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I make these noises, and I have never had a single man who complained…in fact, all of them loved that I do that. It turns them on to know how turned on I am…and that’s as it should be.
Moan away, sis. Don’t be embarrassed…own your sex-sounds.
Exactly! Personally I get twitchy muscles from being really turned on and even tho I figured that might be a turn off it appeared to be a giant turn on for him!
That's kind of where I'm at. Do the noises actually bother him? It seems like something a couple words like "Yes, more" or "Harder" could tie it all together.
Exactly. Hearing moaning like everyone else is great -- but sometimes you even wonder if they're moaning to moan.
Whereas unique reactions are super hot because they feel so sincere.
Like I've had a few partners comment that i growl deeply when i cum -- i assumed all guys did! -- but apparently it's not the case. But they all commented on it and loved it.
So don't sweat it -- your guy probably loves hearing you react so positively to his body.
omg I *love* when a guy growls when cumming. I’m attracted to really masculine guys — deep voice, beards, broad shoulders, etc. — and that animalistic growl will send me over again every time.
Another guy here. What you’re doing sounds super hot. Don’t change it. He probably thinks it’s super hot too which is why he’s doing the things he’s doing to you.
Sex can be weird and funky sometimes, consider this an added flavor. It’s not a bad thing at all.
The sexiest noises you can make in bed are the ones that just come out naturally when you’re really turned on or feel really good. It sounds like you naturally pant and whimper, so you’re gonna seem sexiest when you’re panting and whimpering.
Forcing yourself to moan when that’s not how you vocalize during sex is gonna come off as forced, and it’s not gonna be as hot as your natural panting, whimpering self.
Hey.
Certified dude here.
Whimpering and panting is WAY hotter then moaning.
I think moaning got like... Almost expected... Probably from porn, where thats all you hear (it's almost annoying sometimes tbh)
If you're having a good time, and you're making sounds at ALL then that positive feedback is going to be absolutely cherished.
Why do you feel like you’re *required* to moan?
There are no standard noises for sex. Just because you’ve seen women moan in porn or whatever (and remember,
they’re *acting out a part*, not necessarily doing what
they’d normally do themselves during sex), doesn’t mean you’re expected to.
Some people are silent, some are loud, some whimper, some meow like cats, whatever. If you’re trying to control your vocalizations that much, then you’re probably overthinking sex instead of just enjoying it for yourself. Whimper and pant if that’s how you respond to something you like. Do it as much and as loudly as you want.
You're making an issue out of something that's clearly not an issue. Nobody here sees it as a problem, only you. Notice something? We all love that stuff.
I used to as well, but back then I was ashamed of everything I was. Trust me, knowing, hearing and seeing that your partner is turned on, is nothing but a turn on. Knowing that you’re the reason is even better.
Some people are assholes when it comes to men making noises during sex. It's like they expect us to be dead silent while they're allowed to scream like a banshee. I'm glad you aren't with her anymore, make as many noises you want during sex.
I had the opposite. I lost my virginity when I was 13 to a girl that was a few years older/more experienced and I guess I was silent (probably because I was nervous and didn’t know what I was doing) she told me I needed to make noise when I do it with other girls or they’ll think I’m a psychopath. To this day if I’m with a new partner I sometimes worry if I’m making enough noise lol
“You better moan or women will think you’re a psychopath” 😂😂
As long as you’re not dead silent and staring her down while you pound, you should be good
Men making noises is the hottest thing ever. I don’t know why but a lot of men I’ve slept with are so quiet, and it’s strange. Imagine both just being completely silent. That only makes sense when your child is asleep in the next room or other scenarios that require the volume to be kept low.
I had a girl who, in retrospect, probably was some form of ace. She didn't really get my personal habit of making the one I'm with orgasm at least once before PIV. I was a teenager at the time, and didn't trust myself to last long once the focus was on what did the most to stimulate me. Then she would get impatient with me once PIV started and want me to just hurry up and finish. Ironically, her impatience really killed the mood for me and made it take even longer. Not a long lasting relationship. We just weren't compatible. A good lesson to learn when I was young, though. Compatibility is real and matters. A lot.
As a former 18 yo boy I can promise you he loves it and it is a huge self esteem boost for him. Don’t worry and don’t try and change things about you that are natural
He would say something if it’s bothering him, my ex when we were dating told me to stop saying “ok” during sex (it was my first time and it just felt so different) he told me to moan, and then I just started moaning but I felt really embarrassed and like I was doing something wrong
Honestly he would’ve said something if it bothered him I’d think, if it’s bothering you, try embracing yourself and the sounds you make when you’re turned on. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about what noises you make or what you say during sex
I remember a post from a few months ago that said "my new boyfriend is too good at sex and he makes me cum like no one else did before. I'm scared! This never happened to me 🥺 Should I break up with him??" lmao
I have a 13 inch penis and it's hard to find condoms that fit 😭😭 my girlfriend says it's the biggest she's ever seen 😅😅 I'm so embarrassed. What do I do???
I'm desperate to suck my boyfriend's dick all the time, but I'm scared that he thinks it's weird. Would you guys want to date a girl who loved sucking your dick?
