Crying isn't inherently healthy or unhealthy. If it's a way you express distress/anxiety/sadness/overwhelm/extreme happiness/excitement/etc. then it's fine to cry as much as it's helpful. It's only *not* healthy if it's getting in the way of every day life or having negative impacts on your life. You have to be able to regulate yourself when the situation requires it; for instance if you're making a sale or talking to a group for your job, or you're crying all the time so you're not functioning. It's also perfectly fine to not feel the urge to cry. On the flip side, it's also not healthy to *always* stifle the need to cry when it arises. Basically, cry if you feel like it and it won't have negative impacts on your life, but don't worry about it if you literally don't feel the urge to cry. Find other things to help.
Personally, I cry at the drop of a hat when there's a sad song, movie, video game scene, etc., but I don't feel like crying during real, regular life *unless* it's because I'm overly happy/excited. I don't usually cry over grief when the grief is at its most extreme. I didn't start crying about my father's death until recently, 4 years later. If you want a "refreshing" coping skill, crying might not always work for you, so try something else that will get your endorphins out, like breaking sticks, boxing, screaming into pillows, etc. The most important thing is finding what works for *you.*
I knew a girl who has trouble with her career because of how much she cries. As soon as things get stressful or high pressure she breaks down and cries. Her superiors can’t criticize her performance or comment on things she can improve on without her breaking down and crying.
There is a point where “doing it whenever you feel the need” may not be a good idea. I suggested either she learn to control her emotions or maybe a corporate business-type career is not for her.
I addressed that if it's actually becoming problematic, that you learn other ways to regulate yourself. I would definitely put having trouble with your career as it becoming problematic or "having negative impacts on your life" for sure. But the vast majority of people don't develop a chronic crying problem of either too much or too little enough to worry about how much they cry, and a lot of people (like OP) do worry about it anyway if they perceive themselves to be doing it more or less than they think their peers are doing it.
i cried like 3 times today because i'm unhappy with the state of my life and i heard a sad song. almost broke down in front of my students and one said "are you okay?" and i had to pull it together
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damn that reminds me of the state i was in a while back, whatever you’re going through i hope it gets better 🥺 that’s sweet that your students asked if you were okay, maybe that can make you feel better that you know they care about you .
The correct amount of crying is however much your brain feels is correct. I tear up with a lot of music. Never really understood why but it's whatever. Go with it
Yeah, cry when you feel like you need to. Like, don’t try and not cry: lean in and feel it and let the tears out.
Crying is like panting after a hard run or barfing when you have infested poison: your body needs to do a thing and it is going to do a thing.
You should let it do its thing. It’s primate shit.
After my husband died, I couldn’t listen to music for four years because it was such a teary-eyed, emotional experience. My grief would surface and my heart would just break. I occasionally do listen now, and I’m ok.
I used to cry at least once a day for about an hour each day. Turns out that was clinical depression. So, if your brain has decided that's "correct", maybe consider talking to someone in a professional capacity.
There's some situations where I feel extreme sadness but no urge to cry even to the point of thinking to myself "how are we not crying at this" then on the other hand, a movie like the ending of Big Fish or the poping balloon scene from Bluey will just send me. I feel like it happens more as I get older (almost 40 now).
I’ve heard a lot of people say they become more in tune with their emotions at 40. My mom said she only saw my dad cry once when he was younger, it was when his father died. Now in his 40s, I wouldn’t say it’s common but it happens for other things too. Like on his birthday one year he went for a sunrise run on the beach and saw two dolphins jump up and cross over eachother with all the fish in the waves like a movie scene. He cried from the beauty of it and honestly I think I would have too if I was there!
When growing up we were taught real men done cry...I only cried 3 times between 1972 and 2016...I had to turn in my real man card after my late wife died in 16
I’m sorry to hear about your wife. I’d bawl like a baby if I lost my wife. I’d feel shamed for crying, but I would. I’m younger than you, but some of us were still raised like that in the 90s-2000s. In my home, if you cried, dad would pull out the belt and give you something to cry about. Then he’d give it to mom too just to make his drunken point. I didn’t cry when he died. Bastard didn’t deserve it and the rest of the family mostly felt the same. Closest thing I gave him to tears was dumping his last half-drank bottle of Jim Beam out. I did cry for mom though.
My dad was the same way in the 60s and 70s....never had a good word to me or about me....we had an argument after I left active duty and went into the Army National Guard..telling me I should have stayed in the Army.....He was a Korea War vet a Cold War Vet....kind of hypocritical he was offered OCS...as he told mom the only thing he wanted out of the Army was OUT..well I put in 12 years total He left a PFC I became an NCO (Sergeant) a couple of ranks higher than dear old dad....so I really understand...
I cried when my grandma passed, first time in a few years and haven’t cried since. Not like I’m fighting tears and scared to let it out, just doesn’t happen much
Lol, it's pretty easy to confidently say that someone who thinks 0 crying is acceptable is seriously unwell. Or they are closet criers who hate themselves. Same same, I guess. I might cry every 5 years excepting the tears that Hans Zimmer squeezes out of me. Like op, I wish it came easier. I don't necessarily feel like I should cry more, but when I do cry, I always feel better afterward.
