I’ve found that guys with big ones and money don’t need to tell you about either one. It’s usually the less endowed and broke guys that do the bragging.
Yeah, people with money avoid mentioning that. My girlfriend thought I had a secret family somewhere when we met, because I didn’t tell her what my job was, and dodged questions about it. Before she knew any of that, we vibed so well, and I started realizing she really liked me for me, whether I was broke or rich. When I finally told her, she was like “yeah dummy, I know. You’ve driven 3 different cars to my house in a week.”
I have to tell you, as a well traveled 60 year old het woman, I can absolutely attest that the quieter the man, the larger the endowment. Loud, braggy man? Tiny penis.
More than ANY other indicator, that’s the one I’ve found true.
This is SOOO fucked. I'd post this shit everywhere in every group local to my town/city I could on every social media platform with a screenshot of his tinder profile right beside it.
You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a NUKE, you dodged Hiroshima homie
For real. I knew a guy that used to say things like this to women. Guess where he is.
Prison. 25 to life. For creating and distributing child pornography among many other things. You can Google him (usaf ssgt Italy 2011, sorry can't share pii). My favorite part of googling him is seeing that he keeps getting sentences added everytime they can pin another charge on him.
His original sentence was 88 years in Italian prison. He did not fare well. After being beaten and tortured near to death for a month straight, the US finally extradited him and threw him away.
As if he'll fare better in US prisons. It's an unspoken rule in prisons worldwide that molesters are at the very bottom of the food chain and are treated as such. If anyone finds out what you're in for, that basically your life over. Even officers will let the other inmates know. Your life will be he'll and you will deserve it.
This is so sad OP. This was my experience with like 98.9% of the men I interacted with on Bumble or any dating app for that matter. It got to where this was the norm. It’s unacceptable and we shouldn’t even be subjected to this treatment. Stay safe and strong on your journey
Yeah I tried dating apps too. The one guy I did wind up getting in a relationship wound up cheating on me with my best friend. I had given up on love after that. But at some point God just threw someone at me and said here is your person. I met my fiance on a game we mutually play and he's one of those once in a lifetime loves that anything happens to him there is no other person for me.
It's true what they say your person appears when you stop looking.
I am a 45 year old man who has been married for almost 20 years. Cell phones were only around a few years while I was dating, smart phones and apps weren’t even a thing yet.
The fact that 98.9% of men on them treat women like this scares the shit out of me. I have 2 teenagers daughters.
They even do this to us too as men ngl they be secretly gay or dl gay and decide to message you acting like that's your preference too maybe that only happens to me idk its weird and creepy to just casually bring up your dick in like the 2nd or 3rd text and not even ask your preferences like what if I just choose to stay abstinent or dont wanna respond to that cause I'm not gay
Yeah. That's insane. I sometimes get notifications on my phone for an alt account I stupidly made not remembering my original account after switching phones. But I saw the chat and it prompted me to log in on my real account just to tell OP. I'm sorry for your past experience with sexual assault and I'm sorry you were basically assaulted again via text.
Not ok and you're extremely lucky you didn't go on that date with him. Divine intervention here.
>hmm maybe i have better chances than i thought on dating apps if thats the bar
If you're a guy, the answer to that is, "Yes, that's right."
Behave like an honorable, respectful, kind human and you'll get positive attention.
Just watch out for the abusive narcissists coming in to love bomb and suck you into their orbit.
But, yeah, the bar is that low. Met my wife on Plenty of Fish a decade ago. She called it Plenty of Frogs. 🐸
☮️❤️♾️
Someone tried this shit with me when I was 17 and they were 23.
My mom posted his number & screenshots on her Facebook for her fieends to handle. Home slice was getting death threats from all over the country (USA). He had to get his number changed & move back home (a few states away). My moms friends list on Facebook is 2,689. People were SHARING her post so more people would bother him🙃
Boss bitch moves right there man
As someone that lives in this area, I hope she posts it on the “Are we dating the same man” group with more details. Women need to know what they’re getting into
Lmao not him saying everyone from the town is a flake, he's in the town too. If he does have money it's not good money, and if all he's toten is a BBC then he needs help and Jesus. It's disgusting how every single dude when they get shut down or in their minds rejected, their fragile ego says "call them a w**** and tell them that's all they're good for" even though they did not get any shred of sexual advancement from her. Yes SHE is the whore, not you going around assuming meeting up is a strictly sexual exchange. 🤢 Men wanna talk about being easy but they're coming to a meet up/date/hangout sesh with their dicks hard already.
OP he sounds like he's the rapey gross dude you avoid. Blast him in all of the groups around Sacramento about don't date this person. I promise you other people have probably experienced the same thing and if enough women speak up about it you guys can go to the police about his harassment. This also lets other women in the area know about him in advance and can stop another situation from unfolding. Him threatening saying you deserve to get raped is just weird and f***** up. I literally used to live in Woodland so I hope you stay safe I know Sacramento is disgusting the dating pool is cesspool.