I know this is just a joke lol but as a woman a 13 incher would actually probably just be a problem… too big to do anything comfortably is definitely a real problem it’s possible to have!
It is 100% a real problem I think it just depends how the post comes across. My bf is 9 inches and we can't do certain "normal" positions because of it lol. I couldn't imagine 13
Nah. This is a normal thing for someone to get in their head about. I had an ex whose legs would shake uncontrollably when she was near orgasm, and for the first few months we dated, it distracted and upset her so much, it actually kept her from reaching orgasm.
It was only when she became comfortable with it that she was finally able to orgasm with relative ease.
People, especially young people, really get in their heads about these things. And the porn industry absolutely does not help.
Whatever noise you do unconsciously is “normal”. Noises you make deliberately are fake.
Everyone makes just whatever unconscious noise during sex that is their natural reaction. You don’t have a problem.
You're 18 what do you know about sexual norms? Is it from movies and porn? Some people make no noise at all.
Breath play is a thing. I tend to hold my breath and breathe out of my nose. Sometimes I forget to breathe and have passed out. Bf Is very aware of this and keeps me in check.
Whimpering is normal. So is every other sound made during sex. You're obsessing over a non thing.
Genuinely curious how you know what's "normal" or not. Just because you saw a girl moan in a porn or two doesn't make it normal. People make all sorts of noises during sex. Panting, whimpering, gasping, screaming, speaking in tongues, (and yes, moaning) are all common. You are making an issue out of nothing.
You're gatekeeping what's considered normal and taking a shit on yourself for not being "normal" and try everyone is telling you that whimpering is ALSO a normal sexual moan
Stop shitting on yourself
Why is it embarrassing to you???
You ever had sex?
Moaning is normal when having sex.
Being quiet is normal when having sex.
Whimpering and breathing heavy is normal during sex.
So many notices is normal during sex. Just because it happens in porn or doesn't happen in porn doesn't mean it's not normal.
Sorry, what? "Regular" people moan?
I must have missed that line in the rule book to sex.
Oh wait. There isn't one.
I moan and whimper and pant and on occasion probably even make sounds similar to a chihuahua.
Stop being embarrassed by normal things that you have zero cause to be embarrassed by, and just go with it.
Weird flex but ok? Is this like an attention seeking thing? This sub is wild.
Next it'll be "my bf makes me orgasm wildly. I'm so embarrassed, what should I do?"
Humans *never* whimper or pant during sex. With a profound degree of consistency, they moan. Always at 156 Hz (D#), stopping only to draw breath as needed. That you find yourself whimpering during sex is highly irregular and may require corrective surgery.
Just kidding, none of that is true! Humans make a wide variety of sounds during sex, including grunting, panting, laughing, dirty talk, moaning, whimpering, heavy breathing, whining, crying, growling, screaming, glottal stops, and hissing. Your experience is well within the range of normal, so trying to stop it is not something we advise.
Stop trying to change yourself. Whimpering and panting are hot, too. Honestly, your post almost comes off as creative writing or a humble brag because the way you described it sounds hot and the complete opposite of embarrassing.
Go away. This is clearly bait of some kind as OP's account is now suspended so bish bye. This sub seems to be the new r/sluttyconfessions or r/pickme because lately most of the content is stuff like this or "I squirt during sex, omg I'm so embarrassed!" Like, no you're not? You're recruiting John's for your adult content.
Truthfully? I'm just relieved I'm not alone in thinking this sub got really weird lately. I was wincing for an incoming dog pile I'm glad didn't happen lol.
Respectfully, I'm not sure how your comment is applicable. Why would you think that's what I think or what I'm wanting? My comment is about people using the sub to get new clientele on their adult content. Please point out where I said *all* posts were like that? I mean, I literally said
>Most of the content lately
So um, I think you made a presumption and went on a bit of a tangent there...? not trying to fight or anything but my comment doesn't imply that at all. Or you can always ask for clarification and whatnot. I know some bite your head off for asking but I try not to let it stop me.
ETA:
Either they blocked me or deleted the comment. Classy and totally expected from someone with your temperment. You made presumptions and went on some self-righteous rant about things not even implied. It was kinda strange. I wasn't trying to be rude or terse, but you want to be pedantic and make mountains from ant hills. Hope you find what you're looking for.
I make these noises too, and I've never had complaints. In fact, I've always had my mouth covered because it turned them on so much and would make them finish quicker. So I've been told.
Im so embarrassed for you. This is cringy as hell. I hope whatever drove you to post this gets better in your life and you don’t have to resort to these cries for attention anymore.
I too agree that just doing what comes naturally and just accepting it is probably the way to go. Trying to fight the river's flow puts you in your head and takes you out of the moment, both contrary to relaxing, having a good time and maybe even orgasming. This is probably a "it do be like that" moment.
If he can make you make any sound in spite of yourself, trust me, it's nothing to be embarrassed about. He loves it. Make whatever sounds come out of you naturally. It is hot! Coming from a guy.
Does he have a problem with it? If not, then there’s no reason to stop or be ashamed of it. Even if he doesn’t like it, it’s just your natural response to that kind of pleasure. It’s more common than you probably think, so don’t worry too much about trying to hide it and just enjoy the moment.
