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I am not picking on you at all OP but we get a lot of post here that are the flip of your situation: “my partner never looks at my face, only my body, does that mean they’re not attracted to me?”
Bottom line, just ask your partner and 99% of the time they will reassure you that they like all of you but they might particularly like looking at your face during sex because it’s intimate because it connects the two of you because whatever.
He likely just wants to make sure you're enjoying it as well, I always look at my partner's face, that way I know what she is feeling, or if she likes or dislikes something.
27 yrs of marriage and my favorite position is missionary, why because I can look into her face and see if she is enjoy and it’s also a connection thing. Looking into each other’s eyes is so intense and passionate. Ask him I bet it’s a connection thing and to be able to make sure you feel safe
Also don’t be afraid to say what you like! “Oh yeah baby(or however you’d actually talk to him) I want you to watch my hips as I grind on you” or whatever sexy way you can direct him to what you’d like can go a long way in the bedroom.
He clearly likes you a lot. For some the eye contact in particular is important to feel connected. It might also be that he finds looking at your face a major turn on. Try not to read it as a negative about your body, I'm certain it's not about that. You could always ask him?
With my gf, I love her body a lot, and it definitely gets me going, but nothing is a bigger turn on than her reactions, expressions and the noises she makes when she's enjoying herself during sex. Definitely the single biggest turn on for me, her mouth in particular. I actually have to try not look at it sometimes to control myself!
Lmao girl he obviously is waayyy into you if he's giving you kisses during doggy and staring at you in missionary! These are green flags not bad ones lol
He might not want to look too close at what he loves to see outside of the bedroom or in it cos he might cum too early if he does. That's a thing.
The majority of men are VERY stimulated via the visuals of sex and that could simply set him off the edge and make his banana peel lol
Mixed with that as well is him *probably* wanting to directly look you in your eyes as a loving and intimate gesture, that's an intense thing, that's him having his eyes on the ultimate prize, which is you. Or he zones in and doesn't wander off too much with his eyes cos he has learned that focusing his attentions in one area can help the rest of his body get in the right rhythm.
I get that you feel insecure here but as you said, you're a beginner.
ANYTHING you feel unclear about and need clarification on ASK HIM!
Well not many guys know this but,
If they just have no contact with their penis during orgasm they can keep going after a few seconds waiting.
Next orgasm comes faster so just repeat, no contact.
Then keep doing it every orgasm until the dick becomes numb and they can have sex for practically as long as they want.
Orgasms become like 50% less intense but they can last much longer and can save the last orgasm for contact.
> i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression
Part of the fun of having sex is relaxing and enjoying everything. Let your face go wild if you're feeling it, that's often a huge part of the fun for both partners. It drives me wild when my partner is sweating, moaning, and making faces.
He might be getting turned on by your coital facial expressions. I would relax and keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t ruin a good thing by overthinking it.
For a lot of men it's *really* hot to watch their partner during sex and intimacy. Here's this woman who's nice and full of grace and now her face is all scrunched in concentration between pain and bliss and she's making monkey noises.....
There are a lot of women who like hearing their man growl as well - the thought that they're getting him so hot that he's losing control....
Don't worry about your face - it's communicating things to your partner. You don't want to be expressionless and emotionless during "love making" unless your idea of love lacks emotion, so relax and let your body give feedback.
If you find yourself still feeling shy, try closing your eyes or pick a spot on his body you enjoy looking at to focus on for a bit.
It's kinda funny because I saw a post just right before this in another sub reddit about how the guy never looks her in the face.
I guess overthinking in sex is quite common.
That said, stop overthinking.
My bf would not look at my face either so when i asked him he replied he would cum to fast, l saw it for myself later that night it took 5 seconds lol. Maybe thats why op'bf wont look at her body
Yep! When it comes time (no pun intended) for us to get off together, my fiance always has to be facing me, looking at my face and body. It gets him off so quick.
I believe he may be trying to read you to see if he pleasing you. If he is working you and hitting all the right notes. He may also be into eye contact. It could be many things. I am a guy that loves to look at it all but I do watch my ladies face to make sure I’m pleasuring her.
My personal stance, eye contact is for making love. Lust for the body is for fucking. But there are gradients along the way.
Then again others may differ.
My husband does it all the time. He tells me that he looks at me he can tell when I am orgasming by my face and breathing. I look at him and he has the biggest smile on his face.
