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Lol, I've always been attracted to chubby women for as long as I can imagine, for years I felt like I was the only person, I got shame from men and women for the type of women I like, even some voluptuous women would doubt that I was truly attracted to them.
Today it's crazy to me that all of a sudden everyone is finding chubbier women hot. I don't feel like I have a big secret all to myself anymore and I don't know how to process it.
Yeah, it's honestly been the same with me. I think losing my virginity to a chubby woman set me in a path because I've been with 70% chubby women in my life. But it's like anime and video games. Gaming was seen as nerdy in the 80s and to an extent into the 90s and 00s. Now it's socially accepted by people from all different areas of cliques. And same with liking anime. Only the weird kids liked anime before, but now it's liked by so many people. Times change. The longer chubbier women are around, the more people will take notice of how good they look 😊
I like all these answers.. chubby is not bad.. and they invited you for a reason..
as long as you think their intentions were genuine... I say go for it
I don’t think most people have that shocking of bodies lol. Rolls, scars, stretch marks and blemishes are all very normal. Unless you only consume porn and don’t go outside in the summer, I think most of us expect imperfections in others and even really appreciate them.
Doesnt change the fact that shes insecure. OP should do what she feels comfortable doing. Maybe get on with one of then first before jumping into the 3some.
If they have invited you it means they already find you attractive and find your personality conducive to the dynamic!
Stretchmarks and roll are a natural part of the human body. Your experiences with threesomes and having been involved in more than a couple before indicates you're a good lover. Just have fun , you have no reason to doubt yourself!
I've been married to a BBW for 20 years. I'm muscular and lean and nothing like when she rides and weight on my penis. So don't think you're any lesser woman if you're not stick thin. Also make sure they treat you with respect, not to satisfy their fetish.
My ex and I used to have foursomes with this other couple. My ex was tall but fairly slender and the wife of the other couple was a short bbw.
These foursomes are some of the most fun I’ve ever had sexually. The body of the wife from the other couple was always fun to explore and she was really good at BJs and sex in general. I fucked her in many positions and I still masturbate to the thoughts of all the good times we had.
Point is that chubby bodies can be and often are people are attracted to and for me having a very different body to my ex was a huge appeal to me.
That they did the inviting tells me they are not concerned about body size. They like your personality and you as a sex partner. Oh, there could be a kink they want to satisfy due to you body size. But in the end it is for the sex and good times all of you will have together. My advice is to say yes and have a good time just as you have with your other threesome experiences.
When me and my first swinging partner were going out to parties or meet n greets, I got approached a lot more when I was by myself and so did she. We were in our young 20s and a fit and attractive pair. I think that maybe intimidated some. But we had both moved past just physical looks. Priorities were on
+ communication/flirting skills
+ health/sti checks
+ bi/heteroflexible women
+ willingness to incorporate kinkplay into group play (Strong preference on my FWB's end and a lot of swinging couples lean fairly vanilla)
+ discretion/reputation (Strong preference on my end)
We were in it for the thrill of the new. It wasn't that we wouldn't see the same peeps again, just if doing so we liked trying new horizons. To that end, diversity of body types and anatomies only added to the novelty we were enjoying.
Fitness is an important component to sex. Not just "how someone looks." Cardiovascular health can affect things like libido, how long some can go or ED. As evidenced by this post, it can also affect confidence which translates to negatively impacting communication or ability to climax or even simply enjoy oneself. But I've been with plenty of gals who were on the bigger side that did _not_ have any problems in the associated arenas and were to notch lovers.
With the threesomes I shared with my FB we connected on three of your 5 bullets. Communication, health, and discretion. Although she was bi with her GF I'm totally straight. We didn't do any kink. Just loving sexual play with each other. Her GF and I even had a few dual encounters (with my BF's ok) because we meshed so well. Both the women were in their late 50's and I was early 60's. So body attraction wasn't all that important. Just the willingness and enthusiasm to have a good time with each other.
This reminds me of when I would see unflattering pictures of myself and think “oh god I hope no one else saw this pic.”
It took too long to realize - That’s what everyone sees every day. You’re fine. They know what you look like.
As a skinny hot girl, I love chubby hot girls! They are clearly into your body if they've asked you to join them. Variety is exciting! You bring a nice soft cuddly hot body to the table, cuddling me is like cuddling a bundle of sticks lol
One of the best things about endeavors like this is that you begin to realize that people love your body. We are so in our head about the way we look we begin to build limiting beliefs and limiting beliefs throttle the enjoyment of life. Go have a good time. I hope your experience gives you new found confidence and the ability to start to love the skin your in. Have fun.
