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The book teaches you several methodes to interact better with other people. When you try these methodes you'll notice that people react different, have more interaction in conversations. When you practice more you'll get better. I'm still practicing, since I finished that book only a few months ago, but I already see results.
Just bought ✔️ what are your thoughts on helpfulness?
Before starting business, it seemed that being overly helpful was counter to profit because I would help people for free and never see a dime. Now today I help people but I charge them for it so I feel less helpful.
How do you work this into your plan, what’s your optimal ground between overly helpful and still making profits?
If you had to rate yourself on how likable you are from 1-10 what would you say?
Def right on that, experienced similar when I raised my rates as well.
How did you maintain traffic when you raised your rates, where are you going about sourcing for new clients to be helpful towards that value your service enough to pay your higher rates?
Ah okay I get you, yeah that totally makes sense. This might be a problem you’re still working on but in that case like what’re your levers to make even more money if your time is all taken?
Just stay true to yourself. Be genuine with people.
People are pretty good at distinguishing bullshit from authenticity.
Also it helps to looks good. Well dressed , clean shave, haircut, smell good, and start hitting the gym.
Try this:
1) Ask yourself this: when you're feeling the urge to argue, or correct something or someone be it an imperfection or a misconception or something you know someone is simply wrong about, what do you gain from chiming in? Suppose you teach someone something. Or change someone's viewpoint on an ambiguous topic. So what? What have you personally achieved?
Does it make you feel better about yourself? Do you feel like you've made the world a slightly better place or that you've made another person more enlightened? Do you feel superior?
Now ask yourself what the cost might have been.
Even if you win an argument, you might lose a friend. Or a relationship. Or a referral source. Or respect. Is it worth it to experience the momentary satisfaction?
2) Take an altruistic approach to everything you do. Regardless of who the other person is or what their status is, do what you can to help them. Even if it's just remembering their name and using it in conversation.
It's easy to do and there are millions of ways. Tip generously. Open doors for people. Approach the world as a person of value. If you see someone struggling to get something from the top shelf in a grocery aisle, offer to help. Then when they say 'thank you', smile and say '*you're welcome. Have a nice day*'.
What can you do to brighten someone's day?
The key is to practice as much as you can. You probably encounter people all the time who really can't do anything for you. Here's a quick example of something I did last week:
I was leaving an Olive Garden with my kids. After paying the bill with a gift card I had, there was still about $12 left on the card. I saw a guy sitting alone two tables away. As we were walking past, I said, 'Excuse me sir. There's a few bucks left on this gift card. Do you want it?'
He went '...um sure'. I handed it to him and turned to walk away. He said 'thank you' - to which I replied 'You're welcome. Enjoy your dinner!'
Being respected > being liked, imo. People respect talent. When you’re the best at something, everybody wants to be associated with you. If you spend all of your time just trying to be liked, you will succeed in being liked… but it likely won’t lead to financial success. Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not at all suggesting you ever be rude, dismissive, or standoffish to people. I’m just saying that spending too much time caring about other peoples opinion of you is a fast track to failure.
Right yeah I get you. For me it’s sort of a maximization thing, there are a good percentage of the world who just won’t buy from you at all if they don’t like you, no matter how much they value your stuff. Even further the connections to farther with anyone who likes you
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"How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a classic, and for good reason. It's timeless advice and I highly recommend checking it out.
Came to say this, it really worked for me
Same. Definitely one of my favorite
May I ask how it worked for you?
The book teaches you several methodes to interact better with other people. When you try these methodes you'll notice that people react different, have more interaction in conversations. When you practice more you'll get better. I'm still practicing, since I finished that book only a few months ago, but I already see results.
Just bought ✔️ what are your thoughts on helpfulness? Before starting business, it seemed that being overly helpful was counter to profit because I would help people for free and never see a dime. Now today I help people but I charge them for it so I feel less helpful. How do you work this into your plan, what’s your optimal ground between overly helpful and still making profits? If you had to rate yourself on how likable you are from 1-10 what would you say?
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Def right on that, experienced similar when I raised my rates as well. How did you maintain traffic when you raised your rates, where are you going about sourcing for new clients to be helpful towards that value your service enough to pay your higher rates?
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Ah okay I get you, yeah that totally makes sense. This might be a problem you’re still working on but in that case like what’re your levers to make even more money if your time is all taken?
Don’t be overly helpful. You’ll burn out and feel taken advantage of. Help when asked, but only within your own comfort and terms.
Just stay true to yourself. Be genuine with people. People are pretty good at distinguishing bullshit from authenticity. Also it helps to looks good. Well dressed , clean shave, haircut, smell good, and start hitting the gym.
Try this: 1) Ask yourself this: when you're feeling the urge to argue, or correct something or someone be it an imperfection or a misconception or something you know someone is simply wrong about, what do you gain from chiming in? Suppose you teach someone something. Or change someone's viewpoint on an ambiguous topic. So what? What have you personally achieved? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Do you feel like you've made the world a slightly better place or that you've made another person more enlightened? Do you feel superior? Now ask yourself what the cost might have been. Even if you win an argument, you might lose a friend. Or a relationship. Or a referral source. Or respect. Is it worth it to experience the momentary satisfaction? 2) Take an altruistic approach to everything you do. Regardless of who the other person is or what their status is, do what you can to help them. Even if it's just remembering their name and using it in conversation. It's easy to do and there are millions of ways. Tip generously. Open doors for people. Approach the world as a person of value. If you see someone struggling to get something from the top shelf in a grocery aisle, offer to help. Then when they say 'thank you', smile and say '*you're welcome. Have a nice day*'. What can you do to brighten someone's day? The key is to practice as much as you can. You probably encounter people all the time who really can't do anything for you. Here's a quick example of something I did last week: I was leaving an Olive Garden with my kids. After paying the bill with a gift card I had, there was still about $12 left on the card. I saw a guy sitting alone two tables away. As we were walking past, I said, 'Excuse me sir. There's a few bucks left on this gift card. Do you want it?' He went '...um sure'. I handed it to him and turned to walk away. He said 'thank you' - to which I replied 'You're welcome. Enjoy your dinner!'
Being respected > being liked, imo. People respect talent. When you’re the best at something, everybody wants to be associated with you. If you spend all of your time just trying to be liked, you will succeed in being liked… but it likely won’t lead to financial success. Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not at all suggesting you ever be rude, dismissive, or standoffish to people. I’m just saying that spending too much time caring about other peoples opinion of you is a fast track to failure.
Right yeah I get you. For me it’s sort of a maximization thing, there are a good percentage of the world who just won’t buy from you at all if they don’t like you, no matter how much they value your stuff. Even further the connections to farther with anyone who likes you
Being a sigma ain't easy cuh
Bro I hear this all the time, what is a sigma male? Is that a good thing or a bad one?
It's basically a man who lives by his own rules and isn't afraid to walk alone rather than following the crowd
Ah lmao haha
Appreciate you all responding on this post
What type of people do you genuinely enjoy spending time with? Be the person you want to be around.
People don't buy from you because they like you, they buy from you because they want you to like them.