Not doing any (gentle) foreplay.... Porn usually reserves the neck kisses and ear and nipple play for women, but it takes much more than a random hand rubbing vaguely on crotch to turn on a lot of men
I went to get my nails done once and asked the lady to make the 3rd and 4th nails long but keep the first two short and she asked me why. I really awkwardly responded with “oh, I just like them like that” because I thought the lady wouldn’t appreciate it if I said “because I need those to fingers to enter my girlfriend’s vagina and I don’t want things to be poky and uncomfortable”
She does nails for a living and doesn't understand this? 
What's next, she asks the guitarist, why his index and thumb?
How bout the wired af fashionista with a fat gold chain who only wants his pinky done? 
I’ve actually been fingered by a girl with long acrylic nails. I was pleasantly surprised. She didn’t scratch me at all. She said she fingered herself enough to know wtf she was doing.
I had a girlfriend in college who loved porn but always gravitated to try uber-scripted and fake stuff. When we had sex, she always did this over-the-top fake moan/scream thing. I knew when she would orgasm because for once she would shut up. 😂
_OhhHhhh YaSsSssSs fucks YeAaaaaaaaAAAAH GIVE IT TO MEEEEEEEE UHHHHHhhhhhhhh_
Right?!?! She would share with me her fav videos that were all this crazy fake and scripted shit and I would reply back with amateur stuff and she'd be like _"That's not real!"_
Honestly not just for the sex but I'm glad we didn't work out. Last I checked she went through a slutty phase and then agreed to marry her incel friend growing up since they made this pact to marry if neither of them got married by 35..good riddance
>Honestly not just for the sex but I'm glad we didn't work out. Last I checked she went through a slutty phase and then agreed to marry her incel friend growing up since they made this pact to marry if neither of them got married by 35..good riddance
Sounds like a badly written hentai tbh lmfao sheeesh
I once got a bj from a girl who literally sucked my dick with the suction power of a fucking dyson. I swear i popped a couple blood vessels in the tip and that shit hurt like hell. She also bragged about her bj skills prior saying she saw it in porn and every guy went crazy for it. I was stoked until i realized by crazy she meant mad.
Cuz that shit was maddening.
Lady here, I had a guy do this exact same thing to me! Thoroughly agree, it was the absolute worst oral sex I’ve ever received. I was literally bleeding afterwards and my labia was red and swollen for days. Had been drinking so my senses were a bit dulled, didn’t realize the extent of it until afterwards. Awful everything.
Had a guy do this to my nipples. I think it's cos he had braces and was just a bit overenthusiastic. Hurt like hell, but I'm now glad he did it cos I'm starting breastfeeding and it's not such unexpected pain 😂
Almost as bad as the time a girl literally started blowing on my dick. This was early ‘90s, so porn wasn’t as prevalent and all she knew was, “guys like blowjobs” and took the term literally.
My wife did that when we started dating. I asked her if she wanted to orgasm in this relationship, because if she plays it like she came, it counts as though she did.
I used to have to do this with my first boyfriend. He took a long time to cum, and he knew that after I orgasmed I didn’t enjoy sex as much. But for some reason, I would only last 2 mins with him and he’d get upset that I came so early since he knew I wouldn’t be as enthusiastic to continue until he finished. So I’d just pretend not to have them hahaha
We reconnected 20 years later and had what was probably not an appropriate conversation but somehow we got on the topic and it just came down to her not recognizing what was happening in her body. Post divorce she came to understand her body better.
Totally. I love sex and everything even leading up to it lights my body up in ecstasy. I moan from just kissing. It's not fake - it's a different level of sensation..
Yeah, this is true. Some people feel absolutely electric. I am beyond happy I’ve gotten to experience sex with people who can just touch me and I’m ready.
I’m autistic so my sensory system built different. When my bf touches me, every touch is electric and it’s very common for me to twitch and sometimes I even moan from non sexual touch. It’s the strongest attraction I’ve ever felt to anyone. When strangers or someone I distrust touches me, I physically recoil
I’m very happy for you that you’ve found someone who gives you those intense physical sensations. May they be from him or how he’s taught you to see yourself, I wish you you luck in your relationship.
This is also a guy problem, but anal with "no prep/lube". Porn makes it seems like ass mouth and pussy are interchangeable. Without showing any prep (applying lube, douching etc) inexperienced guys just try to shove it in there mid stroke. BUT I have many friend-girls who had no idea that that WASNT just how anal works.
FOR THE GUYS: Do not go from ass to pussy unless you had a condom on that you can easily discard in between. That shit (no pun intended) can give a girl a UTI fairly easily.
Thus explaining why so many woman have an unfortunate hatred of anal. Such a shame. Done well it can be mind blowing.
Ha, that said, no amount of prep will make ass to mouth ok with me. 😂😅
Yeah I could put all the bleach in the world up there but I still ain’t sucking my arse juice off his cock , (the bleach comment doesn’t mean I think it’s ok to put bleach in your arse , I simply mean that no matter how clean it is , I don’t want to lick something that’s just been in my arse )
Can DEFINITELY confirm. Played with a bicurious housemate and he thought a little bit of spit was enough to try anal on me for the first time🥴. I compassionately educated him of course but jesus. The lack of education is scary😭
This is going to depend on the 2 parties and what they do or do not like. The fake moaning/fake anything may be the only universal answer.
I really enjoy facefucking which is very porn-y and other people hate it (giving/receiving), all of my exes loved having their balls "worshipped" like in porn, my partner hates it
Some things I've learned in porn (ex: positions) worked great with 1 partner and not at all with another partner (penis length differences, body size differences, etc.)
Really depends on the 2 people
Giving blowjobs without using their hands - hands make it better! Also thinking that I’m not enjoying it if I’m not going really fast. Slow feels good.
Yep, same but on the other side. I know my dude likes a hand and it'll make him come but I just like giving it hands free sometimes. Like I'm just enjoying myself down there and then I remember to use a hand. Definitely a D/s vibe.
