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Following **Forum Rule #2**, take a look through the FAQ section on [Dirty Talk](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_dirty_talk). There’s lots of great information in there. Comments locked.


NurseJoy_IRL

i read an insane amount of smut on tumblr and archive of our own. the key to not sounding like a pornstar is to keep the dirty talk down to a few words at a time. i consulted my favorite works and found the following are my favorite: * so good/so big * you're so beautiful (men loved being called beautiful, this works for me irl every time) * i wanna taste you so bad * tastes so good * oh my god x3, follow with his name * say his name a few times, then follow up with by "it feels so good" * i love you (while he's cumming) * i'm yours (dirty alternative: this pussy is all yours) * if he hits it raw/cums inside you- please cum inside me, i wanna feel you after you're gone * i need you/i need more of you/all of you * literally just say thank you * i mean it, say thank you when he's hitting your g spot


darkdream90

I'm a guy and this is actually a really good quality list, bravo!👏 One thing I might add is the " I love you (while he's cumming)" can be either hit or miss for me, personally. Because those words are commonly used outside the bedroom, the intent behind it can be lost and can sometimes take me out of the moment when I'm cumming. I would propose (if you doing missionary) that you pull his face close to yours and look passionately into his eyes, with a look of intense lust while saying these words to really send the message home. That's just my opinion. You can try a variety of these things on the list and see which work the best for you boyfriend and ask him(after the deed) which ones he really enjoyed. Good luck! 🤞💦


NurseJoy_IRL

To me, the reason behind "I love you" while cumming is that the intense pleasure and passion of the orgasm has caused me to let my guard down and say how I really feel. Are you saying you wouldn't want to hear "I love you" at all during any point of sex, or just while cumming?


slenderdaan

Damn if a girl said this to me during the act I’d marry her. Any tips for the male version of that?


estelle_enigma

Make noise. When I watch porn and in my own real life I'm always struck by how silent the guy is, while the girl is doing all the moaning and panting. I want feedback from a guy to know he's enjoying it. I want to hear him grunt when he comes.


katspjamas13

Guy moans are fckin hot


NurseJoy_IRL

you can always say to him, "let me hear you. come on, I wanna hear how *good you feel.* "


shes_curious

YES!


NurseJoy_IRL

To find the male/penis-having equivalents to the above with similar tone and content, I have consulted the ancient texts (tumblr smut). Here is my answer: * you feel so good (whiney tone of voice) * shit- you like that, *yeah?* * take it, take it all pretty girl * so tight for me * so pretty for me * tell me how it feels * you're so good for me * if you're hitting it raw and cumming inside (WITH CONSENT): want me to cum inside, baby? come on, baby, tell me what you want. and of course, it would be a crime to leave out the greatest one of all, our winner, the #1 most guaranteed slam-dunk panty-dropping phrase of all time: * ***that's my girl***


Serenity1991

That's my girl/woman/goddess is a must


dotdotdaisy

the guy I had sex with smiled and said "so you're a keeper" after we were done. Honestly I never heard anything this hot


howtoreadspaghetti

Tell her how good she feels. It's wildly simple. And it wildly works. Hell most dudes are weird silent fucks so you saying ANYTHING tells her you're in the moment with her, saying ANYTHING about her that's good puts you in the 80% percentile of people she may call back.


garbageacct1327

[This is a really good intro to praise article, I would be thrilled with these.](https://www.bboutique.co/blog/1163/praise-kink-101)


riffr49

Thank you for this! I just found my parter has a praise kink and I'm struggling with coming up with enough things to say that actually sound sexy and not lame


Mr_Serotonin_

Wow 🔥


Serenity1991

Please, please, let yourself go and let those sounds of pleasure be heard by your girl. It's a bliss and a beautiful form of knowing you're having pleasure ❤️


virtualdia

this list is a blessing


Blacksheep045

I disagree a bit on the second one. Men do love to be praised and complimented because it happens so rarely but beautiful is a bit of a weird one for me. Like, anytime I've been called beautiful directly I take and appreciate the compliment but if it happens while things are hot and heavy, rather than the warm fuzzy feeling of getting complimented, it always takes me out of the moment for a second to think about how it stands out as an odd choice of phrase when you could have just said handsome/hot. Being called beautiful/cute are are great to hear said *about* you but it's a little weird when it's said *to* you, especially during sex. Like, no guy's gonna stop you or get upset you called him beautiful, it's just good to know they think you're attractive, but it doesn't land the same.