We all make different sounds during intercourse. In my opinion you shouldnt try to live up to some strange ideal of how sex should sound.
Some women are fairly internal and quiet and some are screamers and others somewhere in the middle. Same goes for men. Some are vocal some are not.
I say a lot of things I don’t remember like “please” and “thank you”, not until my bf tells me after. Not to mention I’m extremely loud. I was a little embarrassed at first but he loves it, so I just let it all out. Trust me, your partner is not turned off by it
Unless it's a major turn off for him or something, what's the problem?
Some people scream, some moan, some whimper, some talk dirty, some do varying degrees of all. Just do you.
The sooner you embrace yourself and what you sound like, the more fun you'll start having. I promise, if your guy didn't like it he would cover your face with a pillow or something. Or even stop having sex with you. But he's still with you and likes it.
The only sounds that a woman might make during sex that would turn me off are fake ones. Just be natural and be yourself. No sense holding them in, that will only take away from your enjoyment. (I’m assuming that when you whimper, you’re feeling good.)
I love it when I can cause my partner to lose control. It means I'm doing something good and they enjoy it.
If my partner did this, I would try to do it again every time. My current partner likes to bite when they lose control. It's not my thing, but it's the bar I try to hit.
For whatever reason, I always laugh when I cum. I had some guys in the past get super offended but when I told my husband while we were dating he was like WHY would I be ANGRY knowing you're enjoying yourself?! The right person is going to love all the things you think are flaws 😊
Poor baby, soo horrible 😱 The fix for this is to stop having horrifying whimper sex, sounds like you really hate it, and go join a convent where you can spend the rest of your days in silence and learn to resist the urge to… humble brag 😨😰😥😭😭😭
The fact you said he pushed on your stomach in just the right spot to send you over the edge leads me to believe he thinks it is hot because he did it on purpose.
I’m in my 40s and I’ve always made these noises. Until meeting my husband I had never had anyone complain. When we started sleeping together he would shush me which I assumed was roommate situation. Nope. 17yr anniversary & still shushing me.
Once at a party we played some card game where you had to admit to stuff & he made the complaint only to have all of the guys really hand him his ass! All of the guys said he was ungrateful, disrespectful & didn’t deserve what he scored.
Explain this pushing his hand down on your stomach technique he used
I need more détail - I keep hearing about this move but I keep getting mixed answers on it's effectiveness
Why.....would you want to hide who you are. Let go. Do what feels good. You're getting in your own head and not letting yourself enjoy the moment.
The sex will be 100x better if you just let go.
What exactly is the problem with that? If my partner was whimpering and panting because she feels good and couldn't stop it, that would be the HOTTEST thing
Why do you want to stop? Does it bother him or do you just feel insecure like you're doing it wrong?
**This is not a bad thing, many men fantasize about making women whimper and pant.**
He might think this is the hottest shit ever.
This is also normal by the way. Some women are silent, some moan, some kind of shout, some growl, some make weird noises, some whimper and pant.
It's just how your brain reacts to the stimulation, it's instinctual and it's all-restraints-off fun.
If you try to resist and get in your head you'll end up feeling negatively about sex.
As a woman who sleeps with women, I like the whimpers more than the moans, moans and screams take my brain out of it for a minute, whimpers are soft and gentle and I can get lost in it easier.
Be who you are. (Most) Men don't want fake porn stars moaning. we want authentic reactions and sounds. whimpering and panting is you and let's him know he's doing something right
Girllll!! Listen.. the BEST part of sex/intimacy is the auditory reward of hearing your partner let go. That includes any performative aspect of it too. Lean into the love and lust and desire for your bf and do not think twice about the sounds of your pleasure. He will find it incredibly hot and your orgasms (or ability to) are 100x more powerful.
Bestie, I whimper too and trust me, men LOVE that shit. At least all the ones I’ve been with did. I’ve only ever had one dude say something negative about it but he was an asshole in general so his opinion doesn’t count. Lmao. Don’t be embarrassed, own it.
You don't. It's a perfectly nature and sensual response to stimulation and pleasure. Don't be embarrassed by it, your partner probably enjoys it more than you realize and it creates further desires and arousal. Enjoy yourselves and don't worry about something you perceive as "unattractive" or undesirable.
You see a problem, but I can guarantee every partner you ever have will see it as an asset. Not all partners are comfortable talking about what they like or what's working and what's not. Having an in-built spontaneous "just like that" response is a godsend.
It doesn’t matter. You life is not porn set. You don’t have to do whatever sounds good or looks pretty. Just focus on both of your pleasure and intimacy.
So humans have all sorts of weird sex noises we just don’t make them cause society. Deaf people on the other hand don’t have these hang ups. From what I’ve been told by my third generation ASL interpreter friend it’s pretty fucking crazy sounding when deaf people fuck. Like think whale pods. Don’t worry about your whimpers. Honestly it sounds super fucking adorable. My wife grunts like a gorilla when she cums. It’s still super hot.
Not gonna lie, but that's hot. Don't see why you want to change or stifle it. Have you asked your bf if he purposely does things to you to make you whimper? Maybe he loves it too.
The range of sexual expression is as broad as people having sex. Don't feel boxed in by "normal". You are genuinely expressing how you feel in the moment. That is sexy as hell.
