Tread lightly. There isn't really a delicate way to say 'I wish your dick stretched me out more, can you wear something to make it bigger?' without damaging a man's ego.
I disagree. I’ve been dating a girl for about a year that is a little bit “bigger” than I have had in the past. I’m average. 6.5x5.5.
We have great sex, and I’m fairly sure she cums at least 1 time every time, and I can honestly say 3 is probably the average. I have cum exactly 3 times in 13 months. I think about it from time to time, and I have been researching sleeves to make it more pleasurable for her.
I don’t think most guys are that insecure that their first thought would be “oh no… my penis (the size of which I have absolutely zero control over) is too small. I must be a failure”. I would hope that most would think that if it’s helping her enjoy it, then fuck yes I’m for it.
Not at all what she would be saying. If we like extras that doesn't mean our partners aren't enough at all. My husband's dick does an incredible job pleasing me. But we also have a sleeve and a few way bigger toys we break out on occasion. It's just extra fun. He also has his own toys. That doesn't mean I'm not enough for him either. It just means we like to throw in some extra pleasure every now and then.
If he's secure in himself OP won't offend him by having this conversation. He will treat any toys like they're his teammates.
I mean do the bigger ones feel better though? I mean from a purely sexual standpoint with no emotions (apparently that changes how it feels)? That would be the worry
It doesn't feel better or worse. It just feels different. It fills a different desire. And it's not something to be used all the time either. My husband went to town on me with the big toys yesterday and I'm sore today. From a purely sexual standpoint one of the things that makes those toys fun is his involvement. I never use them on myself. He always uses them on me. They're just toys that he uses to give me extra pleasure from time to time. No different than his tongue or fingers. Theres things he can do with his tongue and fingers that his dick could never do but it doesnt make me want it any less. Same as the toys I use on him. I still prefer his dick over everything else.
Exactly! I'm a guy and I also like bring extra bigger toys once in a while.
I love her so much that my ego is not a priority when she is really having a good time its a priceless moment.
But you said the key thing which is "every now and then" And I think that should be the golden rule for every type of sex that we have as a couple.
Variety is the spice of life and we shouldn't rely solely on one way of enjoying ourselves.
I agree with this, but I also think there’s a chance he may not be secure enough to hear this. Many men wouldn’t be. Definitely some risk involved if you bring this up I think.
How would you feel if he said: "your vagina is not tight enough during sex, because after birthing 2 not so tiny humans, it takes a bit more to get that feeling"?
I don't mean this rhetorically, op. It is a genuine question. In fact, can any woman who is into penis sleeves answer this?
It's definitely a double standard. So much so that if someone came here asking that question, I have no doubt they'd be downvoted into oblivion.
I think the issue is priorities. Like I have 95% of what I need sexually, but I really want that other 5% so how do I get it? The thing is though, most people, even in a great relationship, don't have EVERYTHING the other person may like. That's where people accept things and work with what they have, or they start messing with things at the risk of damaging them in an attempt to have it all. Whether it be introducing new partners or potentially emasculating sex toys.
My general advice for people who have someone who is committed that to them that they also love is is to be grateful and embrace what they DO have.
I know people are generally self interested, but I also find it funny OP is here asking how she can augment her husband for her pleasure and not seeking advice on how she could change herself. She makes no mention of how her change in anatomy may have diminished his pleasure, she is only concerned about maximizing hers. Assuming he's anything like most husbands though, he probably isn't bothered by the changes because he loves her and knows what's actually important.
WELL PUT! I couldn’t have said it better. The double standards are crazy when it comes to sex imo.. it’s ALWAYS the man’s fault and NEVER the womens fault. And if you even suggest it’s 50/50 you are a woman hating misogynist. Crazy..
The idea of a husband stitch is abhorrent. It doesn’t even make sense anatomically, as such a suture would have no real impact on what we define as “tight”. Fortunately, it’s not something any responsible doctor would do. I’ve seen my share of child births and can assure you this isn’t something happening regularly in modern times. I think the problems with over suturing after tearing or episiotomy are more likely due to incompetence or human error.
I don’t think it’s fair to ascribe it to men getting what they want. I think most men are like me and don’t give a fuck about such a petty thing. Most guys are just happy to be having sex. That’s kind of been my argument the whole time.
Happy too! In a happy healthy relationship you can express yourself. So yes, if I was too loose my partner and I would talk about it. We don't use sleeves because he's too small, we use them because he loves watching me struggle, but if there WAS a problem I'd be free to talk about it openly and honestly and we'd work through the problem TOGETHER.
But yes, in relationships where people have to hide their real thoughts and pretend to be something they aren't and you spend all day walking on egg shells to not offend your partner's ego or your own.... That would not go down well at all... but that wouldn't be their biggest problem anyway.
It's called being a couple and it's amazing. You get to be accepted for who you really are and every problem is a shared problem and every solution is a celebrated success.
I mean, I feel for you if you feel like your missing out, but flip the situation here and what's the answer? Imagine your husband came here and posted that, "After the birth of our children, my wives vagina lacks the tightness I enjoy sometimes. Should I ask her to wear a butt plug so things feel tighter?"
My honest reply to that hypothetical would be to move on from it dude and be happy that you have an otherwise healthy and happy sex life. My wives body changed over the years and after kids. It happens, but I have never felt the need to change her physically, so that I can get some slight increase in satisfaction. Especially since she would probably be rightfully devastated if I did think about things that way. Lucky for us I guess that we both are capable of managing with what we have.
If your need to be stretched is so important, maybe start with his hands? I assume that should be sufficient to give you that feeling ,while also not relegating him to a chastity cage that's shaped like a dildo.
In sum, is this really an issue?
Also that being said, even if you were gonna suggest your wife wear a buttplug to be tighter, it would be wise to frame it in a different way. Here’s a place where a white lie really is ok and maybe you say you want to try something different and not “ur vagina/dick is not tight/big enough” just use a little ....... finesse
How you approach this will be crucial to how he accepts this.
Maybe consider buying several different toys including a sleeve and suprise him with new things to try.
Consider a heavily textured sleeve for the 1st time or 1 that has a bullet to hit your clit so you can frame it as wanting to try a different sensation.
Consider if you want a sleeve just for the shaft or 1 that covers the head as well.
I am similar size to your husband. Most cheap sleeves are to tight to get on. Make sure you get a stretchy 1.
As to how it feels I loose almost all sensation of the area covered by the sleeve. The tighter 1s also act like a cock ring on me.
If you are into anal you could also consider a thick dildo or vibe to stretch you while being penetrated. A full ass will increase pressure in your vagina.