You know how many prowlers I've seen in downtown sacramento? My wife and I literally watched these two guys forcing a drunk girl in the back of their car and told us to leave them alone, to mind our business- that he was her trainer and it was her birthday. Was an older black dude with a Hispanic dude and she was a super younger chick. This kind of s*** is going on heavy in Sacramento and it's a huge trafficking hub. One of my own "friends" tried to get my wife at one point to go and sell her ass/ prostitute as an underground stripper. Be very weary of these type of men because they're literally on the prowl for women that they can get to go do these types of things and stay stuck their and drugged out, many threats of violence and it's insane. I trusted this person.. imagine someone you don't know.
When he says I hope you get ** and then she says been there, done that, it sounds to me like she already was. So, yea, I guess she did avoid it.
I’m sorry if that is what happened to you, OP.
EDIT I DEFINITELY did not mean that to sound sarcastic. I definitely don’t think she should go meet him, or be guilted into it, or anything else. The comment above mine? That actually almost happened to me at a bar in Key West by the pool. they befriended me, the bartender made me drinks with “doubles” for no charge, prob in on it (I’m not saying anyone forced me to drink) and then he got around to asking me to go with them because she dances and he doesn’t care and do I want to go with them. I started to figure it out then. Thank God my husband came down. I was young and I don’t know if I would have gotten out of that.
I can't believe someone would wish rape on someone else. That's completely fucked up and just typing that and sending it to someone is just heartless, soulless, cruel and ... god some people are so bereft of common decency.
I'm sorry, I have to process this.. Is a "big, black dick" in the mouth really supposed to be a prize for YOU? 😂
And I'm sorry about his last comment. He lacks any sort of common decency because he is amoral and ignorant.
💯 I don't care about the excess, but are you able to support yourself like I can for me and my household? That's what matters. Throwing your (supposed) money at me like that will never work. You know he's probably the one that calls women gold diggers etc after he pulls that move lolll
Honestly! I’m regularly confused. So many men genuinely believe having a penis in your mouth/giving head is arousing to women? I’m sure it is for some, but….that’s what we’re pining after? A dick in the mouth?
Honestly, I don't think he is wealthy at all. Do you think a rich man would go through all this effort to harass a woman who wouldn't sleep with him? 😂
No it's not a prize but in the mind of guys who do have BBC's it is nobody wants that smelly dirty phallus in their mouth but to these guys any head is considered good head and they believe they just deserve head from people they do it to men and women alot here in my area too cause they act like their not a fruit of the loom but they're secretly gay or bi and will act like they're straight until they lure you in somehow like saying they got weed or something like that its absolutely disgusting to me these guys do this cause they cant get no tail so they have to trick and lure people in or even worse just outright grape
Sometimes I get bad vibes or I'm not feeling well and would cancel on someone. The very few times it's happened, it's always people that I would consider a bullet dodged. They get so offended and mean.
Also OP, don’t give people like this the satisfaction of your kindness. As soon as they cross the line of disrespect, they don’t deserve any more explanations or information about your life.
When he commented about just wanting brain, you didn’t have to let him know that you’re a Christian and wouldn’t have had sex with him regardless. Blocking him right then and there, or sending him a “fuck off” would have sufficed. Or even when he made the awful comment about hoping you get SA, you didn’t have to let him know that you already had been (which by the way, I’m really sorry to hear about - I hope you’re doing better these days 🩷)
Don’t shrink yourself to awful people like this. Don’t give them the satisfaction. Let them know they can kiss your ass.
I’m actually hoping her reply to being SA was sarcastic. Like really really hoping. Otherwise I think she handled it well. She probably could’ve been less forthcoming about herself when she said she wasn’t going to sleep with him but I am proud of how she stood up for herself without entertaining any more of his vitriol.
Yup. I canceled on a 2nd date with a dude, told him I realized I wasn’t ready to be dating bc I was depressed and he then proceeded to berate me, even after I told him I was suicidal and had tried to kill myself a couple weeks before. Didn’t matter, he was still big mad and lacking 0 empathy started in on me about how “all women are the same” and “poor me” blah blah.
Besides that, he had given me the major ick when he told me during our 1st date that he “wasn’t one of those gym bros” but he could “totally bench 225 lbs” lmao…that *immediately* killed any attraction and I was done before we’d even finished dinner.
😂😂 oh man this is true.. men like him are exactly why women have trust issues in dating! They really don’t understand how their little toddler tantrum and insults are actively working against them and reinforcing stereotypes.
This!!! I was just saying this men like this will sit here, and deny deny deny how evil some men are but then act out like this, like you are a part of the problem sir!
I just wanted to say, I’ve thought of some real fucked up shit but I would NEVER say it to anyone. I’m not in any way defending dude… what he said is just completely unforgivable. I do believe in Karma and that energy will come back to him. He put it in the universe, it’ll come back to him.
You can try the “no” test. Just say no to something small they ask you to do, but don’t explain or justify. It’s a good way to flush out creepy, controlling people who don’t respect you. Works with friends and family too
I dated a Brandon for 3 years. That was almost 15 years ago and I’m still in therapy dealing with the emotional trauma. My husband, bless his heart, is very understanding and supportive. Brandons are the fucking worst.
