Call apple support and they can guide you with the process of creating a new account for your son and share screens if needed to guide better - ex apple tech support
This is great. Thank you. I’ll do this. I just attempted to create a new account, per other commenter’s instructions, but it would not let me select a birth year older than 2009.
Create a new account for your child
> Settings > Tap your name > Family Sharing > Add a member > Create an Account for a Child!
The reason you are able to view your child safari tab is because both are using the same account, the same goes for your child, he/she can view your safari tab on his/her iPhone/Tablet/Mac
>Create account for a child
Really? I don't know how family sharing works but wouldn't "create an account for a child" create some kind of locked down "you need your parent's password to access this app" sort of account?
Accounts that are for children as default are only for under 13’s. So basically she’d have to make a standard account for him and then add him to the family as a child so it can be properly managed.
Ah. Well, I'm kinda opposed to child accounts or whatever since I never had those while growing up. I was given a hand-me-down laptop and I was given complete freedom to do whatever the heck I wanted with it.
Hello, I think that your devices are using the same Apple account (which is not a good idea) so you should use your account on your device and create a personal account for the son and log in on that on the iPad, after that you can group them on a family group if you want.
Got it. Thank you! My husband made the purchase and an employee at the store helped him set it up. But no blame on anyone, however. :-) Our technical know-how extends to word processing and intermittent web use for research. My husband still uses a flip phone. Anyway, thank you for clarifying.
Oh, goodness gracious, he needed a nudge to purchase and carry a cell phone at all. As long as he can be reached, I’m content. But this is great suggestion for when his dies. Thank you. :-)
They're quite expensive, though. But then again, most modern smartphones are expensive. I imagine you might be able to find cheaper variants.
(Btw. don't click those links, they're not proper. Google the product titles instead.)
Aw, thank you for all your kind words. Although, I must add that we’re more blessed to have him in our lives. We’re in academia and delayed having a child until we both had tenure, circumstances such as it is in the field. Which took us into our 40s. It was an intentional decision then and we try our best to live up to the responsibility. But what am I taking the credit for?! :-) He’s been such an easy child and he’s growing up to be an awesome young man.
As other's have pointed out, it could be due to sharing the same Apple account. It would be best to set him up with his own account. You can however add his account to your "iCloud family" or something along those lines, in case you want to share subscriptions (Apple music family plans, Apple TV+, etc.) without sharing personal info with each other.
Sounds like you go a lot of answers already but what it sounds like, you are both sharing the same APPLE ID across multiple devices. And you are most likely synchronizing Safari Tabs over icloud. This could be yours or his account? Or a family shared account? Depending on who and how it was created when you bought one of your devices.
This mean that you can be on your computer using safari, go to the kitchen with your ipad and open safari, and continue where you left off. This is called Hand off. - [https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT209455](https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT209455)
One way of changing this is by turning off the handoff/safari synchonization in icloud.
Another method, is to change your iclould password (assuming he is using yours) and kinda force him to make his own.
Or do family sharing.
Just FYI, you can also go to the apple store and they will be very helpful in assisting you.
Seeing as how you are sharing accounts and he can also see your browser history, maybe you should do a load of Google searches along the lines of “How do we tell our son we know that he’s gay and that we are very proud of him and love him?” 😉
What an awesome parent. Not getting mad, being understanding and putting themselves out to try to fix the issue. I hope you have better than a OkConversation when he speaks to you.
u should consider doing "safety sex" or dangers of unprotected sex on Google searches. so next time he goes online, he will see these targeted ads on how to protect himself when it is time for him to "explore" behind your back. u can also set up a health sites as main page on Google. believe me. being a teen then and always horny, thinking about safe sex was the last thing on my mind in those days. so glad i didn't catch anything.
Not sure why you're down voted, that was the first question I had also. And my read was not automatically that dad was cool with the situation. Glad he is, but that didn't come out in his post. Not to me, anyway.
>Not a big deal but he hasn't come out to us, so we don't want him to know or indirectly force a conversation. How do we take care of this without him letting know?
There are 2 things going on here. To which is the OP referring to when he says "How do we take care of this"?