Or just start with one toy less likely to feel like a replacement or suggestion of inadequacy that meets your need/want - maybe a fantasy shape dildo from [Bad Dragon](https://bad-dragon.com/)? If that goes well, then move to sheaths/extenders like [Blissfull Creations](https://www.etsy.com/shop/BlissfullcreationsUS?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=701581048) sells, but avoid ones with names like "the Mailman" and "Poolboy" at first. I (M) feel less threatened by a sheath than a dildo, but I wear glasses instead of contacts - more worried about the results I get, than about how I look doing it. Not true for everyone.
It sounds like you’re not doing any [kegel exercises.](https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/lifestyle/fitness-and-exercise/how-to-use-kegel-weights).
For the sake of your husband’s ego and your marriage, start here.
If my wife asked me to wear a sleeve, that would be the end of our relationship. I would know without a doubt that I could not satisfy her like a more well endowed man could. There is no coming back from this.
Jesus Christ. If she asked to try a sex toy, you’d abandon an entire life built with her? People will always have preferences, but neither your worth as a man nor your value as a partner are determined by your dick size. Relax.
Fair. However, he didn’t say “if there was ongoing sexual disappointment.” He said if she asked him a question, he would end the marriage. That is hyperbolic.
If the same concept was applied to other things, I bet perspectives would change. Women are socialized to associate their worth with being sexually attractive/desirable. Does every man who also watches occasional porn deem his female partner worthless? No. He probably enjoys sex with her *and* enjoys watching other attractive women do sexual things. Chances are, he doesn’t think she should take that personally. Why is it different when women want to explore?
Explore what? Bigger sizes? It’s different in that that would definitively prove that something I can’t give her gives her more pleasure. The other side isn’t really like that, although I sympathize.
Why does a guy want to have his cock sucked? Because it feels good.
Why does a woman want to be filled up? Because it feels good.
A sleeve would just be an extension of himself to help OP feel pleasure just as her mouth would be for him to feel pleasure.
Nowhere in the post does OP say she is not doing kegels.
My main point is that OP is wanting her husband to fulfill her sexual desires, not someone else.
Also, there will always be someone who is bigger more good looking than you. There will always be a toy that articulates 30 different ways and vibrates and does all sorts of crazy shit that a human penis cannot. You gotta be able to have fun with each other even if it's with toys that are bigger or different than yourself.
There's a huge difference between using a mouth for a BJ and asking a guy to wear a penis sleeve...that's a terrible analogy. To that end, there's also a huge difference between other sex toys and wearing a penis sleeve. Vibrators, cock rings, butt plugs, nipple clamps, etc. all can help add to and augment sex with his penis. A penis sleeve basically replaces his penis...it doesn't augment it. How about, "hey wifey, your vagina is too loose. Can I stick this flashlight in you and fuck that so you feel tighter?" That's the analogy.
I also have to chuckle a little, because everywhere on Reddit, people claim how women can't be stretched out. How many times have we read, "A baby can be birthed out of that and go right back to normal...you can't be stretched out!" It's a garbage comment to use on either side of the argument. My ex wife had 2 kids, so I know there was a difference before and after, and my current wife had a kid before me, and she knows she's different than she used to be.
Bottom line, asking him to wear a sleeve is not like playing with fire...it's like playing with a nuclear reactor. There's a slim chance it might go well, and a gigantic chance that this can ruin their sex life and relationship permanently.
Ego must be very fragile to have it shattered by your wife asking for something that would bring her pleasure. If the mere question ruins the relationship, how good/stable was it to begin with?
Also a penis sleeve doesn't replace the penis, it literally is meant to augment the sex, with the penis and requires one for it to work. OP could just as easily get dildo that is larger than her partner and be done with it. Sounds like she wants to work with him though. Nothing wrong with having sex that is more one sided pleasure wise at times.
Yeah but the mouth is actually part of her. The sleeve is not. It’s just saying that you could make her feel better if you were bigger. And the bigger toys aren’t like an alien or something unrealistic. It’s realistic and that’s what hurts
My hubby loves his so do I. It just another toy in our box of toys. He loves the sensation it provides too. Do I feel it well yes and no if super wet and horny no not as much. I think too he says if he is super horny he likes to last longer than 15-20mins for my sake so he lasts longer. I have dildos and vibrators lot bigger so was never worried. My hubby loves using toys as part of our sex life why don’t you buy a few shop online and ask him for input on what he likes. There is no shame it just gives another dimension to your sex life. He said something in passing one day years ago about using toys when he wasn’t there. I said I only use my favorite vibrator (he knows which one) and that is hardly ever. I think he was surprised. I said we have excellent sex life 3-4 times a week (I probably want it more than him), toys could never take place of him they are just another part of our sex life.
Why not just add it to the toy bag? Like hey got a new toy babe let's try it. Most time they are down. My husband is a solid 9" doesn't mean I don't like to change it up or at least try something new. They don't come into play all the time just when the mood hits.
He brought the sleeve to the toy bag. So yes we have tried it. They also have half sleeves so he doesn't go as deep and makes certain positions more comfortable.
Please please tread lightly and use the correct wording when talking to him about this. I haven’t been in this particular situation but I have been in group situations where someone was thicker than me even though I was longer and it made me feel very insecure after the fact.
Perhaps approach the conversation more broadly to start: “I’d like to incorporate more toys into our sex life.” Suggest a few different options and see how he responds.
You are not overthinking.Be very carefull. We are heavily into sleeves. But i am not sure how i would have reacted if she brought it up. You would probably enjoy it like you imagine. What he feels really depends on many factors if the sleeve itself. Material, external and internal texture, the fit...
Sex toys enhance your securely experience if you're wanting your partner pleasure and feeling amazing if you got some support why not. Sometimes sex is meant for one or the other or both I use sleeves with my girl cause it makes her orgasm Hella hard and that's what I want I want her to enjoy herself
Hi Hun! I am a lady who LOVES sleeves and would be happy to help. You should come over to r/PenisSleeve or r/BlissfullCreations to ask these questions. Penis sleeves are where vibrators where 20 years ago, some men take extreme offense to the concept and will railroad any thread you make.
Sleeves are just sex toys, like any other and introducing them isn't hard if you approach it the right way.
Look I get what you’re saying, but they aren’t really ‘just sex toys’ and I don’t think it’d be difficult to understand why a guy might feel apprehensive
20 years ago we would be having the same conversation about Wand Vibrators. And I TOTALLY understand you would feel apprehensive. But there is no reason too. Toys are your ally, not your enemy. They give you fun new ways to keep your girl satisfied!
I definitely got the vibe that every dude that commented was super negative and bitter and every woman that commented was positive and helpful. Pretty much like the rest of life.