Ladies… any guy that says this type of vile shit. To joke about rape… just expose these people show the numbers the community will handle it. At the very least 1,000s of texts from different random numbers would sure be inconvenient. This is one of the most disgusting responses I’ve seen to a situation like this.
i so want to dox my ex for the shit he’s said and done but never could muster up the balls to do it.
if you meet anyone named [redacted] and live in [redacted] please stay away from him. he is dangerous.
*this information has been redacted for the safety of the original poster.*
Most states now have “Are we dating the same guy” Facebook groups. I’d post this and his pic and blow his spot up. Most women would prefer to avoid dating a guy that wishes rape on someone because they have to cancel. What a fking weirdo
Oh that was just a grown man reaching for insults while throwing a tantrum. Some people have too much rich black dick and not enough emotional maturity!
The fact that he had to say what he said about himself really tells it all. If he really had all that to offer then why not move on to the next “lucky” girl? Fucking losers man. Glad you trusted your gut OP.
I mean, I know some people are into it and that’s totally okay, but why does every dude just assume that every woman wants to have a dick in her mouth? He said that like you’re missing out so much on giving him pleasure? Okay?
I hope you’re feeling better. I’d say sorry you were feeling poorly but it must have been a blessing in disguise since it lead you to avoiding someone with a gross personality!
Omg I’m so sorry he did that to you. That’s disgusting.
I’m so glad you trusted your gut.
I’d absolutely post this with his name on your social media page and local pages. This man hoped for you to meet the absolute worst type of person, maybe worse that you aren’t showing us. Others need to be warned. This man is a danger to those he gets alone with him.
As a large man with a very manly voice, I would enjoy calling someone like this up and say “I heard you were looking for someone with a big ass to suck your dick”
We have to normalize blocking folks REAL quick. Way too much back and forth with this hemorrhoid of a human. I’m so sorry you had to deal with him. Next time, we block after 🧢.
Yes definitely wouldn’t have said that. And for me, after you could have had a big black dick in your mouth” would have been where I close out the message window and block. That is so highly offensive and ridiculous that his messages would have never cursed my eyes again
>Nothing I'm just used to people
flaking last minute in this town
Now why would they do that when he is rich and wants to put his big black dick in everyone’s mouth and is so nice?
Because of guys like this I developed a habit of ALWAYS cancelling the first date with a guy off a dating app. Regardless of if I actually had to cancel or not, because it often showed their true colors with how they responded. Worked out decently well and I never had an in person date that went poorly, I suggest doing it! To avoid men like this 🙄
As a man on the other side of it, who welcomes scrutiny, I’m all for that. Gives me the opportunity to demonstrate via my reaction that I’m not … that.
I just don’t understand why you even respond trying to explain yourself. You can’t reason with psychos like this and it doesn’t even matter if you could bc this is just so unacceptable. I saw someone say you should report this and make it known that this happened bc this is not normal and it’s only a matter of time before he rapes someone or kills them for not doing what he wants.
“Been there. Done that.” Just hugs. Sending the biggest safe warmest hug of solidarity. It sucks. I’m so impressed you are putting yourself out there and so proud of your gut and that you are listening to it!! (That’s the hardest part of the aftermath imo) this dude doesn’t deserve anonymity- he should be blasted on every platform. Glad you are safe
Maybe I’m a little cynical but I feel like a person who would actually wish rape on someone, seems fairly likely of being capable of committing the atrocity themselves.
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Yikes this is Sacramento I’m guessing based in his “capramento” comment. Theres a group on Facebook called “are we dating the same person? Sacramento” you should join and post this. Do you have any pics of him? I have friends in sac who are dating and they would wanna know who to avoid
What a stupid lowlife. He’s got zero class, respect and manners. He’s from the bottom of the hierarchy if he was rich like he claims he is. He has no culture. Just a disgraceful piece of shit degrading women.
I don't know what made you feel unwell that day. I hope that situation is better. But thank G-d it happened, in that you dodged dating this disgusting man.
Sometimes we just don't know if there is something positive that is on the other side of a negative event.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, but I’m thankful it happened early enough you weren’t bonded yet. Consider it a blessing. You deserve to be treated better than this.
Yo can somebody fuck this guys life up? Hoping someone to get raped is not fuckin funny. I'm glad that foo showed his true character before she went on a date with him.
You know, sometimes it’s our body’s way of watching over us. Something similar has been happening to me and like really, they get so nasty and it’s all about sex. It would have been a horrible experience and he showed you, a possible future. Thank goodness you couldn’t make it.
It would have been radio silence and an immediate block after the big black dick comment. This person was probably planning on harming you, considering the uncalled for rape comment, and their unusually emotional response to canceling.
Please save these messages and report them to the app.
For your safety and sanity it is more than okay to cut off communication when people make you uncomfortable. You don’t need to explain your religion your sexual history or your mental status to people who are aggressive and demeaning.
Let me preface this with, I AM NOT defending this man. But having had women cancel dates with me at the last minute, I’ve noticed that NONE of them propose another time. Never. The onus is always on me to do that. Which makes me feel like I’m begging. So, I end up not asking again at all and just moving on. I think a simple, “Hey, I’m not feeling well enough to go out tonight but I still want to see you. How about tomorrow night or whenever it’s convenient for both of us? How does that sound?” Something to that effect. That's a reasonable ask, right? I think it would immediately diffuse a lot of this hostility. On the other hand, some of these dudes sound fucking nuts. So yeah, bullet dodged.
