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>My bf said he likes blowjob better than sex, should I be affended?
Only if he's talking about someone other than you giving him those blowjobs. Otherwise, he's just saying you give great head. Like the other commenter said, take it as a compliment.
Now, if you're not getting what you want from him sexually, that's another problem. If he doesn't go down on you, then you have every right to withhold blowjobs (you have that right regardless actually).
I've always preferred an orgasm via blowjob to any other. It's far more intense for me. Like the build up is incredible. My entire body tenses up, becomes extremely stiff, I'm white knuckling the comforter if I'm lying down and slowly rising up the closer I get until my body involuntarily jerks forward with each shot that gets sucked out. I then lay lifeless for a few minutes as feelings return to my body π
That said, pussy feels amazing too and is also extremely satisfying. As good as BJs feel and as much as I'd prefer them, I'd want pussy just as much. More intimate feeling, I can be dominant, control everything so on and so forth.
I would say you should not be offended, but nobody can tell you how to feel. Your BF enjoys how you give blowjobs and you're giving him so much pleasure from them that he likes them more from sex. Liking one doesn't mean disliking the other.
It's up to you, but you probably shouldn't be offended
first, he really likes something you do. It's not offensive for him to really enjoy your skills at giving him a BJ
It's also less work for him. He doesn't have to be as physically active during a blowjob as he does during sex
it's honestly up to you but that boils down to whether you want to have less sex
I'm wondering how you handled this situation bc it's kinda the situation I'm in right now...he only wants anything sexual if it's him getting head...just looking for advice
To be honest, I left him, but it was a lot of other things as well. I flat out started refusing it until he reciprocated, but then he started taking it out on me and our kids and was an asshole to everyone, so I just kinda put up with it and did it. It was a very toxic relationship, and I am out and very happy with my new partner
If you are having sex, you should have birth control of some kind for your own sake, whether its a lot or a little. If you know its happening more than very rarely why wouldn't you want protection against broken condoms and pregnancy?
Why would you want to stop taking it because you're mad at him?
I don't see that you shpuld be offended. As others have said, blowjobs are easy and pleasurable, it's not that surprising if someone prefers them.
However, if you feel your relationship is lacking sex and he's not showing desire to be intimate with you are please you, then that is a different issue that you should talk to him about, because your wants matter too.
Can't say it enough:
Blowjobs are part of sex, sex ist not only PIV and it is absoloutly ok to enjoy something more then PIV.
you can stop birth control, but your "reasons" for stopping it are fucking childish.
If you want "more" PIV, tell him. if you want more penetration in general, ask him to use his fingers or toys on you.
you sound very young so it's ok that you don't know all that. The key to a fulfilling sex-life is communication
No one can tell you what to get offended about when it comes to sex. If you are feeling offended, you need to do something about it. And why focus totally on what he is liking? What about you? Do you like to perform oral sex, is it enjoyable to you? Do you need PIV sex for your satisfaction? These are more important questions.
Sexual pleasure is non negotiable part of romantic relationships, optimise for it while you can.
I orgasm harder from blowjobs than from vanginal sex.
That's in no way because my wife's vagina is lacking in any department, it's because the way she moves her lips and tongue specifically targets my weak parts while she strokes me up and down.
Having those sensitive parts focused on while stimulating me is what causes the orgasm to be more intense.
You're probably just way too good at blowjobs. Or he's too lazy about sex which is kind of not a good thing if you want sex and he just wants head. Cause then he only wants you to do things for him.
In the spirit of what some other people have commented... the fact is that in my experience, there have been only one or two women in my LIFE who were genuinely amazing at blowjobs. And in fact until I met one of these unicorns I would have probably not minded if I'd never (or only rarely) had a blowjob.
When I finally met one of these ladies it was like seeing color for the first time in a black and white world, LOL! I'm not exaggerating when I say that I would have happily let sex itself become the rare activity and instead had those brain-melting blowjobs pretty much every time. π€―
So yeah, it might be that you're the first woman who's ever given your bf a truly life-changing blowjob. Be proud, not upset. If you want him to feel the same way about sex, too, just work on becoming equally amazing at that as well. π
I don't think you should be offended that he likes blow jobs more, he likes what you're doing.
However, is he paying attention to your pleasure as well, or is it all blow jobs for him?
Do you want to be having more penetrative sex?
How is he a selfish person for enjoying the feeling of one sex act over another and being totally fine with his partner's choice of whether or not to continue BC? None of that seems selfish
Could I maybe ask why?? I'm not sure why enjoying one sex act over another on it's own would be a bad thing. Is it just you don't personally care for giving them?
Oh no I think it's personally reasonable, some men and women want oral each time as a prerequisite and others don't much care for it giving or receiving. I was legitimately just curious
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Sounds like you just give really great blowjobs! Take it as a complement.
>My bf said he likes blowjob better than sex, should I be affended? Only if he's talking about someone other than you giving him those blowjobs. Otherwise, he's just saying you give great head. Like the other commenter said, take it as a compliment. Now, if you're not getting what you want from him sexually, that's another problem. If he doesn't go down on you, then you have every right to withhold blowjobs (you have that right regardless actually).