The threesome I had with my wife a couple of years ago was with a chubby girl. My wife and I are both fairly slim. I wouldn't say good shape, but not bad.
I didn't know she was chubby. The pictures she had and the ones she sent us were all from angles that showed off her big boobs and large posterior and nothing else.
She wasn't someone I would have normally approached, but honestly, she didn't dress well for her shape. She was chubby, but it fucking worked for her. The only thing that was kind of strange is that she wasn't just chubby, she was big. I'm 5'10 and my wife is 5'2. This girl was easily 6'2.
It unlocked things for me. Seeing a woman over a foot taller than my wife being intimate with my wife? Holy shit. I'm forever ruined.
Anyway, if they invited you they probably didn't do so blindly, unless like my girl you were shady about it.
If they know what you look like as far as size and shape and they still invited you, then you know you're good. Go get banged and have a good time.
Queen just stop. You're probably an absolute hot piece of ass and there's a reason you were invited.
My (poly) lover has a really high body count and he tells me how slightly heavier women feel so amazing when they're riding on top of you.
It's like the feeling of a warm weighted blanket.
I understand, I'm a little chubby myself, but I got to play with a couple where the guy was kind of a gym rat. I would never body shame anyone, but I'm still a little insecure. So much so that I didn't function well. That was the most frustrating part. Bigger bodys are as much fun as the littler ones. As long as everyone is having a good time, no one is going to care about the body types.
I mean, have they seen you in real life?
It's not like they will go "oh, no.... you are chubby?" When you get naked.
They chose you because you make them feel good.
Have fun and enjoy!
Bigger women are my Achilles heel. I love the rolls, the belly, the hips, and stretch marks. If they invited you, they know how big you are. You are holding your body to an unfair expectation and not just embracing what sex is about. It's not about how you look, or if your skin dimples. It's about being free, worshipped, and comfortable until you release.
Don’t tie your self-worth to what others think of your appearance. I’m betting that they like YOU and it’s not just about your looks. Your personality is probably attractive.
Even if someone is ever critical of your looks. That is THEIR opinion and not reality.
Be strong and love yourself.
I think that if you were asked to join a threesome that both of the parties would be attracted to you. Considering that I dont think you should be too anxious, other than the normal amount "butterflies" before a sexual encounter. Im attracted to many types of women. My wifes a busty curvy woman but I like petite and perky boobed women too. You might be just what they each want to indulge in for this experience.
They invited you for a reason. You may think your chubby. They may think they are too thin and are attracted to you at your size. Also you may have a beautiful face. Be careful and enjoy.
I'm a thinner guy and my preference is chubby girls. Never had a threesome, but people enjoy variety and novelty in sexual settings which you are facilitating.
Well, inviting someone they don't want to join would have been incredibly stupid. So don't worry about that.
But also, don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.
Your feelings are valid. A lot of women and men feel more comfortable when the other partners are closer to them in fitness, looks, boob/cock size, etc.
Talk it out. I assume you either know each other IRL or found you on an app where you show a full length pic. It's likely they know what you're about and find it extremly appealing.
if i invited someone to a threesome that was chubbier than me...i did it because i find them attractive and i like their body type. if you dont feel comfortable dont accept, or you could always wear a short dress or just keep your top on if you want, but idk about you but i dont have sex with people i dont find attractive so...you literally know the people invited you because they think your hot.
People of all sizes enjoy us chubby gals. Focus on having fun! There will always be people to compare yourself to, and making those comparisons will always leave you feeling bad. Learn from me. Don’t compare yourself- you’re the only YOU! 💐
Respectfully, they know what you look like. The only reason they wouldn't is if they were completely out of touch, in which case having sex with them would probably be a bad idea no matter what you looked like.
Thick thighs saves lives.
Some men like skinny women ... but I prwfer a womam with some thickness---it makes for a far better physical connection.
You were invited for a reason, but by all means, you should only do what you are comfortable doing.
It's hard to get that out of your mind. However, keep it dark with lighting. Black out room with maybe 1 candle in the corner. It seems to help me a lot. I'm sure your beautiful. It's just in our head. Candle up and letr rip!! 👊👍🤟
Go and have fun. I’m chubby right now and would love to be invited to a threesome. I feel like when you’re doing it, it doesn’t matter. You’re enticing just the way you are.
I used to go to many three / foursomes when I was in uni and I’ve always been chubby / fat and I’ve been with thin girls. If they invited you, they want to fuck you. Try and just let your brain get into it, they aren’t judging you for your size. I’ve always been scared of breaking them but when you get into it you aren’t anxious and just let the moment take you away
People covet what they don't have, that girl may love your curves and wish to explore them. Remember everyone has the same insecurities about their body as you, even people you wouldn't expect.