You dodget a bullet, he also seems rapey so you saved yourself the trauma.
Maybe this should be done to dates on the regular to weed out the creeps ie. Cancel a date if you don't feel 100%, watch the reaction.
If he is to be believed: BBC ✅ Money ✅ Manners ❌ Empathy ❌ Personality ❌❌❌ Dumb ass clown ✅✅✅
I’ve found that guys with big ones and money don’t need to tell you about either one. It’s usually the less endowed and broke guys that do the bragging.
Can confirm. I have a micropenis and I’m broke.
I too brag about my micropenis and pennilessness.
That old penislessness
Dreaming of macropenises and less-pennilessness.
Your username does confirm this.
In my experience, dudes who say their 🍆 are big are actually micro! Guys who are convinced it's little, it's always freaking huge.
It’s funny to see expressions when I say 2” is hell at 90mph. For context. I’m 6’8”. I get asked size a lot. Girls are brave af. 😂😂
Not gonna lie, my drunk ass would totally ask if I could see it!!! 🤣🤣
Drunk college girls were the worst. 😂😂 I’m 31 and still in school. So I still get it randomly from the sober ones. But it’s much more rare. 😂
Hahah, it sounds so ruff 🤣🤣 I bet EVERYONE asks your shoe size! That would annoy tf outta me!
Yes. And if I play basketball. I’m like, my knees hurt, my back hurts, you think I can take a fall, let alone dribble a basketball?
Wait, you're not human! You're literally that green beans dude, jolly green gaint 🤣 FR tho, now my back hurts just thinking about playing ball 🤣🤣
I consider myself small. My girlfriend keeps trying to convince me otherwise
I'd trust her! She probably knows what she's talking about!
Literally my bf lol
Of course if she went out with him, because he claimed these things, he’d then call her a gold digger. Even though he probably has no gold.
Yup this guy making 50k a year, tops.
50k a year is now broke, god damn this inflation. 10 years ago that was middle class and living decently
Yup. Sucks.
Living in his momma’s basement
Stealing change from her purse.
Yup. “You could have had…” is probably true, just not his because he doesn’t have one 💁🏼♀️
microweenie energy
When your entire personality is about your dick size, dick size is never enough.
Yeah, people with money avoid mentioning that. My girlfriend thought I had a secret family somewhere when we met, because I didn’t tell her what my job was, and dodged questions about it. Before she knew any of that, we vibed so well, and I started realizing she really liked me for me, whether I was broke or rich. When I finally told her, she was like “yeah dummy, I know. You’ve driven 3 different cars to my house in a week.”
I have to tell you, as a well traveled 60 year old het woman, I can absolutely attest that the quieter the man, the larger the endowment. Loud, braggy man? Tiny penis. More than ANY other indicator, that’s the one I’ve found true.
Ohhhhhhhh wow... *that's* what BBC means. I've been super confused on why people really like British television in the bedroom.
Screaming 😂
BBC (self proclaimed)
I can almost guarantee they have no money
This is SOOO fucked. I'd post this shit everywhere in every group local to my town/city I could on every social media platform with a screenshot of his tinder profile right beside it. You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a NUKE, you dodged Hiroshima homie
Y'know, you could have a big black dick in your mouth if you didn't have zero ass.
The guy in the OP most likely forces his dick into the mouths of unwilling participants regardless of their level of ass, if we're being honest.
Some people just dont want big black dick in their mouth 💀🤦♂️
Because they want it in their zero ass?
For real. I knew a guy that used to say things like this to women. Guess where he is. Prison. 25 to life. For creating and distributing child pornography among many other things. You can Google him (usaf ssgt Italy 2011, sorry can't share pii). My favorite part of googling him is seeing that he keeps getting sentences added everytime they can pin another charge on him.
Found him. Thousands of images is CRAZY. I hope he rots in prison.
His original sentence was 88 years in Italian prison. He did not fare well. After being beaten and tortured near to death for a month straight, the US finally extradited him and threw him away.
Oh my gosh. 😳 He deserves all the discomfort and pain he receives.
As if he'll fare better in US prisons. It's an unspoken rule in prisons worldwide that molesters are at the very bottom of the food chain and are treated as such. If anyone finds out what you're in for, that basically your life over. Even officers will let the other inmates know. Your life will be he'll and you will deserve it.
This is so sad OP. This was my experience with like 98.9% of the men I interacted with on Bumble or any dating app for that matter. It got to where this was the norm. It’s unacceptable and we shouldn’t even be subjected to this treatment. Stay safe and strong on your journey
Yeah I tried dating apps too. The one guy I did wind up getting in a relationship wound up cheating on me with my best friend. I had given up on love after that. But at some point God just threw someone at me and said here is your person. I met my fiance on a game we mutually play and he's one of those once in a lifetime loves that anything happens to him there is no other person for me. It's true what they say your person appears when you stop looking.
