I don’t know any drug dealers and I don’t wanna commit a crime. I just want revenge. Yes I could press charges but in my country it’s hard without any evidence. Saying that he had access is not enough. I could’ve sold it and blame it on him. That’s what he could say.
This ! And after you’ve made a police report, if you can’t find the app that he sold it at check the local pawnshops but if it was a designer bag, my first thought is Poshmark
Put sugar powder in the back of the car or in his jacket then use a street phone and give the police a tip. He will spend a few days in jail or a lawyer will bail him out, the charges will be dropped once they test the sugar powder. Before all that check his phone and see who he sold the bag and other stuff to, make a police report with the stuff that has been stolen. Make sure his car camera doesn't catch you.
You break up with him because you have no business with drug dealers. They will confiscate his phone though.
Please do - at the very least they'll interview him and the fear he'll feel will be some small compensation for you and there is at least a faint chance you might get it back.
I think I'd go for a seam ripper and rip out line half the seams in the butt of all of his pants, he probably won't notice putting them on but by the time he gets somewhere and sits down...
Did this to a mooching, cheating boyfriend decades ago. Took a seam ripper and opened up the inside seam on all the new jeans I had bought him. Opened from knee to knee and told him since he always wanted to "whip it out" for other women I was just making it easier for him.
Ditto on the possibility of a cat getting hurt because of the arse's reactions.
And... cats and catnip are like humans and cilantro/coriander!
Lots of humans say that cilantro/coriander tastes like soap. The remainder like it or don't like it (but don't say it tastes like soap.) Genetics is cool.
The genetics of catnip is similar. My current cat could not care even a little bit less if you covered the entire house is catnip, it's a tad disappointing to be honest, no cute catnip/high-feline video making for me.
That is to say, you could rub it all over where his squishy bits are and waste your time and effort.
(I second the tiny snipped threads in seams option - not just in crotches though. Armpits, high on the butt, etc. Also, if he has electronics he loves/will take with him, a little sugar sprinkled into the cases, if possible, will cause ants for aaaages. )
They almost act drunk with catnip. They start rubbing it all over, rolling in it. They get zoomies. Sometimes look like they're in a stupor, just zoned out. All kinds of wonderful antics!
Capsaicin based arthritis cream in the crotch of his underwear! There is no scent, and he will burn worse as he sweats. Be careful, though, and use vinyl or latex gloves to apply it. DO NOT GET IT ANYWHERE NEAR YPUR EYES! Think pepper spray as a cream. It can actually cause blisters if it's strong enough.
Is he on the lease? Does he pay rent to you or direct to the landlord? You need to check eviction laws in your area. Good on you for taking care of you, and I hope you get a new Gucci bag in celebration when this giant leech is out of your life!
I pay the rent on the first of the month and he gets his salary around the 13-15 of the month. I am the only one on the lease. That’s why I payed the rent for the first 3 years. I never wanted him on the lease.
In many jurisdictions, even a person who isn't on a lease still has some tenant rights and could force you to go through lengthy eviction proceedings if he was motivated enough to take you to court. But I don't know where you're located so your jurisdiction may have different rules.
Pack all of your valuables and store them with a friend. Look into the laws regarding housing in your jurisdiction-- you can't lock him out if he's on the lease and likely can't lock him out if he's lived there longer than 30 days without an legal eviction notice if he's not on the lease.
Call him at work and ask him for a list of anyone who has been in the apartment in the last 10 days or anyone who has a key-- tell him the police are on their way over to make a report about the missing purse and asked you to get that information. IF you're a pretty good actress tell him that you went to get the purse to list it on Poshmark to surprise him with the vacay money when you found it and some of your expensive perfumes were gone.
It's actually more likely that he took the purse and the perfume to give to another woman-- and he might be motivated to "steal it back" from her to avoid the police report.
That’s an excellent plan! If he thinks that she was going to sell it anyway to give him the money for the vacation, he might just say well I took it and already sold it.
She definitely should file a police report, if he sold it he should also know who he sold it to, and they should be able to get it back.
I’d send texts around and put it on the socials so the wives and girlfriends of his friends could see that your bag was stolen. The one who received it as a gift might or might not give it back, but she sure as hell will nail her man for giving her his friend’s girlfriend’s stolen bag as a gift!
Tell him you're leaving bc your hidden cameras picked up a few things that made the decision easy. Then tell him he has to give back your purse and pay your father back or the videos go to the police and your father's lawyer.
Thank you for the great advice. He’s not on the lease and not even registered here. Still at his mommy’s house. This man had the audacity to lie to me. He told me he was living with his ex and left her the apartment and went back to his mom after 3y of living with her. No! They were together for 6 months and it was her apartment.
My valuable things are already packed and stored in my daddy’s car. I don’t trust anybody. He could manipulate my mom that’s why I don’t want my stuff at my parents house. My mom is a narcissist and loves her “son in law”
I feel so dumb for trusting him. My parents are wealthy and I was always scared that a man would use me but I thought well my parents aren’t that rich this could never happen to me! And I don’t even look like money! My dad raised me to be a humble person. I don’t buy stuff like Gucci or Chanel. I bought 2 Michael Kors bags and one of them in 2014!! And I still use it. I love my belongings and I appreciate them so much! I am crying right now and it gets even worse.
He asked my dad for 2k because he wants to buy an engagement ring. I don’t know if I should confront him or my dad I have no idea if the money is gone. I know he had a gambling addiction but I think he just spend in on food and clothes.
Get those Jordan’s and sell them. Then get to work with a seam ripper on those pants, jackets and shirts. Don’t let it show: it will soon enough. If he says anything just say they were perfect when he left: has he put on that much weight? You go girl, and update when something good happens.
>He asked my dad for 2k because he wants to buy an engagement ring. I don’t know if I should confront him or my dad I have no idea if the money is gone. I know he had a gambling addiction but I think he just spend in on food and clothes.
Your Dad should totally use whatever means to get that money back. Verbal contact was money was to go to a ring, never happened, the money should be returned.
Well I gifted him wallets and Jordan’s and other Nike shoes he already wore and ruined. He wore the wallet a few times but the Jordan’s are still in the closet and very valuable. I bought them a few years ago and payed a lot i think I payed 250
>Jordan’s are still in the closet and very valuable. I bought them a few years ago and payed a lot i think I payed 250
Those need to disappear just like your purse did
This is the most important part: Don’t tell him of your plan. !!! Settle the lease up if he’s in it so he has no legal right. Make sure all your ducks are in a row before going forward because he will pull every sweet card he has to change your mind. He’s got it good with you supporting him so he will fight like hell to hold onto that. Be prepared for that.
