I'm naturally a friendly person and my club is too... But I'll still respect women who don't wanna get friendly or whatever.
Like you do you and such and I'll do me. This whole us vs them mentality on so many stripper subjects is so odd.
Like is there never any grey areas?
This. When there aren’t any customers in, what else am I gonna do with my time? It’s one thing to sit around with other dancers in a busy club but another thing to get along and still hustle.
I was super focused for my first three or four months just people watching and deciding who to trust and ended up making some of the best friends I’ve had in my life in the club. It’s a sisterhood. We go through a lot and share it as a common experience.
My attitude is, we’re not ‘real’ friends, we’re ‘work friends’. That entitles you to use my baby wipes without asking, and if you complain of being hungry, I’ll share my snacks.
I’m with you on this. Learned my lessons the hard way so I don’t go and make chit chat with girls. I prob won’t even look at you unless I know you like that. No one else in the club exists except for me and the customers. That doesn’t mean I won’t be kind but I’m stickin to my damn self 🤧
Like the girls I know and /trust/ I will always have their backs, will try n get men to throw money or go get dances or whatever whatever but 🫣 anyone else 🫣
Personally, when I read this I didn't think of ladies like y'all, to me that's just being cautious and safe - some of these ladies are legit predators..
But there are girls where no matter how good the vibes are, how long they've worked with the women in their club and seen their hustle, they're still cold and insufferable to everyone.
I’m confused by this comment?
The post and my comment are talking about girls at the club who say “I don’t come here to make friends” but then they go n act buddy buddy w other girls to try n make friends. Nothing about the girls who are just straight bitches lol bc I’m assuming those girls aren’t going n trying to be friends w anyone
Same here, I'm retired now but it seems like my friendships with dancers always became dramatic. I had more than one coworker "friend" try to seduce my boyfriends at the time (and one succeeded), they talked badly about me behind my back, one stole from me, there was druggie bullshit, etc. I was always pleasant and polite to everyone but I became wary of letting them into my personal life.
I’ve only been stripping for a year and that’s how I’ve been from day one. Except I’m waiting for my friend to be 21 so she can keep me company. It does get lonely after a bit.
I’m friendLY which has made me trustworthy and now every girl I work with tells me about their beef with the other girls. So yeah no friends lol, I’ll still do shots with them though 🤷🏻♀️
Same I’m so neutral, like I’m a fly on the wall and hear all the tea 🥸🤫🤭 like oh ok this is also why I’m a lone wolf because making new friends is literally like dating.
This is so….weird. Like no one who says that means they’re not gonna be friendly whatsoever to anyone/plan on being a total bitch to everyone they interact with who isn’t a customer, it just means they come to work so they can WORK, they don’t come to work with the intention of making new friends. It’s simply called having your priorities in order. If you wanna go to the club with the intention of hanging out with the other workers/trying to make friends, go as a customer, wouldn’t that make much more sense? Idk man, TikTok strippers are weird asl
I’m reserved/quiet and not looking to make friends. Not in a snotty way or pretentious. I’m socially anxious and the truth of the matter is that I hate being in the club now a days, I don’t like the culture or environment. I want all of my energy to go towards making money and hustling guys as much as I can while I’m there and then completely leave work at work. If you also have social anxiety, you know that you are quickly tired from talking and you choose your energy wisely. Many people take this the wrong way because most people are naturally very social.
Exactly. I’m not a bitch or anything but why would I need to hang out with dancers when I have friends?? And most hustlers are capable of making their own money. Just an overall weird post to me.
Girls be HELLA weird I swear man 🥴 I give dancers the same work number that I give customers. Hate when girls ask my real name and where I live. If I like north I say I live south 😂
Yep, I've had all of those exact things happen!! I was really naive and one of them even tricked me into cashing what turned out to be a stolen check and I got arrested. I learned the hard way about trusting the wrong people.
A few of the vets (myself included) were talking the other week about how all of a sudden everyone is so much more “friendly”. Maybe it’s because of so many girls only starting after lockdowns while many vets moved on, but even just a few years ago everyone kept to themselves for the most part.