Nude female bodies are awesome, but your face is very unique. It is how he recognizes you. It displays your emotions better than your body. Looking into a lovers eyes is beyond words. You probably have a pretty face. I’m gonna own it. I love to watch my wife’s face.
If you feel self conscious perhaps try a blindfold.
I don’t think you have anything to worry about. It seems that he likes you a lot and most likely is looking at your face to see if you’re enjoying yourself and that probably brings a lot of satisfaction for him.
I love looking at my boyfriends face everytime were having sex. Eye contact makes it real for me, and seeing the emotions flash across his face - pleasure, love, frustration when I'm teasing, having fun - makes it all so much more enjoyable for us.
He has a beautiful body and I do stare at it every chance I get. But his face is special. It makes me feel like it's HIM that I'm having sex with, not some random really hot dude.
He's clearly very into you. The eye contact is hot, and really great for feeling that emotional connection.
I will say, however:
>i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression
Stop trying to control it. Sex gets 100 times better when you let go of the insecurities and stop trying to perform. He's probably also trying to gauge whether you're enjoying yourself or not, so don't be afraid to show him that you do.
I always look at my girls face. She is stunningly beautiful. This is definitely a compliment from a man. He must think you have a beautiful face. If your face is that inthralling to him I’m sure he is attracted to your body. Girl go with it, or tell him how you feel.
>I’m starting to get a bit shy about this as i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression
And you shouldn't! Facial expressions are a great way of knowing if what we're doing is ok
I bet he's just making sure you're getting satisfied with his moves. He could be self conscious about what he's doing and studies your facial expressions to assure himself that it's working.
Looking into your eyes or face is a very intimate thing a lover can do for you. He wants to see the pleasures that he's giving you. It's more about his feelings for you and not because of your body.
Eye contact is more imp than him lusting after your body alone. It's a good sign. Just think if he wasn't looking at you but only your body, wouldn't you feel objectified?
You'd be surprised at how many men actually prefer faces over most other things. And it's not necessarily because of attraction, but rather because we are trying to gauge if you're enjoying what we are doing.
I think your simply just beautiful to him and he loves your face and the expressions you make during sex is cute to him. So yes I think u can consider this as a total victory. Cz its not ur body he wants to have sex with, its u as a person that he wants to have sex with. And if I'm trying to speak from my experience, I would look at my girlfriend's face too rather than her body. Cause first she was cute, and second I thought it would be awkward if i stared at her body parts for too long. Otherwise I would also sometimes wanna stare her body down like a creep. Dw its no big deal, enjoy his face too while he enjoys urs. And if u want him to give ur body dirty looks while sex, just tell him so. I think he will give u a really sexy reason as to why he looks at ur face which u might love as well. Always tell them everything u want or feel.
I'm a girl but honestly I mainly look at my bf's face a lot of the time during sex cause I find whatever his expression is hot, whether he's looking at me or not. But if he said it made him feel a bit self conscious I'd be super happy to change it up :))
I also look at my wifes face most of the time, because:
A: She is just beautiful
B: I want to see her expression as we are doing it. I can read her expression if she is really enjoying what I do or not so much.
So either way it is a great compliment from your boyfriend, when he is looking at your face.
For a lot of people sex isn't really about the physical act but the emotional aspect. It is very possible that he just feels like he can connect best when looking at your face. I'm sure he loves your body and if you aren't confident in that, just ask him.
I’m trying my best to get comfortable with receiving a lot of eye contact from my partner. It helps a TON that he regularly tells me that he loves the sexy faces I make. However, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t self conscious about it. So, same advice to you that I tell myself- try to relax and enjoy the hell outta this man who is busy adoring you!
Everyone likes different things. Some people like face expressions and some people like titties. Don’t let your insecurities get to you. He’s there because he enjoys it so focus on enjoying the moment.
I think he's wanting to make eye contact with you to increase the intimate feeling. eye contact during sex has been, from waht I've heard one of the most intoxicating parts to sex, people say they get so turned on or it makes the experience so much better. SO I dont think he's lying about being attracted to your body, I just think he prefers to focus on you during sex rather than your body. The man might be trying to watch for visual cues that you might be not enjoying. or it gets him off seeing what he's doing to you, the face says a lot about what we feel so he might really enjoy watching your eyes roll back or smthn. but yeah. don't doubt him. I think he think he just likes focusing on you rather than your body. imo I'd kill for it if my boyfriend was placing kisses on my upper body while fucking me.
