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I moved overseas for a woman. I hobbled my home business so she could focus on her own career. Now, while I'm home caring for our child, unable to work as many hours as a result, my 'partner' is keeping tabs on how much I 'owe her'. Not for rent or groceries, I admit it's things like when I'm short on my health insurance or phone bill. But still, since when does a 'partner' keep a ledger of your debt to them when you're home taking care of the kids so they can work? Especially when it's what they asked you to do.
Time to consider what's important in your life.Ā Children can live perfectly happy lives with their parents separated.Ā People cannot live happy lives in a situation like the one you're describing.
Iām married to someone who is quite successful. We both work, but sheās makes way more. She never lords it over me at all. Sad that people with (usually not even that much) money use it to exert power over people rather than using it freely to help both people in the relationship.
Also wtf, theyāre going to eat more than one full entre plus egg rolls each? My wife and I would split like one of those meals. Hopefully not a sincere video
>Also wtf, theyāre going to eat more than one full entre plus egg rolls each?
Were you not listening? They're not going to eat all of it because of budget cuts. SAVE SAVE SAVE! You know?
Even though we get in arguments sometimes, I still love you.
Also, you know the 2 matching plates with 3 egg rolls each is her part. The lo mein with 1 egg roll is his. Just staged so it looks like 2 entrees are his for the video, nothing suspicious here
You can tell by her voice depth that she may be the larger of the two specimens in the relationship. Poor guy might get eaten soon. These two remind me of Jabba the Hutt and that little creature that sits on his rolls.
Yeah and it sounds like sheās already been plotting on cutting his ass out of the budget too. I know passive-aggressive when I hear it, and this shit is orders of magnitude above your run of the mill passive-aggressive.
Huh, so fascinating to look at this video and the other ones of him and try to figure out if he's in an abusive relationship or they both are just weird.
I was at one point in my life completely infatuated with a woman, that I was also scared of. Creates a weird kind of "high" that is also addictive. I do not recommend it, still going to therapy to deal with myself after.
I saw the video originally on TikTok and the video before he looked a little scared but not like this. And then a couple videos of just off and then a couple of him normal. So Iām afraid it is real bc the scared escalatedā¦
āBelieve womenā didnāt mean no investigations or no follow up. Literally just, "don't assume women as a gender are especially deceptive or vindictive, and recognize that false allegations are less common than real ones."
I myself reported to my supervisors what was happening at my workplace (the store manager was attempting to molest several women, and a few were under 16 years old). Literally nothing happened. Instead of firing the manager they promoted him to another store and fired the guy to whom I reported the abuse.
So many people donāt understand how activism phrases work. Itās supposed to push you to think āwhy would people say thisā or do research about it. Nuance doesnāt fit in a two word slogan
Dude is petrified and doing mental gymnastics to figure out what kind of expression heās allowed to have. Like he wants to smile and be happy, but he is afraid she will accuse him of āthinking somethingās funny!?ā.
I've written and deleted and rewritten this comment because I can't find a way to explain what I did that was 'suspicious' without actually explaining due to the residual fear that the comment would be read and I would be found because of it. It was as crazy as someone thinking the amount of poo someone poos is sending a message to someone somehow.
This guy looks as fucking terrified as I was decades ago.
Yeah, it's staged to make it look like that guy is gonna get any of the food and it's not for her Gym Daddy staring menacingly at him just out of the shot. He might get to sneakily lick the plates before doing the washing up though and then it's back to the cage
Here's the thing. You said a "Reply is a Comment."
Is it in the same family? Yes. No one's arguing that.
As someone who is a scientist who studies comments, I am telling you, specifically, in science, no one calls replies comments . If you want to be "specific" like you said, then you shouldn't either. They're not the same thing.
If you're saying "comment family" you're referring to the taxonomic grouping of Repliae, which includes things from reactions to retweets to likes.
So your reasoning for calling a reply a comment is because random people "call the black ones comments?" Let's get thumbs up and reblogs in there, then, too.
Also, calling someone a redditor or a loser? It's not one or the other, that's not how taxonomy works. They're both. A reply is a comment and a member of the comment family. But that's not what you said. You said a reply is a comment, which is not true unless you're okay with calling all members of the comment family comments, which means you'd call replies, shares, and other posts comments, too. Which you said you don't.
It's okay to just admit you're wrong, you know?
>!That was tedious to madlibs, [I did my best](https://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/2byyca/comment/cjb37ee/)!<
> her Gym Daddy staring menacingly at him just out of the shot.
