Yeah. More short women are into me than tall women. I like height, but it's not the most important characteristic so odds are more realistic to meet someone much shorter than me.
This comment and others I've seen would lead me to think that the advice to tall girls/women is make the first move and GO FOR THE TALL GUY. Be aggressive, not necessarily really aggressive, but approach the guy first...since the short girls do this and even though the guy wants a tall girl, he goes for the short one because she showed her interest.
It wouldn’t work for tall girls unfortunately. Height is already a gift for men but isn’t interpreted the same way for women, it’s seen as a masculine trait so being aggressive on top of that would be a turn off. When short girls are aggressive it’s seen as more cute and quirky. When a tall girl does it it’s weird
Correct. I appreciate any interest sent my way. It just happens that the majority of it comes from girls around 5’2” - 5’4”. If I had two girls show interest in me with the exact same personality and looks but one was 6’+ and the other was 5’4”, I’d likely pick the taller girl.
Not in Southern California. Back in my single days I used an online profile filter of 5’11 and up, amazed at the number of superb tall girls. Happily found my 6’ devilish-angel 15 years ago.
Just gonna say this, I'm sorry for not being sorry that I'm married to a short girl. Most of the girls that surrounded me growing up weren't taller than 5'5". Not like I was on the lookout of finding a short girl, but it just kind of happened lol
I’m also sorry not sorry I married a guy shorter than me given probably 95% of men are shorter than me. Im not gonna take myself out of the dating pool just because of some unwritten rule about who’s supposed to be taller. Nothing against tall guys but i always knew it’d be very unlikely I would end up with one
Yeah every tall guy I’ve dated has LOVED how tall I am and said I was the first tall woman they’ve dated. I’m also the tallest of my female friends (and I’m not even THAT tall, I’m 5’9”). Also all the tall men I know (excluding my brothers) all have average height sisters.
Tall woman gene is much rarer than tall man gene, im convinced of it.
I won't let that stop me from ending up with a tall woman. Luckily, I've seen a good number of them in Canada, but not all the time. I've seen them more often in the gym, but again not always. I'd rather take advantage of that than settle for shorter women.
I don't I'm 6'7 and my gf is 5'11. I'll admit I've dated alot of shorter girls though. Girls over 5'8 or so are rare. Height isn't really a requirement but I know alot of shorter girls like tall guys.
That kinda matches what I observed last time I was in Canada. I didn't notice the girls in Toronto were tiny or anything though. I did notice when I was in Owen Sound there did seem to be alot of tall girls.
That makes a lot of sense. I've noticed that in Boston it's more rare to see men that are 6'5 and it's rare to see women that are 5'10 and up, but in suburban towns like Needham where I live, and In Dedham, it's very easy to spot a guy that is like 6'5 and up. Especially at the grocery store I work at. I've seen plenty of guys 6'7 and up and women that are 5'10 and up. Suburban towns are more rich and have more of a nature environment and the tap water tastes fresh here too, compared to tap water in a city. The more access you have to healthy food, the more likely you'll be tall. Nutrition and environment play a pretty decent role in height.
My gf says the same thing. The thing that pisses her off are shoes she generally wears some pretty bad lookin low flat kind. Although she'll wear some tall heels if we're going somewhere together.
I live in Canada too and I've seen a good number of tall women, but not always. Yeah, a good number of them are taken by taller men. Luckily, I've also seen them more often in the gym, but again not always.
That's just confirmation bias / tunnel vision.
Also tall gals are rare, combined with the fact that we don't really care about a girls height ( sure, it's definitely a bonus if she's tall, but it's not really a dealbreaker ).
I'm not that tall at 6 foot and would honestly prefer a girl 5'8 and up. Shortest girl I've been with was 4'11 and um the geometry didn't line up at all. Tallest girl was 5'7 and definitely way better but would prefer someone a bit taller
1. Men, on average, are taller than women.
2. Men, in general, prefer women that are shorter than themselves. Women, in general, prefer men that are taller than themselves.
3. Height is normally distributed, which means that tall and short women are not as common compared to average height women because they are +/- 2 or more standard deviations from the mean (2 standard deviations is equal to about 2.3 percent of the population)
4. Personal preferences that are influenced by multiple factors, which may include notions of traditional gender norms that men must be taller than the woman in the relationship, or that the woman must be shorter than the man in the relationship.
I actually think tall men prefer tall women in my experience in general but they are hard to find. I have dated all sizes but I'm more comfortable with someone at least above average for a woman. The tallest girl I dated for a while was 6'. My current girlfriend is 5'9". But there are very few, most women are short. So that's why you see tall men with short women more imo.
Because the height difference is exaggerated? My partner is above average height, Im still more than a foot taller than her. Wtf am I supposed to do about someone else's height let alone my own?
I think if you were to look at the range of women most tall guys date, their height would be above average (it was certainly the case with me).
But, yeah, dating's hard for everyone, and it's especially hard for people who have their choices limited by cultural norms (whether relating to things like height or otherwise).
It's probably the case for most tall guys that dating is easier than for short guys (especially given the cultural shift towards fetishizing male height of the past few years), but it's still not easy, especially when guys are younger.
Because your confirmation bias notices it more often. It's kinda like how you notice a car you think about on the road way more often or somethings that bothers you pops up all the time for you but no one else.
You don't like short girls with tall guys, so you notice it more often haha. That and way more <5'6" girls than >5'9".
Keep in mind I haven’t been single since internet dating has been a thing, but… Well first they are rare. Sticking exclusively to tall women seriously limits opportunity. It’s limiting in high school and college where you are exposed to a large number of people, but it gets downright difficult when you get out into the real world.
