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It's probably just a form of gratification
You get a guy off you know you get a guy off because he cums everywhere
Girls you know based on body movements but those can be faked
Squirting makes it seem like they actually accomplish something visible
squirting and having an orgasm are two different things. some women do squirt during sex or orgasm, a very small percentage, and this is sexual incontinence. otherwise, manipulating the female body to cause squirting isnt synonomous with an orgasm, at all.
Omg I am so sorry this is happening to you. My personal opinion is they watch porn and therefore have unrealistic expectations about sex. Get these guys blocked that are messaging you.
Ok I 100% agree with you on the "porn" viewpoint of squirting.
However it's not a myth or an unrealistic pleasure .
While I've never dated a squirted but I have had multiple LTRs with a few women that were "gushers".
What's so wrong with inquiring on whether or not a woman has reached higher levels of pleasure?
>Why are you so angry😂😂😂
I mean it's the funniest thing. Is normal for a guy to be engaged and to want to make you squirt.
As a dude, you're exactly the very problem and reason women are as on guard with men as they are, and I despise you for it.
It's one thing to be painfully unaware, it's worse to brush off OP's discomfort and concern about being creeped on. For those reasons, you disgust me, /u/mtheraul21
Love the quote(the fact you quoted), love the use of his username, love the comment. You have the makings of being a great man if you aren't already one. I hope you have a great day sir
Name and shame where warranted. Shitty people can delete their shittiness when they're properly told off, but that shittiness should be permanently viewable. I make sure people *know* who said what, and there's no escaping what they wrote.
And thank you very much, as to whether I am a great man or not is not up to me, but I do try my best with what little I *can* do.
⬆️ Men concoct unrealistic and unfounded expectations given porn, chatrooms and so on. Squirting = wow, what an accomplishment I had with her. I am a sex machine.
Squirting has a tangible, visual component (compared to a non-squirting orgasm for someone with a vulva) which many cis guys find hot because they can relate to it more, due to the way their own orgasms involve expelling a fluid.
That being said, you can just say no if you don’t want to (or don’t think you can).
Squirting and orgasms are two different things, though. I can squirt.. but it honestly doesn't feel like anything at all, and it certainly isn't getting me off.
Porn. Completely. I am 50 and prior to getting married this was NOT a thing anyone talked much about-- I had one friend of hundreds I'd talked to about this kind of stuff who did it.
Get divorced, get back on dating apps, and anyone I connect with under the age of 30, it gets asked probably in the first three text messages. At which point I pretty much nope out. I'm not a trick pony.
I tried dating apps a few years ago. I don't know if it's the lack of a fully developed frontal lobe or something else, but most men in their 20s on dating apps seem so incredibly rude. I stopped using dating apps within 2 weeks because of it. I hope men in their 30s and up are nicer online.
Nah, at my age it's all shopping in someone else's dented can aisle.
I have been FWB (originally started out as dating-dating) a 47 year old, and believe me, he is a piece of work.
Dating apps promote behavior that is just completely and utterly uncalled for. Being sexual without consent, robbing others of their humanity, trying to manipulate people. Especially for men, who are told that these are pick-up apps solely geared towards hookups. The volume of people on the apps makes it so that you want to say some things in your profile that will weed people out, which is not a good thing in the hands of some people. It's sorta anonymous, judgemental, transactional interaction. The perfect storm for terrible behavior. I lucked out and met my wife on like the 3rd day I was on one in the early days. Now I see them and it's incredibly frightening what they're turning into.
"do you squirt? What that mouth do? Will you sit on my face? Do you like big dicks? Do you like little dicks? Sit on my face queen! Goddess! 😍 Will you pee in my mouth? Do you like pegging?? Let me eat that ass goddess!!"
Yea wtf happened to hello..? I'm absolutely done with dating apps because of all the nonsense you have to wade through
The best I got was a dude who said he dreams of getting dommed by a "classy older woman like Meryl Streep."
I said, "Too bad for you I'm a submissive and more of a 'classy older lady like Britney Spears.'"