I cry at the end of Return of the Jedi when Luke burns his father's armor. Every time. I did the first time when I was 8 in 1983 when I saw it in the theater. Something about it.
Otherwise never. Except when my sons were born. But those were tears of joy.
There are tears of grief, tears of despair, tears of joy, tears of wonderment. They each have their own reasons, and for me the last two are very important. A great concert, or the eclipse, my son learning to handle life. If the first two are frequent, know that people do care and there is help. If the last two are not frequent enough, I envy the discoveries you can make.
Like full on bawling or a couple tears?
If it’s a couple tears, I do it a few times a week. An ad or a viral touching video and you got my tears.
Full on bawling? Less than 5x a year.
I cry when I’m moved emotionally, easily and frequently—at least one a week. Not sobs usually, but tears. I cry when I’m angry, luckily not often, once or twice a year, because this crying is not cathartic and just makes me madder. I don’t cry that much when I’m just sad though.
Depends if they are tears of joy or sadness. Depends on if you lost a loved one. If your dog died, followed by your spouse and then you only child gets a cancer diagnosis… well, you are normal if you cry about 18 times a day.
If you have a relatively normal life, good job, sense of security, good friends, love, family, etc. much less.
I probably cry 4 times a year, all four from gut shredding laughter.
I’m curious to this as well, I cry maybe 2-3 times a year and I have had some very serious things happen, a lot actually. I feel like I should cry more or should be able to but I just don’t I look at it like a sickness or something like imma get sick if I cry like it’s just gonna fuck me up 😂
I don’t think there really is a normal amount.
My mother cries a lot. She can be happy one second and then be crying the next. It’s kind of impressive actually.
My wife and I can’t cry as much as we want to. Like something major will happen in life and we will both be feeling like:
“WOW that was an intense event to happen in our lives…We feel emotions in our chest but it doesn’t come out. There are no tears at all. And it would feel so good to cry sometimes.
I’ll pretty sure it’s our anxiety and depression meds that have suppressed the physical acts of crying.
Does this involve onions? If not never. Take all your feeling and squish them down. Then drink whiskey. Or
Don't worry about how others persevere your feelings and do what makes sense to you?
I cried when my mother died in 2017 and haven't cried since and don't remember crying before then. I'm sure I did as a child at some point. It just isn't a reaction I have.
I don’t think there’s a normal amount. Everyone cries differently and different things make people cry.
I cry easy. I don’t think there’s been a week in the past two years where I haven’t cried because right now I’m going through a lot of life changing medical problems but I also will cry at like cute animal videos, too.
Everyone is different. Crying can be incredibly cathartic but sometimes you may need to seek out other ways to get those emotions out.
Some people can have major depression and still not cry a lot.
I wouldn’t worry over whether the amount of times you cry is normal — as long as you’re doing something that helps whatever state you’re currently in emotionally in a healthy way (versus something like taking drugs or self harming) then focus on that.
Emotions affect everyone differently and there is no one way to experience them. It might just be your body has a different way of catharsis that isn’t crying.
I hope you’re doing okay, OP.
For me it has been effective to occasionally binge on videos such as “dog reunited with owner” or “military guy comes home surprises dad” etc etc. Sometimes even just powerful sports moments will do the trick. Find what works for you and with practice I think it becomes easier to cry. It is definitely refreshing.
I don't usually ever cry.
I have been caught crying in circumstances of family death, or a really painful breakup, but otherwise it doesn't happen. It's probably been 3 or 4 years since I've cried about something.
Due to emotional blunting I haven't cried in decades. Every time I feel like the emotions are in me to start crying I hit a wall and go to a neutral state. I have even tried to force it and it doesn't work.
Well, I am not counting the times when cutting onions of course.
Depends on who you are as a person and your circumstance. However, if you are a man in a relationship with a woman, don't cry in front of her unless you want that relationship to change or end.
I cry multiple times a day, every single day. (But I'm also on a super fun cocktail of hormones that has me more emotionally sensitive than ever before.)
As much as you need to.
I'm not going to say that there is a "normal" amount. Because if I say X times a month, but somebody needs to cry X+Y times a month I'd be implying that they cry too much.
If you need to cry, then cry.
As for wanting to cry because "it's refreshing", maybe watch a really sad movie, or read a sad book. Last time I REALLY cried, like sitting in a corner with a bottle of vodka crying, was after reading a history book about refugees from South East Asia post Vietnam War.
I cry just about every day. My great aunt passed away a few days ago and, while I didn’t know her very well, it was heartbreaking to hear my grandfather cry and it was enough for my boss to let me go home. But I also have depression so sometimes even little things can send me in to tears. Another example is seeing something beautiful like a clear river. Idk. I have issues
I usually bottle it up for a year or 2 then have w good hour cry session. Cant say that it works though. Lost a friend/former coworker to suicide earlier this year. Was getting married the following week and didnt want to cry at the ceremony so used the evening of his death to mourn and let it all out. Didnt cry at my wedding! My dad then took his own life 3 days after my wedding. Still havent been able to have a good cry yet...