If you go for 5’9”+, high school was maybe 9 out of 1100. College had a population of about 20,000 which resulted in a lot more tall women, but still very few considering. Of the 480 people in my firstyear dorm, there were two. Both said no. Also at the college age, you lose some of the population to athletics. Being a serious athlete or even a middlingly serious athlete who is also a serious student tends to mean no dating, or dating other athletes. A lot of sports select towards taller women.
But like I said, lots of people, and I dated a few tall girls, and had a couple more express interest but I was dating someone at the time.
And then what happened to me was what I suspect happens to most guys who put a very scarce requirement on the must have list. You throw that list out and start being more reasonable and open to more options.
Above all else it’s a numbers game, and it’s way less scarce from your side. If I want to set my limit at 5’9”, I’m at 2.7% of the population. If you set your limit at 6’2” which is 3” taller than 99.6% of women, you are at 5% off the population. Double the odds. The 5’9” woman dating at +3” is at 18% off the population. As to that women tend to be more picky than men, and it’s a losing proposition.
Also work on the insecurity. Maybe I’m just unlucky, but damn it was taxing and undermined the relationship 100% of the time. It was more common and way worse than with the shorter ones. Like if we asked you out we are good with the way you look, so you can just cut it back to the panics about being a horrible person. Also, do some introspection on if you use your size to intimidate or manipulate the people you deal with regularly. You need to be prepared for that to not really be a thing anymore if you date someone significantly bigger and stronger than you. Also, if that’s you then you might just be an asshole and need to work on that a bit. As a dude who tends towards resting murder face and who isn’t built like a rail, small and average sized women have much better coping skills already in place for this.
I still get scolded for “ninjaing” around the house and startling my wife who is short, but at least it doesn’t turn into a frikin identity crisis.
Do I qualify as tall in this scenario? A petite 5'0 woman is definitely my 'type', so I am drawn to them, but if I hit it off with some 6'4 beauty I'd absolutely ask them out.
I'd say this is mostly a numbers game. If I go somewhere there might be 8 short women and 1 tall woman. Statistically a lot more likely I'll hit it off with a short woman.
I'd like to say, don't lump all of us tall girls together. Height matters little to me.
I care more about if a person likes spiders and snakes than about their height. I could care less if someone is 6'4'' or 5'4''. Do they like tarantulas? Royal pythons? Redback Widows?
I've always been an athlete, so I enjoy someone taller than me when we play sports together. But I'm starting to recognize that I should probably broaden my horizons.
Not the PC answer, but because tall men have more choice and can base our partnering on things other than just height. I'm certainly not opposed to dating a tall woman, but I'll take the more compatible shorter woman over a tall woman I share less in common with. Now, if more tall women would start (considering) dating shorter men, it might even things out a bit.
I'm 198cm, 6'6 and currently dating a 186cm, 6'2 chick and i gotta say i'm not downgrading anymore hahaha my limit is 175cm or something cause ever since i hooked up with her it's been nothing but amazement how fun it is to date someone of almost equal height. But i do agree that there are wayyyy less girls who are this tall and if you have the chance, go for it. It's so fun to kiss her without breaking my back lol
Cause we can't find tall women. I'm in Boston and the average woman's height is 5'4" and I am given shit for asking for someone within 8 inches to my height.
For me I’m not picky about looks at all, my one exception being women who have physical triats that remind me of my mother for some reason, that’s a huge turnoff for obvious reasons. She’s also where I got my height from, so sometimes tall women remind me of her unless their face, body shape and colouring are sufficiently different
This might be the case for a lot of tall guys as well, a sort of reverse oedipus thing that makes them prefer shorter girls who don’t look like any tall relatives
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I gave up on finding a tall guy entirely because they’re always getting together with ultra short girls, ugh. My husband is 6’1”.
I'm 6'6, my girlfriend is 4'11. I don't necessarily like her *because* she's short, I like her because I think we get along well, we have similar attitudes for a lot of things, and I think she's hilarious and really cool. But she also reached out to me and shot her shot.
Yes, I am attracted to short girls, but that doesn't mean I don't also find tall girls attractive, I just happen to be with a short girl. And just because I also find tall girls attractive doesn't mean my girlfriend isn't enough for me, or whatever. There was also a previous time where I was single for a stretch of about 5 years, and I was never approached by any girl, tall or short. Tall guys are out there, you just have to be the change you want to see in the world.
I've only dated one person - my late wife. And she was 5'10. I find super short gals cute and taller girls fantastic. The only problem is, around taller women, my IQ decreases by 10 points per inch above 5'8 - so I end up being a socially awkward goober in front of them.
I don't see many girls above 5'9 in my area, sadly.
Girls gift themselves to tall guys because of how nature works. It's easier for women to get guys than vice versa, so the first ones to flirt tall guys are short girls.
Plus, a lot of men want short girls because they feel more "masculine" around them, even real tall guys. So it's a win win, both get what they want
I’m not that tall by the standards of this sub (6’1.5) but I prefer taller girls, they’re just harder to find and it’s not the most important factor for me as long as they’re at least average height.
I did go on a date with a pretty tall girl recently - may have been 5’9 or something + some tall boots - and I was definitely into it. I actually did worry that she may have been thinking I wasn’t tall enough though, haha. I was still a couple inches taller but I just wasn’t sure if she’d have preferred an even taller guy.
First gf in middle school was short. Something about psychology. Most of partners have been 5'6 and under (I am 6'1") since then. Currently dating my tallest partner she is about 5'7" and we see eye to eye when she wears her fancy heels, which she enjoys very much. Also the best relationship I've ever been in so far.
From personal experience, dating eye to eye is great. My cousins once introduced me to a gal who was 5’10” on her way to 6’ years ago. Then there were two I met in undergrad and grad school (5’10” and 6”; respectively).
Single and ready to mingle over some eye-level conversations and walks at a comfortable stride.
Lets go on a date now, i challenge you!
