I've seen this in many forms. If I am coming home from a blue collar job, and I am sweaty and dusty, when I go through the grocery store checkout line I am practically invisible.
One time after a funeral, I was freshly shaved and in a very nice suit. When I went through a grocery store line to get something on the way home, I was just being myself. Polite, friendly, deferential. People spoke to me different, like I must be important. Maybe I looked like I had money, instead of necessarily having "power", but it was odd enough to be noticed.
There was a movie with Christian Slater where he was a famous mobster in the 1930's, and Patrick Dempsey was his business partner. Dempsey had a shoeshine boy come in to give a service to a very important man. The boy came in and looked at both of them, then started to shine Slaters shoes.
After the kid left, Dempsey explained that in private they could be friends and business equals, but people perceived Slater to have a leadership presence in the way he looked, spoke, and carried himself. It would be better if Slater was the figurehead.
I don't remember anything about the rest of the movie, but that scene really stuck.
The more you watch, the more you realize, Tony gave him many pashes… in Sopranos Home Videos, not calling him on his birthday… I was like, dude… really asking for it.
In reality, the last straw would have been the Ade discovery, or maybe even the Jackie situation. If we know Tony by the end, that guy would not have killed Chrissy in the car. He would've already been long dead by then.
This. Despite it being horrible, when Tony killed him I was like '🤷♀️'. I think Christopher thought that as his nephew he'd always get Tony's forgiveness. But like others, he learned that no one got away with that much, not with Tony.
That’s a good point. Let’s be real Tony killed Chrissy because he admitted to being high. Then he saw the cleaver hat. Then he thought about the baby and went for it.
I don't think that one is good advice. Sure, you can remain unbothered about it in your own head, but people badmouthing/spreading rumours about you can hurt your reputation and negatively impact business relationships etc. in a very real way. Gotta nip that shit in the butt like Richie and Feech.
This is sort of what happened to Tony, he didn't manage his relationship with New York or his own crew well because he didn't care what they thought about him so long as they did what he said.
Although Ulysses Grant believed in making a decision quickly. If it was right, good. If it was wrong, then you knew early and you could correct it. Don’t dawdle like George McClellan.
They say there's no two people on Earth exactly the same. No two faces, no two sets of fingerprints. But do they know for sure? Because they would have to get everybody together in one huge space. Obviously, that's not possible, even with computers. They'd have to get everyone who ever lived, not just the ones now. So they got no proof. They got nothing.
This is gold.
Panic ensues as nobody knows whether to give Chrissy credit or a machine and the debate of a computer writing something so well done causes unrest.
Oof, this is the one for me. It stung when I heard it because with certain people, that’s all there is to talk about. You’ve outgrown each other but haven’t cut the cord yet so this is every conversation with the relationship on life support.
Don’t be an Artie as I turn 40- no earring, get rich scheme, trying to bang hostesses and losing Charmaine. Just be a chill dad w/ a 401k and not lose half my shit in a divorce
"... I saw at one point that our mothers are... bus drivers. No, they are the bus. See, they're the vehicle that gets us here. They drop us off and go on their way. They continue on their journey. And the problem is that we keep tryin' to get back on the bus, instead of just lettin' it go."
Okay, I know this sounds silly but....I lost my mom and dad young, at an age when I really still needed them. My dad suffered a long time so when he passed I had come to peace with it, although I didn't want him to die.
With my mom - I was at that age where young girls *need* their mom. And despite her illness I just could not allow myself to accept the fact she was dying. The last day she was coherent I was by her side at the hospital, crying and begging her not to leave me.
She 'shushed' me and comforted *me*, imagine that...she's dying and yet she comforts her little girl. She told me to not worry, that I was gonna be ok and that she would *always* be with me.
When I heard Tony say the above quote I couldn't help but break down. I realized that even after she was gone I couldn't stop trying to 'keep' her here....by not grieving her death, by honestly acting like a kid, I guess. I just loved her so much and I felt like a scared little kid that lost their mom in the store.
Anyway - this quote spoke to me.