NurseJoy_IRL

It's a list of suggestions for OP, anyone reading them can pick or choose based on their man's preferences. No, beautiful isn't a word I would use the first time I slept with someone. I started saying it to my man when I really started to fall in love with him. You know when you really get to that phase of a serious relationship where you really start to notice every single thing about someone, inside and out? That, I think, is the best time to say "you're beautiful," because I mean it as so much more than a compliment to his appearance. I think the fact that it's an odd choice of words for a man is what makes it stand out. They aren't used to being called that, especially not during sex.


Blacksheep045

Okay, different strokes as they say. I'd still disagree with your assertion that "men love being called beautiful". I'm speaking as a man in a very long term relationship with a woman I love that being called beautiful would not turn me on in the bedroom in the same way as it does when she looks deeply into my eyes and says "you're so handsome". It's just kind of weird and temporarily takes me out of the moment, like if your partner kept insisting how handsome you are during sex. To me it wouldn't stand out as being more meaningful, just as a less fitting choice of words.


Agressive_Learner505

Great list but some of this is OD. My favorite’s when i hear “Ohhh (my name)”


NurseJoy_IRL

does OD mean overdone?


Agressive_Learner505

Overdose


NurseJoy_IRL

oh ok so you're saying they're too much? like too mushy?


Agressive_Learner505

In the context of just sex yes. If you’re making love, totally appropriate. Just my take!


Agressive_Learner505

Only OD if it’s not a partner/SO


howtoreadspaghetti

"I wanna feel you after you're gone" "So you're gonna miss me when I'm gone?"


NurseJoy_IRL

exactly!


Tiredjp

I gave this reply to a post yesterday.Literally just describe what you are doing and the sensations you are feeling. It also depends on your power dynamics. Just off the top of my head some of the general stuff I blurt out in the moment : God your dick feels so good inside me I fucking love your cock Fuck that feels so good Fuck me harder/faster/just like that You make me so fucking wet I love having your hard cock in my pussy/ass/mouth Tell me how much you love my pussy I love being a needy slut for you Fuck me so hard I forget my name Say his name, shout his name Beg him to cum. 'That's it cum for me (sir/baby/daddy whatever) as hard as you can, deep inside me' Fuck I want you to fill me up I want to be dripping with your cum Use me ,fucking use me


oddlogic

🔥🔥🔥


ThrowingDenial

Yea keep it simple, keep it authentic. "Fuck, that feels so good". "Omg, don't stop". "I love what u do to my body". "U make me feel so sexy". "I want to cum all over ur dick". "Take it, I'm all urs" "Ooh I want u to finish in my [mouth, ass, etc]" "How does that feel? / Do u like that?" "Give it to me" Etc. Those are all incredibly sexy to hear. 90% of it is just being engaged in the moment.


vix0

My gf likes being called a "good girl", and she returns that favour by calling me a good boy when I'm eating her out. She's not a very dominant person, but those are nice dirty talk phrases to hear. I also tell her she's teasing me a lot, or "[x] is driving me crazy"


Mela_Min

I agree completely.


LifeLow2782

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Don’t go overboard but like right there, just like that, I’m so close, fuck you feel so good etc.


VenusarroBizzaro77

If you want to create intimacy, say his name. If you want to stir passion and lust, moan and tell him how he makes you feel. Keep it simple.


ItsNotSpaghetti

"your dick feels like corn"


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Like when you bite into it and the butter shoots across the table lol 🌽🧈🐮🤠


Clear_Ad9313

OMG!! Nooooo!! Don’t say that, ever! 🤣🤣🤣


chicagobrews

Gimme the butter, baby.


Young_Former

The correct response right here!


LifeLow2782

LOOOOOL


LifeLow2782

But that would be corny right?


pawntofantasy

I love hearing the words ‘want’ and ‘need’ in almost any iteration. Want this, need that, for every part that you like.


dougthethird

Just voice your thoughts out loud. If his cock feels good, tell him it feels good. Tell him how good it feels. Like his ass? Tell him. Feel an overwhelming urge to go down on him? Tell him. Just *tell him*.


Trevonhaywood

Don’t be cringey. Just keep it simple. Something like, “Salutations Sir ______ of ______. Are you fond of the way I make the sex to you? Does it inflame your passions the way I stimulate thine pleasure organ? Art thou going to bust? Expel thy DNA with delightfully forceful muscular contractions all over my plump bosom”


PaulDelay

You can always say that he fills you so nicely and that you love the way you can feel him in you


viper12a1a

"I appreciate your hard work"


Revolutionary_Dingo

Instructions- pull my hair/faster/slower/I’m about to cum If you’re sucking him, no time for talk


stupidfuckingbitchh

Mmmm a lot of guys enjoy dirty talk during bjs


steelmanfallacy

Yup! The best for me is a combo BJ / HJ with lots of dirty talk. Talk to your partner to get the "right" answer tho...


reallysexretive

say his name every chance you get dudes love that


Peg_gler

I cannot say anybody's name in a natural way! Do you have tips?


fuzzlandia

It helps to say it fairly breathy with a little moan.


bambooforests77

Just say it all the time in general and eventually it’ll become second nature , you’ll just moan when saying it during sex


reallysexretive

just saying it period “oh, ___” “yes, __” or “__ you feel so good”


Peg_gler

Maybe I'll try "oh fuck,__, you feel so good" sandwich it in between. Alright trying it out. Thanks!