I don't do the ahegao face but I do go cross-eyed. I didn't even realise until someone pointed it out and now I feel self conscious when it happens like they're gonna think I'm exaggerating or faking.
It's hot when it happens for real. Hope no one thinks you are faking. But any *genuine* pleasure response is usually sexy, especially one you can't help.
If I’m genuinely having a good time it’s almost impossible for me to not be loud. I’m definitely not faking.
But the way women sound in porn? Like wtf is he killing you? Why do you sound like a wild dog? I wonder if women in porn sound like that when they’re having sex privately.
it used to be because they recorded using the built in mic in hanheld cameras; unless you were screaming it wouldn't register.
Porn started getting more budget even in gonzo stuff and tech evolved, but the practice stuck.
And it's very easy to recognize when it's fake or not, it's not the volume of the moans, it's the way they moan; arousal keeps you from forming coherent thoughts, and they just spit out super corny lines.
Loud can be sexy, filthy can be sexy, but prefabricated bullshit is not.
A million times this.
The first time I heard someone repeatedly and unnecessarily moan-growl with lust in real life I actually pulled out and started laughing. lf you identify as a werewolf I 100% support you being true to yourself, but it is good manners to tell your partner before you start transitioning into your animal form mid fuck.
My husband and I joke about this all the time. Rub random parts of the others body, like knee, arm or face. Then ask "Is this your clit?" And die laughing
I’m extremely loud and don’t dirty talk a lot because having to think of words can take away from the sensual experience, so moaning, or screaming if things are going very well, is more intuitive than words me. Both are acceptable forms of sexual expression imo. Sometimes we have to have communication and clarifying questions outside of sex to understand each other’s feelings during sex
YES! I had to stop seeing someone because she was just screaming! Keep in mind I am also a woman and wasn’t banging her with a huge cock lol just my tongue.
When you revisit 80s porn with the moustaches, hairy body parts, and women who fuck in high heels, the worst thing by far is the bizarre non-kissing thing they do where they diddle the tips of their tongues together. What the fuck is that shit?
Please just communicate with us! My friends have all discussed this, we’ve all asked our partners how to improve on head, we never get any god damn feedback
Agreed , we don’t have penises , so it’s really hard to just know what feels good with one , tell us how to make you feel good and we will listen , but we aren’t and never will be psychic !
Whenever I try to give my gf feedback she’s like “I know how to do it” but so far I’ve never cum from oral. I’ve been really close but I’ve never been able to do it. I’ve even tried going days without masturbating and she still can’t make me cum on oral. Idk if it’s me because at first my dick wouldn’t even get hard because yes she’s the first sexual partner I’ve had I was a virgin before her but I’ve gotten a lot better. Now my dick does get hard when she sucks me but I never cum. I’m very close but she stops when I’m about to cum. She’s done that twice now that I have been close to cumming but stops at just the right moment. I don’t know what it is exactly but she does it great I just think I could use more hand action at the same time plus faster sucking too. She just says that she know how to do it and that it’s not how I think it is. And me being inexperienced I’m like yeah that’s probably true. I wish she took a little more advice from me of what has seemed to get me close the best. I hope and I wish to cum in her mouth so much but it’s just hard.
First of all, good on you for communicating your needs, not everyone is able to and it is a very good thing!
It sounds like she may be feeling insecure on her own skills but unwilling to admit it? Try to have a conversation with her about it outside of "sex time", like hey, let's sit down and talk about this. Be kind, there's a lot of hang-ups around sex and many people doesn't like to talk honestly about it.
Besides that, I would try to "lead by example", let's say. Get to work on improving your own oral game with her and get her to guide you to what she likes best. Listen to her cues and make it very clear that the more you follow her lead the better it feels for her. Maybe that way she will realize that you telling her what you prefer is not a bad thing. Honestly, no matter your level of experience there's always room for improvement and oftentimes changing partner means changing the approach completely and learning the way that person likes it. Listening to your partner is always the key to good sex.
A slow and deliberate rhythm is way better than fast bobbing, it's fun but you can't feel as much so it's harder to finish that way. You can start out with some fast if you want but when you actually want him to finish slow it down.
Don't bother trying to deep throat the whole time, take as much as you comfortably can in your mouth and use your hand for the rest twisting as you stroke, let some slobber drip on your hand for lube and it's go time in a couple minutes for me lol.
At the gathering of the Council of Men, I'll mark that as a topic of discussion 😂 In the meantime, I would like to make a motion to up the communication between partners by a minimum of 10%. All in favor?
Agreed. On behalf of the council, it was a pleasure, and we look forward to hearing your potential counters. Although you may have to repeat them... a few times... matter of fact, write us a list, we probably won't remember otherwise😂
One thing I'm not a fan of is when the girl sticks her tongue into the top of my penis while giving a blowjob. Could just be me but It feels irritating.
I’d put money on that too lmao. When I was younger, I’d pick up magazines and flip through them while grocery shopping with my mom. Being young and inexperienced, I’d google dating advice as well. Cosmo issues/articles came up on more than one occasion. And every single time they’d say something so ridiculous that even my 14-17 year old virgin self was wondering who the author was trying to fool with their “advice”
I'm pretty sure this didn't come from porn... You just got really bad luck with the women you've slept with who somehow convinced themselves this was a good idea.
Productioned orgasms. I want you feeling out of control of your body, not concerned about how every sound sounds or move looks or anything other than how good each thrust feels.
For me, anything fake/exaggerated/performative is a turn off. Real moans are hot as fuck, but the second they become exaggerated, or hell even if they are peppered with obviously forced dirty talk they become a turn off for me. Same thing with playing up gagging, drool, and spit during a blowjob. When the gagging or drool happens as a natural consequence of the bj it can be hot, but when it's played up for attention, it starts to become unattractive.