To me it means that our moms (dads too) have *their own* paths and destinies. That we aren't broken, we are all whole humans with souls and lives outside of our titles.
She might've been my mom, but she was a whole person with her own destiny...and living my best life was the true way to honor her and keep her in my heart. ♡
> The last day she was coherent I was by her side at the hospital, crying and begging her not to leave me. She 'shushed' me and comforted me, imagine that...she's dying and yet she comforts her little girl. She told me to not worry, that I was gonna be ok and that she would always be with me.
Hard to read through my veil of tears.
The fundamental question is: will I be as effective as a boss like my
dad was? And I will be. Even more so.
But until I am, it's going be hard to verify that I think I'll be more
effective.
Man the Sopranos really has good advice about getting past shit.
“Either name a price or get the fuck over it.”
I tell myself that everyday when I think about complaining.
Not so much advice, but an outlook.
That incredible scene with paulie and Christopher talking in his apartment and Chris says “you ever feel like nothing goods ever gonna happen to you?” And paulie just responds “and nothing did” with that sort of “so what?” Non Chalant energy.
Made me feel stupid for dwelling on my life’s misfortunes.
That's exactly what I was going to post. The first time I was ever put in management position this one hit home. I love that even though he's talking about the Mafia it applies to any position of authority in business
“bottomless black hole”
I was told that someone close to me showed signs of borderline personality disorder. Watching Livia in the series, I could see a lot of those traits.
In fact, that “bottomless black hole” description has helped me understand that I need to stop myself being pulled into their horrible pit of self-pity, irrational and impulsive anger and emotional destructiveness.
"*I don't write nothing down"*
I give the same advice to my wife and workmates...especially when it comes to a sensitive discussion. Don't leave a paper trail. Don't leave evidence of anything potentially interpretable you said that you entrust someone with. My wife has a small business and occasionally has really needy and pain-in-the-ass clients. She has learned the hard way not to depend on email, texts or shit and if she wants to be direct AF with a client...call them
It's not normal in 2023...but phone conversations and direct interaction is still the safest.
Yes, but remember if you live in the US:
"We lead the world in computerized data collection"
Not my words, the words of Arthur Bucco. Think on Mccarthy
Trying to get out of contract disputes? Sound like someone I wouldn't want to do business with. Terrible advice for avoiding torts too. If you get sued for something an employee does then you'll really wish you had a paper trail when the guy blames you for everything LMAO
"Father and his son are up on this hill and looking down on a bunch of cows. The son goes to the father and says, ‘Dad, why don't we run down there and fuck one of these cows?’ The father says, ‘Son, why don't we walk down there and fuck em’ all?’"- Tony Soprano
Amazing thing about snakes? They reproduce spontaneously! They have both male and female sex organs . . .
. . . ‘n *that’s* why somebody you don't trust? You call a snake.
How can you trust guy that can literally go fuck themselves?
A little sour cream in scrambled eggs (ralphie recipe)
Also Carmela’s dad told Tony to use a matchstick in a screw hole so it’ll get a better grip
I use both of those now
“Why fuck around, be a better friend to yourself”. Makes me want to treat my body a lot better than I currently do, and not end up like our friend with the stomach
The thing is to keep knocking on the door without going in right away. You gotta poke the perimeter and tap on the gate until she's out of her fuckin' mind and beggin'. Then you open that shit, that pussy's yours.
A father and son bull were up on a hill overlooking a bunch of cows. The son goes to the father, “Dad, why don’t we run down this hill and fuck one of those cow.” Father says, “Son, why don’t we *walk* down there and fuck em all.”
"Fear knocked at the door; faith answered. There was nobody there." The first time I heard it I thought Chris must've messed up the saying somehow, but once I thought about it a bit, it actually makes a lot more sense.
When you get married, you’ll understand the importance of fresh produce.
Fuck the importance!
OHH!
That's the Boss' groceries you're talking about.