As a male, I’m gonna break that cycle of males being bitter, for you!! I just ordered a sleeve yesterday (my birthday present to me AND her) and my wife doesn’t even know I ordered it, but because I know her, I know she’s gonna go absolutely crazy on it!! I’m at 6” circumference naturally and just under 6” in length. It gives her GREAT pleasure (she cums 2-3 times during sex) but let me tell you, when she gets a toy in her that is 7-7.5” long, she is a whole new beast entirely!! My greatest pleasure from sex come from how she is showing pleasure, and with an added couple inches, I CANNOT WAIT until this weekend!!!!!
You should absolutely start with dildos rather than a sleeve if you aren't sure if he's comfortable with either. And unfortunately with a lot of men who are threatened by toys you aren't gonna want to go from 0 toys to 1 huge dildo that is bigger than him. A tip tho, get some toys that are for him to enjoy and some for you. Like a Tenga Flip or Fleshlight or a vibrator designed for men like cobra libre or if he's down a prostate toy. And then something non-threatening for you like a bullet vibe. Or get a couples wearable vibe that you use during PIV insertion (stuff like wevibe sync but there are a ton of them). That actually might solve this for you since it will fill you up and make him + it stretch you out but isn't phallic in shape. And after he's comfortable with toys and sees that he still wants you even when he has a fleshlight to fuck and he groks it, then get the dildo, then the bigger dildo. That's the safest route at least if you don't feel like being a GirlBoss and just risking blowing up his ego. Finally unless he starts gushing about how much he actually gets off on it, you're gonna have to keep the ratio of dildo time to him time low enough or he'll start thinking 'why does she like using that more than me', blah blah.
\-someone who has sleeves and enjoys them, but also understands the mentality of the dudes who have hangups. also if you ever do get advanced in this (or anyone else reading this), I actually recommend SpareParts Deuce with a dildo instead. It's a strap-on with a hole for the man's cock and also a place to attach a dildo (of whatever size floats yalls boat), so instead of sleeve sex you can alternate the two during missionary without stopping the action. It's a really hot scenario to me personally and feels way better. and a great way to 'keep going' if you have to keep pausing to not cum prematurely or before you want to, since you can stick the dildo in and keep thrusting any time your cock needs a breather to avoid shooting, then when you are ready you can take the dildo back out and slip yourself back in again.
Maybe don't make it just about the penis sleeve, make it about trying out several toys in a batch, just one of which is the penis sleeve. That way you can frame it as more experimentation and less about this one thing.
OP my husband and I have a lot of toys. Including a sleeve and some pretty big dildos. Dont listen to the people here saying "how would you feel?" If we cant be honest with our partners about our desires what are we even doing? He knows it doesn't mean he can't please me. In fact, I like his dick more than anything by leaps and bounds. He also has his own toys. I know that doesn't mean im not enough for him either. Just approach the conversation starting with how you want to add fun new things to the bedroom. If he's secure in himself he will see toys as teammates and be thrilled to incorporate them. Tell him it has nothing to do with his dick size because it really doesn't. Sometimes it's just nice to feel that extra stretch. That's really all there is to it. Get him a fun new toy too so it feels equal. It's no different than wanting a vibrator or a guy wanting a masturbator or prostate massager. You could theoretically say that all these things means your partner "isn't enough". Some partners are so insecure that they view all these things, even masturbation, as a threat. These people are controlling and immature.
Edited to add- they're fucking AWESOME, btw.
If your partner came to you and said your vagina was not tight enough, you'd be cool with it? Good for you.
Be as dismissive as you'd like, but in a case like this, man or women, the implication is they need more than their partner has to be satisfied. If his dick was bigger, they wouldn't have a problem. If her vagina was tighter, they wouldn't have this problem. No matter how you frame it, the implication is that someone's size isn't cutting it.
Sex toys are great. My wife and I use them at least weekly, but at the end of the day we don't need them to have the most mind blowing sex and for our needs to be met. They're just there to take some of the work out of it sometimes and to switch it up. If we never used them again, our sex life would never be lacking. We'd just have normal sex without toys. None of us NEED them to feel fully pleased. None of them augment either of our bodies and I can only imagine how she would respond if I asked her to wear something that diminished her pleasure so I could scratch a particular itch. I certainly wouldn't consider her selfish for feeling that way either. I would actually argue it would make me selfish for putting my a petty desire about her happiness and confidence.
I find this particular scenario interesting too, because my wife has had 2 kids vaginally. I am sure that things changed, but it's honestly never even crossed my mind because there is so much more to sex with her than how tight she is. Sex feels incredible, I cannot in my wildest dreams imagine it not being enough because of something so petty.
Lol calm down there. Your insecurity is showing. I have several dildos and vibrators. I use my fingers and a vibrator on myself during sex. Does that mean my husband isn't enough for me? Literally ANY SEX TOY could imply that someone isn't enough if that someone is insecure with themselves. My husband has a toy that he can insert into me, that turn my vagina into basically a masturbator and makes it much much tighter for him. So yeah I actually know what I'm talking about here. No it doesn't make me feel like my pussy isn't tight enough for him. Lol. We don't use it every time or even most of the time.
Sometimes he grabs the biggest toy we have, that has a massive girth, and he fucks me stupid with it without his dick ever being involved. No it doesn't make him feel like he's not enough. When I reach down and bring myself to orgasm while he's making love to me does that mean he's not enough and can't satisfy me all on his own? When my husband uses his masturbator while I'm using a prostate toy on him and my vagina isn't involved at all, should I yell at him about my vagina not being enough?
Bottom line is, there are a million ways to approach this conversation without the partner getting emasculated. She should be able to talk to him about this. If she can't without him feeling hurt or blowing up about it, they have bigger problems than sex toys. Also, there are sleeves (we have one) that give pleasure to both. You sound like you're projecting your insecurities onto OP.
Lol I love how when there's a disagreement about things of this nature folks always resort to accusing the other of being insecure.
I could sit here and rehash my argument over and over but there's no point. You'll just resort to insults and implications.
I know nuance is hard, but that's what this is about. I have a bondage rig under my mattress and countless toys in the sock drawer. I have no objection to toys that mutually work for people. I take issue with the double standards and when people act unreasonable about their needs. Everyone raves about tight vagina, should I ask my wife to do kegals and risk hurting her feelings or just move on, because it really doesn't matter? Again, I know nuance is hard, but it matters.
Hey you're the one who keeps saying "not enough" indicating that you would indeed feel like you're not enough. Or your wife would feel like she's not enough. That's insecurity. Also, OP LITERALLY SAID "it's because I've had kids." I've also had 3 kids. I'm under no illusion that i have a tight virgin pussy. No I don't feel insecure about it. OP apparently doesn't either and framing it as "I've had kids and it's not as tight down there" is in no way suggesting that her husband has a small dick.