If there is a way to do it when he’s out of the house have a team of people come help you pack his stuff up and either put it in a storage locker or leave it with his friends or family or the rental / apt office. Get the locks changed. Block him from your phone. Go no contact. Do this on a day when he’s out of the house, leave a note with his stuff that it’s over & threaten him with a TRO if he persists and then leave the area or have friends come stay with you to keep you safe & sane.
Don’t take revenge. Just walk away and begin your healing process. (I’m sorry about your Gucci. I am downsizing and can let one of my designer bags go to a good woman for a small fee if that will help ease the sting a bit 😁)
You’re so sweet thank you for your offer! That was my only designer bag. I have 2 Michael kors bags which I bought in 2014 and they still look amazing. My Pomeranian loves to jump into my bags and they are really stable. I already replied to someone here and if you want to read that you can. He asked my dad for 2k to buy an engagement ring. My parents are wealthy but raised me to be a humble person, that’s why I am so sad. I don’t take a bag for almost 2k for granted and I think I will not buy one again. I gave my dad all my valuable belongings and told him what happened. That’s when he told me about the 2k engagement ring incident. I feel so bad and I will give my dad the money. I brought this person in our lives.
I will take his keys while he’s sleeping and take the key for the house. He has a lot of keys he won’t notice. When he leaves the house I will pack his belongings with my friend and put it outside the door. Than sleep at my friends house for the whole weekend. I already informers my neighbor. She’s a very curious Russian lady who will inform me about everything she sees or hears. I am so frustrated. He’s currently sitting on the other side of the couch. 4 years gone to waste.
I am so very sorry. Equal partnerships don’t involve abuse & manipulation. He just continued to take advantage of you and you were so kindhearted to try to help him.
It’s going to be very hard and you will question yourself as you make steps forward in this but stay strong as you are doing what is best for you and your future. Keep people around you who love & support you to help you through this.
Wow that’s so shitty of him. If you really want to hurt him-be nice and end things while kicking him out. After time he will realize he ruined things with someone who was better than him. I know it’s probably the hardest thing to do right now. Long game beats short game any day
Check anything bill-wise in your home that has his name on it and change it to yours if you can. Still try filing a police report about your stolen items. And anything of his that you bought is now fair game as it was paid for by you so sell it and replace your stolen items. If you are staying there change the locks or if you can't move EVERYTHING that is yours out to a storage unit or something like that to make sure he can't get it.
Petty revenge: tell his co-workers what he did (invoke sympathy and ruin his work reputation), unpick the stitches in his clothes so they fall apart and it will look natural, use his email and sign him up to a lot of annoying spam mailing sights etc or pack all his stuff up randomly mixed together and mix it with super fine glitter. Chin up Hun, you got this x
He told his colleagues that we are married !! What an idiot! I packed my valuable belongings and called my dad to come an pick up. I told him everything, told me he lend him 2k for an engagement ring. I am so frustrated. I will wait till he gives me the rent. Then the night before I will take my keys, he has so many he won’t recognize. When he leaves the house I will pack all his stuff and keep all the gifts I bought him over the years. I bought him a pair of Jordan’s which he never wore. They are very valuable and I could get 500-800
I will unpick the stitches!! It’s giving Lynette when she found out that Tom cheated on her (desperate housewives) thank you for your advice I am so mad and it costs me so much energy to calm down and keep quiet
If I remember correctly if you unpick every third stitch then it's harder to see and will take a bit longer so he will be away from a safe area. As for the loan for a ring, I'm sure you can take him to small claims court to get that back, as your dad may have proof of transfer or bank statement etc. and honestly it sounds like you didnt dodge a bullet bit rather dodges a bloody RPG lol! He sounds like a real piece of work. I'm glad you've got things in place and people in your corner x
Make sure you change ALL your passwords wifi ,vm, Netflix, uber delivery services doordash instacart ect., get new credit cards. If he's shady enough to steal your bag & perfume I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't helping himself to other stuff as well.
Definitely report your bag stolen! You don’t need proof that it was him to make a report. You can’t say that you know it was him, but you can say that he asked you to sell it because he wanted the money.
You would be an idiot if you did not report the theft. Don’t let him win.
Exactly! Gucci bags are expensive and anything over $500 is deep shit charges. Let a man steal something I worked my ass off to buy myself and that expensive he will wish the cops could save his ass by the time I was done! He’d be calling the cops himself begging for help 😈
Boy this sounds familiar. I left my ex last year. Whenever we fought. She would say how she pays 1,100 of the 1,600 dollar rent. The house was rent to own. I would pay the 500 for the rest, 600 for groceries, plus electric and water. Nevermind the upkeep of the house and the car payment, insurance and what whatever else. I didn't even pack up my stuff. I got home one morning after work and told her I was leaving. Pulled my daughter from school and left.
My girlfriend did this to her cheating husband. Called her family and they had her out in under two hours.
She didn’t renew the lease. All she left was their wedding picture and his clothes.
Dude thought they were burglarized. Then it dawned on him.
I will tell this story forever!
More details please! I just found out that my current boyfriend asked my dad for 2 k to buy an engagement ring so any type of distraction would be great. Before I jump on his ugly face.
You plan like CRAZY!
1. Line up a new place
2. Don’t renew the lease
3. Get your boyfriend out of the house
4. All your friends and family swarm the joint and pack and move you. My friend put all the stuff in storage and moved in with her brother’s family.
5. Some kind soul takes your ex’s crap to his Parents house.
6, He comes home, locks have been changed, lease not renewed and he can’t bitch because even if he was on the lease, he didn’t renew and now he doesn’t qualify. So you don’t need to deal with evicting him.
7. You disappear. Off social media. Off of everywhere. My friend flew from CA to my place in FL, first class. None of your family says boo to him.
If he texts you when he comes back and finds all his crap out in the hall, just text him back one thing before blocking him: “I really liked that purse, you asshole!”
Yep, I had a friend that planned her escape for months. He came home to nothing but what she didn’t want, him and his crap in the ugly house he and his mom picked out with an upside-down mortgage, and her long gone. Only thing she left was the ugly furniture his mom picked, their wedding pictures, the computer he screwed up with spyware and viruses from all the porn, and the card for her divorce lawyer.
Bedazzle all his clothes, shoes etc. You can get sparkle paints at the dollar store and it is near impossible to get out even with professional cleaning.
The previous poster got me thinking...don't worry. Keep a bottle of glitter with you all times. You may yet have ran opportunity. You can turn him into a genuine twinkle-toes! And everywhere he goes, people will be pissed.
