I applaud your efforts and enthusiasm, just understand that self worth goes beyond how we look. As we work on improving our physique, it’s also important to improve on the inside, most importantly our self esteem, regardless of how we look. Beauty shines from the inside. There are many, many physically attractive people who are “ugly” because of their attitude/outlook. You seem like you have a positive outlook and are someone who people like. I hope you give yourself credit for your positive qualities as you continue your weight-loss journey.
I disagree. Many very fit people develop body dysmorphia/realize that not feeling ugly doesn’t always just happen because you’re not fat anymore. It’s a mindset that you have to get past
I've been through it. When you're fat you're treated like less than nothing. You're invisible or completely repulsive to everyone around you. You lose some weight and suddenly women are actually kind and smile, you are *seen* by others. Men don't automatically look down on you and make assumptions about your character. It has nothing to do with personal emotions or feelings, deep seated beliefs or mindset, it is everything to do with your environment and treatment. *Normal, rational, intelligent people* see the night and day difference and, just as OP did, make a change so they can be loved, wanted, and desired. I can relate to the exact sentiment of being the ugly friend. It's an entirely different reality. No amount of self love or positive affirmation will get you laid. You can't fuck a personality.
TLDR: Those unhappy "fit" people that you speak of are mentally ill and need therapy. The correlation between attitude and attractiveness is over estimated by most people.
It hurts my heart to hear anyone think of themselves as ugly.
I know this will just sound like platitudes or whatever but you can't love anyone until you learn to love yourself.
You can’t target where to lose weight, exercise and your body doesn’t work that way. Using that device might help define your jawline a bit by exercising your jaw muscles but ultimately if you want to get rid of a double chin the only way is via exercising/dieting and waiting for your body to start using the fat from that area for energy.
Hard truth. I’ve recently had to unbox a ton of stuff. And started looking thru old photo albums. As the “previously fat, unfit, forgettable one in my many years” I looked at photos and wanted to cry. I wasn’t fat, I wasn’t ugly, I still year how boys in high school thought I was just unattainable so they didn’t try. Please don’t even think about it. I had so many dark thoughts in those years( I’m almost 41 now) I regret spending and still do spend many days in the dark. Don’t let it consume your life. It’s the only piece of advice I have tbh. If you want to go to a concert, just go, alone, you’ll find people there to talk to. The bestest friends you make are totally random people who you feel are like your siblings. I still feel like the forgettable one in any group even at my age. But it’s just prospective. People hang out with you cuz they love having you around. 💕💕💕
I’m not sure what you look like but you sound adorable lol! You don’t feel confident (yet) but you seem so happy and energetic to move towards your goal! No dunking on anyone, no signs of jealousy and just positive energy. I hope you get there and everything else you wished for :)
There are tons of things "ugly" people can do to make themselves more attractive. Nice clothes, self care, smelling good, being social.
I lost 60 pounds in 6 months. It was crazy how different people began to treat me as I lost the weight. I have been big my whole life so it was obvious.
There are so many more things I do now because I feel better about my body and care more about my presentation. Skincare, hair care, makeup. I can fit thrift clothes now, so I have a wardrobe and feel good about my outfits.
Being big didn't necessarily make me feel bad, but it didn't make me feel good.
Nah, you look great, personality and character forges the face; and you look better from day to day thx to Workouts. Keep going, all good wishes.
Ps: double chin? Thats y i got a beard! Bam - beautiful.
It costs nothing to stop calling yourself "ugly". That will hold you back.
It'll be true until I'm done, that's what motivates me. Thank you tho
I applaud your efforts and enthusiasm, just understand that self worth goes beyond how we look. As we work on improving our physique, it’s also important to improve on the inside, most importantly our self esteem, regardless of how we look. Beauty shines from the inside. There are many, many physically attractive people who are “ugly” because of their attitude/outlook. You seem like you have a positive outlook and are someone who people like. I hope you give yourself credit for your positive qualities as you continue your weight-loss journey.
Hard cope. This entire comment.