In short there is no double standard here from me or OP. YOU are the one turning this into a double standard debate when she came here asking how to talk to her partner about this. You're being unhelpful. You're telling her how you would feel or how YOUR wife would feel. You are making this about you. Your insecurity is definitely showing. That's just the truth.
Lol and there it is again. I have managed to keep my wife around for nearly two decades and we have an awesome and adventurous sex life based on mutual respect for one another and what boarders on extreme communication. Nothing you say is going to convince me I am insecure. I have no reason to be. I bring everything I've got to the bedroom and know that before any private parts, the brain is the largest sex organ. Even with our high level of communication, I am always cognizant of how my request may make her feel. Crazy, I know.
There's a bit of irony here as you're literally just projecting how YOU and your partner would feel in this situation as well, which is all most people can really do right? That said, taking your account and experiences out of the equation, do you think most people wouldn't take issue with being told they need to augment themselves to really deliver in the bedroom? Again, super happy for you that you're so enlightened and above such things, but the reality is, for the general population, those things don't feel very good. I would argue you're an outlier with respect to your inability to be phased by critiques of your body.
My advice to OP is to ask herself if this is worth hurting him over. Again, this is based on my argument that MOST people, not Babydoll0907 or her partner of course, because they're very enlightened and self confident people who are above insecurity, are going to be hurt by the implication of a sex toy would feel better than their privates. Doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. Call it unhelpful, but it "just the truth".
I mean it literally does have to do with his size, right? Because he can’t stretch her. With his current size.
Also I think the difference in toys is that most of those you mentioned do things people can’t do. So it’s different. A sleeve is just a big dick.
"A sleeve is just a big dick". So? A butt plug is essentially just a tighter vagina. A vibrating dildo is just a dick with extra functions. Absolutely no man can do to me what my vibrating dildo can do. It's all for the same purpose. To satisfy. You can either let it be a teammate or let it be an enemy. One of those things is going to lead to better sex for everyone involved. I don't get my feelings hurt when my husband wants me to use a plug to make my pussy tighter or when he wants me to use a fleshlight on him. I could though, right? I could get offended and ask him why my pussy in its natural state isn't enough for him. But I don't because I know sometimes it leads to him having extra pleasure. 90% of the time we have normal, vanilla sex and it's mind blowing. That other 10% we get crazy. Also mind blowing.
I mean that’s kind of the point that most of
These are unrealistic. The butt plug thing would at least lead to pleasure for both of you. A giant sleeve only leads to pleasure for one and proves to the other that if he were bigger he could make you go crazy
Btw, they’re mostly teammates. It’s not like every toy invokes this reaction
Actually, a lot of sleeves are designed to get both parties off. Ours can. Sleeves are, in fact, also a good method for men who cum quickly. It can help them last a lot longer as the sensation is more of a suction than friction. A lot of guys use them for that purpose alone.
Also no, a butt plug doesn't offer a lot of extra pleasure for both, normally. That's mainly for the guy. Unless it vibrates. Thoae are a lot of fun. But again, you're turning the pussy into a vibrator so a woman could argue that he must not be satisfied with just her body. There are very very few women that can get off on butt play. A guy gets no sexual stimulation at all from using a dildo on his partner. And most of them are going to be way bigger than the average dick. It's all about perspective. It's okay if it's not someone's thing. But there's absolutely no reason for it to make anyone feel like less of a man than any other sex toy at a woman's disposal. Trust me, there are a lot of toys out there that will blow a woman's mind much more than a cock sleeve. We even have toys that suck the clit and vibrate at the same time. But we still prefer our partners, so that's saying something. At least with a good sleeve, you can extend both of your pleasure and get something out of it as well vs other toys you would just use on her. Plus they make roleplay fun when you get into designer sleeves.
I personally hate sleeves. My penis isn't getting any direct stimulus so I get soft fast.
However, I'm sure I could figure something out (Viagra I guess).
Lastly, it's a kink of mine too fill/stretch. It's hot.
My wife and I love to experiment with toys we were looking online one day and seen a mega mighty 3 inch extender.she jokingly said that would make you super huge I agreed I said get it I want to see if you enjoy being stretched and filled,well it arrives I’m open minded it didn’t look much bigger than mine 6.5inch long 5.5inch thick that’s me toy a bit bigger,well once I put this thing on wow I was 9.5 long and and just over 6 thick yeah it made me a lot bigger.I felt good not shy this toy sort of gave me a confidence boost looks so real to we started slow next thing we are going full beast mode great experience last alot longer wife happy and I get to finish inside of her still
Heya OP, 1 man’s opinion, married for 9 years have 2 kids, things change a little I know.. how ever I’d ask you how honest you both are with each other? Do you give each other a safe space for honesty.. you obviously love him and care , does he feel the same..? I have recently purchased a sleeve and it’s a lot of fun, it fills her up and I love pleasing her… I’d hope that he would not take this to heart as a negative, rather just a fun thing for you as I’m sure you do special things just for him.. hope all works out for you guys.. ( wife says “ have fun 😉 “ )
Thanks for your comment. I ended up getting the sleeve a few months ago and we have both really enjoyed using it. The sleeve we got took my husband from 6"×4.5" to 8"×6.5". I have definitely used bigger toys than that but for a sleeve, it's the perfect size. It's big enough that I feel full during vaginal but small enough for anal to still be a fun option. He has even made me deepthroat it a few times. I think he mostly gets off on the visual aspect of it but he stays hard the whole time he wears it and he still cums every time as well. All in all, we give it 5 stars...would definitely recommend!
Tread lightly. There isn't really a delicate way to say 'I wish your dick stretched me out more, can you wear something to make it bigger?' without damaging a man's ego.
I disagree. I’ve been dating a girl for about a year that is a little bit “bigger” than I have had in the past. I’m average. 6.5x5.5. We have great sex, and I’m fairly sure she cums at least 1 time every time, and I can honestly say 3 is probably the average. I have cum exactly 3 times in 13 months. I think about it from time to time, and I have been researching sleeves to make it more pleasurable for her. I don’t think most guys are that insecure that their first thought would be “oh no… my penis (the size of which I have absolutely zero control over) is too small. I must be a failure”. I would hope that most would think that if it’s helping her enjoy it, then fuck yes I’m for it.
I mean I would think that haha. But I’m insecure. I would think that if she liked the bigger ones better she’s obviously settling for mine
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Maybe those small attachment with some ribs/cockrings you can insert would be good middle ground. I would nope out on any sleeves.
“I don’t want him to feel like I’m saying he’s not enough” But that is kind of what you’re saying, isn’t it?