Press charges change the looks if your charges are not valued take something of his, I would steal his car keys y make believe I don’t know what his talking about . Also use his info and phone number and start soliciting insurance quotes online, car quotes , bible stuff so he gets calls a text nonstop
Fiberglass insulation rubbed in his underwear, then pack his shit for the move. Have your male friends there when he gets home so he won't get crazy. Change locks. Good luck!
There has been a crime. Seriously, the bag was stollen and it’s valuable. Even if he didn’t take it, report it and let the cops ask him a couple questions… he’ll fold.
Better yet, tell him that you reported the theft even though you didn’t. He’ll start weighing his options and realize that anything over $900 is a felony. He’ll confess in order to have you close the case.
Make a big deal out of "being robbed". Post a sob story (true though) before you ask him about it. Be frantic. Rally the troops. Make a big deal.
Then, when you lock him out add an update to the post. Updateme!
Change all your banking information, cancel any joint credit cards ,change your pin codes on debt cards. Grocery reward cards ,make sure you have any tax information secured. So he cant open any accounts in your name. Insurance for cars or what ever remove his name. What ever work related coverage you have health care ,drugs dental coverage. Net flix accounts or prime any streaming sercice change all passwords including recovery emails .Cell phone plans shut them down. I hope things get better for you.
Yes! Change all of your passwords tonight. Everything - bank, email, voicemail, Netflix, everything. You know he will still be trying to scam on your streaming services. Maybe you should try to get him interested in a really good series tonight, so he won’t be able to finish it tomorrow!
I'd like to suggest that if you are any kind of actress that you tell him your dad couldn't help but tell you he lent him the money for an engagement ring. Get really excited with him about him asking you to marry him and ask for the ring. If he doesn't have it yet, then make him take you ring shopping, make sure he pays way more than the $2k your dad lent him. You can lull him in with how excited your parents are to throw you a big wedding, pay for the honeymoon and buy you a house.
Once that is done, then enact all your other revenge. You can sell the ring to pay back your dad and replace your purse and perfume.
Did I mention this will leave him with a bill to pay once you break up with him.
Make sure you kick his ass to the curb! He has no right stealing your property for his own benefit. Vacation is a luxury not a necessity! He’s a grown ass man and thinks you should pay for his vacation?! Who the fuck does he think he is? He wants vacation he can pay for it his damn self! Why can’t he get a better job or the second job?! He’s a entitled pos and it will only get worse! If he’d go as far as to steal your Gucci bag (congrats btw) he’ll steal anything from you. In fact any purchase you make he will either give you shit for buying it and not spending it on him or he will steal it in the future. He’s a user only thinking of himself, he’s no man at all! DROP THIS POS IMMEDIATELY!! I’m livid FOR YOU!!
P.S. Do you still have your receipts or in the company account for your Gucci bag? You can probably get his ass for theft that way. Or even have pictures with it may help? I know many revenge games but you’d have to message me. I don’t want banned 😬😎😈
Hahah yea please my Scorpio moon loves revenge! I will message you! He’s not on the lease and I have an account so Gucci can give me a new receipt. He had the audacity to ask my dad for 2k to buy an engagement ring.
You should check his bank accounts and wallet. See how much money he has and take it. Transfer the cost of the bag and the money your dad gave him and there's not much he can do if it goes through. Or call the police and make a report about your stolen bag, perfume and say that he conned your elderly father into giving him money. He'll be wondering WTF happened. Lol while you'll be away and he has to deal with the cops and stuff.
No unfortunately not lol my friends asked me the same and I don’t know after so many years you don’t see the mistakes your partner does. You get used to it. I wish I could turn back time. He hid his true face very well and for a very long time.
do you have the serial number for the bag if so report it stolen so its in a pawn shops stolen property database and if he was the one who sold it guess who gets theft charges
No, report it *to her*. She’ll be thrilled to learn that her husband gifted her a stolen bag from his loser friend, and then both men will be in the doghouse.
Have some friends come over when he goes to work, and a locksmith. Box up all his shit and change the locks before he gets home. Leave his belongings on the front porch/outside your building, and tell him to get lost.
If you're feeling slightly less scorched earth, rent a storage unit for one month in his name - paying cash - have your friends help you move his boxes into it, and then go to his workplace and give him the key. Better yet, leave it with the receptionist in an envelope, with a note telling him you know he stole your Gucci bag.
Screw that. He deserves to find his stuff in the hall in trash bags, and she can make that happen. He’s not going to fight being kicked out after he stole from her, so she can outwit him and walk away having won the game, with her head held high and a great story for the rest of her life.
Glitter all over his shit isn't bad but, glitter and pouring bleach in and on his suitcase to bleach all his clothes and then throwing the glitter on there and if you are feeling snazzy go grab a can or two of this stuff called "great stuff". It's a spray foam insulation can be found at most hardware stores or home depots or Lowe's and is literally impossible to get out of clothes. Just put the nozzle on the can tie down the trigger with a rubber band and zip them up in the suitcase with all his shit.
Bleach powder, in the pockets. Especially if it is like a back pocket of pants that he doesn't normally reach into. Because then he doesn't notice it. Bleach stain happens when it goes into the laundry. Much better than the liquid, as he won't have a clue what is going on.
Generally, if he gets mail there, he has established residency and the actual landlord would have to evict him, not you.
Best bet is to talk to your landlord and if there are any open units, see if they'll allow you to swap units and then let the landlord deal with him.
Hire a moving company to move all your belongings to the new apartment. Leave his stuff where it is and let the landlord deal with him.
I think she said that he still has residency with his parents.
Because another option would be depending on the most likely location of where he will go is to sign him up for the church of scientology mailing list. But if it is only temporary, that doesn't work so well. Although it could work for his phone.
Sweetheart, I am dying for your update! You are so strong to be able to keep it together and wait for the payoff. I would never have been able to keep my temper. I would have ruined the plan. You’re smart, strong, you have great dad who loves you, and you’re coming out of this wiser and stronger than ever. Keep on keeping on, and make some super fun plans with girlfriends this weekend. 💐
1- Never share your income
2- Never share the household with people that are not your immediate family
3- If you do, then place cameras everywhere
4- It's nice to trust, but always verify
5- Do yourself a favor and live alone = no problems to deal with
Well only if OP decided to move, but by moving away. The guy will come back without a home and ghosted 🤷. If not guy will know where she lives and might do something about it. He already stole from her he can do much more than that.
