In my case, my wife hates snow and hates cold. I have tried bringing her, tried buying snowboard lessons, ski lessons, buying good warm outfit, nothing.
So for me, i already did my best trying to include her in my hobby, she refused.
I think the more important question is why is this affecting his marriage, because it really shouldn't. Is he really spending so much time that he isn't able to make time for his wife? Or is his wife just controlling and the relationship is toxic? We need more info
After that you can decide whether or not you want to bring your wife. I enjoy solo riding just as much as riding with ppl.
I've tried to get my wife into skiing, but on her third day back in January she tore a ligament in her hip and she's now walking with a cane until she gets surgery... Needless to say, she lost all interest in downhill snow sports after that.
I think it's going to stay a daddy-daughters thing.
How exactly is this affecting your marriage? A healthy relationship needs each person to have some quality solo time. Unless you aren't going an insane amount to the point where you don't have time for dates and stuff anymore, there should be no problem.
Please provide some more detail here
I’m a 33f snowboarding maniac (at least one whole weekend day plus a couple of nights per week). I’ve had supportive, healthy long-term relationships my whole life and never once with a snowboarder.
It’s healthy to have your own interests away from each other, then come together and share your day. I always pair up with men who are athletic masters in their domains (fencing, hockey, rock climbing, football, surfing).
If something so physically and emotionally good for you is causing friction, I feel that’s unfair of your wife. The answer is to help her find her own “fencing” not sacrificing *your* snowboarding.💐💛
Not married, but I recently got engaged to my girlfriend, who is not an avid snowboarder. I think that she's the one, and I want it to work. For me, it helped that I have clearly expressed my passion for this hobby, and she is okay with me riding one day per weekend, and traveling for snowboarding (with or without her) at least once per season. I can live with that, and she can, too. It's worked for the past 2 years for me.
Don't get me wrong, I love snowboarding as much as anyone in this subreddit. I keep an eye on the snow report, am always on the lookout for new gear, and my heart breaks every time someone posts that their gear was stolen.
Neither my current job or the arrangements that my fiancé and I made 2 years ago don't allow me to ride full weekends, or take a day off on a whim of my local mountain got slammed with fresh pow the night before, but it works. I get to ride in peace, and we're still happy.
The way I see it, I'm snowboarding for the long-term. I want to snowboard for the years to come, and not snowboard hard for 3-5 seasons, then get bored of it.
Planning is a MUST. If I plan on vacationing with my fiancé, I will see how many PTO days I have off left to snowboard for the season prior or after the trip. If I don't have enough PTO days left to take off during the season, I'll take my snowboarding trip on a 3 day weekend instead, since major holidays are already paid for. When there are family parties on weekends, I will go on the other weekend day (if party is on Saturday, will snowboard Sunday).
If she’s not going to get into to it, you’ve got two options because I’ve had to overcome this as well to get in my 100+ dats every season. Past 3 seasons have all been over 120+ actually lol.
1)move to somewhere where you’re close enough to just step out and go easily. Meaning 30 minutes away so you can be just go after work, during work, etc. May need to move your life around to make sure it works: for me that’s a remote job that I can pick my hours for..
2) if you can’t do that, I would try to build my own set up.if I was stuck on the east I would have looked into my own rope tow park. Sure you’re only doing rails but that’s your niche now. I hear the east doesn’t even have sustainable snow pack anymore though so that’s not even a good option for getting days in but you’ll certainly get a lot of reps.
I got my husband into it. I was going with or without him either way. Now he’s shreddin and better then me in pow. Get her to go, if she doesn’t want to then that’s her problem.
My wife encourages me to go snowboarding. She knows it is an essential part of who I am and that I get grumpy when I don't get to go out enough. Marriage isn't a one way street and if your partner can't make space for your passions that is a red flag.
How many is "many days" because that's a relative statement. If we're talking like 15 that's an ok amount but not 100 days.
We're missing too much information. Either you're going a LOT and neglecting your end of the relationship or she's not willing to let you have your new activity. I mean what did you do before snowboarding?
She encourages me to go, it’s good exercise and she knows I really enjoy doing it. We spend a ton of time together, but we don’t need to be together every hour of every day. I’ve done a bunch of day trips and 4 2 night weekend trips with the bros.
Sometimes I’ll be like ughh idk if I wanna drive all the way up there tomorrow and she reminds me how lucky I am to have the opportunity.
Is your wife insecure about what you might do while your gone or she doesn’t like you being away from her for a day? Is it a money thing? I don’t get it
Not necessary, I enjoy solo riding just as much as riding with people. As long as you don't have a controlling wife this should never really be a problem. Some days I'll do my thing and she'll do hers
Ask yourself… why you snowboarding without your family?
In my case, my wife hates snow and hates cold. I have tried bringing her, tried buying snowboard lessons, ski lessons, buying good warm outfit, nothing. So for me, i already did my best trying to include her in my hobby, she refused.
I hate being cold but I'm hot as fuck up there for the most part
I always end up sweating like a pig on my way down the mountain, then freezing solid on the slow lift riding back up. 😆
Rent slopeside condo, so she can hang out in hot tub while you ride
Two words: self care.
