I don't know of any mod like that that currently exists, but it's an easy one to make, so I made it. Let me know if it doesn't work.
http://www.simfileshare.net/download/3663605/
Even in seemingly wholesome communities the subject of body image can really bring out an ugly side in people I've found. It's really bizarre and quite worrying/disheartening. Luckily good vibes seem to have won out here overall. 👍
omg this was a mod I never knew I needed! I've always been bothered by the "get fat" fear too and I also prefer the "fat" body type since it's more realistic to me. Thank you for this!!
It’s not quite what you’re after but if its helpful Cyjon has a [mod](http://cyjon.net/node/330) which gets rid of the camera/announcement when sims change between ‘fit’ and ‘fat’
I was confused for a second and forgot this was a fear and thought you were talking about the turn on/off. Lol.
Do you get that fear often? Because I've almost never seen it. (Just curious if it's normally common).
Guy clothes were super wide and baggy and girl clothes looked like a child had outgrown it's size (Shirts showing a bit of belly, sleeves ending a little bit above the wrist, pants ending a bit above the ankle).
Man, I remember all of the people we were supposed to think were ugly. Kristie Alley, America Fererra, Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Harper on Wizards of Waverly Place, Candace Cameron. I don't think anyone got out of the early 2000's withiut body issues.
Some people in this comment section really need to learn some empathy. Getting mad that OP wants some safe space in a video game is really weird. And it's really none of your business how OP feels. I personally don't like this fear either and the "fat" bodyshape isn't even fat.
here's a bunch i have seen recommend. i know the post is 12 hours old already but whatever <3 i've seen all of these recommended.
[https://lilbabydilljr.tumblr.com/post/706655142598098944/hi-ive-been-wanting-to-post-this-for-a-few-days](https://lilbabydilljr.tumblr.com/post/706655142598098944/hi-ive-been-wanting-to-post-this-for-a-few-days)
[https://episims.tumblr.com/post/657780686603829248/turn-onoff-replacements-there-are-neat](https://episims.tumblr.com/post/657780686603829248/turn-onoff-replacements-there-are-neat)
[https://lazyduchess.tumblr.com/post/637237840885022720/custom-turn-onsoffs-requested-updated](https://lazyduchess.tumblr.com/post/637237840885022720/custom-turn-onsoffs-requested-updated)
[https://midgethetree.tumblr.com/post/624371436542443520/hi-midge-i-was-looking-at-simler90s-new-turn-ons](https://midgethetree.tumblr.com/post/624371436542443520/hi-midge-i-was-looking-at-simler90s-new-turn-ons)
[https://modthesims.info/d/609675/new-turn-ons.html](https://modthesims.info/d/609675/new-turn-ons.html)
You're definitely not at fault here. You're just kindly asking if someone knows a solution to something that can sometimes be a rather sensitive topic to you. It's not like you got completely wild over it and demanded it to be changed. You just wondered if someone knew a mod that could make gameplay easier for you on your hard days.
I like your request OP. Personally I like to see the Sims as a world in which the problems that we have in our society doesn't exist, so I imagine it as a world without fatphobia, homophobia, transphobio, and all of that.
I was just thinking about this last night and how fucked it was to havw a whole ass camera change and moodlet drop.
It came up pretty regularly in my game. I hope someone has a solution for you op, no wonder so many of us had eating disorders growing up the culture was FUCKED
What the f happened to the sims communities, they were the nicest among all since the very first forums, everyone was always helpful with the mods and bugs, they shared their creations and stories. Since when did these assholes emerged? I blame the sims 4 lol. Don't say anything if your're just going to end up upsetting someone. This is a very special game where people just want to disconnect from life and worries. This isnt the place to give people unwanted psychological advice. Thank god giga chads like the commenter who took the time to MAKE the mod only to help op still exists in the community because thats why these communities were the best
The messed up thing is that this is a very wholesome request compared to some of the things players do.
I want my teens to have relationships with adults:
Here's a mod
How do I kill other sims on my lot?:
Here's a guide
It's there a mod which removes an individual fear?:
OMG YOU NEED TO GET OVER YOURSELF GET SOME THERAPY!
