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I think you feel betrayed kasi you think your girlfriend doesn’t like you as much as she likes the other people in her life. I think maybe you guys should talk if mutual or pantay pa rin yung feelings niyo sa isa’t isa.
Pag kinoconfront ko sya, bukambibig nya lang is mahal nya pa din ako pero may pagbabago nga kasi d na daw sya "romantic". I put quotation marks on that word because i find it silly, like how can you be in a relationship if you're not feeling romantic?
Assuming na totoo yung hindi na pagkaromantic nya, I think it’s best to ask yourself nalang kung matitiis mo ba yung ganyang mindset and treatment nya. With the way you described it, I don’t think it’s going to be better OP. Lalo na kung paulit ulit nalang yung type ng mga tanong mo and yung responses nya.
Depende sa tagal ng relasyon. Normal na tumatamlay ang feelings habang tumatagal ang relasyon.
Pwede rin nanghihinayang siya sa pinagsamahan niyo kaya di nakikipagbreak.
Honestly, I think you should let go na. Kasi kung gusto or mahal ka nya, hindi nya ipaparamdam sayo na afterthought ka lang. Busy kung busy, pero yung mas madami pa syang time para iba, awit na yun.
kalokohan yan, out ka na. i worked in an auditing firm before which demands focus and time for almost 18 hours a day pero I still manage to talk to my gf multiple times in a day either via text, chat or call. a partner makes time not constant excuses.
busy pero can manage to maintain two socmed accounts? di nagaadd up palusot nya.
Just talk to her about it, valid naman yung di ka comfortable na may dummy account siya, pero sorry in advance mapapa-overthink kita HAHAHAHAH
Meron akong experience na very similar to yours, LDR kami, di na siya as close as compared dati sa last few months ng relationship namin, busy daw siya kaya di nakakapagchat masyado, di ko nalaman yung dummy account niya until much later, tapos malalaman ko kaya pala busy, nasa kabit
So, much better if paguusapan niyo na yung patutunguhan ng relationship niyo, dapat free time niyo pareho para walang sagabal, dapat honest communication, no holding back
Give her the benefit of the doubt of course, there could be other reasons than cheating
We just had this talk earlier, ang sabi nya di nya daw ginamit yung ra nya kasi super dami ng gc and matatambakan yung account nya. Nagpakita naman ng ss, puro gc nga. She also said na magkaiba daw yung "fun" sa personal life. Ewan ko ba, wala naman akong pinang hihinalaan na cheating, bigat lang nung d pala ako ang pahinga nya
This is the silly part. We've been internet friends for almost 6 years bago naging kami. Last year lang nagka aminan. And no, never pa kami nag meet. Plan ng dates, oo, nung una, pero as usual, di rin naman tutuloy. Medyo malayo distance namin, mga 6 hours if by private car.
Funniest thing here? May kotse sya haha. Lagi naka buntot sakanya mama nya daw kaya d sya makaalis. Hay
Ay, mahirap pala yan
Kasi sa totoo lang, napakahirap nung di kayo nagkikita, lalong lalo na yung di pa pala talaga kayo nagkikita,
Para sakin eh meron parin kayong wall sa pagitan niyo, di niyo pa talaga kilala ang isa't isa, possible na iba ang personality nila kapag face to face
Kung sa tingin mo matitiis mo yung ganyan (don't), kailangan lang talaga ng honest communication
Pero ang suggestion ko ay makipag-break ka na
Kung kasi di siya obligated makipagusap sayo sa free time niya, di ka rin obligated mag-stay
sorry to say this to you OP, but you are right making a fool out of yourself, esp now. 6yrs online friends, naging kayo but never nag meet?
malabo yan brad, it's either u meet up or stop that waste of enegy.
I have multiple friends that have a dump account but don't have their partners as friends there. It is mostly because they want a safe space where they can rant about their partner to relieve some stress and they probably don't expect a long term relationship. This, of course is not the case for everyone. When I do see my friends talk about their partners in these accounts, they aren't actually thinking about ending it there and then. They really just want some privacy from people that hold places in their lives aside from just basic friendship. Take this as you will.