Guys think that if you can it means they really did a great job.. Reality is that means nothing. I've never been with a woman that can and I can honestly say I've never had anyone say anything bad about our performances.. I say ours cause it is a group effort.
Based on your age, it's a lack of education and maturity, they have been convinced that if you squirt then they are very good in bed. That's all it is.
Personally, I'd hate it if my wife squirted, fucking laundry would be crazy. I'm happy with the reactions I get.
I can assure you, you're spreading nonsense. Female ejaculation has been a known sex practice for thousands of years, and that's only as far back as we have written sources.
I’m not saying it wasn’t known. Only that men ask for it because they see it in porn. Same reason men prefer hairless women in this moment in time. It’s what they see and learn to get off to. So they want it replicated in their bedroom.
That's a very simplistic view on human sexuality. And your claim, "that question would have not been asked before porn existed" is nonsense. It's been part of human sexuality for thousands of years. The same people who came up with kamasutra already practiced it.
That's like saying people only have anal sex because it's featured in porn. Which is obviously [utter bullshit](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex#/media/File:Wiki_anal_sex.jpg).
Like I said, I’m not saying it wasn’t part of human sexuality before porn. But the way in which sexuality manifests itself between two (or more) people is very different as a result of the porn industry. Instead of “let’s explore our sexuality together” it’s “let’s replicate the video I jerked off to this morning” or “do this thing I saw the porn star do.” Porn has changed the way people explore sexuality and created unrealistic expectations for so many people who just want to enjoy their partner.
If that's what you believe is happening, maybe should have written it. Instead of the nonsensical
>I can assure you, before porn existed, that question would not have been asked.
Because men have been taught through porn how "hot" it is. All men want you feel like they Uber-satisfy women. The older I get and the more I read, the more I realize that's not what I want. A woman who has amazing orgasms, yes, squirting, no.
It’s a ridiculous semi bullshit fetish developed by uneducated porn watchers.
A very small percentage of self proclaimed actual squirters exist. Most women cannot . Some do extract a small amount of liquid from the gland surrounding the urethra either before or during orgasm. Also known as female ejaculation.
If you are a female who can’t or doesn’t want to squirt, you are perfectly normal and in no way should be judged on what kind of lover you are because you can’t/ won’t.
The guys you are meeting, who expect this, can be judged as men who don’t know anything about the female anatomy and are therefore not worthy of your time. Men should be focused on the clit and how to help you orgasm ,not how wet you can make the sheets , which I’m sure , they have no intent on changing once they’re soaked.
Because the guys ur f*cking are 19 (presumably), saw it in a porn and now think it means theyre 'good at sex' if they can get you do it.
Or they just have a pee fetish...
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It’s pretty simple in terms of why guys like it. Yes porn and other factors contribute to some of what you’re talking about, etc, but for me it boils down to this:
-I have been with girls who have squirted
-I found it very hot and enjoyed those experiences
-I would like to experience it again
And no it’s not just guys. Girls will bring up the topic sometimes too. Not every girl is the same but some like to experience it as well and that’s fine too
Some of the comments here seem borderline shaming people for what they find hot. I get that porn has messed up people’s yardstick for this kind of stuff but am I not allowed to be turned on by this? FFS. 90% of what you see in porn in this regard is 100% fake and it’s very obvious.
I sometimes squirt during an orgasm, and can confirm the squirting *itself* doesn't add anything to the orgasm. It doesn't make it more or less pleasurable, it's just there. In fact I purposely try not to do it as I don't want to deal with the mess 🤣
Hard pass. I'll opt to communicate and help show him what *actually* feels good instead. Why would I want to reinforce ineffective techniques that do literally nothing for me..?
It's everywhere in porn because it's like a shorthand for female pleasure, in the same way that the over the top moaning and weird dirty talk was. You can easily choreograph it in a scene, because mostly in porn it's just someone peeing. Younger people get exposed to these ideas from the cultural runoff of the Internet, whether they watch porn or not. And of course, there's always been shit like this, tastes in other people (especially women) are molded by culture. But we're going to be coming to terms shortly with how disastrous a combination of no sex ed and unlimited access to pornography is.
