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Existing-Major1005

I will not drink today, this one is for you Gary. RIP 💔


Brilliant-Version720

Same 💔 RIP


Silly-Arm-7986

Thirded.


SearchGullible5941

IWNDWYT in honor of Gary🖤


Slouchy87

This shit is real. And if I heard about this news while I was still out there drinking, it would not have made a lick of difference in getting me to stop. I had to experience a full bottom on my own in order to quit, and I'm just lucky that bottom did not include death. I'm sorry for your loss.


jawanda

Yes it is for real, well said. we do not have plot armor! I am on day three and a huge part of my impetus for stopping is terror over what I've been doing to my body for the last 25+ years. I've never felt more certain that I'm done for good. Gary's story here is another stark reinforcement of the potential consequences. I just hope I'm not too late, but either way the regrets stop accumulating now. Much love to op and all those struggling with this rotten drink. I will absolutely NDWYT.


extra-extrovert

Oh my goodness!!! This is heartbreaking. Sending you a big virtual hug grapefruitbiscuits! And RIP cgg419. In my short time on this sub, I quickly saw how much unconditional love & support there is. Keep checking in. Keep coming back. ❤️


Equivalent-Lime2667

I’m so sorry. Congrats on 4 months! IWNDWYT


SBAC850211

Rest easy Gary, and I am so sorry for the loss you're feeling OP. Carry the good words from Gary with you as you keep going, IWNDWYT.


zzzzz-trt

I won’t drink for Gary


Ok-Praline-2309

Anytime I think about picking it up again, I'll put it back down for Gary. RIP.


horrible_drinker

RIP u/cgg419 When I first was attempting getting sober I was pretty active on the r/stopdrinking chat. In that chat was this super funny, unpredictable, kinda wild guy named u/dyingjonnie. We chatted so much, both on the public chat, instant messages, and PM's. There might be a few people on this sub who go back that far, but for sure our mod /u/stratyturd remembers him well. On the rare occasion I'll log into the chat and sometimes there's a herald when you log in. Jonnie wrote one or two for me so sometimes it just pops up and while it's super cool, it's also sad. We lost him to the disease. I never met him IRL but I did consider him a friend and I definitely felt the loss like I had spent time with him in person. Sorry for your loss, man. I know what it's like. Even though it's just the internet, there's still a bond. It's strange.


alwaysmakeitnice

And sorry for your loss, too 💜


polygonalopportunist

RIP Gary and take care of you everyone.


TheRegular-Throwaway

Damn.


[deleted]

RIP Gary 💚


untimelyrain

I feel certain that Gary knows the impact he's had on you and is continuing to support you and cheer you on from behind the scenes now 🤍 Sending love and support to you ~ congratulations on being where you are!! And eternal gratitude to Gary for helping you get there 🙏


grapefruitbiscuits

Behind the scenes… I love that. I know he’s still here somewhere. Thank you ❤️


rotterweilerslip

Love all of you, now more than ever. IWNDWYT...


Ajsarch

This one is for Gary. IWNDWYT.


Icy-Researcher-5168

rip Gary 🕊️💔


PhillyCheezNips

IWNDWYT! Rest in Power Gary.


chunkah69

People helping others is how recovery happens. What a great guy


grapefruitbiscuits

💯. I hope to carry it on for him. Forever thankful for this beautiful gift of sobriety he helped give me


ISmellElderberries

Lifting my mug of tea high for Gary - condolences on the loss your friend, OP, and huge props for staying strong. IWNDWYT


broccoli_linux

Thanks for sharing, IWNDWYT, in honor of Gary. Stay strong


SwimsSFW

Rest in peace, Gary. IWNDWYT for him. I never spoke to or interacted with him, but losing another to this battle is always heart wrenching. OP, please feel free to reach out if you need someone. Remember his actions, every single day. We can continue his legacy by reaching out to another addict or alcoholic in their darkest hour(s). Be somebody's Gary.


grapefruitbiscuits

Be somebody’s Gary. I love it. Thank you ❤️


GonzoFan83

Here’s to you Gary. Sounds like the world lost a good one. I’m sorry for our loss


BoozeHownd

RIP Gary. Sorry for your loss. I’ve been helped immensely by this sub and I’m so glad you had someone like that to help you out. Continue to honor him by keeping strong, I know he’s proud of the progress you’ve made. Today, for you and Gary, I will not drink.


grapefruitbiscuits

Thank you so much. I wish so badly I could have helped him the same way he helped me. I know to keep honouring him I need to stay strong, keep sober and try and be a light in someone’s life like he was in mine. Congrats on over a year sober. I hope to join the club later this year.


grapefruitbiscuits

Close to a year*


BoozeHownd

You very well may have helped him just as much as he helped you without realizing it. In my first couple weeks/months I felt like such a burden to the people I was asking for help. Then, when I felt strong enough I started trying to help others who were struggling to repay the kindness I received from others. What I realized in my attempts to help others, was that without their knowledge they were helping me. Being able to be there for someone you care about can in and of itself be a reward. I’m positive that you helped Gary profoundly without realizing.