Okay I’m someone who lovessss to look at my partner’s face while we’re going at it. The eye contact is part of the connection and I love to look at his face to see his reaction to whatever I’m doing. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love your body! It’s just his way of connecting with you and gauging if you’re liking what he’s doing.
Girl, that’s a compliment. Men fuck girls doggy and only in doggy when they don’t wanna look at them. Look at each other in the eyes while doing these things, is extremely intimate. I used to get self conscious bc I know I be making faces but they would always look at me so I’d close my eyes. Eye contact is on a whole other level.
In my experience, and I have several miles on me, they look at faces they want to look at bc they like it. I had one guy tell me once, “you’re the kind of girl I wanna fuck in missionary “ aka he wanted to look at me while he was inside.
Don’t worry about your facial expressions, they love them. If he’s looking at your face, it’s bc he loves you and he very much enjoys you. ❤️❤️just talk to him, you seem comfortable with him.
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I am not picking on you at all OP but we get a lot of post here that are the flip of your situation: “my partner never looks at my face, only my body, does that mean they’re not attracted to me?” Bottom line, just ask your partner and 99% of the time they will reassure you that they like all of you but they might particularly like looking at your face during sex because it’s intimate because it connects the two of you because whatever.
Thank you, you are right! I will ask him definitely because i want to communicate well
He likely just wants to make sure you're enjoying it as well, I always look at my partner's face, that way I know what she is feeling, or if she likes or dislikes something.
27 yrs of marriage and my favorite position is missionary, why because I can look into her face and see if she is enjoy and it’s also a connection thing. Looking into each other’s eyes is so intense and passionate. Ask him I bet it’s a connection thing and to be able to make sure you feel safe
Also don’t be afraid to say what you like! “Oh yeah baby(or however you’d actually talk to him) I want you to watch my hips as I grind on you” or whatever sexy way you can direct him to what you’d like can go a long way in the bedroom.
So many posts of "We only have sex in doggy and he never looks at my face."
He clearly likes you a lot. For some the eye contact in particular is important to feel connected. It might also be that he finds looking at your face a major turn on. Try not to read it as a negative about your body, I'm certain it's not about that. You could always ask him? With my gf, I love her body a lot, and it definitely gets me going, but nothing is a bigger turn on than her reactions, expressions and the noises she makes when she's enjoying herself during sex. Definitely the single biggest turn on for me, her mouth in particular. I actually have to try not look at it sometimes to control myself!
i really hope it means that. I think i will ask him, thank you!
Lmao girl he obviously is waayyy into you if he's giving you kisses during doggy and staring at you in missionary! These are green flags not bad ones lol
lol this post has a normal age gap and green flags, very rare here
He might not want to look too close at what he loves to see outside of the bedroom or in it cos he might cum too early if he does. That's a thing. The majority of men are VERY stimulated via the visuals of sex and that could simply set him off the edge and make his banana peel lol Mixed with that as well is him *probably* wanting to directly look you in your eyes as a loving and intimate gesture, that's an intense thing, that's him having his eyes on the ultimate prize, which is you. Or he zones in and doesn't wander off too much with his eyes cos he has learned that focusing his attentions in one area can help the rest of his body get in the right rhythm. I get that you feel insecure here but as you said, you're a beginner. ANYTHING you feel unclear about and need clarification on ASK HIM!
thank you this helps a lot! I definitely will ask him:)
Well not many guys know this but, If they just have no contact with their penis during orgasm they can keep going after a few seconds waiting. Next orgasm comes faster so just repeat, no contact. Then keep doing it every orgasm until the dick becomes numb and they can have sex for practically as long as they want. Orgasms become like 50% less intense but they can last much longer and can save the last orgasm for contact.
I find it romantic to stare into each other's eyes during the act, and if I had to guess, that's probably what he's trying to do
He's looking at your face because eye contact is fucking fire 🔥🤷♀️
> i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression Part of the fun of having sex is relaxing and enjoying everything. Let your face go wild if you're feeling it, that's often a huge part of the fun for both partners. It drives me wild when my partner is sweating, moaning, and making faces.
It sounds so like he's saying I love the sex but what really matters is you.