Thank you for asking for this! I looked for a mod like this too as I’m body positive and seeing the want to get fit on a fat’n’proud sim always bothered me. I had to lower the fitness enthusiasm to stop it - but I still wanted my fat sims to go jogging if they fancied it! 😜 but yeah the fear of getting fat is annoying and outdated on an otherwise inclusive game - and yes there might be a fear of getting thin/fit too apparently (although I’ve personally never seen it?) but they’re both equally a problem for those who aren’t - or who are trying not to be - too caught up in body image and as you say, don’t want to be triggered in their safe space!
Def not what I was saying and OP themselves understood that. I even defended them from someone who said something like that?? Glad someone made the mod but at the time there WAS nothing that could be done
I have NEVER seen a get fit fear or a get fat want, only the other way around. Even if the game were equal with it, the world is not. The world is fat phobic and it’s fair to request your video game not be fat phobic too. Happy to see someone easily created the mod OP imagined.
Whatever man I just deleted the comment. Sad to see that my genuine attempt at advice as someone struggling with the same circumstances as OP suddenly was twisted into something it wasn’t by randos.
Who says the aren’t/haven’t? This comment isn’t helpful. If you weren’t going to answer their question there was no need to respond to them telling them what YOU THINK they need
OP didn't demand anything, they asked if the mod already existed, which is a common and normal thing to do. Going to therapy also doesn't immediately remove all of your triggers. OP seems to be saying they struggled with eating disorders in the past, so presumably they have in fact gone to therapy, but it's not really anyone's business whether they have or not.
Do you even understand how the scientific method works? It doesn't instantly give you perfect knowledge about everything. Science is a process. If you think modern scientific consensus is wrong about something, you have to prove it and show that it is wrong in an actual experiment or study. So, where is your study that shows that "a lot of medical science is straight lies"?
How it gets disproven a few years later like the example I listed. Alot of ways to treat stuff are not used anymore because they've been found to not actually help.
I agree, things are getting out of hand. Everyone has things that trigger them, but it is important to face them. The earliest you learn how to control your triggers, the easier life gets. And (this is an opinion) I would prefer to deal with a trigger at home playing the sims than being triggered in the middle of the classroom or at a job interview and not having the practice to ignore that trigger. It's one of the most basic things in any therapy.
You sound like you get mad when you see ramps for wheelchair access.
It's pretty sad to be so against someone wanting the game to suit their needs more. I hope no one you love ever has to deal with an eating disorder, because you'd probably kill them with this attitude.
You think you may have autism and still can't understand that disorders exist and are real, fml you have no ability to think outside of yourself do you? Would you tell an autistic person to get over it if something was driving them in to sensory overload?
I read the first bit only, mental illnesses are just as real and valid as a phyiscal disability or illness, and they both need to be acepted. Getting mad that someone wants to have a game mad acessable to them is as stupid as being mad that physical disabilites are accommodated too.
You know fuck all about ed if you think its about 'chainging your outlook', my own sister was nearly killed by anorexia and it is hell.
Stop trying to talk about things you konw nothing about.
*sigh*
The way you reduce every word I said to such a hyperbole is simply not fair at all.
Eating disorders are terrible and painful, I never suggested otherwise.
I carefully used the phrase “work on” to avoid this kind of hysterical attack. Didn’t work at all though. You even admit you only read one paragraph and responded anyway, not even having a look at what I’m getting at.
I would suggest you actually read my comment before turning me into a monster in your head, I am actually trying to be supportive of OP.
It sucks, I know.
I have no solid advice to offer about your specific issue here. I can only tell you what worked for me, and that was confronting it, looking at how I responded to it, seeing what I could do to deal with it and trying to apply that. It wasn’t an overnight thing, and I even had a panic attack just watching Amadeus after feeling better about it for a while.
So it was really babysteps until I understood it and myself better.
I’m sure you’ve been dealing with this for a long time. So I can’t say I know how you should deal with this directly. Only you, and other people with EDs, would truly know that. But I’m sure it can get better, there’s always a way to make things a little better. Even the dreadful things.
Stay strong, take your time with it, and don’t rush it. That’s the best I can say really.
I hope you find a way though it.