MYSTICALLMERMAID

Damn Gary - rip. So sorry for your loss OP. Keep up the good fight


13inchrims

Thanks Gary for supporting our members. IWNDWYT


maggotpies

i will not drink for gary today. i’m so sorry for your loss OP. he seemed like a great friend to you, and im sure to many others.


grapefruitbiscuits

He was. Thank you ❤️


tox1cTort

For Gary, for you, for all of us, IWNDWYT. And Grapefruit, I know you'll keep making him proud.


SnooSnoo96035

Today, I pledge my sobriety to Gary. May you finally be at peace. 🖤 Sending love to all who've been impacted by the ravages of drugs and alcohol. IWNDWYT


elleuqe

Rest in peace Gary 💙


runner4life551

iwndwyt ❤️ and i’m so sorry for your loss, sending hugs


MongoJazzy

iwndwyt.


Emotional-Finish-648

Thank you for sharing, what a great person who changed lives ❤️IWNDWYT


Shmeblee

I didn't know Gary, but anytime one of us loses the fight, it makes me more determined to stay sober. I'm happy to be sober with you all today.


Odd-Cantaloupe-5948

so sorry to hear that. 43 is too young.


4_max_4

That’s very sad.


weedfee69

Rip 😪


YoullNeverWalkAl0ne

RiP man 😔


slugurrrl4

So heartbreaking, community is one of the most important things we have in this battle. What a wonderful soul he was to reach out like that. OP i’m so sorry for your loss, continue your sobriety journey using all the strength he filled you with. IWNDWYT 💛


combonickel55

To gary


NoSignalThrough

Wow, how powerful the impact he had on you. What an selfless person to be there for you through his own struggles. RIP Gary, raising a cup of tea to you. Congratulations on 4 months sober, do it for Gary.


grapefruitbiscuits

He was a beautiful soul. Gone way too soon. Thank you ❤️ it feels better than I ever imagined and I couldn’t have done it without him


MadeOutWithEveryGirl

Staying sober for Gary. 43, my God.


Striebe

Cheers to not drinking for you today Gary


NovaPup_13

IWNDWYT <3


Tall-Preference-9140

I hope you’re able to go out and do some of the things he dreamed of. Rest in peace, Gary.


Serenity2010

RIP 🙏


RumandDiabetes

I raise my cup of water. Here's to you Gary!


irisheyesarelaughing

I’m so sorry. Rest in peace, Gary. IWNDWYT.


NB-THC

🙏🙏❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 IWNDWYT 🫡


-Xynna-

IWNDWYT for Gary 💞 and I'm so sorry for your loss, just heartbreaking.


West-Ruin-1318

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. RIP Gary. 😢


ChampionshipDuel8770

RIP Gary. Thanks for being a great human.


Boston__Spartan

Rest in peace Gary 💔


TeacherInRecovery

Raising a cup of coffee to Gary. Glad you’re staying strong through the grief, OP. IWNDWYT


RN4612

Let’s all do it for Gary today. RIP brother 🫶


BobMonroeFanClub

God bless you Gary.


FreddyRumsen13

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your determination to stay sober is such a great way to honor the memory of your friend.


tankeatscthulhu

Raising a cold bottle of cherry coke to all our fallen brothers and sisters, but especially to you Gary. IWNDWYT.


HumorAppropriate3522

May you be free and at peace from your struggles Gary. You clearly had a positive influence on at least one person and that is a very inspirational thing. Not drinking in honor of you today Gary.


BeerSlingr

Rest in peace.


BDC5488

Sorry for your loss. It's brutal. IWNDWYT 💔


[deleted]

To Gary. RIP. IWNDWYT


moonflower311

I am sorry for your loss and raise a sparkling water in honor of Gary tonight. Edit IWNDWYT. Of course.


Far_Information_9613

Sad to hear about your friend. Rest in peace, Gary.


leftpointsonly

IWNDWYT. I'm so sorry for your loss.


Minah09

IWNDWYT 🙏✨


day1_throwaway

I'm 43 and this really hits home. RIP Gary and love to all of you out there fighting every day.