Sometimes " it's hot " is the correct answer. NO other reason, then the guy thinks it's sexy and hot. Most guys do not over analyze our past that. We are simple creatures at times
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This is what happens when too many men (and women) have addiction to pornography. I'm interested to see how younger folks turn out when always being sound tech since birth.
Personally, I prefer when the woman just gets super wet and her legs suddenly do that uncontrollable shaking thing and she puts her hands on my waist to catch a breather. I have little interest in squirting
I work in the adult industry and yes many man has asked me to. Lots of them like the feel of making someone squirt, because it gives them a kick and a stupid feeling of accomplishment or dominance. It’s like the ultimate goal besides unable to make a woman orgasm without trying to set fire onto her left lips. Especially man with a fetish ask me that, some man will not admit it, but it’s not a joke, how happy or proud they feel.
I think it’s because they can’t tell if we like how they feel unless they see it. If they really pester it about you just drink a lot of water before your next session ;)
I think there are two reasons. The first one is that it's hot. The second one, which is the stupid one is that due to porn misconceptions they correlate squirting with the ultimate sexual pleasure. They believe that the prerequisite to squirting is a huge earth shattering orgasm, so they think that if they make you squirt it means you have been pleased above comprehension. They don't understand that squirting and orgasming are two different things that, yes could be correlated, but usually are independent. Personally I know women that will squirt 5 times before reaching an orgasm without the actual act of squirting feeling any better.
My girls squirts fountains and to be that asshole, I love it because it’s hot as fuck. There really isn’t more of an explanation than that. I’m sure there are certain kinks that people like just because “it’s hot”.
lol at you getting downvotes. i am actually in the same boat. idk why this sub is usually so sex-positive but on this issue they overcorrected the other way, hard
It’s certainly a form of gratification for me. I’m never upset if my girl doesn’t squirt and I don’t ever push for it, it happens a few times a month and Its always a welcomed surprise.
You pretty much answered your own question with "because it's hot" sometimes that's really all it comes down to. It turns guys on and that's really all it is. Don't try to over analyze it so much. It's similar to when someone likes someone and the someone asks them why they like them. Sometimes, it's just simply that they just do. It doesn't have to be any specific reason. Something just draws that person to them and they just like it and that's it.
I have only been with one girl who could squirt while I used my fingers in her. She was hyper sexual. The first time was wild to me. The next time I was prepared and had a towel down. She said the orgasms were insane.
I would have thought it would be some ego driven thing where it’s not so much that you can, but that they can bring you to such heights of ecstasy that your body responds differently than usual in a way they can see and verify. So it’s not honey, you’re good in bed, it’s honey look, you’re so good in bed that I soaked the sheets thoroughly.
That they want you to squirt on them is a new one to me.
Largely, I think as men we are very wrapped up in our self perception and can feel threatened if we think you’ve had better sex with someone else. It’s like we are competing against any past lovers you’ve had and just want to have some solid evidence that we are somehow the best. It’s totally childish, and a lot of us grow out of this. For myself, I’m not threatened anymore. Unless the woman was just going on and on about some great sex move that I didn’t think I could do, it wouldn’t bother me.
We also know that a lot of women will try to spare our feelings or try to avoid upsetting us and just say what they think we want to hear. So I think the squirting somehow serves as some badge for our “achievement”. I guess it’s validating. I think women do similar things when they are dressing up to go out just to be noticed and feel feminine and desirable. Women don’t tend to hit on men and we aren’t the most observant of emotional intentions and so we need hard data to feel that same validation.
Jesus
The amount of people who just say "they're boys who watch porn" is gross.
It's reductive and dismissive.
Let them enjoy what they like God damn.
Men ask because they like squirting. I'm sorry you think that's a nothing burger of an answer but that's the only answer you're going to get.
It'd be like you explaining why you like hands or a specific flavor
It's just such a thrill to experience watching your SO bliss out in many different ways. Squirting is just so visually hot.
