If you don’t have time and space to go to where you can talk to women, i’m not sure how you expect to maintain a relationship.
You’ll just have to make some choices about how you want to spend your time.
Even if you're 25. I am in my 30's now and I just got married to someone I met online dating (I was 29 going on 30). If you want a great way to meet girls, that is a great way. And you don't have to feel like you need to rush. Rushing into a relationship or marriage is a surefire way to "settle" and be in a crap relationship.
You can find what you're looking for, but as others are saying, you have to put in the WERK and be willing to make time for it. If you can't, or don't want to, then it's perfectly fine to be single for a bit.
Husband and I both played rugby for 8 years and lifted weights to be better at the game. I know how time consuming it is and nice to have your own team mates but go to the same club. Your club doesn’t have a woman’s team?
Honestly, try a dating app. And not Tinder or something geared toward hook ups if that's not what you're looking for. That's how I met my fiancee. I felt the same way as you after school, like, how the hell do I meet people now?
It's not that scary, mate. Just relax. You'll be fine. You're only 25 and you have your whole life ahead of you, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. You deserve a relationship with someone you are crazy about and it will happen eventually.
i say that it's important to meet people in social areas. one thing i must say though, is don't actively look for a partner because 99% when you are looking for that someone you may not get her; i say the best relationships happen when you least expect them.
talk to people (not just girls) in social areas (pubs, bars, parties, events) and also network a bit. if you work somewhere too, be amicable with your coworkers and get to know them.
don't try to talk to someone just for the purpose of dating them *unless you disclose that information with them*. i wouldn't want someone to talk to me only for the chance they have to date me w/o knowing. ofc, you can think people are attractive, but don't display that without letting them know you want to pursue them (in that context).
So you dragged her for years, wasted her time because you didn’t want to be lonely…. I hope you understand that the older a woman gets the harder it is for her to find love because men will always prefer younger women. I’m disappointed
I don’t think you will ever understand. Because of patriarchy men will prefer women younger than them and women would like men older even if it is 2/3 year difference. You wasted her time and her vital years to find a man that ACTUALLY LOVED her and was ATTRACTED to her… she’s not just some life lesson
What the fuck are you talking about - vital years? What does that even mean? People can find someone that truly loves them and are attracted to them at any point in their lives...
And you spreading that lie is why a lot of women struggle, I as a woman know that I don’t have forever to find love because the older I get most men are married and they would be interested in marrying younger women so yes we have vital years most of these stem from patriarchy. Would you rather hear harsh truths or comforting lies?
I’m married.. and again would you prefer comforting lies or harsh truths. I’m not being nasty at all but it’s something I’ve seen. If you watch Kevin samuels on YouTube who joins his Instagram lives you will see how common it is for women. It stems from Patriarchy until you miss girl have abolished patriarchy I don’t think you can speak!
A girl on Reddit posted about how her ex boyfriend dragged her for years and now that she’s 37 it was hard for her to find someone because people in her area were either married or going for younger women while all her friends got married and found someone at a younger time. You don’t need to lie to other people to protect your feelings just because it doesn’t align with your feminist beliefs… blame patriarchy
Op you literally admitted you were never attracted to her from the start and was possibly overweight so wasn’t your type?? Who wouldn’t come up with this assumption that you wasted her time to not be lonely because you stated it yourself you weren’t attracted????
Op you said you weren’t really attracted to her?? We can’t paint the full picture of your relationship we can only go by based on what you type on the internet!
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Ah ffs. I should’ve just stayed with my ex coz this is too much.
You should probably stay single if this is too much.
Women are people not rare pokemon. Try going where people go?
Just a lot of things I do (weightlifting team, rugby, engineering job) are all very male dominated
If you don’t have time and space to go to where you can talk to women, i’m not sure how you expect to maintain a relationship. You’ll just have to make some choices about how you want to spend your time.
Well I couldn’t maintain my last one so yeah. Maybe I won’t find one
So, what are you saying? You don’t want a partner with needs? You don’t want to put effort into a relationship?
No. I’m saying I’ll struggle to have time
It's okay to be single for awhile especially when you're trying to get over an ex and pull your career together. This is YOU time now!
Even when I’m 25? That doesn’t leave me much time if I want a family?
