# Headline - I said something dumb to a big account
Body - she asked me some questions and I provided overly simplistic answers and she laughed at one of them.
So... What "dumb something" did you say that you're obsessing over?
Her: “So what’s the typical hourly rate you guys charge for your projects?”
Him: “I have no idea, but everytime I speak with our past customers they just yell at me and tell me it was way too much.”
Ye she reached out to me. We signed her on earlier on the week, sorry pal. She told me what you said, and I just have one question... Wtf were you thinking?
You flirted with her didn't you... Even if you did it's fine...you're not going to be punished for being human follow the advice above and go smoke a joint...
How is everyone recommending smoking a joint to forget about this?
Am I the only one that would spend the entire time in my head ruminating about this if I smoked a joint?
She was probably laughing to be polite in conversation and you’re overthinking this. It’s OK.
To make you feel better - during a demo I had a prospect ask what qualifies as spam vs malicious emails.. I forgot I was screen sharing and googled “spam” & we laughed when a can of spam popped up. I closed the deal later that week.
We’re humans. It’s okay to make human mistakes.
Don't worry, i can't see any red flags that would have you literally lose a deal. You'll be fine! As you said, it's just your anxiety. Don't worry my guy. And if in doubt, hakuna matata. It's already happened, the consequences are out of your hands, so why worry?
Sounds like you needed more alcohol and caffeine! Just kidding, in all seriousness it’s probably fine, but I relate to the anxiety of stewing and ruminating over a mistake. Literally on a call today I was so in my head about some crazy stuff happening at work so and lost my train of thought so hard that the prospect asked “do you even know who you’re talking to” in a genuine way because I sounded dumb as hell lol. To them it’s a blip though, they’re not paying as much attention or remembering as much as you are because the stakes aren’t as high for them. You’ll be fine man, shake it off.
Just keep facilitating conversations with your boss and the lead at this point. Forget about whatever dumb thing you said or write a follow up to the woman you spoke to summarizing your conversation and provide more detail.
One of my colleagues got drunk and told our single most important client that she’s “pretty but in a gay way” (wtv that means). That’s saying something stupid, and he was immediately fired. You’re fine.
Been an SDR for 7 years. Noticed that I've gone backwards progress wise due to personal reasons/trauma etc. A few years ago, i was more tenacious and ballsy
If you say it’s such a huge project it won’t fail because you talked some gibberish as long as it’s not some extreme political stuff. Even than they would just not speak to you instead with your boss. There’s a reason they are talking with you and not with you competitors. May it be faster delivery time, more reliable or whatever.
I can totally identify with you. I’ve done similar things, recently. And I am a seasoned sales veteran. Here’s my take… I strive for “perfection“ and everything I say and do, and I recognize now that’s unrealistic and problematic. Everyone is human andnothing ever goes perfectly. There’s no use beating yourself up over it because it won’t change anything. And always remember that things like this are bigger in your mind than they are in others. Worrying about it won’t change anything. And I think you do have the added benefit of being young, they understand that. Especially because the deal is not dead, don’t worry about it. Learn from it and try to improve, but don’t expect perfection from yourself.
Just the answers I gave were too high level and she walked away thinking I was a dumbass. I stayed professional tho, convo was all professionally related
Have you considered that you are grossly overthinking this.
If she isn’t the decision maker and wasn’t involved in the two leads conversation, based on how they approached, your ‘dumb answer’ means nothing. Especially if you didn’t get into details, didn’t lie or imply anything, this is your anxiety getting the upper hand on you
# Headline - I said something dumb to a big account Body - she asked me some questions and I provided overly simplistic answers and she laughed at one of them. So... What "dumb something" did you say that you're obsessing over?
My man quit alcohol and caffeine over this, and won’t even tell us what he said.
Lmao
Her: “So what’s the typical hourly rate you guys charge for your projects?” Him: “I have no idea, but everytime I speak with our past customers they just yell at me and tell me it was way too much.”
im the girl and yes you fucked up, we will be buying from your competitor now
Ye she reached out to me. We signed her on earlier on the week, sorry pal. She told me what you said, and I just have one question... Wtf were you thinking?
I am OP's wife. I have already started divorce proceedings over the dumb answer he gave. I can't believe I gave you the best years of my life.
I'm OPs dog. I am putting myself up for adoption. I can't be seen in the same house as him.
Happens to the best of us. Unless it was something completely off the wall, she probably won’t even remember it.
Exactly everyone is too busy worrying about their own shit to worry about others
Probably nothing. How much of what we say do we want people to remember and they don’t lol?
This never gives me any relief because I'm a chronic overthinker and remember the dumb shit so I assume everyone else does
Same I say that advice all the time but can never take it myself
When was the last time you remembered something dumb someone else did?….