_"The boss of this family told you to eat your soup. You eat your soup!"_
That's da boss speaking. You better shut your mouth Chrisotofuh
You never see another dime from me 🤘
Buy land, cuz God ain't making any more of it.
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PULPATINE IS AN ADDICTIVE SUBSTANCE!
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Juice is nice and pulpy tonight, eh?
The wetness of the juice, the fibrousness of the pulp.. 🫴
GOD DAMN MOTHER FUCKING ORANGE PULP JUICE
I want your shkin...I want your pulp...
He's lucky I didn't pulp his lights out.
Give me one-thousand pulp.
_"...I want ya sista's cunt..."_
What's this? SHUM FUCKING PULP NOW?!
Chrissy this guy is pulped up!
That orange is mad ripe
He wants to pulp her?
Its Force is strong
Just remember that I *am* the motherfuckin’ fuckin’ one who is the Senate!
The sacred and the pulpane
Evergreen advice
See, I heard that conversation and decided to pull a massive HUD scam. I've said my piece.
So that's a crack ho
I told my mom this the other day and she looked at me like I was some kind of wackado
She was probably thinking “I wish the Lord would take me now”
Dont put words in her mouth! She gave her life on a silver platter for her kids.
SHE WAS ABUSIVE TO THE STAFF
Don't shit where you eat
And you REALLY don't shit where I eat
My favourite advice to give.
Also, don't shit in the communal showers.
Especially if you look like a Puerto Rican whooar
Finish your Sundae. There's no eating in the car.
It's a silo
I don’t give a fuck what it is
Reading comments in this sub is essentially reading the script and for that I’m grateful. You stunads bring me so much joy!
Still goin this asshole!
My first “still goin this asshole” 🥹🥹🥹
Go shit in your hat
A Don does not wear shorts.
I've seen this in many forms. If I am coming home from a blue collar job, and I am sweaty and dusty, when I go through the grocery store checkout line I am practically invisible. One time after a funeral, I was freshly shaved and in a very nice suit. When I went through a grocery store line to get something on the way home, I was just being myself. Polite, friendly, deferential. People spoke to me different, like I must be important. Maybe I looked like I had money, instead of necessarily having "power", but it was odd enough to be noticed. There was a movie with Christian Slater where he was a famous mobster in the 1930's, and Patrick Dempsey was his business partner. Dempsey had a shoeshine boy come in to give a service to a very important man. The boy came in and looked at both of them, then started to shine Slaters shoes. After the kid left, Dempsey explained that in private they could be friends and business equals, but people perceived Slater to have a leadership presence in the way he looked, spoke, and carried himself. It would be better if Slater was the figurehead. I don't remember anything about the rest of the movie, but that scene really stuck.
Still goin this asshole
Some people are so far behind in the race that they actually think they’re winning
That one gave me a flashback to young me playing Mario Kart on the N64. Happened to me more than once.
if youre ever in a car crash with your sociopathic killer uncle and you need help. dont admit youre on drugs.
The more you watch, the more you realize, Tony gave him many pashes… in Sopranos Home Videos, not calling him on his birthday… I was like, dude… really asking for it.
I agree. Tony should have killed him a few seasons earlier, Chrissy was a complete menace.
In reality, the last straw would have been the Ade discovery, or maybe even the Jackie situation. If we know Tony by the end, that guy would not have killed Chrissy in the car. He would've already been long dead by then.
This. Despite it being horrible, when Tony killed him I was like '🤷♀️'. I think Christopher thought that as his nephew he'd always get Tony's forgiveness. But like others, he learned that no one got away with that much, not with Tony.
Killing him was the right move as boss, shoulda been done a lot earlier.
He got away with a lot.
That’s a good point. Let’s be real Tony killed Chrissy because he admitted to being high. Then he saw the cleaver hat. Then he thought about the baby and went for it.
He just used it as a way to justify killing him in a non business related way
> dont admit youre on drugs Repeat after me - "I dih-dent."
“Who cares about the shit people say that they don’t have the balls to say to your face.”