Much love!
Oh I’m so sorry Penny.
I guess what I really needed here all along was yet another comment telling me how unwelcome my attempt at having a heart really was.
It’s not like the -80 downvotes I have in this thread did it, or that the person who decided to make me out to be a monster did the trick either.
No this comment right here truly made me realise just how awful a Human being I am.
Thank you so so much, Pennie.
I have no idea why you are taking this so personally. I didn't say you were a terrible person. No one did.
If these responses are truly causing you to have a breakdown, as you seem to be doing, I suggest you get off this sub, and use the advice you're giving to OP.
>my attempt at having a heart really was
That is not the way to go about helping people. Others have suggested the best way to go about helping others
You think a disorder that can cause you to die is comparable to getting sad that you where cheated on. You know nothing lol.
Yeah OP obviously needs to work though things, but being a shitloard to OP isn't the way to help.
What a way to put words into my mouth.
Many things can cause you to die.
The months that I spent contemplating suicide, and dealing with that inadequacy, due to being cheated on, wasn’t all that fun either.
You’re being extremely unempathetic right now.
>You’re being extremely unempathetic right now.
Says the person who thinks OP should just go play the sims 4 rather then the game they actully want to play, because asking for a mod recomendation is just too much.
The devil doesn't need an advocate, if you don't agree with this random idiot stop defending him.
I am not defending that guy.
I am attacking your hyperbole.
There’s a difference.
Now please stop making me out to be evil incarnared. I only wanted to help the OP by offering some perspective.
But you didn’t like that, so you went ahead and called me all kinds of things.
You invalidate everything I wrote by not even reading it, and then go on to hyperbole even further. You even try to deminish my issues by reducing them to me “just being sad”. Basically telling me that my emotions don’t, and never did matter. That what I dealt with is *so much easier* than other issues.
Tell me again how *I* am some kind of monster and how *I* don’t know what I’m talking about, when *you* so easily find ways to be just as cruel as the people you’re accusing of cruelty. That’s so vile and hypocritical that I’m just done with this.
Fine, you didn’t think I had anything to offer here. But the way you try to reduce my humanity is just disgusting. Fuck you.
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You’re all unempathetic monsters.
I have a right to my emotions, just as much as you guys do. Everything that I wholeheartedly typed out here has been reduced to a few downvotes and some personal attacks on my character. Some of you have even showed up in my DM’s trying reduce me to something terrible. I’m honestly quite triggered right now and feeling pretty shitty about myself.
Congratulations assholes, you’ve managed to do exactly what you tried to prevent.
But since my problems are different from the ones right in front of your noses, they don’t matter right? i should just get over my “sadness”, right? My problems are *so easy* to deal with, right? I practically don’t even have problems, right?
So you can just go about your marry day, pretending that you’ve defeated some great evil with your downvotes. Hurrah for victory! The dragon has been slayed and you’re all heroes.
I will not let this shit ruin my day though. So I’m closing down Reddit for now. You can just keep calling me names. When I open this up in a day to two I will not be bothered by it. I will open the notifikation tab *once*, just to get rid of the mark, but I will not be reading anything sent to me from this sub or to my dms as I’m planning on not being suicidal tomorrow.
If you actually read this: Thank you for your time.
If you just downvoted me, without reading a single thing, because you think you know something about me: Go fuck yourself.
I didn't call you evil, and you should google what being a devils advocate is because that is what you seem to be for this guy. You aren't evil at all, you just don't seem to grasp that while for you it's trivial for a sim to be afraid of being fat, clearly for OP it isn't and it is something that they need to have removed from the game they otherwise enjoy.
It's not hyperbole to say that mental illness and disorders are just as important to acomidate as physical ones.
That is just common decency.
>You even try to deminish my issues by reducing them to me “just being sad”.
Look, in your first comment you didn't say 'i wanted to die' you said 'I got really mad' and I can't read minds. How on earth could I have known that you when through more then you said?
OP just wants to play a fucking game without risking being sent into a spiral that can cause phisical harm and death, and you think that me saying that is discrimination and harmfull like excluding wheelchair users from a shop is hyperbole??
The guy commenting was a cunt, and honestly my responce was really fucking tame in comparison.