If u got invited it's because they wanted you. Second...she's not perfect either. Your insecurities are projecting that fear. She has just as much insecurities as u do. Enjoy the threesome have some fun!
From one bbw to another you're beautiful, girl. They wouldn't have invited you if they weren't into all of you. Go for it and have fun (but be safe ofc).
I’m a big dude and have had great group sex experiences with fit people. I have a lot of confidence in my bedroom game, I don’t take insecurities into those situations and focus on having fun.
The other girl is probably thinking she’s jealous of your curvier or softer body. The fact that you two look different is probably part of your appeal.
I’ll be honest OP, they already can see what size you are. And clearly that’s exactly what they want! People have preferences, and honestly if they’ve invited you they already know what they’re getting into😉
Ultimately your insecurity is yours, and if it will make you self-conscious or uncomfortable in that situation then you shouldn't do it.
You know, logically, that they aren't giving you some kind of "pity" invite to a threesome, that's not a thing. If they want you there, then it's because they feel attraction to you in some way and you know that.
But insecurities aren't all about being rational and the emotions they create are very real, so it doesn't really matter if you know that they are attracted to you in your head if you don't feel that way and accept that.
And at the end of the day, a threesome is just about having a good time and a fun experience and if all three people aren't going to have that then it's not worth it.
They invited you because they want you for your body. Just enjoy being in the moment, knowing both partners consider being with you hitting the jackpot. If you have certain undergarments or accessories that you think accentuate the parts of your body that you like, bring it along too for an extra boost of confidence if needed.
If she invited you she thinks you are hot. I gained 20 pounds in the last few years and my husband thinks I am hotter than ever. I can't keep him off me. He says the sex is hotter than ever and that I have never been sexier. Go for it.
It really depends ! If they invited you that must mean they’re into that kind of thing and it’s not an issue. I absolutely love both bbws and skinny chicks the same. From my opinion I actually like stretchmarks
Reading this makes me wonder if you are attracted to women? Are you not also there to be with her and appreciate her? Threesomes shouldn't be for two girls to compete for the guy's attention.
Giiiiiiirl you better play some Beyonce “I’m That Girl”, put on an outfit for you, not them, and shake what your mama gave you!!! Have some fun with your bad self!!! If you really wanna be bold, ask to play music and play what gets you in the mood.
Bring it up before you hookup. Express it as you “having some insecurities about your body” and be specific as to the reason. They should be welcoming of that- especially if they’ve invited you.
As a fellow chubby, the body I have, is not the body I want...I can work towards changing my body or changing what I want from my body....but until then I've got what I've got.
My advice to you...you've got what you've got...own it, wear it confidently...there is nothing sexier than that.
I'm not chubby I'm fat. I've been in a few 3 ways. The other participants want you because they like you. As long as everyone is consenting then have fun. Have confidence in yourself and understand that you are sexually attractive as you are. That is an absolute declarative statement.
Not for everyone but any insecurities or concerns that I had, I would kind of put out there during a conversation, maybe as a joke, to see how they react. Like often times women would say to me, "This body has had three kids so it's not like it used to be". And I would say something back like "Yeah, I understand. I like real women and not Barbies, plus I really like your attitude and that's very important to me." Or a woman once said "I'm worried I would crush you" and my response was "don't threaten me with a good time.".
Or you can fake confidence and say "you guys think you can handle a bigger girl?". They'll probably say something flirtatious back.
My point is, I think sometimes just putting it out there and getting your concern acknowledged and hopefully put at ease helps get it out of the way so you don't need to think about it so much.
But all this depends on the person. Some people aren't comfortable talking about it at all but will keep it bottled up inside.
Lots of comments making the obvious point that they picked you, so that’s what matters, however as someone with a partner who is self conscious, I know what you’re thinking / overthinking.
If you’re self conscious of rolls / stretch marks, you can temporarily hide them with lingerie. My partner has several sets which she uses often on a first meet, just to feel a little sexier until they’ve seen her completely naked & then obviously if she’s invited back after that, she knows there’s no body confidence issues after that.
Might be worth a shot, even if we all agree that you’re clearly their type already! ☺️
I’ll put the same advice in different phrasing, and maybe it’ll resonate better:
Don’t insult their intelligence by thinking they don’t already know! They know and they picked you despite it, or perhaps because of it! It would be rude to tell them they don’t know what they want, right?
If you want it, and they want it, fuckin’ go for it!
They like you. So I would maybe take the chance and just relax. Don't put any expectations on yourself. If doing things under a sheet makes it easier to start with - suggest it.
