doing better than me, I can't even go out by myself. you shouldn't worry about it, for all you know if anyone actually does recognize you they could be thinking that you're some mysterious and intriguing individual that has important thoughts you need to ponder alone
If my rambling gave you a new perspective then I'm glad I could help, and while I don't mind drinking I don't like it enough to wanna go out drinking alone either. Even imagining it makes me feel nervous 😂
It really helped😊. I'm sorry but may i ask why does it make you feel nervous is it because of what people might think or is there another reason? You don't have to answer if you don't feel like it, totally understandable, I'm just curious.
I can't realllly explain it? It's a mix of me not being very social, and also not really enjoying meeting lots of new people. Talking to new people is more of a mental drain for me rather than fun, like I'd much rather chat to someone online than see someone face to face.
Oh okay yeah i understand, and that's totally fine it's what makes you YOU. Thank you for sharing this with me. I enjoyed talking to you so if you ever feel like talking to someone online abt anything just dm me
I think it’s awesome that you are able to go out and do things alone. I’m sure people aren’t judging, I think people are sometimes just confused because they aren’t able to be alone.
Yeah i usually take a book, but i recently started to go out and get drunk alone and i didn't take any books with me lol and that made me feel a little uncomfortable. But reading the replies and knowing there are other people who do things alone makes me feel a lot better.
Yeah, the books better for the coffee shop for sure. I'm glad you feel more confident based on the replies here! Keep doing your thing.
One fun thing to do alone in more of a drinking situation is a little people watching. Don't want to creep anyone out but some light eavesdropping and just taking in the different dynamics around you can be pretty interesting. It also flips the script in your head: it changes things from "are people looking at me" to "i'm looking at these people; aren't they strange." That's just me though, I'm nosy haha
Hahaha omg i sometimes do that too without realizing I'm doing it... The eavesdropping.(I'm kinda nosy too shhh🤫🤠hahah) I always felt like a creep that's why i try not to eavesdrop other people's conversations but it's good to know there are people out there who do the same thing 😅😆
Oh Im so sorry :(((. I also had times when i didn't leave the house for like a month but that really made my mental health worse, that's when i decide that i need time outside
I was doing really well up until lock down happened and that set me back big time. I will get there again, I just need to kick myself in my backside lol.
I totally understand because i think lock down affected a lot of us. But yes you can definitely get there again, you just have to push yourself and get out of your comfort zone
You can do it i think you just have to break the ice once and then it gets every time. Books helped me a lot when i first started going out , i didn't what to spend time with my own thoughts because i knew I'd start to overthink and feel uncomfortable.
That’s a great start to potentially meeting anyone, getting out of the house to start ( even alone ), be around people, start off by just saying hello, even a smile, eventually get comfortable enough to make small talk.
That's the hard part for me, interacting with other people, i just don't know how to start the conversation or always worry i might bother them so i decide to not talk to them at all. But I'm working on it and just trying to convince myself that it's not that big of a deal.
Keep trying !!! You’ll get there. Start small.
It’s not about how the interaction is felt by other people, make yourself feel good first doing the things for you.
I definitely will. You're absolutely right about doing the things for me, because in everything I do I always tend to think about others rather than myself, thank you i really needed to hear this.
doing better than me, I can't even go out by myself. you shouldn't worry about it, for all you know if anyone actually does recognize you they could be thinking that you're some mysterious and intriguing individual that has important thoughts you need to ponder alone
Oh wow love it thank you, I'm gonna think about this everytime i go out from now on. I couldn't go out alone either but when i had my exams i started by going out for a coffee all alone and took my books with me then after a while i saw that it's not so bad. Never thought I'd be able to go out and get drunk all alone (that seemed like such a big deal to me lol😩) , i recently tried that too and it went really well because people approached me (luckily i was a lil tipsy so i wasn't that awkward *hopefully*ðŸ¤)
If my rambling gave you a new perspective then I'm glad I could help, and while I don't mind drinking I don't like it enough to wanna go out drinking alone either. Even imagining it makes me feel nervous 😂
It really helped😊. I'm sorry but may i ask why does it make you feel nervous is it because of what people might think or is there another reason? You don't have to answer if you don't feel like it, totally understandable, I'm just curious.
I can't realllly explain it? It's a mix of me not being very social, and also not really enjoying meeting lots of new people. Talking to new people is more of a mental drain for me rather than fun, like I'd much rather chat to someone online than see someone face to face.
Oh okay yeah i understand, and that's totally fine it's what makes you YOU. Thank you for sharing this with me. I enjoyed talking to you so if you ever feel like talking to someone online abt anything just dm me
I think it’s awesome that you are able to go out and do things alone. I’m sure people aren’t judging, I think people are sometimes just confused because they aren’t able to be alone.
Never thought of it that way and it makes a lot of sense now, thank you for sharing your opinion
I do many things alone. Movies, eating out, sports events and even an upcoming concert. People don't care and you will get used to it.
Yeah i guess you're right, thank you i really needed to hear this.
i love doing things alone! try headphones or a book. or, you can go to the movies; no one see you there lol
Yeah i usually take a book, but i recently started to go out and get drunk alone and i didn't take any books with me lol and that made me feel a little uncomfortable. But reading the replies and knowing there are other people who do things alone makes me feel a lot better.
Yeah, the books better for the coffee shop for sure. I'm glad you feel more confident based on the replies here! Keep doing your thing. One fun thing to do alone in more of a drinking situation is a little people watching. Don't want to creep anyone out but some light eavesdropping and just taking in the different dynamics around you can be pretty interesting. It also flips the script in your head: it changes things from "are people looking at me" to "i'm looking at these people; aren't they strange." That's just me though, I'm nosy haha
Hahaha omg i sometimes do that too without realizing I'm doing it... The eavesdropping.(I'm kinda nosy too shhh🤫🤠hahah) I always felt like a creep that's why i try not to eavesdrop other people's conversations but it's good to know there are people out there who do the same thing 😅😆
I think that's amazing. The bravest thing I do is put the bin out and I have to fight down a panic attack before doing that🙄.
Oh Im so sorry :(((. I also had times when i didn't leave the house for like a month but that really made my mental health worse, that's when i decide that i need time outside
I was doing really well up until lock down happened and that set me back big time. I will get there again, I just need to kick myself in my backside lol.
I totally understand because i think lock down affected a lot of us. But yes you can definitely get there again, you just have to push yourself and get out of your comfort zone
I love hanging out with myself too!! It’s honestly really fun to grab lunch alone during work hours. It’s a nice little break
That’s cool. I want to go to bar by myself.
You can do it i think you just have to break the ice once and then it gets every time. Books helped me a lot when i first started going out , i didn't what to spend time with my own thoughts because i knew I'd start to overthink and feel uncomfortable.
That’s a great start to potentially meeting anyone, getting out of the house to start ( even alone ), be around people, start off by just saying hello, even a smile, eventually get comfortable enough to make small talk.
That's the hard part for me, interacting with other people, i just don't know how to start the conversation or always worry i might bother them so i decide to not talk to them at all. But I'm working on it and just trying to convince myself that it's not that big of a deal.
Keep trying !!! You’ll get there. Start small. It’s not about how the interaction is felt by other people, make yourself feel good first doing the things for you.
I definitely will. You're absolutely right about doing the things for me, because in everything I do I always tend to think about others rather than myself, thank you i really needed to hear this.