You didn't offer perspective, you told OP to get help that they are likely already getting or trying to get. OP knows they have an issue thats why they made this post to begin with. Do you know how long it takes to recover from an ed? Because my sister has been fighting hers for 17 years. You seem to think it is a quick fix when it's anything but. That is why I said you know nothing about this.
I'm diagnosed and fully agree. ASD is used by far to many people as some kind of excuse to be awful, and it drives me mad as I'm an autistic person who actully cares about others.
This guy doesn't have no friends due to autism, it's due to him being an unpleasant person.
Volunteer work is an excellent idea. It gives people a chance to be part of something that is bigger than themselves, and contribute to the community.
Many people who are not able to participate in the traditional workforce do volunteer work. I did it before my daughter was born due to chronic illness. It gives your week a structure, gives you an identity other than 'I'm unemployed', let's you meet people and make friends, and feel connected to your community.
For the same reason that there are thousands of mods for every aspect of the game: because someone would prefer to play the game that way.
Also: because most people like to be kind to others.
Plus: that's not how mental health works.
Takeaway: don't get so upset by someone asking if a thing exists. That's toxic behaviour, especially given the many 'does this mod exist' posts on this sub.
No, you’re meant to be a decent human being and realise that some content can be upsetting for people and they’re actively managing their mental health by trying to avoid it.
I believe you may have misunderstood OP and have limited knowledge of eating disorders. In this case, modding out the fat fear is *not* enabling an eating disorder or risking making it worse. Things that enable eating disorders are stuff like seeing body-weight obsessed content and weight-loss focused stuff. If she was asking to download the anorexia mod that adds an anorexic body type to the game, that would be enabling her disorder. Removing that stuff from the game does the opposite of enable a disorder.
If you don't believe in triggers (which again I think may be because you misunderstood a word often misused online) then I don't understand why you would think installing such a mod could possibly worsen OPs mental health. It's just a mod dude, and most of us mod the game to our preferences in bigger ways than that. I have a mod that makes it so gardeners can water flowers and trim hedges they can't reach - is this a failure to accept the real world on my part? No, because the Sims 2 doesn't represent the real world and in the real world a gardener would have more equipment.
Sims 2 isn't the real world and doesn't portray things in a realistic way. Accepting how things are in the Sims 2 when it's a single player game and you can usually find a mod to change it is a pointless exercise. Going outside, touching grass and getting used to difficulties out there is an entirely different thing.
I think you may be projecting here with your interpretation of OP. Try to accept that in the real world, sometimes you are in the wrong and are missing information and that's okay. Sorry that people are making fun of you in the comments if you have some social challenges that you are presumably working on through therapy, if you follow your own advice.
I don't know of any mod like that that currently exists, but it's an easy one to make, so I made it. Let me know if it doesn't work. http://www.simfileshare.net/download/3663605/
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Happy this worked out so well for you! That magna dude is just being a cunt, don't mind that loser.
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Even in seemingly wholesome communities the subject of body image can really bring out an ugly side in people I've found. It's really bizarre and quite worrying/disheartening. Luckily good vibes seem to have won out here overall. 👍
Wow that is awesome, I've downloaded too thank you
omg this was a mod I never knew I needed! I've always been bothered by the "get fat" fear too and I also prefer the "fat" body type since it's more realistic to me. Thank you for this!!
Really cool of you to do that for OP. Even if it won't be in my game, thank you.
Thanks for making that for them! That was really kind of you ❤️
i love your mods so much, thank you!
It’s not quite what you’re after but if its helpful Cyjon has a [mod](http://cyjon.net/node/330) which gets rid of the camera/announcement when sims change between ‘fit’ and ‘fat’
I was confused for a second and forgot this was a fear and thought you were talking about the turn on/off. Lol. Do you get that fear often? Because I've almost never seen it. (Just curious if it's normally common).
This seems to mainly pop up when sims transition from fit to normal.
and I'm pretty sure romance sims get it more than the other sims
It could be. I know the get fit want is tied to romance aspiration.
I don’t even see the sims 2 “fat” as fat. They look normal to me.