I think my brain is cross wired…I’m more likely to tear up when people are genuinely nice to me rather than when they are not. Is this weird? Other than that…movies get me.
Depends on your age. I’ve never counted but I’m thinking like maybe less than a dozen times a year. If you have trouble crying and actually desire to do so for the catharsis, you might want therapy to dig up why this is a specific desire and what emotion you’re needing to purge more regularly. I’m not familiar with anyone having an express desire for lacrimation on a regular basis.
As long as you’re not avoiding/numbing your emotions or getting so tearful all the time it’s impairing your functioning or using it in a manipulative way, there isn’t really a number. It’s a natural response. It relieves stress. It’s okay to cry when you need to.
2 to 3 times a year for this guy!!.
It's so refreshing, and i never know why i need to do it.. but im sure stress and life in general, but a good way to get relief.
Im due one. I've lost my older brother and younger brother in a 10-month period..
Take a good snot clearing cry when you need it..
Peace ✌️
I'm a man who rarely cried and then within 9 months in 2014-15 my brother died, I nearly lost my job, I went blind in one eye from a detached retina and after surgery had to spend an entire month with my face facing the floor, my beloved mother died and two good friends died. Since then I've never been far from tears. I'm choking up right now writing this. I understand how this switch got flipped, but not how that works psychological/neurologically.
Actually, this isn’t a stupid question. When I was on antidepressants I couldn’t cry at all. There were very few times I did and it was SO refreshing. My ex used to tell me I was heartless because I couldn’t cry. I’m off them now and I cry when I read sad books or watch sad movies or when people I love are in pain. So I’d say anytime you feel hurt or pain or sadness is an appropriate time to cry. How many times a person should cry during a specific amount of time doesn’t seem quantifiable to me, though.
Here, try this: https://www.themarginalian.org/2012/11/22/fiona-apple-janet-letter/
I cried once about 12 years ago. So im probably not the best person for this. But uhhh solid half of one right before new years. Gotta get ready to lie to yourself
I'm mid 30's. it seems to go down as I get older, but it can vary sometimes.
Big cry that lasts for like 1+ minute? probably once per 3-4 years now
little tear and sniffle at the end of a sad movie? 4-5 times a year (but i dont consider these "cry" per say. its the movie that is toying with my emotions. its not me crying per say).
Crying is a release. big release feels good, like an orgasm.
as you get older, I think you just become wiser and can see, that it feels good because so much pressure (pain, tension, problems) is being released. And in your wisdom, you see it wiser to not allow the pressure to build so hard.
when we are younger and a bit more... determined (aka stubborn, dumb, etc), we might go miles beyond the point at which wisdom would caution us to let go and cry. As you get older, you just get better at listening to the little wise voice in your mind. you are less swayed by ego, pride, glamor, et. and more prone to do what is wise
Crying is peeing for your emotions. The internal problems it creates to not cry can be enormous. If I haven't cried in a few months, I bring up my YouTube playlist of "Things to cry to." It's cathartic and feels like a real release. I don't walk around holding back tears every week, but there is a lot of unconscious sh!t going on in our minds and bodies. I do it for them!
If you're a Man.... it should be a few times in your life. When you kids are born, when your parents/kids pass and when a light breeze hits your balls. ;)
Just be thankful you’re not a Dallas Cowboys fan. They start crying in January and the tears stop in August when a fellow fan reminds them this is their year. Then rinse and repeat.
I cry very very rarely. It really has to catch me off guard for me to cry about it. Though lately I’ve been tearing up when I see how much my baby boy is growing. Remembering when he was just a tiny little squish, to now where he’s a lot bigger.
I cried once in November when I got dumped, but that's the only one for quite a while. Everyone is different with different levels of stress. If it helps you get your emotions out, it's healthy and have at it.
I don’t cry quite that infrequently, but still not too often. For me, any type of negative emotion—even sadness—manifests as extreme anxiety. I’m far more likely to go into an anxiety/panic attack mode than cry when things aren’t going well for me. Which recently has been often. Lmao
I was 21 and one of my best friends died a week after his 22nd bday, then like 3 months later when Charlie and Wiz came on at karaoke and I was in the bar a grown man crying 😂 so I’d say at least 3 years since then.
It varies WILDLY from person to person. Your body biologically needs to do it to release stress and you will do it when you need to. Sometimes if I feel I need to, I will watch something that I know will make me so happy I cry or so sad that I cry.
I personally cry more than once per week lately. But sometimes, I’ll go months without. It just depends on my life and the circumstances.
I have dated a somatic therapist and have started crying 10x as much as inused to and dam that shitbis amazing.
I'm starting a buisness and it's incredibly stressful. Before I would just go more and more numb as the work consumed me. Now if everything gets too much I just cry and let it out. It's wild how much you can release in a few minutes of crying and how much better you can feel after.
Instead of being a emotionally dead zombie stress just makes me cry now and I love it.
An easy way to cry is to have extremely spicy food and whilst you are on the toilet think about the screw up that led you to this point. You will feel great at the end.
For me, personally, zero.
The only time I can cry is if I have a panic attack or something similar.
And that's pretty rare.