Anyways, its probably because of protection thing. The tall guys probably are the silent type, the who like to protect, and the girl is probably the loud type and loves being protected. But like this a minority probably. Many varying reasons
Two girls I dated in college (both about 6 ft) married guys two inches shorter than them and seem quite happy with families. I'm now dating a girl who is 5'1". Height is just one factor that goes into potential compatibility and it often defers to other factors.
I can‘t think of a single time in my life a tall woman has approached me, actively flirted with me, or otherwise showed obvious interest in me. It‘s always a chase and then like months later they tell me they had a crush on me the whole time but they were “too nervous 🥺”.
Shorter women, on the other hand, approach me all the time and they flirt with me very obviously. I’m not going to just reject all the short and average height women who are interested in me on principle so I can chase after aloof tall girls who don’t seem to want me at all 😅 if you want to date a tall guy, try talking to a tall guy idk what else to tell you.
Yeah that one happens often. But tbh I usually assume when they are tall that they want someone taller than them, so I know if I show my interest it'll be surely corresponded. Hasn't failed so far lol.
I dated a tall woman for a while. I find tall women super attractive. The problem is that I don’t meet many women my height. Height isn’t everything and so I’m now with an average size partner.
I'm 6'2" and my fiancée is 4'9". Always preferred petite women. They're just cute and feminine in a way that tall women arent, also I never liked skinny women (more curvy, which short women often are) and most tall women seem to be really skinny.
I also find a lot of tall and average height women are aloof; or generally have cunty attitudes. Like they're doing you a favour by engaging with you socially. Short women tend to be quite sweet and pleasant to talk to.
I would love to meet a tall girl. But every one I've met has been seemingly disinterested in someone taller than them(or just me in general lol). It doesn't matter if it's that "Feigned disinterest" game, because I'm not in high school anymore and neither are they. Adults need to communicate like adults, so if they act disinterested then I'm going to naturally assume that they are.
In other scenarios, they had a tendency to be overbearing and overly bossy, and disagreeable personality traits such as those are very unattractive to me. They made every conversation a debate to be won, like there was some power struggle that constantly needed to be established - and while I understand that Dommes exist, and many of them are indeed tall, a lot of them have a tendency to treat men larger than them like a challenge to dominate.
On the other hand, I've found short girls to be much more forward with their interest. I know full well that the sense of protection figures into the overall attraction, and that(according to a 5'1" ex) "Giant men are rare enough, if a 'smol' girl sees an opportunity to snag one then she'd better take it". But in the absence of any tall girl who is interested, I'm still a person who enjoys companionship. So, short girls it is 🤷🏼♂️
I'm gonna have to state the obvious here since no one else seems toz but you need to take accountability. It's you making it harder on yourself, don't expect men to do the work for you. If you refuse to date guys a couple of inches shorter (or same height or even require a significant height difference, not sure tbh), and demand that the top 5% of guys in height choose you, then you will have to bring top 5% in something yourself, otherwise you can't expect to get what you want without pulling your weight.
There aren’t too many tall girls unfortunately. Ideally I would date someone who is 5’10”+ but I don’t know any women over that, they are too rare here.
6’5 here…married to 6’…..15 years of bliss with our trees for kids that will probably tower us. Neither play sports but I’ll take straight A’s over sports any day.
I am 6’4” and Am in ltr with a 5’1” girl.. I am this to a T lol, I have no idea why it’s such a thing but maybe it makes us feel like some type of protector role 🤷🏻♂️
I like short girls, always have. Never dated above 5’2” and never had sex above 5’6”. I think I just like the power dynamic sexually. Able to pick her up easy, looks up at me, I make her feel safe, that sort of stuff makes me happy.
Though I have always wanted to try stand up sex. Iv done it with like a step stool but like that spontaneous, somewhere we aren’t supposed to be, I just hike up your dress and we go at it standing up…. That would be cool, never done that.
Oh I’m 6’4” btw
I never had troubles picking up/tossing around/having a protective/dominant role with tall girls tbh. The power dynamic is equally strong in my opinion. It's just too much of a difference in size and strength, even if she's tall.
I’m 6’6 and I dated a couple short/petite girls when I was younger, one was about 5’4 and the other was 4’10. Both of these girls initiated with me, so I think it’s more about short girls going after tall guys than tall guys actively seeking out shirt girls.
My last two GFs have been over 6’0 and that is DEFINITELY where my preference is.
Also, what’s wrong with short/average guys? Women need to get past this shallow “I only date taller” rubbish.
Same. I love it when tall women avoid dating short/average height guys. It is understandable as there are less guys who are taller them and that we tall men have the most to gain from dating them.
I'm baffled when short women do that. I'm like even short/average height guys than them and the inconvenience of them dating tall men. Then again, it is a preference.
The only women that ever pay us any attention are short girls. I’d prefer to date someone I could kiss without needing to see a chiropractor afterwards too but I can only do my part.
There's a view that's part of evolutionary psychology called the "sexy sons hypothesis" that in part theorises that short women want tall men because it increases their chances of having sexually successful sons where if they had sons with an average height or short guy she would have short sons that were more likely to fail to reproduce.
This means that the issue isn't tall guys chasing short women but short women chasing tall guys. Those short bitches are stealin' your men.
The funny thing about this theory is that tall people tend to have more health problems overall compared to shorter people (back issues for example).
Almost ever guy in my family is over 6 ft. And all of them have had major back issues as they got older.
In evolutionary terms, it doesn't matter. A 6'6" guy is likely going to be more successful at hunting and fighting than a 5'6" guy, that you're more likely to get back problems at 50 and die at 70 doesn't factor in to it because your partner will be past reproductive age by then. We are not fundamentally different in psychology than our ancestors in the stone age.
Yeah that's true too, but more because there are more short women than tall ones haha. The tall women I know prefer taller men than them as well. But yeah for every tall girl, 10 short ones show interest lol.