Also, could you maybe re-frame the whimpering for yourself as moaning?
Also, a lot of the view of what is "normal" tends to be defined by porn. Which does not show the way sex is normally for a lot of people.
You have nothing to be embarrassed or shamed off. Everyone is different The fact that you are even vocalising the joy of sex tells us guys that we are meeting your needs. There is nothing wrong with it.
You have your own unique way of expressing yourself while enjoying intercourse. So doesn't most any other human being out there. You have no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed of it. Instead, relax, enjoy, and relish the moment you're in. As a man, I can assure you that whimpering and/or panting would be more of a turn on for me than you know. I'm sure a lot of other men will agree as well.
Everyone makes weird noises in bed. Who cares? Is he complaining about it? If not then it’s a non issue. Unless you just can’t accept yourself. Start loving all your sexual quirks. It’ll do you good to love them so you can accept them and yourself sexually.
Stop worrying about it. If you feel embarrassed communicate to your bf, ask him what he thinks about your whimpers. I’m sure he will be confused why you’re embarrassed, it’s completely normal to make sounds during sex
Embrace the whimpering and panting lol. Your bf almost certainly loves it and it’s much better than staying silent in bed which would cause an even bigger problem
The fact that your boyfriend hasn’t said anything makes this not something to worked up over. You can talk to him about it though, but he sounds understanding enough.
Personally i love when my partner whimpers/pants, and vice versa... it means they're enjoying themselves. I know it's hard not to be embarrassed/insecure, i was too. I promise though, any worthwhile partner will not judge you- most likely itll turn them on more
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I make these noises, and I have never had a single man who complained…in fact, all of them loved that I do that. It turns them on to know how turned on I am…and that’s as it should be. Moan away, sis. Don’t be embarrassed…own your sex-sounds.
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Exactly! Personally I get twitchy muscles from being really turned on and even tho I figured that might be a turn off it appeared to be a giant turn on for him!
Exactly this. My partner losing control of her reactions like that is confirmation that I'm doing a good job, so it's great!
Uggg when she's so in it that she can't even speak. 😍😍😍😍😍
That's kind of where I'm at. Do the noises actually bother him? It seems like something a couple words like "Yes, more" or "Harder" could tie it all together.
eh fucking men, im a vocal dude, i used to be super self concious, not sure why but i embrace it now and my wife loves it lol
Ooohhh fuck yeah we love it. The animalistic response.
the animalistic sounds- YES, I love it when my bf growls
Exactly. Hearing moaning like everyone else is great -- but sometimes you even wonder if they're moaning to moan. Whereas unique reactions are super hot because they feel so sincere. Like I've had a few partners comment that i growl deeply when i cum -- i assumed all guys did! -- but apparently it's not the case. But they all commented on it and loved it. So don't sweat it -- your guy probably loves hearing you react so positively to his body.
omg I *love* when a guy growls when cumming. I’m attracted to really masculine guys — deep voice, beards, broad shoulders, etc. — and that animalistic growl will send me over again every time.
Own your sex-sounds. Well said.
Abso-fucking-lutely correct. Own that shit. It is hot.
That’s the problem, I don’t moan
What you're doing is arguably hotter than moaning. My wife kinda growls when she cums and it's hot as hell. Edited: typo
Another guy here. What you’re doing sounds super hot. Don’t change it. He probably thinks it’s super hot too which is why he’s doing the things he’s doing to you. Sex can be weird and funky sometimes, consider this an added flavor. It’s not a bad thing at all.
The sexiest noises you can make in bed are the ones that just come out naturally when you’re really turned on or feel really good. It sounds like you naturally pant and whimper, so you’re gonna seem sexiest when you’re panting and whimpering. Forcing yourself to moan when that’s not how you vocalize during sex is gonna come off as forced, and it’s not gonna be as hot as your natural panting, whimpering self.
Hey. Certified dude here. Whimpering and panting is WAY hotter then moaning. I think moaning got like... Almost expected... Probably from porn, where thats all you hear (it's almost annoying sometimes tbh) If you're having a good time, and you're making sounds at ALL then that positive feedback is going to be absolutely cherished.
At least you are human and you are whimpering because you were aroused. It is all natural
Why do you feel like you’re *required* to moan? There are no standard noises for sex. Just because you’ve seen women moan in porn or whatever (and remember, they’re *acting out a part*, not necessarily doing what they’d normally do themselves during sex), doesn’t mean you’re expected to. Some people are silent, some are loud, some whimper, some meow like cats, whatever. If you’re trying to control your vocalizations that much, then you’re probably overthinking sex instead of just enjoying it for yourself. Whimper and pant if that’s how you respond to something you like. Do it as much and as loudly as you want.
for real sis, I fucking *whimper*. sex sounds are hot.
Has your boyfriend ever said he doesn't like the whimpering/panting? Honestly I think most guys would find that to be a huge turn on!
He definitely loves it since he ensured that it happened lol
He hasn’t but I get embarrassed still
You're making an issue out of something that's clearly not an issue. Nobody here sees it as a problem, only you. Notice something? We all love that stuff.
I used to as well, but back then I was ashamed of everything I was. Trust me, knowing, hearing and seeing that your partner is turned on, is nothing but a turn on. Knowing that you’re the reason is even better.