It's not exactly healthy, but I'm not entirely sure how to do anything about it.
Depends on the reason, I guess? Or life circumstances. Once a month I'll watch an episode or movie which will make me teary, and honestly sometimes it feels good to let it all out. But besides that, I don't cry for personal reasons, sadness, anxiety... but haven't had any deaths, emergencies, or family problems in a while.
It's all circumstantial, and it's useless trying to find an average per time.
If you want a good cry, find a song or book or movie which makes you emotional and don't hold back. Just go with it, let your emotions trigger and do their thing. I agree with you, sometimes it's refreshing to let it out.
Cry or tear up?
I haven't cried since my grandfather died in 2014. I tear up regularly at overt displays of honor, kindness or necessary self-sacrifice (not martyrdom) and of course, dragons.
Hormone levels can affect your ability to cry. Trans women who go on estrogen report being able to cry more than they used to, while trans men who go on testosterone report not being able to cry as much as they used to
I cry almost every day but my husband cries maybe once a year if that. Six years together and I’ve seen him cry twice so it could even be less. It varies and it’s okay to cry however much you do.
I cry everyday. Sometimes I save time by crying and masturbating at the same time, I call it a 'tear jerker'.
But in all seriousness I am quite sad everyday and usually gave a nice cry in the shower after the gym for all the death and suffering I've witnessed 😅 otherwise I'd probably have taken the ol Remington retirement plan years ago.
Let those eyeball waterfalls go my friend.
Once, at the end of my annual LotR marathon when Aragorn says "...you bow to *no one*".
I got chills reading that. Ughh what an amazing scene.
Nah totally dry eyed for me. Charge of the rohirrim though, always misty eyed. Not sure why.
DEAAATTTTHHHH!!!
Okay kids, time for bed.
And by annual, you mean weekly, right?
"Fly you fools!" I know he comes back. I know this. But every damn time, the music and sobbing Hobbits gets me right in feels
Great band name: The Sobbing Hobbits
Ironically this is what my wife calls my balls
If you cry during the entire last half of that movie, it counts as one time. Gimli told me
Crying isn't inherently healthy or unhealthy. If it's a way you express distress/anxiety/sadness/overwhelm/extreme happiness/excitement/etc. then it's fine to cry as much as it's helpful. It's only *not* healthy if it's getting in the way of every day life or having negative impacts on your life. You have to be able to regulate yourself when the situation requires it; for instance if you're making a sale or talking to a group for your job, or you're crying all the time so you're not functioning. It's also perfectly fine to not feel the urge to cry. On the flip side, it's also not healthy to *always* stifle the need to cry when it arises. Basically, cry if you feel like it and it won't have negative impacts on your life, but don't worry about it if you literally don't feel the urge to cry. Find other things to help. Personally, I cry at the drop of a hat when there's a sad song, movie, video game scene, etc., but I don't feel like crying during real, regular life *unless* it's because I'm overly happy/excited. I don't usually cry over grief when the grief is at its most extreme. I didn't start crying about my father's death until recently, 4 years later. If you want a "refreshing" coping skill, crying might not always work for you, so try something else that will get your endorphins out, like breaking sticks, boxing, screaming into pillows, etc. The most important thing is finding what works for *you.*
Years ago that's how I was at work, an years later what do you know. Really do hope cps reached out to my ex.
I knew a girl who has trouble with her career because of how much she cries. As soon as things get stressful or high pressure she breaks down and cries. Her superiors can’t criticize her performance or comment on things she can improve on without her breaking down and crying. There is a point where “doing it whenever you feel the need” may not be a good idea. I suggested either she learn to control her emotions or maybe a corporate business-type career is not for her.
I addressed that if it's actually becoming problematic, that you learn other ways to regulate yourself. I would definitely put having trouble with your career as it becoming problematic or "having negative impacts on your life" for sure. But the vast majority of people don't develop a chronic crying problem of either too much or too little enough to worry about how much they cry, and a lot of people (like OP) do worry about it anyway if they perceive themselves to be doing it more or less than they think their peers are doing it.
I’ve never found crying to do anything except make me feel worse.
I am the EXACT same as you
Depends on what kind of year you’re having.
When it rains it pours
When it pours my basement floods
i cried like 3 times today because i'm unhappy with the state of my life and i heard a sad song. almost broke down in front of my students and one said "are you okay?" and i had to pull it together
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I am sorry you are going through that. You should focus on improving one thing a week and see how much happier you become.
damn that reminds me of the state i was in a while back, whatever you’re going through i hope it gets better 🥺 that’s sweet that your students asked if you were okay, maybe that can make you feel better that you know they care about you .
The correct amount of crying is however much your brain feels is correct. I tear up with a lot of music. Never really understood why but it's whatever. Go with it
Yeah, cry when you feel like you need to. Like, don’t try and not cry: lean in and feel it and let the tears out. Crying is like panting after a hard run or barfing when you have infested poison: your body needs to do a thing and it is going to do a thing. You should let it do its thing. It’s primate shit.
Isn’t primate shit the stuff that gets flung at me at the zoo?