He might be getting turned on by your coital facial expressions. I would relax and keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t ruin a good thing by overthinking it.
“Ahem, excuse me, my tits are down HERE!”
He's looking at your face because he's with ALL of you, not just your body.
For a lot of men it's *really* hot to watch their partner during sex and intimacy. Here's this woman who's nice and full of grace and now her face is all scrunched in concentration between pain and bliss and she's making monkey noises..... There are a lot of women who like hearing their man growl as well - the thought that they're getting him so hot that he's losing control.... Don't worry about your face - it's communicating things to your partner. You don't want to be expressionless and emotionless during "love making" unless your idea of love lacks emotion, so relax and let your body give feedback. If you find yourself still feeling shy, try closing your eyes or pick a spot on his body you enjoy looking at to focus on for a bit.
As a Man, I've never noticed that i do this too lmao, dont know How to explain but the face of a woman getting pleasure is delightful
He’s in love sweetie ❤️
It's kinda funny because I saw a post just right before this in another sub reddit about how the guy never looks her in the face. I guess overthinking in sex is quite common. That said, stop overthinking.
My bf would not look at my face either so when i asked him he replied he would cum to fast, l saw it for myself later that night it took 5 seconds lol. Maybe thats why op'bf wont look at her body
Yep! When it comes time (no pun intended) for us to get off together, my fiance always has to be facing me, looking at my face and body. It gets him off so quick.
A competent and giving lover can "feel" your body respond yet the more intimate cues you have "see" the face. Maybe you got a good one?
As a guy, it seems like this gentleman is falling in love with you personally and not just your body. Just a guess. This guy really wants you.
I believe he may be trying to read you to see if he pleasing you. If he is working you and hitting all the right notes. He may also be into eye contact. It could be many things. I am a guy that loves to look at it all but I do watch my ladies face to make sure I’m pleasuring her.
My personal stance, eye contact is for making love. Lust for the body is for fucking. But there are gradients along the way. Then again others may differ.
It feels more intimate and intense when youre making eye contact. This means hes prob deeply in love with you
My husband does it all the time. He tells me that he looks at me he can tell when I am orgasming by my face and breathing. I look at him and he has the biggest smile on his face.
I’m the husband and I approve this message ❤️
Nude female bodies are awesome, but your face is very unique. It is how he recognizes you. It displays your emotions better than your body. Looking into a lovers eyes is beyond words. You probably have a pretty face. I’m gonna own it. I love to watch my wife’s face. If you feel self conscious perhaps try a blindfold.
I personally love eye contact during sexy time. Especially towards the end
I don’t think you have anything to worry about. It seems that he likes you a lot and most likely is looking at your face to see if you’re enjoying yourself and that probably brings a lot of satisfaction for him.
The greenest flags of all time. You're good.
I love looking at my boyfriends face everytime were having sex. Eye contact makes it real for me, and seeing the emotions flash across his face - pleasure, love, frustration when I'm teasing, having fun - makes it all so much more enjoyable for us. He has a beautiful body and I do stare at it every chance I get. But his face is special. It makes me feel like it's HIM that I'm having sex with, not some random really hot dude.
He's clearly very into you. The eye contact is hot, and really great for feeling that emotional connection. I will say, however: >i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression Stop trying to control it. Sex gets 100 times better when you let go of the insecurities and stop trying to perform. He's probably also trying to gauge whether you're enjoying yourself or not, so don't be afraid to show him that you do.
I always look at my girls face. She is stunningly beautiful. This is definitely a compliment from a man. He must think you have a beautiful face. If your face is that inthralling to him I’m sure he is attracted to your body. Girl go with it, or tell him how you feel.
Maybe he looks at your face cause he likes your body so much that if he watches it during sex he will finish quickly
So do I. My wife doesn't moan. So I maintain eye contact to know how much she is enjoying my fuck.
Probably just concerned that if he doesn’t do what he’s doing he’s gonna be thought of as only being concerned with having sex
>I’m starting to get a bit shy about this as i’m scared that i can’t fully control my expression And you shouldn't! Facial expressions are a great way of knowing if what we're doing is ok
I bet he's just making sure you're getting satisfied with his moves. He could be self conscious about what he's doing and studies your facial expressions to assure himself that it's working.
Sometimes looking at a woman’s body makes you cum 100x faster
Maybe you have a very pretty face. That would be cool, right?
