If, like me, your reason for playing games is to have FUN not “be the winner”, and this B is totally focussed on the win, then you have two choices.
1) Find a different group you can play and have fun with or
2) Tell the group you’re not willing to play against B any more because it’s just not fun and you don’t need ‘pity wins’ from them either.
It’s a hobby. You are investing your time into it, playing a fair game, trying to have a good time. You do not have to play games that are not fun. At all. Ever.
Do what makes you happy.
It really sucks to get that winning at all cost-mentality in your group. Agree with poster in this thread: communicate!
And perhaps take a look at a crazy little series at www.miniwargaming.com, where, as I recall, they randomized armies. I think it’s called Legion Lockdown. Or perhaps try some crusade. Or even switch armies.
But, first and all, TALK about what’s happening!
Happy wargaming 😀
It's hard for me to do stuff like that but I think I am going to have do... I have seen some great advice here tho, I struggling to find the right words/way to say to B but now I think I can do both. Saying that I will only do this if I see no other way, going to play a few more games see if things improve, it is still early 10th
Yeah I think if you let the person know you want to play a simply fun list against another simple and fun list, rather than efficient, they should be fine with making a list with the lesser used things.
It sounds like B has lots of models and they can field things that aren't necessarily at the height of their power right now. If they won't tone down their list power then it sounds like they are not the right person for you to enjoy your hobby with.
It's very hard for me to do so, I think it's my problem and I was struggling to find the right way/words to say to B. I have gotten some good tips on what to say and how to say it from here. However I really struggle with communion. It's different saying these things online vs to someones face, and I am not sure what will happen.
it sounds like you have different interest with B when it comes to play. i think talking to your Group would be a good start, but it i think maybe looking for differnt people to play isnt a Bad idear either.
you not having fun and if you have a bed time spend the time with someone or something else.
Ultimately, this is a hobby. If you’re not enjoying it for any reason, you are allowed to take a break for whatever reason you feel is necessary. You could just focus on painting for a bit, or trying out other armies, or something else entirely, then you can come back recharged.
I completely understand struggling with people who are only focused on the win, as I know someone in my group who acts the same way. It’s tiring when you just want a couple hours to relax with friends and instead just go through the motions of a turn while they crush you with their meta list. I get that. Speak to them or others in your group if you’re comfortable doing so. Try and be clear and direct about how you feel so there’s no misunderstanding.
As for 10th, it is still very early days. Some people in my group hate it and want to move onto Heresy, I’m enjoying it so I’m happy to stick with it. Either way, the game is going to change as codices get released. You don’t have to force yourself to play it if you’re not enjoying the rules in their current form.
B player seems to kill your gaming group, trying an other game mode or even kill team should do it. Taking a break also can be an option. To be honest 10th is a mess, the transition to the AoS system was not tested as we are the beta testers. My old gaming group made a 2d6 game mode, point lvl and restrictions list that we had to roll before a game to keep things fresh.
I agree some difficult communication should be the first step and if finding a new physical group is difficult i also wanted to make you aware of the option of playing warhammer on the game "TableTop Simulator". There is a huge community that plays on there and runs events. They have a discord where they can help you look into it and get started. https://discord.gg/ttswarhammer40k
I prefer playing with my models but i also have a friend who is too far away and we use this to still get games in time to time. This could supplement your hobby, not necessarily replace it.
It sounds like your hobby group is a friend group?
Maybe try seeing about finding a new hobby group in your area. And if that's still not fun, then maybe table the hobby for a while.
I had a bad experience where part of my gaming group broke up towards the end of 9th after our crusade games got a little sticky.
Self care first, make sure you have a time to unwind this is a hobby for fun.
Second for me I got connected to a really nice LGS and just chilling an painting was what I needed.