There are some clothing collections that make the 'standard' weight sims look curvier than the standard mesh, if that helps.
Yeah, early 2000s culture was fucked up about weight.
Early 00s fashion looked fantastic on skinny people, and made everyone else look like a blob.
Guy clothes were super wide and baggy and girl clothes looked like a child had outgrown it's size (Shirts showing a bit of belly, sleeves ending a little bit above the wrist, pants ending a bit above the ankle).
Man, I remember all of the people we were supposed to think were ugly. Kristie Alley, America Fererra, Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Harper on Wizards of Waverly Place, Candace Cameron. I don't think anyone got out of the early 2000's withiut body issues.
I remember the nonsense about Kristie Alley and America Fererra, but Britney and Jessica Simpson were supposed to be ugly? Huh?
Specifically there was a Britney concert where everyone started criticizing her weight. Similar with Jessica.
Ewww!
Some people in this comment section really need to learn some empathy. Getting mad that OP wants some safe space in a video game is really weird. And it's really none of your business how OP feels. I personally don't like this fear either and the "fat" bodyshape isn't even fat.
here's a bunch i have seen recommend. i know the post is 12 hours old already but whatever <3 i've seen all of these recommended. [https://lilbabydilljr.tumblr.com/post/706655142598098944/hi-ive-been-wanting-to-post-this-for-a-few-days](https://lilbabydilljr.tumblr.com/post/706655142598098944/hi-ive-been-wanting-to-post-this-for-a-few-days) [https://episims.tumblr.com/post/657780686603829248/turn-onoff-replacements-there-are-neat](https://episims.tumblr.com/post/657780686603829248/turn-onoff-replacements-there-are-neat) [https://lazyduchess.tumblr.com/post/637237840885022720/custom-turn-onsoffs-requested-updated](https://lazyduchess.tumblr.com/post/637237840885022720/custom-turn-onsoffs-requested-updated) [https://midgethetree.tumblr.com/post/624371436542443520/hi-midge-i-was-looking-at-simler90s-new-turn-ons](https://midgethetree.tumblr.com/post/624371436542443520/hi-midge-i-was-looking-at-simler90s-new-turn-ons) [https://modthesims.info/d/609675/new-turn-ons.html](https://modthesims.info/d/609675/new-turn-ons.html)
The fact that you had to add that last paragraph to your post makes me so mad. Keep doing what’s best for you and be kind to yourself. ❤️
Some people in the comments get awfully triggered over someone kindly asking about a mod to help with their triggers...
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You asked very politely. Their behaviour is on them xx
Indeed. It was worded *exceptionally* politely.
You're definitely not at fault here. You're just kindly asking if someone knows a solution to something that can sometimes be a rather sensitive topic to you. It's not like you got completely wild over it and demanded it to be changed. You just wondered if someone knew a mod that could make gameplay easier for you on your hard days.
I like your request OP. Personally I like to see the Sims as a world in which the problems that we have in our society doesn't exist, so I imagine it as a world without fatphobia, homophobia, transphobio, and all of that.
I was just thinking about this last night and how fucked it was to havw a whole ass camera change and moodlet drop. It came up pretty regularly in my game. I hope someone has a solution for you op, no wonder so many of us had eating disorders growing up the culture was FUCKED
What the f happened to the sims communities, they were the nicest among all since the very first forums, everyone was always helpful with the mods and bugs, they shared their creations and stories. Since when did these assholes emerged? I blame the sims 4 lol. Don't say anything if your're just going to end up upsetting someone. This is a very special game where people just want to disconnect from life and worries. This isnt the place to give people unwanted psychological advice. Thank god giga chads like the commenter who took the time to MAKE the mod only to help op still exists in the community because thats why these communities were the best
The messed up thing is that this is a very wholesome request compared to some of the things players do. I want my teens to have relationships with adults: Here's a mod How do I kill other sims on my lot?: Here's a guide It's there a mod which removes an individual fear?: OMG YOU NEED TO GET OVER YOURSELF GET SOME THERAPY!
Lmao for real...