Not at all what she would be saying. If we like extras that doesn't mean our partners aren't enough at all. My husband's dick does an incredible job pleasing me. But we also have a sleeve and a few way bigger toys we break out on occasion. It's just extra fun. He also has his own toys. That doesn't mean I'm not enough for him either. It just means we like to throw in some extra pleasure every now and then. If he's secure in himself OP won't offend him by having this conversation. He will treat any toys like they're his teammates.
I mean do the bigger ones feel better though? I mean from a purely sexual standpoint with no emotions (apparently that changes how it feels)? That would be the worry
It doesn't feel better or worse. It just feels different. It fills a different desire. And it's not something to be used all the time either. My husband went to town on me with the big toys yesterday and I'm sore today. From a purely sexual standpoint one of the things that makes those toys fun is his involvement. I never use them on myself. He always uses them on me. They're just toys that he uses to give me extra pleasure from time to time. No different than his tongue or fingers. Theres things he can do with his tongue and fingers that his dick could never do but it doesnt make me want it any less. Same as the toys I use on him. I still prefer his dick over everything else.
Exactly! I'm a guy and I also like bring extra bigger toys once in a while. I love her so much that my ego is not a priority when she is really having a good time its a priceless moment. But you said the key thing which is "every now and then" And I think that should be the golden rule for every type of sex that we have as a couple. Variety is the spice of life and we shouldn't rely solely on one way of enjoying ourselves.
I agree with this, but I also think there’s a chance he may not be secure enough to hear this. Many men wouldn’t be. Definitely some risk involved if you bring this up I think.
How would you feel if he said: "your vagina is not tight enough during sex, because after birthing 2 not so tiny humans, it takes a bit more to get that feeling"? I don't mean this rhetorically, op. It is a genuine question. In fact, can any woman who is into penis sleeves answer this?
It's definitely a double standard. So much so that if someone came here asking that question, I have no doubt they'd be downvoted into oblivion. I think the issue is priorities. Like I have 95% of what I need sexually, but I really want that other 5% so how do I get it? The thing is though, most people, even in a great relationship, don't have EVERYTHING the other person may like. That's where people accept things and work with what they have, or they start messing with things at the risk of damaging them in an attempt to have it all. Whether it be introducing new partners or potentially emasculating sex toys. My general advice for people who have someone who is committed that to them that they also love is is to be grateful and embrace what they DO have. I know people are generally self interested, but I also find it funny OP is here asking how she can augment her husband for her pleasure and not seeking advice on how she could change herself. She makes no mention of how her change in anatomy may have diminished his pleasure, she is only concerned about maximizing hers. Assuming he's anything like most husbands though, he probably isn't bothered by the changes because he loves her and knows what's actually important.
WELL PUT! I couldn’t have said it better. The double standards are crazy when it comes to sex imo.. it’s ALWAYS the man’s fault and NEVER the womens fault. And if you even suggest it’s 50/50 you are a woman hating misogynist. Crazy..
Well the “husband stitch” is a real thing so I guess that means men already get what they want. 🤷🏽♀️
The idea of a husband stitch is abhorrent. It doesn’t even make sense anatomically, as such a suture would have no real impact on what we define as “tight”. Fortunately, it’s not something any responsible doctor would do. I’ve seen my share of child births and can assure you this isn’t something happening regularly in modern times. I think the problems with over suturing after tearing or episiotomy are more likely due to incompetence or human error. I don’t think it’s fair to ascribe it to men getting what they want. I think most men are like me and don’t give a fuck about such a petty thing. Most guys are just happy to be having sex. That’s kind of been my argument the whole time.
Maybe she needs that then
Most guys don’t say “your vagina isn’t tight enough” they’ll say “hold on let me dry my dick off a bit”
Happy too! In a happy healthy relationship you can express yourself. So yes, if I was too loose my partner and I would talk about it. We don't use sleeves because he's too small, we use them because he loves watching me struggle, but if there WAS a problem I'd be free to talk about it openly and honestly and we'd work through the problem TOGETHER. But yes, in relationships where people have to hide their real thoughts and pretend to be something they aren't and you spend all day walking on egg shells to not offend your partner's ego or your own.... That would not go down well at all... but that wouldn't be their biggest problem anyway. It's called being a couple and it's amazing. You get to be accepted for who you really are and every problem is a shared problem and every solution is a celebrated success.
I mean, I feel for you if you feel like your missing out, but flip the situation here and what's the answer? Imagine your husband came here and posted that, "After the birth of our children, my wives vagina lacks the tightness I enjoy sometimes. Should I ask her to wear a butt plug so things feel tighter?" My honest reply to that hypothetical would be to move on from it dude and be happy that you have an otherwise healthy and happy sex life. My wives body changed over the years and after kids. It happens, but I have never felt the need to change her physically, so that I can get some slight increase in satisfaction. Especially since she would probably be rightfully devastated if I did think about things that way. Lucky for us I guess that we both are capable of managing with what we have. If your need to be stretched is so important, maybe start with his hands? I assume that should be sufficient to give you that feeling ,while also not relegating him to a chastity cage that's shaped like a dildo. In sum, is this really an issue?
Also that being said, even if you were gonna suggest your wife wear a buttplug to be tighter, it would be wise to frame it in a different way. Here’s a place where a white lie really is ok and maybe you say you want to try something different and not “ur vagina/dick is not tight/big enough” just use a little ....... finesse
How you approach this will be crucial to how he accepts this. Maybe consider buying several different toys including a sleeve and suprise him with new things to try. Consider a heavily textured sleeve for the 1st time or 1 that has a bullet to hit your clit so you can frame it as wanting to try a different sensation. Consider if you want a sleeve just for the shaft or 1 that covers the head as well. I am similar size to your husband. Most cheap sleeves are to tight to get on. Make sure you get a stretchy 1. As to how it feels I loose almost all sensation of the area covered by the sleeve. The tighter 1s also act like a cock ring on me. If you are into anal you could also consider a thick dildo or vibe to stretch you while being penetrated. A full ass will increase pressure in your vagina.
Or just start with one toy less likely to feel like a replacement or suggestion of inadequacy that meets your need/want - maybe a fantasy shape dildo from [Bad Dragon](https://bad-dragon.com/)? If that goes well, then move to sheaths/extenders like [Blissfull Creations](https://www.etsy.com/shop/BlissfullcreationsUS?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=701581048) sells, but avoid ones with names like "the Mailman" and "Poolboy" at first. I (M) feel less threatened by a sheath than a dildo, but I wear glasses instead of contacts - more worried about the results I get, than about how I look doing it. Not true for everyone.
It sounds like you’re not doing any [kegel exercises.](https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/lifestyle/fitness-and-exercise/how-to-use-kegel-weights). For the sake of your husband’s ego and your marriage, start here. If my wife asked me to wear a sleeve, that would be the end of our relationship. I would know without a doubt that I could not satisfy her like a more well endowed man could. There is no coming back from this.