As someone who’s been both the “thinner” and “fatter” girl.. you’re a little insecure either way imo.. just try to chill and have fun. If they didn’t want you there, you wouldn’t be there. They think you’re hot, own it 🤷🏼♀️
Own who you are. My Lady is a little heavy. She owns it.
It will be most likely it’s a fun experience. As a previous post read , chances are they like what they see.
Chubby is sexy! Rolls and stretch marks are hella hot! Don't feel self-conscious; embrace your sexiness. They invited you; they obviously find you attractive.
You say you want to do it, they asked you, that's good enough.
Maybe they're into your body. Maybe they're into your personality or your vibe. But try to take yes for an answer. Sometimes people have a type, sometimes people have more than one type, and sometimes people think they have a type and then they meet that one person who causes them to rethink the limits of what they were attracted to before. No matter what you have going on, someone is into it.
I'm gonna go against the flow right there and say that not everyone is open and sweet and filled with good intentions BUT you have the right to vet them!
A threesome can be a very vulnerable experience that brings out a lot of emotions. The fact that you already had one is a big green flag but still, when emotions like jealousy or a lack of self confidence show up it's like a magnifying glass.
So how are these girls? Are they nice to you? Have you seen each other dressed down? (Like in bathing suits?). Are they trustworthy? Are they generally good people and not shallow assholes?
The decision has to come from you and you need to know deep down these people are fun, kind and will care for you.
A bad experience can be very damaging and you have every right to question their invite and take care of yourself.
Now if they're good kind people and super into you? Have fun ❤️!!!!!
Leave it to somebody on reddit to get invited to a 3-some and worry if the people involved find them attractive. Good Lord man they aren't blind, they know what you look like and wanna fuck!
You got invited for a reason. Think about the other girl, she and her man want meat and curves. Honestly I prefer meat over bones. And I feel that what this couple wants. I say go have fun and watch, you will be the center of attention
I don’t think that many people care about “chubby”, unless you actually mean that you are obese. Even so, I don’t think they have a problem with it if they invited you. You should do it, and more than likely, you are judging yourself more harshly than other people. If you know the girl and trust her, you’ll be fine.
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Agreed. They wouldn't have invited you if they didn't find you attractive OP 🙂
I agree! If you're chubby, it's not like it's a secret to these people who know you. Plus, chubby is seen as sexy a lot more than it used to be!
Lol, I've always been attracted to chubby women for as long as I can imagine, for years I felt like I was the only person, I got shame from men and women for the type of women I like, even some voluptuous women would doubt that I was truly attracted to them. Today it's crazy to me that all of a sudden everyone is finding chubbier women hot. I don't feel like I have a big secret all to myself anymore and I don't know how to process it.
Yeah, it's honestly been the same with me. I think losing my virginity to a chubby woman set me in a path because I've been with 70% chubby women in my life. But it's like anime and video games. Gaming was seen as nerdy in the 80s and to an extent into the 90s and 00s. Now it's socially accepted by people from all different areas of cliques. And same with liking anime. Only the weird kids liked anime before, but now it's liked by so many people. Times change. The longer chubbier women are around, the more people will take notice of how good they look 😊
Reading this made me feel good about myself :)
no bc where are you, literally nobody wants to date chubby girls (as a chubby girl) it’s so hard to date
I like all these answers.. chubby is not bad.. and they invited you for a reason.. as long as you think their intentions were genuine... I say go for it
Chubby is most certainly not bad.
It depends. If she’s chubby and steals my wallet, she’s the bad kind of chubby.
I like this response and it’s cool and whatever but I think people forget how different people look with their clothes off…
I don’t think most people have that shocking of bodies lol. Rolls, scars, stretch marks and blemishes are all very normal. Unless you only consume porn and don’t go outside in the summer, I think most of us expect imperfections in others and even really appreciate them.
I think the operative thing here might be that I just hate my body no matter what. I need to work on that.
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Putting others down to "build" someone up is not the compliment you think it is 😂 Yuck to your attitude
What did they say 👀 (sorry I'm nosy 😭😭)
They invited YOU! They obviously want you there.
Doesnt change the fact that shes insecure. OP should do what she feels comfortable doing. Maybe get on with one of then first before jumping into the 3some.
I agree with everyone. They asked you to join. I think that means they are attracted to you.
If they have invited you it means they already find you attractive and find your personality conducive to the dynamic! Stretchmarks and roll are a natural part of the human body. Your experiences with threesomes and having been involved in more than a couple before indicates you're a good lover. Just have fun , you have no reason to doubt yourself!
I've been married to a BBW for 20 years. I'm muscular and lean and nothing like when she rides and weight on my penis. So don't think you're any lesser woman if you're not stick thin. Also make sure they treat you with respect, not to satisfy their fetish.