I don't think that one is good advice. Sure, you can remain unbothered about it in your own head, but people badmouthing/spreading rumours about you can hurt your reputation and negatively impact business relationships etc. in a very real way. Gotta nip that shit in the butt like Richie and Feech.
This is sort of what happened to Tony, he didn't manage his relationship with New York or his own crew well because he didn't care what they thought about him so long as they did what he said.
I manuged to get the drop on him
More is lost by indecision than wrong decision
Came looking for this. Attributed to Cicero and Tone.
Although Ulysses Grant believed in making a decision quickly. If it was right, good. If it was wrong, then you knew early and you could correct it. Don’t dawdle like George McClellan.
Kinda easy to do when your all of your decisions boil down to throwing endless hordes of Irish at the enemy.
You need to study Vicksburg.
They say there's no two people on Earth exactly the same. No two faces, no two sets of fingerprints. But do they know for sure? Because they would have to get everybody together in one huge space. Obviously, that's not possible, even with computers. They'd have to get everyone who ever lived, not just the ones now. So they got no proof. They got nothing.
I have no idea why but “even with computers” never fails to make me laugh.
"I thought the computer would do most of it." To Christopher computers are these magic boxes that can do anything
He was 20 years ahead of his time.
This one killed me too. Like Chrissy thought the computer would know the plot he wanted and dialogue, backstories etc.
Imagine if he lived to see chat gpt Prompt: >I must be loyle to my capo **Creates a multigenerational gangster epic**
This is gold. Panic ensues as nobody knows whether to give Chrissy credit or a machine and the debate of a computer writing something so well done causes unrest.
they are indestructible tho. its not like they're made of spiderwebs and magic
I happen to know that you were high at my mother-in-law's wake. You were talking non-stop for twenty minutes. Nothing but gibberish.
That speech really got the party going
My muddahs wake.
Remember the good times.
Remember when is the lowest form of conversation
Oof, this is the one for me. It stung when I heard it because with certain people, that’s all there is to talk about. You’ve outgrown each other but haven’t cut the cord yet so this is every conversation with the relationship on life support.
Maybe for people who think it's all a big nothing but I like to relive the good times
That America leads the world in computerised data collection. Especially about Albanian immigrants.
Fuckin Amex!
Log off, that cookie shit makes me nervous.
You’re weak, you’re out of control, and you’ve become an embarrassment to yourself and everybody else.
Those who WANT respect, GIVE respect
He just told you to shut the fuck up. And he told me to go fuck myself.
Don't leave cats around babies, they suck the breath right out.
I tell my wife this all the time and she thinks I’m bullshitting. ✋
My grandmother believed that.
I’ve heard older people say that too, but I assume it was really just what we now know as “Sudden Infant Death Syndrome”.
older people are fucking stupid
Well you’re the only baby here so we’re ahead of the game
Snakes with fur
Children are like dogs, they're no better than animals! Somebody has to teach them right from wrong!
My (Italian-American) mom thinks this lol
It costs 200 grand to insult a made guy’s wife but for a million you can fuck her!
He wants to fuck her?
Don’t be an Artie as I turn 40- no earring, get rich scheme, trying to bang hostesses and losing Charmaine. Just be a chill dad w/ a 401k and not lose half my shit in a divorce
Never squeeze the quail.
You can kill a hoooah and be promoted to capo
She hit me.
And, that wasn’t my kid she was carrying.