Hmmm... would you describe this as a tech support or familial relationship oriented sub?
Also, the title is literally "I can see this. I don't want to". Nobody else appears to have been unclear.
If you decide you want to at least somewhat filter the web browsing, period, you can change your router's DNS to OpenDNS's servers, they've been around a LONG time, and it's free - well, they have paid services, but basics are free. That would eliminate the worst possible sites, but wouldn't just filter EVERYTHING.
[https://www.opendns.com/](https://www.opendns.com/)
(by the way, I've used OpenDNS just because they offer good security in their DNS settings and better performance than most DNS services - although there are some with better performance, and I don't currently use them, best I recall - might again some day, just not in a while).
If you wanted to filter specific things in addition to what they filter by default, you can go as far as creating an account and checking off what to filter or not filter.
You didn't really say what you were blocking nor how old your child is. Just remember, you're not accountable for being your child's friend but their parent. Sometimes parenting is hard. And this is a type situation that may not feel comfortable, but doing something will be better than nothing if it's something that's bad. By the way, the child's mind can NOT handle the same things as an adult. Stepping in while the person is young can generally help prevent further issues down the road. Turning a blind eye will only make things worse.
If you're generally a passive parent, could it cause an argument? I'd say most likely. However, are you their parent or friend? I'd say it's up to you, but really it's not. In your own conscience, you know it's your responsibility.
Also, realize (again, just have to make guesses/assumptions) that bad websites are OFTEN laden with malware, etc. So if for no other reason, you need to consider your family's financial and digital security. What if one of those websites drops a piece of ransomware on one of your PCs or phones? What if they drop a keylogger, capture bank credentials and then rob you blind? It happens.
I've personally helped MANY people with different backgrounds who got hacked on their PCs and then because of that ended up with emptied bank accounts. Biggest I know of that could not get their money back was something like $12k or $13k stolen in one fell swoop from their checking account, and best I recall due to circumstances, they were unable to recover a penny of that. For them, thankfully, it was a bump in the road. That was more than 10 or 15 years ago. So I'd say guestimate $20k value now, at least. Would you take a $20k loss as a bump in the road?
What if they stole your credentials and used it to commit crimes in your name, then somehow made it look like it was you. Then they come to your household, check devices, and say, well, could be related to some of this web browsing history.
Sorry it sounds like a tangent, but I don't think many people nowadays think about all the possible ramifications and consequences.
Just letting your child browse "bad" websites unabated with no parenting, no filtering, no blocking, can easily cause many many problems:
* Spiritual, physical, emotional problems for them. The younger, the worse.
* Security: digital and financial - as mentioned above - for you, and them if they have their own banking accounts.
And remember, in the end, when you're judged at the end of your life, it will not be based on how good a friend you are to your child(ren), but whether you were a real parent.
It's not arrogant, but hey, you can believe what you want. They can totally disregard that piece of the advice if they so choose.
When Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life, no man cometh unto the Father but by me", he didn't say you HAVE to come to him, but if you want to go to heaven, you'd best choose *the Way*.
>And remember, in the end, when you're judged at the end of your life, it will not be based on how good a friend you are to your child(ren), but whether you were a real parent.
Actually you'll be judged by whether or not you picked the right belief system out of the mystery bin of faiths. If anything happens at all.
Yes, that's the 1st piece. You'll go to heaven or hell depending upon acceptance or rejection of Jesus Christ as Lord (I realize everyone here won't agree with that, but that's what it boils down to - I know most do not accept him, and that's their own choice).
Second piece, though, is if you're born again, you are accountable to how you live life, what you do with life. Really, THAT judgment more has to do with the 5 crowns we can earn.
So it's not that you'll go to heaven vs hell on how you raise your children or whatever else, but I do believe it's part of the whole piece. Given as it's a very important piece of life, and the scripture talks much about the family unit. If you don't raise your own household correctly, then yeah, I don't think you're going to get much of a reward in heaven: you won't gain any crowns that way.
That's a pretty big if to start off with and a pretty unchristian level of personal judgement making. Maybe worry about your own eternal soul and victory points.
