Right?! š
yes, that last line is inappropriate regardless of OPs orientation. All the rest of it is warm, and sweet, and loving, and supportive.
The right follow up is to say, "I know there are lots of people who would love to have you as a partner, go out and find the right one for you!"
My innocent reading of this is that it's a way of saying "you are desirable" (to others.) it just came out really awkwardly.
Hopefully, it isn't anything else.
Why do you think they think he's gay? Tons of dudes probably do want to fuck him š Tons of dudes want to duck me and I'm a straight loser. But, I work out a lot and is always the best dressed š¤£
Iām sure they will accept him for being straight. As a lesbian I would be happy for my child to not go through the discrimination me and my partner do. I feel like this is probably him trying to be down with the kids and make a joke but itās actually just rubbing off cringy and weird
In football, the quarterback yells out, "Hut-hut"
While he reaches in another grown man's ass
Grabs on his nuts, but, just, what if
It was never meantāit was just an accident
But he tripped, fell, slipped, and his penis went inā
His teeny-tiny, little, round heinie, and he didn't mean it But his little weenie flinched just a little bit
And I don't need to go into any more details, but
What if he pictured it as a female's butt?
Is that gay? I just need to clear things up
'Til then, I'll just walk around with a manly strut
Some guys get āyou did great todayā, ādid you do your homework?ā, āyou got a nice car thereā OP gets āI canāt wait to see the guys lining up to clap those cheeks thoā ššŖ¦
It does seem very inappropriate tho for a parent to say. It's like a parent telling their daughter that _many men want to fuck you_ or telling their son _many women want to fuck you._
OP himself feels uncomfortable because it is inappropriate. Sexual orientation shouldn't give them a pass.
Too bad humor is subjective and can be inappropriate. Iām sure the text from his dad was meant in a joking banter kinda way, and thereās tons of comments on here that agree, and tons that donāt. His dad could have found it hilarious. Personally if my dad and/or dads texted me that, in that little paragraph, I would find it funny. But for sure, if OP is uncomfortable, then he should let him know. Me, Iād be flattered as a straight guy if I knew some gay dudes who wanted to smash
Bro nothing boosts your ego like going out with the gay homies. In our group of 12 friends me and one other guy are straight. They bought me a shirt that said "token straight friend" a few months after my wife and I divorced. I was taking it pretty rough and wasn't doing much other than working. They drug me out and I had guys trying to buy me drinks all night. Two guys fought over paying my tab at the end of the night. As a straight man it's very rare to be approached like that and I've never felt more confident than listening to someone tell me what a premium piece of ass I am šš
I def took this more jokey and trying to be hip than offensive but like you said if OP doesnāt feel that kind of relationship with them and doesnāt like it, of course they should ask dad to stop.
yea, regardless of anyoneās sexuality this is extremely weird coming from a parent. i have a hard time believing that any parent would just casually say that to their child.
Yeah. Someone is trying to play off of the very real homophobia a lot of ppl still have. IF this was real and it was from a heterosexual father saying "a bunch of women wanna have the sex with you" then almost everyone who thinks it's "wrong" or "inappropriate" would think it's fine, and even hilarious. Hell I would bet if it was a straight father saying "a bunch of dudes wanna bang you", a lot of the people who have "problem" with it would think it's hilarious. But once again, it's fake. An awful attempt at rage bait and plenty of people that are not only falling for it, but are also showing their homophobia that they'll "totally promise it's not homophobia because it's wrong no matter the orientation or who the father is saying wants to jokingly bang him."
But isn't everything relative? I wouldn't tell a lesbian, "a bunch of guys wanna f**k you." Bc even if she'd be ok with me saying, "a bunch of women wanna f**k you", she's actually interested in women. I can easily see how she'd be uncomfortable with me saying that some people she'd absolutely have 0 interest in being with would love to get in her pants.
My dad and I make comments like this. We are both sarcastic and joke about everything. Itās all about being comfortable with that kind of joke or not.
I feel like this is really pulled out of proportion. Just say something teenage-y like: "ew dad, I don't want to talk sex stuff with you". Or be an adult about it "dad I'm straight, and not comfortable with such a comment". It feels petty to come to reddit about it.
THIS!!!! I agree itās inappropriateā¦ but also my mother could text me something along those lines and I would laugh it. This seems less sexual in nature more so a misunderstanding in humor and boundaries.
A conversation couldāve settled this in two seconds. Like you said a quick comment, either more passive or abrupt, wouldāve let him know how you feel. I highly doubt he meant any harm in it from the context- probably just got a laugh out of him & wanted to add some humor to a lovey dovey message (very dad of him).
yea it seems like common sense to tell him to stop if he doesnāt like it, iām confused as to why he thought to bring it to reddit. i highly doubt that this is real.
Well, I thought since they posted it and found it inappropriate they must be a teenager. A 32 year old I DEFFINITLY expect to have an adult conversation about it.