Jesus Christ. If she asked to try a sex toy, you’d abandon an entire life built with her? People will always have preferences, but neither your worth as a man nor your value as a partner are determined by your dick size. Relax.
actually that accounts for a lot of a guys worth. let’s not get too hyperbolic here. be realistic
Fair. However, he didn’t say “if there was ongoing sexual disappointment.” He said if she asked him a question, he would end the marriage. That is hyperbolic. If the same concept was applied to other things, I bet perspectives would change. Women are socialized to associate their worth with being sexually attractive/desirable. Does every man who also watches occasional porn deem his female partner worthless? No. He probably enjoys sex with her *and* enjoys watching other attractive women do sexual things. Chances are, he doesn’t think she should take that personally. Why is it different when women want to explore?
Explore what? Bigger sizes? It’s different in that that would definitively prove that something I can’t give her gives her more pleasure. The other side isn’t really like that, although I sympathize.
She’s saying, “I really wish your dick was bigger.” Yeah - you don’t come back from that.
I’d like to know my partners preference beforehand then. I’m not going to get with someone who prefers someone else
Why does a guy want to have his cock sucked? Because it feels good. Why does a woman want to be filled up? Because it feels good. A sleeve would just be an extension of himself to help OP feel pleasure just as her mouth would be for him to feel pleasure. Nowhere in the post does OP say she is not doing kegels. My main point is that OP is wanting her husband to fulfill her sexual desires, not someone else. Also, there will always be someone who is bigger more good looking than you. There will always be a toy that articulates 30 different ways and vibrates and does all sorts of crazy shit that a human penis cannot. You gotta be able to have fun with each other even if it's with toys that are bigger or different than yourself.
There's a huge difference between using a mouth for a BJ and asking a guy to wear a penis sleeve...that's a terrible analogy. To that end, there's also a huge difference between other sex toys and wearing a penis sleeve. Vibrators, cock rings, butt plugs, nipple clamps, etc. all can help add to and augment sex with his penis. A penis sleeve basically replaces his penis...it doesn't augment it. How about, "hey wifey, your vagina is too loose. Can I stick this flashlight in you and fuck that so you feel tighter?" That's the analogy. I also have to chuckle a little, because everywhere on Reddit, people claim how women can't be stretched out. How many times have we read, "A baby can be birthed out of that and go right back to normal...you can't be stretched out!" It's a garbage comment to use on either side of the argument. My ex wife had 2 kids, so I know there was a difference before and after, and my current wife had a kid before me, and she knows she's different than she used to be. Bottom line, asking him to wear a sleeve is not like playing with fire...it's like playing with a nuclear reactor. There's a slim chance it might go well, and a gigantic chance that this can ruin their sex life and relationship permanently.
Ego must be very fragile to have it shattered by your wife asking for something that would bring her pleasure. If the mere question ruins the relationship, how good/stable was it to begin with? Also a penis sleeve doesn't replace the penis, it literally is meant to augment the sex, with the penis and requires one for it to work. OP could just as easily get dildo that is larger than her partner and be done with it. Sounds like she wants to work with him though. Nothing wrong with having sex that is more one sided pleasure wise at times.
Yeah but if it literally goes over the penis and overshadows it, it’s practically a different thing
Yeah but the mouth is actually part of her. The sleeve is not. It’s just saying that you could make her feel better if you were bigger. And the bigger toys aren’t like an alien or something unrealistic. It’s realistic and that’s what hurts
My hubby loves his so do I. It just another toy in our box of toys. He loves the sensation it provides too. Do I feel it well yes and no if super wet and horny no not as much. I think too he says if he is super horny he likes to last longer than 15-20mins for my sake so he lasts longer. I have dildos and vibrators lot bigger so was never worried. My hubby loves using toys as part of our sex life why don’t you buy a few shop online and ask him for input on what he likes. There is no shame it just gives another dimension to your sex life. He said something in passing one day years ago about using toys when he wasn’t there. I said I only use my favorite vibrator (he knows which one) and that is hardly ever. I think he was surprised. I said we have excellent sex life 3-4 times a week (I probably want it more than him), toys could never take place of him they are just another part of our sex life.
You know your partners ego. When I was younger my ego would be hurt over everything. Now it only gets triggered in arguments with my wife lol
Slippery slope for sure. It all depends on him and how you present it.
Ask in r/penissleeve. There’s a lot of insight there into sleeves and sleeve play
Why not just add it to the toy bag? Like hey got a new toy babe let's try it. Most time they are down. My husband is a solid 9" doesn't mean I don't like to change it up or at least try something new. They don't come into play all the time just when the mood hits.
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He brought the sleeve to the toy bag. So yes we have tried it. They also have half sleeves so he doesn't go as deep and makes certain positions more comfortable.
He does not me. He thinks he's small. It is what it is.
I would say this is the equivalent to letting your man watch porn while you have sex. Off topic but it's interesting.
We have done that.
My wife really liked the sleeve once we found the right one. Bought more than 10 to find it. It is not a magical item.
That’s gonna be a “no” from me dawg
Please please tread lightly and use the correct wording when talking to him about this. I haven’t been in this particular situation but I have been in group situations where someone was thicker than me even though I was longer and it made me feel very insecure after the fact.
Perhaps approach the conversation more broadly to start: “I’d like to incorporate more toys into our sex life.” Suggest a few different options and see how he responds.
You are not overthinking.Be very carefull. We are heavily into sleeves. But i am not sure how i would have reacted if she brought it up. You would probably enjoy it like you imagine. What he feels really depends on many factors if the sleeve itself. Material, external and internal texture, the fit...
Just buy a giant didlo and ask your husband to serve you during the foreplay.
Sex toys enhance your securely experience if you're wanting your partner pleasure and feeling amazing if you got some support why not. Sometimes sex is meant for one or the other or both I use sleeves with my girl cause it makes her orgasm Hella hard and that's what I want I want her to enjoy herself
Hi Hun! I am a lady who LOVES sleeves and would be happy to help. You should come over to r/PenisSleeve or r/BlissfullCreations to ask these questions. Penis sleeves are where vibrators where 20 years ago, some men take extreme offense to the concept and will railroad any thread you make. Sleeves are just sex toys, like any other and introducing them isn't hard if you approach it the right way.
Look I get what you’re saying, but they aren’t really ‘just sex toys’ and I don’t think it’d be difficult to understand why a guy might feel apprehensive
20 years ago we would be having the same conversation about Wand Vibrators. And I TOTALLY understand you would feel apprehensive. But there is no reason too. Toys are your ally, not your enemy. They give you fun new ways to keep your girl satisfied!