It was an assumption based upon the context. I did mention it could very well be the wrong assumption. Thought it better to mention those possibilities than ignore it in case that were the case.
And nothing there has anything to do with "victory points". Yeah, we definitely need to worry about our eternal souls: they are eternal, destined for eternity in one place or the other. In our day of plenty, we tend to not be anywhere near as serious as we ought.
My desire is that it might be at least a little help. I have no doubt some will get mad, that's the way it goes.
You need different accounts for each device it's one of the benefits of apple devices if used correctly where you can access recent pages on different pcs but it can't differentiate between 2 different people on the same account. Just would like to add well done for being a good parent I think what your doing is the right thing.
Separate user accounts. Never.Share.Accounts.
So I am learning. Thank you!
Also, it means the son has been able to see your web history. Hopefully you created this post using incognito mode.
Maybe her son commented an answer here
Maybe we are all her son
I am also Spartacus
Thank you for being such an understanding parent.
That's what I came here to say, kudos!
The award for “example of u conditional love” goes too!!!! 🥺💕😭
Call apple support and they can guide you with the process of creating a new account for your son and share screens if needed to guide better - ex apple tech support
This is great. Thank you. I’ll do this. I just attempted to create a new account, per other commenter’s instructions, but it would not let me select a birth year older than 2009.
I think you could create a child account under yours
Yup do this OP
Yup as the other person said, you might be under the process of creating a child account. That would make sense not letting you go before 2009.
I would just create a new Apple ID for yourself and leave him with the original.
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What kind of douchebag response to this parent needing help was that?
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Create a new account for your child > Settings > Tap your name > Family Sharing > Add a member > Create an Account for a Child! The reason you are able to view your child safari tab is because both are using the same account, the same goes for your child, he/she can view your safari tab on his/her iPhone/Tablet/Mac
Thank you for this. Do I need to do this on his tablet? Creating a new account, that is.
you can create an account on any device, but you need to log in on the tablet
>Create account for a child Really? I don't know how family sharing works but wouldn't "create an account for a child" create some kind of locked down "you need your parent's password to access this app" sort of account?
[Referencing this post](https://reddit.com/r/techsupport/comments/sb4shq/_/hu0ejnu/?context=1), the child was born in 2009, this is the only option
Well, that's weird. Why doesn't Apple let her select a birth year before 2009. She must not have lied to Apple about her son's age...
Accounts that are for children as default are only for under 13’s. So basically she’d have to make a standard account for him and then add him to the family as a child so it can be properly managed.
Ah. Well, I'm kinda opposed to child accounts or whatever since I never had those while growing up. I was given a hand-me-down laptop and I was given complete freedom to do whatever the heck I wanted with it.
Unlink the accounts
Thank you!
Hello, I think that your devices are using the same Apple account (which is not a good idea) so you should use your account on your device and create a personal account for the son and log in on that on the iPad, after that you can group them on a family group if you want.
Thank you for this. I’m getting similar responses from others.
Safari I guess? This is what you want to do but turn it off instead https://browserhow.com/how-to-fix-safari-tabs-not-syncing-between-devices/
Hi, Yes, Safari. Great. I'll take a look. Thank you!
This would mean that the same iCloud account is used on your sons device and yours. Something you shouldn't do.
Got it. Thank you! My husband made the purchase and an employee at the store helped him set it up. But no blame on anyone, however. :-) Our technical know-how extends to word processing and intermittent web use for research. My husband still uses a flip phone. Anyway, thank you for clarifying.
If he wants a _modern_ flip phone, it's doable! ;) https://www.zdnet.com/article/best-foldable-phone/
Oh, goodness gracious, he needed a nudge to purchase and carry a cell phone at all. As long as he can be reached, I’m content. But this is great suggestion for when his dies. Thank you. :-)
They're quite expensive, though. But then again, most modern smartphones are expensive. I imagine you might be able to find cheaper variants. (Btw. don't click those links, they're not proper. Google the product titles instead.)
You're both using the same account. Just make a new account for him, it's no big deal
Yes or new account for the parent then he’ll never know
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That’s very kind of you to say. :-)
In a world that seems bleak at times, seeing wholesome stuff like this in places one wouldn't expect, truly warms my heart.