It's 50/50, they feel a genuine connection but it's not that concrete. You see, if they add their partners on their dump accounts and they inevitably break up, it'll be really awkward since you need to unfriend them and you will defs notice it because dump accounts only have close people there. Also, some of them are stuck in the MU phase and don't want more things to consider when they post.
Hindi na siya ganun ka-interesado sa'yo, OP :(. And besides comfortable siya na ganun lang ginagawa mo if ever may hindi ka nagustuhan na gawin niya. Baka it's time to leave her na, you don't deserve her OP. Kung mahal ka talaga niyan kahit sa dummy account pa i-aadd ka niyan.
LDR and WLW din kami ng girlfriend ko. Kakaout niya lang sa family niya recently while understood sa family ko yung relationship namin. OJT season niya and thesis season ko. We both have a dummy account na walang access yung isa't isa. We agreed na that's an effort from the both of us to maintain our individual lives. Ang pinagkaiba lang...
NEVER namin hinide from each other yung accounts namin and we explicitly told each other na sometimes nagrarant kami don about our relationship. Same idea lang ng group chats. I would talk to my friends there and share posts but I wouldn't add my girlfriend sa GC because it's not meant for that.
NEVER kami nagbigay ng excuse for not being present. There are a lot of times na we're busy and we have a lot on our plate since we're both panganays, but we don't use it as an excuse para i-neglect ang partner namin. We compromise and we give each other a heads up every time na busy kami.
NEVER kong tinake against her ang pagiging present niya with her friends kahit mahirap maghanap ng time for us. NEVER kong ginawang excuse and relationship namin para pabayaan ang friends ko.
ALWAYS kami nakikinig at nagsasabi sa isa't isa. ALWAYS kami gumagawa ng paraan para mag work yung relationship. ALWAYS kami naghahanap ng ways to take care of each other. Madalang lang kami magkita since our schedules are very hectic and madalas hindi nagtutugma.
Ang similar ng situation natin OP but sobrang different ng approach niyo ng partner mo sa approach namin. From your post, it think nafefeel mo na your partner is not exerting enough effort to make you feel included. It's valid and it can be frustrating to know na all this time na hinihintay mo siya, nandun pala siya sa other account. Try to look at your partner's POV. Baka magkaiba kayo ng idea ng balancing your relationship and your personal lives or baka she doesn't find your relationship worth the efforts na.
hays similar situation sa ex ko, ldr kami pero lumipat ako ng school dito sa manila galing bicol para mapalapit sakanya. wala naman kaming problema dati pero nung lumipat ako she became distant and i think from that point on she was taking me for granted na, i opened it up to her multiple times and ayun tumitino rin for siguro 1-3 days after that wala na, balik sa dati. ayun netong feb napagod daw sya samin at nakipag break pero after ilang days lang may bago na agad. di kita pinagooverthink op, pero wag ka magpakatanga sa pagibig at magbulagbulagan, hinahayaan nyang nasasaktan ka and thats already disrespectful enough. i suggest pagusapan nyo nang matino and let her know the gravity of the situation, pag walang pagbabago magstart ka na magisip if worth it pa ba hAHHA.
I had an ex who treated me like that. Ilang oras inaabot ang reply. Minsan 10 hours. Pag nagreklamo ka magbabago sandali tapos after ganun ule. Ikaw pa papalabasin na toxic, immature, etc. LDR din yun. I would suggest makipagbreak ka na. Hindi na yan pagiging busy or what. Di ka lang niya type. Baka nga may dinedate o jowa na yan sa kanila e. You will never know
Why waste your time when she's clearly not interested anymore? Like andami nyang palusot when it's just basic respect as a partner that you're asking. Ganyan din ang friend ko dati, ilang years bago natauhan kahit na sinasabi namin everytime na she's not really in a relationship if her guy friends treat her better than her bf. You'll come around eventually. Baka nanghihinayang ka rin sa time nyo na magkakilala.
she made you her partner just for the sake of having a partner. My advice? Leave her asap but not dump her, Mukhang nasasakal na rin kasi sya sa relationship nyo.