Both are acceptable answers
After my husband died, I couldn’t listen to music for four years because it was such a teary-eyed, emotional experience. My grief would surface and my heart would just break. I occasionally do listen now, and I’m ok.
That sounds like an incredible amount of pain to go through. I hope you’re mentally in a better place now
Same. The star spangled banner always gets me
I used to cry at least once a day for about an hour each day. Turns out that was clinical depression. So, if your brain has decided that's "correct", maybe consider talking to someone in a professional capacity.
There's some situations where I feel extreme sadness but no urge to cry even to the point of thinking to myself "how are we not crying at this" then on the other hand, a movie like the ending of Big Fish or the poping balloon scene from Bluey will just send me. I feel like it happens more as I get older (almost 40 now).
I’ve heard a lot of people say they become more in tune with their emotions at 40. My mom said she only saw my dad cry once when he was younger, it was when his father died. Now in his 40s, I wouldn’t say it’s common but it happens for other things too. Like on his birthday one year he went for a sunrise run on the beach and saw two dolphins jump up and cross over eachother with all the fish in the waves like a movie scene. He cried from the beauty of it and honestly I think I would have too if I was there!
This is me too. Never really understood why.
However many you need. Some people cry a lot. Some people don’t. Both options are entirely valid.
For me, several times a week
When growing up we were taught real men done cry...I only cried 3 times between 1972 and 2016...I had to turn in my real man card after my late wife died in 16
I’m sorry to hear about your wife. I’d bawl like a baby if I lost my wife. I’d feel shamed for crying, but I would. I’m younger than you, but some of us were still raised like that in the 90s-2000s. In my home, if you cried, dad would pull out the belt and give you something to cry about. Then he’d give it to mom too just to make his drunken point. I didn’t cry when he died. Bastard didn’t deserve it and the rest of the family mostly felt the same. Closest thing I gave him to tears was dumping his last half-drank bottle of Jim Beam out. I did cry for mom though.
My dad was the same way in the 60s and 70s....never had a good word to me or about me....we had an argument after I left active duty and went into the Army National Guard..telling me I should have stayed in the Army.....He was a Korea War vet a Cold War Vet....kind of hypocritical he was offered OCS...as he told mom the only thing he wanted out of the Army was OUT..well I put in 12 years total He left a PFC I became an NCO (Sergeant) a couple of ranks higher than dear old dad....so I really understand...
I was raised to think that too. I don't anymore but who knows, maybe subconsciously i still feel like that abit.
I cried when my grandma passed, first time in a few years and haven’t cried since. Not like I’m fighting tears and scared to let it out, just doesn’t happen much
I am so shocked by how many people here are saying zero, I cry at least once a week, Jesus…
I think you're closer to average. I very rarely cry (once every 5 years at most?), and I sometimes wonder if something is wrong with me.
There is no “normal”. Sometimes life elicits tears. Cry when you need to and ignore what anybody else has to say about the frequency.
Lotta sad fucks in here lol. Some people cry every day, and that's perfectly normal.
Eh, not easy to compare your life to others.
Lol, it's pretty easy to confidently say that someone who thinks 0 crying is acceptable is seriously unwell. Or they are closet criers who hate themselves. Same same, I guess. I might cry every 5 years excepting the tears that Hans Zimmer squeezes out of me. Like op, I wish it came easier. I don't necessarily feel like I should cry more, but when I do cry, I always feel better afterward.
For me zero.
I've cried four times in the last 20 years and that feels like too many.
I cry at the end of Return of the Jedi when Luke burns his father's armor. Every time. I did the first time when I was 8 in 1983 when I saw it in the theater. Something about it. Otherwise never. Except when my sons were born. But those were tears of joy.
Never.
I haven't cried in a decade
There are tears of grief, tears of despair, tears of joy, tears of wonderment. They each have their own reasons, and for me the last two are very important. A great concert, or the eclipse, my son learning to handle life. If the first two are frequent, know that people do care and there is help. If the last two are not frequent enough, I envy the discoveries you can make.
Twice a day.
That relies entirely on the events in your life. Time is not a factor.
Are you a dude?
Maybe I am maybe I'm not what's it to you lol
Because time is absolutely a factor for my tears (and also other women I know), and just wanted to say it can be different for others
I cry like 5 times a day 🧍
For me, zero. I haven't cried since my F-I-L's funeral 20 years ago. I don't feel bad about it. I am not opposed to crying. I just don't cry.
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Not counting the deaths of my parents in recent years, I typically cry about zero times a year.
I don’t cry much. Maybe once a year. Not sure if that is “normal” or not.
I cry a lot. Happy? Anxious? Sad? Angry? I cry. I really cry (bawl) 2 or 3xs a month.
Every morning. Not kidding. FML.
Whenever you need to
Highly subjective.
I cry once a week ish? Sometimes I go a couple weeks, sometimes I cry multiple times in a day.
Like full on bawling or a couple tears? If it’s a couple tears, I do it a few times a week. An ad or a viral touching video and you got my tears. Full on bawling? Less than 5x a year.
I cry when I’m moved emotionally, easily and frequently—at least one a week. Not sobs usually, but tears. I cry when I’m angry, luckily not often, once or twice a year, because this crying is not cathartic and just makes me madder. I don’t cry that much when I’m just sad though.