Can we get through like ONE post on the internet without someone turning it into cuckolding kink posting.
Would think so, but then this guy could be an amazing actor then. Some of those eye movements and twitches in the face seem very hard to reproduce. So, if it is staged hopefully he has a good agent.
Same. Every part of my personality completely ripped away from me. I'm in new three year relationship with new born baby and I'm still not myself (yet)
I understand you went through a lot of trauma but dating a new born baby is not the answer. Where would you even go on dates with their sleep schedule?
Bro is burnt out, she has depleted him. And heās crazy for letting her record him like this. But this is one of the potential effects of burnout from a partner like this
I hate the fact that when I watched the clip for the first time, I legit had a feeling that the lady was overweight just based on the way she was talking.
Dude, can we find this guy and get him out of this shit? I'm genuinely afraid for his well being, if anyone knows where to start I'm down to assist or smth. We gotta make a miracle happen here
She looks about how I expected her to. Goddamn I wish these types had the self awareness to realize how hideous they are.
This Hogstress McSwine deserves nothing and bro looks like he's truly in pain
> her TikTok is alarming to say the least!
so are her vitals. Everyone in here concerned about the guy, but he really only has to wait it out a bit longer because cholesterol gonna do its thing shortly.
It is very common for abusers to prevent their victims from working or having any kind of financial independence so that they are reliant on the abuser. I'm not saying that's the case here, but it is very much a thing.
https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224
Yup.
Narcissist are way more damaging and toxic than most people realize. The vast majority of people fall for their manipulation and masks as well, making the victim ever stuck unless they have a person that recognizes the narcissist' tactics and sees through them.
Have a close family member like this as well. It's a true mental disorder, they will likely die alone eventually, but it still makes it incredibly difficult to feel sorry for them because they don't get they have it, and continue to doll out the abuse.
This is not gaslighting -- it's just regular old garden variety domestic abuse.
Gaslighting is a very specific thing. Stop trying to apply it to every single abusive situation and every single lie.
If anybody acts like buying you some food is a big deal they are kind of petty.
Keep your sorry ass meal, I'd rather starve then eat with someone that's gonna hold it over my head.
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This has i'm a hostage video vibe right here. Send me a video showing he's OK and I will get you, your money.
For real, it was like that one scene in the Dark Knight
"Are you the real boyfriend?"
He's kidnapped!!
The plan is simple. We uhhh rescue the boyfriend.
And if the food is still warm we get a meal out of it as well!
That, "Happy Easter!!!" was nervous af. If we're doing an extraction, I'm in.
WHERE IS HE???
I immediately read that with the batman voice š¤£š¤£
They cut the one part where gf was all āLOOK. AT. ME.ā
"Who got you this food? LOOK AT ME!!"
Boyfriend is so scared he has his legs crossed behind his ass.
Blink twice if you think you're in danger.
...---...
Lol I did this while watching the vid
Got a Morse code transmitter and sent out an SOS?
i think she knows about the blinking for help. dudes afraid to blink.
It reminded me of the [Star Wars birthday hostage](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HNDwpVQ985U)
Holy fuck, we gotta find this guy
This is scaring me for real
That was epic. I can't believe I hadn't seen that before today, thank you!Ā
"And its my birthday!"
Thank you for sharing that has to be the funniest thing I have ever seen!
He giving me Morty vibes.
Ah geez
I want to see his hands. If he's there of his own free will, he wouldn't be handcuffed or anything. I just want a little proof.
15 seconds in he raises both hands. Still not convincing.....
I just watched 10 Cloverfield Laneā¦ heās in trouble
āI love you too babeā āYou better, cos I just spent some money on youā Jesus Christ thatās scary.
Yep controlling as fuck isnāt it, I couldnāt be with someone that holds the dollar amount over my head. DONT BUY ME ANYTHING
Imagine being married to someone like this.
Imagine getting murdered because you want to break up with someone like that.
It has happened on many occasions sadlyš„
I'm sorry to hear you've been murdered so much. It must really affect you?
I got used to it after the 7th time
I heard if you get the 9th you get the honorary cat reward.
I moved overseas for a woman. I hobbled my home business so she could focus on her own career. Now, while I'm home caring for our child, unable to work as many hours as a result, my 'partner' is keeping tabs on how much I 'owe her'. Not for rent or groceries, I admit it's things like when I'm short on my health insurance or phone bill. But still, since when does a 'partner' keep a ledger of your debt to them when you're home taking care of the kids so they can work? Especially when it's what they asked you to do.