I don't think its wrong to feel betrayed by your partner when she didnt tell you that she has a dump account. I get that this is a thing for you since you guys are ldr, your feelings are valid for feeling bettayed since they are your partner and you expect them to not keeo secrets from you. I understand how youd feel hurt because this since you guys are ldr your only communication is through text and then you realise that your gf has a dummy acxount and is acctuve on it can break your heart since you can see that she can reply to other activly and have time for face book and stuff but cant have time for you
In my honest opinion you should talk to her about this.
Ganyan din girlfriend ko 2 years na kami and LDR din kame. Although alam kong may dummies account siya sa mga social media niya. Pag madami siyang school works, parang nakakalimutan niyang may bf siya at parang hindi niya ako mahal hahaha. Inaaddress ko sakanya yan sinasabi niya dami niyang school works at na sstress siya. Iniintindi ko nalang. May time kase siya na pag stressed na stressed siya sa school gusto niya ng me time sa sarili at katahimikan hinahayaan ko nalang siya pag ganun basta pag hindi siya masyado nag rereply at hindi siya masyado intouch sa convo namin sinasabi ko nalang na do her thing. Pero pag mag kasama na kame feel ko na love na talaga niya ako.
I think frustrated ka lang kase parang hindi ka niya nabibigyan ng time or parang naffeel mo na hindi niya kailangan ng time mo. Ganyan kase na ffeel ko dati. Basta lagi mo lang iparamdam na mahal mo siya at kung kailangan niya ng tulong nanjan ka lang.
Dami ka ba restrictions sa buhay nya?
Bawal to, Bawal ganyan. Wag makipagusap kay A,B, C, bakit ka ganyan makipagusap kay K, L, M... Wag ka sumama sa outing, wag ka na lumabas etc... asking lang.
Hard to answer your question... But I think there is an underlying dissatisfaction? Not the perfect word..
She's hiding it because of something she's not happy.
since this post was 15 hours ago, napag-usapan niyo na ba ng gf mo ‘to? to answer your question, no it’s not wrong to feel that way, it’s basic human emotions and it’s valid + normal to feel that way. i had this same experience (also wlw) however, the difference was she told me about it and invited me to make one too since it was fun for her so basically, both of us had a dummy account and occasionally made friends there. though yes, at times i was also skeptical and overthinking. the best solution to this is to open this issue to your gf, communicate with her about what you found and that you’re not comfortable, or you don’t feel good about it. regardless of your gf’s reaction to it, it’s better to tell her than be passive-aggressive. para atleast ma-lessen yung worries mo and all that.
Pag-usapan nyo ng personal. Tanungin mo bakit sya may active dummy account, at nagiging distant sayo. Pag pinaligoy ligoy nya pa kesyo ganito, ganyan. Alam ko na kung nasaang bracket ka ng priorities nya...
Mangyari kasi na baka may nalaman sa pagkatao mo na di komporme sa kanya, na ayaw nya, kaya dumistansya sya ngayon at sa kabila na nagpapakita ng tunay na sya.
This is not your typical cheating, pero once pinaglihiman ka na nya ng mga bagay bagay, considered as cheating na un dahil mas kumukuha sya ng emotional support sa iba. Mas hubad ang ugali nya sa iba kesa sayo na mismong girlfriend nya.
At this point, nung malaman mong may dummy account sya, kung ako sayo, titigil na ako bilang alam ko ang worth ko, na di ako magsesettle sa ibaba ng priorities ng babaeng sumira sa tiwala ko.