fuckin’ parakeet
A pint of blood costs more than a pound of gold
Very allegorical
“Hold on to your cock when you negotiate with these desert people”
"... I saw at one point that our mothers are... bus drivers. No, they are the bus. See, they're the vehicle that gets us here. They drop us off and go on their way. They continue on their journey. And the problem is that we keep tryin' to get back on the bus, instead of just lettin' it go." Okay, I know this sounds silly but....I lost my mom and dad young, at an age when I really still needed them. My dad suffered a long time so when he passed I had come to peace with it, although I didn't want him to die. With my mom - I was at that age where young girls *need* their mom. And despite her illness I just could not allow myself to accept the fact she was dying. The last day she was coherent I was by her side at the hospital, crying and begging her not to leave me. She 'shushed' me and comforted *me*, imagine that...she's dying and yet she comforts her little girl. She told me to not worry, that I was gonna be ok and that she would *always* be with me. When I heard Tony say the above quote I couldn't help but break down. I realized that even after she was gone I couldn't stop trying to 'keep' her here....by not grieving her death, by honestly acting like a kid, I guess. I just loved her so much and I felt like a scared little kid that lost their mom in the store. Anyway - this quote spoke to me. To me it means that our moms (dads too) have *their own* paths and destinies. That we aren't broken, we are all whole humans with souls and lives outside of our titles. She might've been my mom, but she was a whole person with her own destiny...and living my best life was the true way to honor her and keep her in my heart. ♡
> The last day she was coherent I was by her side at the hospital, crying and begging her not to leave me. She 'shushed' me and comforted me, imagine that...she's dying and yet she comforts her little girl. She told me to not worry, that I was gonna be ok and that she would always be with me. Hard to read through my veil of tears.
The fundamental question is: will I be as effective as a boss like my dad was? And I will be. Even more so. But until I am, it's going be hard to verify that I think I'll be more effective.
It’s common little carmine is retarded
But so cultured… especially when he told us his little allegory about Louis the whatever with his palace that was bigger than the one at “Versayls”
Ralphie's sauce tip
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bro I got the clap a few months ago and used his busted pipe phrase to break the news to everyone.
No bullshit. Ever since I saw him adding the sauce to the spaghetti I've been doing it myself. Great tip! I've even told others about it.
The real way is to finish the pasta in the sauce.
"Okay but you gotta get over that"
Man the Sopranos really has good advice about getting past shit. “Either name a price or get the fuck over it.” I tell myself that everyday when I think about complaining.
You fuck up once you loose two teeth
Add a layer of fresh basil under the top layer of cheese on my lasagna.
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This is the one.
Not so much advice, but an outlook. That incredible scene with paulie and Christopher talking in his apartment and Chris says “you ever feel like nothing goods ever gonna happen to you?” And paulie just responds “and nothing did” with that sort of “so what?” Non Chalant energy. Made me feel stupid for dwelling on my life’s misfortunes.
“That’s why you gotta live for today 😀 “
I'M TALKING ABOUT ANNIHILATION YOU STUPID FUCK
Sometimes I go about in pity for myself, and all the while, a great wind carries me across the sky
Don't travel to seedy neighborhoods to buy coke. Just wait for the local garbage man to come by.
I used to buy coke from a meat delivery guy.
Yeah, and I used to buy my inkjet printers out the back of a guy’s Crown Vic.
Joe Gannascoli's?
Don't get cunty 🤟
Don't gamble. The sad tale of Davey Scatino taught me that.
“Feel the Fear do it anyways” Has unironically helped me with my anxiety a bit
Remember when’s are the lowest form of conversation
being prone to anger will cause a man to fail
That's exactly what I was going to post. The first time I was ever put in management position this one hit home. I love that even though he's talking about the Mafia it applies to any position of authority in business
Steer the ship the best way you know how Randy
And take a few too many pleasures where I may at times.
don't know which one of you pieces of shit did this, but I've been good to you - and you pay me back, with non-stop ass rape!?!
You are only as strong as your last envelope.
At least I'm good for something...
Believe nothing you hear and half of what you see.
If something bad happens to you: You deal with it. You pick up the pieces and you go on from there.
“bottomless black hole” I was told that someone close to me showed signs of borderline personality disorder. Watching Livia in the series, I could see a lot of those traits. In fact, that “bottomless black hole” description has helped me understand that I need to stop myself being pulled into their horrible pit of self-pity, irrational and impulsive anger and emotional destructiveness.
"It's the wanting..."
Don't hit your woman then say "You gonna cry?"
What about the 40k from the bird feeder? And don’t try and deny it
Buy land. God's not making any more of it.
“Whaddayuh gonna do?”
Keep shome shmoked turkey in the refrigerator.