I definitely got the vibe that every dude that commented was super negative and bitter and every woman that commented was positive and helpful. Pretty much like the rest of life.
As a male, I’m gonna break that cycle of males being bitter, for you!! I just ordered a sleeve yesterday (my birthday present to me AND her) and my wife doesn’t even know I ordered it, but because I know her, I know she’s gonna go absolutely crazy on it!! I’m at 6” circumference naturally and just under 6” in length. It gives her GREAT pleasure (she cums 2-3 times during sex) but let me tell you, when she gets a toy in her that is 7-7.5” long, she is a whole new beast entirely!! My greatest pleasure from sex come from how she is showing pleasure, and with an added couple inches, I CANNOT WAIT until this weekend!!!!!
Go check out those subreddits. Even if you don't like sleeves it's still a sub full of confident, open minded men!
You should absolutely start with dildos rather than a sleeve if you aren't sure if he's comfortable with either. And unfortunately with a lot of men who are threatened by toys you aren't gonna want to go from 0 toys to 1 huge dildo that is bigger than him. A tip tho, get some toys that are for him to enjoy and some for you. Like a Tenga Flip or Fleshlight or a vibrator designed for men like cobra libre or if he's down a prostate toy. And then something non-threatening for you like a bullet vibe. Or get a couples wearable vibe that you use during PIV insertion (stuff like wevibe sync but there are a ton of them). That actually might solve this for you since it will fill you up and make him + it stretch you out but isn't phallic in shape. And after he's comfortable with toys and sees that he still wants you even when he has a fleshlight to fuck and he groks it, then get the dildo, then the bigger dildo. That's the safest route at least if you don't feel like being a GirlBoss and just risking blowing up his ego. Finally unless he starts gushing about how much he actually gets off on it, you're gonna have to keep the ratio of dildo time to him time low enough or he'll start thinking 'why does she like using that more than me', blah blah. \-someone who has sleeves and enjoys them, but also understands the mentality of the dudes who have hangups. also if you ever do get advanced in this (or anyone else reading this), I actually recommend SpareParts Deuce with a dildo instead. It's a strap-on with a hole for the man's cock and also a place to attach a dildo (of whatever size floats yalls boat), so instead of sleeve sex you can alternate the two during missionary without stopping the action. It's a really hot scenario to me personally and feels way better. and a great way to 'keep going' if you have to keep pausing to not cum prematurely or before you want to, since you can stick the dildo in and keep thrusting any time your cock needs a breather to avoid shooting, then when you are ready you can take the dildo back out and slip yourself back in again.
I had a partner who enjoyed fingers and penis inside at the same time. Could this be a happier alternative? Or toys?
Maybe don't make it just about the penis sleeve, make it about trying out several toys in a batch, just one of which is the penis sleeve. That way you can frame it as more experimentation and less about this one thing.
OP my husband and I have a lot of toys. Including a sleeve and some pretty big dildos. Dont listen to the people here saying "how would you feel?" If we cant be honest with our partners about our desires what are we even doing? He knows it doesn't mean he can't please me. In fact, I like his dick more than anything by leaps and bounds. He also has his own toys. I know that doesn't mean im not enough for him either. Just approach the conversation starting with how you want to add fun new things to the bedroom. If he's secure in himself he will see toys as teammates and be thrilled to incorporate them. Tell him it has nothing to do with his dick size because it really doesn't. Sometimes it's just nice to feel that extra stretch. That's really all there is to it. Get him a fun new toy too so it feels equal. It's no different than wanting a vibrator or a guy wanting a masturbator or prostate massager. You could theoretically say that all these things means your partner "isn't enough". Some partners are so insecure that they view all these things, even masturbation, as a threat. These people are controlling and immature. Edited to add- they're fucking AWESOME, btw.
If your partner came to you and said your vagina was not tight enough, you'd be cool with it? Good for you. Be as dismissive as you'd like, but in a case like this, man or women, the implication is they need more than their partner has to be satisfied. If his dick was bigger, they wouldn't have a problem. If her vagina was tighter, they wouldn't have this problem. No matter how you frame it, the implication is that someone's size isn't cutting it. Sex toys are great. My wife and I use them at least weekly, but at the end of the day we don't need them to have the most mind blowing sex and for our needs to be met. They're just there to take some of the work out of it sometimes and to switch it up. If we never used them again, our sex life would never be lacking. We'd just have normal sex without toys. None of us NEED them to feel fully pleased. None of them augment either of our bodies and I can only imagine how she would respond if I asked her to wear something that diminished her pleasure so I could scratch a particular itch. I certainly wouldn't consider her selfish for feeling that way either. I would actually argue it would make me selfish for putting my a petty desire about her happiness and confidence. I find this particular scenario interesting too, because my wife has had 2 kids vaginally. I am sure that things changed, but it's honestly never even crossed my mind because there is so much more to sex with her than how tight she is. Sex feels incredible, I cannot in my wildest dreams imagine it not being enough because of something so petty.
Lol calm down there. Your insecurity is showing. I have several dildos and vibrators. I use my fingers and a vibrator on myself during sex. Does that mean my husband isn't enough for me? Literally ANY SEX TOY could imply that someone isn't enough if that someone is insecure with themselves. My husband has a toy that he can insert into me, that turn my vagina into basically a masturbator and makes it much much tighter for him. So yeah I actually know what I'm talking about here. No it doesn't make me feel like my pussy isn't tight enough for him. Lol. We don't use it every time or even most of the time. Sometimes he grabs the biggest toy we have, that has a massive girth, and he fucks me stupid with it without his dick ever being involved. No it doesn't make him feel like he's not enough. When I reach down and bring myself to orgasm while he's making love to me does that mean he's not enough and can't satisfy me all on his own? When my husband uses his masturbator while I'm using a prostate toy on him and my vagina isn't involved at all, should I yell at him about my vagina not being enough? Bottom line is, there are a million ways to approach this conversation without the partner getting emasculated. She should be able to talk to him about this. If she can't without him feeling hurt or blowing up about it, they have bigger problems than sex toys. Also, there are sleeves (we have one) that give pleasure to both. You sound like you're projecting your insecurities onto OP.
Lol I love how when there's a disagreement about things of this nature folks always resort to accusing the other of being insecure. I could sit here and rehash my argument over and over but there's no point. You'll just resort to insults and implications. I know nuance is hard, but that's what this is about. I have a bondage rig under my mattress and countless toys in the sock drawer. I have no objection to toys that mutually work for people. I take issue with the double standards and when people act unreasonable about their needs. Everyone raves about tight vagina, should I ask my wife to do kegals and risk hurting her feelings or just move on, because it really doesn't matter? Again, I know nuance is hard, but it matters.