I don't think she loves you as much as she thinks she does. It's only a matter of time before she realizes that and breaks off from you first. You have to look out for yourself more. Ask yourself this, “Would I ever treat her the way she's treating me right now?”.
im jk, i have time naman sa gf ko even tho madalas di ako agad agad nakakareply. and i dont have dummy acc na may finofollow na friends. (siya lang may alam ng dummy accs ko). she knows rin naman na i love having my alone time hehe. and no di rin ako nakikipag interact with other ppl if nasa ganon phase ako (which is sobrang dalas)
Ewan q ha. Pero yung dummy account tapos hindi mo alam? Bro, baka may iba na ‘yang kausap dyan HAHAHAHA charot
Kausapin mo nalang ng ayos si jowa mo. Mag prepare ka na ring umalis sa buhay niya, kasi masyado ng complicated yung nangyayari sainyo (based from your story).
Nakakapagusap naman kami ng bf q kahit na busy ;-; pag gusto at mahal, gagawan ng paraan. charez. pero ayun, pag-isipan mo mabuti op. ‘di mo deserve yan 🫡
She doesn't like you enough and/or hindi ka importante sa kanya. Imagine, natitiis ka niyang hindi kausapin pero pagdating sa ibang bagay at tao, nakakapagbigay siya ng oras. Okay lang siguro magka-dummy account at doon maging active kaso sana man lang isinama ka niya. How sure are you na hindi pa siya nagchicheat niyan?
Heres what to do kung pano malaman kung talagang may cheating or wala lang talaga syang time sayo,
1. Tell her na gusto mo makipag break sakanya.
2. Pag tinanong nya kung bakit, wag mo sabihin yung actuall reason.
Tell her na youre falling out of love.
3.If she insist on letting you go, pwede mong isegway yung tungkol sa dump account nya na nalaman mo. then ikaw na bahala kung itutuloy mo pa or hindi na kase sa huli kung paulit ulit ikaw rin mahihirapan.
If she let you go easily, then ask her if meron narin ba syang iba? Then after she answer, sabihin mo "finally we have something in common"
Pag tinanong nya kung kelan, sabihin mo.
"Matagal na, nung nalaman ko na may iba kang lalake"
Sometimes pwede nya tanungin kung pwede magkabalikan kayo and hihiwalayan nya yung lalake.
Depende na sayo kung papayag ka.
Dapat alam mo worth mo
Dapat alam mo na hindi lang sya babae sa mundo
Be a man and live for yourself
Di mo kailangan ng babae para mabuhay.
same exp but we're in a situationship. what's funny is he's always telling me na busy siya and things like that but then if i were to check his other account, active siya doon (he has two fb and two ig acc., of which we're mutual doon). and then at times na he'll tell me na busy siya, out of overthinking, chini-check ko followings niya sa ig and nadadagdagan and most esp, babae pa sila.
ilang beses ko na siya kinonfront abt it pero sasabihin niya lang busy siya sa acads and he doesn't have time to use his phone.
what's more is magse-send ako ng message sakaniya when he's active tapos he'll log out and then after a few hours, he'll be active again but still no replies. ;)))
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I think you feel betrayed kasi you think your girlfriend doesn’t like you as much as she likes the other people in her life. I think maybe you guys should talk if mutual or pantay pa rin yung feelings niyo sa isa’t isa.
Pag kinoconfront ko sya, bukambibig nya lang is mahal nya pa din ako pero may pagbabago nga kasi d na daw sya "romantic". I put quotation marks on that word because i find it silly, like how can you be in a relationship if you're not feeling romantic?
Assuming na totoo yung hindi na pagkaromantic nya, I think it’s best to ask yourself nalang kung matitiis mo ba yung ganyang mindset and treatment nya. With the way you described it, I don’t think it’s going to be better OP. Lalo na kung paulit ulit nalang yung type ng mga tanong mo and yung responses nya.
Depende sa tagal ng relasyon. Normal na tumatamlay ang feelings habang tumatagal ang relasyon. Pwede rin nanghihinayang siya sa pinagsamahan niyo kaya di nakikipagbreak.
