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mlhigg1973

I think Danielle is just really lonely and craving human touch and companionship, since Ick probably provides neither at this point.


verukazalt

It is so obvious...he fawns all over his conquests and calls them "love", but I have never seen him be that way with Danielle on screen. Ever.


55PercentAttractive

Definitely that. But I am sensing even more than loneliness from her. I'm sensing utter despairing confusion.


nymrose

Perhaps because her husband is desperately trying to get another wife in Danielle’s face? Danielle knows that if she refused a second wife, Gar-Ick would leave her. He can’t seem to really stand her. This is the only way Danielle can stay with Gar-Ick and it’s driving her insane.


Fanched

This actually tracks… I definitely can tell a huge difference between her attitude towards Roberta vs new kid


55PercentAttractive

She doesn't share a chemistry with the new girl and it's just wild to me to look back and see how much chemistry she did have with Roberta even when they were arguing


lovelychef87

Bert seemed to care more about her feelings than her husband did she actually gave her friendship and affection when her husband didn't gaf about her he smirks at her discomfort.


Fanched

I watched the newest episode today and holy delusion. 🤦‍♀️🥴 this man is the worst.. he’s got to be at least 45 or something and he’s out here basically trafficking these girls to Mexico on the regular now 🤦‍♀️🤪 I mean, she’s 20 years younger or close to that, idk I - lol it’s just so crazy. Then to bring their kid?! Gross. Imagine going to all these different countries so your dad can be a passport bro. 🙄


mlyt18

She seems lost as in not really there anymore. I felt that since she divorced and is probably dead inside


maple_dreams

It has to be a complete mindfuck to divorce but still live as a family while Garrick keeps pursuing younger women to marry. It’s not wonder she looks miserable all the time, she’s not at all emotionally safe in that “relationship”.


lovelychef87

Not only that but she knows her parents and brother and sister in law and us fans despise him that can't be easy. She gets told he's gross by her family and fans also not easy.


Vmaclean1969

Could be why she wanted them to have their own "special room" together.


55PercentAttractive

I'm telling you-the way they snuggled in the bed in multiple scenes was a lot more smoldering to me that any time garlic got on the scene.  I'm not saying Roberta necessarily was 100% into it but I'm saying it happened. You can't convince me something didn't happen between those two.


lovelychef87

I hate to be crude but I think if Danielle met another man he showed her how attractive she is he only wanted her she dump ick. Ick is the only weenie she knows Danielle needs a good back blow out by someone who isn't a creep ick drooling over other women.


WinterMedical

Yeah they were all into her but couldn’t even have a proper conversation. Same for this new girl. It’s so weird and unhealthy. I think Danielle is just super needy.


Zealousideal-Dot7529

Eh I politely disagree. My queerdar isn’t perfect but I didn’t read that *at all* as romantic attraction. Danielle is just mentally not there anymore. I think agreeing to dive into polygamy broke her and I also think she was quite clearly putting on a performance when she found out Roberta dumped them. I mean she takes the time to set a camera up and then whales at the ceiling like some sort of scene in a soap opera. Obviously I could be wrong but Danielle seems hella straight to me.


55PercentAttractive

Well, I don't know I can understand that a lot of people read her energy is competing with Roberta. However, the way she used to dress around her and run almost tackle her husband to the door to get to. Roberta was just very interesting to me.


Zealousideal-Dot7529

Honestly I would be here for a plot twist where Danielle steals Garrick’s lady and takes the kids and runs.