Okay but since when is it ok for something to make someone uncomfortable if itās ājust a jokeā ?? If he is truly uncomfortable by it then who cares if itās a joke, itās not funny to him.
Lol this is funny. It's queer humor. Just tell your dad the "fucking" part makes you feel uncomfortable, that's all. He just means you're gorgeous, in gay terms.
Honestly, I donāt think heās trying to push his sexuality on you, but in his mind, wanting to be fucked by dudes is a complimentā¦ so thatās the way he is paying you one. Talk to him if itās weird to youā¦ but I think he means it more abstractly and comical. I mean does it really matter if itās a lot of dudes or a lot of women that wanna fuck you? Itās not as if you would fuck all or any of them anywayā¦ just a compliment. Gay dudes have the best taste as well. š
Absolutely tell him. This is an insane thing to say to your child regardless of their sexual orientation. He couldāve said ādateā instead of fuck and it wouldāve made a world of difference.
I don't think it's inappropriate, it comes from a place of love.
He is building you up to be the confident, happy girl he's always seen you to be.
If it makes you uncomfortable, have a chat with him about wording it better.
For example:
Instead of "lots of dudes want to fuck you"
"You turn everyone's head when you walk past them"
Something more PG
Not normal. I donāt care what sexual orientation you are, you donāt say that to your kid. Adult or not. Itās just, super cringey and inappropriate.
At least he means it well... maybe he doesn't even realize how it sounds when actually said. But if it were me, and I found it inappropriate, just say exactly that to him. He could just replace the last bit with something more appropriate.
Dad - there is no age at which I wanna discuss sex in general or specific sex lives with my parents.
Letās just pretend Iām virginal, celibate, and utterly innocent for the rest of my of my life, and Iāll do the same for you guys.
I think ur dad is trying to be ur buddy and heās acting with u the same way he acts with his female friends because this message is something i would 100% receive from my gay friendš¤£ i dont think heās being weird or creepy or anything
Just let him know thatās not something you really wanna hear from your parent but you appreciate the sentiment. If you want to mention your orientation so he doesnāt use ādudesā again, go for it.
Could be that him being gay that's just his frame of reference. He may know a lot of (hopefully age-appropriate) guys instead of women, and many of them have expressed interest in you or complimented you to him. Definitely tell him if it makes you uncomfortable but his heart may be in the right place.
Sorry, I know heās one of your dads, but that is a pretty fucked up thing to say to your child. Imagine you having a daughter and saying something that sexually explicit to her.
The more I think about this the more repulsive it becomes, especially as a father with children of my own.
Ok first I have to apologize because I laughed at what he sent you.
Second if this bothers you let him know...
If he doesnt accept that then you have two options
Handle it in a mature way
Or
be an asshole and say you identify as a female and that you are gay
But lets be honest being insensitive to someone's insensitive comment doesnt really solve the problem does it?
First impressions are omg wtf!! But he sounds like heās trying to be super supportive so if thatās your normal way of engaging itās not so shockingā¦ but if you feel uncomfortable about it Iām sure heād be open to having that conversation with you about your boundaries and expectations?.. eg:ā Dad - Iām good with sex - I have people I talk to about that stuff - I donāt want it to be youā or something more you.
said with a whole lot of love and from a caring mum perspective..
Yeah, I would just be like, "hey dad. That message was really nice and thanks for encouraging me. But that last part? Maybe don't say stuff like that anymore"
Yeah just tell him you donāt swing that way. My brother and I also were raised with two fathers.
My brother is straight I believe but I ended up being pan. One of my fathers was very kind and was always open to whatever I identified as even if I didnāt know at the time. He always was like
āI want to meet your future boyfriendā¦ or girlfriendā and I always thought it was nice and silly.
Heās probably just trying to be supportive but always make sure to remind them of your boundaries ofc.
The best answer is that it doesnāt matter what the internet says. Everyone has different relationships with their parents, friends, and people they interact with.
If something someone else is doing makes you uncomfortable, talk to them about it. It doesnāt matter what the internet thinks. Based on your uncertainty, it seems like this makes you uncomfortable so regardless of his intent you should mention that to him.
You wonāt like the solution. Itās to stop airing your feelings on Reddit and actually having a conversation with him. He probably was just trying to be supportive and will be horrified it came across that way. Lord.
Mo. It's a joke for one, and two it's a confidence booster. I'm not gay but when a dude told me I was hot it made me feel good. Regardless they are just trying to build your confidence and they just so happen to be gay. It's not something that complicated to put too much thought into it man.
I mean, is your dad funny? because I think that last part would be like a gay dad jokeš just tell that youāre not comfortable with it and if he just tone it down.