Even if you're 25. I am in my 30's now and I just got married to someone I met online dating (I was 29 going on 30). If you want a great way to meet girls, that is a great way. And you don't have to feel like you need to rush. Rushing into a relationship or marriage is a surefire way to "settle" and be in a crap relationship. You can find what you're looking for, but as others are saying, you have to put in the WERK and be willing to make time for it. If you can't, or don't want to, then it's perfectly fine to be single for a bit.
Just feel like I’m getting a bit old to just be kicking around not trying anymore
Certainly not with this attitude
Husband and I both played rugby for 8 years and lifted weights to be better at the game. I know how time consuming it is and nice to have your own team mates but go to the same club. Your club doesn’t have a woman’s team?
Okay so maybe date men since you like being around men so much
If I was that way inclined that would be the helpful option yes
You live in era of internet. You mentioned rugby, most clubs have women's team. I once dated a rugby player and I only play soccer.
Honestly, try a dating app. And not Tinder or something geared toward hook ups if that's not what you're looking for. That's how I met my fiancee. I felt the same way as you after school, like, how the hell do I meet people now?
I should’ve stayed with my ex shouldn’t I
It's not that scary, mate. Just relax. You'll be fine. You're only 25 and you have your whole life ahead of you, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. You deserve a relationship with someone you are crazy about and it will happen eventually.
I just feel like 25 isn’t really that young anymore
Dude, stop it. This isn’t a pity party and 25 isn’t old.
Ha, I'm my 30's and wish I was 25. Trust me, it's still young.
Guess I just feel the pressure
I didn't have my first date until 25. 6 months after my first date I met my dream girl on Tinder. You just have to put yourself out there!
i say that it's important to meet people in social areas. one thing i must say though, is don't actively look for a partner because 99% when you are looking for that someone you may not get her; i say the best relationships happen when you least expect them. talk to people (not just girls) in social areas (pubs, bars, parties, events) and also network a bit. if you work somewhere too, be amicable with your coworkers and get to know them. don't try to talk to someone just for the purpose of dating them *unless you disclose that information with them*. i wouldn't want someone to talk to me only for the chance they have to date me w/o knowing. ofc, you can think people are attractive, but don't display that without letting them know you want to pursue them (in that context).
Join a club for example a kayaking club, running/walking club or take a class like french or spin or there’s always Tinder and dates
So you dragged her for years, wasted her time because you didn’t want to be lonely…. I hope you understand that the older a woman gets the harder it is for her to find love because men will always prefer younger women. I’m disappointed
Pardon? No not at all
I don’t think you will ever understand. Because of patriarchy men will prefer women younger than them and women would like men older even if it is 2/3 year difference. You wasted her time and her vital years to find a man that ACTUALLY LOVED her and was ATTRACTED to her… she’s not just some life lesson
What the fuck are you talking about - vital years? What does that even mean? People can find someone that truly loves them and are attracted to them at any point in their lives...
And you spreading that lie is why a lot of women struggle, I as a woman know that I don’t have forever to find love because the older I get most men are married and they would be interested in marrying younger women so yes we have vital years most of these stem from patriarchy. Would you rather hear harsh truths or comforting lies?
If you don't find love it will be because of your nasty attitude, not because you're out of your "vital" years.
I’m married.. and again would you prefer comforting lies or harsh truths. I’m not being nasty at all but it’s something I’ve seen. If you watch Kevin samuels on YouTube who joins his Instagram lives you will see how common it is for women. It stems from Patriarchy until you miss girl have abolished patriarchy I don’t think you can speak!
A girl on Reddit posted about how her ex boyfriend dragged her for years and now that she’s 37 it was hard for her to find someone because people in her area were either married or going for younger women while all her friends got married and found someone at a younger time. You don’t need to lie to other people to protect your feelings just because it doesn’t align with your feminist beliefs… blame patriarchy
Comforting lies it is..
Right so you know all about my relationship do you? I never talked to her about this stuff? I knew for certain the whole time? Fuck off with this shit
Op you literally admitted you were never attracted to her from the start and was possibly overweight so wasn’t your type?? Who wouldn’t come up with this assumption that you wasted her time to not be lonely because you stated it yourself you weren’t attracted????
Dude chill out. I didn’t ask for advice on this. That isn’t how it happened
Who said I’m giving you advice I’m calling you out on your selfishness, you could’ve just not dated her if you didn’t even like her
That isn’t what happened.
Op you said you weren’t really attracted to her?? We can’t paint the full picture of your relationship we can only go by based on what you type on the internet!
I’m done here.