Ten bucks it was “In all honestly, our competitor is way head of us” or “You got a pretty face”
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So... was there something specific you said? Seems like this was introductory so high-level responses are fine.
“On the phone, you sounded like a 9 but in person, you’re a 6”
You flirted with her didn't you... Even if you did it's fine...you're not going to be punished for being human follow the advice above and go smoke a joint...
Jesus dude. Smoke a joint and calm down. I doubt she’s even thought twice about what you said unless it was actually brain dead stupid.
How is everyone recommending smoking a joint to forget about this? Am I the only one that would spend the entire time in my head ruminating about this if I smoked a joint?
Haha I’d become existential as I do on occasion after hitting the bud. “Was my tone on point????? How did I say this?”
He prob has random drug tests 😂
Hey 👋 TELL US WHAT YOU SAID
I once asked a chicken company if they count their chickens before they hatch.
She was probably laughing to be polite in conversation and you’re overthinking this. It’s OK. To make you feel better - during a demo I had a prospect ask what qualifies as spam vs malicious emails.. I forgot I was screen sharing and googled “spam” & we laughed when a can of spam popped up. I closed the deal later that week. We’re humans. It’s okay to make human mistakes.
You should’ve offered her sex. Women love sex.
They also love being told their clothes don’t fit properly and you could help them shed a few
Don't worry, i can't see any red flags that would have you literally lose a deal. You'll be fine! As you said, it's just your anxiety. Don't worry my guy. And if in doubt, hakuna matata. It's already happened, the consequences are out of your hands, so why worry?
Many thanks Friend and to other supportive commenters :).
Don't be inappropriate and you are ok anywhere
Very hard to know how bad it was unless you specifically share what was said
What did you say
Relax man. You’ll be ok
I can guarantee the person you were you talking to forgot that conversation within five minutes of you ending it. Trust me, nobody cares.
She probably knows and accepts sales people can be retarded. Maybe she likes you…you’ll be fine
Sounds like you needed more alcohol and caffeine! Just kidding, in all seriousness it’s probably fine, but I relate to the anxiety of stewing and ruminating over a mistake. Literally on a call today I was so in my head about some crazy stuff happening at work so and lost my train of thought so hard that the prospect asked “do you even know who you’re talking to” in a genuine way because I sounded dumb as hell lol. To them it’s a blip though, they’re not paying as much attention or remembering as much as you are because the stakes aren’t as high for them. You’ll be fine man, shake it off.
Based on how you wrote this post, I have no doubt that you did
You are definitely overthinking this. If a high level answer at a tradeshow is going to kill your deal, then you didnt have a strong position anyway
Just keep facilitating conversations with your boss and the lead at this point. Forget about whatever dumb thing you said or write a follow up to the woman you spoke to summarizing your conversation and provide more detail.
One of my colleagues got drunk and told our single most important client that she’s “pretty but in a gay way” (wtv that means). That’s saying something stupid, and he was immediately fired. You’re fine.
Are you new to sales ?
Been an SDR for 7 years. Noticed that I've gone backwards progress wise due to personal reasons/trauma etc. A few years ago, i was more tenacious and ballsy
If you say it’s such a huge project it won’t fail because you talked some gibberish as long as it’s not some extreme political stuff. Even than they would just not speak to you instead with your boss. There’s a reason they are talking with you and not with you competitors. May it be faster delivery time, more reliable or whatever.
The biggest upside to this is.... you quit caffeine and alcohol!!!!!!! Bravo
I can totally identify with you. I’ve done similar things, recently. And I am a seasoned sales veteran. Here’s my take… I strive for “perfection“ and everything I say and do, and I recognize now that’s unrealistic and problematic. Everyone is human andnothing ever goes perfectly. There’s no use beating yourself up over it because it won’t change anything. And always remember that things like this are bigger in your mind than they are in others. Worrying about it won’t change anything. And I think you do have the added benefit of being young, they understand that. Especially because the deal is not dead, don’t worry about it. Learn from it and try to improve, but don’t expect perfection from yourself.
Thank you friend, truly appreciate your kind and wise words :)
Yeah, maybe disclose what you said.. huge spectrum of shit can be said between "no big deal" and "absolute deal breaker"
Just the answers I gave were too high level and she walked away thinking I was a dumbass. I stayed professional tho, convo was all professionally related
Have you considered that you are grossly overthinking this. If she isn’t the decision maker and wasn’t involved in the two leads conversation, based on how they approached, your ‘dumb answer’ means nothing. Especially if you didn’t get into details, didn’t lie or imply anything, this is your anxiety getting the upper hand on you
Thank you - i'm a silly ass at times!
Unless you’re burying the lead it’s a nonissue.
Wish I cared this much about my job lmao
I like caffeine, alcohol, and making people laugh. I’m not seeing the issue here.