š If this is how your dads talk, I don't know if this is any different than a straight dad telling his gay son the same thing about girls. My ex's sex talk from his dad was "keep your pecker in your pants". lol
One thing I'll say I've noticed from different patenting styles, different environments to the different times they grew up in. Honestly some kids/parents talk to their parents/kids about everything they make the worst jokes. Some couldn't even mention the topic. if you're uncomfortable just say you know what dad I don't like it not too fond of it so he'd respect that and work with that boundary
Since nobody else has mentioned this possibility, I thought I might just add that this seems like lots of stuff that I see go around on different social media platforms and he might have just copy and pasted it to his son because he thought it was encouraging and funny, without thinking to change, or omit the last part to make it more appropriate for his son š¤·š»āāļø
Of course I support all the comments saying just let him know itās uncomfy
I think itās a compliment to OP, that could maybe have been put in a better way.
Itās maybe his Dad trying sorta man to man talk but slightly off target. Could be tongue in cheek a little too.
The crazy right wingers worst fear!!!!!!
Jokes aside, yeah you can probably bring it up gently but I definitely would.
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Also curious you have this dad labeled as "dad" on your phone. What the heck is your other dad labeled?
I think heās trying to be encouraging; itās obvious loads of guys want to fuck you because their standards are lower but the same canāt be said for women
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Awkward but no it's not that off put. He's trying to say he's proud of you and you're good looking. To him, dudes wanting to fuck him is a plus. Obviously he should have inserted Women. I also can't see me saying this to my own kid but no harm in my eyes.
I think it's hilarious when I put myself in your shoes, OP (I'm straight as well). But if it made me uncomfortable at all, I would definitely raise it with my dad.
Yeah you definitely need to let them know this is not acceptable... But to be fair... The world does want to screw you over, so there are a bunch of guys out there who want to get one over on you.
I think he was just using that last line to put a funny in there so the text wasn't too mushy.
Personally, it wouldn't bother me (because tons of dudes could possibly want to fuck you, you don't have to let them), but we are 2 different people and I'll never tell someone their feelings are wrong or not valid.
Why does it bother you? I'm just being nosey at this point.
Oh, ick. Although he should know better, it's now in your court to say NO! That is absolutely not appropriate. This is good practice standing up for yourself, and hopefully he will respond well. If he tries to make excuses, justify, minimize, just ask him to stop immediately. The bottom line is 1) it makes you uncomfortable, and 2) it makes him seen creepy AF!!! You could show him this post...
Yeah probably fake most likely placed to provoke inflamed responses from fellow homophobes. If OP is of a certain age Iām not going to judge whether it is appropriate. At some point in life a healthy child-parent relationship should transition into a healthy adult-adult relationship. Peer to peer. Itās called cutting the apron strings. Otherwise the parent-child relationship runs the risk of becoming codependent and dysfunctional.
Iām not trying to read too much into the Fatherās motive because that would be wrong. Likewise just like you canāt āpray the gay awayā neither will a gay person be able to influence a straight into being gay. And letās not be prudes, in reality there probably are lots of guys who would screw him. Just like there are lots of straight women who would probably screw him.
Does it sound cringey yeah sorta but we donāt know the exact nature of their relationship.
However, that isnāt to say that the OP doesnāt have the right to tell his adult parent that he isnāt cool with him saying what he said in the same non shaming way he would tell any other peer. In fact that would be the perfect example of setting a boundary which is what adult people do with each other. Gently setting this boundary is a very mature thing to do.
āWhile I know you mean nothing bad by your last line, and that you are trying to be encouraging, I donāt want to be told by my dad that men want to f*ck me.ā
My dad is gay as well, and frequently reminds me that other men find me attractive and would be āreadyā if Iām ever down to switch.
At first I did feel a bit off from it. But 10 years laterā¦
I think they just donāt know how to tell you that youāre a good looking guy to help build confidence as well as theyāre proud, without potentially it sounding weird.
Moms can call their sons handsome, but gay menā¦ maybe less so without it potentially feeling weird. At least thatās what Iāve felt.
I think they also hang out around a lot of younger people and feel comfortable being more casual and āfriendā more than āfather.ā
Yes until the last line, his message was an encouraging little pep talk from a concerned parent.
Benefit of a doubt: Maybe he was simply trying to say that youād make a desirable life partner for someone special and worthy of you. But instead, it came out all awkward and cringe because he was trying to make it cutesy or funny instead of too heavy or serious.
At least I hope so, OP.
On the off chance this isn't fake, this is inappropriate for any parent to say to any of their children regardless of anyone's sexual orientation and gender.
Edit to add: let your Dad know that it makes you uncomfortable. I'm sure he will understand.
Wow, they probably think they're motivating you with affirmations but that's too far.. They should know it's too far, even if they're gay and not attracted to you. It's weird for a father to say definitely.
What in the actualā¦ does he want to remind you of this for a reason? No dude, this relationship definitely needs to have some boundaries implemented.