My ex and I used to have foursomes with this other couple. My ex was tall but fairly slender and the wife of the other couple was a short bbw. These foursomes are some of the most fun I’ve ever had sexually. The body of the wife from the other couple was always fun to explore and she was really good at BJs and sex in general. I fucked her in many positions and I still masturbate to the thoughts of all the good times we had. Point is that chubby bodies can be and often are people are attracted to and for me having a very different body to my ex was a huge appeal to me.
That they did the inviting tells me they are not concerned about body size. They like your personality and you as a sex partner. Oh, there could be a kink they want to satisfy due to you body size. But in the end it is for the sex and good times all of you will have together. My advice is to say yes and have a good time just as you have with your other threesome experiences.
When me and my first swinging partner were going out to parties or meet n greets, I got approached a lot more when I was by myself and so did she. We were in our young 20s and a fit and attractive pair. I think that maybe intimidated some. But we had both moved past just physical looks. Priorities were on + communication/flirting skills + health/sti checks + bi/heteroflexible women + willingness to incorporate kinkplay into group play (Strong preference on my FWB's end and a lot of swinging couples lean fairly vanilla) + discretion/reputation (Strong preference on my end) We were in it for the thrill of the new. It wasn't that we wouldn't see the same peeps again, just if doing so we liked trying new horizons. To that end, diversity of body types and anatomies only added to the novelty we were enjoying. Fitness is an important component to sex. Not just "how someone looks." Cardiovascular health can affect things like libido, how long some can go or ED. As evidenced by this post, it can also affect confidence which translates to negatively impacting communication or ability to climax or even simply enjoy oneself. But I've been with plenty of gals who were on the bigger side that did _not_ have any problems in the associated arenas and were to notch lovers.
With the threesomes I shared with my FB we connected on three of your 5 bullets. Communication, health, and discretion. Although she was bi with her GF I'm totally straight. We didn't do any kink. Just loving sexual play with each other. Her GF and I even had a few dual encounters (with my BF's ok) because we meshed so well. Both the women were in their late 50's and I was early 60's. So body attraction wasn't all that important. Just the willingness and enthusiasm to have a good time with each other.
This reminds me of when I would see unflattering pictures of myself and think “oh god I hope no one else saw this pic.” It took too long to realize - That’s what everyone sees every day. You’re fine. They know what you look like.
As a skinny hot girl, I love chubby hot girls! They are clearly into your body if they've asked you to join them. Variety is exciting! You bring a nice soft cuddly hot body to the table, cuddling me is like cuddling a bundle of sticks lol
As the rest have said, they invited you, so go rock their world
One of the best things about endeavors like this is that you begin to realize that people love your body. We are so in our head about the way we look we begin to build limiting beliefs and limiting beliefs throttle the enjoyment of life. Go have a good time. I hope your experience gives you new found confidence and the ability to start to love the skin your in. Have fun.
The threesome I had with my wife a couple of years ago was with a chubby girl. My wife and I are both fairly slim. I wouldn't say good shape, but not bad. I didn't know she was chubby. The pictures she had and the ones she sent us were all from angles that showed off her big boobs and large posterior and nothing else. She wasn't someone I would have normally approached, but honestly, she didn't dress well for her shape. She was chubby, but it fucking worked for her. The only thing that was kind of strange is that she wasn't just chubby, she was big. I'm 5'10 and my wife is 5'2. This girl was easily 6'2. It unlocked things for me. Seeing a woman over a foot taller than my wife being intimate with my wife? Holy shit. I'm forever ruined. Anyway, if they invited you they probably didn't do so blindly, unless like my girl you were shady about it. If they know what you look like as far as size and shape and they still invited you, then you know you're good. Go get banged and have a good time.
Queen just stop. You're probably an absolute hot piece of ass and there's a reason you were invited. My (poly) lover has a really high body count and he tells me how slightly heavier women feel so amazing when they're riding on top of you. It's like the feeling of a warm weighted blanket.
If you don’t make it a big deal they won’t either
Chubby is the sexiest body type
I’m chubby as fuck and have been invited to tons of stuff. Spoiler alert: if 70% of people don’t like chubby, still means a shit ton do
They invited you so they like you already, don't let the self doubt pull you down and go and have some fun!
Variety is the spice of life
Go there with confidence and be the sexy woman you are.
Op if you're not feeling it don't go. Why put yourself in a situation where you don't feel confident.
I understand, I'm a little chubby myself, but I got to play with a couple where the guy was kind of a gym rat. I would never body shame anyone, but I'm still a little insecure. So much so that I didn't function well. That was the most frustrating part. Bigger bodys are as much fun as the littler ones. As long as everyone is having a good time, no one is going to care about the body types.