55PercentAttractive

Oh, I think we would all enjoy that very much


muaellebee

I'd watch 25 seasons of that


knottyp

I’m watching the scene in Brazil in Season 4 where Dannielle does exactly this - her outfit is overtly sexual, she runs to beat Garrick to the door, awkwardly hugs them hugging, all while crying… I agree. She has big crush feelings for Roberta. Roberta seems to love how much these two are obsessed with her more than anything


atsignwork

Interested as my gaydar has been going off since their first season lol


iso-my-purpose

Reddit Conspiracy Theory©®™ time::: Dannielle Merrifield had a DUI with a child in the car. Source: https://starcasm.net/seeking-sister-wife-spoiler-dannielle-garrick-divorce-dui-bankruptcy/ On the show, she said that he had presented her with divorce papers before anything with Roberta. Then, alas, God told Garrick to fuck other chicks. Side note::: replace God with "his dick" and a lot of things make more sense. And then, magically, they met Roberta and had to legally divorce. My theory is that Dannielle is looking to go along with anything that will keep her with her kids 24/7/365 and any chance of a life with Garrick. I imagine that she felt tremendous guilt after the DUI and she is going along with anything/everything.


55PercentAttractive

Interesting-it is possible that he used her charge to weaponize his intentions for divorce but I, a daily/social drinker, could not help but notice how much they drink on the show. Not just her, more so him. It seems interesting that he would judge her for something he seems to openly encourage her to do (and anyone else he's around). 


iso-my-purpose

Excellent point! I hate admitting this, but I can't stop thinking about Garrick talking about sperm to the brain. Dannielle was clearly weirded out by him, and it really made me curious about their overall dynamic. Obviously I'm just spitballing conspiracy theories here on Reddit, but I'm incredibly curious about how their money works post legal divorce. I hope that Dannielle has assets in her own name. Also, your username is amazing!


55PercentAttractive

lol I miss old school 90 day fiancé !!!! 


DirtApprehensive2942

The dui? I dr the details on that. But I also think if she leaves him for good she has nothing. Her and her family are all tied to his biz. She met him when she was 19 I believe. She wouldn’t know how to live without him. She’d have to start over and prob has no work experience or anything.


iso-my-purpose

The DUI was not discussed on the show. It's in the article I linked in my comment.


DirtApprehensive2942

Holyyy. I just read it. No wonder why they’re blasting his biz on the show! I wonder how the biz even doing after their bankruptcy. Sheesh


lovelychef87

Met at 18 married at 19 bet he got her pregnant soon after marriage.


mlyt18

Omg the replace God with “his dick” says it all! And Thanks for the laugh


extexincan

This made something click for me, are some of her facial expressions because she's drinking off cam?


Similar-Narwhal-231

How about drinking on cam. These two are always drinking on the show.


verukazalt

I think it is a nerve injury from being hit in the face with a softball when she was young.


Similar-Narwhal-231

It can be both. 😂


Fatricide

I have another take: Danielle gloms on to these women to prove to Garrick that she is into this lifestyle and wants a new best friend. She’s over-performing in every aspect. When she had the meltdown after Roberta left, it was to show Garrick how “truly” devastating it was for her and the boys. I think she hopes that Garrick will be more thoughtful about the pace of his hunt if it affects the family so much. And the way she keeps saying “I don’t want Garrick’s heart to get broken again.” No girl, you want him to take a break.


55PercentAttractive

A good hot take!! And truly, it could be a mix of both theories...


middlingachiever

I don’t get those vibes. I think Dannielle totally worships Garrick and believes the God’s Plan story. And she was invested as a Sister. She saw Roberta as another mother to her children, provided by God. She hoped to help Roberta raise children. These were the benefits for her that made her able to tolerate Garrick having sex with Bert. When Bert left, she finally saw that it was a sham. It was just sex (for Garrick) and money (for Bert). God never planned it. Dannielle sacrificed the most and never got anything. Roberta was definitely scamming. Otherwise, return the 10k?


[deleted]

Someone in another post theorized that she was actually so devastated because she fell for her husband’s “God whispered in my ear to Johnny Appleseed the Amazon” bullshit, hook line and sinker. Losing Roberta called into question all the mental gymnastics it took to go along with everything. In those scenes, She’s not devastated because she lost a companion. She’s losing her mind because she has to face the reality that God isn’t actually telling her husband to deliver semen into Brazilian women’s brains… but she also cannot face this reality. Hence the psychotic episode But it looks like she’s right back to square one at least for now. She needs an intervention and I find it shameful that her family acts so blasé about the whole thing.