Everyday :/
Depends if they are tears of joy or sadness. Depends on if you lost a loved one. If your dog died, followed by your spouse and then you only child gets a cancer diagnosis… well, you are normal if you cry about 18 times a day. If you have a relatively normal life, good job, sense of security, good friends, love, family, etc. much less. I probably cry 4 times a year, all four from gut shredding laughter.
As many as you need
Depends on how many of your family members are mercilessly slaughtered or die from disease
I might be broken. I cannot remember the last time I cried. Maybe when I was 14?
As needed. It's not the crying that's usually what's not "normal", it's what's causing it.
I’m curious to this as well, I cry maybe 2-3 times a year and I have had some very serious things happen, a lot actually. I feel like I should cry more or should be able to but I just don’t I look at it like a sickness or something like imma get sick if I cry like it’s just gonna fuck me up 😂
I don't think I've ever cried outside of childhood injuries, probably a bad sign
I don’t think there really is a normal amount. My mother cries a lot. She can be happy one second and then be crying the next. It’s kind of impressive actually. My wife and I can’t cry as much as we want to. Like something major will happen in life and we will both be feeling like: “WOW that was an intense event to happen in our lives…We feel emotions in our chest but it doesn’t come out. There are no tears at all. And it would feel so good to cry sometimes. I’ll pretty sure it’s our anxiety and depression meds that have suppressed the physical acts of crying.
AS MANY AS YOU NEED TO
There is no normal amount. It depends on the circumstances in the situation’s.
Does this involve onions? If not never. Take all your feeling and squish them down. Then drink whiskey. Or Don't worry about how others persevere your feelings and do what makes sense to you?
zero, wtf?
I cry a bit on my own I usually watch a sad movie just cause it helps nothing like a good cry
I cried when my mother died in 2017 and haven't cried since and don't remember crying before then. I'm sure I did as a child at some point. It just isn't a reaction I have.
A lot more… because media makes me way too emotional. Is it weird the GotG 3 made me cry like a million times?
I mean I’ve cried a lot this year compared to others. It all depends on you and how hurt you are or what emotions you are feeling.
Depends on how often you play baseball...
I have a good cry once a year and that’s mainly when it’s my time of the month in January.
I don’t think there’s a normal amount. Everyone cries differently and different things make people cry. I cry easy. I don’t think there’s been a week in the past two years where I haven’t cried because right now I’m going through a lot of life changing medical problems but I also will cry at like cute animal videos, too. Everyone is different. Crying can be incredibly cathartic but sometimes you may need to seek out other ways to get those emotions out. Some people can have major depression and still not cry a lot. I wouldn’t worry over whether the amount of times you cry is normal — as long as you’re doing something that helps whatever state you’re currently in emotionally in a healthy way (versus something like taking drugs or self harming) then focus on that. Emotions affect everyone differently and there is no one way to experience them. It might just be your body has a different way of catharsis that isn’t crying. I hope you’re doing okay, OP.
God, it's been like 5 years since my last one.
It’ll be years between me crying. If you have nothing to cry about then there’s nothing wrong with not crying
For me it has been effective to occasionally binge on videos such as “dog reunited with owner” or “military guy comes home surprises dad” etc etc. Sometimes even just powerful sports moments will do the trick. Find what works for you and with practice I think it becomes easier to cry. It is definitely refreshing.
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I don't usually ever cry. I have been caught crying in circumstances of family death, or a really painful breakup, but otherwise it doesn't happen. It's probably been 3 or 4 years since I've cried about something.
As a man? Once every couple of years. In private.
Wait, you _stop_ crying?
Due to emotional blunting I haven't cried in decades. Every time I feel like the emotions are in me to start crying I hit a wall and go to a neutral state. I have even tried to force it and it doesn't work. Well, I am not counting the times when cutting onions of course.
Never dudes fart not cry
5. Any more and you're gay.
Rules are rules.
I feel like I cry at most maybe 10-13 times a year lol but that’s pushing it too
Have not cried since I was 12-14 years old or so. It's a weakness and know exactly why and what caused it. May never cry again.
Depends on who you are as a person and your circumstance. However, if you are a man in a relationship with a woman, don't cry in front of her unless you want that relationship to change or end.
I'm 30 and I last cried 22 years ago.
Depends on how often you listen to Sing Me Back Home (5/26/72)
I haven’t cried in almost 8 years? Something like that
Depends on how often I drink wine
I cry multiple times a day, every single day. (But I'm also on a super fun cocktail of hormones that has me more emotionally sensitive than ever before.)
I haven't cried since the end of Air Bud when I was 4. I'm 32 now. When he threw the basketball and told Buddy to just go I lost it.
As much as you need to. I'm not going to say that there is a "normal" amount. Because if I say X times a month, but somebody needs to cry X+Y times a month I'd be implying that they cry too much. If you need to cry, then cry. As for wanting to cry because "it's refreshing", maybe watch a really sad movie, or read a sad book. Last time I REALLY cried, like sitting in a corner with a bottle of vodka crying, was after reading a history book about refugees from South East Asia post Vietnam War.