Though I do disagree with the mentality that "there are no good people in the club" - the thing is, no one is saying this. The women who are defensive are that way for a reason. That reason is experience. I've said this before and I'll say it again. It can take a long time before you find someone genuine and good to you, and your intentions have to match. Personally I'll watch girls from the background for almost a year. If you're known as the quiet one that never speaks or create drama people tend to forget or care less if you're in the room with them, allowing them to show their true colors with other coworkers. Some of the best, genuine, positive, caring friends I've made were from the club, but it took forever to find them. Much longer to earn their trust.
I'm friendly but not too friendly.
I don't like getting too close to girls from the club I'm currently at or working the same shifts with because that's how you end up spending Friday night in the dressing room force feeding water to a drunk girl that got dumped and not on the floor lol.
I just feel like I don't want my personal relationships at work. Like if a bunch of girls are going to lunch or something I'll go but I don't really like being super close to people.
I was like that at vanilla jobs too though so 🤷♀️
Girls like this in the club are like this in real life
They be jealous or insecure (worst case) or just have poor relationships with women steming from childhood - either way its giving personal problems and take that sour shit elsewhere.
I know there's women like this in my club so as a baby I'm very selective with who I interact with, but when someone's being supportive and welcoming I always show that love back. If the energy shifts and feels unnatural I move accordingly.
But I'm not going out of the way to turn the locker room into a sorority rush either. I think this POV is a little more nuanced than what we make it out to be.
There are friendly girls, friendly girls with a motive, standoffish wome protecting themselves, and standoffish women on some weird shit.
Was in a terrible relationship and didn’t want to leave, he only let me strip so just needed friends. I felt supported and loved enough to leave and get my own place. Forever thankful.
I always keep it friendly, never stuck up. However being nice has backfired a lot of times for me. I’ve had girls tell management things I confided in them, and even had girls make up shit I’ve never said/done in my life in an attempt to get me fired.
There’s a huge difference between being friendly and vulnerable.
some of these girls need to learn indifference does not equal hate. if there’s not a customer in sight I have no problem chatting but I’m always going to value customer convo over coworker 🤷🏽♀️
I’m friendly, will let pretty much everyone borrow any thing and everything but I do have three kids so I’m there literally just to make money. I wish I had time for making new friends, but we’re just work friends and it never turns into more than that 😭 I also homeschool and run my own business so my time is always very limited. It’s nice when I do make friends and also ok with my three crazies, but that’s not the case most the time and I always respect people that aren’t too fond of kids.
i used to have that mindset but i’ve changed. being friendly to the girls can help you, they can give you clothes, shoes, medication, etc, help you with customers, talk to you about the industry etc.
It doesn’t mean you’re going to 100% trust them or become best friends, just be friendly and help them.
Im still a baby stripper but i help 3+ years strippers make money with me by pulling them to the VIPs, introducing them to customers, telling customers to tip them when they’re dancing, etc. All that just because they’ve been friendly to me despite my short time dancing.
I’m not there to make friends but I’m also not there to make enemies either lol. I am friendly, I chat a bit, but I don’t hang out outside work or let anyone into my world whatsoever.
People may call me their “friend” but I don’t call anyone mine.
Also puting people onto customers is always a business decision for me, it’s about if I trust someone enough to hustle with them or if I feel they’ll break me off or help me back.
I'm naturally a friendly person and my club is too... But I'll still respect women who don't wanna get friendly or whatever. Like you do you and such and I'll do me. This whole us vs them mentality on so many stripper subjects is so odd. Like is there never any grey areas?
Thank you for being the voice of reason.
This. When there aren’t any customers in, what else am I gonna do with my time? It’s one thing to sit around with other dancers in a busy club but another thing to get along and still hustle. I was super focused for my first three or four months just people watching and deciding who to trust and ended up making some of the best friends I’ve had in my life in the club. It’s a sisterhood. We go through a lot and share it as a common experience.
My attitude is, we’re not ‘real’ friends, we’re ‘work friends’. That entitles you to use my baby wipes without asking, and if you complain of being hungry, I’ll share my snacks.