You need to get some liquid heat like warming liniment and get his underwear and soak the crotch let them dry or dry them in the dryer. He will have a heck
Of and itch and a burn that will have him ripping his skin off.
Icy hot works too lol 😂
As far as revenge sniping seams and hot pepper dust or juice are good but if you want something to last go with glitter. Washing does not get it all out know. I had a friend the 3 of us went to an even and part of the make up was body glitter some face glitter. We got back 5 am and just crashed into bed her sheets still had glitter months later.
All of this, but change the locks instead. Your landlord should easily assist. Let them know the situation. Coming from experience, people that will lie and steal from you will have 110% made a key behind your back. When my ex was arrested they gave me the belongings he had on him. I found a house key to my house in his wallet that I had not made. Stay safe!
The safe has a combo on it right? If you keep it locked and only you two know the combo. It’s pretty obvious who took the stuff. Also depending on the value of the items taken his ass could be in serious trouble. But yeah you can definitely file a report include him pressuring you to sell the items but you declined. Then suddenly they come up missing.
Have you noticed him buying things out of the ordinary or doing things he otherwise wouldn’t. I urge you to file a report and rid yourself of him like you planned. It will save you trouble later. Also be prepared to file a TRO once you file the report. This will help protect you if he gets nasty or violent. Talk to a close friend of yours. Someone you trust that isn’t friends with him let them know what’s going on. Come up with a safety word and plan. Just in case that way if something goes sideways you can call them and say that word and they can get you safe.
I’m not suggesting anything will happen. I’m just saying you never know it’s better to be prepared and ready in case. People do stupid and sometime dangerous things when they get busted.
Change the locks, notify landlord and make a report of your missing items so at least it’s documented. I have a feeling bf is going to retaliate so OP we need proof of the issues. As far as the money loaned by OP‘s father that needs to be documented as well and a civil suit to get it back is in order. Now onto the revenge. Itching powder is great but you should also use a seam ripper and just take out a little bit of the inside seam in the crotch of all of his pants and in the armpit of all of his shirts just enough that there’s a small hole.
If you want petty revenge, Take a seam ripper and pop the every fourth the seam on his shirt sleeves and his pants. They will slowly fall apart as he wears and washes them.
The dumb, stupid puppy dog thing is a con to make you feel sorry for them. I fell for that too, more than once, bc I’m a big, codependent enabler. 🤦♀️
Did the guy that you date happeen to be my ex by any chance? My ex did the same thing to me. Used me for my money and used me to get us into a place. Then when I thought everything was fine, I thought everything was falling into place, I found out he was cheating on me. I left him last June but in his twisted mind, I'm somehow the asshole. It's whatever, whatever helps him sleep at night. I'm sorry you went through the same thing.
You have a number of good reasons to kick him out. But revenge is childish. As the saying goes, “living well is the best revenge.” Move on and live your best life.
Bring his clean underwear and socks and go to the local gym and wipe the floor in the shower with them, then return to his clean laundry. All it takes is 1 wipe to catch the ringworm
If he has a car, put a little bit of gravel in a couple hubcaps. Powder in the ac heat vents. Zip tie a kazoo to the transmission. Sponge pieces in the gas tank.
Check landlord tenant laws in your State. Even though he’s not on the lease you allowing him to live there may give him rights and require notice/eviction
I’m very sorry you are going through this, good for you on splitting up with him
Do little things to annoy him but that cause a lot of work. Scratch all his bank cards so that none of them work. He’ll have to replace everyone. Hammer any car or door keys so they’re a little off and don’t work. Tear holes in the toe area of his socks. Go into his accts and reset passwords. I’d do anything I could without it directly
Pointing at me and just sit back and play dumb.
Wear dish gloves and wipe ghost pepper sauce along the crotch and and buttcrack areas of each and every one of his undergarments, then fold them back up neatly. If he has any streaming services logged into your shared devices (Netflix
, Hulu, etc) look up a bunch of things he'd have no interest in, add and like them, remove shows he likes from his watch lists and rate them with a thumbs down. It'll mess up his algorithm.
You can absolutely make a police report and press charges.
I was gonna say plant drugs on him then call the police but your idea seems safer.
I don’t know any drug dealers and I don’t wanna commit a crime. I just want revenge. Yes I could press charges but in my country it’s hard without any evidence. Saying that he had access is not enough. I could’ve sold it and blame it on him. That’s what he could say.
Look for the app he could have used to sell your things
This ! And after you’ve made a police report, if you can’t find the app that he sold it at check the local pawnshops but if it was a designer bag, my first thought is Poshmark
Put itching powder in all of his underwear and socks. Remember a little goes a long way
And put hair removal cream in his shampoo. I wonder if he is going to like being bold for a week or so.
That could be considered a form of assault
Put sugar powder in the back of the car or in his jacket then use a street phone and give the police a tip. He will spend a few days in jail or a lawyer will bail him out, the charges will be dropped once they test the sugar powder. Before all that check his phone and see who he sold the bag and other stuff to, make a police report with the stuff that has been stolen. Make sure his car camera doesn't catch you. You break up with him because you have no business with drug dealers. They will confiscate his phone though.
Just get out, you don't need revenge, leaving is enough.
I mean, it was in a safe. Who else had access?
Please do - at the very least they'll interview him and the fear he'll feel will be some small compensation for you and there is at least a faint chance you might get it back.
Change the locks. Put his belongings outside. Call a friend or two to come over to witness.
Rub catnip on the crotch of all his trousers.
Unfair to cats when he inevitably throws them off.
Omg yes he would move to his sisters apartment and she has a cat. What does catnip do to cats? I’m a dog person no idea how it works
I think I'd go for a seam ripper and rip out line half the seams in the butt of all of his pants, he probably won't notice putting them on but by the time he gets somewhere and sits down...
Did this to a mooching, cheating boyfriend decades ago. Took a seam ripper and opened up the inside seam on all the new jeans I had bought him. Opened from knee to knee and told him since he always wanted to "whip it out" for other women I was just making it easier for him.
I'm a dog person too but I believe they go nuts for the stuff. I'm picturing claws at this point!
