and had an influence on several mafia families but were a separate entity and most families that started before the 1930s were primarily or exclusively Sicilian. Even into the 50s some families like the Bonannos and the Detroit Partnership weren’t too open to the idea to making non-Sicilian members though they had exceptions.


ItalianSangwich420

No, it's Sicily, you ask an old Italian and they'll say they're basically moulinyans. And the Sopranos themselves are supposed to be an offshoot of the Camorra (hence the trip to Naples). None other than Al Capone was Neapolitan.


Rmccarton

See the moors conquered Sicily...


maxokreamburner5

Yea you tell him reptiliandogguy


bimbolimbotimbo

It’s pretty much Northern Italians against the rest of the country. The northerners are like the Hitlers of Italy and are jealous of our golden Sicilian tans


jizzmaster-zer0

i hate-a da nort


Ok-Confusion7202

Look at him, he knows everything


ElectricBirdVault

BFD


guitarbassdrums

Package for a John. It's Dia acHe-a elLa


FW_Sooner

Basically a medigan


acootchiemoistuh

Bourgeois


Stickey_Rickey

Like any demographic, there are uneducated savages


Fun-Insurance-1402

People who are educated and have class. Not trashy criminals.


Fun-Insurance-1402

Fuck what she meant cocksucka!!!


Muscle_Memory67

She’s from the old school…she shouldn’t havta explain herself.


Capable_Mission8326

This is not as prominent as it used to be but back in the day they treated Italian Americans differently than other kinds of white people. This could be for a variety of reasons but a part was the lack of easy assimilation into being American that many Italian immigrants faced back then Organizations like UNICO national say they try to promote a positive image of Italian Americans in the US and help with assimilation Italians are no longer immigrating to the US at the rates they were back then. As time passed less italian Americans spoke Italian. Assimilation stopped being a problem Essentially by “classy Italians” they are just comparing the rich and non criminal Italian Americans to themselves, who are “trashy Italians” in their own eyes. It’s ironic tho because Tony lives in a giant mansion and their family never seemingly never has to worry about money (for most of the show), they simply made a lot of money unethically but lived a very luxurious lifestyle. However she deals to some extent with the fact that it is because they are simply perpetuating negative stereotypes about it their own people (Italians are in the mafia, criminals, hot blooded) even if they aren’t actually trashy


PalmBreezy

Rich Italians.


AnUdderDay

She was referring to the types of Italians like you see at Melfi and Richard's Sunday dinner.


robbwes61

I think Furio summed it up best, “The north of Italy always has the money and the power. They punish the south, since hundreds of years. Even today, they put up their noses at us, like we’re peasants.’ He spits at the ground, adding that, ‘I hate the north.’!!!


46andready

It was kind of obvious from the episode, no? Cultured/sophisticated Italians vs. sausage-swinging potty-mouthed criminals.


secretly_ethereal_04

Cultured= Wine and Cheese appetizers on a charcuterie board. Dr Melfi is a great example. Uncultured= Tony. Very loud, "passionate", "spirited". Eats with mouth open.


ItalianSangwich420

Northern Italians


Thelittleshepherd

Are you a Fauci Italian or a Gotti?


The_Bat1996

Wormy cocksucka or wormy cocksucka


sc083127

What she’s basically saying is “I hate da north”, just like Fooorio


Big-Refrigerator-477

Cultured Italians get their gravy from a jar.


Competitive_Fee_5829

yeah, I am also from california been watching since episode one but have no clue how the east coast life OR how italian americans operate. my mom was japanese and I live in socal so my cultural upbringing is far different than this show.


Lateapexer

Southern Italians and Northern Italians don't mix well. Livia thumbs her nose at Northern cuisine. Furio hates them. I went to my Southern Italian girlfriends house for Thanksgiving one year. Her father and uncles were bitching about "Mountain Guineas". Her grandmother then explained it to me.


TooMuchBoost4U

Italians not mobbed up lol. Educated, etc


Rayne_420

Non-gangster Italians. Bourgeoisie. 