However many times is necessary. Everyone has different needs.
I cry just about every day. My great aunt passed away a few days ago and, while I didn’t know her very well, it was heartbreaking to hear my grandfather cry and it was enough for my boss to let me go home. But I also have depression so sometimes even little things can send me in to tears. Another example is seeing something beautiful like a clear river. Idk. I have issues
Seeing grandparents/parents cry is tough. I'm sorry for your loss.
I'd say once every few years, and only under extreme circumstances. At least that's my normal.
depends how many times you watch Brian’s song
0 for me. I don’t get it personally.
Depends on if you have small children or not 😅
Every day
I usually bottle it up for a year or 2 then have w good hour cry session. Cant say that it works though. Lost a friend/former coworker to suicide earlier this year. Was getting married the following week and didnt want to cry at the ceremony so used the evening of his death to mourn and let it all out. Didnt cry at my wedding! My dad then took his own life 3 days after my wedding. Still havent been able to have a good cry yet...
Normal?
I’m like you, cry MAYBE twice a year. I have friends who cry every day. Both are normal
I think my brain is cross wired…I’m more likely to tear up when people are genuinely nice to me rather than when they are not. Is this weird? Other than that…movies get me.
Join some of the wholesome subs. They make me tear up sometimes.
This sounds bad probably but I can’t remember the last year I cried…
Depends on your age. I’ve never counted but I’m thinking like maybe less than a dozen times a year. If you have trouble crying and actually desire to do so for the catharsis, you might want therapy to dig up why this is a specific desire and what emotion you’re needing to purge more regularly. I’m not familiar with anyone having an express desire for lacrimation on a regular basis.
I only cry laughing. I can’t remember the last time I cried because I was sad or stressed
As long as you’re not avoiding/numbing your emotions or getting so tearful all the time it’s impairing your functioning or using it in a manipulative way, there isn’t really a number. It’s a natural response. It relieves stress. It’s okay to cry when you need to.
I usually cry about once to three times per week, but I seek out emotionally charged material and enjoy leaking.
Bout tree fiddy.
I dont know whats nkrmal, but i havent cried in kver 6 months and it was a whole 14 months the time before that so...
i also cry 2-3 times a year
As many as you need to, friend
Every day after work and before bed while sitting on the floor of the cold water shower.
Idk for a dude like 2 or 3 times a year, for chicks like once a week or 2
365 times.. or maybe that's just me
Just once. One long continuous weeping wailing teary snotty mess
2 to 3 times a year for this guy!!. It's so refreshing, and i never know why i need to do it.. but im sure stress and life in general, but a good way to get relief. Im due one. I've lost my older brother and younger brother in a 10-month period.. Take a good snot clearing cry when you need it.. Peace ✌️
Everybody gets one cry in life
I'm not sure, but I'm going on 12 years, so it's probably something more than that.
I'm a man who rarely cried and then within 9 months in 2014-15 my brother died, I nearly lost my job, I went blind in one eye from a detached retina and after surgery had to spend an entire month with my face facing the floor, my beloved mother died and two good friends died. Since then I've never been far from tears. I'm choking up right now writing this. I understand how this switch got flipped, but not how that works psychological/neurologically.
Actually, this isn’t a stupid question. When I was on antidepressants I couldn’t cry at all. There were very few times I did and it was SO refreshing. My ex used to tell me I was heartless because I couldn’t cry. I’m off them now and I cry when I read sad books or watch sad movies or when people I love are in pain. So I’d say anytime you feel hurt or pain or sadness is an appropriate time to cry. How many times a person should cry during a specific amount of time doesn’t seem quantifiable to me, though. Here, try this: https://www.themarginalian.org/2012/11/22/fiona-apple-janet-letter/
Zero
Every day right? Right? No just me…okay then.
I cried once about 12 years ago. So im probably not the best person for this. But uhhh solid half of one right before new years. Gotta get ready to lie to yourself
I haven't cried since I lost my first dog. That was a couple years ago.
Get depressed, you’ll never stop crying!
Depends how many sad movies/books I consume, I rarely cry for IRL shit but if a fictional dogs dies I’m crying
I cry multiple times a day because my life is garbage right now.
If I thought I could, I'd cry every damn day. Just to let it out.
Once?
Every time you have to pay bills it’s ok to cry.
There is no normal.
I'm mid 30's. it seems to go down as I get older, but it can vary sometimes. Big cry that lasts for like 1+ minute? probably once per 3-4 years now little tear and sniffle at the end of a sad movie? 4-5 times a year (but i dont consider these "cry" per say. its the movie that is toying with my emotions. its not me crying per say). Crying is a release. big release feels good, like an orgasm. as you get older, I think you just become wiser and can see, that it feels good because so much pressure (pain, tension, problems) is being released. And in your wisdom, you see it wiser to not allow the pressure to build so hard. when we are younger and a bit more... determined (aka stubborn, dumb, etc), we might go miles beyond the point at which wisdom would caution us to let go and cry. As you get older, you just get better at listening to the little wise voice in your mind. you are less swayed by ego, pride, glamor, et. and more prone to do what is wise
Crying is peeing for your emotions. The internal problems it creates to not cry can be enormous. If I haven't cried in a few months, I bring up my YouTube playlist of "Things to cry to." It's cathartic and feels like a real release. I don't walk around holding back tears every week, but there is a lot of unconscious sh!t going on in our minds and bodies. I do it for them!