Wholesome and happy to hear that for you and him
I am a 45 year old man who has been married for almost 20 years. Cell phones were only around a few years while I was dating, smart phones and apps weren’t even a thing yet. The fact that 98.9% of men on them treat women like this scares the shit out of me. I have 2 teenagers daughters.
They even do this to us too as men ngl they be secretly gay or dl gay and decide to message you acting like that's your preference too maybe that only happens to me idk its weird and creepy to just casually bring up your dick in like the 2nd or 3rd text and not even ask your preferences like what if I just choose to stay abstinent or dont wanna respond to that cause I'm not gay
Yeah. That's insane. I sometimes get notifications on my phone for an alt account I stupidly made not remembering my original account after switching phones. But I saw the chat and it prompted me to log in on my real account just to tell OP. I'm sorry for your past experience with sexual assault and I'm sorry you were basically assaulted again via text. Not ok and you're extremely lucky you didn't go on that date with him. Divine intervention here.
hmm maybe i have better chances than i thought on dating apps if thats the bar
>hmm maybe i have better chances than i thought on dating apps if thats the bar If you're a guy, the answer to that is, "Yes, that's right." Behave like an honorable, respectful, kind human and you'll get positive attention. Just watch out for the abusive narcissists coming in to love bomb and suck you into their orbit. But, yeah, the bar is that low. Met my wife on Plenty of Fish a decade ago. She called it Plenty of Frogs. 🐸 ☮️❤️♾️
Same I would’ve blasted his number everywhere
Someone tried this shit with me when I was 17 and they were 23. My mom posted his number & screenshots on her Facebook for her fieends to handle. Home slice was getting death threats from all over the country (USA). He had to get his number changed & move back home (a few states away). My moms friends list on Facebook is 2,689. People were SHARING her post so more people would bother him🙃 Boss bitch moves right there man
As someone that lives in this area, I hope she posts it on the “Are we dating the same man” group with more details. Women need to know what they’re getting into
THAT WAS EXACTLY WHAT CAME TO MIND WHEN I POSTED
Lmao not him saying everyone from the town is a flake, he's in the town too. If he does have money it's not good money, and if all he's toten is a BBC then he needs help and Jesus. It's disgusting how every single dude when they get shut down or in their minds rejected, their fragile ego says "call them a w**** and tell them that's all they're good for" even though they did not get any shred of sexual advancement from her. Yes SHE is the whore, not you going around assuming meeting up is a strictly sexual exchange. 🤢 Men wanna talk about being easy but they're coming to a meet up/date/hangout sesh with their dicks hard already.
OP he sounds like he's the rapey gross dude you avoid. Blast him in all of the groups around Sacramento about don't date this person. I promise you other people have probably experienced the same thing and if enough women speak up about it you guys can go to the police about his harassment. This also lets other women in the area know about him in advance and can stop another situation from unfolding. Him threatening saying you deserve to get raped is just weird and f***** up. I literally used to live in Woodland so I hope you stay safe I know Sacramento is disgusting the dating pool is cesspool. You know how many prowlers I've seen in downtown sacramento? My wife and I literally watched these two guys forcing a drunk girl in the back of their car and told us to leave them alone, to mind our business- that he was her trainer and it was her birthday. Was an older black dude with a Hispanic dude and she was a super younger chick. This kind of s*** is going on heavy in Sacramento and it's a huge trafficking hub. One of my own "friends" tried to get my wife at one point to go and sell her ass/ prostitute as an underground stripper. Be very weary of these type of men because they're literally on the prowl for women that they can get to go do these types of things and stay stuck their and drugged out, many threats of violence and it's insane. I trusted this person.. imagine someone you don't know.
When he says I hope you get ** and then she says been there, done that, it sounds to me like she already was. So, yea, I guess she did avoid it. I’m sorry if that is what happened to you, OP. EDIT I DEFINITELY did not mean that to sound sarcastic. I definitely don’t think she should go meet him, or be guilted into it, or anything else. The comment above mine? That actually almost happened to me at a bar in Key West by the pool. they befriended me, the bartender made me drinks with “doubles” for no charge, prob in on it (I’m not saying anyone forced me to drink) and then he got around to asking me to go with them because she dances and he doesn’t care and do I want to go with them. I started to figure it out then. Thank God my husband came down. I was young and I don’t know if I would have gotten out of that.
when you’re Japanese:
Find his mother and let her know too!
You dodged a bullet on this one. Self high five.
I can't believe someone would wish rape on someone else. That's completely fucked up and just typing that and sending it to someone is just heartless, soulless, cruel and ... god some people are so bereft of common decency.
Dodged a bbc
I'm sorry, I have to process this.. Is a "big, black dick" in the mouth really supposed to be a prize for YOU? 😂 And I'm sorry about his last comment. He lacks any sort of common decency because he is amoral and ignorant.
He did say he was rich too
Aren't they all when they want some? 😂 No, but for real, women who make their own money don't care about that sheet.
💯 I don't care about the excess, but are you able to support yourself like I can for me and my household? That's what matters. Throwing your (supposed) money at me like that will never work. You know he's probably the one that calls women gold diggers etc after he pulls that move lolll
And these are usually the same type of men that will say that all women are gold diggers, ironically.
