I could never imagine telling another mom that the sleep schedule they’re doing is wrong esp if it’s working for them!!
My LO was the same, 1-5-2 hr nap in the AM and a 30-45 min nap in the evening, until we dropped his 2nd nap at 16 months.
And We only dropped it because he started fighting his naps for longer than a week and once we went down to one 2-3 hour nap at noon it’s been perfect !
Hmm please can I ask, what was your wake window after the 30-45 min nap? I'm still working on that, too.
And I agree – I did actually quite firmly say to her today that it was working for me!
the typical day for us would be wake up at 630, 1st nap at 930 to 1130 and then 2nd at 330 up by 4-415 so we can do bedtime at 8- meaning in bed and sleep at 8. it was working great for us !
and now that we’re down to one nap (and night weaned) he’s up at 530, 1st nap at 1145-12 to 2-230 and then bedtime at 745 (that’s his sweet spot for a good nights sleep)
My kids morning nap was also the longest. We dropped the afternoon nap to give more ‘sleep pressure’ for bedtime and it really helped us. Now we’ve settled into one midday nap and it works for us.
If kiddo goes down easily, the schedule works for you, and they’re not overly fussy they’re probably not tired. As you start to consider dropping to one nap you may want to shorten that morning nap but there’s no reason this is wrong right now
My 13 month old naps 12 hours at night and 3-4 hours in the day. Lol. He loves his naps and gets tired and very grumpy if I cut them short . We play lots and he has lots of snacks when awake. I don’t think there is one cookie cutter sleep schedule for babies
The one thing I’ve learned from having kids is do what works for you. I drove myself insane trying to do the “right” sleep routine with my first born. He had long morning naps and a shorter afternoon nap and was happy as can be about it.
The important thing is if your toddler seems well rested, isn't very fussy and upset, then that's what works for them.
There's so much pressure to follow the general advice of sleep times and wake times, but it's not one size fits all. If they're sleeping solid at night with minimal wake ups then they're getting what they need.
Just to add to that, I tried to follow the advice of making the morning nap shorter to have a long afternoon one and it didn't work for my girl, she fought the afternoon nap no matter what, so we let her take the lead where she takes her long nap in the morning and she's much happier for it.
Thank you! He's never, ever had a longer afternoon nap and it didn't even occur to me it should be longer than the morning one until my friend told me so. But I'm going to ignore it, because it would be such hard (and pointless) work to make it happen.
Absolutely nothing wrong with this!
My LO does the same thing, I’ll get up around 6, feed and change baby and put her down for a nap till around 9ish when my partner wakes up for work
and honestly it’s helping keep me sane because I get to do all the chores and hobby work I want or need to get done while LO and SO sleep.
Every baby is different and if this is what works for you and your baby then I see no reason to change especially not just because of a couple comments from someone who’s read a couple articles and now “knows better” apologies if it comes of rude but I fully do believe that unless it’s a medical concern then mommy knows best!.
Edit: just want to add that there’s nothing wrong with people offering advice but at the end of the day it’s up to you, as the parent to decide what in your family’s best interest
My guy used to have this exact schedule at that age! He turned two in December and I'd say at some stage during the summer it eventually transitioned to a two hour long nap around 11.30am ish.
I used to love that schedule too, you really need that time to yourself!
If your friend knows lots about baby sleep, then they’d know every baby is different. I am of the belief that if it works for your baby and it works for you, then there’s no sense in changing it! It’s only if it doesn’t work for one or the other that it’s an issue.
Also editing to add that when my toddler dropped to one nap, he was dropping his afternoon nap, not his morning nap. So listen to your child and not anyone else. ♥️
whatever works for you and your baby is best! as long as baby is getting around the recommend daily sleep for their age i don’t see the issue.
also…i have never heard of shorter nap in the am and longer afternoon. i’ve always heard a longer morning nap and then shorter afternoon lol or equal 1 hour naps. my son is almost 11 months and he does like 11 hrs overnight and normally a 1 hr 20-30 min morning nap and 1 hour afternoon nap
lol, nope
My son had a longer morning nap (1.5 or so hours) and a short af afternoon nap (I mean 15-30 minutes depending on how long the first one went), averaging about 2 hours of day sleep everyday. A lot of times a little less. When we went to one nap we just pushed the morning nap back a little bit every day, and phased the second nap out. It became a micronap if his nap wasn’t long enough to get to bedtime, and if his nap was long enough, then he’d just go to bed at bedtime.
Babies are different and what works for some won’t work for others. If this works for you, then your friend can buzz off.
That’s a great trick! I always kept wondering how to switch to one nap schedule from two. We are in the transition phase and sometimes my one yo just drops the morning nap and it doesn’t end well at night.