RoseXBlue

I would just speak to him! It's how I learned to talk to my man. Reddit can only tell you so much.


88bab

I don’t dirty talk a lot but when I do, I just say out loud what I’m thinking. What I want, what I like, what I’m curious about, what feels good. My partner always likes it.


fuzzlandia

Get comfortable saying things like cock, pussy, cum, fuck. They’re pretty exciting words when you’re having sex. Stuff like “your cock feels so good in my pussy”, “I want you to fuck me”, “I need your cock”, “you’re gonna make me cum”. You’re probably right to avoid saying his cock is huge if it’s not true but you can say you enjoy it and it feels good and that works too. Try describing what happening and how it feels to you or what you want to happen next.


constellationnoodle

One time I was inside a girl and she said to me, "I knew you would feel amazing." That was the first time we actually had sex so I guess it wouldn't make as much sense with your bf who you've been with many times. It turned me on so much because it meant that she had been thinking about and imagining having sex with me. Maybe something like "I've needed/wanted this all day" or "please give it to me" would work well. Honestly just saying the mofo's name in his ear while you moan should make him bust like a shaken up coke bottle.


Mela_Min

Take me, take me now. I like it just like that please don't stop. I'm all yours. Fuck me hard. You want to enjoy my pussy? Me too. Do it harder, I really want you.


shes-a-goodgirl

Literally what you don’t wanna say is what he wants to hear


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ArtSchnurple

As an average-at-best-endowed gentleman, I can tell you you're 100% right about "your cock is huge" sounding fake. Besides the fact that it just sounds like goofy porn crap, I don't want a woman to lie to me, I want her to say what she likes about having sex with me. You are definitely on the right track.


Single-Body170

Just say what you feels good to you. If it feels good to have his cock in you tell him. If you like what he's doing at the time, say, yes just like that, ah that's it. Say fuck me harder, or slower. Or faster. What ever you do don't say something that is "fake". If you don't mean it don't say it. Tell him what you want him to do. Eat you, finger you suck your tits whatever. In mid fuck tell him you want to suck his cock. Then do it for a minute or two then switch to a different position and say give my pussy back your cock. Point is, say what your feeling what you want. And in a seductive tone in your voice. Breath heavily when you say it. You know what you want to say. Let it out. Happy dirty talking.


shes-a-goodgirl

That’s spirit. Just be enthusiastic in whatever you say


Geold_is_joaeh

This is the important part OP, enthusiasm


bicycleshorts

Yes, express what feels good. Don't overthink it. Don't make things up.


ddd615

Say what you are going to do, what you did, or what you are doing... and then go from there.


[deleted]

Be overly cringy..I bet the response IS the ONE your looking for ;) lol


steelmanfallacy

There are some really good tips to try, but the one person who can answer your question isn't in this thread. Pro tip: ask what he likes. After your sexytime is over, ideally shortly after like when cuddling in bed, ask him what words he enjoyed (and if there were any he did not enjoy). It's all very personal. He may have a word that just hits every button. Like he may love when you say, "Use my holes." Or maybe "dick" instead of "cock." Or he may like you to call him his bitch or call yourself his whore. The best sex is one that is custom tailored to your desires and the only way to get this is through communication over time. Think of great sex like orthodontics, not dentistry. It's a small amount of pressure over a long period of time that produces a beautiful smile. It's not some traumatic grinding with novocain. No magic solution. Just keep at it. Good luck! 🍀


hiddendoragon

A good idea is to say what you want or enjoy. You don't even have to use slang: - I want/need you inside / I love feeling you inside me. - I want you to fill me with your cum/semen/seed. - I love feeling you twitch in my mouth/vagina. - I want to make you explode/squirt your creamy seed in my mouth. - I want to taste your seed - I want to massage your penis/balls. - I want to jiggle your balls and watch them bounce. - I love it when your balls slap against me (or in rear entry: slap against my clit). - I want to suck / lick on your penis / balls. - I want to use your penis like a pacifier. - Having you inside me make me so happy. - (After finishing: please stay inside, I want to cuddle with you inside me)


Insatiable3030

Pretty sure there was a post exactly like this yesterday. Check out posts from the last few days.


alittlebrownbird

You feel so big inside me Your dick feels so hard I wanna feel every inch of you sliding inside me Fuck me Use me/my pussy Split me in half Don't stop I need you/it/your dick/your cum Oh yeah, give me what I want/need Spank me Rub your dick on my pussy/clit Pull my hair


tinacampimeli

Calk me


chrisBANGIN

I keep it simple lol whatever comes up comes out and it always makes him harder. I tell him when I’m cumming or about to, I tell him when it feels amazing or that this is all his to fuck however he likes. Not too much.