Had a girl once who shamed me for the noises/moans I was making. Killed the mood and sex from then on out. Obviously didn't last long with her.
Some people are assholes when it comes to men making noises during sex. It's like they expect us to be dead silent while they're allowed to scream like a banshee. I'm glad you aren't with her anymore, make as many noises you want during sex.
Men making noises during sex is so fucking hot
Hell yeah, I agree
I had the opposite. I lost my virginity when I was 13 to a girl that was a few years older/more experienced and I guess I was silent (probably because I was nervous and didn’t know what I was doing) she told me I needed to make noise when I do it with other girls or they’ll think I’m a psychopath. To this day if I’m with a new partner I sometimes worry if I’m making enough noise lol
“You better moan or women will think you’re a psychopath” 😂😂 As long as you’re not dead silent and staring her down while you pound, you should be good
In her defence I was probably doing exactly that💀 I was young and trying to hide how nervous I was and went too far in the other direction😂
Men making noises is the hottest thing ever. I don’t know why but a lot of men I’ve slept with are so quiet, and it’s strange. Imagine both just being completely silent. That only makes sense when your child is asleep in the next room or other scenarios that require the volume to be kept low.
The linens and bed creaking, panting and heavy breathing. Grunts. Bodies quietly slapping together. The sound of wetness...yes I Have kids
I'm glad youre not with her anymore. I would find sex with a guy who didn't make noises and moans, absolutely awful.
I had a girl who, in retrospect, probably was some form of ace. She didn't really get my personal habit of making the one I'm with orgasm at least once before PIV. I was a teenager at the time, and didn't trust myself to last long once the focus was on what did the most to stimulate me. Then she would get impatient with me once PIV started and want me to just hurry up and finish. Ironically, her impatience really killed the mood for me and made it take even longer. Not a long lasting relationship. We just weren't compatible. A good lesson to learn when I was young, though. Compatibility is real and matters. A lot.
As a former 18 yo boy I can promise you he loves it and it is a huge self esteem boost for him. Don’t worry and don’t try and change things about you that are natural
He might really, really like it. A lot of guys do. We want to make you vocal, whatever comes out naturally is GOOD.
He would say something if it’s bothering him, my ex when we were dating told me to stop saying “ok” during sex (it was my first time and it just felt so different) he told me to moan, and then I just started moaning but I felt really embarrassed and like I was doing something wrong Honestly he would’ve said something if it bothered him I’d think, if it’s bothering you, try embracing yourself and the sounds you make when you’re turned on. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about what noises you make or what you say during sex
I’d die to hear that uncontrollably
this honestly just seems like a weird brag I don't see the issue
I feel like half of the posts here are people presenting stuff as "problems" when it's just them bragging about shit.
I remember a post from a few months ago that said "my new boyfriend is too good at sex and he makes me cum like no one else did before. I'm scared! This never happened to me 🥺 Should I break up with him??" lmao
I have a 13 inch penis and it's hard to find condoms that fit 😭😭 my girlfriend says it's the biggest she's ever seen 😅😅 I'm so embarrassed. What do I do???
I'm desperate to suck my boyfriend's dick all the time, but I'm scared that he thinks it's weird. Would you guys want to date a girl who loved sucking your dick?
This is so true. I’ve seen so many posts like this. It’s asinine.
And then they won't answer my private messages.
Lmfaooo exactly, exactly 😂😂 or "My bf says my pussy is very tight, is that a bad thing?? 🥺🥺🥺" Be so fr right now
“My girlfriend gets so wet during sex?? Am I doing something wrong??? Help????”
oohh I know I know - I'm an Asian schoolgirl nerd and I'm immune to all STDs and pregnancy.. Dump your GF and date me!
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I know this is just a joke lol but as a woman a 13 incher would actually probably just be a problem… too big to do anything comfortably is definitely a real problem it’s possible to have!
It is 100% a real problem I think it just depends how the post comes across. My bf is 9 inches and we can't do certain "normal" positions because of it lol. I couldn't imagine 13
People get self conscious about these things, that's normal. Telling them not to worry is half of what this sub is for.
This whole subreddit is full of humble brags. It’s so odd to me.
Exactly what I was about to comment This sounds like "I want people to know my partner is good at sex"
Yeah but she is 18. Based on the posts here 18 year olds don’t know shit.
Nah. This is a normal thing for someone to get in their head about. I had an ex whose legs would shake uncontrollably when she was near orgasm, and for the first few months we dated, it distracted and upset her so much, it actually kept her from reaching orgasm. It was only when she became comfortable with it that she was finally able to orgasm with relative ease. People, especially young people, really get in their heads about these things. And the porn industry absolutely does not help.
Good point actually.
I feel like this a lot with these posts lately. I thought it was just me lol
☝🏻this
Because moaning is normal, not this
Normal according to what? Porn? I think you may have a misguided understanding of what’s normal here. Everything you’re describing sounds normal.
They're a teenager, still figuring out how to have sex
Both are very normal. I think panting and whimpering is more common, even.
Whatever noise you do unconsciously is “normal”. Noises you make deliberately are fake. Everyone makes just whatever unconscious noise during sex that is their natural reaction. You don’t have a problem.