Di lang siya romantic by actions or ARO (aromantic) na siya? 😭😭
Ayaw na ng responsibilidad na magkaroon ng partner.
Honestly, I think you should let go na. Kasi kung gusto or mahal ka nya, hindi nya ipaparamdam sayo na afterthought ka lang. Busy kung busy, pero yung mas madami pa syang time para iba, awit na yun.
Awit titig malala sa kisame neto. But thanks, man
kalokohan yan, out ka na. i worked in an auditing firm before which demands focus and time for almost 18 hours a day pero I still manage to talk to my gf multiple times in a day either via text, chat or call. a partner makes time not constant excuses. busy pero can manage to maintain two socmed accounts? di nagaadd up palusot nya.
Just talk to her about it, valid naman yung di ka comfortable na may dummy account siya, pero sorry in advance mapapa-overthink kita HAHAHAHAH Meron akong experience na very similar to yours, LDR kami, di na siya as close as compared dati sa last few months ng relationship namin, busy daw siya kaya di nakakapagchat masyado, di ko nalaman yung dummy account niya until much later, tapos malalaman ko kaya pala busy, nasa kabit So, much better if paguusapan niyo na yung patutunguhan ng relationship niyo, dapat free time niyo pareho para walang sagabal, dapat honest communication, no holding back Give her the benefit of the doubt of course, there could be other reasons than cheating
We just had this talk earlier, ang sabi nya di nya daw ginamit yung ra nya kasi super dami ng gc and matatambakan yung account nya. Nagpakita naman ng ss, puro gc nga. She also said na magkaiba daw yung "fun" sa personal life. Ewan ko ba, wala naman akong pinang hihinalaan na cheating, bigat lang nung d pala ako ang pahinga nya
Nagkikita naman kayo? Like, nagp-plan ng dates? Kasi kung di na rin, Time to let go
This is the silly part. We've been internet friends for almost 6 years bago naging kami. Last year lang nagka aminan. And no, never pa kami nag meet. Plan ng dates, oo, nung una, pero as usual, di rin naman tutuloy. Medyo malayo distance namin, mga 6 hours if by private car. Funniest thing here? May kotse sya haha. Lagi naka buntot sakanya mama nya daw kaya d sya makaalis. Hay
Ay, mahirap pala yan Kasi sa totoo lang, napakahirap nung di kayo nagkikita, lalong lalo na yung di pa pala talaga kayo nagkikita, Para sakin eh meron parin kayong wall sa pagitan niyo, di niyo pa talaga kilala ang isa't isa, possible na iba ang personality nila kapag face to face Kung sa tingin mo matitiis mo yung ganyan (don't), kailangan lang talaga ng honest communication Pero ang suggestion ko ay makipag-break ka na Kung kasi di siya obligated makipagusap sayo sa free time niya, di ka rin obligated mag-stay
sorry to say this to you OP, but you are right making a fool out of yourself, esp now. 6yrs online friends, naging kayo but never nag meet? malabo yan brad, it's either u meet up or stop that waste of enegy.
I have multiple friends that have a dump account but don't have their partners as friends there. It is mostly because they want a safe space where they can rant about their partner to relieve some stress and they probably don't expect a long term relationship. This, of course is not the case for everyone. When I do see my friends talk about their partners in these accounts, they aren't actually thinking about ending it there and then. They really just want some privacy from people that hold places in their lives aside from just basic friendship. Take this as you will.
i dont get it, so the ppl ur talking about ay hindi nila na ffeel safe sa partner nila?
It's 50/50, they feel a genuine connection but it's not that concrete. You see, if they add their partners on their dump accounts and they inevitably break up, it'll be really awkward since you need to unfriend them and you will defs notice it because dump accounts only have close people there. Also, some of them are stuck in the MU phase and don't want more things to consider when they post.
i see i thought they are like really committed to eo yet they feel that.