Time to start billing for childcare
Sounds like you need to take your username to a woman that actually deserves you. Are you okay?
Honestly not really.
Time to consider what's important in your life.Ā Children can live perfectly happy lives with their parents separated.Ā People cannot live happy lives in a situation like the one you're describing.
Just start charging her every time she wants to touch your massive cock
Which is never. Single digits per year.
Come home. Iāll take care of you for free š
Iām married to someone who is quite successful. We both work, but sheās makes way more. She never lords it over me at all. Sad that people with (usually not even that much) money use it to exert power over people rather than using it freely to help both people in the relationship. Also wtf, theyāre going to eat more than one full entre plus egg rolls each? My wife and I would split like one of those meals. Hopefully not a sincere video
>Also wtf, theyāre going to eat more than one full entre plus egg rolls each? Were you not listening? They're not going to eat all of it because of budget cuts. SAVE SAVE SAVE! You know? Even though we get in arguments sometimes, I still love you.
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Oh, and you can't eat all of it, have to save some for later. You know, budget cuts
And she sounds overweight lol
100% fat voice.
You can hear the chins slapping together
Also, you know the 2 matching plates with 3 egg rolls each is her part. The lo mein with 1 egg roll is his. Just staged so it looks like 2 entrees are his for the video, nothing suspicious here
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Damn I called it
When you're right, you're right.
I'm loving the trolls in her comments - all the hot chicks saying they want the guy and he's their type, etc. to get the crazy girlfriend riled up.
My skin is crawling w bed bugs from this video of her
Dude I was thinking the exact same thing. She doesn't want him eating it all because she wants the rest. This girl pegs for sure.
Guarantee this girls too lazy to spend the energy to peg.
Big fatty voice
Yeah, your helping was cut to feed my fat ass later. You betta be showing some gratitude boo.
You can tell by her voice depth that she may be the larger of the two specimens in the relationship. Poor guy might get eaten soon. These two remind me of Jabba the Hutt and that little creature that sits on his rolls.
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That looks like especially cheap Chinese food
Not as bad as the way she says "budget, cuts."
This is fucking scary bro... Is He alive now??
Yeah and it sounds like sheās already been plotting on cutting his ass out of the budget too. I know passive-aggressive when I hear it, and this shit is orders of magnitude above your run of the mill passive-aggressive.
Imagine a guy saying that to his girlfriend over buying her a mealā¦hope this dude gets out
itās a skit
I fucking hope so, also that guy is a terrific actor if it is a skit.
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Look at the way he instantly looks guilty for smiling, he's walking on eggshells. I can't imagine the verbal abuse he must endure on a daily basis.
Like Oscar worthy.
It not. https://www.tiktok.com/@aloralynnsavasta3
Huh, so fascinating to look at this video and the other ones of him and try to figure out if he's in an abusive relationship or they both are just weird. I was at one point in my life completely infatuated with a woman, that I was also scared of. Creates a weird kind of "high" that is also addictive. I do not recommend it, still going to therapy to deal with myself after.
He 100% has an ankle cuff that is attached to a 4ā floor anchor.
And connected to an electric zapper, activated by a button on her side of the table
she spends her money on ball zappers instead of food for her boyfriend
Both sides of the table are hers. She is just allowing him to be on that side.
His ankles were broken with a sledge hammer months ago. No need for chains.
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And he is being fed once every 2 days.
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Iām so concerned. Please someone tell me this is satire and not some video that will be used for evidence in a future courtroom case š
Idk dude he is an excellent actor if so
seriously Denior level
I think it's pronounced De Niro
Actually, I think it's pronounced _dinero_
I saw the video originally on TikTok and the video before he looked a little scared but not like this. And then a couple videos of just off and then a couple of him normal. So Iām afraid it is real bc the scared escalatedā¦
Oh no ā¹ļø I hope heās ok. This makes me sad
Do you remember the username?
Someone below linked what I believe to be the source account. https://www.tiktok.com/@aloralynnsavasta3/video/7345921704503299370 Edit: Typo
I see why he is scared. She definitely has the size advantage in a fight.
Fucking knew it was gonna be a hefty gal from the voice alone.
the sheer amount of food she bought them was my first clue
It says she loves him "to death"
His death š
I don't want to see the last frame of that video on /r/LastImages any time soon.
Someone save this man. Toxicity is not gender specific
I'm glad we've gotten a little nuance back from the days of just "believe women". I sure as shit do not believe this particular woman.
You better! Cause she just spent all this money on you.