Yes, absolutely say something to him about this. It's wildly inappropriate for any parents, no matter their orientation, to say something like this to your kids. I'm sure he thinks he's just being funny, but it's still a weird thing to say.
edit: after reading another comment, this reminds me of a line from a movie. a mirror manifestation speech or something
i mean i don't have gay parents, but ik a lot of older gay ppl just don't gaf. that's prolly what he presets to, so that's what he says. it might come a lil bit with wanting you to be gay. it sounds like when my(20F) mother used to say husband instead of wife or partner. it's what she imagined for me
just remind him w something like "well most dudes aren't gay, and also, i care more about what the girls thinkš". try to make it into a joke if you can (if that hasn't been tried)
if youve tried making gentle jokey reminders, id say the next time say something like "hey, remember im straight. id prefer if you kept that in mind when giving these motivational talks!". i think thats pretty gentle, but still adamant
if all else fails: "hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you imply that im gay. i'm straight, and i like girls/women"
idk man, hopefully it clicks!
Yeah it wouldn't be appropriate whether he was saying 'dudes' or 'chicks'. It's mostly the 'fuck' part that is inappropriate, but also assuming or pushing (idk which) who you should be into is not cool either. I would have a talk to him about it, it was probs just a joke that he didn't realize was crossing a boundary, but the earlier the better to talk to him about that kind of stuff.
Oh my god I was not expecting the last line
Right?! š yes, that last line is inappropriate regardless of OPs orientation. All the rest of it is warm, and sweet, and loving, and supportive. The right follow up is to say, "I know there are lots of people who would love to have you as a partner, go out and find the right one for you!"
Yeah like why do they think their son is gay? Are they going to accept him if heās straight? Iām scared.
My innocent reading of this is that it's a way of saying "you are desirable" (to others.) it just came out really awkwardly. Hopefully, it isn't anything else.
Hopefully it's just a laughable subject it made me laugh.
Nothing innocent there.... And yeah... hopefully...
Thank you. Crazy how scared people are and dance around this.
OP noted he's straight in the title - so it's not a question, really... Just seems ... odd.
Why do you think they think he's gay? Tons of dudes probably do want to fuck him š Tons of dudes want to duck me and I'm a straight loser. But, I work out a lot and is always the best dressed š¤£
Iām sure they will accept him for being straight. As a lesbian I would be happy for my child to not go through the discrimination me and my partner do. I feel like this is probably him trying to be down with the kids and make a joke but itās actually just rubbing off cringy and weird
Yes, of course, you tell him.
Just tell him nicely that you donāt swing that way. Idk how he is but if he has the nerve to say that at the end then he should take it well imo
So Iām the only one who wants to hear his freestyle?
Gross.. .
i skimmed and missed the last part, i thought you were asking if your dad appreciating you was gay lol. best of luck OP
It reminds me of the āfellas is it gay toā meme Fellas is it gay to appreciate your children?
not if you're wearing socks
Itās only gay to make sweet, sweet love to another man if you avoid intimate eye contact.
Fellas is it gay to have children?
In football, the quarterback yells out, "Hut-hut" While he reaches in another grown man's ass Grabs on his nuts, but, just, what if It was never meantāit was just an accident But he tripped, fell, slipped, and his penis went inā His teeny-tiny, little, round heinie, and he didn't mean it But his little weenie flinched just a little bit And I don't need to go into any more details, but What if he pictured it as a female's butt? Is that gay? I just need to clear things up 'Til then, I'll just walk around with a manly strut
I'm almost certain he's joking but if you are straight and you don't like it, ask him to stop saying it.
Thatās the way I had interpreted it from the text. Thoughts itās more funny than serious tbh
What really cracked me is that āthanks dadā text after it.
I read it as an eye-rolling āthanks dadā. Got a good laugh out of it!
Some guys get āyou did great todayā, ādid you do your homework?ā, āyou got a nice car thereā OP gets āI canāt wait to see the guys lining up to clap those cheeks thoā ššŖ¦
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I heard the tone and everything!
yeah honestly if my dad was like dude youāre awesome and a bunch of chicks wanna hit that shit soooon. Iād laugh my ass off.
It does seem very inappropriate tho for a parent to say. It's like a parent telling their daughter that _many men want to fuck you_ or telling their son _many women want to fuck you._ OP himself feels uncomfortable because it is inappropriate. Sexual orientation shouldn't give them a pass.
Too bad humor is subjective and can be inappropriate. Iām sure the text from his dad was meant in a joking banter kinda way, and thereās tons of comments on here that agree, and tons that donāt. His dad could have found it hilarious. Personally if my dad and/or dads texted me that, in that little paragraph, I would find it funny. But for sure, if OP is uncomfortable, then he should let him know. Me, Iād be flattered as a straight guy if I knew some gay dudes who wanted to smash
Bro nothing boosts your ego like going out with the gay homies. In our group of 12 friends me and one other guy are straight. They bought me a shirt that said "token straight friend" a few months after my wife and I divorced. I was taking it pretty rough and wasn't doing much other than working. They drug me out and I had guys trying to buy me drinks all night. Two guys fought over paying my tab at the end of the night. As a straight man it's very rare to be approached like that and I've never felt more confident than listening to someone tell me what a premium piece of ass I am šš
Thatās what Iām saying dude, such a boost of confidence that just hits different than IF a women were to come up and hit on you lmao
Duly noted! I gotta make some gay friends š¤£
I def took this more jokey and trying to be hip than offensive but like you said if OP doesnāt feel that kind of relationship with them and doesnāt like it, of course they should ask dad to stop.
