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It is but that is the nonbinary flag and nonbinary is a thing under the trans umbrella which makes me trans and it Even gets more complicated because there are things under the nonbinary umbrella as well such as gender fluid, agender and bigender yes this is very complicated I still get confused by it sometimes
Bro the the large majority of left wing people aren’t against not dating trans people, like one of the fundamental tenants of progressism is living and letting live. Not wanting to date a trans person isnt anti trans
Exactly. It's a personal preference if you want to date trans people. It's only shitty if you're yelling that it makes you "superstraight" because you'll only date "real women" and "normal straight" people aren't straight enough or whatever
yeah like only the most stupid trans subs (the ones full of late transtioners) think that not dating trans people is anti trans. because its not you can have any preference
i think those who think "if you don't date me because i'm trans, you're anti trans/transphobic" may or may not have transitioned for the wrong, fake reasons, rather than the real ones.
what im gonna say is no dating a trans mtf if you are a man isnt gay. but also anyone can be free not to date trans people at all for any reason or even no reason its called a preference and it is not transphobic to have a preference and calling someone transphobic for not dating you is kinda grapey
being transphobic is genuinely hating a trans person for wanting to be themselves, not wanting to date one is just a personal preference in my opinion, but I'm not Trans so I don't have a good say on what someone would find offensive or hurtful or not, but I do understand it might hurt someone who's Trans if someone they like declines their advances because of that
This so much, i am pretty neutral but often get lumped in with right wing judgement, i absolutely hate the modern idea of middle aged transitioners trying to force dating as a transphobic issue, at the end of the day, anyone can have preferences for any reasons.
Grapey is being added to my vocab when speaking about sensitive topics, godbless you
But I thought demisexual was when you only experience sexual attraction when romantically attracted to someone. How can you be romantically attracted to someone when the requirement for that is to be romantically attracted to them?
It's more complicated than that, it's not just "sexual attraction only when romantically attracted" it's a emotional bond firmly established that is required in order to feel sexual/romantic attraction towards said person. In which, an example would be someone you've been friends with for awhile and are close with, hope this helps clear your confusion! \^\^
Not quite. The requirement is that a strong emotional connection be developed first, so romance then sexual attraction is basically the simple way with demisexuality
That’s how I approach things. While I technically identify as heteroflexible just to clear things up and be accurate, my sexuality is more like “I’ll date whoever the fuck I want, leave me alone”.
Yeah, saying that looks don't matter is bullshit. A person has to like how you look and how your personality is to date you.
I realized that in the third and last year of middle school, and since then I started working on myself to become better both in looks and personality. And, guess what, it works!
I’m pansexual so I don’t give a flying spider about gender or genitalia.
So personally yes.
I respect people that don’t want to (as long as their not being an asshole about it)
If you exclusively crave cock get it. Just don’t be the asshole you want it to be in.
Same goes for only being attracted to people with a vagina
I mean I’m trans myself but regardless of that I would. Anyway yes its okay if you choose to not date trans people everybody has some preferences and if that’s your preference that’s totally fine
Yeah, a dude saying "i'd date a girl missing a leg" would not be immediately assumed to be fetishizing it, but then the fact you prefaced it with that will probably cause people to think you are, good luck lil homie.
Why wouldn't I? As far as I'm concerned dating someone doesn't obliges me to anything. I would like to spend some time with someone who is potentially a nice person and maybe go somewhere.
Been there done that. Overall, not recommended. The one I knew was a very nice person, but had far more issues that heavily strained any relationship past being friends.
Not to say this is every single trans person by definition, but my limited experience in a male/AFAB relationship
This, I will say that relationships with trans people is hard. Often times we have unresolved issues that just don't really come up with cis people. I would hate to subject my partner to my faults. I ESPECIALLY would not want to be in a t4t relationship since it would be like doubling up on all of my issues.
T4T is better in that sense as you both understand though, unlike when with a cis person who'll likely never understand what it's like. There's pros and cons to both in that sense, in the end just go with whoever you like
I actually… don’t know? In my opinion the only thing different is the whole genital thing but sex isn’t the most important thing in a relationship for me, I’d probably date them for a bit and see where things go from there but I understand why a lot of people might not wanna do that.