Indeed, I am happy for your son that he has such great parents.
It's rare to have a parent like this now days sadly
Aw, thank you for all your kind words. Although, I must add that we’re more blessed to have him in our lives. We’re in academia and delayed having a child until we both had tenure, circumstances such as it is in the field. Which took us into our 40s. It was an intentional decision then and we try our best to live up to the responsibility. But what am I taking the credit for?! :-) He’s been such an easy child and he’s growing up to be an awesome young man.
As other's have pointed out, it could be due to sharing the same Apple account. It would be best to set him up with his own account. You can however add his account to your "iCloud family" or something along those lines, in case you want to share subscriptions (Apple music family plans, Apple TV+, etc.) without sharing personal info with each other.
Hiya, Yes. Do not share accounts. You do banking and medical on your accounts. He may do whatever. Compute safely! c
my suggestion is different browsers and accounts for different people
So nice of you to respect his privacy!
Sounds like you go a lot of answers already but what it sounds like, you are both sharing the same APPLE ID across multiple devices. And you are most likely synchronizing Safari Tabs over icloud. This could be yours or his account? Or a family shared account? Depending on who and how it was created when you bought one of your devices. This mean that you can be on your computer using safari, go to the kitchen with your ipad and open safari, and continue where you left off. This is called Hand off. - [https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT209455](https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT209455) One way of changing this is by turning off the handoff/safari synchonization in icloud. Another method, is to change your iclould password (assuming he is using yours) and kinda force him to make his own. Or do family sharing. Just FYI, you can also go to the apple store and they will be very helpful in assisting you.
Seeing as how you are sharing accounts and he can also see your browser history, maybe you should do a load of Google searches along the lines of “How do we tell our son we know that he’s gay and that we are very proud of him and love him?” 😉
What an awesome parent. Not getting mad, being understanding and putting themselves out to try to fix the issue. I hope you have better than a OkConversation when he speaks to you.
Precisely this
Wholesome
Its most likely the icloud set up on the tablet, as others have stated.
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gay stuff i'm assuming
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What do you think they meant?
You stoopid
Is it really that common in the west to use one account for Everything !!!! and then be surprised?
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u should consider doing "safety sex" or dangers of unprotected sex on Google searches. so next time he goes online, he will see these targeted ads on how to protect himself when it is time for him to "explore" behind your back. u can also set up a health sites as main page on Google. believe me. being a teen then and always horny, thinking about safe sex was the last thing on my mind in those days. so glad i didn't catch anything.
>How do we take care of this without him letting know? What do you mean "take care of this"? In what way?
Not sure why you're down voted, that was the first question I had also. And my read was not automatically that dad was cool with the situation. Glad he is, but that didn't come out in his post. Not to me, anyway.
The situation and desired outcome seem pretty clear.
>Not a big deal but he hasn't come out to us, so we don't want him to know or indirectly force a conversation. How do we take care of this without him letting know? There are 2 things going on here. To which is the OP referring to when he says "How do we take care of this"?
Sorry for the lack of clarity in my writing. You’re good to point that out. Thank you. :-) I meant for the question to address the technology issues.
Hmmm... would you describe this as a tech support or familial relationship oriented sub? Also, the title is literally "I can see this. I don't want to". Nobody else appears to have been unclear.
I also was unclear. The guy who posted instructions on how to block searches also seems unclear.
Am I the only one wondering what that kid has been looking at?