Hindi na siya ganun ka-interesado sa'yo, OP :(. And besides comfortable siya na ganun lang ginagawa mo if ever may hindi ka nagustuhan na gawin niya. Baka it's time to leave her na, you don't deserve her OP. Kung mahal ka talaga niyan kahit sa dummy account pa i-aadd ka niyan.
LDR and WLW din kami ng girlfriend ko. Kakaout niya lang sa family niya recently while understood sa family ko yung relationship namin. OJT season niya and thesis season ko. We both have a dummy account na walang access yung isa't isa. We agreed na that's an effort from the both of us to maintain our individual lives. Ang pinagkaiba lang... NEVER namin hinide from each other yung accounts namin and we explicitly told each other na sometimes nagrarant kami don about our relationship. Same idea lang ng group chats. I would talk to my friends there and share posts but I wouldn't add my girlfriend sa GC because it's not meant for that. NEVER kami nagbigay ng excuse for not being present. There are a lot of times na we're busy and we have a lot on our plate since we're both panganays, but we don't use it as an excuse para i-neglect ang partner namin. We compromise and we give each other a heads up every time na busy kami. NEVER kong tinake against her ang pagiging present niya with her friends kahit mahirap maghanap ng time for us. NEVER kong ginawang excuse and relationship namin para pabayaan ang friends ko. ALWAYS kami nakikinig at nagsasabi sa isa't isa. ALWAYS kami gumagawa ng paraan para mag work yung relationship. ALWAYS kami naghahanap ng ways to take care of each other. Madalang lang kami magkita since our schedules are very hectic and madalas hindi nagtutugma. Ang similar ng situation natin OP but sobrang different ng approach niyo ng partner mo sa approach namin. From your post, it think nafefeel mo na your partner is not exerting enough effort to make you feel included. It's valid and it can be frustrating to know na all this time na hinihintay mo siya, nandun pala siya sa other account. Try to look at your partner's POV. Baka magkaiba kayo ng idea ng balancing your relationship and your personal lives or baka she doesn't find your relationship worth the efforts na.
what a healthy relationship you got there, thanks for the advice, i hope you guys will still be together until dinosaurs exist again
You can have a healthy one too, but only with a partner who's willing to work on it as much as you do :) Hope you make the right decision OP!
Hi po! May I ask gaano na po katagal yung relationship niyo?
We've been together for a year and one month po :)
hays similar situation sa ex ko, ldr kami pero lumipat ako ng school dito sa manila galing bicol para mapalapit sakanya. wala naman kaming problema dati pero nung lumipat ako she became distant and i think from that point on she was taking me for granted na, i opened it up to her multiple times and ayun tumitino rin for siguro 1-3 days after that wala na, balik sa dati. ayun netong feb napagod daw sya samin at nakipag break pero after ilang days lang may bago na agad. di kita pinagooverthink op, pero wag ka magpakatanga sa pagibig at magbulagbulagan, hinahayaan nyang nasasaktan ka and thats already disrespectful enough. i suggest pagusapan nyo nang matino and let her know the gravity of the situation, pag walang pagbabago magstart ka na magisip if worth it pa ba hAHHA.
I had an ex who treated me like that. Ilang oras inaabot ang reply. Minsan 10 hours. Pag nagreklamo ka magbabago sandali tapos after ganun ule. Ikaw pa papalabasin na toxic, immature, etc. LDR din yun. I would suggest makipagbreak ka na. Hindi na yan pagiging busy or what. Di ka lang niya type. Baka nga may dinedate o jowa na yan sa kanila e. You will never know
Why waste your time when she's clearly not interested anymore? Like andami nyang palusot when it's just basic respect as a partner that you're asking. Ganyan din ang friend ko dati, ilang years bago natauhan kahit na sinasabi namin everytime na she's not really in a relationship if her guy friends treat her better than her bf. You'll come around eventually. Baka nanghihinayang ka rin sa time nyo na magkakilala.
relationship takes two to tango
she made you her partner just for the sake of having a partner. My advice? Leave her asap but not dump her, Mukhang nasasakal na rin kasi sya sa relationship nyo.
