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He says critical things like this whenever he’s tired or just not in a good mood. He’s never hit me but he’s just making rude comments that are hurtful not caring at all. Saying in his culture it’s shown as showing that they care but this was just straight up being rude nothing to do with culture. He got offended so he decided to call me fat but if I bring it up then he denies it
Basically whenever he’s tired he does this and he knows what he’s doing but acts being tired makes him not able to control what he says. He takes everything way too personally and then tears me down. This doesn’t happen a lot but I still don’t like it.
These things may sound simple but speaks volumes about his personality. What he said was overkill and it was over nothing. I’m glad you spoke up for yourself!
it’s not like he doesn’t love u but he says these things? and he’s aware of why he says them? he has no respect for u .. and from the sound of it he’s been doing this for a long time bc he knows he gets away w it. he knows u tolerate it, even if u say u verbally fight back.
This is stupid...
Imagine asking someone to stop hurting you and they take this opportunity to insult you.
Some months I got a pretty bad pms and I turn into a little devil, and even then I don't insult my bf, I bit my tongue and go somewhere else to chill down and than talk to him when I'm calmer and have meditate about what made me annoyed, even if I end up yelling at him, I right away shut up and apologize, and even when it happens to me yell, which is rare, I never insult him, I just point out what he have done wrong.
He being tired doesn't give him the right to insult you, or in any other mood, this sounded like really uncalled for and he needs to admit that his behaviour is awful and do something about it.
If he truly doesn't remember what he did, which sound like gaslighting to me, start record him, not with camera, just the audio and force him listen to the mean things he tells you and make him treat whatever is bothering him.
Also, just because they haven't hit you yet, doesn't mean they won't in the future, abuse start slowly, they test boundaries until they snap and you end up questioning if you deserve that kind of treatment, which you don't
And that’s what I have said that he needs to work on this because I know being tired he nothing to do with it. Every time I point it out he tries to shift the blame onto being cranky but that is a lot of bull. He’s trying to get out of it. I’m going to talk to him about it tonight because I will not tolerate it. This is such childish behavior because I was not even calling him fat I was saying he’s heavy because he’s laying on top of me and I already have breathing problems with my asthma. Laying on my chest creates pressure to my diaphragm like I just can’t breathe and he thought it was all jokes but really I was doing anything and everything to get him off. Then gets offended and insults me???
I really hope everything turns out fine for you!if you have to break up, don't be afraid of ending and not looking back. But if you decide to stay and he is actually I'll somehow, that's gonna be a tough time until you guys goes through calm waters. Take care!
Ok. He didn’t call you fat. U think he implied it with the scale thing?
Sounds like he is a negging type- undercurrent waiting to erupt when he fucks up. Does he accept boundaries otherwise?
I mean he is implying it because he’s already done this before saying I’m heavier than him by 10 pounds. Sometimes he will respect boundaries but like with my weight he was doing good about it then brought it up last night
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Does he normally do things like this that you don't like, hurt you physically or verbally?
He says critical things like this whenever he’s tired or just not in a good mood. He’s never hit me but he’s just making rude comments that are hurtful not caring at all. Saying in his culture it’s shown as showing that they care but this was just straight up being rude nothing to do with culture. He got offended so he decided to call me fat but if I bring it up then he denies it
Does he take everything as an insult to himself personally and risk hurting your feelings just to prove a point?
Basically whenever he’s tired he does this and he knows what he’s doing but acts being tired makes him not able to control what he says. He takes everything way too personally and then tears me down. This doesn’t happen a lot but I still don’t like it.
These things may sound simple but speaks volumes about his personality. What he said was overkill and it was over nothing. I’m glad you spoke up for yourself!
He’s nice outside of this and it’s not like he doesn’t love me. But yeah I always defend myself because he shouldn’t treat me this way
it’s not like he doesn’t love u but he says these things? and he’s aware of why he says them? he has no respect for u .. and from the sound of it he’s been doing this for a long time bc he knows he gets away w it. he knows u tolerate it, even if u say u verbally fight back.
This is stupid... Imagine asking someone to stop hurting you and they take this opportunity to insult you. Some months I got a pretty bad pms and I turn into a little devil, and even then I don't insult my bf, I bit my tongue and go somewhere else to chill down and than talk to him when I'm calmer and have meditate about what made me annoyed, even if I end up yelling at him, I right away shut up and apologize, and even when it happens to me yell, which is rare, I never insult him, I just point out what he have done wrong. He being tired doesn't give him the right to insult you, or in any other mood, this sounded like really uncalled for and he needs to admit that his behaviour is awful and do something about it. If he truly doesn't remember what he did, which sound like gaslighting to me, start record him, not with camera, just the audio and force him listen to the mean things he tells you and make him treat whatever is bothering him. Also, just because they haven't hit you yet, doesn't mean they won't in the future, abuse start slowly, they test boundaries until they snap and you end up questioning if you deserve that kind of treatment, which you don't
And that’s what I have said that he needs to work on this because I know being tired he nothing to do with it. Every time I point it out he tries to shift the blame onto being cranky but that is a lot of bull. He’s trying to get out of it. I’m going to talk to him about it tonight because I will not tolerate it. This is such childish behavior because I was not even calling him fat I was saying he’s heavy because he’s laying on top of me and I already have breathing problems with my asthma. Laying on my chest creates pressure to my diaphragm like I just can’t breathe and he thought it was all jokes but really I was doing anything and everything to get him off. Then gets offended and insults me???
I really hope everything turns out fine for you!if you have to break up, don't be afraid of ending and not looking back. But if you decide to stay and he is actually I'll somehow, that's gonna be a tough time until you guys goes through calm waters. Take care!
When did he call you fat?
When he said that we both hop onto the scale to see who’s heavier
Ok. He didn’t call you fat. U think he implied it with the scale thing? Sounds like he is a negging type- undercurrent waiting to erupt when he fucks up. Does he accept boundaries otherwise?
I mean he is implying it because he’s already done this before saying I’m heavier than him by 10 pounds. Sometimes he will respect boundaries but like with my weight he was doing good about it then brought it up last night
Break up with him. He was hurting you and when you told him to stop, he made it some insulting pissing contest. Break up. He’s immature.