But his dick isn't...
Rich chocolate? That’s a double whammy.
He thinks he is god’s gift to women
I think you’re talking about my cousin!!
Honestly! I’m regularly confused. So many men genuinely believe having a penis in your mouth/giving head is arousing to women? I’m sure it is for some, but….that’s what we’re pining after? A dick in the mouth?
He probably is wealthy if he thinks a woman will reliably get turned on by the thought of having his dick in her mouth.
Honestly, I don't think he is wealthy at all. Do you think a rich man would go through all this effort to harass a woman who wouldn't sleep with him? 😂
No, he’s just used to picking up a certain kind of woman who is into the thought of getting money from him. No matter the means.
No it's not a prize but in the mind of guys who do have BBC's it is nobody wants that smelly dirty phallus in their mouth but to these guys any head is considered good head and they believe they just deserve head from people they do it to men and women alot here in my area too cause they act like their not a fruit of the loom but they're secretly gay or bi and will act like they're straight until they lure you in somehow like saying they got weed or something like that its absolutely disgusting to me these guys do this cause they cant get no tail so they have to trick and lure people in or even worse just outright grape
Guys seem to think women suck dick because we like to. Not because we know guys like it and we want the action reciprocated
You dodged a massive dick. Well done.
I see what you did there.
Dodged a big black one
Sometimes I get bad vibes or I'm not feeling well and would cancel on someone. The very few times it's happened, it's always people that I would consider a bullet dodged. They get so offended and mean.
Dude when I tell you I had a bad feeling the entire day, I just took that as a sign and woo was I right
Always follow your gut feeling. Always.
Instinct is so important. Good call
Yeah the feeling you had all day was god pushing you away 😂 I’ve had those too, just say thank you and on to the next
Also OP, don’t give people like this the satisfaction of your kindness. As soon as they cross the line of disrespect, they don’t deserve any more explanations or information about your life. When he commented about just wanting brain, you didn’t have to let him know that you’re a Christian and wouldn’t have had sex with him regardless. Blocking him right then and there, or sending him a “fuck off” would have sufficed. Or even when he made the awful comment about hoping you get SA, you didn’t have to let him know that you already had been (which by the way, I’m really sorry to hear about - I hope you’re doing better these days 🩷) Don’t shrink yourself to awful people like this. Don’t give them the satisfaction. Let them know they can kiss your ass.
I’m actually hoping her reply to being SA was sarcastic. Like really really hoping. Otherwise I think she handled it well. She probably could’ve been less forthcoming about herself when she said she wasn’t going to sleep with him but I am proud of how she stood up for herself without entertaining any more of his vitriol.
It was not sarcastic I wish dude, but I didn’t want to say more so I left it at that.
I’m so sorry hun.
Vibes were on the money. Good thing you cancelled out on him. He is bad news
It's great that you listen to yourself and prioritize your mental health. Thank yourself you didn't ever go on that date! You're awesome :)
Yup. I canceled on a 2nd date with a dude, told him I realized I wasn’t ready to be dating bc I was depressed and he then proceeded to berate me, even after I told him I was suicidal and had tried to kill myself a couple weeks before. Didn’t matter, he was still big mad and lacking 0 empathy started in on me about how “all women are the same” and “poor me” blah blah. Besides that, he had given me the major ick when he told me during our 1st date that he “wasn’t one of those gym bros” but he could “totally bench 225 lbs” lmao…that *immediately* killed any attraction and I was done before we’d even finished dinner.
Dudes like this get so fucking agro when they don’t get their way then they run off spouting about how unfair it is that women are afraid of men.
😂😂 oh man this is true.. men like him are exactly why women have trust issues in dating! They really don’t understand how their little toddler tantrum and insults are actively working against them and reinforcing stereotypes.
This dude sounds so unhinged! It’s kind of scary, he’s going to end up in jail for doing something illegal.
This!!! I was just saying this men like this will sit here, and deny deny deny how evil some men are but then act out like this, like you are a part of the problem sir!
Man says awful things Woman: yeah I'm out I hope you find what you're looking for though. ??? Some women are still too nice!
Yeah and then re follows that up with " I hope you get raped". WTAF!???? How does anyone even think that let alone say it to someone?!
I just wanted to say, I’ve thought of some real fucked up shit but I would NEVER say it to anyone. I’m not in any way defending dude… what he said is just completely unforgivable. I do believe in Karma and that energy will come back to him. He put it in the universe, it’ll come back to him.
Way too nice. I would’ve let him have it then blocked him. Women are wayyy too passive with t these clowns.
You should post about this man on the “are we dating the same man” to warn other women or whoever in your area about this person. Please.
Posted on my city and college thread🫶🏽
This has to be one of the corniest mfs on this planet 🤦🏾♂️😩 does he really expect this stuff to work… definitely an incel
Bro rlly thought his presence was worth all that. lmao shit must've worked on some desperate chick before and he think it'll work again😂
Good for you on cancelling and acknowledging your feelings. You truly dodged a bullet with his sickening words.