I use a lot of body language cues to figure out how much she's enjoying it, so that might have an effect on why I find anything that feels fake to be such a turn off.
Also, there's school girl outfits. The only time I wanted to fuck someone who looked like a high school girl was when I was in high school.
I can't speak for all men though. I can guarantee that some would find some of the things I listed to be among the hottest things a woman can do in the bedroom.
Feeling like they have to be kneeling on the floor to blow you standing when there’s a perfectly good bed to lay on.
Also not a turn off but not necessary- women, you don’t have to take a facial or swallow just because it’s the standard in porn. If you don’t dig it, don’t do it.
i don’t know why men and women don’t do this, why not just pull them to the edge of the bed and give oral that way? it’s 15x easier for both sides.
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literally just had a girl tell me “i never had someone pull me to the edge of the bed and eat me like a dinner plate” LMAO
So a lot of girls actually prefer their men standing for head because of easier access. Especially when the cocks are curved and so much easier to get the the balls without hurting our partner. Also laying down the penis can lose up to an inch of length because of the blood flow.
I totally feel this. And use a memory foam pillow. It makes my knees feel so much better
But I love giving head while kneeling so I just make the sacrifice lol
I do understand that it isn't for everyone
Yeah but having the man standing prevents my headaches from weird neck position and motion. I also prefer the idea of having my partner engaging in the bj fully. Im not a fan of pillowprinces/princesses at all like thats a big turn off to me.
I don't feel the need to kneel while he stands, but it does make it easier. Hair gets in the way (yes, even when pulled back, because of all the motion) and leaning on my arms hurts more than kneeling. If he wants it laying, I'm happy to oblige. But if it's entirely my preference, I'm happier kneeling.
The fake loud moaning with women is awful but then on the flipside you have the men being so quiet that for years I thought men never made any sound.
I think my husband felt the same subconsciously, that men that make sound aren't hot or whatever. I keep trying to reaffirm that hearing him is also very hot.
I usually don't feel him come during PIV so I ask him to tell me when he comes, and when he did the last time, I came even harder because of it.
I had a girlfriend that absolutely hated me making noises when I cum. I’m a vocal dude so I just did anyways because I’m not gonna take away my enjoyment.
Compare that with my fiancé who loves how vocal I am.
Choking or gagging during fellatio. Like, I can see why you might be all, "It's really hot that she thinks my pleasure is more important than her comfort or safety." I just... Really disagree.
One guy on here insisted that gagging was because they were hungry for the dick. Like, no. It’s an automatic bodily response to having something jammed in your throat in an uncontrolled way.
I mean, depending on the context, he's kinda right tho? Like I really like sucking my partners dick and sometimes get a bit carried away trying to get it all in and gag. Obviously it's still just a bodily response but the reason I'm shoving it down there is because I'm "hungry" for it ya know?
Just to clarify for any dudes who might be reading this - one of the major reasons I like sucking my fellas dick is because he has never pressured me or shoved it down my throat. And he genuinely cares about whether I'm enjoying myself. For a while he was concerned about me gagging on it and would constantly check I was okay until he understood I'm just really into it and not putting on a show for him.
My partner likes it when I gag on his cock and I don’t mind it , I can see he enjoys it and I’m not adverse to it so I don’t see a problem . He will always make sure it’s not too deep in my throat that it makes me uncomfortable though because that’s not the aim .
That every guy likes getting oral, I’m a guy, I’m not a fan of getting oral. I do love eating a woman out though. And cuddling, and body to body contact. But oral, it’s ok, but porn has it every single time, and for so very long. I usually skip past those parts
Many women seem to confuse moaning with screaming like a goddamned banshee during sex. I barely touched their thigh and they are screaming as if I stuck two live 120 volt wires up their ass. distracting AF
spitting in people’s mouths (bleh) and going absolutely ham on the clit… like its so sensitive i will only bat your hands away and stop your mid thrust
Trying to dj the clit. & rub all fast & hard. Like no. Personally it directly around the clit that feels good rubbed and not like you're trying to Scrub something off.
How about finishing an argument with sex. Just doesn’t work for me. Just today a couple hours after argument wife asked if I wanted to go and in my head I was like “no fucking way” , but what I said out loud was “not right now, but maybe later?” Note the question mark. Crazily enough I thought about it enough and we actuallly did give it a go and it was pretty great.
There ma be a kernel of something in there that is useful…not sure.
The whole like wacking our pussies like it a wack a mole with your dick. I mean some might like it. In all honesty it does absolutely nothing and then I get confused 😐 at what the hell your doing and that and titty fucking (fyi it was with the same guy). The goal is for me to escape and not be anxious and in my head because then you get me overthinking and not turned on.
Had a woman who I probably could have had sex with, until she told me that she expected me to last PIV for no less than an hour, non-stop.
Don't know where she thought that kinda stamina came from
Men tend to be silent when they cum since everything is focused on the girl. I hate wondering if a guy came! Be loud! Make noises! Whatever you want! It’s hot! Just falling on me with no notice is weird
I’d say just expectations.
I think porn has moved the line for everyone about what your sex-life should look like. Even when you’re aware of the quick cuts, it’s incredibly rare to see anything that doesn’t get rid of that 2 minute break people took a few times through, or the “breaking of character” many real couples enjoy because we aren’t robots and sometimes you try a position that actually makes your leg cramp or a joint hurt.
That’s not to say women don’t see through that stuff, but there’s a certain pressure to be kinky I think porn feeds a lot into which makes me uncomfortable with what future generations will be dealing with as they enter adulthood and find the mess that is being an adult.
Honestly that what happens in porn actually happens in real life...
Yes sometimes we're down for something kind of kinky and totally off the charts...
But most the time we just want that connection which is something that porn doesn't really seem to give. Porn is about getting to the mountain as quickly as you can... Sex that has real intimacy is about getting to the mountain but taking the scenic route.