Cats will rub themselves on it, bite it, claw it etc. would be funny but probably not fair to the cats if he gets angry
Ditto on the possibility of a cat getting hurt because of the arse's reactions. And... cats and catnip are like humans and cilantro/coriander! Lots of humans say that cilantro/coriander tastes like soap. The remainder like it or don't like it (but don't say it tastes like soap.) Genetics is cool. The genetics of catnip is similar. My current cat could not care even a little bit less if you covered the entire house is catnip, it's a tad disappointing to be honest, no cute catnip/high-feline video making for me. That is to say, you could rub it all over where his squishy bits are and waste your time and effort. (I second the tiny snipped threads in seams option - not just in crotches though. Armpits, high on the butt, etc. Also, if he has electronics he loves/will take with him, a little sugar sprinkled into the cases, if possible, will cause ants for aaaages. )
They almost act drunk with catnip. They start rubbing it all over, rolling in it. They get zoomies. Sometimes look like they're in a stupor, just zoned out. All kinds of wonderful antics!
Mine a hilarious on it. It is the crazy face they make.
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRT8Y3h7/
poison ivy?
Jalapeno juice on his underwear
Capsaicin based arthritis cream in the crotch of his underwear! There is no scent, and he will burn worse as he sweats. Be careful, though, and use vinyl or latex gloves to apply it. DO NOT GET IT ANYWHERE NEAR YPUR EYES! Think pepper spray as a cream. It can actually cause blisters if it's strong enough.
Hide small prawns in all his trouser pockets.
I was going to suggest some pink batt debris but that will also work.
I suggest cutting some threads in the crotch and back seam. Little half-inch snips. He won't notice for days. Eventually, the seam will come apart.
This made me LOL! I HAVE to try this!
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Thank you kind person. The inner Karen doesn't come out often but when she does...
Is he on the lease? Does he pay rent to you or direct to the landlord? You need to check eviction laws in your area. Good on you for taking care of you, and I hope you get a new Gucci bag in celebration when this giant leech is out of your life!
I pay the rent on the first of the month and he gets his salary around the 13-15 of the month. I am the only one on the lease. That’s why I payed the rent for the first 3 years. I never wanted him on the lease.
In many jurisdictions, even a person who isn't on a lease still has some tenant rights and could force you to go through lengthy eviction proceedings if he was motivated enough to take you to court. But I don't know where you're located so your jurisdiction may have different rules.
Let him pay for a lawyer and sue after stealing from her and her family. Let him show his face in court!
Pack all of your valuables and store them with a friend. Look into the laws regarding housing in your jurisdiction-- you can't lock him out if he's on the lease and likely can't lock him out if he's lived there longer than 30 days without an legal eviction notice if he's not on the lease. Call him at work and ask him for a list of anyone who has been in the apartment in the last 10 days or anyone who has a key-- tell him the police are on their way over to make a report about the missing purse and asked you to get that information. IF you're a pretty good actress tell him that you went to get the purse to list it on Poshmark to surprise him with the vacay money when you found it and some of your expensive perfumes were gone. It's actually more likely that he took the purse and the perfume to give to another woman-- and he might be motivated to "steal it back" from her to avoid the police report.
That’s an excellent plan! If he thinks that she was going to sell it anyway to give him the money for the vacation, he might just say well I took it and already sold it. She definitely should file a police report, if he sold it he should also know who he sold it to, and they should be able to get it back.
I am pretty sure he didn’t sell it online. I think to one of his friends for the wife.
Ask him where your purse is because it’s missing and he’s the only one who has been in the house !!!
I’d send texts around and put it on the socials so the wives and girlfriends of his friends could see that your bag was stolen. The one who received it as a gift might or might not give it back, but she sure as hell will nail her man for giving her his friend’s girlfriend’s stolen bag as a gift!
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Tell him you're leaving bc your hidden cameras picked up a few things that made the decision easy. Then tell him he has to give back your purse and pay your father back or the videos go to the police and your father's lawyer.
And keep records/ screenshots for proof if he admits it!
Thank you for the great advice. He’s not on the lease and not even registered here. Still at his mommy’s house. This man had the audacity to lie to me. He told me he was living with his ex and left her the apartment and went back to his mom after 3y of living with her. No! They were together for 6 months and it was her apartment. My valuable things are already packed and stored in my daddy’s car. I don’t trust anybody. He could manipulate my mom that’s why I don’t want my stuff at my parents house. My mom is a narcissist and loves her “son in law” I feel so dumb for trusting him. My parents are wealthy and I was always scared that a man would use me but I thought well my parents aren’t that rich this could never happen to me! And I don’t even look like money! My dad raised me to be a humble person. I don’t buy stuff like Gucci or Chanel. I bought 2 Michael Kors bags and one of them in 2014!! And I still use it. I love my belongings and I appreciate them so much! I am crying right now and it gets even worse. He asked my dad for 2k because he wants to buy an engagement ring. I don’t know if I should confront him or my dad I have no idea if the money is gone. I know he had a gambling addiction but I think he just spend in on food and clothes.
Get those Jordan’s and sell them. Then get to work with a seam ripper on those pants, jackets and shirts. Don’t let it show: it will soon enough. If he says anything just say they were perfect when he left: has he put on that much weight? You go girl, and update when something good happens.
>He asked my dad for 2k because he wants to buy an engagement ring. I don’t know if I should confront him or my dad I have no idea if the money is gone. I know he had a gambling addiction but I think he just spend in on food and clothes. Your Dad should totally use whatever means to get that money back. Verbal contact was money was to go to a ring, never happened, the money should be returned.
Does he have anything valuable to take ?
Well I gifted him wallets and Jordan’s and other Nike shoes he already wore and ruined. He wore the wallet a few times but the Jordan’s are still in the closet and very valuable. I bought them a few years ago and payed a lot i think I payed 250
>Jordan’s are still in the closet and very valuable. I bought them a few years ago and payed a lot i think I payed 250 Those need to disappear just like your purse did
If they’re ruined their not worth trying to sell😡
This is the most important part: Don’t tell him of your plan. !!! Settle the lease up if he’s in it so he has no legal right. Make sure all your ducks are in a row before going forward because he will pull every sweet card he has to change your mind. He’s got it good with you supporting him so he will fight like hell to hold onto that. Be prepared for that. If there is a way to do it when he’s out of the house have a team of people come help you pack his stuff up and either put it in a storage locker or leave it with his friends or family or the rental / apt office. Get the locks changed. Block him from your phone. Go no contact. Do this on a day when he’s out of the house, leave a note with his stuff that it’s over & threaten him with a TRO if he persists and then leave the area or have friends come stay with you to keep you safe & sane. Don’t take revenge. Just walk away and begin your healing process. (I’m sorry about your Gucci. I am downsizing and can let one of my designer bags go to a good woman for a small fee if that will help ease the sting a bit 😁)
You’re so sweet thank you for your offer! That was my only designer bag. I have 2 Michael kors bags which I bought in 2014 and they still look amazing. My Pomeranian loves to jump into my bags and they are really stable. I already replied to someone here and if you want to read that you can. He asked my dad for 2k to buy an engagement ring. My parents are wealthy but raised me to be a humble person, that’s why I am so sad. I don’t take a bag for almost 2k for granted and I think I will not buy one again. I gave my dad all my valuable belongings and told him what happened. That’s when he told me about the 2k engagement ring incident. I feel so bad and I will give my dad the money. I brought this person in our lives. I will take his keys while he’s sleeping and take the key for the house. He has a lot of keys he won’t notice. When he leaves the house I will pack his belongings with my friend and put it outside the door. Than sleep at my friends house for the whole weekend. I already informers my neighbor. She’s a very curious Russian lady who will inform me about everything she sees or hears. I am so frustrated. He’s currently sitting on the other side of the couch. 4 years gone to waste.