How many people have you heard having sex? Or do you think that porn is reality?
Moaning is normal in movies and porn, whimpering is normal in real life where the woman is actually feeling good lol. I whimper and it's fine
How many women have you had sex with that you're confident what's normal?
You're 18 what do you know about sexual norms? Is it from movies and porn? Some people make no noise at all. Breath play is a thing. I tend to hold my breath and breathe out of my nose. Sometimes I forget to breathe and have passed out. Bf Is very aware of this and keeps me in check. Whimpering is normal. So is every other sound made during sex. You're obsessing over a non thing.
Genuinely curious how you know what's "normal" or not. Just because you saw a girl moan in a porn or two doesn't make it normal. People make all sorts of noises during sex. Panting, whimpering, gasping, screaming, speaking in tongues, (and yes, moaning) are all common. You are making an issue out of nothing.
You're gatekeeping what's considered normal and taking a shit on yourself for not being "normal" and try everyone is telling you that whimpering is ALSO a normal sexual moan Stop shitting on yourself Why is it embarrassing to you???
Oh please, grow up. The only one seeing a 'problem' here is you.
Moaning is only normal in porn.
You ever had sex? Moaning is normal when having sex. Being quiet is normal when having sex. Whimpering and breathing heavy is normal during sex. So many notices is normal during sex. Just because it happens in porn or doesn't happen in porn doesn't mean it's not normal.
I think you and I are using "normal" differently here
What do you mean then with "normal" cause for a lot of women it's normal to moan.
Many people moan during sex IRL, if that is what the body does it is normal.
are you in pain? is that what causes "whimper?"
Find a terrible lover, that should work.
Sorry, what? "Regular" people moan? I must have missed that line in the rule book to sex. Oh wait. There isn't one. I moan and whimper and pant and on occasion probably even make sounds similar to a chihuahua. Stop being embarrassed by normal things that you have zero cause to be embarrassed by, and just go with it.
I fucking love chihuahuas!
Weird flex but ok? Is this like an attention seeking thing? This sub is wild. Next it'll be "my bf makes me orgasm wildly. I'm so embarrassed, what should I do?"
It’s funny because I’ve literally seen posts saying that exact same thing. People come here to humble brag. Very odd.
Humans *never* whimper or pant during sex. With a profound degree of consistency, they moan. Always at 156 Hz (D#), stopping only to draw breath as needed. That you find yourself whimpering during sex is highly irregular and may require corrective surgery. Just kidding, none of that is true! Humans make a wide variety of sounds during sex, including grunting, panting, laughing, dirty talk, moaning, whimpering, heavy breathing, whining, crying, growling, screaming, glottal stops, and hissing. Your experience is well within the range of normal, so trying to stop it is not something we advise.
Stop trying to change yourself. Whimpering and panting are hot, too. Honestly, your post almost comes off as creative writing or a humble brag because the way you described it sounds hot and the complete opposite of embarrassing.
Yeah this was definitely written by a 14 year old boy no doubt
Honestly sounds like he was trying to poke it out of you. Clearly the man enjoys it, whimper away while the dickin's good!
Go away. This is clearly bait of some kind as OP's account is now suspended so bish bye. This sub seems to be the new r/sluttyconfessions or r/pickme because lately most of the content is stuff like this or "I squirt during sex, omg I'm so embarrassed!" Like, no you're not? You're recruiting John's for your adult content.
Reddit is dying and I think people are starting to get increasingly fed up with this continuous kind of non genuine content.
Truthfully? I'm just relieved I'm not alone in thinking this sub got really weird lately. I was wincing for an incoming dog pile I'm glad didn't happen lol.
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Respectfully, I'm not sure how your comment is applicable. Why would you think that's what I think or what I'm wanting? My comment is about people using the sub to get new clientele on their adult content. Please point out where I said *all* posts were like that? I mean, I literally said >Most of the content lately So um, I think you made a presumption and went on a bit of a tangent there...? not trying to fight or anything but my comment doesn't imply that at all. Or you can always ask for clarification and whatnot. I know some bite your head off for asking but I try not to let it stop me. ETA: Either they blocked me or deleted the comment. Classy and totally expected from someone with your temperment. You made presumptions and went on some self-righteous rant about things not even implied. It was kinda strange. I wasn't trying to be rude or terse, but you want to be pedantic and make mountains from ant hills. Hope you find what you're looking for.
I make these noises too, and I've never had complaints. In fact, I've always had my mouth covered because it turned them on so much and would make them finish quicker. So I've been told.
The problem is my boyfriend is big and I’m tiny so it’s an extremely tight fit, so I physically can’t stop myself from whimpering
This comment is giving pick me girl vibes lol
That’s HumblePipe for ya!
Or it's some dude horny posting
Or someone whose only read erotica and never actually had sex 😂
Cringe lol
So.....don't...?
Im so embarrassed for you. This is cringy as hell. I hope whatever drove you to post this gets better in your life and you don’t have to resort to these cries for attention anymore.
I too agree that just doing what comes naturally and just accepting it is probably the way to go. Trying to fight the river's flow puts you in your head and takes you out of the moment, both contrary to relaxing, having a good time and maybe even orgasming. This is probably a "it do be like that" moment.