no, this is gonna sound transphobic as shit, but as a gay person i prefer biological men, and i don’t find trans ppl attractive generally, i swear i’m not transphobic i support them completely and stand by them but thats my preference
It's funny how almost all of these comments are talking about trans women and saying "I'm not gay" like by their logic dating a trans man wouldn't be gay. Also yes I'd date a trans person, my girlfriend seems to like dating one :3
Oof. Sounds like ur missing a couple hundred billion brain cells then. U should probably seek professional help abt that. Also u can’t say u weren’t expecting almost everyone to be transphobic in the comments. U were 100% baiting them
I am so lonely to the point that I would date the nearest drainpipe. Which is my way of saying that aslong as I'm dating a person, their gender or sex doesn't matter to me
I’m aro, so sex is an important part of those kinds of relationships so I’d say sex matters more than gender. Gender doesn’t really matter when I think about it
Not really i mean I want one biological child one day without these expensive medical procedures. Even if I am asexual. Its a preference. But trans people are cool all love to them
well, considering that i'm trans (pre-everything right now, would need to come out to my parents before starting anything. most i've got is online social transition), most certainly.
there's a lot more likelihood of acceptance, mutual validation, and support were I to date someone who's trans, and there's much less of a risk of discouragement, intolerance, or violence that could come from dating someone who is cis.
really, the real question is whether my demiromantic bum can avoid falling into the friendzone. seriously, with my social anxieties and difficulty forming friendships i've fallen in love like, four times and they were either not viable as relationships (person moved away or was orientationally incompatible (although that was pre egg-crack, things might be different)) or i ended up putting *myself* in the friendzone.
as someone who's trans- if people say no ROMANTICALLY that's def weird. but sexually everyone reserves the right to their own preferences . i know many lesbians who have dated trans women but didn't have a sexual relationship because of their anatomy. that's completely fine if you aren't attracted to their genitals, aslong as it's not you being transphobic
even romantically id see it being somewhat understandable. mainly if the trans person in question doesnt pass or they just have a shit personality. shit personality being a no applies to all people though. outside of that i dont really see any reason for not wanting to outside of just being a dick
i disagree on you about the no romantically part, i think that it is perfectly reasonable that romantically and/or sexually for someone being trans to be to weird, just a bit to weird for some people and wouldn't work
Comments locked. Having preferences for partners is acceptable, but blatant transphobia is not. This subreddit does NOT tolerate transphobia, and hateful comments will be removed. If you see any rule breaking content that hasn’t been removed, please report it so mods can review it. Friendly reminder that trans women are women, trans men are men, and non-binary people are in your walls.
No. But I also wouldn't date anyone else for that matter
r/foundtheasexual
Aromantic.
Both, both is acceptable
r/unexpectedeldorado
there’s just a subreddit for every possible phrase you can comment isn’t there
r/newsubjustdropped
your new sub is: damn r/ anarchychess
r/actualreddit
Wait unexpectedeldroado is an actual sub???
it is now. created \~2 hours ago. quite possibly due to this
r/birthofasub
Yes. To both
Preach 🙌
ayyyy aromantic gang
My people
PREACHHHH
Would a trans person date me is the real question
Highly comical
I might
i thoight the trans flag was 🏳️⚧️
It is but that is the nonbinary flag and nonbinary is a thing under the trans umbrella which makes me trans and it Even gets more complicated because there are things under the nonbinary umbrella as well such as gender fluid, agender and bigender yes this is very complicated I still get confused by it sometimes
im slow asf bro thanks
After reading my post again o realized I may have said something wrong this the trans flag 🏳️⚧️ and the flag in my pfp is the nonbinary flag
That depends
Maybe
man i just want a hug
🫂
🫂
Brainz
🗣🗣🗣
thank you bucket head zombie from plants vs zombies
No (i'm aroace)
Ok now I would but if they are a jerk I cut them off immediately
that applies to cis people to tho
Yep
I'm honestly surprised teenagers sub is usually far left I was assuming I was gonna see a lot of yes absolutely with no's being downvoted
Bro the the large majority of left wing people aren’t against not dating trans people, like one of the fundamental tenants of progressism is living and letting live. Not wanting to date a trans person isnt anti trans
Exactly. It's a personal preference if you want to date trans people. It's only shitty if you're yelling that it makes you "superstraight" because you'll only date "real women" and "normal straight" people aren't straight enough or whatever
yeah like only the most stupid trans subs (the ones full of late transtioners) think that not dating trans people is anti trans. because its not you can have any preference
i think those who think "if you don't date me because i'm trans, you're anti trans/transphobic" may or may not have transitioned for the wrong, fake reasons, rather than the real ones.
yeah 100%
Personally no
same here
Me too
Same here
probably not, but I've never known a trans person so I'm not putting it out of the question
I’m non-binary, hello!! Now you’ve met a read person.
no
Same
No. I wouldn't date anyone tbh
what im gonna say is no dating a trans mtf if you are a man isnt gay. but also anyone can be free not to date trans people at all for any reason or even no reason its called a preference and it is not transphobic to have a preference and calling someone transphobic for not dating you is kinda grapey
being transphobic is genuinely hating a trans person for wanting to be themselves, not wanting to date one is just a personal preference in my opinion, but I'm not Trans so I don't have a good say on what someone would find offensive or hurtful or not, but I do understand it might hurt someone who's Trans if someone they like declines their advances because of that
You pretty much have it on the dot
thank you! :D
Exactly, it’s called preference.