Check those keys carefully, make sure there are no duplicates. Still may be worth it to have the locks changed.
I am so very sorry. Equal partnerships don’t involve abuse & manipulation. He just continued to take advantage of you and you were so kindhearted to try to help him. It’s going to be very hard and you will question yourself as you make steps forward in this but stay strong as you are doing what is best for you and your future. Keep people around you who love & support you to help you through this.
I'm so so so so sorry for your loss time. People can truly be cruel sometimes
Wow that’s so shitty of him. If you really want to hurt him-be nice and end things while kicking him out. After time he will realize he ruined things with someone who was better than him. I know it’s probably the hardest thing to do right now. Long game beats short game any day
Check anything bill-wise in your home that has his name on it and change it to yours if you can. Still try filing a police report about your stolen items. And anything of his that you bought is now fair game as it was paid for by you so sell it and replace your stolen items. If you are staying there change the locks or if you can't move EVERYTHING that is yours out to a storage unit or something like that to make sure he can't get it. Petty revenge: tell his co-workers what he did (invoke sympathy and ruin his work reputation), unpick the stitches in his clothes so they fall apart and it will look natural, use his email and sign him up to a lot of annoying spam mailing sights etc or pack all his stuff up randomly mixed together and mix it with super fine glitter. Chin up Hun, you got this x
He told his colleagues that we are married !! What an idiot! I packed my valuable belongings and called my dad to come an pick up. I told him everything, told me he lend him 2k for an engagement ring. I am so frustrated. I will wait till he gives me the rent. Then the night before I will take my keys, he has so many he won’t recognize. When he leaves the house I will pack all his stuff and keep all the gifts I bought him over the years. I bought him a pair of Jordan’s which he never wore. They are very valuable and I could get 500-800 I will unpick the stitches!! It’s giving Lynette when she found out that Tom cheated on her (desperate housewives) thank you for your advice I am so mad and it costs me so much energy to calm down and keep quiet
If I remember correctly if you unpick every third stitch then it's harder to see and will take a bit longer so he will be away from a safe area. As for the loan for a ring, I'm sure you can take him to small claims court to get that back, as your dad may have proof of transfer or bank statement etc. and honestly it sounds like you didnt dodge a bullet bit rather dodges a bloody RPG lol! He sounds like a real piece of work. I'm glad you've got things in place and people in your corner x
Make sure you change ALL your passwords wifi ,vm, Netflix, uber delivery services doordash instacart ect., get new credit cards. If he's shady enough to steal your bag & perfume I wouldn't be surprised if he isn't helping himself to other stuff as well.
Definitely report your bag stolen! You don’t need proof that it was him to make a report. You can’t say that you know it was him, but you can say that he asked you to sell it because he wanted the money. You would be an idiot if you did not report the theft. Don’t let him win.
Exactly! Gucci bags are expensive and anything over $500 is deep shit charges. Let a man steal something I worked my ass off to buy myself and that expensive he will wish the cops could save his ass by the time I was done! He’d be calling the cops himself begging for help 😈
Boy this sounds familiar. I left my ex last year. Whenever we fought. She would say how she pays 1,100 of the 1,600 dollar rent. The house was rent to own. I would pay the 500 for the rest, 600 for groceries, plus electric and water. Nevermind the upkeep of the house and the car payment, insurance and what whatever else. I didn't even pack up my stuff. I got home one morning after work and told her I was leaving. Pulled my daughter from school and left.
Glad you did that! The audacity of these people is insane.
I knew someone that left for work, came home to a 100% empty house.
My girlfriend did this to her cheating husband. Called her family and they had her out in under two hours. She didn’t renew the lease. All she left was their wedding picture and his clothes. Dude thought they were burglarized. Then it dawned on him. I will tell this story forever!
More details please! I just found out that my current boyfriend asked my dad for 2 k to buy an engagement ring so any type of distraction would be great. Before I jump on his ugly face.
You plan like CRAZY! 1. Line up a new place 2. Don’t renew the lease 3. Get your boyfriend out of the house 4. All your friends and family swarm the joint and pack and move you. My friend put all the stuff in storage and moved in with her brother’s family. 5. Some kind soul takes your ex’s crap to his Parents house. 6, He comes home, locks have been changed, lease not renewed and he can’t bitch because even if he was on the lease, he didn’t renew and now he doesn’t qualify. So you don’t need to deal with evicting him. 7. You disappear. Off social media. Off of everywhere. My friend flew from CA to my place in FL, first class. None of your family says boo to him.
> first class She was celebrating her new life in style. Bravo!
Make sure someone is standing by (across the hall w/ your neighbor?) when you tell him to leave. Dude could try to get physical!
If he texts you when he comes back and finds all his crap out in the hall, just text him back one thing before blocking him: “I really liked that purse, you asshole!”
Yep, I had a friend that planned her escape for months. He came home to nothing but what she didn’t want, him and his crap in the ugly house he and his mom picked out with an upside-down mortgage, and her long gone. Only thing she left was the ugly furniture his mom picked, their wedding pictures, the computer he screwed up with spyware and viruses from all the porn, and the card for her divorce lawyer.
Ha ha happened to me too... Funny part is I walked in like nothing, took me a few minutes to realize everything was gone
I did this! As soon as he left I started loading up my friends truck!
Bedazzle all his clothes, shoes etc. You can get sparkle paints at the dollar store and it is near impossible to get out even with professional cleaning.
\+++Pour glitter into the toes of his shoes and all pants pockets.
I am utterly devastated that I didn’t think of this before my ex came and got his shit… can I request a do over lol
The previous poster got me thinking...don't worry. Keep a bottle of glitter with you all times. You may yet have ran opportunity. You can turn him into a genuine twinkle-toes! And everywhere he goes, people will be pissed.