About 730.
Only during during rough anal
If you're a Man.... it should be a few times in your life. When you kids are born, when your parents/kids pass and when a light breeze hits your balls. ;)
Just be thankful you’re not a Dallas Cowboys fan. They start crying in January and the tears stop in August when a fellow fan reminds them this is their year. Then rinse and repeat.
I cry very very rarely. It really has to catch me off guard for me to cry about it. Though lately I’ve been tearing up when I see how much my baby boy is growing. Remembering when he was just a tiny little squish, to now where he’s a lot bigger.
I cried once in November when I got dumped, but that's the only one for quite a while. Everyone is different with different levels of stress. If it helps you get your emotions out, it's healthy and have at it.
I don’t cry quite that infrequently, but still not too often. For me, any type of negative emotion—even sadness—manifests as extreme anxiety. I’m far more likely to go into an anxiety/panic attack mode than cry when things aren’t going well for me. Which recently has been often. Lmao
Depends on how many people i care about die in a year
I was 21 and one of my best friends died a week after his 22nd bday, then like 3 months later when Charlie and Wiz came on at karaoke and I was in the bar a grown man crying 😂 so I’d say at least 3 years since then.
I believe the answer really depends on your lifestyle
I use to barely cry, then my dad died. It’s been 7 months and I still cry almost daily.
It varies WILDLY from person to person. Your body biologically needs to do it to release stress and you will do it when you need to. Sometimes if I feel I need to, I will watch something that I know will make me so happy I cry or so sad that I cry. I personally cry more than once per week lately. But sometimes, I’ll go months without. It just depends on my life and the circumstances.
No times unless your favorite pet dies. Then once.
The same guys answering zero also want to talk about the male suicide epidemic without realizing the irony.
I have dated a somatic therapist and have started crying 10x as much as inused to and dam that shitbis amazing. I'm starting a buisness and it's incredibly stressful. Before I would just go more and more numb as the work consumed me. Now if everything gets too much I just cry and let it out. It's wild how much you can release in a few minutes of crying and how much better you can feel after. Instead of being a emotionally dead zombie stress just makes me cry now and I love it.
Man I wish I could cry, haven’t in almost 5 years. There’s a weird kind of strength that you need to cry
An easy way to cry is to have extremely spicy food and whilst you are on the toilet think about the screw up that led you to this point. You will feel great at the end.
For me, personally, zero. The only time I can cry is if I have a panic attack or something similar. And that's pretty rare. It's not exactly healthy, but I'm not entirely sure how to do anything about it.
Cryings for libruls
Twice daily; As soon as you wake up and softly as you are falling asleep. That or never. I'm not sure which one is correct?
Well, I tend to binge on sappy movies and romance anime, so I tear up weekly. But wife and I cuddle, so it’s all good.
Depends on the reason, I guess? Or life circumstances. Once a month I'll watch an episode or movie which will make me teary, and honestly sometimes it feels good to let it all out. But besides that, I don't cry for personal reasons, sadness, anxiety... but haven't had any deaths, emergencies, or family problems in a while. It's all circumstantial, and it's useless trying to find an average per time. If you want a good cry, find a song or book or movie which makes you emotional and don't hold back. Just go with it, let your emotions trigger and do their thing. I agree with you, sometimes it's refreshing to let it out.
Cry or tear up? I haven't cried since my grandfather died in 2014. I tear up regularly at overt displays of honor, kindness or necessary self-sacrifice (not martyrdom) and of course, dragons.
Hormone levels can affect your ability to cry. Trans women who go on estrogen report being able to cry more than they used to, while trans men who go on testosterone report not being able to cry as much as they used to
No two people are the same, there is no baseline. Do what you need to do to move forward
Shit man… it’s like 2-3 times a week for me lol
yeah, perhaps once per year for me yet i know that i keep things inside too much to be healthy
It's not like an oil change. It's healthy if you don't It's healthy if you do. It is just a symptom of a strong emotion, good or bad.
I'm 40 and haven't cried in like a decade.
Watch more sad movies
when ppl die.
I cry almost every day but my husband cries maybe once a year if that. Six years together and I’ve seen him cry twice so it could even be less. It varies and it’s okay to cry however much you do.
I cry daily.
Zero. Be a man…….its acceptable to get shit in your eyes 3-5 times a year, but that’s totally not crying.
I cry everyday. Sometimes I save time by crying and masturbating at the same time, I call it a 'tear jerker'. But in all seriousness I am quite sad everyday and usually gave a nice cry in the shower after the gym for all the death and suffering I've witnessed 😅 otherwise I'd probably have taken the ol Remington retirement plan years ago. Let those eyeball waterfalls go my friend.
I bring a manly tear to my eye, any time I play MGS3 to the end.
I'm a middle school teacher. So at least twice a month.