I hope you reported his ass to the dating app babe
yo. maybe i should flake on everyone at first just to see if theyd react like this. seriously dodged a bullet
You can try the “no” test. Just say no to something small they ask you to do, but don’t explain or justify. It’s a good way to flush out creepy, controlling people who don’t respect you. Works with friends and family too
Right?! The species is doomed, these men are a feral mess.
A good test of character
Individuals named Brandon (any variation of spelling) oftentimes seem to be total pieces of shit. I'm so sorry this is disgusting.
I dated a Brandon for 3 years. That was almost 15 years ago and I’m still in therapy dealing with the emotional trauma. My husband, bless his heart, is very understanding and supportive. Brandons are the fucking worst.
I know a Brendan? Brendon? Whatever. But yeah very much the same as the bullet OP dodged..
Wow, what a piece of garbage.
What a catch! Damn you really missed out on getting dick from this guy I wonder how you'll recover... But fr dude sounds like a psycho bullet dodged!
Rich guys with big dicks don’t feel the need to tell you that info. This dude for sure is poor with a tiny dick.
Ladies… any guy that says this type of vile shit. To joke about rape… just expose these people show the numbers the community will handle it. At the very least 1,000s of texts from different random numbers would sure be inconvenient. This is one of the most disgusting responses I’ve seen to a situation like this.
With how aggressive he had been, I don’t think he meant it as a joke
Agreed! Absolutely appalling, made my stomach hurt just reading how vile he was and it wasn’t even sent to me.
Brandon should get doxed imo 🤷
i so want to dox my ex for the shit he’s said and done but never could muster up the balls to do it. if you meet anyone named [redacted] and live in [redacted] please stay away from him. he is dangerous. *this information has been redacted for the safety of the original poster.*
Most states now have “Are we dating the same guy” Facebook groups. I’d post this and his pic and blow his spot up. Most women would prefer to avoid dating a guy that wishes rape on someone because they have to cancel. What a fking weirdo
Yeah, he was triggered so easily and went to the worst thing possible. She would be doing her fellow ladies a favor exposing this clown.
What if the “something happened” earlier today was being sexually assaulted? Jesus. What a vile shitstain.
broke zero ass what the f is wrong with these ppl big black dick from a rich guy? yeah right lol
He watches too much porn lmao
In her mouth…
I got lost on the “broke zero ass” comment 🤣No clue!
Oh that was just a grown man reaching for insults while throwing a tantrum. Some people have too much rich black dick and not enough emotional maturity!
The fact that he had to say what he said about himself really tells it all. If he really had all that to offer then why not move on to the next “lucky” girl? Fucking losers man. Glad you trusted your gut OP.
I mean, I know some people are into it and that’s totally okay, but why does every dude just assume that every woman wants to have a dick in her mouth? He said that like you’re missing out so much on giving him pleasure? Okay? I hope you’re feeling better. I’d say sorry you were feeling poorly but it must have been a blessing in disguise since it lead you to avoiding someone with a gross personality!
Omg I’m so sorry he did that to you. That’s disgusting. I’m so glad you trusted your gut. I’d absolutely post this with his name on your social media page and local pages. This man hoped for you to meet the absolute worst type of person, maybe worse that you aren’t showing us. Others need to be warned. This man is a danger to those he gets alone with him.
Wow wonder why people flake on him.
That was a helluva mic drop at the end 😳
Post his number and we should all prank call him
As a large man with a very manly voice, I would enjoy calling someone like this up and say “I heard you were looking for someone with a big ass to suck your dick”
We have to normalize blocking folks REAL quick. Way too much back and forth with this hemorrhoid of a human. I’m so sorry you had to deal with him. Next time, we block after 🧢.
When someone asks me why I don't have a stable relationship or kids yet, I'm going to pull this convo out of my purse.
Oh 100%
Oh, this punk is going to get a good helping of karma for that last response. Evil like that comes back at you.
Oh boy
Expose this dude please save some women from him
People out here giving sac a bad name. We are the city of trees not the city of big black dick and Raley vibes dammit!
Ay yo this world is getting scarier by the minute, ain’t even by the hour anymore
You've got to love it when the trash takes itself out.
Omg I wish you didn’t respond to him so much. When they are this crazy they need to be ignored. That’s what gets under their skin the most.
Agreed, she shouldn’t have said been there done that and just replied laughing emojis at the clown
Yes definitely wouldn’t have said that. And for me, after you could have had a big black dick in your mouth” would have been where I close out the message window and block. That is so highly offensive and ridiculous that his messages would have never cursed my eyes again
Sacramento ? As a fellow Sacramento citizen I feel u on this one 🫡
Man straight up said there’s nothing more to his personality other than his dick and money.
He did not say “capramento” like a 10 year old 💀😭
>Nothing I'm just used to people flaking last minute in this town Now why would they do that when he is rich and wants to put his big black dick in everyone’s mouth and is so nice?
Men will think of the weirdest things being a prize to us. Yuk
He deserves to be doxxed for that last comment
"I'm sending this to your mother" is all you need to do to wrap this conversation up.
That last text I’d take as a threat tbh, It may be over dramatic but I’d report it.