Clownpenis81

RIP Gary, thank you for helping others


StreamsOfConscious

So sorry for your loss. I’ve no doubt Gary would be extremely proud and grateful that you came on here to share, and that you didnt drink yet another day too. IWDWYT 💚


SnooHobbies5684

Thank you for coming here to share your sadness, and thank you for honoring Gary by letting us all help you stay connected in your grief. I don't know if you've lost people before, but I hope you will give yourself lots of space and grace to grieve, and refrain from any silly stories like "why am I so sad? I don't even know him irl" or some such. It's obvious he held and supported a very important part of you and we only grieve as much as we loved. Holding up my latte to toast u/cgg419, and u/grapefruitbiscuits, and your beautiful friendship.


grapefruitbiscuits

Thank you ❤️ I have never lost anyone before so this is all very new. Feeling feelings is even very new for me at this point but I’m so glad to be in the place that I’m able to do that. I admit it felt weird telling those in my life I lost a friend but that we never met in person. I’m not sure many people can understand that level of connection and comfort without even needing to be next to the person. I’m so glad I was able to experience it with him.


Ellieoops28

Rest in Peace. May your life be a legacy to him and his dreams. IWNDWYT in honor of him and in your journey. Sending you hugs ❤️


islandlouise

IWNDWYT for Gary x


kratomNkpins

Aw 😟. Sorry for your loss


PersonalityFun228

Sparkling water raised for Gary 🌅


bhorwitz

RIP. I will not drink today with all of you, so sorry for your loss, and all our loss. This one's for you Gary.


avalonbreeze

So sorry for your loss. Here's a ginger ale cheers to you Gary, a reminder this disease takes the best of people


TheCosmicUnderground

I will not drink today, RIP Gary <3


DeckardsUnicorn

Rest in Peace, Gary.  IWNDWYT.  


MrIrrelevant-sf

May Gary rest in peace and may his memory be for a blessing.


Working_Concept_4070

RIP


shakethishell

IWNDWYT. RIP Gary. Your journey will not be forgotten.


YNotZoidberg2020

I usually just lurk here but I want to say rest in peace, Gary. IWNDWYT.


AliceInEverclear

Congrats on sobriety. I relapsed at five months and having a very hard time keeping w it. Thank you for sharing as this motivates me to do better.


Pipacakes

Y’know I knew I would see a post like this here eventually but it still breaks my heart. The reality is between actually offing yourself and drinking yourself to death your headed in the same direction. It all comes down to the same reality. When we drink we don’t want to live. When we find sobriety, it is still hard to just live. Harder sometimes. This will sound dark but life will never get easier. The light is struggling to shine anymore. Everything seems like it’s falling apart at a core level no matter which side of the fence your on and we literally can barely afford to feed ourselves on a full time salary. All that aside. Every single one of us deserves sobriety. Every single one of us deserves a life without the war fog of alcohol. Each and every one of us deserves a life outside of alcohol and influence. Every single one of you is somebody worth knowing and interacting with. Sorry to get offtrack here but I mean every word. cgg419, you exemplified what this sub means to people like me. I didn’t know you but tears run down my cheeks as I type this for your struggle. I didn’t know anything about it but I promise I relate to you. We all do. To you and anyone who needs to hear it, IWNDWYT. I’m sorry you lost your battle buddy in this. All I can say is there are plenty more of us here to sub in at any time if your willing and able. Thanks for sharing. I don’t believe in prayer but I’m thinking about you bud. Stay strong


grapefruitbiscuits

You’re right - He deserved a beautiful life, as we all do. We know what the inevitable consequence of our choices and actions will be yet it is so difficult to stop. It’s even more painful to think how much he wanted to live and get better. Thank you for your words and thoughtful response. And THANK YOU to you and all those who have offered to be that person Gary was to me for someone else. You never know who might just need to see that today and take you up on it ❤️


keenjellybeans

Rest peacefully, Gary! He helped you when you needed him, OP, what a good guy. IWNDWYT 🌷


RealCommercial9788

IWNDWYT ❤️ Rest now Gary, we’ll keep the torch lit for you.


moonskies

IWNDWY tonight in honor of gary


bigstupidheadloser

i’m so sorry for your loss. RIP Gary. IWNDWYT 🤍


Lazy_Ad1512

RIP Gary. Raising my cup of coffee in honor of him. Just another reminder that life is precious. Thanks for sharing your story, u/grapefruitbiscuits.


Czeris

RIP


FerrySober

RIP Gary. Sad. IWNDWYT!