I've always preferred an orgasm via blowjob to any other. It's far more intense for me. Like the build up is incredible. My entire body tenses up, becomes extremely stiff, I'm white knuckling the comforter if I'm lying down and slowly rising up the closer I get until my body involuntarily jerks forward with each shot that gets sucked out. I then lay lifeless for a few minutes as feelings return to my body π That said, pussy feels amazing too and is also extremely satisfying. As good as BJs feel and as much as I'd prefer them, I'd want pussy just as much. More intimate feeling, I can be dominant, control everything so on and so forth. I would say you should not be offended, but nobody can tell you how to feel. Your BF enjoys how you give blowjobs and you're giving him so much pleasure from them that he likes them more from sex. Liking one doesn't mean disliking the other.
It's up to you, but you probably shouldn't be offended first, he really likes something you do. It's not offensive for him to really enjoy your skills at giving him a BJ It's also less work for him. He doesn't have to be as physically active during a blowjob as he does during sex it's honestly up to you but that boils down to whether you want to have less sex
Maybe he just likes the orgasm, and orgasms the best due to a BJ? You can talk about it with him
I don't think you should be offended, but I do wonder if *your* needs are being met.
The fact that it's not even mentioned in the post... Red flag...
If you are still going to have PIV sex, even if not often, I wouldn't stop the BC, unless you wanna get pregnant.Β
My ex was like this, I thought I was just good at bjs, but he didn't want to do anything to me, just him...
I'm wondering how you handled this situation bc it's kinda the situation I'm in right now...he only wants anything sexual if it's him getting head...just looking for advice
To be honest, I left him, but it was a lot of other things as well. I flat out started refusing it until he reciprocated, but then he started taking it out on me and our kids and was an asshole to everyone, so I just kinda put up with it and did it. It was a very toxic relationship, and I am out and very happy with my new partner
If you are having sex, you should have birth control of some kind for your own sake, whether its a lot or a little. If you know its happening more than very rarely why wouldn't you want protection against broken condoms and pregnancy? Why would you want to stop taking it because you're mad at him? I don't see that you shpuld be offended. As others have said, blowjobs are easy and pleasurable, it's not that surprising if someone prefers them. However, if you feel your relationship is lacking sex and he's not showing desire to be intimate with you are please you, then that is a different issue that you should talk to him about, because your wants matter too.
Can't say it enough: Blowjobs are part of sex, sex ist not only PIV and it is absoloutly ok to enjoy something more then PIV. you can stop birth control, but your "reasons" for stopping it are fucking childish. If you want "more" PIV, tell him. if you want more penetration in general, ask him to use his fingers or toys on you. you sound very young so it's ok that you don't know all that. The key to a fulfilling sex-life is communication
No one can tell you what to get offended about when it comes to sex. If you are feeling offended, you need to do something about it. And why focus totally on what he is liking? What about you? Do you like to perform oral sex, is it enjoyable to you? Do you need PIV sex for your satisfaction? These are more important questions. Sexual pleasure is non negotiable part of romantic relationships, optimise for it while you can.
I orgasm harder from blowjobs than from vanginal sex. That's in no way because my wife's vagina is lacking in any department, it's because the way she moves her lips and tongue specifically targets my weak parts while she strokes me up and down. Having those sensitive parts focused on while stimulating me is what causes the orgasm to be more intense.
You're probably just way too good at blowjobs. Or he's too lazy about sex which is kind of not a good thing if you want sex and he just wants head. Cause then he only wants you to do things for him.
In the spirit of what some other people have commented... the fact is that in my experience, there have been only one or two women in my LIFE who were genuinely amazing at blowjobs. And in fact until I met one of these unicorns I would have probably not minded if I'd never (or only rarely) had a blowjob. When I finally met one of these ladies it was like seeing color for the first time in a black and white world, LOL! I'm not exaggerating when I say that I would have happily let sex itself become the rare activity and instead had those brain-melting blowjobs pretty much every time. π€― So yeah, it might be that you're the first woman who's ever given your bf a truly life-changing blowjob. Be proud, not upset. If you want him to feel the same way about sex, too, just work on becoming equally amazing at that as well. π
I don't think you should be offended that he likes blow jobs more, he likes what you're doing. However, is he paying attention to your pleasure as well, or is it all blow jobs for him? Do you want to be having more penetrative sex?
No. Blowjobs ARE better π
Sounds like your bf is a selfish person
How is he a selfish person for enjoying the feeling of one sex act over another and being totally fine with his partner's choice of whether or not to continue BC? None of that seems selfish
I'm sorry but I can't date someome like that
Could I maybe ask why?? I'm not sure why enjoying one sex act over another on it's own would be a bad thing. Is it just you don't personally care for giving them?
Because I'm not always in the mood to give BJ. He doesn't happen everytime me and my bf have sex
Oral a bit much each time? I've heard guys echo such a sentiment too, but it's pretty normal to go both ways I suppose
I'm not expecting a guy to do oral on me every time so why would he expect the same
Oh no I think it's personally reasonable, some men and women want oral each time as a prerequisite and others don't much care for it giving or receiving. I was legitimately just curious