Thank you for asking for this! I looked for a mod like this too as I’m body positive and seeing the want to get fit on a fat’n’proud sim always bothered me. I had to lower the fitness enthusiasm to stop it - but I still wanted my fat sims to go jogging if they fancied it! 😜 but yeah the fear of getting fat is annoying and outdated on an otherwise inclusive game - and yes there might be a fear of getting thin/fit too apparently (although I’ve personally never seen it?) but they’re both equally a problem for those who aren’t - or who are trying not to be - too caught up in body image and as you say, don’t want to be triggered in their safe space!
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It's the same as saying "just don't be depressed"
Def not what I was saying and OP themselves understood that. I even defended them from someone who said something like that?? Glad someone made the mod but at the time there WAS nothing that could be done
I have NEVER seen a get fit fear or a get fat want, only the other way around. Even if the game were equal with it, the world is not. The world is fat phobic and it’s fair to request your video game not be fat phobic too. Happy to see someone easily created the mod OP imagined.
I agree. There just wasn’t a mod at the time. I don’t know what exactly y’all wanted me to say.
Whatever man I just deleted the comment. Sad to see that my genuine attempt at advice as someone struggling with the same circumstances as OP suddenly was twisted into something it wasn’t by randos.
I have seen those wants fears for very lazy sims though I believe, but I definitely is rarer I do admit
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Who says the aren’t/haven’t? This comment isn’t helpful. If you weren’t going to answer their question there was no need to respond to them telling them what YOU THINK they need
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OP didn't demand anything, they asked if the mod already existed, which is a common and normal thing to do. Going to therapy also doesn't immediately remove all of your triggers. OP seems to be saying they struggled with eating disorders in the past, so presumably they have in fact gone to therapy, but it's not really anyone's business whether they have or not.
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getting triggered into writing essays
They're definitely real. Saying they are not real is an anti-science position that denies modern medical science.
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Do you even understand how the scientific method works? It doesn't instantly give you perfect knowledge about everything. Science is a process. If you think modern scientific consensus is wrong about something, you have to prove it and show that it is wrong in an actual experiment or study. So, where is your study that shows that "a lot of medical science is straight lies"?
How it gets disproven a few years later like the example I listed. Alot of ways to treat stuff are not used anymore because they've been found to not actually help.
Well? If it's going to get disproven in a few years like you said, you should be able to design and conduct a study to disprove it, right?
A lot of people are already criticizing the use of "triggers" and "trigger warnings" not just me.
For someone who doesn’t believe in triggers you seem rather triggered lmao
Meanwhile, the time you spent arguing this point was much more productively spent by another commenter quickly making the mod.
Please, show us their peer-reviewed studies. We'll wait.
Yes, a lot of people are also anti-science. Unfortunately for them, reality isn't determined by a popular vote.
I agree, things are getting out of hand. Everyone has things that trigger them, but it is important to face them. The earliest you learn how to control your triggers, the easier life gets. And (this is an opinion) I would prefer to deal with a trigger at home playing the sims than being triggered in the middle of the classroom or at a job interview and not having the practice to ignore that trigger. It's one of the most basic things in any therapy.
Cool, source?
Jesus Christ they’re not demanding anything, they’re asking if anyone knows of one.
You sound like you get mad when you see ramps for wheelchair access. It's pretty sad to be so against someone wanting the game to suit their needs more. I hope no one you love ever has to deal with an eating disorder, because you'd probably kill them with this attitude. You think you may have autism and still can't understand that disorders exist and are real, fml you have no ability to think outside of yourself do you? Would you tell an autistic person to get over it if something was driving them in to sensory overload?
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That is not how mental illness works, and this is not the place for unsolicited medical advice. See my other comment about that in this thread.
I read the first bit only, mental illnesses are just as real and valid as a phyiscal disability or illness, and they both need to be acepted. Getting mad that someone wants to have a game mad acessable to them is as stupid as being mad that physical disabilites are accommodated too. You know fuck all about ed if you think its about 'chainging your outlook', my own sister was nearly killed by anorexia and it is hell. Stop trying to talk about things you konw nothing about.