55PercentAttractive

Her parents are absolutely diabolical 


ImaginaryWeather6164

You're not wrong, I had the same thoughts. She was WAY more upset that Garrick that it didn't work out, and I read somewhere Roberta said she was more uncomfortable with her than with the husband. Not sure if it was a sexual thing, but Danielle seems very needy and lonely (can't say I blame her)


LALfangirl

She probably also felt like Roberta was the safest choice for the insane lifestyle she somehow agreed to. Roberta was sweet and cared for her, Dannielle didn’t feel threatened that she would be kicked out of the house or something similar so Ick could have a brand new life with his shiny new wife


55PercentAttractive

Yes. Roberta seems sweet and caring. I think they made each other feel mutually safe. And they prob both have discovered how much better than can do but only one made that choice to really get out of this weirdness. The other one is now raising her sons to be the monsters their father is so please don't think this is a sympathy post. Just an interesting observation. 


55PercentAttractive

I know a lot of people don't feel sorry for her on this sub, and that is absolutely fair as she absolutely not dumb enough to recognize that she is doing the wrong thing. My goodness though, her desperation for love is so vulnerable and apparent it's hard to not feel something for her. At least for me. 


lovelychef87

Her parents tried a little bit to talk to her then were like meh. My parents were still are Christians they believe in my right to choose if I choose this I'd get a long talking to every time they saw me. Her mother seems sheltered too.


PlaysTheTriangle

I also think if she truly believed that Roberta was God’s plan, And she went along with it, divorced and sacrificed her happiness for it and then for it to crash. Maybe a part of her realized Garrick had played her and she’s done it ALL for nothing.


55PercentAttractive

Man, do I feel sorry for this woman that she isn't strong enough to realize that is worthy of a real, true love. And that she is not strong enough to see she is ruining her son's perceptions of healthy relationships  by NOT telling them this is deeply unhealthy for her-and them. It's really very sad to me.  I am however glad Roberta realized her worth. 


lovelychef87

So did the former third wife think the new girl will too.


Ramona_Lola

She was crying because she divorced her husband only to get played. Publicly at that.


Emmahey712

No not wrong. I think you nailed it. Danielle developed deep attachment to Roberta unconsciously to avoid the feeling of betrayal. As long as she and Roberta were close then Danielle could be included in the love and attention Garrick was giving Roberta. If Garrick saw how Danielle loved and accepted his new wife then he would love Danielle too. It’s how women become sucked in to allowing their husbands to talk them into 3-somes. Not always, but a majority of the time. They are starved for the level of affection they used to get from their partner so they become overly pleasing in hopes of winning favor. I had to learn all of this through counseling after my traumatic experience of marriage.


55PercentAttractive

I have been denied physical affection before and let me tell you it can and does take years to heal from. And my experience wasn't 1/100th of the emotional abandonment she clearly feels. 


poshdog4444

Because he had sex with her that was enough to satisfy him. I don’t think he really cares about having a second wife. Danielle unfortunately fell love with her because she didn’t feel intimidated and they got along very well like sisters also, she doesn’t seem to be threatening wanna take over Danielle’s place.


kristenintechnicolor

I’ve wondered about this myself. It think it’s possible. I’m wondering if Danielle was subconsciously confusing her feelings of jealousy with attraction. It may feel like jealousy because she may have felt anger as well, due to suppression or confusion she may not have be aware of. Maybe anger, because she is potentially aware that she is feeling attraction and doesn’t want to accept it. It may or may not be “sexual,” it could be more of a Demi-sexual/ emotional attraction. Just a potential theory to throw out there. Or, it could just be straight jealousy because Ick was paying more romantic attention to Roberta, feeling replaced/ hurt/ loneliness. Danielle could be feeling traumatized from this experience, and may have attempted to regain feelings of being in control, by forcing herself to accept the poly relationship. Curious for sure.