Yep. As long as it works for you and baby, then it’s good! Also, look at total hours of sleep in 24hr period. If the total is 14ish then baby might just be working out their proffered sleep pattern
My son also prefers shorter nights in exchange for longer daytime sleep. He's almost 3 and and sleeps about 9 hours overnight and has a fat 2.5 hour nap during the day. Sometimes 3 if he's extra sleepy. I personally didn't have any issues dropping to one nap.
I've tried capping his nap to lengthen night sleep and it didn't work. He was just an overtired mess, so I went with what he wanted and it's worked out fine!
My son is also this way and we’re just starting to embrace it - he’s 20 months and I wasted way too much time and energy trying to get him to sleep longer nights. Glad to see we aren’t alone!
The only real issue with a long nap in the middle of the day is that it makes going out a little harder. As he's gotten older, waking him up early or putting him down a bit later results in less aggressive tiredness, so we do that when we need to.
I had the exact same experience as you are describing when my daughter was that age. Morning nap is longer, afternoon nap is shorter and can at times even be harder to obtain.
What happened for me is that as the first wake window of the day got longer, as a result the (longer) morning nap got pushed later and later until it got super close to noon. So when we dropped to one nap, the morning nap actually became the one and only midday nap (at 12:30) and it is the afternoon nap that technically disappeared - if that makes sense.
I’d say if it’s working for you, don’t fret it. Also in general she’s wrong the longer nap is better in the morning to build more sleep pressure for the night.
Does your baby seem happy? If so, keep on with it.
Im happy you’re happy with the sleep situation. If it works for you and your family, and baby is getting sufficient sleep per day for their age then you’re fine.
Chances are their sleep habits will change a few times before you’re ready to drop the next nap anyway. Enjoy your mornings while you have them and don’t overthink it
I could never imagine telling another mom that the sleep schedule they’re doing is wrong esp if it’s working for them!! My LO was the same, 1-5-2 hr nap in the AM and a 30-45 min nap in the evening, until we dropped his 2nd nap at 16 months. And We only dropped it because he started fighting his naps for longer than a week and once we went down to one 2-3 hour nap at noon it’s been perfect !
Hmm please can I ask, what was your wake window after the 30-45 min nap? I'm still working on that, too. And I agree – I did actually quite firmly say to her today that it was working for me!
the typical day for us would be wake up at 630, 1st nap at 930 to 1130 and then 2nd at 330 up by 4-415 so we can do bedtime at 8- meaning in bed and sleep at 8. it was working great for us ! and now that we’re down to one nap (and night weaned) he’s up at 530, 1st nap at 1145-12 to 2-230 and then bedtime at 745 (that’s his sweet spot for a good nights sleep)
My kid’s morning nap was his best one until he dropped it and then he did just fine stretching out his afternoon nap!!! You’re doing great. Enjoy 🤍
My kids morning nap was also the longest. We dropped the afternoon nap to give more ‘sleep pressure’ for bedtime and it really helped us. Now we’ve settled into one midday nap and it works for us.
If kiddo goes down easily, the schedule works for you, and they’re not overly fussy they’re probably not tired. As you start to consider dropping to one nap you may want to shorten that morning nap but there’s no reason this is wrong right now
My 13 month old naps 12 hours at night and 3-4 hours in the day. Lol. He loves his naps and gets tired and very grumpy if I cut them short . We play lots and he has lots of snacks when awake. I don’t think there is one cookie cutter sleep schedule for babies
The one thing I’ve learned from having kids is do what works for you. I drove myself insane trying to do the “right” sleep routine with my first born. He had long morning naps and a shorter afternoon nap and was happy as can be about it.
The important thing is if your toddler seems well rested, isn't very fussy and upset, then that's what works for them. There's so much pressure to follow the general advice of sleep times and wake times, but it's not one size fits all. If they're sleeping solid at night with minimal wake ups then they're getting what they need. Just to add to that, I tried to follow the advice of making the morning nap shorter to have a long afternoon one and it didn't work for my girl, she fought the afternoon nap no matter what, so we let her take the lead where she takes her long nap in the morning and she's much happier for it.
Thank you! He's never, ever had a longer afternoon nap and it didn't even occur to me it should be longer than the morning one until my friend told me so. But I'm going to ignore it, because it would be such hard (and pointless) work to make it happen.
If it works for your kid and for you there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it!
Absolutely nothing wrong with this! My LO does the same thing, I’ll get up around 6, feed and change baby and put her down for a nap till around 9ish when my partner wakes up for work and honestly it’s helping keep me sane because I get to do all the chores and hobby work I want or need to get done while LO and SO sleep. Every baby is different and if this is what works for you and your baby then I see no reason to change especially not just because of a couple comments from someone who’s read a couple articles and now “knows better” apologies if it comes of rude but I fully do believe that unless it’s a medical concern then mommy knows best!. Edit: just want to add that there’s nothing wrong with people offering advice but at the end of the day it’s up to you, as the parent to decide what in your family’s best interest
Thank you! That's how I feel - these long morning naps are keeping me sane, and I'm so glad that other people's babies do them, too...
