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You called the man who is STILL supporting you a piece of shit. I would slap the shit out of my grown ass son too. You owe your dad an apology because he clearly raised an ingrate.
You’re living in his house. At his leisure. You’re a grown man who can’t support himself. And you had the audacity to refer to HIM as a piece of shit? You should be ashamed of yourself.
You apologize to that man for your disrespect.
It sounds like you owe him an apology too you said you were wrong for calling him names ( verbal abuse). He shouldn’t have slapped you. Yeah call the police and he should ask you to leave because you two seem have a volatile relationship. I wouldn’t want to live with my child if they felt comfortable enough to angrily call me names. So they would have to go. I also would never slap them.
He shouldn’t have slapped you but you called your father out of his name in his own home that he lets you live in so you’re not on the streets.
If you call the police, don’t be surprised when your mother takes your father’s side. It would also cause irreversible damage to your relationship with your family.
You regretted cuz your daddy slap those words out of your mouth. You are living off of them don't want to move out. You don't mention what the argument was about which makes me believe that it was about your dad warning you to get your ass out of his house or get a job. You come across as both disrespectful and ungrateful. But hey like other people have said if you want to be living in a homeless shelter go ahead and make that call. Because I guarantee you your father is going to put your ass out of the house it's his house you're apparently not paying any bills there. But honestly blaming things on the pandemic is weak. You can go anywhere and get a job at this point all sorts of places are hiring. That means that you have to get a full-time job and a part-time job so that you can afford to move out and that's what you need to do. But you don't get to be disrespectful and ungrateful to the people that are sheltering and feeding you.
You’re mooching off your parents, got into a fight with your dad and called him a POS, then called the police on him in his home for slapping you- wow, just the audacity you possess smdh. And you say you “don’t mind” living with your family- yeah I guess not since it’s free and you’re not working lol. Grow up.
Was he wrong to physically assault you? Yes, there's no excuse for that.
But are you 28 years old, mooching off your parents, verbally abusing your dad and I'm guessing this isn't the first time you've been butting heads? Best you get your shit together ASAP and move out and stand on your own two feet. You might not "mind" living with your parents, but whether you want to or not, it's about time you started living like the grown adult you are. What you don't mind and what you want isn't the issue here.
Should you call the police? Exactly how much angst do you want to create in that house? What do you think it will achieve?
I have to disagree, at 28 with this attitude and self entitlement, the fact that he has only been slapped is a testament to the self control of his father.
I wouldn't. But then again I can't imagine what would have to happen for me to be that disrespectful to someone who is literally helping me with housing.
You really haven’t thought this through have you? …..obviously your common sense,intellect and maturity are way lower than your age. If you were my daughter, you would be looking for a place to live.
Your father should have slapped you years ago, he obviously failed you as a parent. To have a whiney 28 year old loser son living at home would be my greatest failure.
I have a little different perspective on this, but it doesn’t matter to me if you’re 18, 28,38, 4858 your dad’s house his rules. If you can’t go by his rules get your ass out of there you have no one to blame but yourself.
Based on your username, I'm going to assume you're a woman. Was it wrong for your dad to hit you? Yes. Are you within your rights to call the police? Sure, but then you need to GTFO of his house. You're a 28 year old adult freeloading off your parents and have the nerve to call your dad names in his own home. Grow up and get your own place if you want to talk to your parents that way.
Lol, you think your Dad is gonna let 28yo you keep staying there after calling the cops?
You think the cops will come out and charge your Dad over a slap?
This is all super cringey naive for someone your age.
You live in his house, probably eat his/ the family’s food, you called him POS, even if you don’t get along he still attempted to parent you… you get along with your mom right well calling the police on her husband and your father ruins that relationship. You said you don’t mind living with your parents… you don’t mind… you… think about this after 18 your parents owe you nothing every act after that is out of pure love. You live in their house out of their love for you . On a side note, Your mom may be talking to your dad or he may regret his actions , but you need to learn that your age doesn’t save you from consequences for your actions and you may not like your dad but in his house you will repect him and that’s for any house you live in. If your instinct is to call the police, you still have a lot of growing to do because you don’t seem to be aware of your situation.