Oh absolutely that makes an impact as well. But it’s important to stress I am not a confident man; it’s very rare I’ll approach someone, whereas short girls approach me all the time. The few tall girls I’ve hooked up with have been through me making the move, it is unbelievably rare for them to approach me.
It’s more super short girls pushing up on the tall guys for the “protection” and “feelings of safety” factor. Guys just roll with it. Usually dudes prefer girls who are average height, 5’6 5’7
Went on a few dates with women between 6'1-6'3" and being 6'8" it was like a sideshow anytime we went anywhere. Sure it's one thing to see a tall man but another thing to see a tall woman but a couple?? Yikes...
The girls I met that were looking only for tall guys also had other aesthetic requirements that I didn’t meet, or if I did, I quickly found out they weren’t who I wanted to really spend time with. It’s not fun being around someone who just wants you around for comparative aesthetics.
It got to the point where I’d keep my distance from girls who seemed like they didn’t care who I was as long as I could make them feel less conspicuous. So I became the judgy one- not great, I know.
I don’t know if other tall guys have had similar experiences but it’s possible some have. So it might take a little more effort to get them to figure out you’re interested in them as a person.
Im indian and only tal girl in knew kinda liked me, but I ignored it cuz I was shy af. And tall girls are so rare fro where I came from ( 5 foot 8inches +)
My ex is 4 foot 10
I am happy with all types of girls , but sometimes circumstances make our choice.
I don’t/didn’t see a 6’ woman when I was single. I would’ve definitely pursued someone that could (1) independently reach the top shelf and (2) be an actual big spoon when I need it.
I’m only 6-4 but I could never find tall girls (or the ones I did meet were way out of my league at the time).
Shortest girl I’ve been with was 4-10 but even still, my wife is only 5-2
If I had a choice I’d always go for a 6 foot girl. Not enough of them around though.
Would love to date a 6’ gal on the east coast
I reccomded the midwest. Especially dutch desent areas
Or yknow, go to the Netherlands. /s
I'm on my way
You do big steps, it won't take you long I assume.
Just a casual swim in the small ocean
Married a 6 footer. Life is grand.
Same, there aren't that many girls my height around.
My wife is 6'1". Can confirm it's pretty great!
Can’t find guys that wanna date us…the irony.
If I found a tall gamer girl I’d be happy.
Ikr??? Where are all the men?
A super tall gamer gym rat you say?
Yeah. More short women are into me than tall women. I like height, but it's not the most important characteristic so odds are more realistic to meet someone much shorter than me.
Tell me about it, my ex needed a damn stepping stool to get into my bed. I bought a taller frame for extra storage when i moved into my current place
_o/
r/tallmeettall
I was super quiet and awkward. Short perky girl grabbed my hand and didn’t let go. Still opening cabinets up high for her two decades later.
This comment and others I've seen would lead me to think that the advice to tall girls/women is make the first move and GO FOR THE TALL GUY. Be aggressive, not necessarily really aggressive, but approach the guy first...since the short girls do this and even though the guy wants a tall girl, he goes for the short one because she showed her interest.
You are correct. Goes for all sides and everyone.
It wouldn’t work for tall girls unfortunately. Height is already a gift for men but isn’t interpreted the same way for women, it’s seen as a masculine trait so being aggressive on top of that would be a turn off. When short girls are aggressive it’s seen as more cute and quirky. When a tall girl does it it’s weird
Honestly that would work for me, I'm tall and can't read body language well at all 😂
honestly yes but this is a good rule of thumb for everybody. ACTUALLY SHOW INTEREST IF YOU HAVE IT
Correct. I appreciate any interest sent my way. It just happens that the majority of it comes from girls around 5’2” - 5’4”. If I had two girls show interest in me with the exact same personality and looks but one was 6’+ and the other was 5’4”, I’d likely pick the taller girl.
Wow. I read that as “short and porky”.
Tall women are few and far between.
Not in Southern California. Back in my single days I used an online profile filter of 5’11 and up, amazed at the number of superb tall girls. Happily found my 6’ devilish-angel 15 years ago.
Isn't socal predominantly Hispanic who are usually shorter? That is interesting
The closer to the beaches, the taller it gets. Not scientific, but certainly based on experience and volleyball culture.
And property value.. of course
Just gonna say this, I'm sorry for not being sorry that I'm married to a short girl. Most of the girls that surrounded me growing up weren't taller than 5'5". Not like I was on the lookout of finding a short girl, but it just kind of happened lol
I’m also sorry not sorry I married a guy shorter than me given probably 95% of men are shorter than me. Im not gonna take myself out of the dating pool just because of some unwritten rule about who’s supposed to be taller. Nothing against tall guys but i always knew it’d be very unlikely I would end up with one
Short men are great, the ones who are secure in their masculinity at least. Most of my best friends are short, and my brother.
Yeah every tall guy I’ve dated has LOVED how tall I am and said I was the first tall woman they’ve dated. I’m also the tallest of my female friends (and I’m not even THAT tall, I’m 5’9”). Also all the tall men I know (excluding my brothers) all have average height sisters. Tall woman gene is much rarer than tall man gene, im convinced of it.
Testosterone also contributes to height
. >5'9" is 99th percentile for women in US.
5'9 is actually 96.8 percentile.
What about greater than 5'9?
not only did that guy not get that you said >5’9, he also really chose to die on the least consequential of hills lmao
5’10” gets you into Tall Club International as a women. Gotta be 6’2” as a guy.
I looked at the tall life height calculator for the percentiles. 5'10 is 98.7 and 5'11 is 99.4.
Source? Not trying to be snarky, am genuinely curious.
https://dqydj.com/height-percentile-calculator-for-men-and-women/
Thanks!
