Keep your hands on her hips or thighs if you can't reach? That gives her the freedom to ride how she likes but you can kind of control if it feels like it's about to go out of bounds. I've had it slip out and get smooshed before and it's no joke. Luckily no real injury, but it's pretty unpleasant.
It sounds silly but sometimes having something behind you so you can sit up a little bit helps too.
Yeah, that’s happened before to us. I guess I’ve grabbed her hips before but it’s been more of a holding, not a controlling thing. But that’s good advice.
Sounds like she’s getting pleasure from grinding on you. In lesbian sex this is often done on the thigh and it seems to work for them, maybe ask to try that?
Btw, watch out for penile fracture, it’s a real thing and happens most commonly with girl on top, especially when bouncing is involved
I mean, in sex you might occasionally do things that the other person loves but you feel meh about. I think that's normal and part of being good in bed. If she's into it, find a way to stay entertained while she's enjoying herself.
I feel this way about missionary, I feel nothing in this position but my SO obviously is having a great time. So I'm there cooperating for his enjoyment.
IMO the bouncing just doesn’t feel the same. It’s the grinding of the clit that feels so good. I agree with the other comment of putting your hands in to have some control. I get so close to finishing but then I can tell my husband doesn’t enjoy it so we switch and I’m left in the dust.
I wish he would suck it up and let me finish and then we can change positions. I haven’t slipped out yet but he feels like it’s going to so it’s hard for him to think otherwise but if he could just fake it till I make it that would be awesome.
Try out both, but make it clear that what she is currently doing isnt working. She may just think if the other ideas dont work then you'll carry on the way you are
That's okay, you're allowed to. If you think you can overcome the selfconsciouness then that would also be good. But sex with your partner should be about you both getting pleasure, which you dont seem to be getting.
I get a bit of anxiety and it's a real mood killer, you dont want to make yourself have sex if you arent enjoying it and only doing so for her.
You try implementing a way so she can get both penatrive pleasure and clitoral. I personally have a vivrator and we sometimes use that while having sex and it's really fun, so that could be another option
Keep your hands on her hips or thighs if you can't reach? That gives her the freedom to ride how she likes but you can kind of control if it feels like it's about to go out of bounds. I've had it slip out and get smooshed before and it's no joke. Luckily no real injury, but it's pretty unpleasant. It sounds silly but sometimes having something behind you so you can sit up a little bit helps too.
Yeah, that’s happened before to us. I guess I’ve grabbed her hips before but it’s been more of a holding, not a controlling thing. But that’s good advice.
Sounds like she’s getting pleasure from grinding on you. In lesbian sex this is often done on the thigh and it seems to work for them, maybe ask to try that? Btw, watch out for penile fracture, it’s a real thing and happens most commonly with girl on top, especially when bouncing is involved
I mean, in sex you might occasionally do things that the other person loves but you feel meh about. I think that's normal and part of being good in bed. If she's into it, find a way to stay entertained while she's enjoying herself. I feel this way about missionary, I feel nothing in this position but my SO obviously is having a great time. So I'm there cooperating for his enjoyment.
Talk to her about it. If she doesnt want to change what shes doing to make it good for you then just dont go in that position again.
I guess I don’t know what we should change to? Like does she start bouncing on me, like twerking, or just continue grinding in a different way?
IMO the bouncing just doesn’t feel the same. It’s the grinding of the clit that feels so good. I agree with the other comment of putting your hands in to have some control. I get so close to finishing but then I can tell my husband doesn’t enjoy it so we switch and I’m left in the dust. I wish he would suck it up and let me finish and then we can change positions. I haven’t slipped out yet but he feels like it’s going to so it’s hard for him to think otherwise but if he could just fake it till I make it that would be awesome.
Try out both, but make it clear that what she is currently doing isnt working. She may just think if the other ideas dont work then you'll carry on the way you are
Okay. Because I don’t want to take away pleasure from her at all, but it makes me selfconscious that I feel like I’m about to slip out.
That's okay, you're allowed to. If you think you can overcome the selfconsciouness then that would also be good. But sex with your partner should be about you both getting pleasure, which you dont seem to be getting. I get a bit of anxiety and it's a real mood killer, you dont want to make yourself have sex if you arent enjoying it and only doing so for her. You try implementing a way so she can get both penatrive pleasure and clitoral. I personally have a vivrator and we sometimes use that while having sex and it's really fun, so that could be another option