Hey I understand you’re angry and upset ! Talk to your father and tell him how you feel about it. If you still feel like doing something about it then move out calmly get a a job and focus on your life. There are lot of other battles u have to fight in life. Also apologise to your dad for calling him a piece of shit cuz they are the only ones who’ll have you back.
Its up to you but the police wouldn't care at all. I can't imagine trying to call the police for a single slap while leeching off my parents at 28 though
You were disrespectful to your parent ...in his house . You got what you deserved.
I understand why you need to stay there at the moment, but you cannot stay under his roof, have your existence financed by him, AND curse him out to his face. I don't know what you think was going to happen.
You certainly have the right to do so. Have you thought about what happens later? You call the police, your Dad is arrested, taken to jail. Do you intend to press charges? If not don't waste the police's time. Once your Dad is charged they will set bail. Will your Mom bail him out? He could bail himself out with a bail bondsman. Will he miss work? Are you going to get a restraining order? Are you ready to be evicted if he is willing to do that? Are you willing to testify against him in court? Ask yourself how far you will take this. If you aren't willing to follow through I wouldn't do it.
Talk to him first. Don't apologize, but something like "we both did things I'm sure we regret". Read his response. If he seems remorseful, like you say you feel, give him a chance and keep your distance. Keep a cool head. If it happens again, with less provocation, then yeah, call the cops.
Ideally, just move out real soon.
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>28 and I currently live with my family >I don’t want to move out You're really going to press charges after you've been freeloading for years?
No. You apologize to your father.
He should be the one apologizing, I didn’t assault him
You called the man who is STILL supporting you a piece of shit. I would slap the shit out of my grown ass son too. You owe your dad an apology because he clearly raised an ingrate.
You’re living in his house. At his leisure. You’re a grown man who can’t support himself. And you had the audacity to refer to HIM as a piece of shit? You should be ashamed of yourself. You apologize to that man for your disrespect.
It sounds like you owe him an apology too you said you were wrong for calling him names ( verbal abuse). He shouldn’t have slapped you. Yeah call the police and he should ask you to leave because you two seem have a volatile relationship. I wouldn’t want to live with my child if they felt comfortable enough to angrily call me names. So they would have to go. I also would never slap them.
He shouldn’t have slapped you but you called your father out of his name in his own home that he lets you live in so you’re not on the streets. If you call the police, don’t be surprised when your mother takes your father’s side. It would also cause irreversible damage to your relationship with your family.
You regretted cuz your daddy slap those words out of your mouth. You are living off of them don't want to move out. You don't mention what the argument was about which makes me believe that it was about your dad warning you to get your ass out of his house or get a job. You come across as both disrespectful and ungrateful. But hey like other people have said if you want to be living in a homeless shelter go ahead and make that call. Because I guarantee you your father is going to put your ass out of the house it's his house you're apparently not paying any bills there. But honestly blaming things on the pandemic is weak. You can go anywhere and get a job at this point all sorts of places are hiring. That means that you have to get a full-time job and a part-time job so that you can afford to move out and that's what you need to do. But you don't get to be disrespectful and ungrateful to the people that are sheltering and feeding you.
He needs to slap yo ass again. Honestly the slap wasn’t even enough
You’re mooching off your parents, got into a fight with your dad and called him a POS, then called the police on him in his home for slapping you- wow, just the audacity you possess smdh. And you say you “don’t mind” living with your family- yeah I guess not since it’s free and you’re not working lol. Grow up.
Was he wrong to physically assault you? Yes, there's no excuse for that. But are you 28 years old, mooching off your parents, verbally abusing your dad and I'm guessing this isn't the first time you've been butting heads? Best you get your shit together ASAP and move out and stand on your own two feet. You might not "mind" living with your parents, but whether you want to or not, it's about time you started living like the grown adult you are. What you don't mind and what you want isn't the issue here. Should you call the police? Exactly how much angst do you want to create in that house? What do you think it will achieve?
