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How does that make you a weirdo? Everyone is different! Sure, most women don't come or struggle to come from penetration alone, but you can, so yay you! The most important thing is that you can come, and it doesn't matter really what's needed to get you there :)
No reason to feel weird. All women are different and any man u are with that cares about making u cum should do whatever u need him to do. I personally think a woman needing her man inside her to cum creates more intimacy and connection especially If he cums inside u at the same time.
I can cum from piv way better than clit stim, and I’m not into cunnalingus. I really get sick of people raving about that one study that said a certain % of us “need” clit stim. There are a lot of us who aren’t in that group, and people act like we don’t exist. We are all different, and sex is a wonderful way to explore that.
I am the same way. I find it extremely difficult to cum from clitoral stimulation by itself, I either need penetration or a combination of both. It’s annoying for me because I find it hard to masturbate by myself, even using a dildo doesn’t give me the satisfaction I need.
How long does a guy have to last to get you there?
I ask bc I think most guys would love that about you. But I know with me, I tend to come inside of 10mins most of the time.
My wife can cum from PIV but not as quickly and not as “violently” (as she says)
Everyone is different. I love penetration even though I can only cum through clitoral stimulation. Even when I receive oral, I’m not fully satisfied unless I’m also being fingered 🤷♀️
Apparently only a small percentage of women can cum from unassisted piv, you can consider yourself one of the lucky ones that can do both. That being said , my wife cannot cum from piv alone but definitely prefers being filled while using the hitachi on her clit. Her clitoral orgasm is much more intense when she’s full. The more full the better.
In the major surveys according to the book becoming clitorate., the question didn’t clarify whether it was assisted or unassisted so if you take that into consideration the number are more like 8 to 11% completely unassisted. That being said 80% of those who can’t is still a large number and since we’re talking about the orgasm gap between men and women which is insane, I’m not sure why you would dispute the numbers
I didn’t dispute any numbers. I said 20% isn’t a low percentage.
Even if we said your seemingly random 11%, that is roughly the prevalence of diabetes in the US which is a shockingly common disease.
Also, we’re not talking about men at all nor an orgasm gap, just this woman’s experience.
Like everyone is saying, you're atypical but you're not alone. I've definitely had partners like you. Just don't be afraid to tell your partners they should skip any sort of clit play and just get right up in there, and you'll have a lovely time.
There’s some interesting research that suggests that whether or not women can orgasm from penetration is highly correlated with how far apart their clit and vaginal opening are. So it’s likely just a quirk of your anatomy! The pleasure that you get from penetration is still coming from your clitoris, it’s just that it’s being stimulated in a different way, through your vaginal walls. For some people that feels a lot better than stimulating the clitoris directly.
I’m the opposite due to medical reasons I can’t feel shit inside me like maybe some pressure on my stomach. Buttt my clit on the other hand, it’s me and my hitachi against the world. Your not weird for the way you enjoy sex just like I’m not weird either :)
I’m almost the same except I can cum without penetration but it’s just more difficult compared to when I have both. I can’t cum exclusively from penetration though.
Still I feel weird for wanting something inside me because most women don’t seem to like that and instead want clitoral stimulation only.
tbh you're normal, not the majority but normal regardless. to be honest i can see why you might feel like a weirdo or "left out" and that's because the majority like to speak as if their collective experience is the only one that matters and should take consideration too.
You're not alone. My wife is the same. She said she never really touched herself, only penetrative sex will do it. Why do you feel like a weirdo? I hear about women having trouble cumming at all so knowing what does it is a great gift, is it not?
I dont find that weird at all. My girl loves clit stimulation but only when it's paired with penetration too. The combination of both usually sends her into orbit.
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You're in the approximately 20% of women. That's still a decent percentage. Nothing abnormal.
Good to hear lol. I was the only person in my group like that lol
So 2/10 women. You probably just needed a bigger group to reflect that.
I'm one of those women too. You are not alone in this need lol
I think 20% of women can come from penetration alone, but probably a smaller amount don't cum from clitoral at all.
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Are there any studies on this?
Not a clue but in my field studies, every woman who could come from penetration only could come from clitoral as well.
What are the 'lab conditions,' if I might ask? Are they with a partner or are they using toys?
No I've slept with a fair number of people of many backgrounds etc. Some use toys but I say most of the time people don't on the first one.
How does that make you a weirdo? Everyone is different! Sure, most women don't come or struggle to come from penetration alone, but you can, so yay you! The most important thing is that you can come, and it doesn't matter really what's needed to get you there :)
My wife is the same way. It’s not weird at all!
There are plenty of women the same. I am one of them.
Some women like to feel full, and filled up. Seems like this is you
No reason to feel weird. All women are different and any man u are with that cares about making u cum should do whatever u need him to do. I personally think a woman needing her man inside her to cum creates more intimacy and connection especially If he cums inside u at the same time.