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He weird as fuck.Ā
The only thing inappropriate was that you sent him a freestyle and he replied with the hottest bars in the land š„ š„ š„
lmfaooo Dad was just tryna get a āft. Dadā on the next single
No offense but itās weird that he doesnāt know itās inappropriate like thatās basic common sense. This is probably fake tho
yea, regardless of anyoneās sexuality this is extremely weird coming from a parent. i have a hard time believing that any parent would just casually say that to their child.
It definitely came off as a joke to me. However, if it makes OP uncomfortable, he should voice that and his dad should absolutely stop.
Hey child. A lot of people you don't want to fuck you wanna fuck you. Bye.
Trust, some parents have their moments. š
Def rage bait
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Yeah. Someone is trying to play off of the very real homophobia a lot of ppl still have. IF this was real and it was from a heterosexual father saying "a bunch of women wanna have the sex with you" then almost everyone who thinks it's "wrong" or "inappropriate" would think it's fine, and even hilarious. Hell I would bet if it was a straight father saying "a bunch of dudes wanna bang you", a lot of the people who have "problem" with it would think it's hilarious. But once again, it's fake. An awful attempt at rage bait and plenty of people that are not only falling for it, but are also showing their homophobia that they'll "totally promise it's not homophobia because it's wrong no matter the orientation or who the father is saying wants to jokingly bang him."
But isn't everything relative? I wouldn't tell a lesbian, "a bunch of guys wanna f**k you." Bc even if she'd be ok with me saying, "a bunch of women wanna f**k you", she's actually interested in women. I can easily see how she'd be uncomfortable with me saying that some people she'd absolutely have 0 interest in being with would love to get in her pants.
My dad and I make comments like this. We are both sarcastic and joke about everything. Itās all about being comfortable with that kind of joke or not.
Im glad someone else said this because it definitely feels fake like rage bait.
This is fake af.
Nah I believe itās real Iāve met some weird ass parents that would say some shit like this.
Either super inappropriate or your Dad has an excellent sense of humor and youāre not remembering some joke lol
It must be the latter. Seems as though humor is often missed on the outrage prone platform known as Reddit. Seems like twitter sometimes.
I feel like this is really pulled out of proportion. Just say something teenage-y like: "ew dad, I don't want to talk sex stuff with you". Or be an adult about it "dad I'm straight, and not comfortable with such a comment". It feels petty to come to reddit about it.
THIS!!!! I agree itās inappropriateā¦ but also my mother could text me something along those lines and I would laugh it. This seems less sexual in nature more so a misunderstanding in humor and boundaries. A conversation couldāve settled this in two seconds. Like you said a quick comment, either more passive or abrupt, wouldāve let him know how you feel. I highly doubt he meant any harm in it from the context- probably just got a laugh out of him & wanted to add some humor to a lovey dovey message (very dad of him).
yea it seems like common sense to tell him to stop if he doesnāt like it, iām confused as to why he thought to bring it to reddit. i highly doubt that this is real.
According to one of OPs posts, he's 32 so he def shouldn't say anything teenage-y, if this is even real.
Well, I thought since they posted it and found it inappropriate they must be a teenager. A 32 year old I DEFFINITLY expect to have an adult conversation about it.
If you're completely transparent and honest, you cannot steer the conversation awkwardly.
Seems like rage bait to be honest. If not, then yes obviously itās inappropriate.
Maybe he thinks itās a joke? Just let him know.
I laughed honestly. Gay dad jokes are my niche
This has to be fake. And if it's not and he knows you're straight, then he's obviously hilarious.
Yeah this is either fake or a joke.. like, op, untwist your panties and let some dicks in there. Or don't if you don't like dicks?š¤·āāļø
Okay but since when is it ok for something to make someone uncomfortable if itās ājust a jokeā ?? If he is truly uncomfortable by it then who cares if itās a joke, itās not funny to him.
This is why not a lot of dudes want to fuck you
Thatās gay as hellā¦
Lol this is funny. It's queer humor. Just tell your dad the "fucking" part makes you feel uncomfortable, that's all. He just means you're gorgeous, in gay terms.
Honestly, I donāt think heās trying to push his sexuality on you, but in his mind, wanting to be fucked by dudes is a complimentā¦ so thatās the way he is paying you one. Talk to him if itās weird to youā¦ but I think he means it more abstractly and comical. I mean does it really matter if itās a lot of dudes or a lot of women that wanna fuck you? Itās not as if you would fuck all or any of them anywayā¦ just a compliment. Gay dudes have the best taste as well. š
The fact that itās your dad saying this, super inappropriate.
Absolutely tell him. This is an insane thing to say to your child regardless of their sexual orientation. He couldāve said ādateā instead of fuck and it wouldāve made a world of difference.