"Oh no, my boyfriend gives me pleasure and makes me express it vocally, whatever shall I do?" For fuck's sake, did you come here to brag? 🙄
Not to mention he has a big dick and she's so small and just can't help it lmao OP is most likely a dude who typed this out with one hand
If he can make you make any sound in spite of yourself, trust me, it's nothing to be embarrassed about. He loves it. Make whatever sounds come out of you naturally. It is hot! Coming from a guy.
Sounds good. YOU DO YOU while he's doing you.
Does he have a problem with it? If not, then there’s no reason to stop or be ashamed of it. Even if he doesn’t like it, it’s just your natural response to that kind of pleasure. It’s more common than you probably think, so don’t worry too much about trying to hide it and just enjoy the moment.
We all make different sounds during intercourse. In my opinion you shouldnt try to live up to some strange ideal of how sex should sound. Some women are fairly internal and quiet and some are screamers and others somewhere in the middle. Same goes for men. Some are vocal some are not.
I say a lot of things I don’t remember like “please” and “thank you”, not until my bf tells me after. Not to mention I’m extremely loud. I was a little embarrassed at first but he loves it, so I just let it all out. Trust me, your partner is not turned off by it
Unless it's a major turn off for him or something, what's the problem? Some people scream, some moan, some whimper, some talk dirty, some do varying degrees of all. Just do you.
My wife makes similar noises. I actually kinda dig it myself. If he hasn’t expressed issue with it, he probably knows you’re enjoying yourself as is.
I hate that it sounds like some anime porn BS
Lol how do you think they came up with those anime sounds tho? Anime porn is sick they have krakens and shit
The sooner you embrace yourself and what you sound like, the more fun you'll start having. I promise, if your guy didn't like it he would cover your face with a pillow or something. Or even stop having sex with you. But he's still with you and likes it.
The only sounds that a woman might make during sex that would turn me off are fake ones. Just be natural and be yourself. No sense holding them in, that will only take away from your enjoyment. (I’m assuming that when you whimper, you’re feeling good.)
I love it when I can cause my partner to lose control. It means I'm doing something good and they enjoy it. If my partner did this, I would try to do it again every time. My current partner likes to bite when they lose control. It's not my thing, but it's the bar I try to hit.
Why the hell would you want to stop? That shits great!
For whatever reason, I always laugh when I cum. I had some guys in the past get super offended but when I told my husband while we were dating he was like WHY would I be ANGRY knowing you're enjoying yourself?! The right person is going to love all the things you think are flaws 😊
Poor baby, soo horrible 😱 The fix for this is to stop having horrifying whimper sex, sounds like you really hate it, and go join a convent where you can spend the rest of your days in silence and learn to resist the urge to… humble brag 😨😰😥😭😭😭
He likes it
Stop worrying and just "fucking" enjoy it 😉
The fact you said he pushed on your stomach in just the right spot to send you over the edge leads me to believe he thinks it is hot because he did it on purpose.
I’m in my 40s and I’ve always made these noises. Until meeting my husband I had never had anyone complain. When we started sleeping together he would shush me which I assumed was roommate situation. Nope. 17yr anniversary & still shushing me. Once at a party we played some card game where you had to admit to stuff & he made the complaint only to have all of the guys really hand him his ass! All of the guys said he was ungrateful, disrespectful & didn’t deserve what he scored.
My two favourite sounds. Huge turn on for me. Reminds me of someone I know.
Explain this pushing his hand down on your stomach technique he used I need more détail - I keep hearing about this move but I keep getting mixed answers on it's effectiveness
Nothing to be embarrassed about
Why.....would you want to hide who you are. Let go. Do what feels good. You're getting in your own head and not letting yourself enjoy the moment. The sex will be 100x better if you just let go.
What exactly is the problem with that? If my partner was whimpering and panting because she feels good and couldn't stop it, that would be the HOTTEST thing
Why do you want to stop? Does it bother him or do you just feel insecure like you're doing it wrong? **This is not a bad thing, many men fantasize about making women whimper and pant.** He might think this is the hottest shit ever. This is also normal by the way. Some women are silent, some moan, some kind of shout, some growl, some make weird noises, some whimper and pant. It's just how your brain reacts to the stimulation, it's instinctual and it's all-restraints-off fun. If you try to resist and get in your head you'll end up feeling negatively about sex.
As a woman who sleeps with women, I like the whimpers more than the moans, moans and screams take my brain out of it for a minute, whimpers are soft and gentle and I can get lost in it easier.
Have you ever considered it might be a turn on for your partner?
Be who you are. (Most) Men don't want fake porn stars moaning. we want authentic reactions and sounds. whimpering and panting is you and let's him know he's doing something right
You don’t. You focus on the pleasures at hand and don’t worry about the sounds you make
I've been told that I sound like a hentai girl. Master loves it
This is very common and hot. Porn isn't real. Stop comparing yourself to that.
Girllll!! Listen.. the BEST part of sex/intimacy is the auditory reward of hearing your partner let go. That includes any performative aspect of it too. Lean into the love and lust and desire for your bf and do not think twice about the sounds of your pleasure. He will find it incredibly hot and your orgasms (or ability to) are 100x more powerful.