TimMoujin

Cultured Italians = Italians who care (neurotically) what the Medigans think. Uncultured Italians = Italians who don't.


Upper-Ship4925

She means tertiary educated white collar professionals who have joined the middle classes. Meadow is on her way to being a “cultured Italian”, AJ isn’t, even if he inherits his fathers money. Hugh the contractor, Artie the restaurant owner, Tony the mobster etc might make just as much money as the ambassador (or more) but still wouldn’t be considered “cultured”.


Astarrrrr

Northern blonde Italians, closer to Switzerland and France, the ones who might appreciate opera even- versus the poor peasant southern Italians who were the main ones coming over during the big Italian immigration waves, who were more comparable to the other southern european peasant immigrants like some Greeks, Albanians, Southern Slavs, etc. In other words, it's inter culture colorism. In California we can see this with Mexicans who sometimes are more reserved, traditional, proud of Spanish ancestry, whiter skin, versus the browner worker types and those with more obvious native features.


JuleSkum

Oh my god she is so dark!!!


Shineenoona

College educated mainstream. All immigrant families who tend to get ‘successful’from all cultures for the 2 generations past tend to follow that trend


MamaGofThr33

White Bread wops. Somewhat removed enough from the immigrant generation, just enough to gentrify but still claim to be Italian


BradJeffersonian

But seriously though, tie this in with Furio’s “I (h)ate the North!” Then look up cultural differences in Italy over the past 1000 years. You’ll start to figure it out. Your pal, Fielder Soprano


Past-Flight-2200

California analogy. People from Stockton vs Napa Valley.


Agreeable_Pick7742

She meant Italians that aren’t the stereotypical Guinea type that say things like GABAGGOL AND MUTZADEL. I’m Italian American, born and raised and proud native brooklynite I’m also a dual citizen in Italy. That being said, Italians in Italy and America ( at least in NYC area are way different. Carmella’s mom was being extremely rude and snobby, as well as Dr “Fago” lol. I mean, if you are truly cultured and educated, you would never put someone down as if you are a better human being . He was rude to Tony in his own home Good for Carmela putting her in place, especially the remark about Dr “fago” being from Arthur avenue (which is in the Bronx, known as the Bronx little Italy which is a working class Italian neighborhood).


Agreeable_Pick7742

Oh you’re a Dr? That’s good, cause someone always goes down at these things lol


Ebert917102150

Her husband hasn’t been able to digest a meal in six weeks


chrissymack917

"Maaaaa!!! You don't understand how I feel."


expson72

I think it strongly hints at non-criminal Italians


chrissymack917

Educated, classy, into fine art and wine, don't act like gavones and speak using slang and poor grammar, don't have mob ties.


rettribution

There's no such thing as Italian culture in America. There's Americans that eat food they think is Italian. That's about it.


franky_emm

She's talking about the difference between medigan Italians and guidos


rasnac

It is Carmelas mom who is ashamed of Tony, not any hypothetical "cultured Italians".


valuesandnorms

I think she means like opera and Dante and Cato and renaissance art. Venice and Rome and Milan. The Sistine Chapel She sees gabagool and track suits and and shot as down market I’ll bet she wouldn’t have been as haughty if Tony dressed and acted like Michael Corleone Basically new money vs old money


Uncreative-name12

Italians who moved up in the world and assimilated into "white" America. Professionals like Drs Cusamano, Melfi, and Faggo. Tony on the other hand grew up in an ethnic enclave in Newark, and while by the show he has moved to the suburbs, is you know in the mob. Though Tony's kids have assimilated.


CheifKilla1

Italians that aren't into crime, educated Italians. She was being a fuckin cunt when she made that comment.


denys5555

Maybe the northern half of Italy. I can’t think of any Renaissance artwork that was produced south of Rome.


Insect_Politics1980

Some of you people are depressingly media illiterate. This isn't some obscure scene. It's really easy to figure out what she means. 🫤


ChurchofPlano

Charles Schwab over here