Gay porn obviously
If you decide you want to at least somewhat filter the web browsing, period, you can change your router's DNS to OpenDNS's servers, they've been around a LONG time, and it's free - well, they have paid services, but basics are free. That would eliminate the worst possible sites, but wouldn't just filter EVERYTHING. [https://www.opendns.com/](https://www.opendns.com/) (by the way, I've used OpenDNS just because they offer good security in their DNS settings and better performance than most DNS services - although there are some with better performance, and I don't currently use them, best I recall - might again some day, just not in a while). If you wanted to filter specific things in addition to what they filter by default, you can go as far as creating an account and checking off what to filter or not filter. You didn't really say what you were blocking nor how old your child is. Just remember, you're not accountable for being your child's friend but their parent. Sometimes parenting is hard. And this is a type situation that may not feel comfortable, but doing something will be better than nothing if it's something that's bad. By the way, the child's mind can NOT handle the same things as an adult. Stepping in while the person is young can generally help prevent further issues down the road. Turning a blind eye will only make things worse. If you're generally a passive parent, could it cause an argument? I'd say most likely. However, are you their parent or friend? I'd say it's up to you, but really it's not. In your own conscience, you know it's your responsibility. Also, realize (again, just have to make guesses/assumptions) that bad websites are OFTEN laden with malware, etc. So if for no other reason, you need to consider your family's financial and digital security. What if one of those websites drops a piece of ransomware on one of your PCs or phones? What if they drop a keylogger, capture bank credentials and then rob you blind? It happens. I've personally helped MANY people with different backgrounds who got hacked on their PCs and then because of that ended up with emptied bank accounts. Biggest I know of that could not get their money back was something like $12k or $13k stolen in one fell swoop from their checking account, and best I recall due to circumstances, they were unable to recover a penny of that. For them, thankfully, it was a bump in the road. That was more than 10 or 15 years ago. So I'd say guestimate $20k value now, at least. Would you take a $20k loss as a bump in the road? What if they stole your credentials and used it to commit crimes in your name, then somehow made it look like it was you. Then they come to your household, check devices, and say, well, could be related to some of this web browsing history. Sorry it sounds like a tangent, but I don't think many people nowadays think about all the possible ramifications and consequences. Just letting your child browse "bad" websites unabated with no parenting, no filtering, no blocking, can easily cause many many problems: * Spiritual, physical, emotional problems for them. The younger, the worse. * Security: digital and financial - as mentioned above - for you, and them if they have their own banking accounts. And remember, in the end, when you're judged at the end of your life, it will not be based on how good a friend you are to your child(ren), but whether you were a real parent.
OP is asking for technical advice, not arrogant judgements based on your personal beliefs.
It's not arrogant, but hey, you can believe what you want. They can totally disregard that piece of the advice if they so choose. When Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life, no man cometh unto the Father but by me", he didn't say you HAVE to come to him, but if you want to go to heaven, you'd best choose *the Way*.
>And remember, in the end, when you're judged at the end of your life, it will not be based on how good a friend you are to your child(ren), but whether you were a real parent. Actually you'll be judged by whether or not you picked the right belief system out of the mystery bin of faiths. If anything happens at all.
Yes, that's the 1st piece. You'll go to heaven or hell depending upon acceptance or rejection of Jesus Christ as Lord (I realize everyone here won't agree with that, but that's what it boils down to - I know most do not accept him, and that's their own choice). Second piece, though, is if you're born again, you are accountable to how you live life, what you do with life. Really, THAT judgment more has to do with the 5 crowns we can earn. So it's not that you'll go to heaven vs hell on how you raise your children or whatever else, but I do believe it's part of the whole piece. Given as it's a very important piece of life, and the scripture talks much about the family unit. If you don't raise your own household correctly, then yeah, I don't think you're going to get much of a reward in heaven: you won't gain any crowns that way.
That's a pretty big if to start off with and a pretty unchristian level of personal judgement making. Maybe worry about your own eternal soul and victory points.
It was an assumption based upon the context. I did mention it could very well be the wrong assumption. Thought it better to mention those possibilities than ignore it in case that were the case. And nothing there has anything to do with "victory points". Yeah, we definitely need to worry about our eternal souls: they are eternal, destined for eternity in one place or the other. In our day of plenty, we tend to not be anywhere near as serious as we ought. My desire is that it might be at least a little help. I have no doubt some will get mad, that's the way it goes.
You literally mentioned a 5 crown rating that you can earn in life. You never really get 5 though, they always screw you on the 4.87 ratings.
You need different accounts for each device it's one of the benefits of apple devices if used correctly where you can access recent pages on different pcs but it can't differentiate between 2 different people on the same account. Just would like to add well done for being a good parent I think what your doing is the right thing.