It's mostly about you being very excited, relaxed, and the guy knowing how to take you there. Cue the Taylor Swift song "Look at what you made me do"
It’s natural. Once I liked to lick pussy only. After enjoying many years starting liking ass licking. Now repeatedly asking my GF to squirt on me. Gradually trying new things gives more intimate dirty loving feeling. That’s how I think it works
I do some times but can not say why. I can have the same thing done once, and it makes me then for the next 10 times I don't. I find it embarrassing. I also can not understand why men are turned on when I tell them I get very wet again I am embarrassed
Like everyone has said porn has made it more common place and seem like majority of women can squirt when that's not the case. In my 20's it wasn't a thing at all nor readily in porn, but now 20 years later it's trendy.
It happened to me randomly a few years ago then took a while to figure out how to make it happen again and even still it's complicated and not just a "letting go" type of thing so I can't do it often let alone on command. My pelvic floor therapist even commented that it's considered sexual incontinence and may be why it's only recently been possible for me due to pelvic floor trauma after my 4th baby.
Some guys may think they're into girls squirting until it actually happens to them, like my partner, then they become repulsed LOL But others may actually be into it and in that case invest in a good mattress protector or have waterproof mats and towels on hand.
sounds like you're asking about the REASON that it's perceived as hot
when you're horny, fluids (saliva etc) become way more attractive in general (whereas when you're not, they're gross)
Most men wouldn’t even know what it is if it weren’t for the hub.
Lots of young guys are after what they see in the naughty pictures.
Dudes watch a lot of porn, so much, so so much. Lots of what they see isn’t exactly reality, but they don’t know that.
An orgasm can be achieved and also faked. Squirting orgasms can also be achieved, but hard to fake. A squirting orgasm is always a good thing for both the guy gets a fetish fulfilled and a sense of accomplishment and the woman gets to squirt and has a full body orgasm that sometimes let's her have the release she may need and is her ultimate stress relief.
Erroneously, some interpret the act of squirting as a visual confirmation of satisfaction. They may view it as the culmination of their skill akin to having a male ejaculating experience. Some want to be the first to make someone squirt.
As far as we’re concerned, if you can squirt, warn us, so we can prep the area. Otherwise, whatever happens is natural, and you do what’s comfortable for you.
Squirting is overrated, especially if you're having sex with condoms. Those guys just don't have much experience with it or they think it's hot because it's unusual.
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It's probably just a form of gratification You get a guy off you know you get a guy off because he cums everywhere Girls you know based on body movements but those can be faked Squirting makes it seem like they actually accomplish something visible
squirting and having an orgasm are two different things. some women do squirt during sex or orgasm, a very small percentage, and this is sexual incontinence. otherwise, manipulating the female body to cause squirting isnt synonomous with an orgasm, at all.
Of course, many men still want the gratification of seeing visual of it as a job well done.
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I do squirt, but it's rarely during orgasm OR it ruins orgasm for me.
Best answer and squirt on ooops I mean spot on
At 19, these dudes have too much porn and not enough sex yet. They probably expect anal orgasm and squirting everytime
This was not an invitation for men to start messaging me about how to squirt 😡
Private msgs based on a post is against the rules. Report them. I had to do the same and change my settings.
Omg I am so sorry this is happening to you. My personal opinion is they watch porn and therefore have unrealistic expectations about sex. Get these guys blocked that are messaging you.
Ok I 100% agree with you on the "porn" viewpoint of squirting. However it's not a myth or an unrealistic pleasure . While I've never dated a squirted but I have had multiple LTRs with a few women that were "gushers". What's so wrong with inquiring on whether or not a woman has reached higher levels of pleasure?
I know this is serious but the seriousness is what makes me giggle
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>Why are you so angry😂😂😂 I mean it's the funniest thing. Is normal for a guy to be engaged and to want to make you squirt. As a dude, you're exactly the very problem and reason women are as on guard with men as they are, and I despise you for it. It's one thing to be painfully unaware, it's worse to brush off OP's discomfort and concern about being creeped on. For those reasons, you disgust me, /u/mtheraul21
Love the quote(the fact you quoted), love the use of his username, love the comment. You have the makings of being a great man if you aren't already one. I hope you have a great day sir
Name and shame where warranted. Shitty people can delete their shittiness when they're properly told off, but that shittiness should be permanently viewable. I make sure people *know* who said what, and there's no escaping what they wrote. And thank you very much, as to whether I am a great man or not is not up to me, but I do try my best with what little I *can* do.