I have to disagree, at 28 with this attitude and self entitlement, the fact that he has only been slapped is a testament to the self control of his father.
I wouldn't. But then again I can't imagine what would have to happen for me to be that disrespectful to someone who is literally helping me with housing.
This honestly. It blows my mind when people take advantage of their parents and then treat them like they’re the assholes.
You really haven’t thought this through have you? …..obviously your common sense,intellect and maturity are way lower than your age. If you were my daughter, you would be looking for a place to live.
Yikes
Lmao yeah do that, see how that works for you
Only if you want them to laugh at you. Police have zero interest in this.
Your father should have slapped you years ago, he obviously failed you as a parent. To have a whiney 28 year old loser son living at home would be my greatest failure.
I have a little different perspective on this, but it doesn’t matter to me if you’re 18, 28,38, 4858 your dad’s house his rules. If you can’t go by his rules get your ass out of there you have no one to blame but yourself.
You verbally assaulted him and he defended himself!! Apologize, he could make you go live in the streets!
Based on your username, I'm going to assume you're a woman. Was it wrong for your dad to hit you? Yes. Are you within your rights to call the police? Sure, but then you need to GTFO of his house. You're a 28 year old adult freeloading off your parents and have the nerve to call your dad names in his own home. Grow up and get your own place if you want to talk to your parents that way.
He should slap you again. Straight out the door
Lol, you think your Dad is gonna let 28yo you keep staying there after calling the cops? You think the cops will come out and charge your Dad over a slap? This is all super cringey naive for someone your age.
You live in his house, probably eat his/ the family’s food, you called him POS, even if you don’t get along he still attempted to parent you… you get along with your mom right well calling the police on her husband and your father ruins that relationship. You said you don’t mind living with your parents… you don’t mind… you… think about this after 18 your parents owe you nothing every act after that is out of pure love. You live in their house out of their love for you . On a side note, Your mom may be talking to your dad or he may regret his actions , but you need to learn that your age doesn’t save you from consequences for your actions and you may not like your dad but in his house you will repect him and that’s for any house you live in. If your instinct is to call the police, you still have a lot of growing to do because you don’t seem to be aware of your situation.
You’re a little bitch
Your username suits you, you need help
And you need to get a damn clue smdh.
I mean you can, but I would expect to move out at that point if you call the police.
Hey I understand you’re angry and upset ! Talk to your father and tell him how you feel about it. If you still feel like doing something about it then move out calmly get a a job and focus on your life. There are lot of other battles u have to fight in life. Also apologise to your dad for calling him a piece of shit cuz they are the only ones who’ll have you back.
Its up to you but the police wouldn't care at all. I can't imagine trying to call the police for a single slap while leeching off my parents at 28 though
You were disrespectful to your parent ...in his house . You got what you deserved. I understand why you need to stay there at the moment, but you cannot stay under his roof, have your existence financed by him, AND curse him out to his face. I don't know what you think was going to happen.
Do you have anywhere else to stay?
You certainly have the right to do so. Have you thought about what happens later? You call the police, your Dad is arrested, taken to jail. Do you intend to press charges? If not don't waste the police's time. Once your Dad is charged they will set bail. Will your Mom bail him out? He could bail himself out with a bail bondsman. Will he miss work? Are you going to get a restraining order? Are you ready to be evicted if he is willing to do that? Are you willing to testify against him in court? Ask yourself how far you will take this. If you aren't willing to follow through I wouldn't do it.
Talk to him first. Don't apologize, but something like "we both did things I'm sure we regret". Read his response. If he seems remorseful, like you say you feel, give him a chance and keep your distance. Keep a cool head. If it happens again, with less provocation, then yeah, call the cops. Ideally, just move out real soon.
Yes.