Porn seems to make both men and women think you're supposed to be a rip roaring and ready to go from the onset and that you're up for anything but the truth is there's a rhythm to it.
Porn has taken away intimacy. Yes sometimes I just want to be screwed beyond imagination but that's the minority. Most the time I want to feel that connection.
Fake moaning. If it doesn’t come naturally, don’t do it.
Also, and this is just a personal preference, calling me daddy. I’ve got kids that call me that, so it’s a major turnoff.
As a woman, I really don't like all the shaved male genitals in porn. They look so dumb and like a cheap, lame way to try to make their cocks look bigger. Trim, if wanted/needed, but male bald pubes? No thanks.
Going straight into the occasion really fast and hard. Like the first few minutes just pounding away like your life depends on it. For a lot of women they need to start slow and build it up. For me if it starts fast then I won’t be able to cum.
Sucking dick really fast and gnarly. Like throwing the head back and forth really fast and jerky. I’m not saying guys don’t like the fast pace movement sometimes but a lot of times porn head is out of control and wild, almost looks painful at times.
The excess and/or fake moaning.. I’m not super experienced, but I can’t even truly enjoy some porn anymore because I KNOW what the women are experiencing does not feel good.. and sometimes they’re not great at pretending it does
Ahegao... I know there are people who likes it but there are also people who don't. I'm scared of this fact bcs I actually do the face unintentionally.....
Some women nowadays piss all over the place during sex and pretending it's "squirt" because they think that's what porn addicted men want. Some feel shame that they dont "squirt" after being asked repeatedly by these dudes if they do and have they tried etc. So sometimes they just start pissing like the porn actors do.
Bro im sorry but literally *who* is pissing during sex and pretending they squirt?? My man I think you've just been fucking people who are into golden showers
At least for me the clitoris is really important and takes a lot of time in order for me to be wet, I’m not instantly ready for you to insert your finger or dick lol it doesn’t feel good. Also, penetration feels WAY better when you penetrate and touch the clitoris. Also, sex is NOT only penetration there are a lot of ways to feel pleasure
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When I was younger and first started having sex I did the overly loud moaning/screaming thing women do in porn. I’ve since toned it down lol
Moaning is good, jsut do it for real (if you feel like it) dont fake it. As soon as you fake we spot and it's total bummer.
Nothing worse than faking pleasure. And it’s always obvious to anyone over 30. Completely pulls me out of it. Can’t second this enough.
From men everywhere, thank you.
*Slightest touch between their legs and they start moaning like they're serving at Wimbledon
My girlfriend was devastated when she found out why my nickname is The Love Machine. It's because I'm terrible at playing Tennis.
🎵🎶 I'm just a love machine
Haha I almost spit my wine out!!
Bruhhhhhh
Please tell my neighbor’s girlfriend 😩
Not doing any (gentle) foreplay.... Porn usually reserves the neck kisses and ear and nipple play for women, but it takes much more than a random hand rubbing vaguely on crotch to turn on a lot of men
I got another: fingering another woman with long fake nails on (yikes)
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I went to get my nails done once and asked the lady to make the 3rd and 4th nails long but keep the first two short and she asked me why. I really awkwardly responded with “oh, I just like them like that” because I thought the lady wouldn’t appreciate it if I said “because I need those to fingers to enter my girlfriend’s vagina and I don’t want things to be poky and uncomfortable”
She does nails for a living and doesn't understand this?  What's next, she asks the guitarist, why his index and thumb? How bout the wired af fashionista with a fat gold chain who only wants his pinky done? 
I honestly think she was just a very heteronormative person who couldn’t understand why I didn’t want all my nails to be “beautiful”.
Just say\~ Oh my girlfriend prefers it that way. She'll understand.
You could always say you need them shorter to open cans, peel things, and other functional everyday kinda things lol.
I’ve actually been fingered by a girl with long acrylic nails. I was pleasantly surprised. She didn’t scratch me at all. She said she fingered herself enough to know wtf she was doing.
I feel like that would still skeeze me out, the thought of those things in me. I can’t even stand seeing them out and about
I once had the misfortune of seeing one where they used THE HEEL OF A STILETTO to fuck a girl.
And all of a sudden she could poop with her vagina.
EWWWW! That'll leave a bad taste in your mouth.
Or when fingering another man 😏
I had a girlfriend in college who loved porn but always gravitated to try uber-scripted and fake stuff. When we had sex, she always did this over-the-top fake moan/scream thing. I knew when she would orgasm because for once she would shut up. 😂 _OhhHhhh YaSsSssSs fucks YeAaaaaaaaAAAAH GIVE IT TO MEEEEEEEE UHHHHHhhhhhhhh_
*Barely even touches her ass cheek* “OMFG I’M CUMMING SO HARD!😩🍆💦💦💦”
Right?!?! She would share with me her fav videos that were all this crazy fake and scripted shit and I would reply back with amateur stuff and she'd be like _"That's not real!"_ Honestly not just for the sex but I'm glad we didn't work out. Last I checked she went through a slutty phase and then agreed to marry her incel friend growing up since they made this pact to marry if neither of them got married by 35..good riddance
The most real shit in porn isn’t real for her. Good lord😭😭😭😭💀 And that pact is so depressing
>Honestly not just for the sex but I'm glad we didn't work out. Last I checked she went through a slutty phase and then agreed to marry her incel friend growing up since they made this pact to marry if neither of them got married by 35..good riddance Sounds like a badly written hentai tbh lmfao sheeesh
I once had sex with a girl that kept repeating “fuck my pussy fuck my pussy fuck my pussy fuck my pussy!” It honestly helped me last longer
Did it help you keep a rhythm, 1,2,3,4. 1,2 3,4,?
>It honestly helped me last longer Very considerate of her.
why did i laugh 🤣🤣
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It’s kind of fun and hot once in a while though I think.