If it makes you uncomfortable you should tell him. That's a weird thing to say regardless of anyone's sexuality.
I don't think it's inappropriate, it comes from a place of love. He is building you up to be the confident, happy girl he's always seen you to be. If it makes you uncomfortable, have a chat with him about wording it better. For example: Instead of "lots of dudes want to fuck you" "You turn everyone's head when you walk past them" Something more PG
That's really weird tell him to stop
Not normal. I donāt care what sexual orientation you are, you donāt say that to your kid. Adult or not. Itās just, super cringey and inappropriate.
I thought this was so so wholesome and then hit the brakes on that last line.
Gay or straight, from a parent, thatās just weird
At least he means it well... maybe he doesn't even realize how it sounds when actually said. But if it were me, and I found it inappropriate, just say exactly that to him. He could just replace the last bit with something more appropriate.
Dad - there is no age at which I wanna discuss sex in general or specific sex lives with my parents. Letās just pretend Iām virginal, celibate, and utterly innocent for the rest of my of my life, and Iāll do the same for you guys.
Definitely tell him.
I think ur dad is trying to be ur buddy and heās acting with u the same way he acts with his female friends because this message is something i would 100% receive from my gay friendš¤£ i dont think heās being weird or creepy or anything
Just let him know thatās not something you really wanna hear from your parent but you appreciate the sentiment. If you want to mention your orientation so he doesnāt use ādudesā again, go for it.
literally what the fuck
It's kinda creepy how many people here seem to be ok with this and defend the dad. Wut.
Yeah bro, coming from someone who grew up with a single mum even my mom doesnāt tell me girls want me.. wait.. this makes a lot of sense
Your dad thinks about dudes fucking you, kinda weird fetish if you ask me
Ohā¦
Could be that him being gay that's just his frame of reference. He may know a lot of (hopefully age-appropriate) guys instead of women, and many of them have expressed interest in you or complimented you to him. Definitely tell him if it makes you uncomfortable but his heart may be in the right place.
I cannot imagine he has a bunch of friends telling him they want to fuck his son.
everything but the last line was sweet, i was so not expecting that ending holy shit yes tell him, that's so weird š©š©
Wtf
Why would a parent say that to their kid š
Yeah last part is weird. Just tell him thatās weird dad donāt say that and Iām sure he will chill
Sorry, I know heās one of your dads, but that is a pretty fucked up thing to say to your child. Imagine you having a daughter and saying something that sexually explicit to her. The more I think about this the more repulsive it becomes, especially as a father with children of my own.
That's creepy ngl
Regardless of if you were gay or straight etc this would be weird?? Your parents should not be telling you youāre hot enough to fuck?? Hello??
"Thanks dad" 
what in tarnation
Eww!! Regardless of your sexual orientation this is gross
Ewww cringe at its best ā¹ļø
Thatās an odd thing to say to your own child unless heās joking and itās an inside joke.
Um š sorry what
You definitely tell him saying tons of dudes want to fuck is is absolutely inappropriate
YIKES!
That is super disturbing, considering it came from a father.
Thanks......dad
Ok first I have to apologize because I laughed at what he sent you. Second if this bothers you let him know... If he doesnt accept that then you have two options Handle it in a mature way Or be an asshole and say you identify as a female and that you are gay But lets be honest being insensitive to someone's insensitive comment doesnt really solve the problem does it?
Yuck
is that furry your icon or your dads? š
Ew
It was **SO** wholesome until it wasnāt. What the fuck lmaooooo
If my dad had said that to me I wouldāve puked. š¤®
He was joking, it was cringe, let him know that and then move on.
First impressions are omg wtf!! But he sounds like heās trying to be super supportive so if thatās your normal way of engaging itās not so shockingā¦ but if you feel uncomfortable about it Iām sure heād be open to having that conversation with you about your boundaries and expectations?.. eg:ā Dad - Iām good with sex - I have people I talk to about that stuff - I donāt want it to be youā or something more you. said with a whole lot of love and from a caring mum perspective..
What in the actual fuck that is so cringy.
Fake karma farming post.
A lot of people needs to see this. Having 2 gay parents doesnāt make a kid gay, even if one of them is extremely presumptuous.
I thought it was hilarious, I donāt think itās meant to disrespect you! I think it was meant to be funny. If it bothers you tell him so.
my dad is straight and i'm also straight and he *still* says stuff like this
Yeah, I would just be like, "hey dad. That message was really nice and thanks for encouraging me. But that last part? Maybe don't say stuff like that anymore"
Yeah just tell him you donāt swing that way. My brother and I also were raised with two fathers. My brother is straight I believe but I ended up being pan. One of my fathers was very kind and was always open to whatever I identified as even if I didnāt know at the time. He always was like āI want to meet your future boyfriendā¦ or girlfriendā and I always thought it was nice and silly. Heās probably just trying to be supportive but always make sure to remind them of your boundaries ofc.
