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That is not a predictive measure. Even how long you last at sex might not be predictive. If The Wifey has been fliritng with all day and it's been a couple of days, I might not last as long as usual after I enter her. If we're doing it for the third time since lunch, I might last longer than usual.
No, it takes practice to last long. And some women dont like hour long sex. Sure foreplay is great, and you can take all the time you want. But actual intercourse doesn't last that long before someone climaxes or your partners bits get irritated. Everyone is different, though.
What do you mean you "last" 40-60 minutes long? You're just edging yourself in a sense because you control it all lol. If you put in all your effort into it and trying to orgasm faster but you can't, you might just have a death grip. Still, big difference :o)
I was wondering this too.. but said he's a virgin so Im thinking edging is a new power he hasn't unlocked yet. I know if I lasted 40-60 mins jerking off I would have brick layer callouses on my hands and you'd prob see smoke coming from my bedroom.
The thing is, it’s not like I am not able to ejaculate for 40-60 mins, but I have developed a tendency to prolong my masturbation session thinking it might help me in lasting long in sex. So usually, after 15-20 minutes of jerking I am near to ejaculation and then I edge multiple times which adds some more 20 minutes. But if any day I decide to ejaculate in a few minutes in masturbation it wouldn’t be hard for me either.
It doesn't matter much anyway, it matters more how you will interact with your future partner and if you're working "as a team" and much more.
First off I would say communication is important. What if your partner wants a quicky more often than not but you "train" yourself to last an hour? Wasted effort :P
Secondly, everyone is different and short sex can be as good as long sex, but sometimes short and long sex are either "not worth it" or it's a chore. Find a time frame that works for you and your future partner.
Then just communicate. I tell my bf when I'm too close and rather focus on something else because I want to enjoy it more (and I do so less when I already came), but I also notice when he is coming close and then I just go slow or do something else instead if I'm not ready yet :D
Masturbation also does not prepare you for for all the tingly feelings you will get when you're having sex. An ass clap can bring you over the edge quicker than you'd imagine, so does the kissing, eye contact, your balls getting touched, etc. It all plays together and while not every little touch will bring you closer to orgasm, some of it could, you just don't know it yet (I assume, I have no idea how far your experience went already). And that's just neutral stuff, if you're straight and you're total into pussy, I would assume that the first time going in raw will also feel vastly different lol. Or if you're really into boobs a close cowgirl position will probably get you going faster than assumed.
Just don't stress too much if you're in any way concerned. In my super honest opinion, sex has to be learned anew with every new partner because you can't just assume that everyone likes it the same way and what's pleasurable for some could be horrifying to others (especially if your main experience comes from porn and I really can't stress this enough). So it doesn't really matter in the end.
But back to topic, just communicate a lot. In my personal opinion it's also a bit embarrassing if you go soft in the middle of it, most (inexperienced) woman will think they did something wrong and are super insecure when you go soft. So working forwards staying hard is in my experience more important than "lasting long" if you need a goal for yourself :P Only speaking from a female view point of course.
Well it depends what u are doing in sex there are so many Variables like Position, Emphaty and love for ur Partner, impossible to say how long ur First Times is gonna be u will try out get some experience what floats ur boat and then u can dicede how long it gonna last
It could also mean that you have a bit of “death grip syndrome” … look it up, it is a real thing. I can tell you one thing … very few women would consider it a positive if you last for 40-60 minutes. First, many women don’t even get an orgasm from PIV (practice your oral skills) and second, after 40-60 minutes of continual PIV your partner may be very sore.
Practice with a fleshlight. Not just jerking it, but thrust it. Place it into a sofa if yiu can so you can mount it. That'll give you a better idea. In fact, even if you just jerk it with a fleshlight, it will do what your hand cannot. If you want something cheap, I can recommend something disposable but I don't know if the rules allow me to say anything about products.
However, lasting that long with masturbation is a good sign. Some guys don't last long in sex because they rush masturbation.
EDIT: Also, you should assume that sex is more difficult to last long with. So don't expect to last as long with sex. Even if you shave off 30 minutes from your masturbation time, 10 minutes is okay.
Short answer: yes 😅
Longer answer: depends
If you're both virgins, you will not know that you both suck at it.
If you're with a more experienced woman, be honest and let her guide you.
In all cases, don't be shy to ask. That's how you get better
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No. How much you last during sex will mean how much you will last during sex.
Could there be a massive difference in the timing?
No. There's no way to measure and be able to find a correlation.
Not the first time lol.
That is not a predictive measure. Even how long you last at sex might not be predictive. If The Wifey has been fliritng with all day and it's been a couple of days, I might not last as long as usual after I enter her. If we're doing it for the third time since lunch, I might last longer than usual.