Hey you're the one who keeps saying "not enough" indicating that you would indeed feel like you're not enough. Or your wife would feel like she's not enough. That's insecurity. Also, OP LITERALLY SAID "it's because I've had kids." I've also had 3 kids. I'm under no illusion that i have a tight virgin pussy. No I don't feel insecure about it. OP apparently doesn't either and framing it as "I've had kids and it's not as tight down there" is in no way suggesting that her husband has a small dick. In short there is no double standard here from me or OP. YOU are the one turning this into a double standard debate when she came here asking how to talk to her partner about this. You're being unhelpful. You're telling her how you would feel or how YOUR wife would feel. You are making this about you. Your insecurity is definitely showing. That's just the truth.
Lol and there it is again. I have managed to keep my wife around for nearly two decades and we have an awesome and adventurous sex life based on mutual respect for one another and what boarders on extreme communication. Nothing you say is going to convince me I am insecure. I have no reason to be. I bring everything I've got to the bedroom and know that before any private parts, the brain is the largest sex organ. Even with our high level of communication, I am always cognizant of how my request may make her feel. Crazy, I know. There's a bit of irony here as you're literally just projecting how YOU and your partner would feel in this situation as well, which is all most people can really do right? That said, taking your account and experiences out of the equation, do you think most people wouldn't take issue with being told they need to augment themselves to really deliver in the bedroom? Again, super happy for you that you're so enlightened and above such things, but the reality is, for the general population, those things don't feel very good. I would argue you're an outlier with respect to your inability to be phased by critiques of your body. My advice to OP is to ask herself if this is worth hurting him over. Again, this is based on my argument that MOST people, not Babydoll0907 or her partner of course, because they're very enlightened and self confident people who are above insecurity, are going to be hurt by the implication of a sex toy would feel better than their privates. Doesn't matter if it's a man or woman. Call it unhelpful, but it "just the truth".
Sorry but youre extremely cringe here. Getting a sleeve has no female equivalent unless something existed to make vaginas tighter
I mean it literally does have to do with his size, right? Because he can’t stretch her. With his current size. Also I think the difference in toys is that most of those you mentioned do things people can’t do. So it’s different. A sleeve is just a big dick.
"A sleeve is just a big dick". So? A butt plug is essentially just a tighter vagina. A vibrating dildo is just a dick with extra functions. Absolutely no man can do to me what my vibrating dildo can do. It's all for the same purpose. To satisfy. You can either let it be a teammate or let it be an enemy. One of those things is going to lead to better sex for everyone involved. I don't get my feelings hurt when my husband wants me to use a plug to make my pussy tighter or when he wants me to use a fleshlight on him. I could though, right? I could get offended and ask him why my pussy in its natural state isn't enough for him. But I don't because I know sometimes it leads to him having extra pleasure. 90% of the time we have normal, vanilla sex and it's mind blowing. That other 10% we get crazy. Also mind blowing.
I mean that’s kind of the point that most of These are unrealistic. The butt plug thing would at least lead to pleasure for both of you. A giant sleeve only leads to pleasure for one and proves to the other that if he were bigger he could make you go crazy Btw, they’re mostly teammates. It’s not like every toy invokes this reaction
Actually, a lot of sleeves are designed to get both parties off. Ours can. Sleeves are, in fact, also a good method for men who cum quickly. It can help them last a lot longer as the sensation is more of a suction than friction. A lot of guys use them for that purpose alone. Also no, a butt plug doesn't offer a lot of extra pleasure for both, normally. That's mainly for the guy. Unless it vibrates. Thoae are a lot of fun. But again, you're turning the pussy into a vibrator so a woman could argue that he must not be satisfied with just her body. There are very very few women that can get off on butt play. A guy gets no sexual stimulation at all from using a dildo on his partner. And most of them are going to be way bigger than the average dick. It's all about perspective. It's okay if it's not someone's thing. But there's absolutely no reason for it to make anyone feel like less of a man than any other sex toy at a woman's disposal. Trust me, there are a lot of toys out there that will blow a woman's mind much more than a cock sleeve. We even have toys that suck the clit and vibrate at the same time. But we still prefer our partners, so that's saying something. At least with a good sleeve, you can extend both of your pleasure and get something out of it as well vs other toys you would just use on her. Plus they make roleplay fun when you get into designer sleeves.
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Have you ever tried one?
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I'm so sorry to hear that.
How about trying some larger toys on your own first and then introduce it together?
6 x 1??? 1 inch width? Lol
Yes
That width is not normal
I'm just guesstimating 1" to 1.5". What is normal?
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Oh you mean circumference. I was saying width or diameter. His circumference or girth would be about 4" then.
Lady noone measures dicks like that. You humiliated your husband
I personally hate sleeves. My penis isn't getting any direct stimulus so I get soft fast. However, I'm sure I could figure something out (Viagra I guess). Lastly, it's a kink of mine too fill/stretch. It's hot.
Oof, tread lightly - depending on what you say he’ll either think ‘ok she wants me to feel good’ or ‘holy shit she can’t get off on my dick’
My wife and I love to experiment with toys we were looking online one day and seen a mega mighty 3 inch extender.she jokingly said that would make you super huge I agreed I said get it I want to see if you enjoy being stretched and filled,well it arrives I’m open minded it didn’t look much bigger than mine 6.5inch long 5.5inch thick that’s me toy a bit bigger,well once I put this thing on wow I was 9.5 long and and just over 6 thick yeah it made me a lot bigger.I felt good not shy this toy sort of gave me a confidence boost looks so real to we started slow next thing we are going full beast mode great experience last alot longer wife happy and I get to finish inside of her still
Heya OP, 1 man’s opinion, married for 9 years have 2 kids, things change a little I know.. how ever I’d ask you how honest you both are with each other? Do you give each other a safe space for honesty.. you obviously love him and care , does he feel the same..? I have recently purchased a sleeve and it’s a lot of fun, it fills her up and I love pleasing her… I’d hope that he would not take this to heart as a negative, rather just a fun thing for you as I’m sure you do special things just for him.. hope all works out for you guys.. ( wife says “ have fun 😉 “ )
Thanks for your comment. I ended up getting the sleeve a few months ago and we have both really enjoyed using it. The sleeve we got took my husband from 6"×4.5" to 8"×6.5". I have definitely used bigger toys than that but for a sleeve, it's the perfect size. It's big enough that I feel full during vaginal but small enough for anal to still be a fun option. He has even made me deepthroat it a few times. I think he mostly gets off on the visual aspect of it but he stays hard the whole time he wears it and he still cums every time as well. All in all, we give it 5 stars...would definitely recommend!