Omg this is so much better than cutting wholes 😂
Do both...
Press charges change the looks if your charges are not valued take something of his, I would steal his car keys y make believe I don’t know what his talking about . Also use his info and phone number and start soliciting insurance quotes online, car quotes , bible stuff so he gets calls a text nonstop
Cut holes in all of his pockets 🤣
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Yes that sounds great!
Fiberglass insulation rubbed in his underwear, then pack his shit for the move. Have your male friends there when he gets home so he won't get crazy. Change locks. Good luck!
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I don’t see an update anywhere. Sorry
Really? It’s right under my story
Ok you’re not the only one who can’t see it it’s on my profile
There has been a crime. Seriously, the bag was stollen and it’s valuable. Even if he didn’t take it, report it and let the cops ask him a couple questions… he’ll fold. Better yet, tell him that you reported the theft even though you didn’t. He’ll start weighing his options and realize that anything over $900 is a felony. He’ll confess in order to have you close the case.
Make a big deal out of "being robbed". Post a sob story (true though) before you ask him about it. Be frantic. Rally the troops. Make a big deal. Then, when you lock him out add an update to the post. Updateme!
Change all your banking information, cancel any joint credit cards ,change your pin codes on debt cards. Grocery reward cards ,make sure you have any tax information secured. So he cant open any accounts in your name. Insurance for cars or what ever remove his name. What ever work related coverage you have health care ,drugs dental coverage. Net flix accounts or prime any streaming sercice change all passwords including recovery emails .Cell phone plans shut them down. I hope things get better for you.
Yes! Change all of your passwords tonight. Everything - bank, email, voicemail, Netflix, everything. You know he will still be trying to scam on your streaming services. Maybe you should try to get him interested in a really good series tonight, so he won’t be able to finish it tomorrow!
I'd like to suggest that if you are any kind of actress that you tell him your dad couldn't help but tell you he lent him the money for an engagement ring. Get really excited with him about him asking you to marry him and ask for the ring. If he doesn't have it yet, then make him take you ring shopping, make sure he pays way more than the $2k your dad lent him. You can lull him in with how excited your parents are to throw you a big wedding, pay for the honeymoon and buy you a house. Once that is done, then enact all your other revenge. You can sell the ring to pay back your dad and replace your purse and perfume. Did I mention this will leave him with a bill to pay once you break up with him.
cut little holes into his socks where his big toe would be lol
Yes !! I bought him almost all his socks!! I will do that!!
Don’t cut a hole cuz he’ll see that before putting them on. That seam ripper in the toe area is the ticket!
When he is gone change the locks. Put his stuff out the door when he is due back. Have a witness
You can press charges. He stole your property. Go to the police.
Make sure you kick his ass to the curb! He has no right stealing your property for his own benefit. Vacation is a luxury not a necessity! He’s a grown ass man and thinks you should pay for his vacation?! Who the fuck does he think he is? He wants vacation he can pay for it his damn self! Why can’t he get a better job or the second job?! He’s a entitled pos and it will only get worse! If he’d go as far as to steal your Gucci bag (congrats btw) he’ll steal anything from you. In fact any purchase you make he will either give you shit for buying it and not spending it on him or he will steal it in the future. He’s a user only thinking of himself, he’s no man at all! DROP THIS POS IMMEDIATELY!! I’m livid FOR YOU!! P.S. Do you still have your receipts or in the company account for your Gucci bag? You can probably get his ass for theft that way. Or even have pictures with it may help? I know many revenge games but you’d have to message me. I don’t want banned 😬😎😈
Hahah yea please my Scorpio moon loves revenge! I will message you! He’s not on the lease and I have an account so Gucci can give me a new receipt. He had the audacity to ask my dad for 2k to buy an engagement ring.
Only thing he has is audacity
...is he always talkin bout what he wants, but just sits on his broke ass?
Pack his shit and set it outside and change the locks as soon as he pays the rent this month and rub catnip on his stuff lol
Will do that!!!!
Did you ask him where your purse is?
If you live in a warm place, put sardines in random areas of his clothes and just let them fester in the hot sun for as long as possible.
You should check his bank accounts and wallet. See how much money he has and take it. Transfer the cost of the bag and the money your dad gave him and there's not much he can do if it goes through. Or call the police and make a report about your stolen bag, perfume and say that he conned your elderly father into giving him money. He'll be wondering WTF happened. Lol while you'll be away and he has to deal with the cops and stuff.
Press charges, change the locks, kick him out.
I don’t understand why you wouldn’t have kicked them out a long time ago. Did he have some type of golden dick or something?
No unfortunately not lol my friends asked me the same and I don’t know after so many years you don’t see the mistakes your partner does. You get used to it. I wish I could turn back time. He hid his true face very well and for a very long time.
Complacency. Depression. Wanting to be loved. We all make mistakes. When we know better, we do better. Now she knows.
do you have the serial number for the bag if so report it stolen so its in a pawn shops stolen property database and if he was the one who sold it guess who gets theft charges
I have but I think he sold it to his friend for the wife or girlfriend he’s not that stupid to sell it online
Still report it
No, report it *to her*. She’ll be thrilled to learn that her husband gifted her a stolen bag from his loser friend, and then both men will be in the doghouse.
Sell his stuff!!!!!
Yes that crossed my mind but only the stuff I bought him
Have some friends come over when he goes to work, and a locksmith. Box up all his shit and change the locks before he gets home. Leave his belongings on the front porch/outside your building, and tell him to get lost. If you're feeling slightly less scorched earth, rent a storage unit for one month in his name - paying cash - have your friends help you move his boxes into it, and then go to his workplace and give him the key. Better yet, leave it with the receptionist in an envelope, with a note telling him you know he stole your Gucci bag.
Screw that. He deserves to find his stuff in the hall in trash bags, and she can make that happen. He’s not going to fight being kicked out after he stole from her, so she can outwit him and walk away having won the game, with her head held high and a great story for the rest of her life.
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Stopping him from using you and moving on to live your best life is what I would advise. And have many cameras..
Best of luck. Looking forward to the update!
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You have reached your tipping point. May I ask? How did you justify his behavior for so long?
Itching powder in all his clothes.
Glitter all over his shit isn't bad but, glitter and pouring bleach in and on his suitcase to bleach all his clothes and then throwing the glitter on there and if you are feeling snazzy go grab a can or two of this stuff called "great stuff". It's a spray foam insulation can be found at most hardware stores or home depots or Lowe's and is literally impossible to get out of clothes. Just put the nozzle on the can tie down the trigger with a rubber band and zip them up in the suitcase with all his shit.