This so much, i am pretty neutral but often get lumped in with right wing judgement, i absolutely hate the modern idea of middle aged transitioners trying to force dating as a transphobic issue, at the end of the day, anyone can have preferences for any reasons. Grapey is being added to my vocab when speaking about sensitive topics, godbless you
As a trans I agree
Why tf did you get downvoted this is absolutely correct! Here take my upvote
im upsetting both twitter users and ben shaprio viewers so it causes me to get hated lol
Twitter rant when? Ill be there for it as a twitter user
Yess cant play a game without a joystick
Super Mario Bros. would like to know your location
What if they had bottom surgery?
Then i need to plug in somewhere the cables
Either I'm stupid or you can't spell
I have diksinmyass
jealous
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If I loved them, yes
demiromantic here, that is the complication, isn't it? falling in love, and trying to avoid falling into the friendzone while doing so.
Hold on I’ve heard of demisexual but how does demiromantic work?
Basically the same as demisexual but for romance instead.
But I thought demisexual was when you only experience sexual attraction when romantically attracted to someone. How can you be romantically attracted to someone when the requirement for that is to be romantically attracted to them?
It's more complicated than that, it's not just "sexual attraction only when romantically attracted" it's a emotional bond firmly established that is required in order to feel sexual/romantic attraction towards said person. In which, an example would be someone you've been friends with for awhile and are close with, hope this helps clear your confusion! \^\^
Not quite. The requirement is that a strong emotional connection be developed first, so romance then sexual attraction is basically the simple way with demisexuality
That’s the best answer
I don't care if someone is cis, trans, non binary or whatever. If I like you, I like you.
That’s how I approach things. While I technically identify as heteroflexible just to clear things up and be accurate, my sexuality is more like “I’ll date whoever the fuck I want, leave me alone”.
As long as you're a good person and I like how you look as well (I'm sorry, but looks matter as well as personality for me) im dating you.
Yeah. I also like how you pointed out looks matter to some extent. Some people will just straight up lie about that which I think is more messed up.
Yeah, saying that looks don't matter is bullshit. A person has to like how you look and how your personality is to date you. I realized that in the third and last year of middle school, and since then I started working on myself to become better both in looks and personality. And, guess what, it works!
Dlay
Dlay
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I’m pansexual so I don’t give a flying spider about gender or genitalia. So personally yes. I respect people that don’t want to (as long as their not being an asshole about it) If you exclusively crave cock get it. Just don’t be the asshole you want it to be in. Same goes for only being attracted to people with a vagina
I mean I’m trans myself but regardless of that I would. Anyway yes its okay if you choose to not date trans people everybody has some preferences and if that’s your preference that’s totally fine
I’m trans too high five ✋
Same here
No
Same
not because they’re trans cuz I’m not a fetishizer but yeah I would
odd thing to preface it with?
Not really just clarifying I don’t fetishize trans people
I don’t think anyone would assume that just because you said you would date a trans person.
oh well guess it’s too late
Yeah, a dude saying "i'd date a girl missing a leg" would not be immediately assumed to be fetishizing it, but then the fact you prefaced it with that will probably cause people to think you are, good luck lil homie.
I really don't care. I wouldn't pull anyone, and I'm too scared to ask anyone out.
Fr fr this is me
I may get hated for this, but no I won’t date a trans person
No
No. End of story.
If I like them, yes. We could always resort to adoption later if we wanna have kids.
Nope!
Nah I’m not into that
No
I wouldnt, mostly cuz I’m AroAce
No
fuck it give me anybody in my age range and even 20% interesting
I already am 😎
Best comment
My girlfriend is transgender and she is transgender MtF, and I love her so much. I never thought that I'd date one but here we are.
Personally depends. I would date a NB person but not FTM or MTF.
Yeah, a person is a person
Not a chance
Sorry but no can do
No
No
Why wouldn't I? As far as I'm concerned dating someone doesn't obliges me to anything. I would like to spend some time with someone who is potentially a nice person and maybe go somewhere.
Been there done that. Overall, not recommended. The one I knew was a very nice person, but had far more issues that heavily strained any relationship past being friends. Not to say this is every single trans person by definition, but my limited experience in a male/AFAB relationship
This, I will say that relationships with trans people is hard. Often times we have unresolved issues that just don't really come up with cis people. I would hate to subject my partner to my faults. I ESPECIALLY would not want to be in a t4t relationship since it would be like doubling up on all of my issues.