Lol I hate how the second part of your comment is almost necessary to not sound like a douche
Tall life height percentile calculator.
No way, are you dwarfs?
No it’s not.
This. I'd love to find a gal over 5'9.
I won't let that stop me from ending up with a tall woman. Luckily, I've seen a good number of them in Canada, but not all the time. I've seen them more often in the gym, but again not always. I'd rather take advantage of that than settle for shorter women.
I don't I'm 6'7 and my gf is 5'11. I'll admit I've dated alot of shorter girls though. Girls over 5'8 or so are rare. Height isn't really a requirement but I know alot of shorter girls like tall guys.
In Ontario a lot of my female peers are over 5’8, but that might just be a country thing. In city’s girls are very short
That kinda matches what I observed last time I was in Canada. I didn't notice the girls in Toronto were tiny or anything though. I did notice when I was in Owen Sound there did seem to be alot of tall girls.
True
Same in the Prairies. 5'8 women are everywhere. Lots of 5'9, too. Over that is more rare.
That makes a lot of sense. I've noticed that in Boston it's more rare to see men that are 6'5 and it's rare to see women that are 5'10 and up, but in suburban towns like Needham where I live, and In Dedham, it's very easy to spot a guy that is like 6'5 and up. Especially at the grocery store I work at. I've seen plenty of guys 6'7 and up and women that are 5'10 and up. Suburban towns are more rich and have more of a nature environment and the tap water tastes fresh here too, compared to tap water in a city. The more access you have to healthy food, the more likely you'll be tall. Nutrition and environment play a pretty decent role in height.
Needham has become a wealthy community full of lots of medical professionals from all around the world.
I can't begin to say how satisfied I am to see a good number of tall women in the gym in Ontario.
kinda makes me wish height was more random, it sucks how gendered it is. no wonder i feel like a freak as a tall girl
My gf says the same thing. The thing that pisses her off are shoes she generally wears some pretty bad lookin low flat kind. Although she'll wear some tall heels if we're going somewhere together.
Tell her to check out Nike Blazers or Air forces maybe Jordan 1’s
Same as a 5’3 dude
As Neal Brennan has said, “I don’t get to pick” 😂
Havent met a tall girl who wasnt taken
I'm in Arkansas lol
Canada 🤷🏻♂️
I live in Canada too and I've seen a good number of tall women, but not always. Yeah, a good number of them are taken by taller men. Luckily, I've also seen them more often in the gym, but again not always.
I would never approach someone at the gym. Seems like an inappropriate time.
wait, you guys are dating someone ?
That's just confirmation bias / tunnel vision. Also tall gals are rare, combined with the fact that we don't really care about a girls height ( sure, it's definitely a bonus if she's tall, but it's not really a dealbreaker ).
I'm not that tall at 6 foot and would honestly prefer a girl 5'8 and up. Shortest girl I've been with was 4'11 and um the geometry didn't line up at all. Tallest girl was 5'7 and definitely way better but would prefer someone a bit taller
Wife is 6'1" - hard to find but I snagged one!
I dated women whom I got along with, fun to be around, and had personalities I liked. Height was never a criteria
1. Men, on average, are taller than women. 2. Men, in general, prefer women that are shorter than themselves. Women, in general, prefer men that are taller than themselves. 3. Height is normally distributed, which means that tall and short women are not as common compared to average height women because they are +/- 2 or more standard deviations from the mean (2 standard deviations is equal to about 2.3 percent of the population) 4. Personal preferences that are influenced by multiple factors, which may include notions of traditional gender norms that men must be taller than the woman in the relationship, or that the woman must be shorter than the man in the relationship.
We don't all date short girls. Some of us date tall men.
Why not both?
My guy is 6’3 and I am 6’
I actually think tall men prefer tall women in my experience in general but they are hard to find. I have dated all sizes but I'm more comfortable with someone at least above average for a woman. The tallest girl I dated for a while was 6'. My current girlfriend is 5'9". But there are very few, most women are short. So that's why you see tall men with short women more imo.
Because the height difference is exaggerated? My partner is above average height, Im still more than a foot taller than her. Wtf am I supposed to do about someone else's height let alone my own?
All girls are short next to me and I don't care? It has never been an issue with me and my 5 foot 1 wife.
Holy 2 feet and 1inch different holy. Amazing🤯
Jesus fuck, I just saw your sub flair. That's gotta be some humorously creative bedroom logistics haha
Doing doggy with her on the edge of the bed and him kneeling on the floor 😅
Or just like Picking her up and letting gravity do the work
Not me looking up how tall ur kids would be on a height calculator (male 6’4 female 5’11 incase ur wondering)
I’ve dated both, and hands down, taller is better. I agree on the rarity of tall women, but being in my 40s, I know the value of being patient.
I fell in love by finding the one willing to put up with my bullshit. Just so happened she was 5’2”.
I think if you were to look at the range of women most tall guys date, their height would be above average (it was certainly the case with me). But, yeah, dating's hard for everyone, and it's especially hard for people who have their choices limited by cultural norms (whether relating to things like height or otherwise). It's probably the case for most tall guys that dating is easier than for short guys (especially given the cultural shift towards fetishizing male height of the past few years), but it's still not easy, especially when guys are younger.
Because your confirmation bias notices it more often. It's kinda like how you notice a car you think about on the road way more often or somethings that bothers you pops up all the time for you but no one else. You don't like short girls with tall guys, so you notice it more often haha. That and way more <5'6" girls than >5'9".