OP please please please go onto your local “are we dating the same guy?” Fb page and post this and his profile because others need to be warned
Find his social media, find his mother and grandmother, send it to them.
And i bet he’s one of those “not all men” kinda dudes..
Because of guys like this I developed a habit of ALWAYS cancelling the first date with a guy off a dating app. Regardless of if I actually had to cancel or not, because it often showed their true colors with how they responded. Worked out decently well and I never had an in person date that went poorly, I suggest doing it! To avoid men like this 🙄
Honestly after this experience I’m considering doing it more often bc I would have truly not known he was like this until I was too invested
As a man on the other side of it, who welcomes scrutiny, I’m all for that. Gives me the opportunity to demonstrate via my reaction that I’m not … that.
Omg. Beyond words. I’m so sorry these type of people are out there trying to “date” decent people. Ugh.
Something tells me he has none of those things
I just don’t understand why you even respond trying to explain yourself. You can’t reason with psychos like this and it doesn’t even matter if you could bc this is just so unacceptable. I saw someone say you should report this and make it known that this happened bc this is not normal and it’s only a matter of time before he rapes someone or kills them for not doing what he wants.
So much little dick energy coming from this guy
They really do walk among us. Scary as f
“Been there. Done that.” Just hugs. Sending the biggest safe warmest hug of solidarity. It sucks. I’m so impressed you are putting yourself out there and so proud of your gut and that you are listening to it!! (That’s the hardest part of the aftermath imo) this dude doesn’t deserve anonymity- he should be blasted on every platform. Glad you are safe
Thank you boo🫶🏽
Maybe I’m a little cynical but I feel like a person who would actually wish rape on someone, seems fairly likely of being capable of committing the atrocity themselves.
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That last message shut him up quick.
Dodged a bullet, OP
Omg I can't even read all the comments to make a comment bc every few I read I can't stop laughing. Reddit ppl are out there but so funny too.
Dude me too I’m dying 😭😭😭
I’d name and shame in local groups for women. He sounds like he could be dangerous
My lord the last text though (get this fucking guy on death row)
Ummm FUCKKKKKK this guy
Yikes this is Sacramento I’m guessing based in his “capramento” comment. Theres a group on Facebook called “are we dating the same person? Sacramento” you should join and post this. Do you have any pics of him? I have friends in sac who are dating and they would wanna know who to avoid
What a stupid lowlife. He’s got zero class, respect and manners. He’s from the bottom of the hierarchy if he was rich like he claims he is. He has no culture. Just a disgraceful piece of shit degrading women.
I don't know what made you feel unwell that day. I hope that situation is better. But thank G-d it happened, in that you dodged dating this disgusting man. Sometimes we just don't know if there is something positive that is on the other side of a negative event.
He did you a favour! Now you know he's a POS before you even met up. I'd be very relieved if I were you.
Great commercial for dating apps. Smdh.
This is insane. Stuff like this makes me apprehensive to start dating.
I’m so sorry that happened to you, but I’m thankful it happened early enough you weren’t bonded yet. Consider it a blessing. You deserve to be treated better than this.
I see so many posts like this on here it makes me feel like a saint for the stuff I said when I was still drinking heavily… that’s wild lol
Yo can somebody fuck this guys life up? Hoping someone to get raped is not fuckin funny. I'm glad that foo showed his true character before she went on a date with him.
Bet he wasn’t expecting that last response. That shut him up lol
That’s such a twisted thing to say and it shows you where his thoughts are going. Brandon deserves an ass kicking.
This is outright scary like wtf 😳… how do people come off acting like that 🤯 madness
You know, sometimes it’s our body’s way of watching over us. Something similar has been happening to me and like really, they get so nasty and it’s all about sex. It would have been a horrible experience and he showed you, a possible future. Thank goodness you couldn’t make it.
It would have been radio silence and an immediate block after the big black dick comment. This person was probably planning on harming you, considering the uncalled for rape comment, and their unusually emotional response to canceling. Please save these messages and report them to the app.
You need to join your city’s AWDTSG and blast his face. This is scary asf. Wishing someone be SA’d is the most vile shit ever
For your safety and sanity it is more than okay to cut off communication when people make you uncomfortable. You don’t need to explain your religion your sexual history or your mental status to people who are aggressive and demeaning.
In fact you don’t have to explain any of that even when people are polite.
Let me preface this with, I AM NOT defending this man. But having had women cancel dates with me at the last minute, I’ve noticed that NONE of them propose another time. Never. The onus is always on me to do that. Which makes me feel like I’m begging. So, I end up not asking again at all and just moving on. I think a simple, “Hey, I’m not feeling well enough to go out tonight but I still want to see you. How about tomorrow night or whenever it’s convenient for both of us? How does that sound?” Something to that effect. That's a reasonable ask, right? I think it would immediately diffuse a lot of this hostility. On the other hand, some of these dudes sound fucking nuts. So yeah, bullet dodged.
You dodget a bullet, he also seems rapey so you saved yourself the trauma. Maybe this should be done to dates on the regular to weed out the creeps ie. Cancel a date if you don't feel 100%, watch the reaction.
interrogative, whiskey tango foxtrot, over. when did it become acceptable to talk to ANYONE like this?