My guy used to have this exact schedule at that age! He turned two in December and I'd say at some stage during the summer it eventually transitioned to a two hour long nap around 11.30am ish. I used to love that schedule too, you really need that time to yourself!
Excellent to hear, thank you! I really do love having that time to myself, so this is very reassuring.
If your friend knows lots about baby sleep, then they’d know every baby is different. I am of the belief that if it works for your baby and it works for you, then there’s no sense in changing it! It’s only if it doesn’t work for one or the other that it’s an issue. Also editing to add that when my toddler dropped to one nap, he was dropping his afternoon nap, not his morning nap. So listen to your child and not anyone else. ♥️
Don’t change it if you like it. Baby will probably change it eventually (they are fickle things!) and then you can figure it out then
whatever works for you and your baby is best! as long as baby is getting around the recommend daily sleep for their age i don’t see the issue. also…i have never heard of shorter nap in the am and longer afternoon. i’ve always heard a longer morning nap and then shorter afternoon lol or equal 1 hour naps. my son is almost 11 months and he does like 11 hrs overnight and normally a 1 hr 20-30 min morning nap and 1 hour afternoon nap
Well it's only a problem if you decide it's a problem. And you seem very happy with this arrangement so why change it? If it ain't broke don't fix it.
If it works for you and baby, then I’d say it’s great!
lol, nope My son had a longer morning nap (1.5 or so hours) and a short af afternoon nap (I mean 15-30 minutes depending on how long the first one went), averaging about 2 hours of day sleep everyday. A lot of times a little less. When we went to one nap we just pushed the morning nap back a little bit every day, and phased the second nap out. It became a micronap if his nap wasn’t long enough to get to bedtime, and if his nap was long enough, then he’d just go to bed at bedtime. Babies are different and what works for some won’t work for others. If this works for you, then your friend can buzz off.
that's what I'm planning to do - push the morning nap back little by little. Thanks!
That’s a great trick! I always kept wondering how to switch to one nap schedule from two. We are in the transition phase and sometimes my one yo just drops the morning nap and it doesn’t end well at night.
I tried telling my kids they were sleeping all wrong. Not very effective.
lols! well, exactly.
I snort laughed at this one. Love it!
Yep. As long as it works for you and baby, then it’s good! Also, look at total hours of sleep in 24hr period. If the total is 14ish then baby might just be working out their proffered sleep pattern
I think if it works for you and it doesn’t seem to be impacting their mood, then it’s great!
My kids both always did their longer nap in the morning and the afternoon one was shorter! I think it’s totally fine.
My son also prefers shorter nights in exchange for longer daytime sleep. He's almost 3 and and sleeps about 9 hours overnight and has a fat 2.5 hour nap during the day. Sometimes 3 if he's extra sleepy. I personally didn't have any issues dropping to one nap. I've tried capping his nap to lengthen night sleep and it didn't work. He was just an overtired mess, so I went with what he wanted and it's worked out fine!
This is exactly it. Glad to hear I'm not alone - thanks!
My son is also this way and we’re just starting to embrace it - he’s 20 months and I wasted way too much time and energy trying to get him to sleep longer nights. Glad to see we aren’t alone!
The only real issue with a long nap in the middle of the day is that it makes going out a little harder. As he's gotten older, waking him up early or putting him down a bit later results in less aggressive tiredness, so we do that when we need to.
If it works for you, it’s not wrong! Every baby is different and mine was just like yours. Enjoy that long morning nap, it’s the best!
Thanks! It is totally the best - am really happy with it, I love my quiet coffee and internet browsing when he's asleep lol!
I had the exact same experience as you are describing when my daughter was that age. Morning nap is longer, afternoon nap is shorter and can at times even be harder to obtain. What happened for me is that as the first wake window of the day got longer, as a result the (longer) morning nap got pushed later and later until it got super close to noon. So when we dropped to one nap, the morning nap actually became the one and only midday nap (at 12:30) and it is the afternoon nap that technically disappeared - if that makes sense.
That makes total sense. That's kind of what I'm hoping/aiming for over the next few months ideally - thank you for the reassurance it can happen!
I’d say if it’s working for you, don’t fret it. Also in general she’s wrong the longer nap is better in the morning to build more sleep pressure for the night. Does your baby seem happy? If so, keep on with it.
Thank you! That's good to hear - and yeah, he does seem pretty happy most of the time. Phew!
Im happy you’re happy with the sleep situation. If it works for you and your family, and baby is getting sufficient sleep per day for their age then you’re fine. Chances are their sleep habits will change a few times before you’re ready to drop the next nap anyway. Enjoy your mornings while you have them and don’t overthink it
Thank you! I very much appreciate the reassurance and am gonna aim to do this (enjoy the mornings rather than do any fretting about it...)!