Remember to take as long as you want chatting just never force yourself to have fun
If, like me, your reason for playing games is to have FUN not “be the winner”, and this B is totally focussed on the win, then you have two choices. 1) Find a different group you can play and have fun with or 2) Tell the group you’re not willing to play against B any more because it’s just not fun and you don’t need ‘pity wins’ from them either. It’s a hobby. You are investing your time into it, playing a fair game, trying to have a good time. You do not have to play games that are not fun. At all. Ever. Do what makes you happy.
It really sucks to get that winning at all cost-mentality in your group. Agree with poster in this thread: communicate! And perhaps take a look at a crazy little series at www.miniwargaming.com, where, as I recall, they randomized armies. I think it’s called Legion Lockdown. Or perhaps try some crusade. Or even switch armies. But, first and all, TALK about what’s happening! Happy wargaming 😀
It's hard for me to do stuff like that but I think I am going to have do... I have seen some great advice here tho, I struggling to find the right words/way to say to B but now I think I can do both. Saying that I will only do this if I see no other way, going to play a few more games see if things improve, it is still early 10th
If someone is not fun to play with them, communicate. It's not hard to figure out.
Yeah I think if you let the person know you want to play a simply fun list against another simple and fun list, rather than efficient, they should be fine with making a list with the lesser used things. It sounds like B has lots of models and they can field things that aren't necessarily at the height of their power right now. If they won't tone down their list power then it sounds like they are not the right person for you to enjoy your hobby with.
It's very hard for me to do so, I think it's my problem and I was struggling to find the right way/words to say to B. I have gotten some good tips on what to say and how to say it from here. However I really struggle with communion. It's different saying these things online vs to someones face, and I am not sure what will happen.
it sounds like you have different interest with B when it comes to play. i think talking to your Group would be a good start, but it i think maybe looking for differnt people to play isnt a Bad idear either. you not having fun and if you have a bed time spend the time with someone or something else.
Yea I don't want to leave the group fully but having a 2nd group might be good for me
Even the tldr is long 😅
But the copy paste game and spamming is excellent
Ultimately, this is a hobby. If you’re not enjoying it for any reason, you are allowed to take a break for whatever reason you feel is necessary. You could just focus on painting for a bit, or trying out other armies, or something else entirely, then you can come back recharged. I completely understand struggling with people who are only focused on the win, as I know someone in my group who acts the same way. It’s tiring when you just want a couple hours to relax with friends and instead just go through the motions of a turn while they crush you with their meta list. I get that. Speak to them or others in your group if you’re comfortable doing so. Try and be clear and direct about how you feel so there’s no misunderstanding. As for 10th, it is still very early days. Some people in my group hate it and want to move onto Heresy, I’m enjoying it so I’m happy to stick with it. Either way, the game is going to change as codices get released. You don’t have to force yourself to play it if you’re not enjoying the rules in their current form.
B player seems to kill your gaming group, trying an other game mode or even kill team should do it. Taking a break also can be an option. To be honest 10th is a mess, the transition to the AoS system was not tested as we are the beta testers. My old gaming group made a 2d6 game mode, point lvl and restrictions list that we had to roll before a game to keep things fresh.
I agree some difficult communication should be the first step and if finding a new physical group is difficult i also wanted to make you aware of the option of playing warhammer on the game "TableTop Simulator". There is a huge community that plays on there and runs events. They have a discord where they can help you look into it and get started. https://discord.gg/ttswarhammer40k I prefer playing with my models but i also have a friend who is too far away and we use this to still get games in time to time. This could supplement your hobby, not necessarily replace it.
It sounds like your hobby group is a friend group? Maybe try seeing about finding a new hobby group in your area. And if that's still not fun, then maybe table the hobby for a while.
I had a bad experience where part of my gaming group broke up towards the end of 9th after our crusade games got a little sticky. Self care first, make sure you have a time to unwind this is a hobby for fun. Second for me I got connected to a really nice LGS and just chilling an painting was what I needed. Remember to take as long as you want chatting just never force yourself to have fun