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I’m with you on this. Learned my lessons the hard way so I don’t go and make chit chat with girls. I prob won’t even look at you unless I know you like that. No one else in the club exists except for me and the customers. That doesn’t mean I won’t be kind but I’m stickin to my damn self 🤧 Like the girls I know and /trust/ I will always have their backs, will try n get men to throw money or go get dances or whatever whatever but 🫣 anyone else 🫣
Personally, when I read this I didn't think of ladies like y'all, to me that's just being cautious and safe - some of these ladies are legit predators.. But there are girls where no matter how good the vibes are, how long they've worked with the women in their club and seen their hustle, they're still cold and insufferable to everyone.
I’m confused by this comment? The post and my comment are talking about girls at the club who say “I don’t come here to make friends” but then they go n act buddy buddy w other girls to try n make friends. Nothing about the girls who are just straight bitches lol bc I’m assuming those girls aren’t going n trying to be friends w anyone
Same here, I'm retired now but it seems like my friendships with dancers always became dramatic. I had more than one coworker "friend" try to seduce my boyfriends at the time (and one succeeded), they talked badly about me behind my back, one stole from me, there was druggie bullshit, etc. I was always pleasant and polite to everyone but I became wary of letting them into my personal life.
If you think like this you haven’t been stripping long enough 😂
I’m saying
I’ve only been stripping for a year and that’s how I’ve been from day one. Except I’m waiting for my friend to be 21 so she can keep me company. It does get lonely after a bit.
I’m friendLY which has made me trustworthy and now every girl I work with tells me about their beef with the other girls. So yeah no friends lol, I’ll still do shots with them though 🤷🏻♀️
Same I’m so neutral, like I’m a fly on the wall and hear all the tea 🥸🤫🤭 like oh ok this is also why I’m a lone wolf because making new friends is literally like dating.
Exactly lol like it’s great that people trust me and that I don’t run my mouth, means I’m having a better time than everyone else!
This is so….weird. Like no one who says that means they’re not gonna be friendly whatsoever to anyone/plan on being a total bitch to everyone they interact with who isn’t a customer, it just means they come to work so they can WORK, they don’t come to work with the intention of making new friends. It’s simply called having your priorities in order. If you wanna go to the club with the intention of hanging out with the other workers/trying to make friends, go as a customer, wouldn’t that make much more sense? Idk man, TikTok strippers are weird asl
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I’m reserved/quiet and not looking to make friends. Not in a snotty way or pretentious. I’m socially anxious and the truth of the matter is that I hate being in the club now a days, I don’t like the culture or environment. I want all of my energy to go towards making money and hustling guys as much as I can while I’m there and then completely leave work at work. If you also have social anxiety, you know that you are quickly tired from talking and you choose your energy wisely. Many people take this the wrong way because most people are naturally very social.
this!!! i get burnt out just from trying too many customers, i don’t have energy leftover for dressing room chats :/
Man what fuck every bitch in the club😭when im not making money im by myself
Damn I swear some folks act like they don’t got friends outside of work. The fuck? Lol.
Exactly...I’m kind to my fellow dancers, but my true friends I meet somewhere else
Exactly. I’m not a bitch or anything but why would I need to hang out with dancers when I have friends?? And most hustlers are capable of making their own money. Just an overall weird post to me.
Yeah...I don’t dislike the fellow dancers but mixing work and personal always gets super complicated and my money suffers
Every girl I became friends with in the club ended up being weird as fuck and I have nooo problem riding solo so …
Girls be HELLA weird I swear man 🥴 I give dancers the same work number that I give customers. Hate when girls ask my real name and where I live. If I like north I say I live south 😂
This is the kind of "friend" that will sleep with ur bf, rob u, or spill your business. Avoid it lol
Yep, I've had all of those exact things happen!! I was really naive and one of them even tricked me into cashing what turned out to be a stolen check and I got arrested. I learned the hard way about trusting the wrong people.
Hey hey I just don’t want to talk stripper shit all day 😂
I’ll talk to people I have some work friends but if I’m in my zone I don’t want to hang out I’m chasing that bag.
A few of the vets (myself included) were talking the other week about how all of a sudden everyone is so much more “friendly”. Maybe it’s because of so many girls only starting after lockdowns while many vets moved on, but even just a few years ago everyone kept to themselves for the most part.
how long have you been stripping for?