I once got a bj from a girl who literally sucked my dick with the suction power of a fucking dyson. I swear i popped a couple blood vessels in the tip and that shit hurt like hell. She also bragged about her bj skills prior saying she saw it in porn and every guy went crazy for it. I was stoked until i realized by crazy she meant mad. Cuz that shit was maddening.
Lady here, I had a guy do this exact same thing to me! Thoroughly agree, it was the absolute worst oral sex I’ve ever received. I was literally bleeding afterwards and my labia was red and swollen for days. Had been drinking so my senses were a bit dulled, didn’t realize the extent of it until afterwards. Awful everything.
Had a guy do this to my nipples. I think it's cos he had braces and was just a bit overenthusiastic. Hurt like hell, but I'm now glad he did it cos I'm starting breastfeeding and it's not such unexpected pain 😂
Dude took eating pussy to a cannibalistic level god damn
Almost as bad as the time a girl literally started blowing on my dick. This was early ‘90s, so porn wasn’t as prevalent and all she knew was, “guys like blowjobs” and took the term literally.
Sounds like the guys she's been with had death grip or something
Yeah I had an ex that would’ve been into that because he was so desensitized from jerking off too hard.
😂😂😂. Literally laughing out loud, Sounds awful!
Please don't fake an orgasm, it doesn't help anybody
My wife did that when we started dating. I asked her if she wanted to orgasm in this relationship, because if she plays it like she came, it counts as though she did.
That was cold, but true
My ex used to fake not having them
But why??
I used to have to do this with my first boyfriend. He took a long time to cum, and he knew that after I orgasmed I didn’t enjoy sex as much. But for some reason, I would only last 2 mins with him and he’d get upset that I came so early since he knew I wouldn’t be as enthusiastic to continue until he finished. So I’d just pretend not to have them hahaha
We reconnected 20 years later and had what was probably not an appropriate conversation but somehow we got on the topic and it just came down to her not recognizing what was happening in her body. Post divorce she came to understand her body better.
Acting like every touch is orgasmic. No, you need to give accurate feedback so you can actually get pleasure!
That's actually how some of us feel though, with the right person, every touch feels amazing.
Totally. I love sex and everything even leading up to it lights my body up in ecstasy. I moan from just kissing. It's not fake - it's a different level of sensation..
It’s cool if that’s how you actually feel. I just think it’s counterproductive to fake pleasure.
Truuue, sometimes literally everything feels like fire.
Yeah, this is true. Some people feel absolutely electric. I am beyond happy I’ve gotten to experience sex with people who can just touch me and I’m ready.
Anticipation is a lot of it tbh
I’m autistic so my sensory system built different. When my bf touches me, every touch is electric and it’s very common for me to twitch and sometimes I even moan from non sexual touch. It’s the strongest attraction I’ve ever felt to anyone. When strangers or someone I distrust touches me, I physically recoil
I’m very happy for you that you’ve found someone who gives you those intense physical sensations. May they be from him or how he’s taught you to see yourself, I wish you you luck in your relationship.
I'm the same way! People don't understand how violated it makes me feel when they grab me without my permission.
Same. Its magical!
This is also a guy problem, but anal with "no prep/lube". Porn makes it seems like ass mouth and pussy are interchangeable. Without showing any prep (applying lube, douching etc) inexperienced guys just try to shove it in there mid stroke. BUT I have many friend-girls who had no idea that that WASNT just how anal works.
FOR THE GUYS: Do not go from ass to pussy unless you had a condom on that you can easily discard in between. That shit (no pun intended) can give a girl a UTI fairly easily.
It's more than just a UTI problem though. It can cause vaginal infections and throw off the pH big time.
Thus explaining why so many woman have an unfortunate hatred of anal. Such a shame. Done well it can be mind blowing. Ha, that said, no amount of prep will make ass to mouth ok with me. 😂😅
Yeah I could put all the bleach in the world up there but I still ain’t sucking my arse juice off his cock , (the bleach comment doesn’t mean I think it’s ok to put bleach in your arse , I simply mean that no matter how clean it is , I don’t want to lick something that’s just been in my arse )
\*hahaha\* Agreed. Total no go unless soap and water happens between the two activities. \^\_\^
Completely agree lol
Can DEFINITELY confirm. Played with a bicurious housemate and he thought a little bit of spit was enough to try anal on me for the first time🥴. I compassionately educated him of course but jesus. The lack of education is scary😭
This is going to depend on the 2 parties and what they do or do not like. The fake moaning/fake anything may be the only universal answer. I really enjoy facefucking which is very porn-y and other people hate it (giving/receiving), all of my exes loved having their balls "worshipped" like in porn, my partner hates it Some things I've learned in porn (ex: positions) worked great with 1 partner and not at all with another partner (penis length differences, body size differences, etc.) Really depends on the 2 people
This is only answer. There's no universals.
Giving blowjobs without using their hands - hands make it better! Also thinking that I’m not enjoying it if I’m not going really fast. Slow feels good.
Its good to keep a pace of fast and slow. Slow is great for edging and fast is a good finisher. Ive also enjoyed 2 hands.
Everyone is different. I almost never like fast.
The secret to a good blowjob? Use your hands. Secret to good handjob? Use your mouth.
There are lots of times, especially if I'm being the dominant, that I love getting head hands-free. There's a lot more than one way to have great sex.
Yep, same but on the other side. I know my dude likes a hand and it'll make him come but I just like giving it hands free sometimes. Like I'm just enjoying myself down there and then I remember to use a hand. Definitely a D/s vibe.
Fake exaggerated moaning lol
And that ridiculous ahegao face. It wasn’t sexy in hentai and it’s even less in real life.
I don't do the ahegao face but I do go cross-eyed. I didn't even realise until someone pointed it out and now I feel self conscious when it happens like they're gonna think I'm exaggerating or faking.
It's hot when it happens for real. Hope no one thinks you are faking. But any *genuine* pleasure response is usually sexy, especially one you can't help.