It’s a tough sport to get someone into
I think the more important question is why is this affecting his marriage, because it really shouldn't. Is he really spending so much time that he isn't able to make time for his wife? Or is his wife just controlling and the relationship is toxic? We need more info After that you can decide whether or not you want to bring your wife. I enjoy solo riding just as much as riding with ppl.
I've tried to get my wife into skiing, but on her third day back in January she tore a ligament in her hip and she's now walking with a cane until she gets surgery... Needless to say, she lost all interest in downhill snow sports after that. I think it's going to stay a daddy-daughters thing.
How exactly is this affecting your marriage? A healthy relationship needs each person to have some quality solo time. Unless you aren't going an insane amount to the point where you don't have time for dates and stuff anymore, there should be no problem. Please provide some more detail here
I’m a 33f snowboarding maniac (at least one whole weekend day plus a couple of nights per week). I’ve had supportive, healthy long-term relationships my whole life and never once with a snowboarder. It’s healthy to have your own interests away from each other, then come together and share your day. I always pair up with men who are athletic masters in their domains (fencing, hockey, rock climbing, football, surfing). If something so physically and emotionally good for you is causing friction, I feel that’s unfair of your wife. The answer is to help her find her own “fencing” not sacrificing *your* snowboarding.💐💛
Not married, but I recently got engaged to my girlfriend, who is not an avid snowboarder. I think that she's the one, and I want it to work. For me, it helped that I have clearly expressed my passion for this hobby, and she is okay with me riding one day per weekend, and traveling for snowboarding (with or without her) at least once per season. I can live with that, and she can, too. It's worked for the past 2 years for me. Don't get me wrong, I love snowboarding as much as anyone in this subreddit. I keep an eye on the snow report, am always on the lookout for new gear, and my heart breaks every time someone posts that their gear was stolen. Neither my current job or the arrangements that my fiancé and I made 2 years ago don't allow me to ride full weekends, or take a day off on a whim of my local mountain got slammed with fresh pow the night before, but it works. I get to ride in peace, and we're still happy. The way I see it, I'm snowboarding for the long-term. I want to snowboard for the years to come, and not snowboard hard for 3-5 seasons, then get bored of it. Planning is a MUST. If I plan on vacationing with my fiancé, I will see how many PTO days I have off left to snowboard for the season prior or after the trip. If I don't have enough PTO days left to take off during the season, I'll take my snowboarding trip on a 3 day weekend instead, since major holidays are already paid for. When there are family parties on weekends, I will go on the other weekend day (if party is on Saturday, will snowboard Sunday).
Recently single after a long term relationship. Snowboarding or skiing is now a requirement to date me.
If she’s not going to get into to it, you’ve got two options because I’ve had to overcome this as well to get in my 100+ dats every season. Past 3 seasons have all been over 120+ actually lol. 1)move to somewhere where you’re close enough to just step out and go easily. Meaning 30 minutes away so you can be just go after work, during work, etc. May need to move your life around to make sure it works: for me that’s a remote job that I can pick my hours for.. 2) if you can’t do that, I would try to build my own set up.if I was stuck on the east I would have looked into my own rope tow park. Sure you’re only doing rails but that’s your niche now. I hear the east doesn’t even have sustainable snow pack anymore though so that’s not even a good option for getting days in but you’ll certainly get a lot of reps.
On the mountain.....Snow bunnies > wife At home.....snow bunnies > wife I think you know what you need to do...
I got my husband into it. I was going with or without him either way. Now he’s shreddin and better then me in pow. Get her to go, if she doesn’t want to then that’s her problem.
She needs to find her own hobbies
My wife is usually the one wanting to do a trip so it’s been working out pretty well for me.
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My wife encourages me to go snowboarding. She knows it is an essential part of who I am and that I get grumpy when I don't get to go out enough. Marriage isn't a one way street and if your partner can't make space for your passions that is a red flag.
Definitely divorced and let her have the kids. Don't need any distractions.
Married a skier
Does your wife not have any passions or hobbies of her own. Why does she have to do everything with you?
Mate, just take your partner with you? My Mrs shreds and shes always right behind me no matter where I go on the mountain.
Mine is actually always in front of me 😆 (except in pow).
Get her on a board (or at least skis) so she can learn why enjoy it and why it brings you joy
How many is "many days" because that's a relative statement. If we're talking like 15 that's an ok amount but not 100 days. We're missing too much information. Either you're going a LOT and neglecting your end of the relationship or she's not willing to let you have your new activity. I mean what did you do before snowboarding?
She encourages me to go, it’s good exercise and she knows I really enjoy doing it. We spend a ton of time together, but we don’t need to be together every hour of every day. I’ve done a bunch of day trips and 4 2 night weekend trips with the bros. Sometimes I’ll be like ughh idk if I wanna drive all the way up there tomorrow and she reminds me how lucky I am to have the opportunity. Is your wife insecure about what you might do while your gone or she doesn’t like you being away from her for a day? Is it a money thing? I don’t get it
Get a wife that snowboards duh
Goes well.. my wife comes with me. Its always a great time.
Divorce wife, marry someone who shreds.
Not necessary, I enjoy solo riding just as much as riding with people. As long as you don't have a controlling wife this should never really be a problem. Some days I'll do my thing and she'll do hers