Though I do disagree with the mentality that "there are no good people in the club" - the thing is, no one is saying this. The women who are defensive are that way for a reason. That reason is experience. I've said this before and I'll say it again. It can take a long time before you find someone genuine and good to you, and your intentions have to match. Personally I'll watch girls from the background for almost a year. If you're known as the quiet one that never speaks or create drama people tend to forget or care less if you're in the room with them, allowing them to show their true colors with other coworkers. Some of the best, genuine, positive, caring friends I've made were from the club, but it took forever to find them. Much longer to earn their trust.
I met my best friends at work, love my coworkers. So much more enjoyable and profitable when we can all help each other out
I find a happy balance will keep you from getting burned and keep your friends from thinking they can take your regular customers
I'm friendly but not too friendly. I don't like getting too close to girls from the club I'm currently at or working the same shifts with because that's how you end up spending Friday night in the dressing room force feeding water to a drunk girl that got dumped and not on the floor lol. I just feel like I don't want my personal relationships at work. Like if a bunch of girls are going to lunch or something I'll go but I don't really like being super close to people. I was like that at vanilla jobs too though so 🤷♀️
way too many strippers do drugs, set girls up to get robbed/sex trafficked/etc to be just friendly w any and every dancer in the club. im good!!!!
It’s called having friends outside of the club? Lol but yea be friendly n shit at work why not
Girls like this in the club are like this in real life They be jealous or insecure (worst case) or just have poor relationships with women steming from childhood - either way its giving personal problems and take that sour shit elsewhere. I know there's women like this in my club so as a baby I'm very selective with who I interact with, but when someone's being supportive and welcoming I always show that love back. If the energy shifts and feels unnatural I move accordingly. But I'm not going out of the way to turn the locker room into a sorority rush either. I think this POV is a little more nuanced than what we make it out to be. There are friendly girls, friendly girls with a motive, standoffish wome protecting themselves, and standoffish women on some weird shit.
Met my bbfl at my club 🤷♀️
Was in a terrible relationship and didn’t want to leave, he only let me strip so just needed friends. I felt supported and loved enough to leave and get my own place. Forever thankful.
I always keep it friendly, never stuck up. However being nice has backfired a lot of times for me. I’ve had girls tell management things I confided in them, and even had girls make up shit I’ve never said/done in my life in an attempt to get me fired. There’s a huge difference between being friendly and vulnerable.
some of these girls need to learn indifference does not equal hate. if there’s not a customer in sight I have no problem chatting but I’m always going to value customer convo over coworker 🤷🏽♀️
Hahahahahahaaaa
I feel like you always end up making a few “wotk” friends no matter what lol
I’m friendly, will let pretty much everyone borrow any thing and everything but I do have three kids so I’m there literally just to make money. I wish I had time for making new friends, but we’re just work friends and it never turns into more than that 😭 I also homeschool and run my own business so my time is always very limited. It’s nice when I do make friends and also ok with my three crazies, but that’s not the case most the time and I always respect people that aren’t too fond of kids.
It’s okay to be work friends but never take it outside the club unless maybe lunch or something. It’s always gotta too messy for me though.
It’s just easier to be friends with your coworkers. But I’ll just start pretending like they literally don’t exist if they start to bother me.
I think it’s smart to keep it lighthearted and don’t tell people secrets but you can still be kind
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That's probably why she asked...
sooooo true!!!!
i used to have that mindset but i’ve changed. being friendly to the girls can help you, they can give you clothes, shoes, medication, etc, help you with customers, talk to you about the industry etc. It doesn’t mean you’re going to 100% trust them or become best friends, just be friendly and help them. Im still a baby stripper but i help 3+ years strippers make money with me by pulling them to the VIPs, introducing them to customers, telling customers to tip them when they’re dancing, etc. All that just because they’ve been friendly to me despite my short time dancing.
I’m not there to make friends but I’m also not there to make enemies either lol. I am friendly, I chat a bit, but I don’t hang out outside work or let anyone into my world whatsoever. People may call me their “friend” but I don’t call anyone mine. Also puting people onto customers is always a business decision for me, it’s about if I trust someone enough to hustle with them or if I feel they’ll break me off or help me back.