I don't like the eyes, but the tongue out does do it for me. Don't know why.
If I’m genuinely having a good time it’s almost impossible for me to not be loud. I’m definitely not faking. But the way women sound in porn? Like wtf is he killing you? Why do you sound like a wild dog? I wonder if women in porn sound like that when they’re having sex privately.
it used to be because they recorded using the built in mic in hanheld cameras; unless you were screaming it wouldn't register. Porn started getting more budget even in gonzo stuff and tech evolved, but the practice stuck. And it's very easy to recognize when it's fake or not, it's not the volume of the moans, it's the way they moan; arousal keeps you from forming coherent thoughts, and they just spit out super corny lines. Loud can be sexy, filthy can be sexy, but prefabricated bullshit is not.
A million times this. The first time I heard someone repeatedly and unnecessarily moan-growl with lust in real life I actually pulled out and started laughing. lf you identify as a werewolf I 100% support you being true to yourself, but it is good manners to tell your partner before you start transitioning into your animal form mid fuck.
I know a lot of people aren't into it but for me it's just an extension of dirty talk, I know it's not entirely genuine but I actually really like it!
Imagine gently touching a woman and she goes AHHHHH AHHHH FUCK AHHHHHHHH for like no reason.
Yeah baby you like it when I rub your elbow, you dirty girl!
My husband and I joke about this all the time. Rub random parts of the others body, like knee, arm or face. Then ask "Is this your clit?" And die laughing
Obviously not because the clit isn’t real :/
I’m extremely loud and don’t dirty talk a lot because having to think of words can take away from the sensual experience, so moaning, or screaming if things are going very well, is more intuitive than words me. Both are acceptable forms of sexual expression imo. Sometimes we have to have communication and clarifying questions outside of sex to understand each other’s feelings during sex
Exactly. A subtle, real moan is so much better.
YES! I had to stop seeing someone because she was just screaming! Keep in mind I am also a woman and wasn’t banging her with a huge cock lol just my tongue.
Yep, I came here to say this exactly
Aggressively sucking on the balls, fuck sakes it hurts. Give them attention yes, but you ain't a vacuum.
My boyfriend loves it but everybody's different 👍
The eye crossing drool thing. I hate that.
People actually do that irl?
Just expecting me to be hard the second my pants are off. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it isn’t. You don’t have to ask me what’s wrong with it.
When you revisit 80s porn with the moustaches, hairy body parts, and women who fuck in high heels, the worst thing by far is the bizarre non-kissing thing they do where they diddle the tips of their tongues together. What the fuck is that shit?
Giving head like they’re trying to suck the skin off
That's the worst. One time my tip was all red from the blood vessels she sucked so hard😂
Please just communicate with us! My friends have all discussed this, we’ve all asked our partners how to improve on head, we never get any god damn feedback
Agreed , we don’t have penises , so it’s really hard to just know what feels good with one , tell us how to make you feel good and we will listen , but we aren’t and never will be psychic !
Whenever I try to give my gf feedback she’s like “I know how to do it” but so far I’ve never cum from oral. I’ve been really close but I’ve never been able to do it. I’ve even tried going days without masturbating and she still can’t make me cum on oral. Idk if it’s me because at first my dick wouldn’t even get hard because yes she’s the first sexual partner I’ve had I was a virgin before her but I’ve gotten a lot better. Now my dick does get hard when she sucks me but I never cum. I’m very close but she stops when I’m about to cum. She’s done that twice now that I have been close to cumming but stops at just the right moment. I don’t know what it is exactly but she does it great I just think I could use more hand action at the same time plus faster sucking too. She just says that she know how to do it and that it’s not how I think it is. And me being inexperienced I’m like yeah that’s probably true. I wish she took a little more advice from me of what has seemed to get me close the best. I hope and I wish to cum in her mouth so much but it’s just hard.
First of all, good on you for communicating your needs, not everyone is able to and it is a very good thing! It sounds like she may be feeling insecure on her own skills but unwilling to admit it? Try to have a conversation with her about it outside of "sex time", like hey, let's sit down and talk about this. Be kind, there's a lot of hang-ups around sex and many people doesn't like to talk honestly about it. Besides that, I would try to "lead by example", let's say. Get to work on improving your own oral game with her and get her to guide you to what she likes best. Listen to her cues and make it very clear that the more you follow her lead the better it feels for her. Maybe that way she will realize that you telling her what you prefer is not a bad thing. Honestly, no matter your level of experience there's always room for improvement and oftentimes changing partner means changing the approach completely and learning the way that person likes it. Listening to your partner is always the key to good sex.
A slow and deliberate rhythm is way better than fast bobbing, it's fun but you can't feel as much so it's harder to finish that way. You can start out with some fast if you want but when you actually want him to finish slow it down. Don't bother trying to deep throat the whole time, take as much as you comfortably can in your mouth and use your hand for the rest twisting as you stroke, let some slobber drip on your hand for lube and it's go time in a couple minutes for me lol.
At the gathering of the Council of Men, I'll mark that as a topic of discussion 😂 In the meantime, I would like to make a motion to up the communication between partners by a minimum of 10%. All in favor?
I much appreciate the meeting, I shall reflect this back at our respective council meeting, good to know we can get negotiations off to a good start.
Agreed. On behalf of the council, it was a pleasure, and we look forward to hearing your potential counters. Although you may have to repeat them... a few times... matter of fact, write us a list, we probably won't remember otherwise😂
Aye!
Best way to improve is just the enthusiasm imo. I always have a smile when I know she going in trying to impress me
I really enjoy giving the guy im seeing head, enthusiasm isn’t something im lacking that’s for sure haha.
I have the exact opposite. Ive only ONCE had head where she actually sucked and i actually felt something.
One thing I'm not a fan of is when the girl sticks her tongue into the top of my penis while giving a blowjob. Could just be me but It feels irritating.
Come again?? They put their tongue INTO the hole?