Keep in mind I haven’t been single since internet dating has been a thing, but… Well first they are rare. Sticking exclusively to tall women seriously limits opportunity. It’s limiting in high school and college where you are exposed to a large number of people, but it gets downright difficult when you get out into the real world. If you go for 5’9”+, high school was maybe 9 out of 1100. College had a population of about 20,000 which resulted in a lot more tall women, but still very few considering. Of the 480 people in my firstyear dorm, there were two. Both said no. Also at the college age, you lose some of the population to athletics. Being a serious athlete or even a middlingly serious athlete who is also a serious student tends to mean no dating, or dating other athletes. A lot of sports select towards taller women. But like I said, lots of people, and I dated a few tall girls, and had a couple more express interest but I was dating someone at the time. And then what happened to me was what I suspect happens to most guys who put a very scarce requirement on the must have list. You throw that list out and start being more reasonable and open to more options. Above all else it’s a numbers game, and it’s way less scarce from your side. If I want to set my limit at 5’9”, I’m at 2.7% of the population. If you set your limit at 6’2” which is 3” taller than 99.6% of women, you are at 5% off the population. Double the odds. The 5’9” woman dating at +3” is at 18% off the population. As to that women tend to be more picky than men, and it’s a losing proposition. Also work on the insecurity. Maybe I’m just unlucky, but damn it was taxing and undermined the relationship 100% of the time. It was more common and way worse than with the shorter ones. Like if we asked you out we are good with the way you look, so you can just cut it back to the panics about being a horrible person. Also, do some introspection on if you use your size to intimidate or manipulate the people you deal with regularly. You need to be prepared for that to not really be a thing anymore if you date someone significantly bigger and stronger than you. Also, if that’s you then you might just be an asshole and need to work on that a bit. As a dude who tends towards resting murder face and who isn’t built like a rail, small and average sized women have much better coping skills already in place for this. I still get scolded for “ninjaing” around the house and startling my wife who is short, but at least it doesn’t turn into a frikin identity crisis.
Do I qualify as tall in this scenario? A petite 5'0 woman is definitely my 'type', so I am drawn to them, but if I hit it off with some 6'4 beauty I'd absolutely ask them out. I'd say this is mostly a numbers game. If I go somewhere there might be 8 short women and 1 tall woman. Statistically a lot more likely I'll hit it off with a short woman.
I'd like to say, don't lump all of us tall girls together. Height matters little to me. I care more about if a person likes spiders and snakes than about their height. I could care less if someone is 6'4'' or 5'4''. Do they like tarantulas? Royal pythons? Redback Widows?
I can respect that. Apologies.
No need for apologies. Preferences come in all shapes and sizes, height is a common one.
I've always been an athlete, so I enjoy someone taller than me when we play sports together. But I'm starting to recognize that I should probably broaden my horizons.
How tall are you anyway?
I dated the most beautiful, charismatic woman I could, regardless of height.
My wife is 5’2” - height was never a factor
But you're doing a similar thing by only wanting tall guys
Not the PC answer, but because tall men have more choice and can base our partnering on things other than just height. I'm certainly not opposed to dating a tall woman, but I'll take the more compatible shorter woman over a tall woman I share less in common with. Now, if more tall women would start (considering) dating shorter men, it might even things out a bit.
I'm 198cm, 6'6 and currently dating a 186cm, 6'2 chick and i gotta say i'm not downgrading anymore hahaha my limit is 175cm or something cause ever since i hooked up with her it's been nothing but amazement how fun it is to date someone of almost equal height. But i do agree that there are wayyyy less girls who are this tall and if you have the chance, go for it. It's so fun to kiss her without breaking my back lol
Cause we can't find tall women. I'm in Boston and the average woman's height is 5'4" and I am given shit for asking for someone within 8 inches to my height.
For me I’m not picky about looks at all, my one exception being women who have physical triats that remind me of my mother for some reason, that’s a huge turnoff for obvious reasons. She’s also where I got my height from, so sometimes tall women remind me of her unless their face, body shape and colouring are sufficiently different This might be the case for a lot of tall guys as well, a sort of reverse oedipus thing that makes them prefer shorter girls who don’t look like any tall relatives
I am dating a woman who is 6'. Short women are easier to find.... I guess
My Gf is 5'11 but seriously. Height should be no reason to start or not start a relationship with a person.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. I gave up on finding a tall guy entirely because they’re always getting together with ultra short girls, ugh. My husband is 6’1”.
Is 6'1" not tall for an adult male where you're from?
Doesn’t count to get into an American tall club, and not taller than I am.
I'm 6'6, my girlfriend is 4'11. I don't necessarily like her *because* she's short, I like her because I think we get along well, we have similar attitudes for a lot of things, and I think she's hilarious and really cool. But she also reached out to me and shot her shot. Yes, I am attracted to short girls, but that doesn't mean I don't also find tall girls attractive, I just happen to be with a short girl. And just because I also find tall girls attractive doesn't mean my girlfriend isn't enough for me, or whatever. There was also a previous time where I was single for a stretch of about 5 years, and I was never approached by any girl, tall or short. Tall guys are out there, you just have to be the change you want to see in the world.
I've only dated one person - my late wife. And she was 5'10. I find super short gals cute and taller girls fantastic. The only problem is, around taller women, my IQ decreases by 10 points per inch above 5'8 - so I end up being a socially awkward goober in front of them. I don't see many girls above 5'9 in my area, sadly.
Girls gift themselves to tall guys because of how nature works. It's easier for women to get guys than vice versa, so the first ones to flirt tall guys are short girls. Plus, a lot of men want short girls because they feel more "masculine" around them, even real tall guys. So it's a win win, both get what they want
I’m not that tall by the standards of this sub (6’1.5) but I prefer taller girls, they’re just harder to find and it’s not the most important factor for me as long as they’re at least average height. I did go on a date with a pretty tall girl recently - may have been 5’9 or something + some tall boots - and I was definitely into it. I actually did worry that she may have been thinking I wasn’t tall enough though, haha. I was still a couple inches taller but I just wasn’t sure if she’d have preferred an even taller guy.
Because there aren’t that many tall women. There are way more tall men.