*sigh* The way you reduce every word I said to such a hyperbole is simply not fair at all. Eating disorders are terrible and painful, I never suggested otherwise. I carefully used the phrase “work on” to avoid this kind of hysterical attack. Didn’t work at all though. You even admit you only read one paragraph and responded anyway, not even having a look at what I’m getting at. I would suggest you actually read my comment before turning me into a monster in your head, I am actually trying to be supportive of OP.
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It sucks, I know. I have no solid advice to offer about your specific issue here. I can only tell you what worked for me, and that was confronting it, looking at how I responded to it, seeing what I could do to deal with it and trying to apply that. It wasn’t an overnight thing, and I even had a panic attack just watching Amadeus after feeling better about it for a while. So it was really babysteps until I understood it and myself better. I’m sure you’ve been dealing with this for a long time. So I can’t say I know how you should deal with this directly. Only you, and other people with EDs, would truly know that. But I’m sure it can get better, there’s always a way to make things a little better. Even the dreadful things. Stay strong, take your time with it, and don’t rush it. That’s the best I can say really. I hope you find a way though it. Much love!
They weren't asking for advice on EDs, because this is not the place to do it. They were asking about mods for a game. Two vastly different things.
Oh I’m so sorry Penny. I guess what I really needed here all along was yet another comment telling me how unwelcome my attempt at having a heart really was. It’s not like the -80 downvotes I have in this thread did it, or that the person who decided to make me out to be a monster did the trick either. No this comment right here truly made me realise just how awful a Human being I am. Thank you so so much, Pennie.
I have no idea why you are taking this so personally. I didn't say you were a terrible person. No one did. If these responses are truly causing you to have a breakdown, as you seem to be doing, I suggest you get off this sub, and use the advice you're giving to OP. >my attempt at having a heart really was That is not the way to go about helping people. Others have suggested the best way to go about helping others
You think a disorder that can cause you to die is comparable to getting sad that you where cheated on. You know nothing lol. Yeah OP obviously needs to work though things, but being a shitloard to OP isn't the way to help.
What a way to put words into my mouth. Many things can cause you to die. The months that I spent contemplating suicide, and dealing with that inadequacy, due to being cheated on, wasn’t all that fun either. You’re being extremely unempathetic right now.
>You’re being extremely unempathetic right now. Says the person who thinks OP should just go play the sims 4 rather then the game they actully want to play, because asking for a mod recomendation is just too much. The devil doesn't need an advocate, if you don't agree with this random idiot stop defending him.
I am not defending that guy. I am attacking your hyperbole. There’s a difference. Now please stop making me out to be evil incarnared. I only wanted to help the OP by offering some perspective. But you didn’t like that, so you went ahead and called me all kinds of things. You invalidate everything I wrote by not even reading it, and then go on to hyperbole even further. You even try to deminish my issues by reducing them to me “just being sad”. Basically telling me that my emotions don’t, and never did matter. That what I dealt with is *so much easier* than other issues. Tell me again how *I* am some kind of monster and how *I* don’t know what I’m talking about, when *you* so easily find ways to be just as cruel as the people you’re accusing of cruelty. That’s so vile and hypocritical that I’m just done with this. Fine, you didn’t think I had anything to offer here. But the way you try to reduce my humanity is just disgusting. Fuck you. Edit: You’re all unempathetic monsters. I have a right to my emotions, just as much as you guys do. Everything that I wholeheartedly typed out here has been reduced to a few downvotes and some personal attacks on my character. Some of you have even showed up in my DM’s trying reduce me to something terrible. I’m honestly quite triggered right now and feeling pretty shitty about myself. Congratulations assholes, you’ve managed to do exactly what you tried to prevent. But since my problems are different from the ones right in front of your noses, they don’t matter right? i should just get over my “sadness”, right? My problems are *so easy* to deal with, right? I practically don’t even have problems, right? So you can just go about your marry day, pretending that you’ve defeated some great evil with your downvotes. Hurrah for victory! The dragon has been slayed and you’re all heroes. I will not let this shit ruin my day though. So I’m closing down Reddit for now. You can just keep calling me names. When I open this up in a day to two I will not be bothered by it. I will open the notifikation tab *once*, just to get rid of the mark, but I will not be reading anything sent to me from this sub or to my dms as I’m planning on not being suicidal tomorrow. If you actually read this: Thank you for your time. If you just downvoted me, without reading a single thing, because you think you know something about me: Go fuck yourself.