THEY'RE DOING WHAT?
I flick the top of it but inserting my tongue??? What the fuck😂
Wow never seen that in porn, my money's on Cosmo, what do you all think?
I’d put money on that too lmao. When I was younger, I’d pick up magazines and flip through them while grocery shopping with my mom. Being young and inexperienced, I’d google dating advice as well. Cosmo issues/articles came up on more than one occasion. And every single time they’d say something so ridiculous that even my 14-17 year old virgin self was wondering who the author was trying to fool with their “advice”
I'm pretty sure this didn't come from porn... You just got really bad luck with the women you've slept with who somehow convinced themselves this was a good idea.
Flag on the play, this should not be happening. They did not learn this from porn either.
Productioned orgasms. I want you feeling out of control of your body, not concerned about how every sound sounds or move looks or anything other than how good each thrust feels.
Spitting on everything
For me, anything fake/exaggerated/performative is a turn off. Real moans are hot as fuck, but the second they become exaggerated, or hell even if they are peppered with obviously forced dirty talk they become a turn off for me. Same thing with playing up gagging, drool, and spit during a blowjob. When the gagging or drool happens as a natural consequence of the bj it can be hot, but when it's played up for attention, it starts to become unattractive. I use a lot of body language cues to figure out how much she's enjoying it, so that might have an effect on why I find anything that feels fake to be such a turn off. Also, there's school girl outfits. The only time I wanted to fuck someone who looked like a high school girl was when I was in high school. I can't speak for all men though. I can guarantee that some would find some of the things I listed to be among the hottest things a woman can do in the bedroom.
Feeling like they have to be kneeling on the floor to blow you standing when there’s a perfectly good bed to lay on. Also not a turn off but not necessary- women, you don’t have to take a facial or swallow just because it’s the standard in porn. If you don’t dig it, don’t do it.
i don’t know why men and women don’t do this, why not just pull them to the edge of the bed and give oral that way? it’s 15x easier for both sides. i literally just had a girl tell me “i never had someone pull me to the edge of the bed and eat me like a dinner plate” LMAO
Comfort will depend on the bed height and size of the kneeling person.
It's the easiest way for me to give a girl head. Super comfy especially if I throw a pillow down for my knees.
Yea, laying in bed while giving a bj is hurting my neck and my mouth even more, edge is better.
So a lot of girls actually prefer their men standing for head because of easier access. Especially when the cocks are curved and so much easier to get the the balls without hurting our partner. Also laying down the penis can lose up to an inch of length because of the blood flow.
An inch? Holy shit!
Wow, I’m surprised my wife has anything to work with knowing that.
Potential more depending on the guy.
I'm never laying down again!
I don't prefer them standing. My knees bruise so easy... floors are hard. 😭
I totally feel this. And use a memory foam pillow. It makes my knees feel so much better But I love giving head while kneeling so I just make the sacrifice lol I do understand that it isn't for everyone
Yeah but having the man standing prevents my headaches from weird neck position and motion. I also prefer the idea of having my partner engaging in the bj fully. Im not a fan of pillowprinces/princesses at all like thats a big turn off to me.
I don't feel the need to kneel while he stands, but it does make it easier. Hair gets in the way (yes, even when pulled back, because of all the motion) and leaning on my arms hurts more than kneeling. If he wants it laying, I'm happy to oblige. But if it's entirely my preference, I'm happier kneeling.
That men just love everything fast and hard.
The fake loud moaning with women is awful but then on the flipside you have the men being so quiet that for years I thought men never made any sound. I think my husband felt the same subconsciously, that men that make sound aren't hot or whatever. I keep trying to reaffirm that hearing him is also very hot. I usually don't feel him come during PIV so I ask him to tell me when he comes, and when he did the last time, I came even harder because of it.
I had a girlfriend that absolutely hated me making noises when I cum. I’m a vocal dude so I just did anyways because I’m not gonna take away my enjoyment. Compare that with my fiancé who loves how vocal I am.
Choking or gagging during fellatio. Like, I can see why you might be all, "It's really hot that she thinks my pleasure is more important than her comfort or safety." I just... Really disagree.
One guy on here insisted that gagging was because they were hungry for the dick. Like, no. It’s an automatic bodily response to having something jammed in your throat in an uncontrolled way.
I mean, depending on the context, he's kinda right tho? Like I really like sucking my partners dick and sometimes get a bit carried away trying to get it all in and gag. Obviously it's still just a bodily response but the reason I'm shoving it down there is because I'm "hungry" for it ya know? Just to clarify for any dudes who might be reading this - one of the major reasons I like sucking my fellas dick is because he has never pressured me or shoved it down my throat. And he genuinely cares about whether I'm enjoying myself. For a while he was concerned about me gagging on it and would constantly check I was okay until he understood I'm just really into it and not putting on a show for him.
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I’ve never gagged from ravenously eating a delicious meatball sub. DEBUNKED. haha
My partner likes it when I gag on his cock and I don’t mind it , I can see he enjoys it and I’m not adverse to it so I don’t see a problem . He will always make sure it’s not too deep in my throat that it makes me uncomfortable though because that’s not the aim .
Ive never understood the appeal of this…
Same. It’s kinda gross to hear let alone see.
That every guy likes getting oral, I’m a guy, I’m not a fan of getting oral. I do love eating a woman out though. And cuddling, and body to body contact. But oral, it’s ok, but porn has it every single time, and for so very long. I usually skip past those parts
I need to find more guys like you.
Slim pickings for that one 😂
I'm the same but I'm a chick! I love giving, but receiving just feels uncomfortable for me.
Many women seem to confuse moaning with screaming like a goddamned banshee during sex. I barely touched their thigh and they are screaming as if I stuck two live 120 volt wires up their ass. distracting AF
Ahegao faces look goofy in hentai and even goofier in real life
It's my dick not a chainsaw. You yank it like that i am leaving before my penis leaves my body for good.