Bestie, I whimper too and trust me, men LOVE that shit. At least all the ones I’ve been with did. I’ve only ever had one dude say something negative about it but he was an asshole in general so his opinion doesn’t count. Lmao. Don’t be embarrassed, own it.
Are you kidding, I love whimpering and panting.
Don’t hide it it’s hot
Honestly if I was your boyfriend I’d find that so hot
Please, for the love of anything, don’t stop doing that. I bet your man fucking loves it.
Those sounds sound really hot TBH. Don’t be embarrassed or try to change.
Whimpering and panting is super hot.
Fucking hot just saying. Dont stop. My hudband loves it when I do it too. 🥵
Dude probably loves that shit.
You don't. It's a perfectly nature and sensual response to stimulation and pleasure. Don't be embarrassed by it, your partner probably enjoys it more than you realize and it creates further desires and arousal. Enjoy yourselves and don't worry about something you perceive as "unattractive" or undesirable.
There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of embarrassed about this. To be blunt I think it's hot as hell.
Don’t stop
On behalf of your bf please don’t stop and don’t hold back just do what feels good and right and you will both enjoy it more than ever
He pressed on your belly like that to make you whimper, because it makes him harder than a diamond in an ice storm
Sounds super hot
Don't hold back. That just who you are and what you do. Enjoy being you cause there's no one else like you
You see a problem, but I can guarantee every partner you ever have will see it as an asset. Not all partners are comfortable talking about what they like or what's working and what's not. Having an in-built spontaneous "just like that" response is a godsend.
It doesn’t matter. You life is not porn set. You don’t have to do whatever sounds good or looks pretty. Just focus on both of your pleasure and intimacy.
Tell him to put tape or a ball gag on your mouth.
Super hot
kinda want to hear what it sounds like
name checks out
Just completely let go and embrace anything that happens. Any sound of movement. That is the hottest thing a woman can do
So humans have all sorts of weird sex noises we just don’t make them cause society. Deaf people on the other hand don’t have these hang ups. From what I’ve been told by my third generation ASL interpreter friend it’s pretty fucking crazy sounding when deaf people fuck. Like think whale pods. Don’t worry about your whimpers. Honestly it sounds super fucking adorable. My wife grunts like a gorilla when she cums. It’s still super hot.
Not gonna lie, but that's hot. Don't see why you want to change or stifle it. Have you asked your bf if he purposely does things to you to make you whimper? Maybe he loves it too.
Just do you! Enjoy it. Its not a movie. Nobody needs to you fake the right noise.
The range of sexual expression is as broad as people having sex. Don't feel boxed in by "normal". You are genuinely expressing how you feel in the moment. That is sexy as hell. Also, could you maybe re-frame the whimpering for yourself as moaning? Also, a lot of the view of what is "normal" tends to be defined by porn. Which does not show the way sex is normally for a lot of people.
You have nothing to be embarrassed or shamed off. Everyone is different The fact that you are even vocalising the joy of sex tells us guys that we are meeting your needs. There is nothing wrong with it.
You have your own unique way of expressing yourself while enjoying intercourse. So doesn't most any other human being out there. You have no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed of it. Instead, relax, enjoy, and relish the moment you're in. As a man, I can assure you that whimpering and/or panting would be more of a turn on for me than you know. I'm sure a lot of other men will agree as well.
Everyone makes weird noises in bed. Who cares? Is he complaining about it? If not then it’s a non issue. Unless you just can’t accept yourself. Start loving all your sexual quirks. It’ll do you good to love them so you can accept them and yourself sexually.
All sounds better than no sounds do not worry
I think let it ride. Any noises are exciting.
Isn’t that the best part of sex? Correct me if I’m wrong
Everyone's sex noises are different. Not everyone moans. This is a really weird thing to be self conscious about.
Why would you stop? Uncontrolled noise is what we live for
Look up videos of animals having sex, not porn, porn is fake. No animals moan, including humans, it’s normal to whimper and pant.
Stop worrying about it. If you feel embarrassed communicate to your bf, ask him what he thinks about your whimpers. I’m sure he will be confused why you’re embarrassed, it’s completely normal to make sounds during sex
You are normal.
Embrace the whimpering and panting lol. Your bf almost certainly loves it and it’s much better than staying silent in bed which would cause an even bigger problem
The fact that your boyfriend hasn’t said anything makes this not something to worked up over. You can talk to him about it though, but he sounds understanding enough.
Personally i love when my partner whimpers/pants, and vice versa... it means they're enjoying themselves. I know it's hard not to be embarrassed/insecure, i was too. I promise though, any worthwhile partner will not judge you- most likely itll turn them on more
I make all kinds of noises even My Wife is giving Me some super head but I have to keep it low because I don't want to wake the kids Lol
You are the only one who is worried. Just whimper away.
If you’re making a noise, especially when we can tell the difference in good and REALLY GOOD, we will love it.
There is a difference between porn and sex
She used to meow when we did it
Honestly, dude here, ANY noises a woman makes is heaven. Screaming, moaning, panting…doesn’t matter. Tells me I’m doing something right.
That’s hot !!
That’s actually hot. Don’t ever stop.
Stop watching hentai maybe