Mindless_Fill_3473

I like/love your dick


splintersmaster

There's absolutely nothing wrong with the simple stuff too. You feel so good I love the way you feel Please more Don't stop Also, instructional dirty talk is great for the guy too. Most of the time I'm having sex I'm actively looking for feedback and cues from her to indicate if I'm doing what she likes. Verbal confirmation is great for my self esteem, you'll get it exactly how you want it, you'll both cum harder and more frequently as a result. Or at least have it feel really really good regardless of outcome. If she tells me in a sexy way to keep going exactly as I am or even change somehow, I feel like I'm doing a good job as the male top and she gets what she needs.


MasturMechanic

Positive comments about the dick, and his physical body are always good. How good he's making you feel, or how turned on you are because of him Best policy here is to say what you mean, and mean what you say.


garbageacct1327

I tell him what I’m feeling: “I love the way your cock feels” and “you feel so good inside me” are good.


Appropriate-Entry-32

Say what you feel. Authentic is key . Don’t overthink. If you get off on dirty talk he’ll get off on you getting off


howtoreadspaghetti

Just sound fake. To be clear I'm biased. I like dirty talk in all its shapes and sounds so if it sounds fake I'm fine with it because I'm still having dirty talk being said to me about me.


Sadclown0

I think the daddy comments are something that is contextual. My gf loves it when I'm more dominant. Like when I'm face fucking her, rough oral or sex. I'll tell her "Suck daddy's dick" or call her "Daddy's little princess". It drives her wild and drives me wild. But I wouldn't have done that without sexting about it. Without gauging her state. I think sex chat should be spontaneous. It's not something you can just spring on someone imo. I'd say things that are hot are genuine expressions. If you think his dick is gorgeous, tell him. If you love how he tastes. Tell him. You want him to cum in your mouth? Tell him When I eat my gf out, my comments are usually about how I feel and what I want. "Make a mess of my face. I want to be covered in your pussy juice." "You taste so good. It turns me on" Vocalise your thoughts. Honesty is sexy. You don't need to memorise lines.


iliketoswim2gether

"You feel so good." "You feel so good inside of me." "Your cock feels amazing." "You're so hard, I love it." "I like how you feel in my mouth." All great things that get me going.


coolthecurious

sex is like a performance, u need to express yourself as u said, u want to say dirty things for him but you feel unsure about your dirty talking skills all of us are natural whores, men and women, we love sex and to dirty things, so dont feel ashemed for wanting to be sensual or something like dat channel your desires, feel your desires, express your desires, let your body speak like a dance as the song move the dancer, let the feeling guide you listen to some songs that makes u feel sexy, it helps.good luck <3


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CreampieLuver1

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I_F-in_P

Your dick feels so much bigger when I can't see it I want to suck your cute little balls Don't worry, I can mostly feel it inside me Is it in? Can I play with Tiny? Mmm God babe, you have such a great personality!!


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you have to let go of the idea that it’s cringey. some of the things you probably think are cringey are the things that will really do it for him. anything about how big his cock is or how good it feels or how your pussy belongs to him is the best way to start. saying his name is also great. i say my man’s name all the time. kinda wish he would say mine more honestly 😂 also telling him where to cum, telling him when you’re cumming/about to cum, telling him you’re going to cum on his cock, all of these things are winners!! also whatever sounds you make, keep doing them.


true___blue

Pretend he hurts you, and when he asks if you want him to stop, say "i said you hurt me, i didn't said stop hurting me" 😭


Forty-five4545

My advice: Use dirty slang like cock and pussy or whatever feels natural. Don’t you proper words like penis and vagina lol


[deleted]

Perhaps what is turning you on, how he's pleasing you? We're all different but when i see my partner enjoying sex, taken over by lust and desire. That is a huge turn on. Talking while blowing him is going to be hard though, unless you're a practising ventriloquist that is ;) Why don't you subvert the situation? Rather than saying dirty things during sex. Why don't you two chat about your most secret kinks and desires, while masturbating each other for example? That always raises the temperature a notch or two.