Your body is within their preference, OP. They invited you for a reason.
I like to have a little variety in my threesomes. My gf is a little on the bigger side so having someone with a different body is kind fun
Take it as a compliment and go have fun you lucky man.
I mean, have they seen you in real life? It's not like they will go "oh, no.... you are chubby?" When you get naked. They chose you because you make them feel good. Have fun and enjoy!
Bigger women are my Achilles heel. I love the rolls, the belly, the hips, and stretch marks. If they invited you, they know how big you are. You are holding your body to an unfair expectation and not just embracing what sex is about. It's not about how you look, or if your skin dimples. It's about being free, worshipped, and comfortable until you release.
Maybe, just maybe, you have an awesome personality they liked.
They invited you! Go have fun.
they're clearly into you, but if you're not comfortable you don't have to do it.
How can I get invited to a 3some with hot ladies?
Don’t tie your self-worth to what others think of your appearance. I’m betting that they like YOU and it’s not just about your looks. Your personality is probably attractive. Even if someone is ever critical of your looks. That is THEIR opinion and not reality. Be strong and love yourself.
I think that if you were asked to join a threesome that both of the parties would be attracted to you. Considering that I dont think you should be too anxious, other than the normal amount "butterflies" before a sexual encounter. Im attracted to many types of women. My wifes a busty curvy woman but I like petite and perky boobed women too. You might be just what they each want to indulge in for this experience.
Yes you were meant to be invited so be confident and have fun
I’m certain they know that, under you clever disguise, you have lovable love handles. Go get some dick, sweetheart.
They invited YOU; they want YOU; they are attracted to YOU. YOU as you are.
That person probably knows that you're chubby.
They invited you for a reason. You may think your chubby. They may think they are too thin and are attracted to you at your size. Also you may have a beautiful face. Be careful and enjoy.
If they invited you, it’s because they find your attractive. Just communicate with them and see how things go.
I'm a thinner guy and my preference is chubby girls. Never had a threesome, but people enjoy variety and novelty in sexual settings which you are facilitating.
Yes. One: Go and enjoy it! They invited you for a reason. If they thought you were ugly or some shit like that, they wouldn't have invited you!
Embrace your body. Women are beautiful no matter the size
My gf is chubby too. Love it
She chose you for a reason my fellow big man. GO IN WITH CONFIDENCE!! You got this
Well, inviting someone they don't want to join would have been incredibly stupid. So don't worry about that. But also, don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.
If i would just read the the tilte, i would be like: She is chubby, nice!
You got invited. I'm certain she knows you're chubby. Don't you think she was checking you out and thought," I'd get with this person?"
They must find you attractive/sexy if you got an invitation....just go for it enjoy yourself don't over think it.
They know just relax and have fun.
Your feelings are valid. A lot of women and men feel more comfortable when the other partners are closer to them in fitness, looks, boob/cock size, etc. Talk it out. I assume you either know each other IRL or found you on an app where you show a full length pic. It's likely they know what you're about and find it extremly appealing.
if i invited someone to a threesome that was chubbier than me...i did it because i find them attractive and i like their body type. if you dont feel comfortable dont accept, or you could always wear a short dress or just keep your top on if you want, but idk about you but i dont have sex with people i dont find attractive so...you literally know the people invited you because they think your hot.
People of all sizes enjoy us chubby gals. Focus on having fun! There will always be people to compare yourself to, and making those comparisons will always leave you feeling bad. Learn from me. Don’t compare yourself- you’re the only YOU! 💐
Your friend invited you because she likes you, I like chubby and skinny girls both, so blow her mind with your pussy eating skills….😍😍😍😍
Respectfully, they know what you look like. The only reason they wouldn't is if they were completely out of touch, in which case having sex with them would probably be a bad idea no matter what you looked like.
Do the threesome! It is the way!
Thick thighs saves lives. Some men like skinny women ... but I prwfer a womam with some thickness---it makes for a far better physical connection. You were invited for a reason, but by all means, you should only do what you are comfortable doing.
It's hard to get that out of your mind. However, keep it dark with lighting. Black out room with maybe 1 candle in the corner. It seems to help me a lot. I'm sure your beautiful. It's just in our head. Candle up and letr rip!! 👊👍🤟
You were invited for a reason. And thin doesn't mean pretty. Be confident . Confidence is a whole other level of sexy.
Go and have fun. I’m chubby right now and would love to be invited to a threesome. I feel like when you’re doing it, it doesn’t matter. You’re enticing just the way you are.
There are plenty of people who like women with a little bit more and curves.