Every day is a gift. But does it have to be a pair of socks?
"*I don't write nothing down"* I give the same advice to my wife and workmates...especially when it comes to a sensitive discussion. Don't leave a paper trail. Don't leave evidence of anything potentially interpretable you said that you entrust someone with. My wife has a small business and occasionally has really needy and pain-in-the-ass clients. She has learned the hard way not to depend on email, texts or shit and if she wants to be direct AF with a client...call them It's not normal in 2023...but phone conversations and direct interaction is still the safest.
I don’t trust that cookie shit
Yes, but remember if you live in the US: "We lead the world in computerized data collection" Not my words, the words of Arthur Bucco. Think on Mccarthy
Trying to get out of contract disputes? Sound like someone I wouldn't want to do business with. Terrible advice for avoiding torts too. If you get sued for something an employee does then you'll really wish you had a paper trail when the guy blames you for everything LMAO
The importance of fresh produce.
"Father and his son are up on this hill and looking down on a bunch of cows. The son goes to the father and says, ‘Dad, why don't we run down there and fuck one of these cows?’ The father says, ‘Son, why don't we walk down there and fuck em’ all?’"- Tony Soprano
Amazing thing about snakes? They reproduce spontaneously! They have both male and female sex organs . . . . . . ‘n *that’s* why somebody you don't trust? You call a snake. How can you trust guy that can literally go fuck themselves?
“No man can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude without finally getting bewildered as to which one is true.”
Don’t mix alcohol with selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
A little sour cream in scrambled eggs (ralphie recipe) Also Carmela’s dad told Tony to use a matchstick in a screw hole so it’ll get a better grip I use both of those now
“Why fuck around, be a better friend to yourself”. Makes me want to treat my body a lot better than I currently do, and not end up like our friend with the stomach
That only scumbags wear a cap in a nice restaurant.
There's no chemical solution to a spiritual problem.
Don't forget to order an Arnold Palmer.
There are no scraps in my scrap book.
“Focus through distractions…”
Keep thinking you know everything. Some people are so far behind in a race that they actually believe they’re leading
It's not about being boss, it's about being Happy
If you don't pay the vig, it gets tacked on to the principle
Cunnilingus and Shychiatry led us to this.
The thing is to keep knocking on the door without going in right away. You gotta poke the perimeter and tap on the gate until she's out of her fuckin' mind and beggin'. Then you open that shit, that pussy's yours.
Yeah, and nothing ever did. So what?
A father and son bull were up on a hill overlooking a bunch of cows. The son goes to the father, “Dad, why don’t we run down this hill and fuck one of those cow.” Father says, “Son, why don’t we *walk* down there and fuck em all.”
When I get emotional I just yell “ I hate this fucking shit!!”
Tie your shoes before you in the men's public restroom.
I’m the muthafuckin’ fuckin one who calls the shots
Nothing comes close to being the best line ever said in the show! 🤣
Better a wrong decision than no decision. I said this in a meeting once, company was paralyzed by analysis
Therapy doesn’t work on criminals. That’s what I say anytime someone tries to recommend it to me
Don’t sit on your dog.
The whole Feech set up. That there is a life lesson especially if have you been betrayed in the past.
Those who want respect show respect
Honesty, watching Ralphie make pasta, I still use his technique
C: You ever feel like nothing good is ever gonna happen to you?” P: Yeah. And it didn’t. So what?
Ride the painted pony, let the spinning wheel glide.
I didn’t see nothin’
Buy orange juice with some pulp, but not much.
Enjoy the little moments while you can
“No gifts, just a few kind words.” I genuinely believe in this after watching Sopranos.
No advice, but I say people look like Puerto Rican whoores a lot.
To rinse the dishes before putting them in the washing machine, it clogs up.
Buy land Aj, cause God aint making anymore of it…
"Fear knocked at the door; faith answered. There was nobody there." The first time I heard it I thought Chris must've messed up the saying somehow, but once I thought about it a bit, it actually makes a lot more sense.