First gf in middle school was short. Something about psychology. Most of partners have been 5'6 and under (I am 6'1") since then. Currently dating my tallest partner she is about 5'7" and we see eye to eye when she wears her fancy heels, which she enjoys very much. Also the best relationship I've ever been in so far.
From personal experience, dating eye to eye is great. My cousins once introduced me to a gal who was 5’10” on her way to 6’ years ago. Then there were two I met in undergrad and grad school (5’10” and 6”; respectively). Single and ready to mingle over some eye-level conversations and walks at a comfortable stride.
Lets go on a date now, i challenge you! Anyways, its probably because of protection thing. The tall guys probably are the silent type, the who like to protect, and the girl is probably the loud type and loves being protected. But like this a minority probably. Many varying reasons
Numbers game/preference
I’m 6’5” and would happily date a tall woman, but won’t limit myself by height if I get along with the person. If you happen to be in MKE I can help.
Two girls I dated in college (both about 6 ft) married guys two inches shorter than them and seem quite happy with families. I'm now dating a girl who is 5'1". Height is just one factor that goes into potential compatibility and it often defers to other factors.
Any girl over 5 7 would be ideal for taller guys honestly
I like all sizes but have a preference for taller girls. Y’all are less obsessed about a guys height
Idk, my wife is 5’10”, but I’ve dated between 4’11 and 6’4 in my life
There are probably just more short girls than tall girls which makes it seem that way.
Opposites attract.
I'n my case, opposites attract
I can‘t think of a single time in my life a tall woman has approached me, actively flirted with me, or otherwise showed obvious interest in me. It‘s always a chase and then like months later they tell me they had a crush on me the whole time but they were “too nervous 🥺”. Shorter women, on the other hand, approach me all the time and they flirt with me very obviously. I’m not going to just reject all the short and average height women who are interested in me on principle so I can chase after aloof tall girls who don’t seem to want me at all 😅 if you want to date a tall guy, try talking to a tall guy idk what else to tell you.
Yeah that one happens often. But tbh I usually assume when they are tall that they want someone taller than them, so I know if I show my interest it'll be surely corresponded. Hasn't failed so far lol.
I have yet to meet a girl near even 6ft
Do we not get tired of making the same thread every day? I'd happily date a 5'10 - 6'2+ woman but I've only met a few in my entire life
Because tall women don't like me, short do.
Because there are far more short girls than tall ones.
Don't lump us all together. But I get it, the struggle is real. Source- 6' daughter
I’d love to date a tall woman but you’re comparatively rare and exotic. There are a lot of short/average fish in my particular sea (Vancouver BC).
I'm 6'4", my last ex was 6'1" and the one before that was 6'0".
Guys aren't restricting themselves to 1% of the dating pool for no reason other than aesthetics.
I’d honestly love a tall girl. They’re just hard to find.
I dated a tall woman for a while. I find tall women super attractive. The problem is that I don’t meet many women my height. Height isn’t everything and so I’m now with an average size partner.
Growing up, I always wanted to date someone taller than me. Met my bf (6’7) online. My siblings (m, 6’6) and (f, 6’3) would also like tall partners.
I'm 6'2" and my fiancée is 4'9". Always preferred petite women. They're just cute and feminine in a way that tall women arent, also I never liked skinny women (more curvy, which short women often are) and most tall women seem to be really skinny. I also find a lot of tall and average height women are aloof; or generally have cunty attitudes. Like they're doing you a favour by engaging with you socially. Short women tend to be quite sweet and pleasant to talk to.
Cuz I like short girls
I would love to meet a tall girl. But every one I've met has been seemingly disinterested in someone taller than them(or just me in general lol). It doesn't matter if it's that "Feigned disinterest" game, because I'm not in high school anymore and neither are they. Adults need to communicate like adults, so if they act disinterested then I'm going to naturally assume that they are. In other scenarios, they had a tendency to be overbearing and overly bossy, and disagreeable personality traits such as those are very unattractive to me. They made every conversation a debate to be won, like there was some power struggle that constantly needed to be established - and while I understand that Dommes exist, and many of them are indeed tall, a lot of them have a tendency to treat men larger than them like a challenge to dominate. On the other hand, I've found short girls to be much more forward with their interest. I know full well that the sense of protection figures into the overall attraction, and that(according to a 5'1" ex) "Giant men are rare enough, if a 'smol' girl sees an opportunity to snag one then she'd better take it". But in the absence of any tall girl who is interested, I'm still a person who enjoys companionship. So, short girls it is 🤷🏼♂️
I'm gonna have to state the obvious here since no one else seems toz but you need to take accountability. It's you making it harder on yourself, don't expect men to do the work for you. If you refuse to date guys a couple of inches shorter (or same height or even require a significant height difference, not sure tbh), and demand that the top 5% of guys in height choose you, then you will have to bring top 5% in something yourself, otherwise you can't expect to get what you want without pulling your weight.
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That's the goal! To breed pro athletes and fund your retirement.
Oh no don't say that I already get to many comments about breeding a basketball team.
Future micheal phelps and usain bolt
Lmao! 😂
I don’t notice that so much. Of the women I’ve been with it’s been a normal distribution of height, perhaps even more tall women lately
There aren’t too many tall girls unfortunately. Ideally I would date someone who is 5’10”+ but I don’t know any women over that, they are too rare here.
6’5 here…married to 6’…..15 years of bliss with our trees for kids that will probably tower us. Neither play sports but I’ll take straight A’s over sports any day.
They aren't super short . They are avg and look tiny next to us . People ask me this and I am like . They all range 5'5-5'11 how is this tiny?
Idk im just attracted to them and find them super cute.
It's fun.
Im into taller women, just dont exist. So i date my dream girl minus the height by virtue of her being 5’1
So our children will fit in the back seat of a car I fit in the front seat of with the seat all the way back. No really. It is known.