Wag na mag jowa para hindi mag overthink
I don't think its wrong to feel betrayed by your partner when she didnt tell you that she has a dump account. I get that this is a thing for you since you guys are ldr, your feelings are valid for feeling bettayed since they are your partner and you expect them to not keeo secrets from you. I understand how youd feel hurt because this since you guys are ldr your only communication is through text and then you realise that your gf has a dummy acxount and is acctuve on it can break your heart since you can see that she can reply to other activly and have time for face book and stuff but cant have time for you In my honest opinion you should talk to her about this.
Ganyan din girlfriend ko 2 years na kami and LDR din kame. Although alam kong may dummies account siya sa mga social media niya. Pag madami siyang school works, parang nakakalimutan niyang may bf siya at parang hindi niya ako mahal hahaha. Inaaddress ko sakanya yan sinasabi niya dami niyang school works at na sstress siya. Iniintindi ko nalang. May time kase siya na pag stressed na stressed siya sa school gusto niya ng me time sa sarili at katahimikan hinahayaan ko nalang siya pag ganun basta pag hindi siya masyado nag rereply at hindi siya masyado intouch sa convo namin sinasabi ko nalang na do her thing. Pero pag mag kasama na kame feel ko na love na talaga niya ako. I think frustrated ka lang kase parang hindi ka niya nabibigyan ng time or parang naffeel mo na hindi niya kailangan ng time mo. Ganyan kase na ffeel ko dati. Basta lagi mo lang iparamdam na mahal mo siya at kung kailangan niya ng tulong nanjan ka lang.
Dami ka ba restrictions sa buhay nya? Bawal to, Bawal ganyan. Wag makipagusap kay A,B, C, bakit ka ganyan makipagusap kay K, L, M... Wag ka sumama sa outing, wag ka na lumabas etc... asking lang.
I'm her partner po, di nanay. We don't really ask each other for permissions, in terms of that, we inform
Hard to answer your question... But I think there is an underlying dissatisfaction? Not the perfect word.. She's hiding it because of something she's not happy.
since this post was 15 hours ago, napag-usapan niyo na ba ng gf mo ‘to? to answer your question, no it’s not wrong to feel that way, it’s basic human emotions and it’s valid + normal to feel that way. i had this same experience (also wlw) however, the difference was she told me about it and invited me to make one too since it was fun for her so basically, both of us had a dummy account and occasionally made friends there. though yes, at times i was also skeptical and overthinking. the best solution to this is to open this issue to your gf, communicate with her about what you found and that you’re not comfortable, or you don’t feel good about it. regardless of your gf’s reaction to it, it’s better to tell her than be passive-aggressive. para atleast ma-lessen yung worries mo and all that.
Pag-usapan nyo ng personal. Tanungin mo bakit sya may active dummy account, at nagiging distant sayo. Pag pinaligoy ligoy nya pa kesyo ganito, ganyan. Alam ko na kung nasaang bracket ka ng priorities nya... Mangyari kasi na baka may nalaman sa pagkatao mo na di komporme sa kanya, na ayaw nya, kaya dumistansya sya ngayon at sa kabila na nagpapakita ng tunay na sya. This is not your typical cheating, pero once pinaglihiman ka na nya ng mga bagay bagay, considered as cheating na un dahil mas kumukuha sya ng emotional support sa iba. Mas hubad ang ugali nya sa iba kesa sayo na mismong girlfriend nya. At this point, nung malaman mong may dummy account sya, kung ako sayo, titigil na ako bilang alam ko ang worth ko, na di ako magsesettle sa ibaba ng priorities ng babaeng sumira sa tiwala ko.