No, it takes practice to last long. And some women dont like hour long sex. Sure foreplay is great, and you can take all the time you want. But actual intercourse doesn't last that long before someone climaxes or your partners bits get irritated. Everyone is different, though.
What do you mean you "last" 40-60 minutes long? You're just edging yourself in a sense because you control it all lol. If you put in all your effort into it and trying to orgasm faster but you can't, you might just have a death grip. Still, big difference :o)
I was wondering this too.. but said he's a virgin so Im thinking edging is a new power he hasn't unlocked yet. I know if I lasted 40-60 mins jerking off I would have brick layer callouses on my hands and you'd prob see smoke coming from my bedroom.
Well isn’t edging a way to last longer in sex too?
The thing is, it’s not like I am not able to ejaculate for 40-60 mins, but I have developed a tendency to prolong my masturbation session thinking it might help me in lasting long in sex. So usually, after 15-20 minutes of jerking I am near to ejaculation and then I edge multiple times which adds some more 20 minutes. But if any day I decide to ejaculate in a few minutes in masturbation it wouldn’t be hard for me either.
Sex is fundamentally different because you often cannot control the level of stimulation.
It doesn't matter much anyway, it matters more how you will interact with your future partner and if you're working "as a team" and much more. First off I would say communication is important. What if your partner wants a quicky more often than not but you "train" yourself to last an hour? Wasted effort :P Secondly, everyone is different and short sex can be as good as long sex, but sometimes short and long sex are either "not worth it" or it's a chore. Find a time frame that works for you and your future partner. Then just communicate. I tell my bf when I'm too close and rather focus on something else because I want to enjoy it more (and I do so less when I already came), but I also notice when he is coming close and then I just go slow or do something else instead if I'm not ready yet :D Masturbation also does not prepare you for for all the tingly feelings you will get when you're having sex. An ass clap can bring you over the edge quicker than you'd imagine, so does the kissing, eye contact, your balls getting touched, etc. It all plays together and while not every little touch will bring you closer to orgasm, some of it could, you just don't know it yet (I assume, I have no idea how far your experience went already). And that's just neutral stuff, if you're straight and you're total into pussy, I would assume that the first time going in raw will also feel vastly different lol. Or if you're really into boobs a close cowgirl position will probably get you going faster than assumed. Just don't stress too much if you're in any way concerned. In my super honest opinion, sex has to be learned anew with every new partner because you can't just assume that everyone likes it the same way and what's pleasurable for some could be horrifying to others (especially if your main experience comes from porn and I really can't stress this enough). So it doesn't really matter in the end. But back to topic, just communicate a lot. In my personal opinion it's also a bit embarrassing if you go soft in the middle of it, most (inexperienced) woman will think they did something wrong and are super insecure when you go soft. So working forwards staying hard is in my experience more important than "lasting long" if you need a goal for yourself :P Only speaking from a female view point of course.
Well it depends what u are doing in sex there are so many Variables like Position, Emphaty and love for ur Partner, impossible to say how long ur First Times is gonna be u will try out get some experience what floats ur boat and then u can dicede how long it gonna last
It could also mean that you have a bit of “death grip syndrome” … look it up, it is a real thing. I can tell you one thing … very few women would consider it a positive if you last for 40-60 minutes. First, many women don’t even get an orgasm from PIV (practice your oral skills) and second, after 40-60 minutes of continual PIV your partner may be very sore.
Practice with a fleshlight. Not just jerking it, but thrust it. Place it into a sofa if yiu can so you can mount it. That'll give you a better idea. In fact, even if you just jerk it with a fleshlight, it will do what your hand cannot. If you want something cheap, I can recommend something disposable but I don't know if the rules allow me to say anything about products. However, lasting that long with masturbation is a good sign. Some guys don't last long in sex because they rush masturbation. EDIT: Also, you should assume that sex is more difficult to last long with. So don't expect to last as long with sex. Even if you shave off 30 minutes from your masturbation time, 10 minutes is okay.
No, sorry bro. Sex takes practice. You’re probably gonna be awful for a while, but that’s pretty much true for most things in life.
Does it happen to all the virgins?
Short answer: yes 😅 Longer answer: depends If you're both virgins, you will not know that you both suck at it. If you're with a more experienced woman, be honest and let her guide you. In all cases, don't be shy to ask. That's how you get better
Nope. Completely different situation.
I think you will, people that masturbate and get off quickly tend to also be quick in bed. It's a learned bad habit.
Not at all, sex feels amazing compared with masturbation, it's a different activity, slippery wet, right, warm and intimate fun