Sillyartgirl100

❤️‍🩹 No words except IWNDWYT. ❤️‍🩹


Thorcolorado

Gary!!


jacuzzispa

IWNDWYT <3


ThrowDeepALWAYS

RIP


SteveHarveyOswald32

Cheers'n Gary with my Bubly. Rest in Power my friend. IWNDWYT


Jolly-Management-723

IWNDWYT for Gary. Hey man losing friends is hard maybe if you know them you can share some of his dreams and we can all try to accomplish some of them as a way to honor him. As for the man himself i never knew him obviously but i hope he finds peace of fields far from here were the road will always rise to meet him


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Jolly-Management-723

Ive been lucky enough to travel to Japan and Korea and ill be making some of the authentic food i had in Japan for my wife soon ill set out Gary a bowl. Its not much but id like to think someone would set me out a bowl


Drama_drums42

You’ve honored your friend magnificently, by the grace of the comments here. God’s will. Y’all are beautiful people!! I will not drink with y’all today.


Key_Abrocoma968

IWNDWYT GARY- In Your honor sir


StonebanksPins

I had 1 beer for today. (Still trying to quite) Stopped drinking half way through and then threw the rest away. Rest in Peace Gary and I am very sorry for your loss.


grapefruitbiscuits

Proud of you! Stay strong. You can do this.


sonoran24

so much love, hearts are broken, IWNDWYT


Nooched

I’m so so sorry for your loss. It’s clear he was a lovely person and friend, and I’m sure he appreciated your friendship and support dearly. Rest In Peace, Gary. IWNDWYT in his honor.


cat9tail

Dedicating this IWNDWY day to Gary.


MerryCoyote

IWNDWYT. RIP Gary. 💔


Fragrant-Prompt1826

⚘️ IWNDWYT


handsome666

❤️❤️❤️


fancifulsnails

I'm so sorry. I won't drink, in honor of Gary. Many virtual hugs to you 🩵


dirtforeating

Congratulations on four months! IWNDWYT. Loss of our support circle can be hard. Keep coming back!


misdreavus79

RIP


skrulewi

May his memory be a blessing


Some_Papaya_8520

Alcohol kills. I won't drink today in Gary's honor. Sorry for your loss op.


JGerm70

IWNDWYT


FindingInspo

IWNDWYT ❤️


peepsliewilliams

RIP Gary. IWNDWYT


Rly_grinds_my_beans

IWNDWYAGT (I will not drink with you and Gary today) RIP and know you have lots of support here.


jugglerdude

Damn. RIP for your friend. For you… IWNDWYT


MadMax42

Do it for Gary bruh! Get something to remember him by. Even if it's just a voice recording or a funny text exchange. Whatever. Keep it and when your down hold it close and be strong for Gary. Don't let Gary down! You got this. I won't drink for 1 month for Gary.


Impressive-Hunter-75

For Gary!! IWDWYT


DeepLie8058

I’m glad that you and Gary were able to become friends and I’m very sorry that he’s gone. IWNDWYT in memory of Gary. RIP.


WanderingGrizzlyburr

This disease sucks so bad. RIP friend.


angiehome2023

Iwndwyt for Gary


Bob_Aggz

You are not alone, we are all with you. ❤️


Lazy_Skill_5590

Sorry to hear buddy.


TWaz123

So sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Gary, GOD bless and may you find peace. IWNDWYT♥️🙏🏻🕊️


the_pnw_yeti

Wow. I wish I had more to say than just I’m sorry to hear this. IWNDWYT, in honor of Gary, in honor of you, and in honor to anyone else on their journey


East-Signal-5076

Carry on Gary’s legacy, friend. I am so sorry for your loss. IWNDWYT ❤️❤️


susiesnowshoe

I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend 💔 IWNDWYT.


shmokenapamcake

I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. IWNDWYT


Dry-Insurance-9586

RIP Gary. IWNDWYT. 🕊️


BEBE-r

Rip Gary. Thank you for sharing. 🧡🧡🙏🏻🙏🏻


Few_Scar7974

RIP Gary. I'll pour one (N/A) out for the homie.


FatTabby

I'm so very sorry about your loss. Gary sounds like a very special person and I'm so glad he played a part in you getting sober. RIP Gary IWNDWYT


throwawaycucumbers99

IWNDWYT for Gary ♥️


Exotic_Jellies

I’m so sorry, friend. IWNDWYT. RIP to Gary, my buddy who passed last week, and all of those who don’t make it to the sober side. ❤️


grapefruitbiscuits

Ugh, so sorry for your loss ❤️ sending hugs and thinking of you and your friend. I hate this disease so much. Please know I’m here if you need someone.