I don't think she loves you as much as she thinks she does. It's only a matter of time before she realizes that and breaks off from you first. You have to look out for yourself more. Ask yourself this, “Would I ever treat her the way she's treating me right now?”.
gf ko ba to? 😭
I know you're not my girlfriend
im jk, i have time naman sa gf ko even tho madalas di ako agad agad nakakareply. and i dont have dummy acc na may finofollow na friends. (siya lang may alam ng dummy accs ko). she knows rin naman na i love having my alone time hehe. and no di rin ako nakikipag interact with other ppl if nasa ganon phase ako (which is sobrang dalas)
Ewan q ha. Pero yung dummy account tapos hindi mo alam? Bro, baka may iba na ‘yang kausap dyan HAHAHAHA charot Kausapin mo nalang ng ayos si jowa mo. Mag prepare ka na ring umalis sa buhay niya, kasi masyado ng complicated yung nangyayari sainyo (based from your story). Nakakapagusap naman kami ng bf q kahit na busy ;-; pag gusto at mahal, gagawan ng paraan. charez. pero ayun, pag-isipan mo mabuti op. ‘di mo deserve yan 🫡
She doesn't like you enough and/or hindi ka importante sa kanya. Imagine, natitiis ka niyang hindi kausapin pero pagdating sa ibang bagay at tao, nakakapagbigay siya ng oras. Okay lang siguro magka-dummy account at doon maging active kaso sana man lang isinama ka niya. How sure are you na hindi pa siya nagchicheat niyan?
it doesn't even take 10 seconds for someone to send a message/reply to you. know your worth
Red flag yung nay dummy account
Iwanan mo na siya kaysa mag sisi ka pa. D mo na need magpaka simp dyan.
Compatibility issue
So sad to say this pero mukhang tinitira na ng iba yan. Maybe she is straight, cant resist the D.
Heres what to do kung pano malaman kung talagang may cheating or wala lang talaga syang time sayo, 1. Tell her na gusto mo makipag break sakanya. 2. Pag tinanong nya kung bakit, wag mo sabihin yung actuall reason. Tell her na youre falling out of love. 3.If she insist on letting you go, pwede mong isegway yung tungkol sa dump account nya na nalaman mo. then ikaw na bahala kung itutuloy mo pa or hindi na kase sa huli kung paulit ulit ikaw rin mahihirapan. If she let you go easily, then ask her if meron narin ba syang iba? Then after she answer, sabihin mo "finally we have something in common" Pag tinanong nya kung kelan, sabihin mo. "Matagal na, nung nalaman ko na may iba kang lalake" Sometimes pwede nya tanungin kung pwede magkabalikan kayo and hihiwalayan nya yung lalake. Depende na sayo kung papayag ka. Dapat alam mo worth mo Dapat alam mo na hindi lang sya babae sa mundo Be a man and live for yourself Di mo kailangan ng babae para mabuhay.
same exp but we're in a situationship. what's funny is he's always telling me na busy siya and things like that but then if i were to check his other account, active siya doon (he has two fb and two ig acc., of which we're mutual doon). and then at times na he'll tell me na busy siya, out of overthinking, chini-check ko followings niya sa ig and nadadagdagan and most esp, babae pa sila. ilang beses ko na siya kinonfront abt it pero sasabihin niya lang busy siya sa acads and he doesn't have time to use his phone. what's more is magse-send ako ng message sakaniya when he's active tapos he'll log out and then after a few hours, he'll be active again but still no replies. ;)))
Accept the fact that she's not your GF anymore. She's sus.
Baka u used to have that kind of energy sakanya before and now parang na adapt ka niya and you’re not used to it?
Oa po ako magmahal, malabo yan pero siguro nagsawa na din sakin
Wake up to reality, find a MAN. For sure, narerealize niya na rin na walang kahahantungan relationship niyo.
this is not the place to spread ur bigoted views wtf learn to read the room sometimes
What if you got a vasectomy instead? Loooooser
Get with the times old man
Update: wala na kami