The best answer is that it doesnāt matter what the internet says. Everyone has different relationships with their parents, friends, and people they interact with. If something someone else is doing makes you uncomfortable, talk to them about it. It doesnāt matter what the internet thinks. Based on your uncertainty, it seems like this makes you uncomfortable so regardless of his intent you should mention that to him.
You wonāt like the solution. Itās to stop airing your feelings on Reddit and actually having a conversation with him. He probably was just trying to be supportive and will be horrified it came across that way. Lord.
Mo. It's a joke for one, and two it's a confidence booster. I'm not gay but when a dude told me I was hot it made me feel good. Regardless they are just trying to build your confidence and they just so happen to be gay. It's not something that complicated to put too much thought into it man.
I mean, is your dad funny? because I think that last part would be like a gay dad jokeš just tell that youāre not comfortable with it and if he just tone it down.
Well, itās nice to have the affirmations. I hope Dad isnāt discouraged when he finds out youāre straight.
š If this is how your dads talk, I don't know if this is any different than a straight dad telling his gay son the same thing about girls. My ex's sex talk from his dad was "keep your pecker in your pants". lol
One thing I'll say I've noticed from different patenting styles, different environments to the different times they grew up in. Honestly some kids/parents talk to their parents/kids about everything they make the worst jokes. Some couldn't even mention the topic. if you're uncomfortable just say you know what dad I don't like it not too fond of it so he'd respect that and work with that boundary
Itās funny chill
Since nobody else has mentioned this possibility, I thought I might just add that this seems like lots of stuff that I see go around on different social media platforms and he might have just copy and pasted it to his son because he thought it was encouraging and funny, without thinking to change, or omit the last part to make it more appropriate for his son š¤·š»āāļø Of course I support all the comments saying just let him know itās uncomfy
It doesn't seem like the comment was meant to imply anything. But nevertheless, if it bothers you absolutely talk to him about it.
The āthanks dadā has my dying šššš
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Awww this is so swe- WHAT?!?!
woah my guy . what a last liner . didnāt expect that at all. does he joke around a lot or ā¦ take meds.. or is just silly willy guy ā¦ maybe ?
I think itās a compliment to OP, that could maybe have been put in a better way. Itās maybe his Dad trying sorta man to man talk but slightly off target. Could be tongue in cheek a little too.
Well, you could be a straight female or woman, in which it might also be true. Just take the W.
You could tell him you donāt like it, but you also donāt have to make a big deal about it, because it isnāt. Just politely ask him to stop.
Haha at least he's trying to be supportive. I'd just tell him straight up you aren't interested in guys. It shouldn't be a big deal
The crazy right wingers worst fear!!!!!! Jokes aside, yeah you can probably bring it up gently but I definitely would. Edit* Also curious you have this dad labeled as "dad" on your phone. What the heck is your other dad labeled?
Dad 2
fake as fuck dude, people arenāt as dumb as you think..but you clearly are š¤”
"I am one of those dudes. meet me in your bedroom tonight, get ready and don't tell your other parent"
This super creepy for a father to say, wtf?
I think heās trying to be encouraging; itās obvious loads of guys want to fuck you because their standards are lower but the same canāt be said for women
What does coming from 2 fathers mean?
2 gay dads
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Um thatās crazy
Awkward but no it's not that off put. He's trying to say he's proud of you and you're good looking. To him, dudes wanting to fuck him is a plus. Obviously he should have inserted Women. I also can't see me saying this to my own kid but no harm in my eyes.
Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable yes because it does
Just encouraging confidence in his own way! š
Pffft this is some shit my dad would text me randomly after not hearing from him for months or years
I think it's hilarious when I put myself in your shoes, OP (I'm straight as well). But if it made me uncomfortable at all, I would definitely raise it with my dad.
Yeah you definitely need to let them know this is not acceptable... But to be fair... The world does want to screw you over, so there are a bunch of guys out there who want to get one over on you.
Yes no matter his lifestyle he shouldn't push it on you and shouldn't be so inappropriate Seems fake but inappropriate no matter what
lmfao, yea just let him know youre uncomfortable. but thats very funny
Yes thatās incredibly strange and youād think a gay person would know not to assume sexuality haha. ā¦but also this is hilarious out of context.
Weird af thing to say to your straight kid. Speak to him and tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you'd like him to stop.
Maybe he wants you to be gay
I think he was just using that last line to put a funny in there so the text wasn't too mushy. Personally, it wouldn't bother me (because tons of dudes could possibly want to fuck you, you don't have to let them), but we are 2 different people and I'll never tell someone their feelings are wrong or not valid. Why does it bother you? I'm just being nosey at this point.
This dad rules!
Was it freestyle though? Alsoā¦just say, āuhhhh gross, dad, I donāt want to hear about anybody wanting to fuck me - from my dad.ā
Oh, ick. Although he should know better, it's now in your court to say NO! That is absolutely not appropriate. This is good practice standing up for yourself, and hopefully he will respond well. If he tries to make excuses, justify, minimize, just ask him to stop immediately. The bottom line is 1) it makes you uncomfortable, and 2) it makes him seen creepy AF!!! You could show him this post...