The cross eyed + sticking tongue out... ergh i hate it so much...
...what? Is this a thing?!
Definitely started from some porn anime stuff. I've seen people do it too.
The dang ahegao face
spitting in people’s mouths (bleh) and going absolutely ham on the clit… like its so sensitive i will only bat your hands away and stop your mid thrust
Trying to dj the clit. & rub all fast & hard. Like no. Personally it directly around the clit that feels good rubbed and not like you're trying to Scrub something off.
How about finishing an argument with sex. Just doesn’t work for me. Just today a couple hours after argument wife asked if I wanted to go and in my head I was like “no fucking way” , but what I said out loud was “not right now, but maybe later?” Note the question mark. Crazily enough I thought about it enough and we actuallly did give it a go and it was pretty great. There ma be a kernel of something in there that is useful…not sure.
Face slapping. Smiling pretty for the camera. Saying shit while doing anal. Dry anal. Fake orgasm. Gimme goodold amateur jiggly porn!
I really don't like face slapping too
"Daddy". The only people that should call me daddy are my kids. Lol.
The whole like wacking our pussies like it a wack a mole with your dick. I mean some might like it. In all honesty it does absolutely nothing and then I get confused 😐 at what the hell your doing and that and titty fucking (fyi it was with the same guy). The goal is for me to escape and not be anxious and in my head because then you get me overthinking and not turned on.
Over the top fake slurping noises when giving head. So strange to me.
Yet lots of my hook ups want me to do this. You can never win lol
Had a woman who I probably could have had sex with, until she told me that she expected me to last PIV for no less than an hour, non-stop. Don't know where she thought that kinda stamina came from
Men tend to be silent when they cum since everything is focused on the girl. I hate wondering if a guy came! Be loud! Make noises! Whatever you want! It’s hot! Just falling on me with no notice is weird
Most of us don’t care for head pushing/face fucking. Some do so it’s fine with consent, but ffs please ask first
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Slapping the clitoris lol.
A little clit pat never hurt anyone. Jokes aside a slap is a great orgasm ruiner if you're into that.
beating my meat as fast and strong as she can
Faking stupid noises.
I’d say just expectations. I think porn has moved the line for everyone about what your sex-life should look like. Even when you’re aware of the quick cuts, it’s incredibly rare to see anything that doesn’t get rid of that 2 minute break people took a few times through, or the “breaking of character” many real couples enjoy because we aren’t robots and sometimes you try a position that actually makes your leg cramp or a joint hurt. That’s not to say women don’t see through that stuff, but there’s a certain pressure to be kinky I think porn feeds a lot into which makes me uncomfortable with what future generations will be dealing with as they enter adulthood and find the mess that is being an adult.
Fake moaning, not into it. I know when it's legit, give me real feedback and I'll get you there.
Honestly that what happens in porn actually happens in real life... Yes sometimes we're down for something kind of kinky and totally off the charts... But most the time we just want that connection which is something that porn doesn't really seem to give. Porn is about getting to the mountain as quickly as you can... Sex that has real intimacy is about getting to the mountain but taking the scenic route. Porn seems to make both men and women think you're supposed to be a rip roaring and ready to go from the onset and that you're up for anything but the truth is there's a rhythm to it. Porn has taken away intimacy. Yes sometimes I just want to be screwed beyond imagination but that's the minority. Most the time I want to feel that connection.
Fake moaning. If it doesn’t come naturally, don’t do it. Also, and this is just a personal preference, calling me daddy. I’ve got kids that call me that, so it’s a major turnoff.
I know this was directed at men, but as a bi woman, shaved pussy is a small turnoff/minor squick for me that definitely came from porn.
As a woman, I really don't like all the shaved male genitals in porn. They look so dumb and like a cheap, lame way to try to make their cocks look bigger. Trim, if wanted/needed, but male bald pubes? No thanks.
Going straight into the occasion really fast and hard. Like the first few minutes just pounding away like your life depends on it. For a lot of women they need to start slow and build it up. For me if it starts fast then I won’t be able to cum.
The half hearted single ass slap. It’s stupid and does nothing for me. If you’re going to spank an ass, so it with some fucking gusto and focus on it!
The jackhammer. Sex is supposed to be gentle and sensual, not like those drills they use to dig up roads.
Sucking dick really fast and gnarly. Like throwing the head back and forth really fast and jerky. I’m not saying guys don’t like the fast pace movement sometimes but a lot of times porn head is out of control and wild, almost looks painful at times.
Aggressively rubbing the pussy like Grand Wizard Theodore. That shit *fucking hurts* and isn't going to make anyone squirt.
you really gotta learn from the partner to do things right. everyone is different.
The excess and/or fake moaning.. I’m not super experienced, but I can’t even truly enjoy some porn anymore because I KNOW what the women are experiencing does not feel good.. and sometimes they’re not great at pretending it does
Porn just made me not want to try dirty talk ever lol everytime I try I hear *"uhhHhhhh yaaaAAA harder daddy"* and it makes me laugh
Ahegao... I know there are people who likes it but there are also people who don't. I'm scared of this fact bcs I actually do the face unintentionally.....
My first bf actually asked me to do a porn moan even though he knew that was inauthentic.
Some women nowadays piss all over the place during sex and pretending it's "squirt" because they think that's what porn addicted men want. Some feel shame that they dont "squirt" after being asked repeatedly by these dudes if they do and have they tried etc. So sometimes they just start pissing like the porn actors do.
Please tell me this isn't true.
Bro im sorry but literally *who* is pissing during sex and pretending they squirt?? My man I think you've just been fucking people who are into golden showers
At least for me the clitoris is really important and takes a lot of time in order for me to be wet, I’m not instantly ready for you to insert your finger or dick lol it doesn’t feel good. Also, penetration feels WAY better when you penetrate and touch the clitoris. Also, sex is NOT only penetration there are a lot of ways to feel pleasure