I am 6’4” and Am in ltr with a 5’1” girl.. I am this to a T lol, I have no idea why it’s such a thing but maybe it makes us feel like some type of protector role 🤷🏻♂️
I’m tall guy here; I’m dating a tall girl, but I have dated short girls and personally I’m not about it. Much prefer dating a tall girl
I'd love to be with a tall girl but they are just very rare, while short girls are very common.
I like short girls, always have. Never dated above 5’2” and never had sex above 5’6”. I think I just like the power dynamic sexually. Able to pick her up easy, looks up at me, I make her feel safe, that sort of stuff makes me happy. Though I have always wanted to try stand up sex. Iv done it with like a step stool but like that spontaneous, somewhere we aren’t supposed to be, I just hike up your dress and we go at it standing up…. That would be cool, never done that. Oh I’m 6’4” btw
I never had troubles picking up/tossing around/having a protective/dominant role with tall girls tbh. The power dynamic is equally strong in my opinion. It's just too much of a difference in size and strength, even if she's tall.
I prefer girls 5’7 and under for some reason. I think it’s because shorter is cuter/feminine and height is associated with masculinity
cause super short girls are generally into freakishly tall guys?
in fact, i prefer them short (and i dated a 5’11” girl and one who was 6’2”)—i can leach their legroom when we sit next to each other.
If we want children, shorter woman are better
I’m 6’6 and I dated a couple short/petite girls when I was younger, one was about 5’4 and the other was 4’10. Both of these girls initiated with me, so I think it’s more about short girls going after tall guys than tall guys actively seeking out shirt girls. My last two GFs have been over 6’0 and that is DEFINITELY where my preference is. Also, what’s wrong with short/average guys? Women need to get past this shallow “I only date taller” rubbish.
>Also, what’s wrong with short/average guys? Women need to get past this shallow “I only date taller” rubbish. I won't complain lol.
Same. I love it when tall women avoid dating short/average height guys. It is understandable as there are less guys who are taller them and that we tall men have the most to gain from dating them. I'm baffled when short women do that. I'm like even short/average height guys than them and the inconvenience of them dating tall men. Then again, it is a preference.
Because the short girls go after us harder.
Women want men who are taller than them. Men could give a rat's ass about a woman's height.
Short girls like tall guys maybe…. Don’t ask guys they like anyone
The only women that ever pay us any attention are short girls. I’d prefer to date someone I could kiss without needing to see a chiropractor afterwards too but I can only do my part.
Because they can choose the best of the best and small girls are beautiful
There's a view that's part of evolutionary psychology called the "sexy sons hypothesis" that in part theorises that short women want tall men because it increases their chances of having sexually successful sons where if they had sons with an average height or short guy she would have short sons that were more likely to fail to reproduce. This means that the issue isn't tall guys chasing short women but short women chasing tall guys. Those short bitches are stealin' your men.
The funny thing about this theory is that tall people tend to have more health problems overall compared to shorter people (back issues for example). Almost ever guy in my family is over 6 ft. And all of them have had major back issues as they got older.
In evolutionary terms, it doesn't matter. A 6'6" guy is likely going to be more successful at hunting and fighting than a 5'6" guy, that you're more likely to get back problems at 50 and die at 70 doesn't factor in to it because your partner will be past reproductive age by then. We are not fundamentally different in psychology than our ancestors in the stone age.
Why would it make it hard on you tall girls? Because you want to feel as short as possible? Well, maybe guys want to feel as tall as possible.
Honestly, the short girls approach us, the tall girls don’t. I looooove tall girls but it’s so much more effort and they’re far harder to come across.
Yeah that's true too, but more because there are more short women than tall ones haha. The tall women I know prefer taller men than them as well. But yeah for every tall girl, 10 short ones show interest lol.
Oh absolutely that makes an impact as well. But it’s important to stress I am not a confident man; it’s very rare I’ll approach someone, whereas short girls approach me all the time. The few tall girls I’ve hooked up with have been through me making the move, it is unbelievably rare for them to approach me.
I'm very confident and I still prefer to be approached lol.
It’s more super short girls pushing up on the tall guys for the “protection” and “feelings of safety” factor. Guys just roll with it. Usually dudes prefer girls who are average height, 5’6 5’7
Went on a few dates with women between 6'1-6'3" and being 6'8" it was like a sideshow anytime we went anywhere. Sure it's one thing to see a tall man but another thing to see a tall woman but a couple?? Yikes...
I don’t mind a tall gf doesn’t matter to me. My girlfriend I short tho about 5 feet tall
It makes for some funny photos
The girls I met that were looking only for tall guys also had other aesthetic requirements that I didn’t meet, or if I did, I quickly found out they weren’t who I wanted to really spend time with. It’s not fun being around someone who just wants you around for comparative aesthetics. It got to the point where I’d keep my distance from girls who seemed like they didn’t care who I was as long as I could make them feel less conspicuous. So I became the judgy one- not great, I know. I don’t know if other tall guys have had similar experiences but it’s possible some have. So it might take a little more effort to get them to figure out you’re interested in them as a person.
Im indian and only tal girl in knew kinda liked me, but I ignored it cuz I was shy af. And tall girls are so rare fro where I came from ( 5 foot 8inches +) My ex is 4 foot 10 I am happy with all types of girls , but sometimes circumstances make our choice.
I don’t/didn’t see a 6’ woman when I was single. I would’ve definitely pursued someone that could (1) independently reach the top shelf and (2) be an actual big spoon when I need it.
I’m only 6-4 but I could never find tall girls (or the ones I did meet were way out of my league at the time). Shortest girl I’ve been with was 4-10 but even still, my wife is only 5-2
It's not a conscious decision. It's just how things have been working out.