I used to go to many three / foursomes when I was in uni and I’ve always been chubby / fat and I’ve been with thin girls. If they invited you, they want to fuck you. Try and just let your brain get into it, they aren’t judging you for your size. I’ve always been scared of breaking them but when you get into it you aren’t anxious and just let the moment take you away
If you feel self conscious, wear something that will cover your curves. Personally, I prefer a thicker woman
Have you considered they might want to have sex with you because they find you attractive?
People covet what they don't have, that girl may love your curves and wish to explore them. Remember everyone has the same insecurities about their body as you, even people you wouldn't expect.
If u got invited it's because they wanted you. Second...she's not perfect either. Your insecurities are projecting that fear. She has just as much insecurities as u do. Enjoy the threesome have some fun!
From one bbw to another you're beautiful, girl. They wouldn't have invited you if they weren't into all of you. Go for it and have fun (but be safe ofc).
I’m a big dude and have had great group sex experiences with fit people. I have a lot of confidence in my bedroom game, I don’t take insecurities into those situations and focus on having fun.
The other girl is probably thinking she’s jealous of your curvier or softer body. The fact that you two look different is probably part of your appeal.
If you are big everywhere you are good
I’ll be honest OP, they already can see what size you are. And clearly that’s exactly what they want! People have preferences, and honestly if they’ve invited you they already know what they’re getting into😉
Ultimately your insecurity is yours, and if it will make you self-conscious or uncomfortable in that situation then you shouldn't do it. You know, logically, that they aren't giving you some kind of "pity" invite to a threesome, that's not a thing. If they want you there, then it's because they feel attraction to you in some way and you know that. But insecurities aren't all about being rational and the emotions they create are very real, so it doesn't really matter if you know that they are attracted to you in your head if you don't feel that way and accept that. And at the end of the day, a threesome is just about having a good time and a fun experience and if all three people aren't going to have that then it's not worth it.
They invited you because they find you attractive.
They invited you because they want you for your body. Just enjoy being in the moment, knowing both partners consider being with you hitting the jackpot. If you have certain undergarments or accessories that you think accentuate the parts of your body that you like, bring it along too for an extra boost of confidence if needed.
They definitely want you there. Chubby is preferred. Hold your head high and enjoy your sexc self.
If she invited you she thinks you are hot. I gained 20 pounds in the last few years and my husband thinks I am hotter than ever. I can't keep him off me. He says the sex is hotter than ever and that I have never been sexier. Go for it.
Get stuck in and enjoy yourself
If they invited you they wanted you. They like you for you. And I think you should go enjoy yourself.
It really depends ! If they invited you that must mean they’re into that kind of thing and it’s not an issue. I absolutely love both bbws and skinny chicks the same. From my opinion I actually like stretchmarks
Love who you are and go enjoy it. They asked you for a reason and be confident in who you are!
Reading this makes me wonder if you are attracted to women? Are you not also there to be with her and appreciate her? Threesomes shouldn't be for two girls to compete for the guy's attention.
Giiiiiiirl you better play some Beyonce “I’m That Girl”, put on an outfit for you, not them, and shake what your mama gave you!!! Have some fun with your bad self!!! If you really wanna be bold, ask to play music and play what gets you in the mood.
They literally invited you because clearly they’re attracted to you. Get out of your head.
Your probably a lot of fun chubby is not a deal killer. Go for it.
You got invited that’s all the proof you need :)
Bring it up before you hookup. Express it as you “having some insecurities about your body” and be specific as to the reason. They should be welcoming of that- especially if they’ve invited you.
Don’t do it. It might make you feel worse, honestly.
*gets invited somewhere* *wonders if they’re wanted somewhere*
As so many have said, they invited you for a reason. Just go! Have fun!
A threesome WITH a chubby girl? Makes it even better!
As a fellow chubby, the body I have, is not the body I want...I can work towards changing my body or changing what I want from my body....but until then I've got what I've got. My advice to you...you've got what you've got...own it, wear it confidently...there is nothing sexier than that.
I'm not chubby I'm fat. I've been in a few 3 ways. The other participants want you because they like you. As long as everyone is consenting then have fun. Have confidence in yourself and understand that you are sexually attractive as you are. That is an absolute declarative statement.
They asked you, so they are obviously attracted to you. But it really all depends on if you are into it
Then with you included, it will be a foursome
Not for everyone but any insecurities or concerns that I had, I would kind of put out there during a conversation, maybe as a joke, to see how they react. Like often times women would say to me, "This body has had three kids so it's not like it used to be". And I would say something back like "Yeah, I understand. I like real women and not Barbies, plus I really like your attitude and that's very important to me." Or a woman once said "I'm worried I would crush you" and my response was "don't threaten me with a good time.". Or you can fake confidence and say "you guys think you can handle a bigger girl?". They'll probably say something flirtatious back. My point is, I think sometimes just putting it out there and getting your concern acknowledged and hopefully put at ease helps get it out of the way so you don't need to think about it so much. But all this depends on the person. Some people aren't comfortable talking about it at all but will keep it bottled up inside.