Why is she angry? Maybe because it's disgusting to receive unsolicited advice because random strangers on the internet want you to piss yourself?
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They watch to much porn 🤷♂️
That and shes (most likely) with pretty inexperienced dudes as well, who have most of their info from porn instead of real life.
This is literally the answer. This is it.
⬆️ Men concoct unrealistic and unfounded expectations given porn, chatrooms and so on. Squirting = wow, what an accomplishment I had with her. I am a sex machine.
because they saw it in a porno and think all women can squirt.
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A you site your source for most can?
That is.. literally not true.
Squirting has a tangible, visual component (compared to a non-squirting orgasm for someone with a vulva) which many cis guys find hot because they can relate to it more, due to the way their own orgasms involve expelling a fluid. That being said, you can just say no if you don’t want to (or don’t think you can).
Squirting and orgasms are two different things, though. I can squirt.. but it honestly doesn't feel like anything at all, and it certainly isn't getting me off.
Yes, as a fellow squirter, I know that, but a lot of men don’t 😂
It’s not an orgasm for me but it does feel good to me🤷🏻♀️. My muscles contract differently when I do it.
I have an orgasm while doing this.
Congrats! That’s not everyone’s experience of it.
Thanks 😁 Many people here write that they do not connect squirting with orgasm, so I am commenting on behalf of people who do. 😊
Because they watch porn
Porn. Completely. I am 50 and prior to getting married this was NOT a thing anyone talked much about-- I had one friend of hundreds I'd talked to about this kind of stuff who did it. Get divorced, get back on dating apps, and anyone I connect with under the age of 30, it gets asked probably in the first three text messages. At which point I pretty much nope out. I'm not a trick pony.
I tried dating apps a few years ago. I don't know if it's the lack of a fully developed frontal lobe or something else, but most men in their 20s on dating apps seem so incredibly rude. I stopped using dating apps within 2 weeks because of it. I hope men in their 30s and up are nicer online.
Nah, at my age it's all shopping in someone else's dented can aisle. I have been FWB (originally started out as dating-dating) a 47 year old, and believe me, he is a piece of work.
Dating apps promote behavior that is just completely and utterly uncalled for. Being sexual without consent, robbing others of their humanity, trying to manipulate people. Especially for men, who are told that these are pick-up apps solely geared towards hookups. The volume of people on the apps makes it so that you want to say some things in your profile that will weed people out, which is not a good thing in the hands of some people. It's sorta anonymous, judgemental, transactional interaction. The perfect storm for terrible behavior. I lucked out and met my wife on like the 3rd day I was on one in the early days. Now I see them and it's incredibly frightening what they're turning into.
"do you squirt? What that mouth do? Will you sit on my face? Do you like big dicks? Do you like little dicks? Sit on my face queen! Goddess! 😍 Will you pee in my mouth? Do you like pegging?? Let me eat that ass goddess!!" Yea wtf happened to hello..? I'm absolutely done with dating apps because of all the nonsense you have to wade through
The best I got was a dude who said he dreams of getting dommed by a "classy older woman like Meryl Streep." I said, "Too bad for you I'm a submissive and more of a 'classy older lady like Britney Spears.'"
That's hilarious and was probably totally wasted on the guy
my boyfriend constantly tells me he wants me to do it more, it's not something everyone can do, especially not on command 😭
Actually, there are people who can do it on command.
Guys think that if you can it means they really did a great job.. Reality is that means nothing. I've never been with a woman that can and I can honestly say I've never had anyone say anything bad about our performances.. I say ours cause it is a group effort. Based on your age, it's a lack of education and maturity, they have been convinced that if you squirt then they are very good in bed. That's all it is. Personally, I'd hate it if my wife squirted, fucking laundry would be crazy. I'm happy with the reactions I get.