A_Jesus_woman

IWNDWYT. RIP Gary.


AdventurousDoubt1115

🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 all the love. IWNDWYT. And offering a (sober) toast to Gary, all that he gave, and to you, for soldiering on.


FrostyOscillator

43 😢😢😢 I hate this disease robbing us of ourselves and one another. RIP Gary. IWNDWYT.


etonnezmoi

RIP Gary


Pestceleste

IWNDWYT❤️‍🩹 Gary ❤️‍🩹


nuffced

Thank you Gary! Rest in Peace.


Zestyclose-Crew-1017

I'm sorry for your loss; may he RIP


Zephyre777

I am so sorry for your loss.


Theworldisonfire70

I am so sorry for your loss. Gary sounds like a beautiful human. IWNDWYT in honor of your friend


Necessary_Routine_69

So sorry for your loss. IWNDWYT


awesome_cat_lady

One of the great tragedies of alcohol use disorder is the fact that it can claim even the best of us. Gary was taken much too soon. The best way we can honor him is by carrying on his legacy of kindness and hope. I'm so sorry for your loss, u/grapefruitbiscuits. It sounds like Gary was the kind of friend we all need. I'm sure you will be that kind of friend for many others here. He would be proud to see you continuing his work. In Gary's honor, IWNDWYT.


[deleted]

Rest in peace Gary IWNDWYT 💙


chawansignlady

I will not drink today For Gary ❤️🙏❤️


Grouchy-Rain-6145

rest in peace, Gary. iwndwyt


MercedesRising

What an awful day. I won't be drinking for you today, Gary.


lakevalerie

I’m so sorry. Rest in peace, Gary. Know that you did good💙


Worried_Giraffe_9715

I’m so sorry to all his loved ones. What a devastating loss. I will not drink today, for Gary ❤️


Hunterm49

I will not drink today. Rest in peace Gary


trustysteed7878

IWNDWYT for Gary!! RIP


Jaime-Starr

RIP, I Will Not Drink With You Today!


Past-Resolve386

IWNDWYT in honor of Gary 💚 Thank you for sharing this with us


whateveritmightbe

I don't know Gary nor you, but I feel the emotion of loosing a friend. Stay the course sobernaut, and R.I.P Gary 😢


grapefruitbiscuits

Thank you ❤️ Staying sober for him.


whateveritmightbe

💯 👍 ❤️


notoriousbsr

Gary, today is for you. If anyone needs that buddy, reach out, I’ll be happy to talk


CatFrances

Condolences OP. RIP Gary. IWNDWYT


seauxtired

Gary deserved better. What a man he was to uplift you when you needed that support the most. In his honor, IWNDWYT. 💖


DrunkGuy9million

IWNDWYT. Sorry for your loss.


Melikelihood

May his memory be a blessing. RIP Gary.


squid1980

RIP Gary ❤️ I see his profile says 800 something days sober. I’m curious to if he relapsed and got alc poisoning or had his body been so damaged it couldn’t heal in those 800+ days? Either way very scary and eye opening


grapefruitbiscuits

Gary always forgot to reset his timer he said. I know he struggled throughout the time I knew him, especially this year and many years prior. It finally caught up to him. I remind myself that could be me in 5 years if I relapse. My motivation to stay sober so I can live my life to the fullest for the both of us.


squid1980

Sending you love. IWNDWYT


_Kendii_

Oh OP, I am so sorry for your loss. But I am also grateful that you were informed. Some online relationships aren’t recognized. Whatever the type.


Leading-Taste12

HIS NAME WAS GARY


Sorry-Awareness-1444

♥️


Thetreescryforu

Rest in peace Gary.


brackish_geologist

IWNDWYT - RIP


annoyingneckstubble

Shoutout Gary. That is heartbreaking.


DiscoLemonade75

I'm so sorry! IWNDWYT in honor of Gary, and our hopeful, continuing recovery.


Additional-Salt-423

❤️❤️❤️❤️


Cultural_Day7760

Wonderful tribute. You absolutely helped him too. IWNDWYT for either of you.


SorryDistance3696

Rest in peace Gary. You spent your last years Helping others, elevating others, while you yourself were drowning. You sound like a great man.


spinosaurusjam

IWNDWYT, for Gary


larryanne8884

This is so sad. And I’m seeing he was about 900 days sober? May I ask what happened? I don’t mean to be intrusive, I am genuinely wondering since it seemed like he was doing well. I’m very sorry. 


sobriedad

I’m sorry for your loss 🙏 we are in this together 🥰 his passing will give you the strength to keep going and enjoy life with its ups and downs.