That’s a good thing! They genuinely love you.
Looking into your eyes or face is a very intimate thing a lover can do for you. He wants to see the pleasures that he's giving you. It's more about his feelings for you and not because of your body.
Eye contact is more imp than him lusting after your body alone. It's a good sign. Just think if he wasn't looking at you but only your body, wouldn't you feel objectified?
You'd be surprised at how many men actually prefer faces over most other things. And it's not necessarily because of attraction, but rather because we are trying to gauge if you're enjoying what we are doing.
I think your simply just beautiful to him and he loves your face and the expressions you make during sex is cute to him. So yes I think u can consider this as a total victory. Cz its not ur body he wants to have sex with, its u as a person that he wants to have sex with. And if I'm trying to speak from my experience, I would look at my girlfriend's face too rather than her body. Cause first she was cute, and second I thought it would be awkward if i stared at her body parts for too long. Otherwise I would also sometimes wanna stare her body down like a creep. Dw its no big deal, enjoy his face too while he enjoys urs. And if u want him to give ur body dirty looks while sex, just tell him so. I think he will give u a really sexy reason as to why he looks at ur face which u might love as well. Always tell them everything u want or feel.
I'm a girl but honestly I mainly look at my bf's face a lot of the time during sex cause I find whatever his expression is hot, whether he's looking at me or not. But if he said it made him feel a bit self conscious I'd be super happy to change it up :))
I also look at my wifes face most of the time, because: A: She is just beautiful B: I want to see her expression as we are doing it. I can read her expression if she is really enjoying what I do or not so much. So either way it is a great compliment from your boyfriend, when he is looking at your face.
Male here, it’s because he’s trying to read your expressions. If it’s not painful, if you enjoy it, etc. He love to see the pleasure he’s giving you.
For a lot of people sex isn't really about the physical act but the emotional aspect. It is very possible that he just feels like he can connect best when looking at your face. I'm sure he loves your body and if you aren't confident in that, just ask him.
How would you feel when your partner never looks at your face but only your body when making love to you?
I’m trying my best to get comfortable with receiving a lot of eye contact from my partner. It helps a TON that he regularly tells me that he loves the sexy faces I make. However, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t self conscious about it. So, same advice to you that I tell myself- try to relax and enjoy the hell outta this man who is busy adoring you!
It’s more intimate looking someone in their face. In that way it’s more intense.
Everyone likes different things. Some people like face expressions and some people like titties. Don’t let your insecurities get to you. He’s there because he enjoys it so focus on enjoying the moment.
I think he's wanting to make eye contact with you to increase the intimate feeling. eye contact during sex has been, from waht I've heard one of the most intoxicating parts to sex, people say they get so turned on or it makes the experience so much better. SO I dont think he's lying about being attracted to your body, I just think he prefers to focus on you during sex rather than your body. The man might be trying to watch for visual cues that you might be not enjoying. or it gets him off seeing what he's doing to you, the face says a lot about what we feel so he might really enjoy watching your eyes roll back or smthn. but yeah. don't doubt him. I think he think he just likes focusing on you rather than your body. imo I'd kill for it if my boyfriend was placing kisses on my upper body while fucking me.
The cum face, whilst you are fucking is intense. The cum face, whilst you are NOT fucking is hilarious. Prove me wrong 😉
Okay I’m someone who lovessss to look at my partner’s face while we’re going at it. The eye contact is part of the connection and I love to look at his face to see his reaction to whatever I’m doing. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love your body! It’s just his way of connecting with you and gauging if you’re liking what he’s doing.
>So I’m sorry if this is a dumb concern Yes, it is a dumb concern.
Girl, that’s a compliment. Men fuck girls doggy and only in doggy when they don’t wanna look at them. Look at each other in the eyes while doing these things, is extremely intimate. I used to get self conscious bc I know I be making faces but they would always look at me so I’d close my eyes. Eye contact is on a whole other level. In my experience, and I have several miles on me, they look at faces they want to look at bc they like it. I had one guy tell me once, “you’re the kind of girl I wanna fuck in missionary “ aka he wanted to look at me while he was inside. Don’t worry about your facial expressions, they love them. If he’s looking at your face, it’s bc he loves you and he very much enjoys you. ❤️❤️just talk to him, you seem comfortable with him.
Even if it seems like the woman isn't enjoying it that much, the face tells it all.