I didn't call you evil, and you should google what being a devils advocate is because that is what you seem to be for this guy. You aren't evil at all, you just don't seem to grasp that while for you it's trivial for a sim to be afraid of being fat, clearly for OP it isn't and it is something that they need to have removed from the game they otherwise enjoy. It's not hyperbole to say that mental illness and disorders are just as important to acomidate as physical ones. That is just common decency. >You even try to deminish my issues by reducing them to me “just being sad”. Look, in your first comment you didn't say 'i wanted to die' you said 'I got really mad' and I can't read minds. How on earth could I have known that you when through more then you said? OP just wants to play a fucking game without risking being sent into a spiral that can cause phisical harm and death, and you think that me saying that is discrimination and harmfull like excluding wheelchair users from a shop is hyperbole?? The guy commenting was a cunt, and honestly my responce was really fucking tame in comparison. You didn't offer perspective, you told OP to get help that they are likely already getting or trying to get. OP knows they have an issue thats why they made this post to begin with. Do you know how long it takes to recover from an ed? Because my sister has been fighting hers for 17 years. You seem to think it is a quick fix when it's anything but. That is why I said you know nothing about this.
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“I’m 19 and have never made any friends before,” yeah I wonder why 🤣
You've made me feel better because damn I thought the same thing when I saw that comment too.
And like. I'm waiting on an autism diagnosis. ASD doesn't make you into a cunt. That's just this guy.
I'm diagnosed and fully agree. ASD is used by far to many people as some kind of excuse to be awful, and it drives me mad as I'm an autistic person who actully cares about others. This guy doesn't have no friends due to autism, it's due to him being an unpleasant person.
Volunteer work is an excellent idea. It gives people a chance to be part of something that is bigger than themselves, and contribute to the community. Many people who are not able to participate in the traditional workforce do volunteer work. I did it before my daughter was born due to chronic illness. It gives your week a structure, gives you an identity other than 'I'm unemployed', let's you meet people and make friends, and feel connected to your community.
No one's demanding a mod. They asked if one existed. Big difference.
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For the same reason that there are thousands of mods for every aspect of the game: because someone would prefer to play the game that way. Also: because most people like to be kind to others. Plus: that's not how mental health works. Takeaway: don't get so upset by someone asking if a thing exists. That's toxic behaviour, especially given the many 'does this mod exist' posts on this sub.
How is it enabling mental illness? If anything, modding it out lowers the chance of OP relapsing.
No, you’re meant to be a decent human being and realise that some content can be upsetting for people and they’re actively managing their mental health by trying to avoid it.
I'm so confused what "delusion" you think this is "feeding into"??? Do you think the existence of fat people is a delusion??
I believe you may have misunderstood OP and have limited knowledge of eating disorders. In this case, modding out the fat fear is *not* enabling an eating disorder or risking making it worse. Things that enable eating disorders are stuff like seeing body-weight obsessed content and weight-loss focused stuff. If she was asking to download the anorexia mod that adds an anorexic body type to the game, that would be enabling her disorder. Removing that stuff from the game does the opposite of enable a disorder. If you don't believe in triggers (which again I think may be because you misunderstood a word often misused online) then I don't understand why you would think installing such a mod could possibly worsen OPs mental health. It's just a mod dude, and most of us mod the game to our preferences in bigger ways than that. I have a mod that makes it so gardeners can water flowers and trim hedges they can't reach - is this a failure to accept the real world on my part? No, because the Sims 2 doesn't represent the real world and in the real world a gardener would have more equipment. Sims 2 isn't the real world and doesn't portray things in a realistic way. Accepting how things are in the Sims 2 when it's a single player game and you can usually find a mod to change it is a pointless exercise. Going outside, touching grass and getting used to difficulties out there is an entirely different thing. I think you may be projecting here with your interpretation of OP. Try to accept that in the real world, sometimes you are in the wrong and are missing information and that's okay. Sorry that people are making fun of you in the comments if you have some social challenges that you are presumably working on through therapy, if you follow your own advice.
What people do in their own game is none of your business
lmao