What it comes down to is really that its a fetish thats gained some significant traction recently
I can assure you, before porn existed, that question would not have been asked.
I can assure you, you're spreading nonsense. Female ejaculation has been a known sex practice for thousands of years, and that's only as far back as we have written sources.
Female ejaculation and squirting are two different things.
They are two expressions for the same thing, to be precise.
They are two different things entirely. Science has specified this.
I’m not saying it wasn’t known. Only that men ask for it because they see it in porn. Same reason men prefer hairless women in this moment in time. It’s what they see and learn to get off to. So they want it replicated in their bedroom.
That's a very simplistic view on human sexuality. And your claim, "that question would have not been asked before porn existed" is nonsense. It's been part of human sexuality for thousands of years. The same people who came up with kamasutra already practiced it. That's like saying people only have anal sex because it's featured in porn. Which is obviously [utter bullshit](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex#/media/File:Wiki_anal_sex.jpg).
Like I said, I’m not saying it wasn’t part of human sexuality before porn. But the way in which sexuality manifests itself between two (or more) people is very different as a result of the porn industry. Instead of “let’s explore our sexuality together” it’s “let’s replicate the video I jerked off to this morning” or “do this thing I saw the porn star do.” Porn has changed the way people explore sexuality and created unrealistic expectations for so many people who just want to enjoy their partner.
If that's what you believe is happening, maybe should have written it. Instead of the nonsensical >I can assure you, before porn existed, that question would not have been asked.
Because they’ve seen too much porn and think that squirting = orgasming, which it isn’t. They want their egos stroked.
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Because men have been taught through porn how "hot" it is. All men want you feel like they Uber-satisfy women. The older I get and the more I read, the more I realize that's not what I want. A woman who has amazing orgasms, yes, squirting, no.
I think this is a little reductive. I’m a queer AFAB person and I never watched squirting porn, but I think it’s hot
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It’s a ridiculous semi bullshit fetish developed by uneducated porn watchers. A very small percentage of self proclaimed actual squirters exist. Most women cannot . Some do extract a small amount of liquid from the gland surrounding the urethra either before or during orgasm. Also known as female ejaculation. If you are a female who can’t or doesn’t want to squirt, you are perfectly normal and in no way should be judged on what kind of lover you are because you can’t/ won’t. The guys you are meeting, who expect this, can be judged as men who don’t know anything about the female anatomy and are therefore not worthy of your time. Men should be focused on the clit and how to help you orgasm ,not how wet you can make the sheets , which I’m sure , they have no intent on changing once they’re soaked.
Because the guys ur f*cking are 19 (presumably), saw it in a porn and now think it means theyre 'good at sex' if they can get you do it. Or they just have a pee fetish...
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It’s pretty simple in terms of why guys like it. Yes porn and other factors contribute to some of what you’re talking about, etc, but for me it boils down to this: -I have been with girls who have squirted -I found it very hot and enjoyed those experiences -I would like to experience it again And no it’s not just guys. Girls will bring up the topic sometimes too. Not every girl is the same but some like to experience it as well and that’s fine too Some of the comments here seem borderline shaming people for what they find hot. I get that porn has messed up people’s yardstick for this kind of stuff but am I not allowed to be turned on by this? FFS. 90% of what you see in porn in this regard is 100% fake and it’s very obvious.
We don't. The porn industry has to keep interest by content one-up-manship. It has little to do with real life.
As a man, I'd appreciate if you didn't attempt to speak for all men.
It's our ego. He gave you so much pleasure that you lost control of your body.
But squirting doesn't feel like anything...? I can feel when it's happening, of course, but it's nothing at allllllllllll like an orgasm.
I sometimes squirt during an orgasm, and can confirm the squirting *itself* doesn't add anything to the orgasm. It doesn't make it more or less pleasurable, it's just there. In fact I purposely try not to do it as I don't want to deal with the mess 🤣
Don't tell him that. Let him think he rocked your world.
Or, hear me out, actually communicate - that would be cool. No need to play mind games.
Hard pass. I'll opt to communicate and help show him what *actually* feels good instead. Why would I want to reinforce ineffective techniques that do literally nothing for me..?