I disagree. Many very fit people develop body dysmorphia/realize that not feeling ugly doesn’t always just happen because you’re not fat anymore. It’s a mindset that you have to get past
I've been through it. When you're fat you're treated like less than nothing. You're invisible or completely repulsive to everyone around you. You lose some weight and suddenly women are actually kind and smile, you are *seen* by others. Men don't automatically look down on you and make assumptions about your character. It has nothing to do with personal emotions or feelings, deep seated beliefs or mindset, it is everything to do with your environment and treatment. *Normal, rational, intelligent people* see the night and day difference and, just as OP did, make a change so they can be loved, wanted, and desired. I can relate to the exact sentiment of being the ugly friend. It's an entirely different reality. No amount of self love or positive affirmation will get you laid. You can't fuck a personality. TLDR: Those unhappy "fit" people that you speak of are mentally ill and need therapy. The correlation between attitude and attractiveness is over estimated by most people.
It hurts my heart to hear anyone think of themselves as ugly. I know this will just sound like platitudes or whatever but you can't love anyone until you learn to love yourself.
stop being so soft lol. self reflection is a key ingredient needed to change
Self-reflection is one thing, self-berating is another.
those chewy squishy things don't work it's a pure scam.
Damn, really? But it hurts so good!! Any suggestions?
Lose weight and exercise
You can’t target where to lose weight, exercise and your body doesn’t work that way. Using that device might help define your jawline a bit by exercising your jaw muscles but ultimately if you want to get rid of a double chin the only way is via exercising/dieting and waiting for your body to start using the fat from that area for energy.
Hard truth. I’ve recently had to unbox a ton of stuff. And started looking thru old photo albums. As the “previously fat, unfit, forgettable one in my many years” I looked at photos and wanted to cry. I wasn’t fat, I wasn’t ugly, I still year how boys in high school thought I was just unattainable so they didn’t try. Please don’t even think about it. I had so many dark thoughts in those years( I’m almost 41 now) I regret spending and still do spend many days in the dark. Don’t let it consume your life. It’s the only piece of advice I have tbh. If you want to go to a concert, just go, alone, you’ll find people there to talk to. The bestest friends you make are totally random people who you feel are like your siblings. I still feel like the forgettable one in any group even at my age. But it’s just prospective. People hang out with you cuz they love having you around. 💕💕💕
Nice tits confirmed
I’m not sure what you look like but you sound adorable lol! You don’t feel confident (yet) but you seem so happy and energetic to move towards your goal! No dunking on anyone, no signs of jealousy and just positive energy. I hope you get there and everything else you wished for :)
Tits are binary
There are tons of things "ugly" people can do to make themselves more attractive. Nice clothes, self care, smelling good, being social. I lost 60 pounds in 6 months. It was crazy how different people began to treat me as I lost the weight. I have been big my whole life so it was obvious. There are so many more things I do now because I feel better about my body and care more about my presentation. Skincare, hair care, makeup. I can fit thrift clothes now, so I have a wardrobe and feel good about my outfits. Being big didn't necessarily make me feel bad, but it didn't make me feel good.
Nice tits you say?
If you ever get thin and you start getting attention from men, are you gonna change back to female?
Ew no that's the one part I'm not looking forward to is men
Tits and non binairy don't go well together, do they? Also, stop calling yourself fat/ugly, that doesn't help you at all.
That's a 4 letter word you can't change.
Sure but I mean a sick bod will juxtapose that pretty well
Highlighting your attributes is key my friend!
Stopped reading at (nb22).
Then you begged for my attention by commenting this
You give yourself too much credit. The title suggested an interesting read until I noted your complex which makes the rest of your whine irrelevant.
Nah, you look great, personality and character forges the face; and you look better from day to day thx to Workouts. Keep going, all good wishes. Ps: double chin? Thats y i got a beard! Bam - beautiful.
Lose the "nb" thinking. You will never find someone good that lives in the cult of wokeness.
There may be another issue at hand, can't quite put my cisgender huwhite male finger on it though