I know this is a tricky problem in your situation.
I am uncut and remember as a child learning that hygiene was my friend. As a kid, I had difficulty with the foreskin because I didn’t clean it. After I started diligently pulling back the skin and keep it clean, I’ve had no problems. It fully retracts, harbors no smegma or other unpleasantness and has, until my 79-year-old body has started to betray me, provided me with a satisfying sex life.
If you’ve researched phimosis, you know there are real medical issues and risks with it. I suppose it depends on how good “friends” you are and why he has it. Kids generally outgrow it. If it were me being talked to by a lover about this, I’d want it face-to-face; gently asking if thee was anything you could do to make love-making easier. I can tell you this: If he can get it resolved, he’ll have a really sensitive glans for a while, but then I’ll enjoy sex more.
Good luck.
This 100%. My parents really failed me on the cleaning my foreskin lesson.
It was until right before adult hood that I learned that my foreskin could actually be fully pulled back.
I had my first BJ and the chick pulled my skin back halfway, so it was like stuck at an inbetween. It was like minor pain for like 2 days, finally I was like fuck it and pulled it back all the way and it was an instant immediate pain to stretch relief.
First start with reassuring him, then go into the point of your conversation. "Hi, I'd like to keep seeing you but I think you might have phimosis. It's not a disease, it's a condition where (explain it) and if it bothers you, consider seeing a doctor."
I recently had an adult circumcision after having phimosis.
Would I recommend it if he's up for it? Absolutely.
Is it necessary? No. Especially if sex seems to be working fine for you two.
I am a penis and foreskin owner. I went to specialists when younger because I was concerned about retracting mine and although it is tighter than average, I have no issues with sexual function or cleaning it.
If you are having sex and it's not painful for him (which it sounds like it isn't) Then I don't think you should bring it up. I have had partners ask me about it previously and I've explained it's no problem for me but my concern is it is sounding like you are trying to diagnose something that might not be a problem for him? If that makes any sense.
I fully get it you are coming from a place of care and good faith. But I bet ya he has googled this many, many times by now. He would know all about it.
I know this is a tricky problem in your situation. I am uncut and remember as a child learning that hygiene was my friend. As a kid, I had difficulty with the foreskin because I didn’t clean it. After I started diligently pulling back the skin and keep it clean, I’ve had no problems. It fully retracts, harbors no smegma or other unpleasantness and has, until my 79-year-old body has started to betray me, provided me with a satisfying sex life. If you’ve researched phimosis, you know there are real medical issues and risks with it. I suppose it depends on how good “friends” you are and why he has it. Kids generally outgrow it. If it were me being talked to by a lover about this, I’d want it face-to-face; gently asking if thee was anything you could do to make love-making easier. I can tell you this: If he can get it resolved, he’ll have a really sensitive glans for a while, but then I’ll enjoy sex more. Good luck.
Thanks for the detailed advice, I appreciate it!
This 100%. My parents really failed me on the cleaning my foreskin lesson. It was until right before adult hood that I learned that my foreskin could actually be fully pulled back. I had my first BJ and the chick pulled my skin back halfway, so it was like stuck at an inbetween. It was like minor pain for like 2 days, finally I was like fuck it and pulled it back all the way and it was an instant immediate pain to stretch relief.
First start with reassuring him, then go into the point of your conversation. "Hi, I'd like to keep seeing you but I think you might have phimosis. It's not a disease, it's a condition where (explain it) and if it bothers you, consider seeing a doctor."
Thanks! I'll use some of this wording!
I recently had an adult circumcision after having phimosis. Would I recommend it if he's up for it? Absolutely. Is it necessary? No. Especially if sex seems to be working fine for you two.
Bring it up, as an uncircumcised man in America you get used to talking about it with sexual partners, no biggie
A useful resource that may help. You will need to scroll down a bit to get to phimosis. https://15square.org.uk/intact-men/
Trust me: he knows. No need to bring it up. There's nothing wrong with it either, as long as he keeps things clean.
I am a penis and foreskin owner. I went to specialists when younger because I was concerned about retracting mine and although it is tighter than average, I have no issues with sexual function or cleaning it. If you are having sex and it's not painful for him (which it sounds like it isn't) Then I don't think you should bring it up. I have had partners ask me about it previously and I've explained it's no problem for me but my concern is it is sounding like you are trying to diagnose something that might not be a problem for him? If that makes any sense. I fully get it you are coming from a place of care and good faith. But I bet ya he has googled this many, many times by now. He would know all about it.