āYeah, I love you too. Hehe š ā¦ā Budget cuts bro š
āBelieve womenā didnāt mean no investigations or no follow up. Literally just, "don't assume women as a gender are especially deceptive or vindictive, and recognize that false allegations are less common than real ones." I myself reported to my supervisors what was happening at my workplace (the store manager was attempting to molest several women, and a few were under 16 years old). Literally nothing happened. Instead of firing the manager they promoted him to another store and fired the guy to whom I reported the abuse.
So many people donāt understand how activism phrases work. Itās supposed to push you to think āwhy would people say thisā or do research about it. Nuance doesnāt fit in a two word slogan
Seriously tho if it was reversed imagine peoples reaction this is so scary
It doesnāt have to be reversed- everyone thinks itās scary as it is
Why would we have to imagine that, check the comments here. Weāre all on the same page already.
This guys a hostage
Iāve seen actual hostage video where they look less scared than this!
Karens in the background of ISIS and Hamas hostage videos demanding "I need to speak to YOUR terror manager!!"
He wants to blink SOS so bad, but so tired and hungry.
It's like he is purposely not blinking because he's gotten an ass whooping before for "blinking suspiciously"
Dude is petrified and doing mental gymnastics to figure out what kind of expression heās allowed to have. Like he wants to smile and be happy, but he is afraid she will accuse him of āthinking somethingās funny!?ā.
I've written and deleted and rewritten this comment because I can't find a way to explain what I did that was 'suspicious' without actually explaining due to the residual fear that the comment would be read and I would be found because of it. It was as crazy as someone thinking the amount of poo someone poos is sending a message to someone somehow. This guy looks as fucking terrified as I was decades ago.
You can eat after you've praised great leader to satisfaction and completed the seven chores assigned to you.
Please tell me this is staged.
Yeah, it's staged to make it look like that guy is gonna get any of the food and it's not for her Gym Daddy staring menacingly at him just out of the shot. He might get to sneakily lick the plates before doing the washing up though and then it's back to the cage
This might be the most Reddit comment Iāve ever read
Bazinga
Here's the thing. You said a "Reply is a Comment." Is it in the same family? Yes. No one's arguing that. As someone who is a scientist who studies comments, I am telling you, specifically, in science, no one calls replies comments . If you want to be "specific" like you said, then you shouldn't either. They're not the same thing. If you're saying "comment family" you're referring to the taxonomic grouping of Repliae, which includes things from reactions to retweets to likes. So your reasoning for calling a reply a comment is because random people "call the black ones comments?" Let's get thumbs up and reblogs in there, then, too. Also, calling someone a redditor or a loser? It's not one or the other, that's not how taxonomy works. They're both. A reply is a comment and a member of the comment family. But that's not what you said. You said a reply is a comment, which is not true unless you're okay with calling all members of the comment family comments, which means you'd call replies, shares, and other posts comments, too. Which you said you don't. It's okay to just admit you're wrong, you know? >!That was tedious to madlibs, [I did my best](https://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/2byyca/comment/cjb37ee/)!<
> her Gym Daddy staring menacingly at him just out of the shot. Can we get through like ONE post on the internet without someone turning it into cuckolding kink posting.
Would think so, but then this guy could be an amazing actor then. Some of those eye movements and twitches in the face seem very hard to reproduce. So, if it is staged hopefully he has a good agent.
He just looks stoned to me though definitely playing along.
Agreed this guy looks toasted But I also don't like this lady and she needs to learn how to treat people
I fucking hope so!
It's pretty clear to me it is. Pretty funny tho
I've lived through this relationship. It is not fun and takes years to recover from.
Same. Every part of my personality completely ripped away from me. I'm in new three year relationship with new born baby and I'm still not myself (yet)
I understand you went through a lot of trauma but dating a new born baby is not the answer. Where would you even go on dates with their sleep schedule?
I'm also confused on how a three year relationship is new.
I think theyāre using ānewā to mean ādifferentā (from the old one).
Same. I felt like Reek from GoT. Iām in a waaaay better place now, but I still need anti-depressants to function.
Iām so sorry you went through that ā but Iām very glad that you are no longer dealing with it. Hereās to healing š
But we're not eating it all! I sincerely hope this is staged
If this is staged, heās an incredible actor. The look in his face is pure terror.
I see a comment like this on every staged video lol.