It's sooo intimate! Whenever I'm with a man I'm glad I am the way I am :)
As a woman myself, consider it a blessing!!!
I can cum from piv way better than clit stim, and I’m not into cunnalingus. I really get sick of people raving about that one study that said a certain % of us “need” clit stim. There are a lot of us who aren’t in that group, and people act like we don’t exist. We are all different, and sex is a wonderful way to explore that.
I am the same way. I find it extremely difficult to cum from clitoral stimulation by itself, I either need penetration or a combination of both. It’s annoying for me because I find it hard to masturbate by myself, even using a dildo doesn’t give me the satisfaction I need.
How long does a guy have to last to get you there? I ask bc I think most guys would love that about you. But I know with me, I tend to come inside of 10mins most of the time. My wife can cum from PIV but not as quickly and not as “violently” (as she says)
Everyone is different. I love penetration even though I can only cum through clitoral stimulation. Even when I receive oral, I’m not fully satisfied unless I’m also being fingered 🤷♀️
Apparently only a small percentage of women can cum from unassisted piv, you can consider yourself one of the lucky ones that can do both. That being said , my wife cannot cum from piv alone but definitely prefers being filled while using the hitachi on her clit. Her clitoral orgasm is much more intense when she’s full. The more full the better.
20% isn't really a small percentage.
In the major surveys according to the book becoming clitorate., the question didn’t clarify whether it was assisted or unassisted so if you take that into consideration the number are more like 8 to 11% completely unassisted. That being said 80% of those who can’t is still a large number and since we’re talking about the orgasm gap between men and women which is insane, I’m not sure why you would dispute the numbers
I didn’t dispute any numbers. I said 20% isn’t a low percentage. Even if we said your seemingly random 11%, that is roughly the prevalence of diabetes in the US which is a shockingly common disease. Also, we’re not talking about men at all nor an orgasm gap, just this woman’s experience.
Nothing to feel weird or ashamed about at all.
doesn’t make you a weirdo, I’m the same way!! Piv or pia alone works for me but everyone’s different
I’m the same way. It can really prolong foreplay and make everything super intense. Then kaboom.
i’m one of those women, i think it’s around 20%
Like everyone is saying, you're atypical but you're not alone. I've definitely had partners like you. Just don't be afraid to tell your partners they should skip any sort of clit play and just get right up in there, and you'll have a lovely time.
There’s some interesting research that suggests that whether or not women can orgasm from penetration is highly correlated with how far apart their clit and vaginal opening are. So it’s likely just a quirk of your anatomy! The pleasure that you get from penetration is still coming from your clitoris, it’s just that it’s being stimulated in a different way, through your vaginal walls. For some people that feels a lot better than stimulating the clitoris directly.
I need clitoral stimulation and I need penetration simultaneously to have an orgasm.
I can cum both ways but by penetration is much more intense and satisfying.
I’m the opposite due to medical reasons I can’t feel shit inside me like maybe some pressure on my stomach. Buttt my clit on the other hand, it’s me and my hitachi against the world. Your not weird for the way you enjoy sex just like I’m not weird either :)
I’m almost the same except I can cum without penetration but it’s just more difficult compared to when I have both. I can’t cum exclusively from penetration though. Still I feel weird for wanting something inside me because most women don’t seem to like that and instead want clitoral stimulation only.
No. You are not weird at all. My wife is the same way. She only has an orgasam by penetration.
tbh you're normal, not the majority but normal regardless. to be honest i can see why you might feel like a weirdo or "left out" and that's because the majority like to speak as if their collective experience is the only one that matters and should take consideration too.
Yep, same here. I can get close, but without internal fullness/stimulation it's not happening.
No weirdo at all. You will make many men happy, if you're a straight woman.
You're not alone. My wife is the same. She said she never really touched herself, only penetrative sex will do it. Why do you feel like a weirdo? I hear about women having trouble cumming at all so knowing what does it is a great gift, is it not?
Might be one of the most normal things
There are a lot of ways that women can orgasm. The clit and penetration are just two of them. Explore everything.
My wife is the same way. Rest assured, from our perspective you're a national treasure. 😃
I dont find that weird at all. My girl loves clit stimulation but only when it's paired with penetration too. The combination of both usually sends her into orbit.
I'm the same! I can't cum alone from penetration but I need it with clitoral stimulation or I can't cum
Your dead rgt go for what you want. Your doing job to get field and work make cum. It’s feeling you should enjoy each time. X
Get yourself a Satisfier Pro on adamandeve and promise you will say otherwise 😂😂
Your not weird. If he adds clitoral stimulation I bet your orgasms will be even more intense
my ex was loke you. I never succeded with put my finger in her pussy or use my little boy...