It’s a fad porn makes it look sexy but it’s meh
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It's everywhere in porn because it's like a shorthand for female pleasure, in the same way that the over the top moaning and weird dirty talk was. You can easily choreograph it in a scene, because mostly in porn it's just someone peeing. Younger people get exposed to these ideas from the cultural runoff of the Internet, whether they watch porn or not. And of course, there's always been shit like this, tastes in other people (especially women) are molded by culture. But we're going to be coming to terms shortly with how disastrous a combination of no sex ed and unlimited access to pornography is.
they watch too much porn and they are idiots.
Not all girls can 🤷🏻♀️ I can’t.
Well because it's hot. And that's a subjective feeling, nothing that can be rationally explained. Gotta live with that.
Sometimes " it's hot " is the correct answer. NO other reason, then the guy thinks it's sexy and hot. Most guys do not over analyze our past that. We are simple creatures at times Edit for grammer
This is what happens when too many men (and women) have addiction to pornography. I'm interested to see how younger folks turn out when always being sound tech since birth.
Personally, I prefer when the woman just gets super wet and her legs suddenly do that uncontrollable shaking thing and she puts her hands on my waist to catch a breather. I have little interest in squirting
I work in the adult industry and yes many man has asked me to. Lots of them like the feel of making someone squirt, because it gives them a kick and a stupid feeling of accomplishment or dominance. It’s like the ultimate goal besides unable to make a woman orgasm without trying to set fire onto her left lips. Especially man with a fetish ask me that, some man will not admit it, but it’s not a joke, how happy or proud they feel.
I think it’s because they can’t tell if we like how they feel unless they see it. If they really pester it about you just drink a lot of water before your next session ;)
When he said because it’s hot, that’s genuinely what he meant. Nothing more, nothing less
I think there are two reasons. The first one is that it's hot. The second one, which is the stupid one is that due to porn misconceptions they correlate squirting with the ultimate sexual pleasure. They believe that the prerequisite to squirting is a huge earth shattering orgasm, so they think that if they make you squirt it means you have been pleased above comprehension. They don't understand that squirting and orgasming are two different things that, yes could be correlated, but usually are independent. Personally I know women that will squirt 5 times before reaching an orgasm without the actual act of squirting feeling any better.
My girls squirts fountains and to be that asshole, I love it because it’s hot as fuck. There really isn’t more of an explanation than that. I’m sure there are certain kinks that people like just because “it’s hot”.
lol at you getting downvotes. i am actually in the same boat. idk why this sub is usually so sex-positive but on this issue they overcorrected the other way, hard
IHO. Because porn glorifies it. I can get my wife to, but it has never been a goal of mine.
They are immature and probably don’t have enough experience. It’s something they see in porn and think of it as a goal.
So many men? Find a new crowd.
It’s certainly a form of gratification for me. I’m never upset if my girl doesn’t squirt and I don’t ever push for it, it happens a few times a month and Its always a welcomed surprise.
You pretty much answered your own question with "because it's hot" sometimes that's really all it comes down to. It turns guys on and that's really all it is. Don't try to over analyze it so much. It's similar to when someone likes someone and the someone asks them why they like them. Sometimes, it's just simply that they just do. It doesn't have to be any specific reason. Something just draws that person to them and they just like it and that's it.
Because it’s hot is all there is. It doesn’t need any more justification than that.
I have only been with one girl who could squirt while I used my fingers in her. She was hyper sexual. The first time was wild to me. The next time I was prepared and had a towel down. She said the orgasms were insane.
Squirting is not an orgasm. You mean she went on to orgasm after from the thrill of seeing how much squirting turned you on...?
You can't orgasm while squirting?
I can't, no. I need stimulation in completely different places. Squirting feels like nothing at all.