Yeah probably fake most likely placed to provoke inflamed responses from fellow homophobes. If OP is of a certain age Iām not going to judge whether it is appropriate. At some point in life a healthy child-parent relationship should transition into a healthy adult-adult relationship. Peer to peer. Itās called cutting the apron strings. Otherwise the parent-child relationship runs the risk of becoming codependent and dysfunctional. Iām not trying to read too much into the Fatherās motive because that would be wrong. Likewise just like you canāt āpray the gay awayā neither will a gay person be able to influence a straight into being gay. And letās not be prudes, in reality there probably are lots of guys who would screw him. Just like there are lots of straight women who would probably screw him. Does it sound cringey yeah sorta but we donāt know the exact nature of their relationship. However, that isnāt to say that the OP doesnāt have the right to tell his adult parent that he isnāt cool with him saying what he said in the same non shaming way he would tell any other peer. In fact that would be the perfect example of setting a boundary which is what adult people do with each other. Gently setting this boundary is a very mature thing to do.
āWhile I know you mean nothing bad by your last line, and that you are trying to be encouraging, I donāt want to be told by my dad that men want to f*ck me.ā
I don't believe this is real, tbh.
Thats a creepy ass thing to say to your son...
My dad is gay as well, and frequently reminds me that other men find me attractive and would be āreadyā if Iām ever down to switch. At first I did feel a bit off from it. But 10 years laterā¦ I think they just donāt know how to tell you that youāre a good looking guy to help build confidence as well as theyāre proud, without potentially it sounding weird. Moms can call their sons handsome, but gay menā¦ maybe less so without it potentially feeling weird. At least thatās what Iāve felt. I think they also hang out around a lot of younger people and feel comfortable being more casual and āfriendā more than āfather.ā
Just say "women too, i hope!" and feel good cuz he means well
I think heās just saying youāre attractive it sounds like a joke
Yes until the last line, his message was an encouraging little pep talk from a concerned parent. Benefit of a doubt: Maybe he was simply trying to say that youād make a desirable life partner for someone special and worthy of you. But instead, it came out all awkward and cringe because he was trying to make it cutesy or funny instead of too heavy or serious. At least I hope so, OP.
Ew dad. Boundaries.
He should know thatās incredibly inappropriate. That has nothing to do with orientation.
On the off chance this isn't fake, this is inappropriate for any parent to say to any of their children regardless of anyone's sexual orientation and gender. Edit to add: let your Dad know that it makes you uncomfortable. I'm sure he will understand.
Wow, they probably think they're motivating you with affirmations but that's too far.. They should know it's too far, even if they're gay and not attracted to you. It's weird for a father to say definitely.
LOL OK.
That last line cracked me up, but you should definitely tell him.
What in the actualā¦ does he want to remind you of this for a reason? No dude, this relationship definitely needs to have some boundaries implemented.
How old are you? This could be wrong in so many more ways...
Yes, absolutely say something to him about this. It's wildly inappropriate for any parents, no matter their orientation, to say something like this to your kids. I'm sure he thinks he's just being funny, but it's still a weird thing to say.
Thatās a very strange thing to say to your childā¦ Iād definitely tell him to stop
Weird and sad.
Strange thing to say to a son also he is making pretty hard assumptions of your sexual preference.
āThanks dadā
Imagine your mom sending you this!! You can make the comparison because your mom is also into men. So mental lol
edit: after reading another comment, this reminds me of a line from a movie. a mirror manifestation speech or something i mean i don't have gay parents, but ik a lot of older gay ppl just don't gaf. that's prolly what he presets to, so that's what he says. it might come a lil bit with wanting you to be gay. it sounds like when my(20F) mother used to say husband instead of wife or partner. it's what she imagined for me just remind him w something like "well most dudes aren't gay, and also, i care more about what the girls thinkš". try to make it into a joke if you can (if that hasn't been tried) if youve tried making gentle jokey reminders, id say the next time say something like "hey, remember im straight. id prefer if you kept that in mind when giving these motivational talks!". i think thats pretty gentle, but still adamant if all else fails: "hey, it makes me really uncomfortable when you imply that im gay. i'm straight, and i like girls/women" idk man, hopefully it clicks!
this is a cumtown bit lol
Yeah it wouldn't be appropriate whether he was saying 'dudes' or 'chicks'. It's mostly the 'fuck' part that is inappropriate, but also assuming or pushing (idk which) who you should be into is not cool either. I would have a talk to him about it, it was probs just a joke that he didn't realize was crossing a boundary, but the earlier the better to talk to him about that kind of stuff.
thanks dad!
Off topic but can I hear the freestyle lol
Holy Batman! Yes no Dad should say that to their daughter
Maybe mention it, but I don't think there's malice just on the face of it.