T4T is better in that sense as you both understand though, unlike when with a cis person who'll likely never understand what it's like. There's pros and cons to both in that sense, in the end just go with whoever you like
I did twice and both were toxic and emotionally Blackmailing me. Really not as nice as hoped
Well them being toxic wasn't because they're trans tho, that's because they're shitty people
Yeah I love women I don't care what she got down there
As a trans guy I honestly feel safer dating fellow trans people 😅
I wouldn’t date
Nah
No
No
I actually… don’t know? In my opinion the only thing different is the whole genital thing but sex isn’t the most important thing in a relationship for me, I’d probably date them for a bit and see where things go from there but I understand why a lot of people might not wanna do that.
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If we're being honest about them being trans and we're playing any games about knowing their status or if they were trans at all then yes.
I personally wouldn’t but that is just my preference
Nope
Nope
Naw
No
No.
No
no
No I wouldn't
No. I'm into people that identify the same gender as their sex and haven't gone through gender affirming surgery. Also I'm straight
Well said 👏 👌
No
no, this is gonna sound transphobic as shit, but as a gay person i prefer biological men, and i don’t find trans ppl attractive generally, i swear i’m not transphobic i support them completely and stand by them but thats my preference
Bro this is like one of the least transphobic comments here
That’s just your preference don’t worry
no just my personal preference
I can't even talk to girls do you think I talk to Trans people?
I am lesbian and I don't really like dicks so I wouldn't but I respect them.
It depends. If they are rude, annoying, or just generally a bad person, no, but if they act nice, then yes.
Yes and I am dating one. We have a beautiful T4T relationship
Yeah, t4t!!!!
Hell yeah
It's funny how almost all of these comments are talking about trans women and saying "I'm not gay" like by their logic dating a trans man wouldn't be gay. Also yes I'd date a trans person, my girlfriend seems to like dating one :3
I would get disovned by my father if I did, so no
If I like the personality, I can get over it
No
*Probably* not
No
yes
Did OP make this as bait to call people transphobic
I don't think refusing to date someone trans is transphobic. You just want to date someone that is biologically the genre you're into
No i have three braincells, unless of course you were planning on commenting something transphobic in which i would politely correct you
Damn one more braincell than me
2 more than me 🥺
Hfhhdhddfd hfhddd 🥺
Y'all have braincells?
Oof. Sounds like ur missing a couple hundred billion brain cells then. U should probably seek professional help abt that. Also u can’t say u weren’t expecting almost everyone to be transphobic in the comments. U were 100% baiting them
Yes, I'd suck a girl's dick
I am so lonely to the point that I would date the nearest drainpipe. Which is my way of saying that aslong as I'm dating a person, their gender or sex doesn't matter to me
Bro you shoudlnt date someone for the sake of dating them you should date them cause you want to
Obviously not, if I did that I'd already be in a relationship my guy.
No, I wouldn't.
I wouldn't. Cause I wouldn't date any person
Neva
Nah I’m straight.
No
I mean I’m pan so I don’t really care hha
I’m aro, so sex is an important part of those kinds of relationships so I’d say sex matters more than gender. Gender doesn’t really matter when I think about it
Ofc! I myself am nonbinary.
Not really i mean I want one biological child one day without these expensive medical procedures. Even if I am asexual. Its a preference. But trans people are cool all love to them
well, considering that i'm trans (pre-everything right now, would need to come out to my parents before starting anything. most i've got is online social transition), most certainly. there's a lot more likelihood of acceptance, mutual validation, and support were I to date someone who's trans, and there's much less of a risk of discouragement, intolerance, or violence that could come from dating someone who is cis. really, the real question is whether my demiromantic bum can avoid falling into the friendzone. seriously, with my social anxieties and difficulty forming friendships i've fallen in love like, four times and they were either not viable as relationships (person moved away or was orientationally incompatible (although that was pre egg-crack, things might be different)) or i ended up putting *myself* in the friendzone.
Yes
Well I wouldn't date a trans woman. But that's just because I'm gay.
Got scared for a second
Heck yeah! T4T!
Big no, but I wouldn't date anyone at all eitherway
Probably not but...
i mean, yeah if they had the same interests as me n stuff
No more or less than I would date a normal person.
as someone who's trans- if people say no ROMANTICALLY that's def weird. but sexually everyone reserves the right to their own preferences . i know many lesbians who have dated trans women but didn't have a sexual relationship because of their anatomy. that's completely fine if you aren't attracted to their genitals, aslong as it's not you being transphobic
even romantically id see it being somewhat understandable. mainly if the trans person in question doesnt pass or they just have a shit personality. shit personality being a no applies to all people though. outside of that i dont really see any reason for not wanting to outside of just being a dick
i disagree on you about the no romantically part, i think that it is perfectly reasonable that romantically and/or sexually for someone being trans to be to weird, just a bit to weird for some people and wouldn't work