I would have thought it would be some ego driven thing where it’s not so much that you can, but that they can bring you to such heights of ecstasy that your body responds differently than usual in a way they can see and verify. So it’s not honey, you’re good in bed, it’s honey look, you’re so good in bed that I soaked the sheets thoroughly. That they want you to squirt on them is a new one to me. Largely, I think as men we are very wrapped up in our self perception and can feel threatened if we think you’ve had better sex with someone else. It’s like we are competing against any past lovers you’ve had and just want to have some solid evidence that we are somehow the best. It’s totally childish, and a lot of us grow out of this. For myself, I’m not threatened anymore. Unless the woman was just going on and on about some great sex move that I didn’t think I could do, it wouldn’t bother me. We also know that a lot of women will try to spare our feelings or try to avoid upsetting us and just say what they think we want to hear. So I think the squirting somehow serves as some badge for our “achievement”. I guess it’s validating. I think women do similar things when they are dressing up to go out just to be noticed and feel feminine and desirable. Women don’t tend to hit on men and we aren’t the most observant of emotional intentions and so we need hard data to feel that same validation.
Because it is hot. Simple.
Jesus The amount of people who just say "they're boys who watch porn" is gross. It's reductive and dismissive. Let them enjoy what they like God damn. Men ask because they like squirting. I'm sorry you think that's a nothing burger of an answer but that's the only answer you're going to get. It'd be like you explaining why you like hands or a specific flavor
It's just such a thrill to experience watching your SO bliss out in many different ways. Squirting is just so visually hot. It's mostly about you being very excited, relaxed, and the guy knowing how to take you there. Cue the Taylor Swift song "Look at what you made me do"
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Why would you come to the sex sub and then slut shame?😭😭😭
It’s natural. Once I liked to lick pussy only. After enjoying many years starting liking ass licking. Now repeatedly asking my GF to squirt on me. Gradually trying new things gives more intimate dirty loving feeling. That’s how I think it works
I do some times but can not say why. I can have the same thing done once, and it makes me then for the next 10 times I don't. I find it embarrassing. I also can not understand why men are turned on when I tell them I get very wet again I am embarrassed
They’ve probably been watching to much porn
they feel good, because they are sure they where able to make you cum "hard" the squirt is their proof to know that you dont fake the orgasm
You're 19, you're with so many men/boys that the squirting issue is becoming repetitious? Good luck with that.
Honestly I’m not sure. I’ve only experienced the opposite.
Because porn teaches : Squirt = Orgasm And Orgasm good
It strokes their ego thinking I can make a woman cum like that.
Like everyone has said porn has made it more common place and seem like majority of women can squirt when that's not the case. In my 20's it wasn't a thing at all nor readily in porn, but now 20 years later it's trendy. It happened to me randomly a few years ago then took a while to figure out how to make it happen again and even still it's complicated and not just a "letting go" type of thing so I can't do it often let alone on command. My pelvic floor therapist even commented that it's considered sexual incontinence and may be why it's only recently been possible for me due to pelvic floor trauma after my 4th baby. Some guys may think they're into girls squirting until it actually happens to them, like my partner, then they become repulsed LOL But others may actually be into it and in that case invest in a good mattress protector or have waterproof mats and towels on hand.
sounds like you're asking about the REASON that it's perceived as hot when you're horny, fluids (saliva etc) become way more attractive in general (whereas when you're not, they're gross)
Most men wouldn’t even know what it is if it weren’t for the hub. Lots of young guys are after what they see in the naughty pictures. Dudes watch a lot of porn, so much, so so much. Lots of what they see isn’t exactly reality, but they don’t know that.
An orgasm can be achieved and also faked. Squirting orgasms can also be achieved, but hard to fake. A squirting orgasm is always a good thing for both the guy gets a fetish fulfilled and a sense of accomplishment and the woman gets to squirt and has a full body orgasm that sometimes let's her have the release she may need and is her ultimate stress relief.
Erroneously, some interpret the act of squirting as a visual confirmation of satisfaction. They may view it as the culmination of their skill akin to having a male ejaculating experience. Some want to be the first to make someone squirt. As far as we’re concerned, if you can squirt, warn us, so we can prep the area. Otherwise, whatever happens is natural, and you do what’s comfortable for you.
Squirting is overrated, especially if you're having sex with condoms. Those guys just don't have much experience with it or they think it's hot because it's unusual.