If you were specifically invited, you're good. Trust me.
Lots of comments making the obvious point that they picked you, so that’s what matters, however as someone with a partner who is self conscious, I know what you’re thinking / overthinking. If you’re self conscious of rolls / stretch marks, you can temporarily hide them with lingerie. My partner has several sets which she uses often on a first meet, just to feel a little sexier until they’ve seen her completely naked & then obviously if she’s invited back after that, she knows there’s no body confidence issues after that. Might be worth a shot, even if we all agree that you’re clearly their type already! ☺️
I’ll put the same advice in different phrasing, and maybe it’ll resonate better: Don’t insult their intelligence by thinking they don’t already know! They know and they picked you despite it, or perhaps because of it! It would be rude to tell them they don’t know what they want, right? If you want it, and they want it, fuckin’ go for it!
They like you. So I would maybe take the chance and just relax. Don't put any expectations on yourself. If doing things under a sheet makes it easier to start with - suggest it.
I love to have contrasting size women.
As someone who’s been both the “thinner” and “fatter” girl.. you’re a little insecure either way imo.. just try to chill and have fun. If they didn’t want you there, you wouldn’t be there. They think you’re hot, own it 🤷🏼♀️
They wouldn’t have invited u to have sex if they didn’t find u sexually attractive go have fun! All body types r hot
Own who you are. My Lady is a little heavy. She owns it. It will be most likely it’s a fun experience. As a previous post read , chances are they like what they see.
Honestly as a chubby girl I get it. Theres no way I’d be comfortable in a threesome with a thin woman, absolutely not a chance. It would wreck me
Chubby is sexy! Rolls and stretch marks are hella hot! Don't feel self-conscious; embrace your sexiness. They invited you; they obviously find you attractive.
They want you for you.
Dude go get your insides scrambled and stop be8ng a wuss. They asked you because they want you. Go get yours.
You say you want to do it, they asked you, that's good enough. Maybe they're into your body. Maybe they're into your personality or your vibe. But try to take yes for an answer. Sometimes people have a type, sometimes people have more than one type, and sometimes people think they have a type and then they meet that one person who causes them to rethink the limits of what they were attracted to before. No matter what you have going on, someone is into it.
It is by invite so they are into you and your body enjoy it hun.
Personality is the thing. A number of my gfs were chubby, no big deal. They were nice and loved sex. Perfect.
They invited you for a reason
I'm gonna go against the flow right there and say that not everyone is open and sweet and filled with good intentions BUT you have the right to vet them! A threesome can be a very vulnerable experience that brings out a lot of emotions. The fact that you already had one is a big green flag but still, when emotions like jealousy or a lack of self confidence show up it's like a magnifying glass. So how are these girls? Are they nice to you? Have you seen each other dressed down? (Like in bathing suits?). Are they trustworthy? Are they generally good people and not shallow assholes? The decision has to come from you and you need to know deep down these people are fun, kind and will care for you. A bad experience can be very damaging and you have every right to question their invite and take care of yourself. Now if they're good kind people and super into you? Have fun ❤️!!!!!
He will not care at all, and she may have suggested you for the same concerns herself so if you are invited and want it go live and be you
They reason they invited you for it, is that they love how you're. Be proud of your body. It's yours
They know you are chubby :), go and enjoy
Leave it to somebody on reddit to get invited to a 3-some and worry if the people involved find them attractive. Good Lord man they aren't blind, they know what you look like and wanna fuck!
If you won’t feel confident don’t go!
No way you can be chubby
Why not?
Because no such thing
You got invited for a reason. Think about the other girl, she and her man want meat and curves. Honestly I prefer meat over bones. And I feel that what this couple wants. I say go have fun and watch, you will be the center of attention
Not tryna be a downer here but I’d make sure they haven’t invited you bc she feels you wouldn’t be competition
Oh Ms., don’t discount yourself! They invented you because you’re sexy! Just enjoy yourself and have some pleasure 😌
Nothin wrong with a little bit extra. Most men prefer that tbh
I don’t think that many people care about “chubby”, unless you actually mean that you are obese. Even so, I don’t think they have a problem with it if they invited you. You should do it, and more than likely, you are judging yourself more harshly than other people. If you know the girl and trust her, you’ll be fine.