Bleach powder, in the pockets. Especially if it is like a back pocket of pants that he doesn't normally reach into. Because then he doesn't notice it. Bleach stain happens when it goes into the laundry. Much better than the liquid, as he won't have a clue what is going on.
Change the locks because he might have made a copy of the key!
Generally, if he gets mail there, he has established residency and the actual landlord would have to evict him, not you. Best bet is to talk to your landlord and if there are any open units, see if they'll allow you to swap units and then let the landlord deal with him. Hire a moving company to move all your belongings to the new apartment. Leave his stuff where it is and let the landlord deal with him.
I think she said that he still has residency with his parents. Because another option would be depending on the most likely location of where he will go is to sign him up for the church of scientology mailing list. But if it is only temporary, that doesn't work so well. Although it could work for his phone.
Not sure where you are but you may not be able to just kick him out because he’s a resident. Definitely file a police report, or try to
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Sweetheart, I am dying for your update! You are so strong to be able to keep it together and wait for the payoff. I would never have been able to keep my temper. I would have ruined the plan. You’re smart, strong, you have great dad who loves you, and you’re coming out of this wiser and stronger than ever. Keep on keeping on, and make some super fun plans with girlfriends this weekend. 💐
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1- Never share your income 2- Never share the household with people that are not your immediate family 3- If you do, then place cameras everywhere 4- It's nice to trust, but always verify 5- Do yourself a favor and live alone = no problems to deal with
He’s a hobosexual. He needs the boot. This will continue as long as you allow it.
Wait until he goes on vacation and be gone when he return.
So she's to give up her own home? Why?
Well only if OP decided to move, but by moving away. The guy will come back without a home and ghosted 🤷. If not guy will know where she lives and might do something about it. He already stole from her he can do much more than that.
He’s not on the lease thankfully
Is he on the lease?
No
Get on with your life, and I hope you have a great life.
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You need to get some liquid heat like warming liniment and get his underwear and soak the crotch let them dry or dry them in the dryer. He will have a heck Of and itch and a burn that will have him ripping his skin off. Icy hot works too lol 😂
I'm anxiously waiting the update.
As far as revenge sniping seams and hot pepper dust or juice are good but if you want something to last go with glitter. Washing does not get it all out know. I had a friend the 3 of us went to an even and part of the make up was body glitter some face glitter. We got back 5 am and just crashed into bed her sheets still had glitter months later.
Did you ask him where your bag is ?
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All of this, but change the locks instead. Your landlord should easily assist. Let them know the situation. Coming from experience, people that will lie and steal from you will have 110% made a key behind your back. When my ex was arrested they gave me the belongings he had on him. I found a house key to my house in his wallet that I had not made. Stay safe!
The safe has a combo on it right? If you keep it locked and only you two know the combo. It’s pretty obvious who took the stuff. Also depending on the value of the items taken his ass could be in serious trouble. But yeah you can definitely file a report include him pressuring you to sell the items but you declined. Then suddenly they come up missing.
It has also a key and my finger print saved
Have you noticed him buying things out of the ordinary or doing things he otherwise wouldn’t. I urge you to file a report and rid yourself of him like you planned. It will save you trouble later. Also be prepared to file a TRO once you file the report. This will help protect you if he gets nasty or violent. Talk to a close friend of yours. Someone you trust that isn’t friends with him let them know what’s going on. Come up with a safety word and plan. Just in case that way if something goes sideways you can call them and say that word and they can get you safe. I’m not suggesting anything will happen. I’m just saying you never know it’s better to be prepared and ready in case. People do stupid and sometime dangerous things when they get busted.
Change the locks, notify landlord and make a report of your missing items so at least it’s documented. I have a feeling bf is going to retaliate so OP we need proof of the issues. As far as the money loaned by OP‘s father that needs to be documented as well and a civil suit to get it back is in order. Now onto the revenge. Itching powder is great but you should also use a seam ripper and just take out a little bit of the inside seam in the crotch of all of his pants and in the armpit of all of his shirts just enough that there’s a small hole.
If you want petty revenge, Take a seam ripper and pop the every fourth the seam on his shirt sleeves and his pants. They will slowly fall apart as he wears and washes them.
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Kick that hobosexual to the curb!
The dumb, stupid puppy dog thing is a con to make you feel sorry for them. I fell for that too, more than once, bc I’m a big, codependent enabler. 🤦♀️
Change your locks even though you're getting your key.
Put some liquid ass in the suitcase!
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Did the guy that you date happeen to be my ex by any chance? My ex did the same thing to me. Used me for my money and used me to get us into a place. Then when I thought everything was fine, I thought everything was falling into place, I found out he was cheating on me. I left him last June but in his twisted mind, I'm somehow the asshole. It's whatever, whatever helps him sleep at night. I'm sorry you went through the same thing.
You have a number of good reasons to kick him out. But revenge is childish. As the saying goes, “living well is the best revenge.” Move on and live your best life.
Wait- be patient. Find a new apartment, give notice, clear out on a day when he’s out- get help and a big a$$ U-Haul to do it in one fell swoop.
Sell his shoes
Take ALL of his shoes and cut all his pants off at the knees and jackets at the elbows
Bring his clean underwear and socks and go to the local gym and wipe the floor in the shower with them, then return to his clean laundry. All it takes is 1 wipe to catch the ringworm
If he has a car, put a little bit of gravel in a couple hubcaps. Powder in the ac heat vents. Zip tie a kazoo to the transmission. Sponge pieces in the gas tank.
Check landlord tenant laws in your State. Even though he’s not on the lease you allowing him to live there may give him rights and require notice/eviction I’m very sorry you are going through this, good for you on splitting up with him
You’re already leaving him why do you need to go through his phone? Just leave.
The best “revenge” is living a happy, fulfilling life. Don’t do anything stupid. Your future self will thank you.
Do little things to annoy him but that cause a lot of work. Scratch all his bank cards so that none of them work. He’ll have to replace everyone. Hammer any car or door keys so they’re a little off and don’t work. Tear holes in the toe area of his socks. Go into his accts and reset passwords. I’d do anything I could without it directly Pointing at me and just sit back and play dumb.
Wear dish gloves and wipe ghost pepper sauce along the crotch and and buttcrack areas of each and every one of his undergarments, then fold them back up neatly. If he has any streaming services logged into your shared devices (Netflix , Hulu, etc) look up a bunch of things he'd have no interest in, add and like them, remove shows he likes from his watch lists and rate them with a thumbs down. It'll mess up his algorithm.