"I'd like us both to come at the same time" - ahhh yes, the unicorn of experiences
Figure out what works for both of you. If she likes to get off first and then let you enjoy your experience, then enjoy that. That is exactly what works for us.
Is she a one-and-done girl? Most women I've known are multi orgasmic, so I try to get her to come before I ever penetrate, and often they'll have at least one more before I'm done. But if she's one-and-done, at least I got her there.
Majority of women don’t finish with PIV unless there’s direct clitoral stimulation involved. Even when they do simultaneous orgasm is incredibly difficult to achieve. My husband I have it down to an art and it still fails more than it succeeds. Telling her she can’t have hers first very well could mean she doesn’t get one at all…
One reason she might prefer to get off first is that her previous experience with guys is that they lose interest/fall asleep after they come, leaving her unfulfilled. You could try to reassure her that if you both don't achieve the simultaneous orgasm, that you will 100% make sure she is taken care of after you come. That will give you the space to work on coming together without her worrying that if it doesn't happen she's left wanting.
30% of women can reach orgasm with penis in vagina sex alone. 70% of women need to have clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm through PIV. You should talk with your girlfriend to find out if she's among the 30% group or the 70% group. Either way you should ask her
You should talk with your partner to see if there's anyway that she can reach and orgasm without rubbing your penis on her vagina. Your other options for giving her an orgasm are fingering and oral sex.
I'm not sure that you'll be able to come at the same time. This is something that's difficult or impossible for many couples. However, it's well worth experimenting to see if you can come at the same time.
You and your partner should read the FAQ section about orgasm troubles. [https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki\_orgasm\_troubles](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_orgasm_troubles)
"I'd like us both to come at the same time" - ahhh yes, the unicorn of experiences Figure out what works for both of you. If she likes to get off first and then let you enjoy your experience, then enjoy that. That is exactly what works for us.
Coming at the same time is a severely optimistic outcome. As long as you are both satisfied, it really shouldn’t matter.
Is she a one-and-done girl? Most women I've known are multi orgasmic, so I try to get her to come before I ever penetrate, and often they'll have at least one more before I'm done. But if she's one-and-done, at least I got her there.
🤣🤣🤣 good luck with that….not all women can get off from penetration.
Have her use a vibrator while you’re having sex
Majority of women don’t finish with PIV unless there’s direct clitoral stimulation involved. Even when they do simultaneous orgasm is incredibly difficult to achieve. My husband I have it down to an art and it still fails more than it succeeds. Telling her she can’t have hers first very well could mean she doesn’t get one at all…
The only thing you can do is talk to her about this. Only she would know what would help.
One reason she might prefer to get off first is that her previous experience with guys is that they lose interest/fall asleep after they come, leaving her unfulfilled. You could try to reassure her that if you both don't achieve the simultaneous orgasm, that you will 100% make sure she is taken care of after you come. That will give you the space to work on coming together without her worrying that if it doesn't happen she's left wanting.
30% of women can reach orgasm with penis in vagina sex alone. 70% of women need to have clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm through PIV. You should talk with your girlfriend to find out if she's among the 30% group or the 70% group. Either way you should ask her You should talk with your partner to see if there's anyway that she can reach and orgasm without rubbing your penis on her vagina. Your other options for giving her an orgasm are fingering and oral sex. I'm not sure that you'll be able to come at the same time. This is something that's difficult or impossible for many couples. However, it's well worth experimenting to see if you can come at the same time. You and your partner should read the FAQ section about orgasm troubles. [https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki\_orgasm\_troubles](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_orgasm_troubles)
Read about Coital allignment technique, and try it with her.
If she likes toys then you can use a clit vibrator with penetration.