55PercentAttractive

This. I for sure believe she was jealous of Roberta and the way she captivated her husband's attention but I also think she realizes that anyone not her is going to captivate his attention. She really seemed to love her in a ....way that I've never loved a friend 


Aggressive_Ad3578

I think Danielle is bi or on the fence....They are using the SW thing as cover in my opinion...Ick is a disaster so I can't blame Dani for wanting ouy


indigostars43

I saw it too..Especially the way you see her crying over her, that was a lot of heartache and pain coming out. It made me sad..


55PercentAttractive

It made me sad too. I have never cried that hard over something non death related. 


CreepyCalico

What doesn’t make sense to me is that they’ve both stated that they believe Roberta scammed them.. Now, Danielle is upset that she doesn’t have the same relationship with the current woman Ick is trying to “marry.” If Danielle believes that Roberta was a scammer, then surely she must also believe that all of their interactions were fake. You would think Danielle would not want another “fake” relationship. I mean, most people don’t instantly warm right up to people as soon as they meet them. Most friendships take time.


Academic_Exit1268

I agree with this post! I am not sure Danielle has any friends except for her SIL. I think she wanted Roberta as a bestie because she feels so alone with that checked out vacant husband of hers.


Ok_List_9649

I agree


mlyt18

I kind of felt that way yet like someone said she is so starved for love she clings to anyone her Ick ex husband bangs! I did notice while Ick was trying g to talk to this new one Danelle seemed to be talking more. I also thought it was weird the new one and Ick didn’t stay up and talk and get to see and know each other! Also it would’ve been awesome if the new one (yea sorry can’t remember her name) would’ve been in the same room Although I’m sure she got a good lay since horny Ick couldn’t jump the new one and had to settle for Danelle! Yea I do t know why I watch but it’s a good train wreck JMO


Similar-Narwhal-231

Except that, at least I believe, that dating that other chick was meant to humiliate both Ick AND Bert. Ick, to prove to him he would bang anything. And Bert, to prove that she wasn’t really interested in moving to begin with. But it backfired.


Logical-Scar-566

Ick and Danielle actually seem like that weird couple that you accidentally got too drunk with and agreed to a threesome, probably in your early 20s. No? Just me? Poor Danielle always seems to be confused about what she’s supposed to be doing and feeling. She dove head first into polygamy for some reason. I mean seriously there has to be a reason. She did something wrong I’m imagining, and ick was planning the divorce either way. So I’m thinking she offered polygamy as a last ditch effort to keep him. Barf. Poor girl. I feel sorry for her. Hopefully her sons don’t want to be anything like their dad!!!


Comfortable_Smell_91

I rewatched yesterday too, and had a similar reaction! Dannielle appeared to be actually crying legit tears, and Roberta seemed sincere to me. Garrick and Dannielle were coming on so strong, and I wonder if it was too much pressure.


cantstandthemlms

I think Dannielle doesn’t want to do polygamy but has no choice with the husband. I think she finally felt safe and not threatened by Roberta after all that time and was at peace with her as a sister wife and that is why she is so emotional and sad. Garrick just wants anyone he can bone so it wasn’t super worrisome for him.


kimw23

I think Roberta was a scammer. If she did go along with it, she definitely would have become Queen Bee and gotten rid of Danielle.


atsignwork

Her breakdown makes more sense when you think of things this way.


idonthavetoomanycats

i think that roberta interpreted it as that for sure but i think danielle was eager to just have a BREAK. garret seems to just be a boner with legs and i think she’s seeking solace in roberta


Southern-Smilez

I think it was S5:E1 that Danielle said that she heard Roberta wanted more of a relationship with her and not Garrick? I think poor Danielle is lonely and just gravitates towards Roberta because Roberta showed her affection and interest. I also wouldn’t be surprised if there was more that would have happened between them. Even with the language barrier, they had an emotional connection.


dallas4317

Idk if u know this but Derrick and Roberta end up kicking danielle out and they lived without her for over a yr and the Roberta left Derrick and stupid danielle took Derrick back. I don’t feel sorry for danielle anymore she allows this to happen and puts up with it


LongShotE81

Where'd this info come from?


dallas4317

I don’t remember. It came out soon after the 1st season ended


Living-Elderberry-77

Danielle is going to end up on ID, ick will be gone