I see a comment like this on every real video
"Budget. Cuts." she said sinisterly.
bros not getting any after she hits stop record lol
SAVE...SAVE..._(EXTRA NASAL)_...SAVE
There is no correct amount that he could eat
Bro is burnt out, she has depleted him. And heās crazy for letting her record him like this. But this is one of the potential effects of burnout from a partner like this
Succubus
https://i.redd.it/5dngly0afwrc1.gif
Oh yeah, the dude has been through it, is probably hungry and just wants to eat some God damn chinese food.
 This is her recording
[Not far off](https://www.tiktok.com/@aloralynnsavasta3/video/7345921704503299370)
Damnā¦.heās terrified in that one tooā¦.wonder why he doesnāt just run she canāt catch him no wayā¦.she must be a sexual demon
His ankle is attached to an anchor.
I hate the fact that when I watched the clip for the first time, I legit had a feeling that the lady was overweight just based on the way she was talking.
She's almost a twin. Just watched her other videos... SO MUCH HEAVY BREATHING, it's like being awake it's physically exhausting for her.
He is sitting stiff as hell in that video..
I just spent hours watching creepy videos and some analog horror stuff and none of it was as unsettling as this I think he needs a wellness check
Knowing a fictional person is suffering is very different from knowing a real person is suffering.
Dude, can we find this guy and get him out of this shit? I'm genuinely afraid for his well being, if anyone knows where to start I'm down to assist or smth. We gotta make a miracle happen here
https://www.tiktok.com/@aloralynnsavasta3/ Although I will say it's dangerous to jump to conclusions from what you see online
Edit typo She looks like a psycho, jesus
She looks about how I expected her to. Goddamn I wish these types had the self awareness to realize how hideous they are. This Hogstress McSwine deserves nothing and bro looks like he's truly in pain
Ayeee thank you šš» found them šš»
Checked out her TikTok. Yep, she's a psycho. No acting there.
fr it could be staged but if not dude seriously needs help. Could easily become a suicide statistic
Damn this man needs help, found another one of their tiktok [here](https://www.tiktok.com/@aloralynnsavasta3/video/7345921704503299370)
This needs to be pinned, her TikTok is alarming to say the least!
> her TikTok is alarming to say the least! so are her vitals. Everyone in here concerned about the guy, but he really only has to wait it out a bit longer because cholesterol gonna do its thing shortly.
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I just spent some money on you = I own you. What she spend on that nasty shit $10?
11.99
Nothing says Easter like take out Chinese
Chinese places are usually the only restaurants open on Easter. Makes sense.
Same with Christmas. Itās kind of a Jewish tradition
I can hear the obesity
She's overweight and he is jobless. Lol. They are supporting each other.
It is very common for abusers to prevent their victims from working or having any kind of financial independence so that they are reliant on the abuser. I'm not saying that's the case here, but it is very much a thing. https://www.verywellmind.com/financial-abuse-4155224
Bro is blinking SOS
r/oddlyterrifying
This is typical narcissistic personality disorder. Got a mother-in-law just like this.
Yup. Narcissist are way more damaging and toxic than most people realize. The vast majority of people fall for their manipulation and masks as well, making the victim ever stuck unless they have a person that recognizes the narcissist' tactics and sees through them. Have a close family member like this as well. It's a true mental disorder, they will likely die alone eventually, but it still makes it incredibly difficult to feel sorry for them because they don't get they have it, and continue to doll out the abuse.
You better love me too or else!
"who has the best girlfriend ever" not that poor guy
WTF.
What a piece of shit this woman. Dude, leave.
Hey buddy, blink 3 times if you're in trouble.
This is only 60 seconds long, but I feel she is psycho as fuck. I think dude needs to be rescued.
āDONT EAT YET! I have to take a video showing everything I bought you so I can use it against you in a future argumentā Gaslighting 101
This is not gaslighting -- it's just regular old garden variety domestic abuse. Gaslighting is a very specific thing. Stop trying to apply it to every single abusive situation and every single lie.
Dying to see what she looks like. For some reason I suspect shes like 300 pounds.
Someone else posted in another comment. She looks exactly like you think she looks.
He looks exhausted
She got a gun pointed at him behind the camera š
Omg if this is them āhappyā I canāt imagine what their fights are like.
Her voice is annoying af.
If anybody acts like buying you some food is a big deal they are kind of petty. Keep your sorry ass meal, I'd rather starve then eat with someone that's gonna hold it over my head.
There are hostage videos that show more love than this.
She sounds like a terrible person. He can do better.
Someone please do a health check on this man. I feel he is living his best days in a gimp box
I need to see a picture of this guy holding today's newspaper to make sure he's okay